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Do you have a height preference?

It is often said that men are visual creatures, but a lot of women want their man to be visually appealing, especially when it comes to height. Sometimes a guy who is “height challenged” will get overlooked for a guy who is taller.

Would you have a problem dating someone who is significantly taller or shorter than you?

Why does it become such an issue when it comes to physical attraction?

Is it silly to have a height preference or does it rank up there with the other shallow reasons we use not to give someone a chance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

434 comments Add your comment

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
12:10 pm

Brat – I disagree, 5′7″ is on the shorter side for a guy. It’s tall for a woman though.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2011
12:12 pm

Purple not so fast, those vest have to be earned. Isn’t that correct Leggs I remember the survival ritual you made me go through?…….LOL

Reio

September 20th, 2011
12:12 pm

kimmie – Yea, I hear ya. The daughter in Merrietta(wherever that is), worries me the most. I found out, through her mother, tat the guy she was dating, two boyfriends ago, had a criminal record, and is about to be sentenced in November. They are taking my advice on one thing(thank god), however, I told them, that if they ever needed ANYTHING, call me, or my brother, or two very close male family friends. That way they can get what they need, and not have to worry about the guy expecting some kind of repayment. so that’s good. The other stuff? I just don’t know.

Exiled!

September 20th, 2011
12:15 pm

I don’t think I have Ever bought anything so as to attract some eyes.

I buy what I like because I like it

I have always thought that men,especially athletes,who color/die their hair some way,have a sweeth thang.
That seems like wanting to attract attention. Animals if a female species emit a scent or have a color coding when they’re on heat.

Wrong?

For Real

September 20th, 2011
12:16 pm

What up blog fam!

abc

September 20th, 2011
12:16 pm

Average height of men ages 20-39 in the US is 5′10″, for women it’s 5′5″. About 14% of all men in the US are over 6 feet tall. If you restrict yourself only to men over that height, you’re limiting the number of potential candidates to roughly the same number of men that are convicted felons, ergo 1 of every 8 or 9 men. Just sayin.

Exiled!

September 20th, 2011
12:17 pm

Of a female species

For Real

September 20th, 2011
12:17 pm

Has the weight question came up yet?

Height? = Men
Weight? = Women

Leggs

September 20th, 2011
12:18 pm

@Short ~ one more question. For the most part I understand what you are saying, but since you aren’t leading with your wallent why do you think you can now get more women than before?

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
12:19 pm

right, kimmie. he’s not “tall” by most male standards, but he’s not quite the hobbit i had pictured from his moniker. plenty of 5′2″-5′4″ ladies out there would consider him just right. i think.

For Real

September 20th, 2011
12:20 pm

Reio: I do not envy you with two daughters. I thank GAWD everyday that I don’t have any. But, I have heard men say you never fully experience love until you have a daughter.

abc: Funny

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:20 pm

I will still dunk on him!

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
12:22 pm

Exiled – I’ve never cared for the metrosexual type of man. Those that are in the mirror more than me. I like neat, well-groomed and hygeinic manly men. Hair coloring and such is a little sweet to me.

Exiled!

September 20th, 2011
12:22 pm

What if he don’t like 5″2-5″4

Czbrat? He wants to hang with us the Big Dawgs so what he do?

comes in late,then rolls outta the Range with the tall ladies looking/staring.

Imagine Kat Williams doing that!

:lol:

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:22 pm

<——-Tall ex-con, I am a rarity! You ladies better recognize!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2011
12:24 pm

It’s really strange when I was a kid growing up I had a height complex. I always stood as much as foot over the other kids in my grade it made me feel akward and different. I finally grew out of it and it had negatives in it self being called names like Green Giant by other kids. I can say I am proud where I stand today, and that’s not a knock on short guys.

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
12:25 pm

Brat – What I have actually noticed is that most men seem to fudge on their height. I’m 5′5″,but every short guy I meet claims to be a height much taller than me. So he says 5′7″ but I bet he’s closer to my height.

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:26 pm

BlackFoote, I did not want to be tall either.

Reio

September 20th, 2011
12:27 pm

For Real – Yea, I guess so. Tells their mother everything, won’t tell me sheet, about their lives. But mom relays all the pertinent info, so It’s all good. I guess.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:32 pm

Again Leggs, I am not leading with my wallet…. Women, in general, make superficial initial choices… I simply choose to make sure I control how that initial “viewing” goes…For example, if you are standing outside of your favorite place and a accord pulls out and a nice but non descript guy get out while you are talking to your girls, you may not even notice, But let that same dude climb out of an Aston Martin…and someone in the group will make a mental note and If he approaches, she will be more receptive….Thats not leading, thats shifting the odds into your favor…

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
12:32 pm

Purp/Foote – Just goes to show, we all have something we’re a little insecure about growing up. The issues come when you reach full adulthood and still haven’t learned to be comfortable in your own skin and work with what you have.

Exiled!

September 20th, 2011
12:33 pm

along with height,a tight azz is also appreciated.

saw this chic at the coffee shop this morning.

Daamn,her butt was nice!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2011
12:34 pm

Purple exactly it felt like a curse I couldn’t understand. The only place I felt worth was a football field where I could hit somebody without getting in trouble…….LOL

Reio

September 20th, 2011
12:35 pm

Short and Proud of it!!! – Keep tellin it like it is! My man!

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:37 pm

Short and Proud, most women would like at that guy with the accord and think he knows how to handle his money. The guy with the Aston Martin may know how to handle his money as well, but that type of ride attracts a certain type of women. Not all women are shallow though.

Leggs

September 20th, 2011
12:37 pm

@Short ~ again, I get you’re not leading what your wallet. Just asked what you think changed that you can get more women. I just read your first sentence, but now I’m reading the entire post and if that’s not $$ leading, I don’t know what is. Even if it’s make your odds more favorable.

For the record, bet most women would notice both guys.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:38 pm

Kimmie… I am really 5′7….in bare feet….175 lbs No need to fudge… always seems to get you in trouble… :)

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

Leggs, The women changed… Their willingness to even have a conversation with me changed… Look back at some of teh things that have been posted here… see how many said they never enven considered a shorter guy and things of that nature…

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

Short – The entire world treats you differently if you have money! Yeah, you are going to attract attention if you roll out like James Bond versus Joe Average. It’s not just single women on the prowl. Try walking into any establishment – bank, restaraunt, store, sporting the obvious trappings of wealth and watch everyone falling all over themselves to pitch their product to you. Unless you are recognizable, like Bill Gates or Steve Jobs and come in wearing Levi’s and Payless shoes, you are going to fade into the woodwork like all the other Joes out there until you pull out your wallet. It is what it is. Everybody is superficial initally.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

Kimmie:
Your 12:32 is a great point. It’s grow up or continue to live insecure.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:43 pm

And I would take that bet…

Leggs

September 20th, 2011
12:45 pm

@Short ~ I came on late and didn’t read a lot of the posts, that’s why I went straight to you.

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:46 pm

Short and Proud, would you really want to date a woman who was first not interested in you but nor interested in you because you have money? What happens if you have to start living off your savings or go broke? Do you think she will hang in there until you get back on your feet? I think you should meet Amazon Red, she is tall and likes short guys.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:46 pm

kimmie and that is my point….I can’t walk into a room like my tall friend and be noticed…Not famous or anthing like that.. But I can make sure that when the normal scanning of the room is taking place, even if only for a second, there is a pause when the eyes cross me.. and in the dating world, that is all one needs….

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:50 pm

Short you have “game” and a style about you, that has nothing to do with your height. I am sure ladies will notice a nice gentleman in you and not your height. How do you think these ugly obese men have great looking ladies. It’s not his money.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:52 pm

Purp…If i were tall and just made a decent living, would I have anymore certainty in the dating world??? If I made 60K working for Georgia Power is she goonna stay if things get rough??? That right, we don’t know.. all one can do is put your best foot forward, try and live right and hope like hell you made a sound choice…

abc

September 20th, 2011
12:52 pm

I figure it IS about the fat ugly dude’s money.

G(c)

September 20th, 2011
12:53 pm

I’m actually 5′9″ without shoes. *grin* It’s rare that I date women I see eye to eye. Most women have been taller or much shorter, which is fine by me. I actually prefer taller women, and on most occasions I succeed. A women that’s about 6′2″ in heels have been great experiences.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
12:54 pm

The fat guy has a dude because she knows he is gonna drop any day now!! She is wating to cash the policy in!!! LOL

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
12:55 pm

kimmie, s/o says that all the time (12:42) people treat him differently depending on which car he’s driving and what he’s wearing. even people who already know him.

would you really want to date a woman who was first not interested in you but nor interested in you because you have money?
to reign’s point, i would stick with the folks who accepted me when i was a “before”. but that’s just me. i’m spiteful. :evil:

Purp

September 20th, 2011
12:56 pm

Make a woman smile and touch her mind and you can have her, regardless of how tall you are or how much you weigh. LOL

SexyCool

September 20th, 2011
12:58 pm

Here we go with that damn $60K *again*…lol…

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
12:58 pm

Short – But you still are putting it out there like there is something wrong with the women. There have been people out here since the beginning of time that are superficial and there always will be. I don’t believe for one minute that nothing has changed about you since you got a little extra change in your pockets. That would make no sense. That’s not progress. That’s called being stuck in a rut.

There a people that were 500 pounds and lose weight and are now considered hot. But deep down inside they will always be the fat one, a fat person in a skinny body. No matter how much wealth you aquire, will you always be the short guy, mentally?

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
1:01 pm

lmao @ SC. flashbacks!! PTSD!!! :lol: :lol:

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
1:03 pm

Kimmie..My character did not change….Where I eat. what I where, where and who I associated has changed, But the core of who my parents raised me to be did not…

cba

September 20th, 2011
1:04 pm

Reio, I can definitely relate to your 12:27, I have a 26 yr old daughter. I’m always asking my wife where and what’s going on with her. Fortunately my older brother warned me about this years ago with his daughter. He told me, like what you said, as long as she communicating with mom, I’m cool.
I understand she’s “grown” now but this behavior started when she was probably 13 or so.

SexyCool

September 20th, 2011
1:04 pm

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
1:13 pm

Short – And nobody knows your character until they get to know you. So all anyone can go on is the outside initially. Are you giving those big, plain girls that wear flats and Amish dresses a chance now that you’re wallet is fat?

Also, just because Joe Average rolls up in his Honda, I never just assume he’s a nice guy. I made that mistake when dating. Joe Averages are just as capable of being a jerk as James Bond. You have to get to know people.

Reio

September 20th, 2011
1:15 pm

Short and Proud of it!!! – You’re right on , man. Went to Hardee’s 3 Saturday’s ago. No real reason. Just have’nt been to Hardee’s in a while, so I pull up. Got out. Went in. No one in line, so I go to the counter. Cashier comes up, “How may I help you?” ” I’ll have this,that, two of those, and a diet Dr. Pepper” takes my order,my money and gives me change and a ticket. I back away from the counter to check a message on my phone that I remember getting while I was driving to Hardee’s. For some reason, I felt someone looking at me, looked up and the cashier’s eyes and mine met. She quickly turned away and went to the back. As I continued to look at my phone, I could see her and one of the female cooks looking at me. Pretended to not notice them. She comes back to the front and fills my order, presents it to me, I say “Thank you” , she says”You’re VERY welcome”. They may say “You’re welcome”, but never “You’re VERY welcome”. As I leave, I decide to back out the door, to see if she was still looking. She was, and the cook had come out to join her. So, yes, initial impressions mean a lot to some people, if you feel the need to tip the balance in your favor, have at it. More power to ya. Could’nt do much for the Hardee’s girls though. I’m married, would never cheat. Besides, each of them looked younger than my youngest daughter. However, if I walked into the house, and Halle Berry was butt naked, bent over the coffee table, with her panties covering one of her ankles, calling my name, I might have to investigate the situaton, and try and calm her down a bit. Hehe.

Short and Proud of it!!!

September 20th, 2011
1:17 pm

I agree….that Joe and James can be one in the same…and as far as that plain Amish girl… well, she was never my choice and I was never hers, but I still treat her respect and dignity and I am always as pleasant to her as I would be to my own mom…