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Is that really a dealbreaker?

Sometimes it can be tough being friends with a guy. When they come to me and whine about their dating woes, I try to be understanding and supportive. When they are the one breaking hearts, I have to call them out.
That’s what friends are for, right?

My buddy Lance decided to end things with someone who seemed really promising. She was nice enough but apparently her bedroom skills were lacking. Instead of talking to her about it, he decided to break things off.

Obviously, he wasn’t into her as much as I thought. If you decided that bad sex is enough to send you packing, you probably weren’t that invested in the relationship.

Personally, I think bad sex is something that can be improved, but do you agree? Would do consider it a deal breaker?

I do love my friend Lance but I think perhaps this is maturity thing. Do you think we reach a certain age when we should wise up a little? What age do we drop our so called dating deal breakers?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

376 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

September 26th, 2011
3:05 pm

Me neither Purp but I have it from an African buddy of mine that some here(usa) do it and that he partook of it.

when I visualize it,it looks scary doing that in somebody’s home but u never know

a man doing/accepting that is emotionally unbalanced(wife too) somehow so what if they flip and co ck a gun?

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:08 pm

Leggs – Now I missed the part about the parents going at it in the laundry room! But I heard the follow-up today. SUPPOSEDLY she went over to the breakfast/mediation his mom set up. He apparently did not know she was coming. But they went down to the basement to talk and she convinced him that she really did want to marry him, so he dropped down on one knee again and proposed and she said yes. Remember they both were supposed to be living with their parents. Well apparently he has a “crash pad” with 2 other roommates over by the college he goes to. He went there to get the ring & then they came back. She said they spent all weekend making wedding plans, though no date is set.

She did not sound that convincing that all this took place. As she was telling the story, I was thinking too that it was all a lie. Bert & Jeff & gang picked up on it too. They wished her good luck, but said they didn’t believe her and callers were saying the same.

Exiled!

September 26th, 2011
3:10 pm

and the Swiss wife got a Mandingo hiding

hubby,with pot belly,was smiling as his wife squirmed!

:lol:

As the story was told,Allegedly! :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 26th, 2011
3:12 pm

Me.lo — Let’s just clarify that you are using “swiss” as an adjective there, not the proper noun (i.e. me). This “swiss” ain’t having no part of that. :lol:

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:13 pm

Not trying to go there but the guys I know who have done that are white and it’s usually a black guy he has doing his white wife with him watching or participating. And they have kids.

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:13 pm

Swiss – Jimmy & his mama have a creepy mother/son “relationship”. His wife is pretty. Nucky knows he can flip the script – speaking to a black congregation one minute and a klan rally the next!

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:14 pm

I think if a man wants to watch a man having sex with his wife he may have some moist tendancies and is thinking about mounting the guy that is mounted on his wife.

Exiled!

September 26th, 2011
3:15 pm

Swiss..yes adjective

Purp,there u have it

I can’t do it.

i'm swiss™

September 26th, 2011
3:16 pm

“Jimmy & his mama have a creepy mother/son “relationship””

kimmie — Yeah, no doubt. Did you catch the mom’s comment last night about what she used to do when she would change his diapers? :shock:

Matt

September 26th, 2011
3:18 pm

Finding a woman that knows how to make a sandwich is important, I wish I had one of them

Exiled!

September 26th, 2011
3:19 pm

@Swiss,if u decide to do it don’t call on a mandingo coz they will puncuture ur wife’s lung! :lol:

u don’t want ur med insurance jacked up. :lol:

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:21 pm

I don’t like the share…my dude that is.

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:21 pm

lol@ sandwiches.

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:23 pm

Actually the guy who agrees to do another man’s wife is kind of moist too. I mean he has to be to sit there and let another man watch?

Sexy Cool, LOL

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:23 pm

I meant, I don’t like TO share… (is it 5 yet?)

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:25 pm

Slim you don’t like to share your dude..that’s fine im not into dudes.. What about yourself, do you like to share yourself?

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:25 pm

Swiss – Yes, in fact right before she said it, I told my husband something was not right there, especially when they kissed on the lips when he came home, like they were husband and wife! He kissed her before he kissed his wife! And she’s all up in their business and giving her two cents on how they raise the kids. Oh she would have to go!

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
3:26 pm

@kimmie ~ yep, in the laundry room. WOW. So it sounds like she’s trying to save “face.” It sounds fishy for him to not talk with her at all to be at the mediation he didn’t know was taking place and then drop to his knee and propose again. Stranger things have happened. Perhaps her beauty blinded him and he realized upon seeing her again that he doesn’t want to live without her. I wish her the best too….she may have lost a good man.

@Matt ~ or, you can make your own sandwich…what a novel idea (lol).

Matt

September 26th, 2011
3:27 pm

Yeah but if I could find someone to do that for me, that would be awesome, I love me some sandwiches lol

i'm swiss™

September 26th, 2011
3:30 pm

kimmie — I have to say, though, I don’t know how much longer I can hang with that show. There seems to be an awful lot of build-up with comparatively little payoff. The way last night’s episode started, I thought maybe this season we’d start to see more action after all the scene-setting from the first season, but then the rest of the episode got a little dull again.

Exiled!

September 26th, 2011
3:31 pm

Some of the female conversations on Facebook are just too thirsty!

I am de-friending this one particular chic.

Thought she was proffnal and classy but

can’t have it

It’s like inviting an acquaintance to a family party and then they act like a jackass

Can’t have my fam,especially the males, asking me questions: who is this bi…aatch?

Bye!

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:31 pm

Leggs – I don’t think either one is ready really, and at 24 they are young and it would be okay to chill awhile. I thought he was really immature to walk out and not communicate with her all that time and basically pout all week! She said if he had stayed at the table and just waiting a few minutes for her to get herself together, she would have said yes. She said they had never talked about marriage, were just finishing up school and none of their friends were getting married – she said she had never thought about it, but she says he’s the one for her. I think she was scared to lose him, but really is not ready and her hesitation showed it.

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:33 pm

swiss – Yeah, they need to step it up a bit. I tell you one thing, I always get scared when Al Capone is on there! It doesn’t matter where he is, you never know when he is going to snap on someone!

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:34 pm

Exiled did you jut have a rant about your FB friends? lol

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:34 pm

Leggs – We ended up putting those thick steaks the beau had picked out last week on the grill Saturday and they turned out MMmmmm mmmmm good. Nice, tender and well seasoned ;-)

Purp – I would’ve expected that question from swiss lol Um, I only share myself with myself from time to time

Matt

September 26th, 2011
3:37 pm

Ohh and if I can find a girl that makes good steaks and sandwiches and steak sandwiches that would be the best!!!

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
3:37 pm

WOW, never had a conversation about marriage but decides to propose. That’s risky. Just like Christopher marrying a virgin and now going through sexual angst. Ex, the word hasn’t been used in a while so I thought I throw it out there to make you smile. Why, I don’t know (lol).

Yes, it was immature to ignore her, de-friend her on FB, ignore calls and texts. One thing you have no idea how you will respond is when someone hurts you and humiliates you in public.

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
3:41 pm

@SlimNu ~ glad the steaks came out delicious. I would love a steak on the grill RIGHT NOW. Instead, I’m eating a spiced ham sammich.

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:43 pm

Leggs – Yeah, she said he came out of left field with that. I can understand his hurt, but unless he did it in front of everyone in the place or in front of her family, I don’t get the temper tantrum for a week.

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:44 pm

Oh and we tried this new spot called GUTBUSTERS the other day. They sale philly’s and boy oh boy was it good. We were emailing each other just a while ago both thinking the same thing…if it was too early to turn back around and eat another philly? lol You definitely cannot eat that type of food multiple times a week.

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:44 pm

Slim – We had steaks Friday night. They were bombastic!

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:44 pm

sell…not sale

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:45 pm

kimmie – how did yall cook your steaks, grill, oven, etc?

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:46 pm

There is an art to making a good sandwiche. I am going to make the family a little picnic lunch to have after/before one of these soccer games this season. Getting my ideas together now.

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
3:47 pm

Apparently, my salads are great too.

Last week, one of his buddies picked him up to go to the gym. They came back just as I finished making a salad for dinner. Of course, manners dictate that I offer to make him a plate.

After he got done eating, he asked me if I could show him how to make a salad like that. (lol)

TheDude always says that my salads taste like sandwiches without the bread weighing it down.

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:48 pm

I have not had home cooked food for over a week and wont have any for another week :(

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
3:48 pm

Haven’t heard “bombastic” in a minute.

Downside of staying home is you eat more. Phooey!

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:48 pm

Leggs – I haven’t had a homemade sammich in a while. Been hitting Club Publix up for subs lately.

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:50 pm

SC – What all do you put in your salads?

Purp – Why not home cooked food?

Leggs – I was thinking the same thing when I read “Bombastic”…automatically that Shaggy song popped in my head. Mister Boombastic lol Mister lova lova

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:50 pm

Slim – Grill, charcoal! We marinaded them & topped with a little garlic butter the last two minutes. Had a wedge salad with a little crumbled bacon. The kiddies had soda and the parents had a nice peach wine beverage I picked up at Trader Joes. Delish!

Purp

September 26th, 2011
3:52 pm

Slim because I haven’t been home.

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:53 pm

Yeah SCool, spill it on those salads!

Leggs

September 26th, 2011
3:54 pm

@kimmie ~ at the track meet, I changed from bread sandwiches to pita bread wrapped sandwiches with ranch dressing as my mayo, meat, bean sprouts.

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
3:55 pm

I have yet to go to Trader Joes…I walked right past it to get to Apres Diem Friday night. They have a good greek salad there. Mmmm (if yall haven’t noticed, I’m a bit hungry right now) Guess I burned off too many calories than I ate today from running. Going to go straight to the house and eat some leftover BBQ

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
3:59 pm

Leggs – I don’t like mayo, so I’ve been using ranch for awhile now. Husband & baby girl love mayo, but boy does not like it. I think I can convert them all to ranch though. They put it on the sandwiches at Schlotckys and I’m been a convert since!

SlimNu

September 26th, 2011
4:00 pm

I’m an extra mayo kinda chick…but I will put ranch on my chicken sammiches though

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
4:07 pm

Romaine Lettuce and Spinach
Tomatoes
Cucumber
Mushrooms
Black Olives
Pickles
Banana Peppers
Jalapenos (For him, not me)
Very thinly sliced red onions
Very thinly sliced bell peppers

Meat and dressing to your preference…

To me – the best way to make the salad is to cut everything into bite sized pieces, put it in a ziploc bag, add the salad dressing and shake it up to mix it well and have a good coating of dressing over the whole salad.

This also means that you don’t have to use as much salad dressing.

Dreams Materialize

September 26th, 2011
4:11 pm

Hey Everyone.

I’m sure we’re off topic, so I’ll speak to the proposal. If I proposed to a chick, and she said, “I don’t know”, that would be it. There’s no re-do on that.

Slim So Gutbusters is still the bomb? I used to be a regular there when they opened back in 95, before they moved to the current location. That was the best philly in the A hands down. I haven’t eaten there in years though. I did wander in there a couple weeks ago, feeling nostalgic, but didn’t want to be disappointed if it wasn’t the same, so I walked out. lol

SexyCool

September 26th, 2011
4:11 pm

Oh…forgot the sunflower seeds or almonds…and the cheese…Sometimes I use the shredded sharp cheddar…sometimes I use pepper jacks chucks.

I will also sometimes add corn or beans…

Sometimes diced apples,
Sometimes pasta…

It really just depends on what I’ve got in the refrigerator.

kimmie

September 26th, 2011
4:12 pm

SCool – Sounds like my kinda salad! Okay, you got me wanting salad with my stir fry tonight. I was going to have one anyway, but now I’m psyched!LOL!!