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Stereotype good looking people?

I think beautiful people get a bad rap sometimes. When the good looking people are single and available, sometimes they are not given the benefit of the doubt.

When it comes to good looking guys, a woman will assume that he is used to women throwing themselves all over him. His confidence is seen as cocky or arrogant just because he is hot.

Just the other day, I asked a friend of mine why she didn’t give this gorgeous guy her phone number and she said there was no way he would actually call her. She didn’t want to be a “member of his fan club” or groupie to his rockstar status.

Beautiful women often get labeled as crazy (where does that come from anyway?) or boring. They may even have their intelligence questioned! As if a good looking person has no need to be smart.

So maybe we are being unfair to the hotties? What do you think? Do we stereotype good looking people?

Do you find that the more good looking someone is, the less you take them seriously?

What are some other stereotypes that is likely hindering our dating options?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

314 comments Add your comment

OMG!

October 4th, 2011
8:06 am

UGLY people run the world.

Matt

October 4th, 2011
8:11 am

Ok WD, I think that is just the opposite, attractive looking people have it so much easier than the rest of the non attractive world, and if you think differently then you are crazy. Do they get stereo typed, some of the time, does that usually stop the end result, seldomly, a better article would be do ugly people get stereo typed, far far worse then attractive people.

MrsNewy

October 4th, 2011
8:21 am

Some stereotypes that may hinder attractive people :

1) They are self -centered / self absorbed.

2) They use their looks to get around rules/systems etc.

We all get sterotypes. Really our pre-conceived notions are based on our dealings with similiar types of people. While one person may think short men tend to try to compensate for height by having big things and over-the-top personality quirks, someone else may think that short men are affectionate and the best thing since sliced bread. The bottom line is it doesn’t matter how someone else tried to categorize you if you don’t fit their mold, tell them to kick rocks if you are cool with you.

Stonethrower

October 4th, 2011
8:34 am

Money will make an ugly man good looking. An ugly man is an ugly man, but a rich ugly man is a rich man.

Matt

October 4th, 2011
8:41 am

MrsNewy is right on all accounts, I love pretty women, but for the most part, this statement can be explained very simply.

~Beautiful women often get labeled as crazy (where does that come from anyway?) or boring. They may even have their intelligence questioned! As if a good looking person has no need to be smart.~

Crazy-They seem to always get what they want, and when they don’t they pitch a fit until they do.
Boring-I don’t know about this one, I don’t see good lookin girls get this one, they are usually the center of attention
Lack of intelligence- They don’t seem to acknowledge the same things that are true for the rest of the world, it’s not that they are stupid, it’s just something that they don’t have to deal with on the same basis as everyone else. How they react to those situations is “as a general rule” considered to make both points that MrsNewy made.

They come off- self centered
They come off- As trying to get around things based on their looks.

Steve Smooth

October 4th, 2011
8:45 am

I ain’t datin’ no UGLY woman!

Robert

October 4th, 2011
8:45 am

Good looking women never have a problem. For example I saw this good looking woman working in a Burger King as a Manager, and she got plenty of attention from men who where attracted to her physical attributes (butt, etc.). It does not matter where you work, how much money you make or how many kids you have. The only thing that matters is the physical attraction.

ATL Guy

October 4th, 2011
8:49 am

Stop putting looks on a Pedestal! Too often society are showing that you can just bring the looks to get ahead in life (ie Kardashians). Image will get you the approach on first impression, but its the interest, personality, and successful confidence that will keep a guy coming back.

SlimNu

October 4th, 2011
8:50 am

Good morning,

I can see where some of these stereotypes come from but it basically goes back to giving every person their shot/chance to actually show you who they are. We all have first impressions of people but unless a dude/chick is rude, obnoxious, abusive I don’t see why we shouldn’t at least give them time to show you. I recall back some years ago, I had several folks tell me they initially thought I was stuck up. I suppose that came from the fact that I wasn’t walking around telling everyone who I was and starting up random conversations with strangers. But after these same folks actually talked to me and got to know me, they could very well see they had missed the mark. Seems like we are all so quick to write someone off that it makes me wonder if we should bring Public Stonings back lol

Bigdee.

October 4th, 2011
8:50 am

I don’t care how good you look, a $hiddy attitude and selfishness sucks all the air out the room, and I do like to breathe.

Harder...please.

October 4th, 2011
8:58 am

Stereotyping typically doesn’t hinder dating options. It’s one’s lack of self-confidence that hinders dating options. That said, stereotyping people in general is a bad thing. But it is a fact that attractive men and women are happier, stronger, and nicer people.

ATL Guy

October 4th, 2011
8:59 am

I don’t like a woman that KNOWS she’s hot and exploits it to get free drinks & dinners. I have a friend that’s really attractive, but she has these expectations all the time. It holds her back more often than I think she realizes about meeting some really genuine people.

indigo

October 4th, 2011
9:05 am

Try being a very average 5′5″ male somtimes. From grade school on thru college you will be ridiculed by the boys and ignored by the girls. Tall hansdome men are considered the best picks by women and, unless you have some compensating factor like exceptional good looks or lots of money, if you are short and plain be prepared for a lonely painful life filled with disdain and rejection from others.

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:09 am

One sterotype that I see is that red heads are fiery which is true. If you ever play the rodeo game with girls…the red heads are always the wildest!

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:10 am

I do not like women who are fat and ugly but think they are hot!

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:11 am

I find that women with tremendous hooters to be far more engaging and fullfilling.

Rickman

October 4th, 2011
9:11 am

When I was single, many many moons ago, been married 26 years now. Very attrictive women I had a hard time approaching they gave me the feeling they were high maint. I use to be a Model so I’m not ugly, just didn’t want to approach them….to snotty looking with all that make-up.

ATL Guy

October 4th, 2011
9:14 am

Maybe they didn’t approach you either Rickman … were you giving off your douche model vibe?

Peaches

October 4th, 2011
9:17 am

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder… Regardless of perceived outer beauty, if a person is ugly on the inside then they are just plain ugly!! As for stereotypes, I agree with some of the folks above…stuck up and arrogant are just a couple.

wombatgirl

October 4th, 2011
9:17 am

It is my experience that people use stereotypes to justify their own shortcomings and insecurities. She must be a witch and a snob and a gold digger because she is beautiful. He must be arrogant and cocky because he is well muscled and gorgeous. Take the time to actually talk to the person you might find out she is terribly shy and self-conscience; he might be awkward and a brilliant engineer or they might be exactly as you assumed but the point is you do not know.

Rickman

October 4th, 2011
9:20 am

@ATL Guy

Ahhhh….no. They didn’t even I was….Was doing it part time to make extra cash. Which by the way paid pretty good. What are a fat over weight slob that has 60 inch waste.

Rickman

October 4th, 2011
9:22 am

@ATL Guy

Ahhhh….no. They didn’t even know I was……Was doing it part time to make extra cash. Which by the way paid pretty good. What are you a fat over weight slob that has 60 inch waste and still lives in mommys basement….

HST

October 4th, 2011
9:24 am

Rickman, you should really proof read your comments.

Rickman

October 4th, 2011
9:25 am

@HST

I know, trying to do 3 things at once. Thats why I reposted it….ooops

Foxy

October 4th, 2011
9:25 am

Foxy thinks beautiful women get labled crazy by mufugly men that can’t have them.

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:28 am

When I approach a model I tell them that I am a coke dealer….works everytiime.

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:28 am

One stereotype I find true is dating asian women….do NOT let them drive!

HST

October 4th, 2011
9:28 am

HST, thinks bitter women can’t handle a better looking man.

HST

October 4th, 2011
9:29 am

“I love you Ron Burgandy”…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 4th, 2011
9:30 am

LOL…..Foxy
Wombatgirl that is a great breakdown.

Good Morning:

Foxy

October 4th, 2011
9:30 am

Foxy thinks a hit dog will holler! lol

ATL Guy

October 4th, 2011
9:32 am

I own a house in Buckhead and into Marathon Training … so try again. Just put the question out there that you might be giving off the standoffish vibe. Maybe you got a woman drunk and she married you … now that’s what I call a hangover

ATL Guy

October 4th, 2011
9:33 am

Matt

October 4th, 2011
9:36 am

Looks can be deceiving. The hottest woman I’ve ever dated was also the biggest you-know-what I’ve ever dated. For me, a good balance of looks and brains would be my preference.

Fratguy

October 4th, 2011
9:37 am

As a man who married a beautiful woman, I must say, not all the good looking women are stuck up. My wife is half Black and half Asian, she is very nice lookng. I thought twice about approaching her, because i figured she has a million guys trying to holla, and I didnt want to be another reject. We have been married for 9 years now, with 2 beautiful children (they both look like her) I have to say, if you see a lady who is gorgeous, dont judge her on this alone, get to know her, you may be surprised.

abc

October 4th, 2011
9:37 am

I don’t think crazy gravitates more toward the best looking women. Seems to me it’s fairly evenly spread across the board. I’ve always been attracted to the best looking women for the obvious reason: they’re the most attractive. Then again, what’s considered the most attractive is in the eye of the beholder: my perception of what’s the most attractive might not be what other guys think.

Matt

October 4th, 2011
9:43 am

I gotta get a different screen name, the last “Matt” post wasn’t me

Celisea

October 4th, 2011
9:46 am

kimmie

October 4th, 2011
9:47 am

Good morning!

I think just about everyone has to deal with some type of stereotype – beautiful people, short people, fat, unattractive, racial, cultural, the middle child, the youngest child, the oldest, preacher’s kids – you name it. We would all love to be judged on our merits across the board, but life isn’t like that. There are always going to be some people that get breaks and others that may have to work a little harder.

Work on your own attitude and insecurities and you will see a vast improvement in all aspects of your life. There are some things that are bottom line. For example, you might have gotten a 2nd glance from a guy because you are pretty, but pretty won’t keep him. You might have been able to hook that good job because of your looks, but your abilities and skills will allow you to keep the job.

I see short, average men every day married to beautiful women and they seem happy. They are not rich either.

If you aren’t getting dates, it’s not everyone else, it’s you.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 4th, 2011
9:50 am

Matt there are two of you posting?……LOL
Don’t feel nothing there are days some will post under several names.

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:52 am

I agree matt….the perfect woman is a good balance between facial features and other more important things such as obedience, subserviance, cooking abilit and of course the breats that doth hang from me ladies chest is a factor.

oneofeach4me

October 4th, 2011
9:52 am

I do not stereotype a man by his looks. However, the “stigma” of the REALLY attractive guy, you know…. can’t stay in a relationship due to temptation coming from every angle, isn’t comfortable with putting someone else before themselves, etc. has always reared it’s ugly head and proven itself as true. I also have friends I would consider to be 9’s (even 10’s for some guys) and as much as I love them… they really are high maintenance and their only drive is to be taken care of. People use their looks to get what they want, lets just be real.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)

October 4th, 2011
9:53 am

If you aren’t getting dates, it’s not everyone else, it’s you.

Worth repeating Kimmie…great post!

Mike P

October 4th, 2011
9:54 am

Good Morning Everyone :)

It has been my experience that women, and some men too, for that matter, always assume that I have a girlfriend, a wife, or something “going-on” in that department in my life because of my looks and easy-going vibe I give off when out in the social scene.
At work, people who don’t know me or haven’t had the pleasure of getting to know me, always assume that I am some sort of snob… They say things like, “you only date other snobs.” When in fact they simply assumed that I and the women I date are snobs, but when they get to know us, they realize that we are regular people when simply embrace our unique-ness openly with confidence. lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 4th, 2011
9:55 am

Celisea:
How cool is that, she was unemployed and now she can be an employer. Stories like these rarely make it out, that’s a wonderful thing for her, family , and friends.

Ron Burgundy

October 4th, 2011
9:58 am

Chelisea….so this lady got lucky spending her unemployment check on the lottery….what a great feel good story…..hopefully all other unemployment recipients will be inspired to by loitto tickets as well!

Atlanta Native

October 4th, 2011
10:00 am

Physically attractive people have different expectations. They grow up with people generally noticing them in a positive way, being let in line by others, getting free things at restaurants, having teachers give them a break, etc. (I said generally). This treatment causes them to have different expectations in social situations than average and less than average looking people.

As for the crazy comment, it may be more that people are less likely to challenge them when they say nutty things, as the “listeners” just want to be near or remain talking to the attractive person. By not getting challenged on their ideas as much as the average person, they are not as likely to learn as quickly from mistakes through interaction and constructive argumentation with others. As for “boring” the same effect is there, people act interested in what they say in order to continue to talk to them, so they do not find out as fast what topics of conversation are not as interesting to others. As for the intelligence issue, you are born with a level of intelligence, just like looks and they are not genetically tied. The question is how you use it and what you are ignorant of. Based on the statements made above, if you are generally given breaks and the focus is on your looks, there is not the same impetus to focus on certain types of learning and how to get around obstacles, as others often remove them for you without you having to figure out a solution.

These are generalizations and specific people will, of course, be exceptions to these assertions.

HST

October 4th, 2011
10:00 am

It’s a fact, “better looking people” do have it easier. If you think they don’t then you’re in denial. Stereotypes of people will exist as long as we have opinions. Moreover, as long as we are centered on what is visually appealing, then we will always gravitate towards what is easy on the eyes.

kimmie

October 4th, 2011
10:00 am

Sassy – Thanks. People just need to hold themselves accountable more.

HST

October 4th, 2011
10:02 am

Why is there so many married people commenting on the dating blog?