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First date? Watch the hands!

If I were to list one of my all-time worst first dates, I would have to put my date with Mr. Octopus at the top. It’s bad enough when someone is not picking up on the lack of chemistry, but when you add inappropriate body groping? You are reaching creepy status, thereby reducing your chances of another date.

My guy friends teased me about this because they think if I thought the guy was hot, I wouldn’t mind being groped! Apparently, women only object because they aren’t really attracted in the first place.

I can’t say with certainty if that is true or not. I just know that if someone is giving you the “Why are you caressing my thigh?” face and you continue – in an attempt to be seductive, it’s a turnoff. Also, don’t be surprised when you meet my taser gun.

Everyone has different comfort levels, though. When do you feel comfortable “touching” your date? When does it become too much?

How do you signal that you are open – or not open- to the public displays of affection, or other physical contact?

Guys, if a woman complained or asked you to watch your hands, would you think she was an ice queen?

Shouldn’t you be able to tell or read the signs when someone is not feeling you..feeling them?

Have you ever been on a date and they could not keep their hands off you -in a bad way? How did you handle it?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

184 comments Add your comment

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:21 pm

Oh snap! ITL, you’re a Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds fan?

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:21 pm

@Sassy ~ as soon as I get my drink, I’m gonna sit on this chaise lounge and chill….

Into the Light

September 23rd, 2011
4:21 pm

Can’t access YouTube from work…what is it?

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:23 pm

My new computer has a camera on it….woo hoo. I can turn it on and there I am (lol)….

Doesn’t sound like he has a woman, more like a screaming banshee….

Into the Light

September 23rd, 2011
4:23 pm

Sorry, Leggs. That last one was yours. Didn’t have a graphic for TG’s pomtini.

I know one thing…this Firefly with lots of ice is hitting the spot this afternoon.

Believe it or don’t, Swiss.

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:24 pm

ITL — It was “Jack the Ripper”

Leggs — Yeah, that’s pretty much how Mrs. Swiss feels about a lot of my favorites. Nick Cave is definitely not for everyone. :lol: He cracks me up, though. Whenever I’m asked to describe him, I generally say “imagine Satan as a lounge singer.” :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:25 pm

Leggs — He’s got a womaaaaaaaaaan. But she rules his house with an iron fisssssst. Yeeeaaaaaaaaaah. :lol:

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:27 pm

I have never heard of him, but your description is funny and on point! What’s funnier is watching the guitarist in the back try to focus and not appear high….

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:28 pm

@swiss ~ was hoping there were more lyrics than that line, but then I hear she “SCREAMS FROM WHERE SHE SITS” and that’s when I tore the earphones off….

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 23rd, 2011
4:28 pm

What’s funnier is watching the guitarist in the back try to focus and not appear high….

:lol:

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:29 pm

Leggs — Just to give you a sense of why I dig the guy: He has an album called “Murder Ballads” which contains 9 songs all describing in varying degrees of graphic detail a murder (or mass murder) — even 1 set to a polka!. :lol: And then the 10th & final song is a cover of Bob Dylan’s “Death is not the End.” Nothing like a twisted sense of humor to make me smile… :lol:

Into the Light

September 23rd, 2011
4:30 pm

Was just listening to Dig, Lazarus, Dig…

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:32 pm

Hey, ITL — have you heard either of the Grinderman albums?

That reminds me… Leggs — Here’s another appropriate song — this one’s for when you’re not getting any. :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:34 pm

Oh, and ITL (and any other youtube-restricted bloggers), what I just linked to what “No Puddy Blues” by Grinderman (another Nick Cave band)

Into the Light

September 23rd, 2011
4:35 pm

Swiss, Yeah, I think it’s 2. Is that the one with Heathen Child??

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:38 pm

“I read her Eliot, read her Yeats,
I tried my best to stay up late,
I fixed the hinges on her gate,
But still she just never wanted to.

I sent her every type of flower,
I played her guitar by the hour,
I patted her revolting little chihuahua,
But still she just didn’t want to.

I thought I’d try another tack,
I drank a litre of cognac,
I threw her down upon her back,
But she just lay up and said that she just didn’t want to.

I got the no puddy blues.”

:lol:

Into the Light

September 23rd, 2011
4:38 pm

Alright, y’all, time for ITL to go have fun.

Have a great weekend, and I’ll read you Monday!

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:39 pm

ITL — The song I linked to on on Grinderman 1. You should check it out — it’s hilarious.

Celisea

September 23rd, 2011
4:40 pm

Look at ITL being an around the way girl…you know drinks, various genres of music, sports…you’re somebody dreamboat you know. You can hang with the fellows anyday. Don’t mess around and grow some :)

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:41 pm

*is on

not “on on”

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:42 pm

How the heck do you even think about dancing to that tune…oh my? No wonder some white people have those herky jerky dance steps….there’s no need to formulate a dance pattern (LOL)….I’m sorry.

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:45 pm

:lol:

Leggs — Like this. :lol:

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:47 pm

You are right, swiss. I stand corrected. :lol:

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 23rd, 2011
4:48 pm

Guranteed Panty Drop CD-The Isley Brothers, “Mission To Please”, has not ever failed me…

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 23rd, 2011
4:51 pm

No wonder some white people have those herky jerky dance steps…

you know you ain’t right…you know it :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
4:54 pm

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 23rd, 2011
4:55 pm

The Isley Brothers, “Mission To Please”,

There’s that one and another one that came out either right before or after it but that one is killer too…I have alot of the older Isley Brothers as well. Any of Maxwell’s cd’s + Sassy = a long night for him…I’m jus sayin ;-)

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 23rd, 2011
4:57 pm

Alright I’m out…have a great weekend y’all (said with my Paula Deen drawl)…

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
4:58 pm

@SassyMe ~ I know, I know :wink:

Leggs

September 23rd, 2011
5:03 pm

I can tell you this, the earphones stayed in my ears!!!!

i'm swiss™

September 23rd, 2011
5:11 pm

Well that’s progress. ;-) Keep those earphones in your ears… and grab onto mine. :lol:

beotch

September 24th, 2011
8:06 pm

You need to have your salad tossed by a 400 lb rug muncher. That will make your happier!

Emeka

September 25th, 2011
1:36 am

In my opinion, First date touching or caressing , whatever verbage you want to use is acceptable, the question is how do you express your acceptance of it or show displeasure? For those ladies who have bashful things to say, I can only say “Welcome to the 21st century”, The act of touching (by men) is a show of affection and connection. If you are touched during a first date and you feel him, touch him back softly (that means you are connecting), try it and see how cool the rest of the date will be. If you don’t like his touch, I suggest you touch him back anyway, however make it rough,pull his hair, if he is wearing a chain, yank it or even pinch his skin. (Advise, make sure you came in your own car or have cab fare ,else you might be walking home). You are not been violent,hateful,crazy or even bitchy, it just shows that you want to be disconnected. This is the 21st century dating sign language.

HootyGoot

September 25th, 2011
8:15 am

If a girl wants you to feel her up she’ll let you know otherwise HANDS OFF! Show a little respect.