Is that really a dealbreaker?
Sometimes it can be tough being friends with a guy. When they come to me and whine about their dating woes, I try to be understanding and supportive. When they are the one breaking hearts, I have to call them out.
That’s what friends are for, right?
My buddy Lance decided to end things with someone who seemed really promising. She was nice enough but apparently her bedroom skills were lacking. Instead of talking to her about it, he decided to break things off.
Obviously, he wasn’t into her as much as I thought. If you decided that bad sex is enough to send you packing, you probably weren’t that invested in the relationship.
Personally, I think bad sex is something that can be improved, but do you agree? Would do consider it a deal breaker?
I do love my friend Lance but I think perhaps this is maturity thing. Do you think we reach a certain age when we should wise up a little? What age do we drop our so called dating deal breakers?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
September 26th, 2011
1:49 pm
The Amazing Race is a great show. I have thought about being a contestant for quite some time. Lil Leggs is a punk and won’t submit the application with me as daughter/mom team (lol).
Survivor I would never survive!
SexyCool
September 26th, 2011
1:50 pm
Yeah…no…not the kid…
TheDude and I ran three miles yesterday in 35 minutes. I have met my goal of sub 12 on pace and am working to get right at 10. I’m good with hanging in that zone.
After that, I will look at adding miles.
SexyCool
September 26th, 2011
1:53 pm
Two things are keeping me from applying.
1…I don’t swim well.
2…The thought of an eating challenge phx me up. They sometimes have to eat some weird sht.
kimmie
September 26th, 2011
1:56 pm
Leggs – Hubby wants to do it as well. But I am terrified of heights and he can’t swim well.
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
1:57 pm
Yeah, your #2 is a major concern of mine as well. I will upchuck in a heartbeat. Some of those tasks are very, very difficult.
SlimNu
September 26th, 2011
1:57 pm
I am totally feeling your #2 SC…I can barely stomach squash, let alone some lamb eye ball or monkey brains. Ewwwwww yuck!
SexyCool
September 26th, 2011
1:58 pm
Give it to Mikey…He likes it! He likes it!
Reio
September 26th, 2011
1:59 pm
Just got back from lunch. Doritos & diet Mt Dew over ice. Yummy. Was’nt too hungry. Pork chops sounds good though. Matt’s situation with his ex sounds sad for both of them. Hope they can each fare well in the future.
SexyCool
September 26th, 2011
1:59 pm
Oh…and the award for most interesting contest last night came from one of the showgirls…
“I told you I’d do anything for a million dollars.”
Really?!?!?
Purp
September 26th, 2011
2:00 pm
My wife and I have thought about signing up for the Amazing Race, I would do it. I think I don’t have enough tact for Survivor to even make it to the “merge”
Reio
September 26th, 2011
2:01 pm
reality shows ain’t sheet!
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:01 pm
If we could only have a “Mikey” along with us.
Do you remember last season when they had to decipher a code they all had. The legend was on side wall of the bldg they were standing in front of…everyone walked passed it numerous times. I was cracking up, then yelling at them. One by one they finally figured it out, but the last contestant never saw it and opted to do the other challenge…that right there was comical.
Purp
September 26th, 2011
2:01 pm
The Showgirls, are probably going to go far. I have the ex nfl player and the snowboard guys going to the end
kimmie
September 26th, 2011
2:03 pm
SCool – This will only be my 3rd season watching it, so forgive my naivete, but have you figured out the code words when it’s going to be a non-elimination round? It’s getting to be not such a surprise anymore.
kimmie
September 26th, 2011
2:07 pm
I like the everyday luxuries of life, like bathrooms & tissue, showers, clean clothes and regular meals to go on Survivor. I’m not too keen on eating weird stuff either, SCool.
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:07 pm
When they say “this may or not be an elimination round” usually mean no one will be eliminated. I try not to make a prediction on who I think may win until the second showing.
SlimNu
September 26th, 2011
2:08 pm
Purp – I think you and the Mrs. should most definitely try out for Amazing Race. It would be cool as heyal to cheer for you all. We can even have blog Amazing Race watch gatherings at Leggs’ house
(Leggs, no need to thank me) lol
kimmie
September 26th, 2011
2:09 pm
I just love looking at all the beautiful and not so beautiful places around the world they visit on Amazing Race.
kimmie
September 26th, 2011
2:10 pm
Purp – Slim is right, you & Jewels should go for it.
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:15 pm
I don’t have the constitution to do something like Survivor.
Let’s get a blog team for Amazing Race. I’m down.
Purp
September 26th, 2011
2:17 pm
If it’s still around in 2013 I will talk my wife into it. We always watch it and think we could do it, plus when it comes to games or physical stuff we really push each other. LOL You all made me smile. If for some reason we got on there I would need to make some secret sign that you all would recognize. Maybe digging up my nose or just a hang ten sign…which one? LOL
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:18 pm
@SlimNu ~ funny. We can have Amazing Race fellowship every Sunday complete with Margarita’s and Pina Coladas and nachos.
Go for it, Purp.
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:20 pm
Hang ten is not original. Other viewers may think you’re talking to them. Need to do something clever like Carol Burnett pulling on her ear.
When camera is on you shout out “this isht is not for a B.A.B!”
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
2:20 pm
“If for some reason we got on there I would need to make some secret sign that you all would recognize. Maybe digging up my nose or just a hang ten sign…which one?”
Purp — I think you should smack the Mrs. on her booty & shout “MIA, b!tches!!!!”
SlimNu
September 26th, 2011
2:20 pm
Purp – You should take your pointer finger, suck it one time then put it in your ear. That will be your special sign for us lol
Leggs – Sounds good to me…I’ll even bring a veggie plate.
SlimNu
September 26th, 2011
2:22 pm
Purp – To incorporate Leggs’ suggestion, why not just wear a “NO B.A.B Zone” t-shirt lol
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:25 pm
@swiss ~ women don’t like PDofA like that on camera (lol).
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:28 pm
Tee-shirt idea is a good one! Pack plenty of them. The show’s host will be wondering what it means. When you tell him, we will all jump up high fiving each other (lol)…
Veggie plate, nachos and drinks. Need nothing else.
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
2:28 pm
Leggs — That’s not what Paris Hilton or the Kardashian
wh0resgirls say…Purp
September 26th, 2011
2:29 pm
Leggs, my wife doesn’t mind PDA’s! lol
Slim I would wear a “No B.A.B. bandanna”. It told me to go to the CBS site to find the application, so I will do that later. I sent the wife a text asking her and she said “sure we’d kick ass!” I swear that woman would kick some ass if given the chance. LOL I wonder how you have to qualify to get accepted and how many applicants there are.
Then again I would just know that Meeelo is having impure thoughts about my wife once seeing her in a sports top and spandex. Gross! lol
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:30 pm
You are sick man, truly sick!
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:33 pm
@Purp ~ PDA’s (didn’t think the word “of” should have been there) are fine. I would think women would not want their behinds slapped on camera all the time for the viewing audience to see.
You should submit your application now because it may take a season or two before you actually are on. GO PURP, GO PURP!
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
2:33 pm
Purp — Pretty sure Me.lo is having impure thoughts right now from just having read your post mentioning the sports top & spandex.
SlimNu
September 26th, 2011
2:34 pm
Purp – I think you would have a great chance of getting on because you’re a handsome Italian farmer…so that would make for a great back story.
And a No BAB bandana would be great too!!
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:34 pm
My 2:30 was for you, swiss.
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:37 pm
Yeah, I’m feeling the bandana too. You need to keep all that hair out of your eyes.
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
2:39 pm
Leggs — I assumed so.
Purp
September 26th, 2011
2:43 pm
Swiss not to mention the pic of her that I sent him of her in the airport or sun bathing or at the bar. I only have myself to blame. LOL
SlimNu
September 26th, 2011
2:50 pm
My exes cousin was actually on that show Fear Factor but he didn’t make it past the first stage. They had them inside a class tank which was filled up with water. They had to be able to get the right keys to unlock the lock to get out. I think he panicked so the folks had to get him out of the tank.
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
2:50 pm
Purp — And just think, when Me.lo is visualizing his impure thoughts, you are probably in that visual, too.
kimmie
September 26th, 2011
2:54 pm
Does anyone on here watch Boardwalk Empire?
Leggs – Did you listen 2 the Bert Show this morn? Have you been following the story about the woman who said “I don’t know” when her boyfriend proposed? When she said it, he got up from the table and left the restaraunt and was so humiliated he would not call, text, FB for a week?
Purp
September 26th, 2011
2:54 pm
Swiss, thanks for that. LOL sooo do you have any more pics of your wife stretching? LOL
Exiled!
September 26th, 2011
2:58 pm
Swiss that 2:50 is not really far fetched coz some hubbies luv to see their wives being serviced by another man(stranger)
Allegedly!
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
2:59 pm
@kimmie ~ I heard a little. She went to his parents house for them to get him to talk to her again and she found then having sex in the laundry room. I hollered. What else did I miss because that’s all I heard. Has he spoken to her yet? She really hurt his feelings and now she’s regretting her hasty comment.
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
2:59 pm
kimmie — I do.
Purp — You’re welcome.
I’ve actually got some new pics from our recent Cancun excursion of Mrs. Swiss doing a headstand at the beach in her itty-bitty bikini. 
Not to mention some other footage from that trip that is for my eyes only… 
Purp
September 26th, 2011
3:00 pm
I never understood that Exiled. Why would a guy want to watch his wife have sex with someone sexually.
Purp
September 26th, 2011
3:01 pm
Swiss, does she do perfect handstands or does she spread her legs to keep her balance? LMBO
SexyCool
September 26th, 2011
3:01 pm
This morning, TheDude told me the only reason he is marrying me is because I make good sandwiches. LMAO!
i'm swiss™
September 26th, 2011
3:03 pm
Purp — She doesn’t need to spread her legs to stay balanced. Sometimes she does spread them, but it’s not for balance.
Leggs
September 26th, 2011
3:05 pm
@SexyC ~ that is too cute. We know a good sammich is very, very important to a man. Glad you got that skill down pat (lololol).