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Are men in trouble?

I read CNN’s opinion piece by William Bennett called “Why Men Are in Trouble” and it made me think hard about men. In the article, Bennett outlines why he thinks men today are not showing strong signs of grasping what being a man is about.

It’s interesting that Bennett addresses a lack of maturity that he thinks is a big part of the problem. To wit:

“Just ask young women about men today. You will find them talking about prolonged adolescence and men who refuse to grow up. I’ve heard too many young women asking, “Where are the decent single men?” There is a maturity deficit among men out there, and men are falling behind.”

If men are in trouble, what does this mean for the future of our dating relationships?

Do you agree that men are not stepping up to the plate in their transition from boys to men?

Another thing that stood out in the article is the fact that Bennett sited a “decline in virtues” that men are showing less success/interest in work, marriage, and religion. Would you agree?

Do you think men are in trouble?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

373 comments Add your comment

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
12:21 pm

I don’t really think you can teach a girl not to without explaining the importance of her vessel. At least I don’t think you can. I think the lesson itself encompassess all of that.

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
12:26 pm

I don’t know, Celisea. Looking around it seems like the importance of her vessel is not being heard by many. So, perhaps it’s not that it’s not being taught, but that the student doesn’t care to listen. Again, why?

Purple Reign

October 5th, 2011
12:28 pm

Men like women who say “no” and women with traditional values. I am not saying a woman with a subservient attitude, but a woman who is about her “family” and it staying together.

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
12:33 pm

Meant, Again, why aren’t they listening?

CmonSeriously

October 5th, 2011
12:37 pm

Weren’t brought up with respect

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
12:39 pm

I’m trying to post a response Leggs but I can’t figure what word is getting it banned

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
12:40 pm

Retarded blog…now it’s saying “you’ve said that already”…lol

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
12:46 pm

Well I tried and I took out “sex” but it’s still not allowing me.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 5th, 2011
12:46 pm

Looks like a hot topic today, hell yea Men in trouble and everyone else is too. There are lots of grown little dudes trying to get to success with minimal committment, and there are also plenty women who are stars in the their own mind, but in reality is the other way around, their RATS, floss a lil cheese and “she will”. In this gimme this, gimme that world, men and women no longer respect each other, therefore, things are headed in the wrong direction.

Mike P

October 5th, 2011
1:02 pm

@Jake: how can anyone expect men and women to respect each other, when they aren’t willing to respect themselves (based on the choices habitually being made against their best, long-term interests)?

Ron Burgundy

October 5th, 2011
1:03 pm

Do you have health insurance? No
Are you one food stamps? Yes
Do you refer to your partner as husband or babby daddy? baby Daddy
Do you think Obama is doing a ood job? Yes

FAIL!

Michael bolton

October 5th, 2011
1:04 pm

How can we be lovers if we can’t be friends!?

Purple Reign

October 5th, 2011
1:11 pm

What does President Obama have to do with relationships? If anything his family is a great example of how a marriage should be from what is shown

Purple Reign

October 5th, 2011
1:14 pm

Sexy Cool, I got a shot this morning for my knee if it doesn’t get better I will have to go under the knife. Good news is that either way I will still be able to run!

SexyCool

October 5th, 2011
1:23 pm

As long as you can run. Life is better when you run.

I’m at a solid 12/min pace now. Weight is dropping. I am looking forward to going faster – like Ricky Bobby. (lol)

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
1:24 pm

I’m eating the best salad :)

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
1:28 pm

If I can get my unread emails down to 30 or so I would be good.

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
1:30 pm

I’m having a salad too, but I so want a Reuben and a Fanta Orange!!! I fried the chicken wings last night and they were delicious. I ate 4.

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
1:33 pm

Leggs, I went out for dinner

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
1:34 pm

So I’m yielding to guilt and better today :)

Timeless

October 5th, 2011
1:34 pm

Paul @ 9:18 am and Islander @ 9:22:

Well said!

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
1:35 pm

“eating” better today

Purple Reign

October 5th, 2011
1:36 pm

Sexy Cool, you “wanna” go fast? LOL

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:04 pm

My mommie will be 82 in 9 days

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:05 pm

She’s a fiesty little something too.

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:08 pm

How about I’m sitting here listening to this dude vent that he’s made about DIANE SAWYER saying she tried to contact someone here for questioning but got no answers…..IT WAS HIM she was calling!!!!! Go figure!!!!! He was royally irked

Exiled!

October 5th, 2011
2:09 pm

@Celisea!

good appetite

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:10 pm

Exiled…ya girl called here!!!!!!!!

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
2:10 pm

That is great news, Celisea.

SexyCool

October 5th, 2011
2:11 pm

Well, if you call a 10 minute mile fast. :)

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:11 pm

Not so sure Leggs. She was saying she couldn’t get anyone to refute some of the things being said…ut uh

Exiled!

October 5th, 2011
2:11 pm

Single ladies,stop saying ‘hit it daddy’

He ain’t ur Daddy!

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:12 pm

Exiled – Single ladies,stop saying ‘hit it daddy’

Did you just hear that in the wind or something??? LOL

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:13 pm

SexyC – You think 2 miles in 10 minutes (walking) is good timing? I usually do something like and think I’m doing something. Don’t sound like it compared to you regular excercisers.

HST

October 5th, 2011
2:14 pm

I was hoping someone would bring up breeding. I am not a breeder and that is my life choice. I am smart enough to know I enjoy my life as it is. I don’t understand why we don’t license childbearing. As citizens we have to get a license for everything but the most important role in society, a parent.

It’s pathetic that I volunteer more than parents at my nephew’s school. Not only do I have to pay for kids I didn’t want, it seems some parents need help raising them as well. This must be some of the maturity issue that is being brought up here. For those of you who take pride in raising your offspring, kudos. Public schools are really screwed up, consider private school.

Why any person lies with another and has unprotected sex is beyond me. That is a seriously dumb life choice on so many levels.

i'm swiss™

October 5th, 2011
2:17 pm

C — I actually agree with everything you said in your 12:16. I guess I just don’t see how any of that precludes teaching kids about safe sex in addition to teaching them the benefits of abstinence. I don’t think there are any parents who would not prefer that their kids abstain, but teaching them only to abstain without having a frank discussion about what to do if they succumb to temptation is ignoring the very real probability that most kids will succumb to temptation at some point. I’d venture to guess that a majority of us engaged in pre-marital sex as teens, so to expect that our kids will be more resistant to temptation than we were as kids is probably unrealistic.

All I’m saying is, we need to be able to talk to them frankly about all possibilities — including the possibility that they ignore tenet #1 (which is to abstain).

Exiled!

October 5th, 2011
2:17 pm

U my girl Cel!

Exiled!

October 5th, 2011
2:19 pm

I (we)walked 2 miles in the park trail this past Sunday and was sore mon and tuesday.

but I’m doing it again this weekend

i'm swiss™

October 5th, 2011
2:20 pm

“You think 2 miles in 10 minutes (walking) is good timing?”

C — If you’re doing 2 miles in 10 minutes, you’re one hell of a fast walker. That’s quite a pace for running, actually. Even 10 minutes per mile is a decent jogging pace, particularly for non-competitive runners.

Michael bolton

October 5th, 2011
2:20 pm

I agree HST….there should be test ot have kids.

Have you blackout at a party in the past year? Yes
Do you know the capital of Singapore? No
Do you think that the the trillion dollar stimuls had any effect on our economy? Yes

FAIL!

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

October 5th, 2011
2:21 pm

Mike P…agreed, Celisea, I am sure I missed something, but its impossible to do 2 miles in 10min walkin, and if you are doing 2 miles in under 10min running, you are some kind of athelete.

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
2:21 pm

If she’s using the word “refute,” she’s still good…

SexyCool

October 5th, 2011
2:23 pm

Cel – ONE mile in 10 minutes.

HST

October 5th, 2011
2:24 pm

Celisea, you do realize you’d be walking (really running) @12mph doing 2 miles in 10min. Walking is around 3 mph depending on height. Hitting 2 miles in 20 min is a great jog on a nice GA day.

Leggs

October 5th, 2011
2:24 pm

@Ex ~ what you were experiencing mon and tues was D.O.M.S = Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness. After a few more, you won’t be sore. Had to put some oil on those joints (lol)…

CmonSeriously

October 5th, 2011
2:26 pm

Have you ever had to call “who’s your daddy” to find out the father of a current child-Yes

FAIL! You shouldn’t be breeding anymore.

HST

October 5th, 2011
2:26 pm

Michael B…nice test…chucklesnort.

Lord Velonese

October 5th, 2011
2:31 pm

I scoff at todays’s topic, no matter how much ladies get there way, they always want more, never happy. I chuckle when I hear women cry for nice guys, they would not know what to do with one even if he landed in her lap. (shruggs)

Exiled!

October 5th, 2011
2:32 pm

yeah,Leggs we gon drive back to the park.

We always walk round the neighborhood we changed this time… seeing other (fat) people walking briskly in the park, to reduce their loads, kinda inspires.

And it can be comedy too laughing at them behind their back..

Oh she fat

Oh she late coz she so so fat

Oh that one she needs intervention like Star Jones

Oh that one can’t even walk she must like donoughts

She tired already? :lol:

…and so on and so on and so on…

Celisea

October 5th, 2011
2:34 pm

Hey Swiss – I don’t disagree per se with what you just stated. I fully believe (and no I didn’t live by) abstinence is the right thing to do and way to go. My mom didn’t put any of us four girls on b.c. She was like keep them panties up and you won’t get a baby. The other thing my mom did was talk to us about emotions and perservation of the body and what happens when you go there with the body….everything gets pulled in. So no, I’m not oblivious to prevention but I’m not fully sold that kids won’t listen or eventually will do it. If she wants to once she’s an adult and grown and gone…that’s her. But while she’s under my care and my roof, I believe what was instilled in me is good enough for her.