Ex-Files: Who is your Kryptonite?
Most of us have dated enough people to have found their personal kryptonite. That one person who renders us stupid, powerless, and unable to make rational choices when they are around.
I had one and I am convinced he no longer has that power over me. It helps that I changed phone numbers, office locations, and I no longer see any mutual friends. But whatever. The point is, I can pretty much relax about him since he won’t pop up anywhere.
It’s strange how these people even get this kind of influence over us. It can be sex-induced, love-induced, or perhaps a mixture of both. Once you figure out how they became your kryptonite, you should be able to combat it.
Who is your kryptonite and why? What was it about them that made you a big pile of confusion?
What do you do to break the spell of people who have you feeling caught up and in a daze?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
11:47 am
Just be glad I didn’t spell it pattay lol
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
11:50 am
Why do I feel like swiss and I are sitting alone in the closet for 7 minutes of Heaven…where did everybody go and who turned the lights off?
czBrat
September 30th, 2011
11:56 am
ugh. thanx to slim’s 11:47 i know feel compelled to find a beef patty for lunch … in dunwoody.
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
11:56 am
I’m back, trying to make arrangements for senior pictures, payment of senior dues, all things senior…..sheesh (lol).
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
@SlimNu ~ yes ma’am, Ex trying to camouflage the various levels of being p-whipped!
cba
September 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
Well, I had a kryptonite story but since abc mentioned middle school, I’ll leave it alone (lol)
i'm swiss™
September 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
“Why do I feel like swiss and I are sitting alone in the closet for 7 minutes of Heaven…”
Slim — More like 37.6 seconds of heaven and 6 minutes 22.4 seconds of you making me a sammich while I take a power nap.
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
czBrat – I had a patty just the other day and last night the beau and I had stewed & jerk chicken. MMMMMmmm
Sunny
September 30th, 2011
12:08 pm
So, I’m a little tardy to the party but I do have a form of Kryptonite in my life who has been hanging around for almost 13 years. We dated for a few years but decided that we just weren’t meant to be together, however that didn’t stop our sexual attraction (or activities). Seeing as how he got hitched this year and still stops by to see me regularly to keep up “maintenance,” I don’t know how I will ever get rid of him. The sad thing is that I don’t want (and haven’t wanted to in 8+ years) to be in a relationship with him but can’t tell him no when it comes to the “D” – HELP!! This situation has turned into a whole new meaning of trifling.
i'm swiss™
September 30th, 2011
12:10 pm
Alright, I’m out, peeps. Everybody have a good weekend!
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
12:12 pm
I see we’ve fizzed already and it’s just lunch time…lol
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
12:12 pm
fizzled
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
12:13 pm
Where is Blackfoote? He must be looming because my typos are yucky
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
12:14 pm
@Sunny ~ although you have been honest here and used the word trifling, I’m going to throw you a blog vest nonetheless. I call people like that “diehards.” You can’t get rid of them. You should want to change the dynamics of the relationship now that he’s married. You didn’t want to marry him and he didn’t want to marry you so why subject yourself to being somone’s b……with he needs to be scratched. Heck, that’s what his wife is for.
Don’t get me wrong, the label definitely can be prettied up, but the both of you are mere depositories. Don’t you seek more from a man…..
Oh, and welcome!
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
12:18 pm
swiss – sorry, I actually fell asleep 12 seconds in…
Matt
September 30th, 2011
12:30 pm
@Sunny
Suppose he has kids with his wife, say she finds out about you two, can you take that on your conscience that you helped destroy a family?
Exiled!
September 30th, 2011
12:36 pm
Enter your comments here
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
12:39 pm
Shame on you Sunny. No matter how tempting, persistent, the reason always think about how you’re going to be positioned. If it’s the bottom (and it is), remove yourself. Too, how do you know this little thingy ya’ll got going is not blocking something potentially good that could come your way?
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
12:57 pm
@Celisea ~ it is blocking! She’s pining for him probably while doing her own thing on the side, but she can’t possibly give her all to another because married duded is getting a certain percentage.
Matt
September 30th, 2011
1:02 pm
@Leggs
Are you saying that it is alright that she puts her effort in a married guy? The only thing wrong with it is that she can’t give a full effort to someone else because of time percentages……
Willie Dynamite
September 30th, 2011
1:03 pm
Afternoon All,
Another topic that forces you to be honest with yourself. I think ladies are/will be more forthcoming. I’m sure its some Dudes on here that refuse to acknowledge that they’ve done some things for a certain chick that won’t allow them to speak of. At any rate. I had this one that I couldn’t shake and didn’t know why. She probably helped shaped my affinity for Women with Chocolate skin, great smile with the pretty white teeth. For the longest pretty much all the women I had a closeness to were of that variety. It took me getting Married to a Tall redbone to shake it. I can now be in the same place as her and honestly not want to get at her or vice versa. I’m sure it wouldnt take much but I’m good. The only Kryptonite I have right now has my same last name.
Exiled!
September 30th, 2011
1:04 pm
I don’t know what to eat?
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
1:06 pm
Wings
monster
September 30th, 2011
1:09 pm
hey
Exiled!
September 30th, 2011
1:10 pm
@Matt?!
u not qualified, by the MLB , to dispense ‘D withdrawal advice’ to a chic, unless u , urself, are a chic not getting some.
K soldier!
Let the ladies handle that and I’ll figure out in due course why.
Exiled!
September 30th, 2011
1:11 pm
U will
Exiled!
September 30th, 2011
1:12 pm
Wings it is.. That’s what I had on mt mind but was ambivalent bout it
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
1:14 pm
Sounds like Sunny needs to be chained to the house because she has that Black Moan disease lol…But really, it should’ve been cut off when he decided to become serious with the other chick, currently his wife. How can we ever keep each other honest if we enable folks to step outside of thier lanes. He is married and you should respect yourself as well as his wife. You’re probably lucky you shared this on a slow Friday. Any other day, the wolves would’ve come at you hard. There’s a lot of other available dizzle in this world.
Willie Dynamite
September 30th, 2011
1:16 pm
Sunny i would definitely say that qualifies as Kryptonite.
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
So true so true because men will go there with you if you all, feel nothing for the betrayal of their families and skip along through life like nothing. You deserve better.
Sol Rosenburg
September 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
Oh God do I have a krptonite. Her name is Biana and she treats me so badly. I am humiliated at all times but I cannot tell her no. She always makes me feel funny and makes fun of my “muffin a$$”. Oh God what am I to do? We went to the shore and she made me rub sand all over my a$$ nips. I ask her to stop but she then humiliates me so bad I pee myself.
Sometimes she makes me dress up like an ugly woman and take my picture so she can show people she works with. Help me Wise Diva?
Sassy Me...Sun Kissed ;-)
September 30th, 2011
1:19 pm
I don’t know what to eat?
Fish?
She probably helped shaped my affinity for Women with Chocolate skin, great smile with the pretty white teeth.
Chocolate will do that to you…I love it when that happens. When I used to live downtown there was a guy that at a men’s clothing store on Forsyth street and EVERY time he saw me, we’d talk and he’d say, “Ain’t nuthin like a pretty dark skinned woman”…made me blush errtime.
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
Sol – Sounds like you’re a bit of a masochist. Do you like to wear diapers, drink out of baby bottles and willing poop yourself for pleasure?
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
willingly
Exiled!
September 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
So any of u having some bites at the BET menu in town this wkend?
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
1:25 pm
@Matt ~ no, I’m not saying that at all. I’m saying she should stop seeing him, get another title from a worthier man, and stop blocking her blessings by wanting sex with this married man.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
September 30th, 2011
1:26 pm
should’ve been *that worked at*…my bad
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
1:29 pm
@SlimNu ~” lucky you shared this on a slow Friday. Any other day, the wolves would’ve come at you hard.” I know, that’s why I threw her a vest.
Ron Burgundy
September 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
Sunny I may be able to help you with your krptonite….I have many leather bound books and my apartment smells of rich mahagony. You be a woman….and I;ll be a man!
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
I am so enjoying my lunch….baked flounder, rest of collards and a slice of wheat bread. Delicious.
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
1:32 pm
What are “a$$ nips?”
Ron Burgundy
September 30th, 2011
1:32 pm
Leggs – How about a tube steak smothered in underwear?
Matt
September 30th, 2011
1:35 pm
@Leggs
Gotcha
SlimNu
September 30th, 2011
1:35 pm
a$$ nips?….hmmmm, my only guess would be left behind, dried up chunks of BOO BOO
Willie Dynamite
September 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
Sassy – i know right. Woe is me……I used to have a hard time controlling that sweet tooth. Now i just admire the packaging and K.I.M. (most of the time).
Ron Burgundy
September 30th, 2011
1:38 pm
When I was married and saw beatiful women I would just take mental pitcures for my “spank bank”. then rosie and her five sisters (numbed if possible) would create the dream.
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
1:38 pm
Collards and wheat/sandwich bread? Leggs I can ONLY eat collards with cornbread…not even a roll
Celisea
September 30th, 2011
1:39 pm
Ron – please dude
Leggs
September 30th, 2011
1:41 pm
@RonB ~ every time I see your name I think of Will Ferrell. I have no idea why. But, gotcha on the cube steak….
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed ;-)
September 30th, 2011
1:44 pm
Now i just admire the packaging and K.I.M. (most of the time).
most of the time?!
I hear you papi
Chocolate makes the world go ’round!!