Do you know who NOT to date?

Diamonds

September 29th, 2011
6:45 am

Never date a man who wants or thinks that you will be his personal ATM

I Got One

September 29th, 2011
6:53 am

Never date a man with multiple children by multiple women. Clearly no one told him where babies come from.

thewindwhistler

September 29th, 2011
7:10 am

that is a great question. i really like it. The one to leave alone is the one that is “hungry for love”.Somewhere along the line they have been deprived of caring and affection and consequently, they have a little, they wanrt more and they can never receive enough. You know the ones , continuously searching for the right person, been married many times like Liz and Mickey. Like Jane Fonda and so on.

Timeless

September 29th, 2011
7:13 am

Never date a woman who wants or thinks that you will be her personal ATM…

Matt

September 29th, 2011
7:22 am

Never date a woman that goes after you while she is already in a relationship.

Foxy

September 29th, 2011
7:27 am

Foxy says date whomever the hell you want..just don’t bring the crap home.

Jeff

September 29th, 2011
7:38 am

Never date an entitlement princess.

Or a woman who thinks spandex is one size fits all.

My 2 cents

September 29th, 2011
7:40 am

Never date anyone that only thinks of themselves and what they want. That’s a sign of total complete selfishness. The signs are always there – you know the ones that totally disregard how anyone else thinks or feels.

Foxy

September 29th, 2011
7:44 am

@Jeff -lol

Matt

September 29th, 2011
7:53 am

Never get married without a credit score, and find out how much debt they have ~lesson learned~ ohh too well.

Roswell Jeff

September 29th, 2011
7:54 am

Never date a woman 101.
1. If the inside of her car is a dumpster – move on
2. If the inside of her living space is a pig pen – move on
3. If the woman is late to everything – move on
4. If the woman blames everyone else for her failings – move on
5. If the woman loses or can’t find anything – move on

Matt

September 29th, 2011
7:58 am

@ Jeff lol
Never date any girl if she is under 30 and already has 3 divorces under her belt, that should be a big RED FLAG, you can’t have that many failed marriages and they all be the other person’s fault, she either chose the wrong guy or she is obviously the problem and can’t handle a marriage/relationship.

MrsNewy

September 29th, 2011
8:14 am

Never date man over 30 still trying to “find” himself.
Never date a man content to still live in his mother’s basement.
Never date a man is still trying to break into the entertainment industry, has no viable income and is over 25.

Give me a break

September 29th, 2011
8:16 am

My two rules that kept me out of trouble were:

Don’t date a woman who is looking for a white knight.
Don’t date a woman who doesn’t have a successful career, a positive social network, etc.

MrsNewy

September 29th, 2011
8:20 am

Let me expound

If he is still trying to find himself, he really doesn’t know where he is going.

Living in the basement, he never wants to break the umbilical cord…he moved far enough to claim independence, close enough to still be attached.

Still trying to “break into the industry” over 25, he is living on a pipe dream and hasn’t figured out he is not that talented.

Angela

September 29th, 2011
8:20 am

I never dated a guy that had children. I didn’t want the “baby mama drama.”

Sunny

September 29th, 2011
8:21 am

Never date a man over the age of 30 who:
1. Bad mouths the mother of his child.
2. Is still trying to “make it” as a rapper.
3. Doesn’t own a suit or tie.
4. Has lived with multiple women within the past year (RED FLAG: Freeloader!!)
5. Thinks a woman wanting having sex more than once week is a nympho (true story).

Matt

September 29th, 2011
8:22 am

@MrsNewy
With all respect, trying to find himself and over 30? Some circumstances can indeed happen that a complete change of that person’s personality has to happen, I can see your point and I would agree with you on most cases, however, I myself am in a period of flux. I had to dump all the people I knew previously and start all over again. Still trying to find myself yes, should I be undatable, for the time being yes, should I be datable a little later when I decide to throw myself back in absolutely.

Sunny

September 29th, 2011
8:23 am

My apologies for the typo!

CoolShadow

September 29th, 2011
8:32 am

Never date a woman if:

1. She wants girlfriend perks while she puts you in friend zone status
2. Her favorite shows starts with the title “Basketball Wives” or “Real Housewives”
3. She wants to know where “things are going” 15 minutes after meeting her
4. She’s quick to call someone country but is mortified and confused by banquet place setting
5. She constantly mispronounces words (e.g., porch for Porsche, pacific for specific)
6. She makes every conversation argumentative or an intense debate
7. Calls herself well traveled yet her travel extents go only as far as Athens or Rome (the ones in Georgia, not Greece or Italy, respectively)
8. In the getting to know you phase will interrogate you but ask her a question and she acts like she’s in the Witness (Witless?) Protection Program

MrsNewy

September 29th, 2011
8:36 am

@ Matt… I can respect that. However, in my experinces, when a guy is trying to “find himself” and he is unemployed, lacking drive and blames everyone but himself for that situation (which is often the case with those saying they are still “finding themselves”) It reads as LEECH…and I keep it moving. I say that folks who are still looking for themselves need to take themselves out of the dating realm until they are found.

MrsNewy

September 29th, 2011
8:37 am

oops *experiences

Jeff

September 29th, 2011
8:41 am

Good list cool………

Add to that…..anyone who refuses to accept any responsibility for a failed marriage. At some point, you are both responsible. Even if you sat by idly and allowed bad things to happen, you played a role.

Matt

September 29th, 2011
8:41 am

I can’t say that I fit that description, I have had a very good job for many years now, however during the period of my divorce all of my closest friends knew my ex had been cheating on me for 2 years, thus dump everyone, change myself, etc. etc. Am I a LEECH absolutely not.

Matt

September 29th, 2011
8:44 am

@Jeff
the only thing that I can say I really screwed up on in my marriage was, marrying the wrong woman, I am sure there were other things, but there are some limits, are you saying Tina Turner, was responsible for Ike, being a piece of garbage?

MrsNewy

September 29th, 2011
8:48 am

@ Matt…that is vastly different from most trying to find themselves. You are just changing direction. lol

Leggs

September 29th, 2011
8:56 am

Good morning.

1. Do not date a person who is starved for attention. Neediness is such a turnoff
2. Never date a man who doesn’t own a pair of shoes.
3. Multiple baby mamas
4. If he asks you for $$ second time in his company, BOUNCE
5. In 2011, if his pants sag, RUN
6. Don’t date a heavy drinker = Problems
7. Don’t date anyone irresponsible
8. Do not date a negative man. Where’s the joy?
9. Do not date someone who’s always taking and not giving
10. Do date someone similar to yourself!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 29th, 2011
9:00 am

Wow, some good stuff posted here!

Sunny – totally agree with the bad mouthing baby mama thing! Big red flag for me!

LOL @ Cool Shadow, good list though

men lie, women lie

September 29th, 2011
9:04 am

@CoolShadow

I got a chick right now trying to get my boyfriend perks but she don’t wanna actually commit, so she get’s the artic shoulder, she called me and asked if I were mad at her,lol cause I don’t call at all.

Matt

September 29th, 2011
9:08 am

@Leggs
1. Agree
2. Agree
3. Agree
4. Disagree, unfortunately it’s a different world now, not that I like it at all, but this particular recession has hit men much much harder than women, women now have a higher annual salary then men on average. I don’t fall into that catagory, but if a woman is loaded and she is making the guy pay for everything still, that aint right.
5. Agree, whole heartedly
6. Need to elaborate more on this, if a guy goes on a drinking binge once every 2 months and gets really drunk once, I don’t consider that to be a heavey drinker, a beer or 2 a night, that isn’t either.
7. Agree
8. Agree
9. Agree
10. Totally disagree, I don’t date anyone anymore unless I have a ton in common with them and I personally love myself and most parts of my life, if someone else is like that too, and we can share lots of common activities that would be awesome!!!

SlimNu

September 29th, 2011
9:11 am

Good morning….feeling a bit woosie but i’ll manage

List of “Don’t Date the following”:

Brokeaz
Poaz
Lyinaz
Cheatinaz
Dumbaz
Cheapaz
Goodfornothinaz
Lazyaz
Uglyaz
Stinkyaz
Marriedaz and especially his cousin, Beatinyoaz

Matt

September 29th, 2011
9:13 am

@slim
Awesome!!!

Rod

September 29th, 2011
9:15 am

@Matt – I feel your pain. Same situation here. Just now filing for the Big D after finding out my wife has been cheating on me for the past year with at least two people. All her friends know, and some of mine do as well. Very difficult times.

men lie, women lie

September 29th, 2011
9:21 am

Don’t date a woman with a “list” you’ll never live up to the billing
Don’t date a man if he doesn’t open the car door for you( I was raised by women so I do it out of respect)
Don’t date a woman that thinks shes a model(why do adverage people think their a model lol kill ya self)
Don’t date a man thats not humble (his pride will be your downfall)
Don’t date women with double standards…
Don’t date a man cause he’s a hustler( don’t nobody want a hustler but a golddigger)
Don’t date me cause I ain’t with the B********

Into the Light

September 29th, 2011
9:24 am

Good morning, all…..

(yawning…it was a looooonnnnggg 13 innings at The Ted last night)

Good list, Leggs and LOL@Slim.

Green Flags:
1. honest and trustworthy, a man of integrity
2. a man who loves God and his family
3. an intelligent man
4. a man with a great sense of humor who doesn’t sweat the small stuff
5. a man who “fits” into all areas of my life (i.e. he is charming at our company’s black tie party, he is right in the middle of laughing and having fun at a cookout, my family loves to see him at Sunday dinner, quiet time with him makes coming home special)
6. a man who commands respect (note: not DEMANDS, but COMMANDS)

MrsNewy

September 29th, 2011
9:32 am

LOL @ Slim…yes I adore your list!

SlimNu

September 29th, 2011
9:35 am

gigi lee

September 29th, 2011
9:38 am

1. never date a guy that your friends and family question his sexually preferences.
2. never date a guy that has nothing good to say about his mother but is still a mama’s boy.
3. never date a guy that always seems to have his friends around and the only time your alone
is when your in bed together.
4. never date a guy that he and his friends drinks so much that his friend uninates on the leather
couch.
5. never date a guy that you find a receipt for condoms when you thought you were in an exclusive
relationship.
6. never date a guy that it is like torture communicating with.
7. never date a guy when you buy him a gift he find flaws in it.
8. never date a guy that is selfish and cheap.
9. never date a guy that seems to think he knows the answer to everyone but his own relationship
problems.
10.never date a guy that does not fit comfortably with your family unit.
I could go on and on but I suppose you have to take the bad with the good. Nobody is perfect yes including me. Here is to living happily ever after.

Sunny

September 29th, 2011
9:39 am

@ Into the Light: Superb list!!

Into the Light

September 29th, 2011
9:41 am

Thanks, Sunny!

Leggs

September 29th, 2011
9:41 am

@Matt ~ a heavy drinker to me is someone who drinks an entire bottle (perhaps a pint) of liquor almost every night. Drinks a 6-pk every evening, needs a drink before starting the day…stuff like that. I’m not talking about that person who gets drunk every so often….most of us have been there. BTW, your examples absolutely do not fall in “heavy” drinker category.

As far as asking for $$ second time in one’s company, I realize many people are suffering. However, you’ve known me for a minute. If there isn’t anyone in your circle of friends/family you’ve known over the years to ask, that says something to me. I have heard many men state (even here), they don’t care for a woman to ask for $$ so quickly into the relationship. That’s all I’m saying as well.

Then why are you disagreeing with my #10???

Leggs

September 29th, 2011
9:43 am

6. never date a guy that it is like torture communicating with.

This should be #!…Great point!

Into the Light

September 29th, 2011
9:45 am

never date a guy that it is like torture communicating with

……or there is NO communication.

men lie, women lie

September 29th, 2011
9:50 am

don’t date a women that forgot what she said in her last sentence, she’s mad I tell you

Matt

September 29th, 2011
9:50 am

@Leggs
Sorry misread 10, totally agree, all the previous ones are never never never, and I got hung up on that and didn’t read it right.

Mike P

September 29th, 2011
9:50 am

Good Morning blog folks,

On Topic:

I will never date a woman ever/ never again after I find out that she’s:
1. An entitlement princess – nice one Jeff!
2. Wants Boy friend benefits, but offers only friendship status.
3. Watches mind-destroying TV shows – can’t deal with dummies.
4. Argumentative, Competitive, or has a negative mental attitude.
5. An attention whore.
6. Not feminine, soft spoken, and easy-going.
7. Thinks being submissive is weak – Aggressive women are weak.
8. Has more than one child from different fathers, all out of wedlock.
9. Thinks it’s my job to entertain her.
10. A “gimme-gimme” taker but never gives – I require a giving supportive woman.
11. Has a filthy home and car.
12. is late all the time, and blames everyone else for everything– it’s never her fault, right?
@My 2 cents: – you wrote: Never date anyone that only thinks of themselves and what they want. That’s a sign of total complete selfishness. The signs are always there – you know the ones that totally disregard how anyone else thinks or feels. – That’s not a sign of selfishness, that’s the sign of a “real” man who has confidence and makes his own path in life, despite what others say and do.

Leggs

September 29th, 2011
9:51 am

O/T *****in case any of you missed the news on the Reebok toning sneaker refund, you can go to wsbtv.com and fill out a refund form. Reebok is refundinga total of $25M doled out to consumers because the sneaks are not doing what they claim to do. Just filled out my refund form.****

Leggs

September 29th, 2011
9:52 am

I knew that Matt …just had to mess with you on that one. Figured you read a “not” in there because of the other 9 “nots.”

CoolShadow

September 29th, 2011
9:57 am

Also, never date women if:

1. If every other sentence begins with “My pastor says,”

2. Every situation in her life requires crisis management

3. She’s only available to you Mon.-Thurs. unless she needs help in moving

4. The only thing she brings to the table is an appetite

men lie, women lie

September 29th, 2011
9:57 am

never date a women who has to post everything on facebook, my 2cents on this, their trying to built up a supercool image of themselves that is the opposite of who they are

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

September 29th, 2011
9:58 am

hmmm this should be interesting….

My past experiences have taught me not to date: 1. Mama’s boys
2. Men that are cheap n selfish
3. Men without a plan/goals in life
4. Men who claim to want a strong independent woman but can’t really handle/deal with her when he gets a bonafide one.

men lie, women lie

September 29th, 2011
10:01 am

@CoolShadow
4. The only thing she brings to the table is an appetite

if I knew this in my 20’s i would have a perfect credit score!

i'm swiss™

September 29th, 2011
10:01 am

Morning, folks.

On topic: Well, these kinds of lists are funny & all, but….

The problem with having these checklists of what you don’t want, is that anybody — even a really good person — could exhibit some of these traits once in a while. Nobody’s perfect & I’m sure we’ve all had a few moments here & there where we failed to live up to our own usual standards. But that doesn’t make us bad people, nor does it make us un-date-able. Better to look at the big picture than a checklist of pre-determined grounds for dismissal.

Reio

September 29th, 2011
10:03 am

Sassy Me…Juicy Fruit – what’s your definition of ” a strong independent woman” ?

kimmie

September 29th, 2011
10:09 am

Morning All!

Swiss – I’m with you on this.

When I was dating, other than obvious stuff, the biggest things I didn’t like were dudes that were bitter or committment-phobes. Oh, and dudes that smoked.

Leggs – I lefted before you answered on the Diddy interview. He was actually cool, light-hearted. Said he doesn’t let himself get caught up in mess and concentrates on being a good businessman. Nothing deep.

M. (pronouced M dot)

September 29th, 2011
10:11 am

Good day everyone…I think everything is covered but I have a few to add to dontdateher.com

1. If every guy she has ever dated is in the sports or entertainment business=groupie point. blank. period. Plus she will always compare you to them.

2. A flakey woman. If she has more excuses than friends, let her go.

3. A lying woman. This seems obvious but once I catch you in a lie, DONE

4. A woman who is tryng to impress her agenda on you. If she wants to have kids and get married and you arent ready, stand your ground!

5. A woman who cant think for herself but always follows her friends.

6. A woman who is not decisive. If she has been going back and forth with her ex for 3 years, leave her alone.

7. If she has a slick mouth (smart comments, sly remarks, acts real snippy with you) let her go. This is only a sign of disrespect and she is seeing how far she can go on you.

Don’t forget people, relationships are supposed to be a good thing not a job, stress inducer, or an overall headache!

Matt

September 29th, 2011
10:12 am

@swiss
We are talking about warning flags that should not be ignored, if I see a girl again that wants everything and expects to do nothing, I can kick her to the curb a lot easier than I could when I was younger, I am too old to deal with expensive, selfish, cheating, self absorbed women, find me a girl that has the common sense to know what the difference is between right and wrong, doesn’t spend more money than she makes, expects more than she is willing to give, and not only that get vengeful when she doesn’t. Not going to deal with it ever again, I only dealt with it as long as I did bc I didn’t believe in divorce and hoped that she would change. I was wrong

M. (pronouced M dot)

September 29th, 2011
10:13 am