Are you high maintenance?
Men beware: High maintenance is a turn off. It’s becoming more and more common for a guy to be into his appearance, image, or his own personal needs. While these guys can be great to look at – and probably smell amazing – dating them can be a lot of work.
I’m not opposed to hard work but I think that at some point, the high maintenance type gets tiring. You grow tired of their egos, attitudes, and their growing list of demands.
What happens when two high maintenance people meet and date? I’ll tell you, their egos have a battle and somebody loses.
Have you ever dated someone who is high maintenance? What do you consider high maintenance?
Are you guilty of exhibiting a little high maintenance behavior? How do you keep it in check?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
4:35 pm
Wait, what? Canker sores??? How the heck did we get to canker sores?
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
4:38 pm
LOL@Leggs. I know what you mean about the straws….I’ve been sprayed by Capri Sun more than once.
Now that you mention it, though, I don’t know if they come with a straw. But they do open easily at the top, so getting the straw in is no problem. The mojito was not great, but the daiquiri was good.
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:39 pm
I’m halfway sleeping over here, ITL. Perhaps I misunderstood.
PR said the pill is the second best thing to put in your mouth to avoid pregnancy. My mind immediately went to oral and that’s how canker popped up in the post….
Purp
September 21st, 2011
4:40 pm
Leggs, you’ve gotten canker sores from doing oral?
ITL, Leggs Capri Sun straws are the only thing that can spray you….but you might get canker sores. LOL
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:41 pm
Of course not Purp, I don’t do oral.
Isn’t a fever blister the same as a a canker sore, a form of herpes?
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:43 pm
A dirty dipstick can get you there…can’t it? Hell I’m so far removed I may be making up stuff.
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:44 pm
I need a pillow…zzzzzz
Sassy Me...Take me as I am or have nothing at all ;-)
September 21st, 2011
4:46 pm
Isn’t a fever blister the same as a a canker sore, a form of herpes?
Yes…and no. A fever blister is a type of canker sore but usually a canker sore are those little white sores people get sometimes that can be nothing or a real pain to deal with…
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:48 pm
Yes, that’s what I was referring to SassyMe.
SlimUno
September 21st, 2011
4:50 pm
A chick at my job just last week had summin summin going on her lips. Thank goodness I have not had the displeasure of experiencing that.
SlimUno
September 21st, 2011
4:50 pm
If someone does oral on your when they have one of those cold sores on their lip, will it cause some sort of nastiness down below?
Purp
September 21st, 2011
4:55 pm
Leggs you don’t do oral? Or you are not currently involved in a relationship where oral is an option.
Slim, if you seen any bumps anywhere do let him touch you.
I have had that experience once, went down on a woman saw a bump on the lips and used better judgement and left the scene. Never to call her again, it could have been a hair bump or something none lethal but it was not worth the risk. What has been seen can not be unseen.
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:56 pm
I think so. Especially if it opens even a little and the germs are in the hair follicles, I can only imagine some irritation. I really don’t know. I’ve been blessed to have never experienced it.
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
4:56 pm
You got it Purp (lol)…was wondering if you would catch that.
Sassy Me...Take me as I am or have nothing at all ;-)
September 21st, 2011
4:57 pm
If someone does oral on your when they have one of those cold sores on their lip, will it cause some sort of nastiness down below?
YES!! Typically HSV-1 is usually oral herpes and HSV-2 is genital, but if someone with type 1 gives you oral then yes you will have oral herpes on your genitally whacker..
i'm swiss™
September 21st, 2011
4:58 pm
What is a canker? And why is yours sore, Leggs?
Purp
September 21st, 2011
4:58 pm
Speaking of hair follicles it’s time for some manscaping.
Purp
September 21st, 2011
4:59 pm
Sassy how does one get oral herpes? By sucking on herpes some where?
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:00 pm
TMI, Purp. TMI.
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
5:01 pm
If you can see the sore, it is active and can do harm below and to your mouth. Anyway, who wants anyone kissing them with a sore on the corner of their mouth. Get some ear wax and help it to heal. Yep, ear wax.
Sassy Me...Take me as I am or have nothing at all ;-)
September 21st, 2011
5:03 pm
how does one get oral herpes?
google it n tell me what you find…tomorrow
Sassy Me...Take me as I am or have nothing at all ;-)
September 21st, 2011
5:06 pm
If you can see the sore, it is active and can do harm below and to your mouth.
That’s only partially true…a person may not have any visible sores but could still be shedding the virus, which means they’re still around and can be passed on.
Sassy Me...Take me as I am or have nothing at all ;-)
September 21st, 2011
5:07 pm
On that note…be safe y’all.
I’m outta here ’til tomorrow…
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:07 pm
Ear wax??? What???
I don’t know why I just thought of this, but I knew a girl once who said that her mother used to put warm urine in her ear for an earache. I’m sure you can imagine the names that poor girl got called. But urine? In your ear? Peery ears….he!! no!
Celisea
September 21st, 2011
5:08 pm
Night folks
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
5:09 pm
I never would have told that ITL. I can only imagine the name calling that girl received.
Leggs
September 21st, 2011
5:10 pm
Let’s just say Good Night Blogsville!
PEACE!
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:11 pm
I know, right?? And we were like 9 or 10 at the time…. Mmm, poor little Dinky (that was her nickname).
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:11 pm
Night all.
Purp
September 21st, 2011
5:12 pm
Sassy, well the only way I can catch herpes now is if I get it from my wife or riding a tractor so I’m safe, no need to google.
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:26 pm
Purp, I think you should send a pic of the tractor AND the truck. Maybe you could get the people of walmart to come out and pose with them…
Purp
September 21st, 2011
5:30 pm
lol those are personal I love them and just don’t share them with anyone to often
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:31 pm
Wellll, can I just get a little peek???
Purp
September 21st, 2011
5:37 pm
nooooooooooooo!
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
5:44 pm
Hmph! Meanie.
Purp
September 21st, 2011
5:45 pm
LOL well
Purp
September 21st, 2011
5:46 pm
http://www.rustichome.com/images/ford-new-holland-2035-boomer-pedal-tractor-toy.jpg
Look At Me
September 21st, 2011
5:49 pm
There is a huge difference between being high maintenance and being hygenic. I’m a gay dude and I can tell you I don’t primp in the mirror, I don’t wear cologne, I don’t get my nails or eyebrows done. I drive a truck, I work hard, I don’t mind getting dirty…but follow it up with a good shower. I can’t stand to run into another dude who you can smell a mile away before you get to him…and that goes for being dirty or wearing a bunch of cologne. Just because I’m gay doesn’t mean I can’t be a man, I look like one and I smell like one. All these straight dudes walking around with pretty hair and pretty clothes and pretty smells just flat out disgust me. My gay friends aren’t that big of sissy’s. What the hell do you women see in that type? I work with this one straight dude who spends 10 minutes in the mirror everytime he goes to the bathroom…WTF…and the women just LOVE him. I figure he doesn’t have time for dating…he’s too much in love with himself….YUCK…YUCK…YUCK.
Into the Light
September 21st, 2011
7:25 pm
LOL@Purp.
Shani
September 21st, 2011
10:47 pm
Sorry guys but you can be just as high maintenance as women. Just broke up with a guy who took longer to get ready than I did. Demanded every single bit of my time and would be angry if I even spent time with my mother of all people! He made many demands as to what he would like to see me wear, how I wore my hair, when to say I love you…It became exhausting….I am a little high maintenance but this took it to another level…I had to go before my sanity left.
Shani
September 21st, 2011
11:01 pm
Sorry guys but you can be just as high maintenance as women. I just broke up with a guy who demanded all of my time, would get angry if I spent time with my family. He made many demands on what clothes he would like to see me wear…how he would like for me to wear my hair…when to say I love you….start crying when he wouldn’t get his way….It was exhausting…I am a little high maintenance but this was taking it to another level…I had to leave before my sanity left first.
Audra
September 21st, 2011
11:19 pm
For all the men who are mad at this very topic, there ARE HM dudes. I dated one this spring – what a mirror kisser and a momma’s boy. Blech! That being said, HM women are just as irritating and, yes, probably more common. But I find it disturbing that there are so many posts on here about getting someone else’s “sloppy seconds,”"someone else’s kids,” etc. When did the caveman thing come back into style? You don’t want a HM woman but you don’t want one with a real life and a history either. Come on, guys, you can’t have it both ways! I mean, if we could have it both ways we’d have you rich AND hot, but how often do you see that?
Shani
September 21st, 2011
11:21 pm
You better say it Audra!!!!!
Alan G
September 22nd, 2011
6:34 am
I have a friend who dated a high maintenance girl once…
Each time they asked me to drive them somewhere (movie, mall, etc) she had to stop twice for a drink and twice for a bathroom. And that was just the tip of her ‘control’ iceberg,
Finally, one day they asked me to take them to a club. Once we started moving I handed her a 6 pack of coke and a mason jar.
She never liked me after that.
C from Marietta
September 22nd, 2011
11:35 am
Guys stay away from Shani and Audra. Talk about full of themselves.
Roberta
September 22nd, 2011
11:37 am
@ATL Finest -Your Damned if you do, damned if you Dont. As a woman you takes care of herself, it is very hard for a man to understand that taking care of yourself doesnt mean you are high maintenance or even a gold digger. It just means that you take care of yourself. However, I do have a problem with a man, who thinks that he looks better than me!!!
Carlton
September 22nd, 2011
12:17 pm
I love he fact that this article was written about men being high maintenance yet the author of this article’s tag name is “Wise Diva”. Isn’t the very definition of being a “Diva” being high maintenance??
HST
September 22nd, 2011
1:24 pm
Seriously ladies, you’re calling men high maintenance. I have my own money and life just like independent women will say. I have never had a woman complain about my shopping, care I take in my appearance, cars I drive or the restaurants I frequent. I think the only woman who would complain about my “metrosexualism” is a woman who wants a guy like me. I meet more women shopping than I do anywhere else.
Guys who are relaxed in their relationships, you should step up your game. I’m tired of turning away your significant other.
Al
September 22nd, 2011
1:25 pm
I hate to say it but women wanting to be equal to men…this is what you get, so either quit complaining or go back to the way things were. I don’t care either way.
Audra
September 22nd, 2011
2:37 pm
Just givin’ it back to you, C from Marietta.
You can take a a little ribbing, now, can’t you? Or are you too HM for that?