Do you know who NOT to date?
When we reach that age/stage in life that we should stop dating wholly inappropriate people, we (thankfully!) begin to figure out who is not good for you. It would be amazing and utterly convenient to have a running list of the “types” that everyone should generally avoid, right?
A reader sent me an article by a guy who listed the “types of women to avoid” and I found it equally tragic and hilarious.
Just for fun, let’s say we compose a list. What types would you put on it and why?
I would start mine with don’t date a record producer, aspiring rapper, or bartender. I have been down that road, trust me!
Let’s see what you come up with. Who knows? Maybe we can figure out if we are the type that others avoid. The more you know, people. The more you know.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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437 comments Add your comment
kimmie
September 29th, 2011
1:20 pm
Now maybe it’s me but most leopards are in shape and do not have the form of an elephant.
Purple, you have lost your mind!LOL!!
Leggs
September 29th, 2011
1:22 pm
Awwww, welcome Camille. Hope your self-discovery yield more positive than negative. Stay strong. Lead with an upper, stiff lip….
Into the Light
September 29th, 2011
1:23 pm
Aw man… party poopers:
http://www.ajc.com/sports/police-stripper-bus-for-1190700.html
Swiss Why am I hearing The Bloodhound Gang?? “Oh the lapdance is always better….
SlimNu
September 29th, 2011
1:23 pm
Good one purp
I am on two diets at the same time because I was still hungry after just doing one…
I blame movies for my high expectations in relationships…
I went to the pizza place and ordered a pizza. The pizza guy asked me if I wanted it cut into six pieces or twelve. “Oh, six.” I said, “I could never eat twelve pieces.” lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 29th, 2011
1:24 pm
Common sense should prevail, instead it sometimes gets in the way of the most analytical. When emotions and personal needs combine logic is voided and passion takes over the person thinking capacity which is clowded by the way the heart feels.
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
1:25 pm
Purp — Here’s to puddy conservation! Go green! Well, metaphorically speaking. Wouldn’t want it to literally go green — that’s just nasty.
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
1:26 pm
“Why am I hearing The Bloodhound Gang??”
I dunno, ITL… because that’s the song the DJ plays when you’re on the pole?
j/k
Albert
September 29th, 2011
1:26 pm
There is ‘hungry for love’ and there is wanting to be in a romantic relationship. There are people who have had few if any serious romantic relationships and who simply would like to find a special someone who reciprocates their feelings. If they seem more eager because of this, well, I think that’s normal. People who stereotype other people as ‘hungry for love’ and avoid them because of it perhaps need to develop a little empathy. How would they act if they were in the other person’s situation?
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
September 29th, 2011
1:26 pm
@ Matt. I understand your sentiment to a degree, a lot of women do see to be attracted to the thuga types. But aare these the ladies you are chasing, because not all are like that. Don’t get me wrong, matt, I’ve been dumped and kicked to the curve as much or more than the next guy. But every time I do, I remember a story I was told when I was a stockbroker. Here it is:
There was a very famous and successful investor. One day a kid asked him what was the secret of his success. He responded, “I jump at opportunity”. The kid then proceed to ask “how do you know what is an opportunity?”. The investor responded, “you don’t, you just have to keep on jumping”.
My point is that you have to keep climbing on the horse that threw you, no matter how discouraging. Then one day, as you keep on “jumping”, you will land that “opportunity”. I never consider a broken relationship a failure. I consider the good qualities that the person brought for awhile, and most important of all, what I learned about relationships and myself.
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
1:27 pm
Sorry, ITL — I saw an opening and I couldn’t resist.
SlimNu
September 29th, 2011
1:29 pm
The grown-up version of playing tetris is trying to load the dishwasher…
Sure, i’ve got buns of steel. They’re in the breadbox.
“Would you like a table?”…”No, not at all. I came to the restaurant to eat on the ground. Carpet for 2 please.”
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
September 29th, 2011
1:29 pm
(dayum I need to edit before hitting send, sorry)
Matt
September 29th, 2011
1:29 pm
Kimmie
Assume I say you are absolutely right on every single account, tell me 1 example where I can find these hardworking people that are single and being productive members of society. Let me know 1 single place I can go where I can find single women that are smart and productive. Bars are out, if you say college people, they are out. Tell me one single location, where these people exist.
Into the Light
September 29th, 2011
1:29 pm
LOL@Swiss. Kinda left that one open, didn’t I??
Was wondering if you were familiar with the song, since I know you have a fondness for satirical music.
Into the Light
September 29th, 2011
1:32 pm
I never consider a broken relationship a failure. I consider the good qualities that the person brought for awhile, and most important of all, what I learned about relationships and myself.
Worth repeating….
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
1:33 pm
ITL — I was not. But I am now & it’s pretty hilarious…
Purp
September 29th, 2011
1:33 pm
Camille, do not I repeat do not follow those lists. Or take any dating advice from anyone on this blog except for Exiled!
Leggs, what is youe definition of recycled goods? I put stuff in the recycling bin, it goes to the recyling plant it is then made into something else for someone elses use. So those chicks are being recycled….me Im a original one of a kind. LOL
Into the Light
September 29th, 2011
1:34 pm
Kinda thought you might dig it….
Into the Light
September 29th, 2011
1:35 pm
Camille: I’m still kind of a newbie, but I’ll share blog rule #2 with you:
Disregard anything Purp says about listening to Exiled.
Purp
September 29th, 2011
1:35 pm
Randy, that was some BS that you typed. Just thought I’d let you know. lol
Celisea
September 29th, 2011
1:36 pm
I didn’t see double standard listed
Exiled!
September 29th, 2011
1:43 pm
@Camille?
so u see all the neon signs with my name that means I’m the Big Dawg!
And No,please,No stiff upper lip as Leggs suggested.
That wld make u a bitter beyeotch and Undateable!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 29th, 2011
1:44 pm
Matt:
One thing you can count somebody is always going to fill in the gap. It will make wonder how long will this uneasiness/lonlyness go on, someone will take that spot and either thrive with you or move along without you. Don’t let insecurity have you thinking there’s no one out here for you. I’m not saying you are insecure.
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
1:45 pm
What’s blog rule #1?
Purp
September 29th, 2011
1:47 pm
I haven’t read it all but Matt know yourself first and foremost, learn from it be at peace with it. Know that you are a man it all starts and ends with you. Then go out there and claim what is yours! You are a man, don’t take relationship advice from a woman, find your own way and be comfortable with your route.
Exiled!
September 29th, 2011
1:48 pm
Blog rule #1:
Get laid People!
kimmie
September 29th, 2011
1:48 pm
Randyt – A great and positive post.
Matt – You want a place to go, well this is where some self-examination comes in. If you met a kind and together woman today, what is it that YOU are bringing? I’m not talking financial or material either. What are your interests? What do you do with your time after work? Do you like to read, travel, cook, exercise? Are you involved in any community activities or political or charity organizations? Coach little league or scout leader? Don’t go out and do anything just to meet women. Really step out and get involved and make a difference. Enrich yourself. Get in shape.
It’s easy for me to say this because I’ve been blessed to have positive influences around me my entire life. It made it easy to weed out the negetive because their whole energy was different from what I was used to. I have some great friends from over the years and have made a few great female friends right on this blog. I’ve only been married since June, but I’ve always hung around “family” types. I stopped going to clubs & bars a few years out of college. I love music and movies and cooking so I connect with people thru those activities. I am into martial arts and see many men involved in that and see some great men coaching at the soccer fields and involved in my kids school and church. With all of these activities, thugs need not apply. I’m not saying all these folk I run into are perfect – they have their issues just like everyone else. But nobody is walking around feeling sorry for themselves. So Matt, get busy!
Exiled!
September 29th, 2011
1:51 pm
@Leggs?
Please hand over to Matt his blog vest coz he’s gonna need it right about now.
Please coz we gon bring it!
Purp
September 29th, 2011
1:53 pm
DO NOT BE MOIST!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 29th, 2011
1:53 pm
@Kimmie……..That is cool all of us single men/women need to be coached up in that way.
For Real
September 29th, 2011
1:53 pm
Never date a women with back cleavage
Never date a women that wears a size 6 shoe on size 11 foot
Never date a women that drags her feet
Never date a women that says illregardless
Never date a women that has baby weight
Slim: My flaws are I just don’t care about alot of things and I like being single.
Purp/Swiss/Willie D: Prep the MASH unit Kimmie got one on the ropes. Oh and warm up the BAB press in case we can’t save him.
Calling BS on Randyt
Matt
September 29th, 2011
1:54 pm
Blackfoote
I think you have hit the nail on the head with me, I will be the first to say that I am totally screwed in the head, from what I went through, I am in the process of building my confidence all over again, my point is not that I can’t find a date, my point is simply why do women seem to go after the same guys that treat them like garbage. I am not dating right now, nor do I think I should. I am still livin it up and enjoying myself. I am not saying that all women go after these guys, a big portion of them don’t. As for finding other guys in successful relationship to hang out with, there is a problem with that, when I was married, I don’t know how many of you on this blog are, but once you are married, then the people you know are also married, hangin out is more often then not going to parties with other married folk.
SlimNu
September 29th, 2011
1:54 pm
So we’re handing out sex prescriptions as Be-all, end-all solutions to life’s dating problems? allllrighty then
Don’t have the money for your rent? Get laid today!
Can’t afford a new set of tires? Get laid today!
Your weenie feels like the skin was ripped off and then soaked in alcohol when you pee? Don’t worry, get laid today!
Can’t hear out of your left ear? Get laid today!
Whatever you do, whatever you Can’t do..just be sure to GET LAID TODAY!!!!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 29th, 2011
1:55 pm
LOL……@Purple
We gone head him off at the pass, Matt sounds worth the trouble.
For Real
September 29th, 2011
1:55 pm
Blog rule #1 – You can’t control puddie!!!
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
1:55 pm
“DO NOT BE MOIST!”
Obviously, ladies, you are exempt from that rule.
kimmie
September 29th, 2011
1:56 pm
Slim – LOL!!!
Purp
September 29th, 2011
1:56 pm
Matt, listen to you expressing all of those feelings. You only have about two more post before you have to put on a B.A.B. shirt.
For Real, I am trying to be nice to the moist dude. Don’t know how much longer it will last though.
Celisea
September 29th, 2011
1:57 pm
Don’t have the money for your rent? Get laid today!
Can’t afford a new set of tires? Get laid today!
Your weenie feels like the skin was ripped off and then soaked in alcohol when you pee? Don’t worry, get laid today!
Can’t hear out of your left ear? Get laid today!
Whatever you do, whatever you Can’t do..just be sure to GET LAID TODAY!!!!!!
The post of the day!!
Dedicated to MMEELLOO aka Exiled
Exiled!
September 29th, 2011
1:58 pm
@Swiss?
Holy crap,ladies are exempt!??
Why?
u never heard of moist madams?
Celisea
September 29th, 2011
1:58 pm
And btw Slim, thanks for the laugh…not good in a quiet office. Yeah I LAUGHED OUT LOUD for real…ahhh good one
Purp
September 29th, 2011
2:00 pm
Blackfoote I am not a hero. I don’t save men or women. LOL Let that man drown if he wants to live he will learn how to swim, if not he deserves to be where he is.
For Real
September 29th, 2011
2:00 pm
Purp: Yeah all this “please tell me what to do so I get a chick that’s out of my league BS” is going to get somebody’s car cover with B.A.B bumper stickers.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
September 29th, 2011
2:00 pm
@ Matt, for Kimmie…
1) church singles groups
2) hiking clubs etc. they do a lot of social events and have people of all types
3) Match or eHarmony (consider the cost as an INVESTMENT in your future, one long night at a bar or club costs more than a month on line, and you can screen them before jumping in).
There are countless social groups. There is one on line group (but the name slips my mind), that has postings for all kinds of random single events all over the place. I don’t do the bars either (okay an occasional foray into “Cougartown” at Johnny’s maybe). There are 365,000 singles in the ATL metro area OVER the age of 30. God knows has many under. They are there, Matt. If one is straight
Just those alone can keep you busy forever. They
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
2:02 pm
Me.lo — I don’t know about you, but I prefer my women moist.
i'm swiss™
September 29th, 2011
2:02 pm
Gushing, actually.
Matt
September 29th, 2011
2:03 pm
Point taken guys, I’ll buzz off
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 29th, 2011
2:03 pm
LOL….@Purple & For Real
kimmie
September 29th, 2011
2:03 pm
Matt – I understand the marrieds hang out with the marrieds thing. Those marrieds might know some nice women though, that they could introduce you to when you are ready.
I would say just don’t spend too much of your time with guys that are down on women. Even if they are single, but dating a nice lady, that is cool. The negative ones have the “misery loves company” thing going on. Or those that are cool and open with messing around on their woman and treating them like dirt. Even though their actions have nothing to do with you, they can mess with your head and drag you down. Don’t entertain mess.
SlimNu
September 29th, 2011
2:04 pm
Purp: Minor correction: “Matt, listen to you expressing all of those feelings. You only have about two more post before you have to put on a SMEDIUM B.A.B. shirt