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Are men in trouble?

I read CNN’s opinion piece by William Bennett called “Why Men Are in Trouble” and it made me think hard about men. In the article, Bennett outlines why he thinks men today are not showing strong signs of grasping what being a man is about.

It’s interesting that Bennett addresses a lack of maturity that he thinks is a big part of the problem. To wit:

“Just ask young women about men today. You will find them talking about prolonged adolescence and men who refuse to grow up. I’ve heard too many young women asking, “Where are the decent single men?” There is a maturity deficit among men out there, and men are falling behind.”

If men are in trouble, what does this mean for the future of our dating relationships?

Do you agree that men are not stepping up to the plate in their transition from boys to men?

Another thing that stood out in the article is the fact that Bennett sited a “decline in virtues” that men are showing less success/interest in work, marriage, and religion. Would you agree?

Do you think men are in trouble?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

373 comments Add your comment

oneofeach4me

October 5th, 2011
4:36 pm

Wow.. I hate I missed this one!! If men are in trouble then we are all in trouble. It’s a domino effect. If the men aren’t growing up, but still having babies, then the kids suffer, the woman suffers raising a kid on their own, the community suffers trying to mentor a child with no father, etc. It’s like a constant merry go round. I personally don’t want to be the bread winner in the house, but it rough times I gotta do what I gotta do. That means, that even though as the man you may not want to be the one to stay at home and do the domestic things, you gotta do what you gotta do. The roles have reversed in today’s society. And as a woman.. I don’t like it. I would MUCH rather be at home taking care of our kids, our home, his meals and him when he gets home. The real problem is the ego which will get you absolutely nowhere.

“…. When she knows that he has her best interests at heart she will submit to the man.True manhood has vision, courage, compassion and will. When it’s vision is not supported and encouraged by woman it has little chance of surviving.” Wow.. enough said!!

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
4:44 pm

Do you agree that men are not stepping up to the plate in their transition from boys to men?

I loved that group…BoysIIMen…..the east coast family of them BBD and ABC.

Chad Wilson

October 5th, 2011
4:44 pm

Ok…I am the Boifriend that Rons is trying so hard to hide…Ron…Why did you tell me you were single??? Who is this Barbra Chic anyway???? :(

Mike

October 5th, 2011
4:44 pm

Not even sure what we’re agreeing to disagree about Sexycool but thank you for the wishes. I find it a little offensive that you think we need counseling based on this discussion but I wish you all the best as well and hope you have a great day.

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
4:53 pm

Great discussion today folks. Oh, wait…everybody might not think so :)

Chad Wilson

October 5th, 2011
4:54 pm

Its OK Ron…You and I can’t get married in Georgia…Besides, when did we start caring what those nasty old women think anyway????

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
4:55 pm

I was threatened with violence by a racist…lambasted by my ex wife and some guy named Chad (who i never met…all in all…pretty good convo folks.

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
4:56 pm

Calgon, take me away……

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
4:57 pm

“Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense.” ~ Proverbs 19:11

PEACE!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 5th, 2011
5:00 pm

Okay why do I hear Atlantic Starr’s Secret Lovers reading Ron and Chad…how cute. Ron has a boyfriend. And who said men were in trouble when they have each other :lol:

Peace…

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
5:03 pm

I am comfortable with who I am.;)

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
5:04 pm

Stay blessed everyone!

HST

October 5th, 2011
5:06 pm

This did end pretty well. I did say most of this early on.

Ron, you have some fans but that should be expected for an anchorman.

Have a nice evening to all.

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
5:07 pm

Stay classy HST!

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
5:17 pm

Ron Boo Boo the Clown Burgundy said: Stay blessed everyone!

Blasphemy

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
5:18 pm

Yes Sassy and maybe that’s what was wrong and been wrong with him. Soon as his lova (lover) chimed in, he quieted down and purred like a kitten…talking about “stay blessed”

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
5:19 pm

Thanks Chad…please come get your man early tomorrow if he’s cutting up again.

Night folks!!

Chad Wilson

October 5th, 2011
5:28 pm

LOL….Ron when we get home I want you to use that sexy HST voice you used the last time we went to Miami…If you do, I promise to put on those silver platform boots you like……and my Mardi Gras mask…. :D

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
7:04 pm

Celisea is obsessed withme….how many post is she going tomake about me…talk about ahater….stay blessed Celisea….stay blessed.

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
7:05 pm

Awesome how Celisea ignored me…LOL!

Cody Young

October 5th, 2011
7:56 pm

What are we actually talking about here? Well it’s conformity, that somehow I’m not a “man” if I don’t fit into the dominant consumerist paradigm. What makes me a man in this society? Buying a house? Working a soul crushing wage job because there isn’t any creative interesting jobs to be found? Oh I get it working in a factory makes me a man cause I’m “productive” and “industrious” isn’t that right? do you see how stupid these things sound. Why on earth if I’m just barely getting by as it is, in a job I hate, have kids just to feel grown up?

Let’s cut the BS here, if men felt like they were apart of a community, if we felt like there was a future for us in acting the way society dictates, if we felt there was a point to marriage or material progress don’t you think we’d opt in?

Whatever

October 6th, 2011
8:28 am

Laugh, I don’t believe this BS for a second. With the exception of healthcare 90% of technical position are filled by men. That’s not to say the women who do technical work are bad (quite the contrary).

In IT the ladies may have take over the project management positions but really most of them wouldn’t be able to even install a Windows OS without help. Next time you call for service on your central heating and air unit guess what gender shows up. Next time you have you car serviced what gender person is going to be under your car. What percentage of commercial pilots are men.

This is not the result of some good ole boys club working against women. As a whole men tend to be better at these positions just as females tend to be better at management positions.

Government aid to single parents and parents in general is why the divorce rate is so high. I wouldn’t say we should put them on the street but you know the divorce rate would be a whole lot lower if people were at least a little concerned with how they were going to feed their families.

Sweet Pea

October 6th, 2011
8:46 am

Whatever, its seems like a female must’ve made you mad as your last paragraph is indicative of a guy who bash women just because they are doing well in their lives.

I am not sure where you got your information from when it comes to gov’t aid to single parents and parents in general, however the generalization of everyone as you described getting a helping hand is truly false. Personally and fortunately, I ‘ve been in this position for quite some time and NEVER got any aid from our gov’t. Nevertheless, if there was ever a need to do so I would gladly step in line as I’ve paid my taxes to help others who may or may not qualify for gov’t aid. Life happens and you never know when even you will need to do the same thing no matter what gender you are besides I disagree that divorce is waht impacted gov’t aid, it’s people losing their jobs…IJS