Do you have a height preference?
It is often said that men are visual creatures, but a lot of women want their man to be visually appealing, especially when it comes to height. Sometimes a guy who is “height challenged” will get overlooked for a guy who is taller.
Would you have a problem dating someone who is significantly taller or shorter than you?
Why does it become such an issue when it comes to physical attraction?
Is it silly to have a height preference or does it rank up there with the other shallow reasons we use not to give someone a chance?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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434 comments Add your comment
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:31 am
How does someone know that your “cash is on point” when they see you from across the room? Or get on the elevator with you? Or meet you sitting at a bar?
Short and Proud of it!!!
September 20th, 2011
11:33 am
Let me try this again… I have not changed who I am…. My taste in women and what, attracts me has not changed… I have a type just like all of you have talked about your type…If I were say 6′6 and said women were atrracted to my height there would not be a problem right??? Sounds like to me there are some folks here that are being intellectually dishonest…… What’s the difference between being attracted to something as random as height which you don’t have control over and being attracted to a person of means which you can control??? What if she likes a Muscle head vs. a skinny guy…I read the other day where one of the ladies here mentioned that she likes nerds…Is he, then leading with his intellect???
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:33 am
SCool – You tape your wallet to your forehead!
Reio
September 20th, 2011
11:34 am
kimmie – Well, it’s even further confusing than that. Cause her mother(my wife) told me that our daughter told her, that she wnated a man just like me to date and eventually marry. Well so far, these guys are nothing like me. Just don’t know.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:35 am
Fashion “advice”, leading with the wallet, some of you dudes are hillarious!
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
11:35 am
lower heels are for comfort. nothing wrong with that. nothing at all. we all have them and wear them when the time is right. but the high heel is a sexy/glam look. no two ways about it. if you “gimp” in them, please practice. cuz it’s just the hotness when you get your strut right. and any dude who says he doesn’t feel the weenus tingle at the sight of a leggy strut is, well, lying to himself.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:35 am
Short and proud, your money defines you. When you were broke they didn’t want you know that you are not they are all on you. You should be weary you may be entertaining well trained gold diggers.
kimmie, I agree with you
abc, a fat woman should not wear heels. But I think a 3in heel is okay and I don’t think it’s because I can catch them quicker. LOL
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
11:37 am
@SexxyCool?
they don’t know that ur cash is on point.
But All women,including urself, make an initial, calculated guess based on what the see.
I think that’s what Short Man is talking bout.
but his rejections had nothing to do with how much is in His wallet but more about how his loot makes him feel.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:37 am
Short, you like what you have always liked now you can just afford them. LOL
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:37 am
Reio – She’ll be fine. She’s obviously respects you if she told her mom that.
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
11:37 am
Short and Proud of it – The difference in you taking height or the lack thereof and the trouble you’re finding is that you’re making money a factor. Be short and never speak to your pockets. Then you know she likes you for you.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:37 am
Short how tall are you?
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
11:37 am
They see
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
11:38 am
kimmie, i was thinking that maybe, as a nurse, she is looking for guys she can save or heal. the ones with little drive that she can possibly influence or motivate. the guys that are already on the move she may feel she cannot help (or that they don’t need her help as much as the slackers). also, reio, are these non-ambitious guys creative? easy going? great sense of humor? there may be other characteristics that remind her of you. characteristics that she values more than ambition.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:39 am
We need to test this theory “Short and Proud” at 4′3 with his wallet taped to his forhead and checkbook hanging out of his back pocket, standing next to me while I lean on my tractor. I wonder which one women would choose. LOL
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:41 am
Sorry but if the guy is shorter than his woman..she is going to try him at some point because she will think she can punk him in some form or fashion. LOL
abc
September 20th, 2011
11:41 am
Sure, perhaps I’m in the minority — but still, to me, 3-4″ heels look silly, and make women walk funny. I’ve never seen a woman navigate with them gracefully. They represent the bunions you’ll have when you’re 60.
But hey, whatever floats your boat.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:42 am
Little dudes walking around in those shoes with hidden “lifts” in them. We know those arent normal shoes. Dude can’t get on rides at the theme parks. Dude is sitting in a car seat while he is driving. LOL getting carded at the movies because it’s Rated R or NC-17
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:42 am
I’m not into heels as much anymore. Especially stilettos. I will wear a higher heel if it has a wider base, when I’m coming to the office or wearing them just for me.
My stiletto wardrobe has become something that is strictly for TheDude’s pleasure.
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:43 am
Purp…that tractor thing actually sounded kinda sexy. How you doing, friend?
Reio
September 20th, 2011
11:44 am
kimmie – Well I hope so. She’s soon to be 28, but I have not seem ME in ANY of the guys she brings over. One can only hope. We live in Birmingham(Surburb), our oldest daughter live out there(Merrietta, where ever that is), way above her means. I get three phone calls from her a year, my birthday, father’s day, and whenever she needs something(money). Her choice’s in men is even worse. Just don’t know.
abc
September 20th, 2011
11:44 am
The dough issue isn’t necessarily about first impressions. It comes about when comparing the new Benz to the ‘94 Civic, the studio apartment to the McMansion, going out to Wendys vs. Canoe, weekends to Chattanooga vs. weekends to St. Thomas. In most situations, the dough is going to win, no matter who’s holding it.
Mandingo will still be back door man, but the dough wins the prize.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2011
11:44 am
Most women have a preference of height and that’s their choice. Seeing women in moderate size heels is favorable as long as it don’t make her look come off trashy. It looks different when the woman is taller than the man and I see nothing wrong with it. It’s their choice.
Good Almost Afternoon:
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:45 am
If you are a short man you pretty much have to be a comedian, a point guard, midget wrestling or just pay for women.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:46 am
Reio – I have always been attracted to nerds, guys that lead with their intellect as Short said. Ambitious, intellectual types can be kinda high maintenence to deal with, I must say. When they are in the career-building stage of their life, dating someone seriously is often put on the backburner. Like Brat said, she probably likes guys that make her feel needed. These guys probably make more time for her.
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
11:48 am
Hey Blackfoote – Where have you been?
Like I said about 3 inches for me….I have a couple pairs of 4 inch that I’ll pull out every now and again..not everyday.
Reio
September 20th, 2011
11:48 am
czBrat – Well, so far, one is into photography, another wanted to be a rapp producer, still another saw potential in selling perfume,cologn, and pirated DVDs….. Just don’t know.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:49 am
(tips my hat towards SexyCool as I unbutton my shirt..lol) I’m doing fine, how are you?
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:51 am
You are incorrigible.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:52 am
SexyCool who me?
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:53 am
Yes – you…
Reio
September 20th, 2011
11:53 am
kimmie – You may be right. As a college student, I was serious. Did’t care about anything but graduating, so relationships(a few) did’nt last. “Can’t go out tonite, need to study for my mid-terms…” It paid off, but I missed out on some potentially great realtionship/friendships. Oh well.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2011
11:54 am
LOL……@Purple
Purp
September 20th, 2011
11:55 am
What did I do? It’s just hot out here so I decided to take my shirt off while you walked buy. (as I throw said shirt on top of Short and Prouds head) LOL
Leggs
September 20th, 2011
11:57 am
@Short ~ you say you can pull more women because you think its because your income has increased. Can it at all be possible that you are dressing better, smelling better, hair stays trimmed, etc.? If you are true to your statement “that you haven’t changed” from making little money to making a lot of money, then something had to change! If its not your person, its your speech and attitude letting others know you now have bank. Something had to change? I mean no respect, just sitting over here wondering why you can pull now, but couldn’t then.
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
11:57 am
Do u have a weenus to know Czbrat?
Leggs
September 20th, 2011
11:58 am
I mean no DISRESPECT…..
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:58 am
Speaking of smelling good, this morning, as I was finishing my run, I passed this dude that was beat up about the face but smelled GREAT!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2011
11:59 am
Hi Celisea:
How are you? I was here one day last week, I’ve been working night shift I’m back on schedule now. Have to do that periodically so I’ll get to know my night staff.
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
12:00 pm
me-lo, i don’t have to have one to know how to make it rise.
just as short/proud knows to staple his wallet to his forehead to activate the spring-hinge on his date’s hips.
Short and Proud of it!!!
September 20th, 2011
12:00 pm
My money is not who or what I am…… I am a 5′7′ dude that understands that there are alot of women that will not give me the time of day because I happen to be short… My height has never been as issue for me as I am completely comfortable in my own skin… But I am also a realist enough to know that people are superficial and initally chosing a person because of their height is one of those things… I am not judging, just admitting the facts… When I chose my car, I did so with the understanding that at some point it would be a factor in how I was viewed…. Just like when my buddy who happes to be 6″8 walks into a room EVERYBODY notices… When I shop for cloths or pick out a watch, I am always aware of what will be seen because if I am going to be judged on first appearances, then I want to be able to dictate the terms…. and it does not require that I tape my wallet to my forehead or drop hundreds like the Pied Piper…Only that I play the hand that has I have been given…
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
12:01 pm
Reio – I remember this guy I dated when I was fresh out of undergrad. He was working on his MBA at a major ivy-league univ. I was head over heels in love with him. I was about to start grad school myself and was raised to value education. I understood his ambition because I had some of my own. I wanted someone I could build a life with. But he was the 1st in his family to go to college. He, and I think some in his family too, saw me as a destraction. But then the guys that are established are either married or think every woman is a gold-digger.
It’s not easy out here.
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
12:04 pm
Czbrat!
thank u Jesus coz I was gonna ask them to withdraw mr-ss Bono from the dancing and have u and Bono pair up. Lol
SlimUno
September 20th, 2011
12:04 pm
These folks are about to make me lose my mind, up in here…up in here!
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
12:04 pm
I would also like to point out that the difference could be that as you are maturing and advancing, women that you encounter are doing the same. And those that would have written Spud Webb off in the past, trying to get to Chris Webber, now understand that there is more to building solid relationships than attraction.
So, not only are you more successful, you should be meeting women that are more advanced, matured, successful and more well-rounded.
(just a thought…)
Purp
September 20th, 2011
12:05 pm
Short and Proud, just to let you know you have shown that your height is a hot button and everyone her is going to push it today. Don’t take it personal, there is just nothing else to talk about. Leggs will be giving you a vest
Purp
September 20th, 2011
12:06 pm
Don’t know about well rounded. Just find a woman that is shorter than you. What is the average female height?
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
12:07 pm
short/proud, 5′7″ is not short. i thought you’d say something like 5′3″. i’m guessing you classify yourself as short because you like tall women.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
12:08 pm
SCool – So right, should be traveling in an entirely different circle of women now.
Purp –
Purp
September 20th, 2011
12:08 pm
Is tomorrow’s topic “weight requirements when dating” or can we talk about it today. It’s funny to see a fat person dating a skinny person. I am not knocking it, it is just funny.