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Ex-Files: Who is your Kryptonite?

Most of us have dated enough people to have found their personal kryptonite. That one person who renders us stupid, powerless, and unable to make rational choices when they are around.

I had one and I am convinced he no longer has that power over me. It helps that I changed phone numbers, office locations, and I no longer see any mutual friends. But whatever. The point is, I can pretty much relax about him since he won’t pop up anywhere.

It’s strange how these people even get this kind of influence over us. It can be sex-induced, love-induced, or perhaps a mixture of both. Once you figure out how they became your kryptonite, you should be able to combat it.

Who is your kryptonite and why? What was it about them that made you a big pile of confusion?

What do you do to break the spell of people who have you feeling caught up and in a daze?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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czBrat

September 30th, 2011
10:28 am

HiYas!

just wow @ soldier.

let’s see, i’ve had exactly three boyfriends in my youth and four lovers as an adult; none qualify as kryptonite. as a matter of fact, with the exception of the ex-hubs, i consider each of them a friend i could easily hang out with and have no hankerings whatsoever. not that there’s anything wrong with them. i guess i’m just kinda cold-hearted when it comes to moving on. when i’m done, I’M DONE!

and, uh, leggs, you already have my opinion on your little tone-loco encounter.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

September 30th, 2011
10:29 am

The only thing better than good dy*ck is good head

Ohhhh YES m’aam ;-)

On topic: My last relationship seemed like kryptonite cause even though I knew that it wouldn’t work I really loved him….but I truly knew it wouldn’t work. Between him, them two demon seed children and they retarded mama I knew I didn’t need to be in that B.S…..love or not.

oneofeach4me

September 30th, 2011
10:30 am

My first post evaporated.

I had the bad kind of Kryptonite at age 19. We both worked at the same place, dated for 3 years, and moved in together. Dude could finish all my sentences, knew what I liked, wanted and desired. I could feel his presence outside the door before I even consciously knew he was there. I was deeply in love and did some really stupid things that I would NEVER do again for ANYONE.

Needless to say, the FBI came aknockin one day looking for Mr. SoandSo. Oh, well no one lives here by that name. Then they show me a picture of my Kryptonite and said this is him. So…. something I called him for 3 years wasn’t even his real name not to mention I had celebrated his bday for that time.. or his FAKE one rather. It took me two years to even date again.

disco

September 30th, 2011
10:31 am

Good morning all. I don’t know if I’ll say I ran up on kryptonite. I didn’t act a fool or anything behind this man (well at the very end I did do one bad thing but the statute of limitations is up on that). he most definitely is “the one” that got away. the one that I continue to compare others to. yes, I understand that each one should be considered individually on his own merits but I think I’m trying to recreate the feeling that I had with the one. everything just felt good and right about that one and, so far, everything since has never been quite as good or as right. I’m told I’ll know when I’ve met the one (or the next one) for me when I do actually stop the mental comparisons.

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
10:31 am

“…that’s just plain nuts. There is no such thing as a chick who would gain such a hold over me based on just sex. I don’t think many men would be so affected — unless they were toads or something, or very young.

No disrespect, abc, but you are wrong. Many, many men lose sight all because of the puddy. Perhaps not you, but you’ve became a bitter man based on how women have treated you in the past. It has taken you a long time to get away from that mindset, but you did it. Some men have to literally pry themselves away from good puddy. Same with women….Both P and D are powerful when it’s slung right. :wink:

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

September 30th, 2011
10:32 am

i guess i’m just kinda cold-hearted when it comes to moving on. when i’m done, I’M DONE!

Okay?! That’s what I’m talkin ’bout!!

Reio

September 30th, 2011
10:33 am

Mike P – Kryptonite, in this context, is a power that a person has over another, that makes them weak. Too weak to say no to anything, and too weak to resist. So weak, in fact, that they end up doing things that they would never do otherwise. This person & the power they have over the other individual, is a form of kryptonite to them.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

September 30th, 2011
10:34 am

Both P and D are powerful when it’s slung right

Ladies you know when you’ve got’em,too….have his toes curled up like boiled shrimp

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
10:37 am

@Reio ~ reading your post belittled me as a person. All I got from your post was due to my picture I was “only” looked at as a roll in the hay. I realize we all are visual creatures, but damn!!

abc

September 30th, 2011
10:40 am

Not really, Leggs. I’d consider a man that loses it like that over sex to be p-whipped, ergo, a sissy, something wrong with that, from a man’s point of view. If you know a lot of men like that, I’m just kinda shaking my head. I’ve never known very men that would get p-whipped. Young or old, men know that as far as sex goes, it’s pretty easy to get more. Chicks don’t just throw themselves at you, they take a big running start and fly through the air.

Reio

September 30th, 2011
10:41 am

I wish that I could experience this kryptonite stuff. I can understand the concept, but I never experienced it. While single, I had my fun, but I kept my wits about me. Remained in control. Nobody’s stuff was so good as to make me do things I would not do for any other woman. I guess? I don’t know. But this kryptonite stuff sounds like it’s really powwerful

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
10:42 am

Ok, abc, your 10:23 is making some sense. However, I did meet one very fine gentleman online. There are real men/women online…..hell, I’m there. In essence, you seem to be saying those that met their husbands/wives online was a fluke. There are some really decent people online. I would never want to meet someone through FB.

Exiled!

September 30th, 2011
10:42 am

Leggs?

Don’t be confused. I am a mama’s boy. I don’t think she ever abuses my luv for her(she is a very Christian and spiritual woman) but she knows I luv her deeply.

But when she coughs,I get a chill down my spine.

I live by the motto,if I have to eat top cut sirlon at my house,so must my mum.

I luv my dad too,but in a manly way. He can always be a man and hustle if he has too.

Not my mum.

kimmie

September 30th, 2011
10:45 am

I was scared of my mom too. Even after I was grown and out of the house, she still commanded fear but respect from me.

Miss my moms! Sign….

Matt

September 30th, 2011
10:45 am

Pretty simply put why woman and men act differently is this.
Men need sex to love and women need love to have sex.

Men’s visual and physical nature is stronger than their need for love, Women’s emotional attachment to love or the idea of love is more powerful and intesifies their feelings toward sex.

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
10:47 am

@abc ~ you’re right, he’s p-whppped and she’s d-whipped. That’s all we are saying. It happens. Same as having your “nose wide open.” None of it is a pretty sight and most of it will have you doing some foolish things. I’ve always thought jumping on the hood of your man’s car while he’s driving away is one of the stupidest things I know women to do. Some do it. I never understood it, and probably never will. Whipped has a person doing stuff like that.

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
10:48 am

@Ex ~ I’m no longer confused on what you were saying…thank you. I got it.

czBrat

September 30th, 2011
10:48 am

Ladies you know when you’ve got’em,too….
the kisses on the shoulder in the middle of the night. or the poke-poke-poke at your back in the wee hours. all cuz they can’t make it til morning without a second helping.
yeah. we know when we’ve got em. :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
10:52 am

“Yeah, but I’m saying that his using online means to meet people shows weakness, if not craziness, of itself.”

abc — I realize you’re kind of old school, but c”mon, dude, it’s 2011. People do everything online now. It’s not a matter of weakness or craziness, it’s a matter of convenience. Now, certainly, you will find crazies and lames online, but no more online than in any other setting.

Reio

September 30th, 2011
10:53 am

Matt – Makes sense. I agree. While single, I could humpum, dumpum, and try to get to their sister or girlfriend, aunt, neighbor… with the blink of an eye. Just did’nt give a dam. If we were’nt gettin busy, I saw absolutely no reason to even come around them. And we had to start gettin busy very shortly after meeting, If I wanted them(which was most of them).

Exiled!

September 30th, 2011
11:01 am

@Matt,

‘Men need sex to love( live) and ……’

that’s why ladies,a one nite stand ain’t such a bad idea.

Something more enduring may develop outta that! :lol:

Ron Burgundy

September 30th, 2011
11:06 am

My personal krptonite was a woman named Chesty LaMammries……my God she captivated me with thos big saucerr sized…..eyes. And Man did those utters defy gravity.

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:07 am

If dudes didn’t get a bit puddy drunk then we wouldn’t have dudes shooting, killing, stalking, threatening etc the chicks when she tries to leave. A guy in my neighborhood about a year ago, set his ex girlfriends garage & car on fire because she broke up with him. Just the other week a guy shot his estranged wife and her daughter as she was dropping her off to go to school all because she had recently filed for divorce. Or what about they guy that killed his gf then threw on the grill like it was the 4th of July…

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
11:08 am

Chesty LaMammries….too funny

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
11:10 am

@SlimNu ~ no matter how it’s sliced, men get p drunk and women get d stupid.

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:12 am

Now, certainly, you will find crazies and lames online, but no more online than in any other setting

Those same crazy folks that are online are not fictional beings…they have to interact with people face-to-face at some point. It’s just a little easier to hide your crazy while sitting behind a computer lol

Stonethrower

September 30th, 2011
11:12 am

New to this blog, but had a lady years ago who had me looking for her with a flashlight in the daytime? It was purely a physical thing and we both knew it. We were completely compatible that way. I had to take baby steps until I could finally run away from her!

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:12 am

“If dudes didn’t get a bit puddy drunk then we wouldn’t have dudes shooting, killing, stalking, threatening etc the chicks when she tries to leave.”

Slim — Ah, but you see… those aren’t men. Anyone who does anything contrary to the acceptable definition of manhood is not actually a man, but merely masquerading as a man — with all the biological elements that otherwise make up a man. (See what I did there?) :lol:

Ron Burgundy

September 30th, 2011
11:14 am

Slim – what I like to do is call the girl months down the road and inform her I just tested positive for the Aids.

Make sure you call her on a Friday evening so she will send all night searching for an open clinic! ;)

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:20 am

“Or what about they guy that killed his gf then threw on the grill like it was the 4th of July…”

Slim — I remember that story. I started reading after the headline said something about “man kills an cannibalizes girlfriend” and I immediately thought, “Well, another one of my people has lost his d@mn mind.” Then I read the part about him using her to BBQ and I thought, “Oh…. wait… I spoke too soon.” :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:20 am

*and* cannibalizes

Exiled!

September 30th, 2011
11:22 am

@Slim?

I doubt it’s pu- dy causing all that.

For some of these dudes,it’s hate and being pissed and powerless,especially if the guy is lame and the woman has everything going on for her,especially financially.

Some dudes,let’s admit,are just passengers in their relationships and in fact,it may be the woman who was on kryptonite but has now decided to move on.

For other dudes who are less rational when pissed,the castration that befalls them after divorce and because of the financial obligations and fallout,they resort to those extreme measures.

It’s just momentary,regretsble and stupendous Stupidity!

Camille

September 30th, 2011
11:24 am

When I was 16/17 years old there was a guy in the neighborhood who was my Kryptonite. “Ding dong” first thing it the morrning when my mother left for work… I never thought “why isn’t he in school.” Anyway, we didn’t go out just did the wild thing..

When I went to college I would tell him “I will be home on XYZ day.” He could call me up on that day and it was on.. We both were having lots of fun. My sister called him “Mr. Understanding” because we had an understanding. This went on for years and I couldn’t shake him/we couldn’t shake each other. Everytime we got “together” both of us were more mature and had learned a few new things being with other people..it was like a drug. Well, like anything else, it came to a hard end. I just stopped calling once I met my then boyfriend, soon to be ex-husband. Sometimes we just have to say NO and keep it moving.

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:26 am

swiss – I’m reading you loud and clear…I must’ve been referring to Moist Beings with a weenie in their pants aka B.A.B’s ;-)

Ron – That’s cruel…But what would happen if you called a chick to let her know you tested positive and she goes, “Your ears must’ve been burning because you were the next person on my list of folks i was notifying about my positive results. You just saved me a call. Anyway, you wanna grab a drink later? All these calls are sort of draining with all the yelling, crying, how could you do that to me you nasty tryck blah blah blah….”

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:27 am

swiss – I just love your sense of humor…yo ass is just plain crazy! So the BBQ gave it away huh? :lol:

czBrat

September 30th, 2011
11:28 am

swiss you are an absolute idiot! :lol:

slim, that’s a very good argument against pouring it on too thick. no need to get folks all addicted and sh!t.

stone, why run? you should stay and have your fill. LOL

czBrat

September 30th, 2011
11:29 am

yeah, slim. i suppose one of swiss’ brethren would have diced up chick and used her in fondue.

Ron Burgundy

September 30th, 2011
11:32 am

Camille….you are referring to f&% buddy. I had one as well. man she wzas the best looking quaddropolegic I ever made it with. We met in college and it seemed like all we would do is bump uglies.

Well when I met my first wife i saw Peg for awhile longer but eventually we both just lost interest. I mean she would just lay there….no flop at all to her.

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
11:33 am

“For some of these dudes,it’s hate and being pissed and powerless,especially if the guy is lame and the woman has everything going on for her,especially financially.” We still call that puddy whipped.

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:33 am

czBrat — Or a chef’s salad. :lol:

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:33 am

czBrat – Or a patte :lol:

Leggs

September 30th, 2011
11:36 am

@RonB ~ that wasn’t nice, but it was funny.

czBrat

September 30th, 2011
11:36 am

hey! stop! i luv chef’s salads :(

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:36 am

We still call that puddy whipped

Leggs – You see Ex over there trying to justify it as something else other than what it is? FUNNY!! If I said all that about a woman he would most definitely blame it on the Wang DOUBLE STANDARDAZZ

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:37 am

Slim — Oh, even better! Hey, you know my people better than I do… :lol:

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:38 am

swiss – Well you know I have that 25% going on over here. My mom’s father was one of yous guys ;-)

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:41 am

Than again…. my whiteness won’t allow me to overlook the misspelling of pate. Sorry, I can’t help it, it’s in my DNA… :lol:

SlimNu

September 30th, 2011
11:42 am

swiss – Due to my 75% other, I refer to the urban dictionary for words errry now and then. :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:42 am

i'm swiss™

September 30th, 2011
11:44 am

Slim — It’s okay. My white trashiness always forces me to fight the urge to pronounce that word such that it rhymes with the number 8.