Dating: What’s your story?
Do you ever get tired of mixing and mingling? You still want to be someone really great but the thought of answering the same questions over and over again makes you twitchy. I just want to walk up to Mr. Wonderful and hand him my “book” so he can get a condensed version of who I am, what my flaws are, and what I bring to the table.
I know, this is the ultra lazy approach to dating. It’s supposed to be fun and exciting. You are supposed to be filled with anticipation and blah blah blah. Some days you just don’t feel it. That is a classic sign that you are stuck in a dating rut!
If you feel bored with dating, chances are you are boring your dates to tears too. It’s not always their issue, though. Sometimes, it’s you. If you don’t consider yourself a fun and interesting person to get to know, your date will agree wholeheartedly.
If you feel yourself slipping into the Most Uninteresting Man/Woman in the World, take a break from dating and focus on other things. Trust me, it’s good to get a refresher course on how awesome you are. Then you can attract people who find you and your story interesting.
Have you ever been with someone who had a fascinating story? Did they intrigue you with their life adventures or fascinating personality? Has anyone ever told you that you had a really interesting life?
When you meet someone you click with, what do you usually tell them about who you are?
P.S. Any tips on how to get out of a dating rut?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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kimmie
September 27th, 2011
2:52 pm
Leggs – Glad things are looking up! That’s what I’m talking about.
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
3:03 pm
@kimmie ~ thanks. It’s quite refreshing, long overdue, and I’m paying close attention.
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
3:07 pm
http://player.vimeo.com/video/28363167?title=0&%3Bbyline=0&%3Bportrait=0&%3Bautoplay=1
If you feel like laughing…..
Dreams Materialize
September 27th, 2011
3:10 pm
I have always enjoyed dating. I like meeting new people and experiencing new things. I think there’s something interesting about everyone, just a matter of getting them to reveal it. Alot of dating is about what YOU are projecting. The people you attract will often be mirroring your projections. Get out there, live a good life, treat others well, have a positive disposition, do things that are interesting (to you), and similar people will enter your life.
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
3:12 pm
Recently had some random dude that I was passing by in the airport tell me to smile. He said that I didn’t look happy.
What I wanted to say, “Mphka, I’m grown. I don’t need anybody tell me whendaphk to smile.”
What I actually said, “Oh, I can assure you that I am very happy. My life is great. I don’t have a single complaint. However, I would look like a complete idiot if I walked around grinning all the time. You have a great day, sir.” And kept it moving.
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
3:37 pm
I was just conducting an interview.
The applicant’s phone rang. He answered it and said, “I’m going to need to call you back.”
I ask, “Did you just answer your phone during my interview?”
His response, “No. I…..”
Needless to say, that was the conclusion of his interview.
cba
September 27th, 2011
3:42 pm
And we wonder why robots will be taking over in the near future.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
September 27th, 2011
3:43 pm
SCool..
It wasn’t me, but I have said that to ladies before, regarding smiling…never told anybody they don’t look happy though. I think women don’t necessarily know how much a woman’s smile can do for a dude on a given day. Women are naturally beautiful, when you are bright, and feeling good, it makes everyone feel that much better. He prolly had seen you from a distance and was hoping that when you made eye contact, that uwould smile and open the door for a compliment, but it went how it did.
Ladies, show them teeth!!…lol
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
3:46 pm
Yeah…Jake, it was the extra commentary that nearly got him an invitation to Lucifer’s crib.
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
3:49 pm
@Jake ~ some women don’t smile to hide their missing teeth.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
September 27th, 2011
3:52 pm
Leggs…sometimes 2 less teeth may be a good thing, hell, go ahead and pulll them dentures out and get loose…lol (ewww, that’s nasty)
Fion
September 27th, 2011
3:54 pm
“P.S. Any tips on how to get out of a dating rut?”
In the words of the Isley Bros.
“If you can’t be with the one you Love, honey Love the one you’re with.”
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
3:54 pm
Why folks gotta walk around grinning for the sake of? A pleasant look IMO will accomplish the same. A ngga tombout “smile” is looking for an opening….or at least secretly hoping
Fion
September 27th, 2011
3:56 pm
Ya know, that’s yo problem. Everybody that says “hey’ don’t want you!
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
3:58 pm
LOL…Hey there Fion….that’s my problem. Well here’s what I was REALLY thinking when I read her post
What I wanted to say, “Mphka, I’m grown. I don’t need anybody tell me whendaphk to smile.”
and
LOL…on a bright day this might be my response for some lamo. Sometimes nggas overstep their boundaries and incorrectly assume when really the sun is shining and it ain’t even that kind of day until he crosses over into my lane of course.
Okay, I’ve grown up a bit I won’t say it but I cast a look that will get it said for me
That’s funny though cause if folks only knew what we’re thinking HALF the time… I’m sure it’s the same for men but really us women can go deep in thought.
Now….THAT should help support your assumption
Okay I’m just making convo….I’m serious but just making convo
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
3:58 pm
“looking for an opening….or at least secretly hoping”
And almost certainly sure to get shut down…cause that is lame.
In the same breath and with the same volume that you say “Smile” to a passing stranger, you can say, “Hello/Good morning/Good afternoon/Good evening.” And if I am going to pay you any attention, I will without you issuing an unecessary order.
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
3:58 pm
I don’t trust people who smile all the time…something’s not right. Smiling faces, sometimes tells lies……
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:00 pm
“Smile” to a passing stranger, you can say, “Hello/Good morning/Good afternoon/Good evening.” And if I am going to pay you any attention, I will without you issuing an unecessary order.
applaud applaud applaud….for dang sure…IGG ZACKLY. That’s gospel right there. You’re right. Just dang speak and K.I.M., that way (Fion), I can’t assume they want me…lol That way, there just they’re just being courteous.
Fion
September 27th, 2011
4:01 pm
Well, damn, If I want to step to you, what should I say then, “hand over purse, you’re being robbed???
Exiled!
September 27th, 2011
4:01 pm
Enter your comments here
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:03 pm
LOLOL…mayne you are funneee. If you wanted to step to me, do it. Don’t look for an opening, TAKE ONE!!
Stop being so sensitive…
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
4:03 pm
Fion – let me quote myself….
…you can say, “Hello/Good morning/Good afternoon/Good evening.”
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:04 pm
LOL…there you have it. Trying too hard ain’t a good show.
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:06 pm
Heeey Meh lady
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:06 pm
“Yeen gotta look so mean”
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:06 pm
“Dang gul”
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:07 pm
Not “miss” lady but meh lady…LOL I’m cracking myself up…whew
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:08 pm
Oh and “yeen all dat” all because you shut down any hopes of an opening..LOL
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:08 pm
“whassup meh lady”
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
4:09 pm
What kind of grown man says of being a groomsman, “Don’t put me with her if she ain’t cute.” when talking about who he gets paired with as a bridesmaid?
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
4:10 pm
Cel – “Hey shawty.”
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
4:10 pm
@Celisea ~ I have a teller at the credit union I go to that always says “meh lady.” It irritates the heck out of me, but I smile because I know that’s her way. Who am I to stomp on her phrase. I have my own quirkly ones (lol).
Fion
September 27th, 2011
4:10 pm
On the real, a lot of ya’ll (Women) walk around looking like that got a corn cob rammed all the way up the butt. Just look made at the world.
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:10 pm
Now…..
How are you?
Is that sandwich any good?
Good morning
Good afternoon
Nice talking to you
See, all said with eqtiquette and teeth in tack…LOL
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
4:11 pm
@SexyC ~ a grown man who’s looking to score in the closet before the ceremony starts…
Exiled!
September 27th, 2011
4:11 pm
I hope the ones who don’t smile are not seriously looking,otherwise that wld be a conundrum:
Dressed nice but face looks
or :I
Nobody steps to U!
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:11 pm
SexyC – “Don’t put me with her if she ain’t cute.” when talking about who he gets paired with as a bridesmaid?
LOLOL….I’m still laughing…aaaah
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
September 27th, 2011
4:11 pm
Fion…I wonder if they would treat good ole Denzel like that if he said, “smile”…they love them TV/Movie dudes, but a regular Joe can go to hellz I guess. Now don’t get twisted, I feel u on the Hello/Good Morning, but that would have got him no better treatment cause yo azz would have said Hello as you were walkin past and may not have even looked….Now say I’m lying?
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:13 pm
Jake – but a regular Joe can go to hellz I guess. feel u on the Hello/Good Morning, but that would have got him no better treatment cause yo azz would have said Hello as you were walkin past and may not have even looked….Now say I’m lying?
LOL, boy stop
Fion
September 27th, 2011
4:13 pm
@Leggs
“a grown man who’s looking to score in the closet before the ceremony starts”
Leggs, a single man at any wedding doesn’t have to do much. The runway is already full of foam.
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:15 pm
Fion – Just look made at the world.
We’re in deep thought that’s all. We only get mad if you interrupt…lol
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
4:15 pm
Fion – I am rarely mad at the world. The day that he stopped me, I was preocupied. I was on the way in to work, thinking about the gah-derned interviews that I did not want to be doing this week. I didn’t look mad. Hell, I was focused. And if he don’t know my “focused” look, is that my fault?
(looking focused now…)
Jake – and if I had responded without stopping, he should have gotten the hint that I was not interested. Most women don’t walk around wishing and hoping and praying and wanting to be stopped by random dudes.
GiGi
September 27th, 2011
4:16 pm
“Alot of dating is about what YOU are projecting.”- I disagree with this to a certain extent. Because people will lie straight to your face. And you have to sift through the layers of lies, that they themselves are trying to project to get others to believe them.
Leggs
September 27th, 2011
4:16 pm
What I don’t get is when I hear a guy say women look so mean when he sees them on the highway. How many single person car riders will be grinning from ear to ear driving along the highway???? Concentration usually doesn’t accompany a big grin.
Fion
September 27th, 2011
4:16 pm
ok, ok. In meant mad, But you got it.
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:17 pm
Fion – a single man at any wedding doesn’t have to do much
Hoping to get laid within the bridal party should not be a person’s only reason for being a part of….
Cupid Shuffle, Electric Slide and getting laid….all of part of a black wedding party
Into the Light
September 27th, 2011
4:20 pm
Cupid Shuffle, Electric Slide and getting laid….all of part of a black wedding party
….add The Chicken Dance and you’ve got a white wedding.
Afternoon, all.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
September 27th, 2011
4:20 pm
Celisea….its true, alot of women don’t like the simple hello’s…they are so jaded with the Love Experience that it doesn’t matter what u say to them bitties..
Fion-Those weddings are a fool, put your suit on, shine your shoes, and cast your net, the fish bite extra hard at weddings…The fantasy is already in the background
Celisea
September 27th, 2011
4:20 pm
Leggs – You’re right. IMO it’s almost like an entitlement. A dude see a woman approaching and right off the rip is looking square in her face “TO SEE” if she’s going to smile at him or not. Why? Why can’t he chaulk it up to, hey we’re passing, she’s in deep thought, got something on her mind…whatever. Why does it have to be “yeen gotta look so mean?” Just like women shouldn’t assume every man being polite wants them, men should be dang “expecting” to get some sort of something when in passing.
SexyCool
September 27th, 2011
4:20 pm
Why are they looking all up in my vehicle while I’m driving anyway?