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Is that really a dealbreaker?

Sometimes it can be tough being friends with a guy. When they come to me and whine about their dating woes, I try to be understanding and supportive. When they are the one breaking hearts, I have to call them out.
That’s what friends are for, right?

My buddy Lance decided to end things with someone who seemed really promising. She was nice enough but apparently her bedroom skills were lacking. Instead of talking to her about it, he decided to break things off.

Obviously, he wasn’t into her as much as I thought. If you decided that bad sex is enough to send you packing, you probably weren’t that invested in the relationship.

Personally, I think bad sex is something that can be improved, but do you agree? Would do consider it a deal breaker?

I do love my friend Lance but I think perhaps this is maturity thing. Do you think we reach a certain age when we should wise up a little? What age do we drop our so called dating deal breakers?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

376 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
4:17 pm

Dreams – Well I’ll put it to you like this. The beau is one of those guys who is hard to please and very rarely would a spot get his thumbs up and he is thinking about going back after just eating there 3 days ago. So imma say I don’t think it would disappoint you. I had never heard of it before…

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
4:17 pm

kimmie – I do pretty much the same with my stir fry…I put every veggie that I have in the refrigerator in it.

And it is usually something that I make in bulk, using brown rice, and freeze in serving sizes. I usually just pop in in the microwave to defrost it and then add it to the pan that I’ve been stir frying the meat in to give it a good blend and it’s table ready.

In fact, I just did some last night, as a side dish to my baked chicken and steamed broccoli.

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
4:22 pm

I was so picky I only had lettuce and cucumber in my salad. Now, I will have egg, sunflower seeds, romaine lettuce, spinach, sliced turkey, cranberries, and one slice of tomato.

@kimmie ~ I think you’ll be able to convert them. Mine doesn’t eat mayo, never have. Honey mustard on everything.

Dreams Materialize

September 26th, 2011
4:23 pm

No mayo?!? Blaspemy!!!

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
4:25 pm

TheDude doesn’t eat mayo either. I find that puzzling.

I’m always like, “Dude, mayo is sandwich glue!” (lol)

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
4:26 pm

@DreamsM ~ that’s how I feel about people who don’t eat pizza (lol).

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
4:27 pm

I like lettuce, tomatoes, cucumber, red onions, bell pepper, mushrooms, olives, very light cheese, ham, croutons and oil and vinegar (which more times than not, i’ll just scratch the oil)

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
4:31 pm

I do not understand those miniature bricks people call croutons…UUGGH.

i'm swiss™

September 26th, 2011
4:32 pm

Since we’re talking food, I grilled up a big batch of my patented White Boy, Slap-Yo-Mama, Lemon-Lime Jerk Chicken last night. Mmmmmmmm mmmm. Still got plenty of leftovers, if y’all want some. ;-)

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
4:42 pm

I ate some Doritos today in honor of the guy that invented them.

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
4:46 pm

Did he die? Is today is bday? You guys are straight crazy.

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
4:49 pm

swiss – I’ve never had jerk chicken and that’s one of his favorites…mind sharing your recipe?

Celisea

September 26th, 2011
4:50 pm

A good salad:

Romaine lettuce (w/a hint of spinach), a couple of kosher spears, a small sprinkle of cheese (very little), raisins, sunflower seeds, grilled chicken, tortia chips broken over salad… (a hint of) Blue Cheese and Zezty Italian mixed

Just wanted to say that :)

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
4:51 pm

Apparently, he kicked over last week. He was 97.

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
4:54 pm

@SexyC ~ WOW. Glad you honored him. Someone else had Doritos and a diet mtn dew for lunch. Celisea or SlimNu, I think.

Barack Obama

September 26th, 2011
4:59 pm

What is up with the womens yapping about salads? I thought the topic was lady funk- you know- that fishy stank. Ain’t y’all got jobs?

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
5:08 pm

@BO ~ you’re wrong, the topic was bad sex being a deal breaker!

Celisea

September 26th, 2011
5:08 pm

Batroll Obama – You’re coming in late. I think funk was abandoned some time ago

i'm swiss™

September 26th, 2011
5:14 pm

Slim — Start with a good Jerk seasoning paste — you want to use the paste and not any of the marinades that are out there. Walkerswood is what I use — you can find it in most Publix, Kroger, etc.

Now, how much of the paste you use depends on how hot you want it to be. I like it pretty spicy — but if you are hard-core like Mrs. Swiss you might want to double the amount of the paste you use.

Here’s what you’ll need:

jerk paste

12 chicken thighs (I likes the dark meat) ;-) — I generally remove the skin (or just buy skinless), but whatever you prefer

5 or 6 juicy limes (more if they’re not that juicy)

5 or 6 juicy lemons (more if they’re not that juicy)

fresh parsley

fresh cilantro

fresh basil

fresh thyme

olive oil

4 or 5 bulbs of shallots

1 bunch of green onions (scallions, whatever you want to call them)

Squeeze the lemons & limes into a decent sized bowl (keep some of the squeezed limes around to scrub the chicken as you’re cleaning it). Mix in about half the jar of jerk paste and a spoonful or so of olive oil. Put the cleaned & lime-scrubbed chicken in the aluminum pan & pour the lemon/lime/jerk sauce over it evenly, cover w/ foil & let marinate in the fridge overnight.

Before you put it on the grill, throw on the parsley, basil, cilantro & thyme — you can chop those if you like, but I usually just tie them up in bunches & put them in there. How much you put is up to you — I just eye-ball it generally.

Get you grill up to about 400 degrees & cook the chicken covered in the roasting pan for about an hour. After an hour, take the chicken out of the roasting pan & put it directly on the grill to brown it. Once the chicken is out, put your chopped shallots & green onions in the roasting pan & cover. By the time the chicken is nice & browned, the shallots & green onions should be cooked in the sauce.

Pour yourself a big rum & coke & enjoy. ;-)

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
5:14 pm

@Celisea ~ laughing at Batroll….I opted for BO (BodyOdor)…Trolls stink from being under the bridge in all that murky water for so long (lol).

Celisea

September 26th, 2011
5:20 pm

Leggs – Batroll was on here earlier but he was outside of the alloted troll time.

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
5:32 pm

Purp

September 26th, 2011
5:49 pm

Swiss said Jerk Paste…..good night everyone!

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
5:52 pm

Good night everyone!

Barack Obama

September 26th, 2011
6:09 pm

Time to go back to destroying the nation and taking care of “my peeps”. No need to worry about the productive folks out there that have made America what is is, or at least used to be. As long as I can pander to the blacks, Unions, and moochers and get them more benefits, I’ll get re-elected. ‘Night, y’alls.

Busted

September 26th, 2011
6:10 pm

Goodnight UGA 1999