Do you have a height preference?
It is often said that men are visual creatures, but a lot of women want their man to be visually appealing, especially when it comes to height. Sometimes a guy who is “height challenged” will get overlooked for a guy who is taller.
Would you have a problem dating someone who is significantly taller or shorter than you?
Why does it become such an issue when it comes to physical attraction?
Is it silly to have a height preference or does it rank up there with the other shallow reasons we use not to give someone a chance?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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434 comments Add your comment
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
10:24 am
Exiled – G seems a tad bitter as well!
Cool Breeze – You said it, the Man makes the Man!
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
10:25 am
GiGi are you lurking today? What did you decide?
thewindwhistler
September 20th, 2011
10:25 am
that is a great question. I really like it. I LIKE one on the small side. It appears more in keeping with my height. Plus, the smaller ones are more agile, sort of like those nymphet, gymnastic girls that perform those incredible feats. now, now, now, there is a place for mammas that are somewhat into the plus sizes.
Button
September 20th, 2011
10:26 am
Good morning, I guess I might the only woman round these parts that really don’t go for the extra tall guys, something about their legs, it’s just everywhere!! ehhhh, anyway, I like my guy just lil’ taller than me, maybe around 5′8 or 5′9 would be the tallest as to how I like him to be. But it’s not going that way because I always attract taller guys. I’m 5′3 and my boyfriend is a peaking 6 ft, and having to tippy toe or bend my neck way back to get a kiss is achy.
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
10:26 am
kimmie, i’m flat-footed too. try 4-5″ stilletos with a platform footbed. plenty of support and all-day/night comfort. wedges are the best of all worlds though. s/o didn’t believe me so i had to show him i can RUN in a 5″ wedge.
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
10:27 am
Imma have to pop back in later. I fall behind blogging too much. Plus I have a meeting from 12 – 5….just great. I will be lurking though from my laptop. I hope ya’ll are cutting up. Imma need a distraction through that dreaded session. I’m thinking about switching lanes/jobs.
Reio
September 20th, 2011
10:27 am
One of my daughter’s is taller than most women. Only dates taller guys. Never asked her about it(don’t really give a hoot). But she was fixed up with a shorter fellow, years ago, went out with him a few times, but it went nowhere fast. I believe it was because he was shorter than she was. We know his parents, wonderful people. We’ve known him from childhood, great guy. Finished cum laude from UAB’s school of dentistry, and is doing quite well. Asks about her from time to time, while she still seems to be interested in the less accomplished, less ambitious, guys. Just don’t know. Just don’t know.
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
10:28 am
reio, thank you for chiming in on the average height thing. much appreciate your perspective.
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
10:29 am
To boot, I need a colonic. I know TMI but I do. I’m bloated and loading up on grapes and pears. Can you say NOT WORKING??!! Or a smooth move tea bad…something, heck anything.
Okay that was TMI. I don’t usually do the bathroom talk
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
10:34 am
Brat – Yes, I love those with the platform – they are a life & style saver!
Reio
September 20th, 2011
10:35 am
Ranter – Yea. How safe would some of these women feel with a 6′2″ guy, when a mugger or car jacker pulls a sawed off shotgun out. All of a sudden, height does’nt matter.
SlimUno
September 20th, 2011
10:39 am
Celisea – PRUNES
Heavily Bearded Man
September 20th, 2011
10:41 am
I don’t care how tall or short dey is. Just long as they been dead for at least a week.
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
10:41 am
Belch, oops,splatter on my monitor as my breakfast comes out!
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
10:42 am
Reio – Did she say why it didn’t work out? Maybe in spite of all he has going for him he may not display confidence. If you are not confident in yourself, how is someone else supposed to have confidence in you?
He’s a dentist doing well? He should have no problem pulling women.
Leggs
September 20th, 2011
10:43 am
Good morning. I “prefer” one a little taller than myself. However, if someone my own height attracts me, height will be a non-factor.
I would prefer not to date someone I have to bend down to kiss. If your forehead meets my lips, no can do.
Short and Proud of it!!!
September 20th, 2011
10:46 am
Ok….I am 5′7″ and for years had a problem finding women that were comfortable dating me…Of course I heard all of the excuses that are given here….But the funny thing is once I hit the work force and my income skyrocketed, none of those things seemed to matter…. My current lady friend is 6′1 barefooted and each of my partners over the last several years have been at least that tall…. It almost like every 25 or so thousand I make over 100K adds 2 or 3 inches to to my height….
Purp
September 20th, 2011
10:47 am
Hello CanalZone.
kimmie, I think she is tall. LOL I don’t really know except she is not short. She can keep up with me running so she has to be considered tall, I guess lol
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
10:49 am
let me just speak for myself here. i’ve not felt the need to be with a guy who will take a bullet for me since i left east new york. when i refer to feeling “protected” next to a taller dude, it’s in the sense that i feel small, dainty, fragile, feminine. get it?
Purp
September 20th, 2011
10:49 am
I will agree with what someone said earlier, the majority of short guys try and over compensate in some form or fashion.
Purp
September 20th, 2011
10:52 am
There’s that over compensation again. That would mean she is dating you for your money not your height.
abc
September 20th, 2011
10:53 am
Most men prefer a woman shorter than them, most women prefer a man taller than them. This isn’t that much of a revelation.
I have a thing against really tall heels on a woman, though. They look stupid, and they make them walk funny. I’m not sure why chicks want to torture themselves with them. I’ve had chicks tell me it’s because they think men like tall women, and it does something to the shape of their calves. Take it from me, girls, men couldn’t possibly care less about your shoes — except to maybe think that the 3-4″ heels look dumb, and make you walk like a gimp.
czBrat
September 20th, 2011
10:56 am
good for you short&proud! just out of curiosity, have you ever questioned (or your dates volunteered) whether or not they habitually date shorter men?
Purp
September 20th, 2011
10:56 am
abc, I have to add this. To tall heel are not a good look, but I love a woman in heels. Maybe I am the only guy that does but I do like it. Some women just don’t knkow how to walk in heels some do. I also like a woman in some nice flats or some kickbutt running shoes. Heck I just like women period as long as they don’t have hammer time toes or feet. LOL
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
10:57 am
@Short and proud?
if u have to invoke the dollar bill to attract a woman then yeah,the Napoleoncomex is hitting u dead on between the eyes!
Some of us don’t need to jiggle the change in the pockets to get a woman’s attn.
All I do is say,’how are u lady?’, and she smiles my way.
Try it!
Amia
September 20th, 2011
10:59 am
czBrat, that’s exactly right! I am not talking about something dramatic that he has to protect me from. I don’t live a life of dramatic peril. Talking about what CZ said and that’s feeling dainty and feminine. Also I LOVE the cuddling. I don’t wear 5 inch heels. Not happening. I’m not old either. I usually do the 3 inches only. So I aroung 5′8″ with my sexy boots on. That’s enough (for me)
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
10:59 am
Complex
Amia
September 20th, 2011
11:01 am
Also I have to add, that I have a few friends that are 5′9″ – 5′11″ and they hate on me because the tall men are more attracted to people my height and the shorter men are attracted to them. Someone said it earlier that you have single short men and single tall women looking around at each other and not giving each other a chance. LOL.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:03 am
Purple – Most men I know like women in a nice heel, even if they are short man. They do make the calves look sexy and they look very nice with a skirt or dress. If the woman can’t walk in them comfortably, then they are too high for her. 3 inches is a standard, everyday heel height. I can’t see a woman in a nice dress or suit with some flats on unless she’s walking to the subway or bus stop or she has some type of foot or leg injury. A casual sundress or pants, okay.
K
September 20th, 2011
11:05 am
@ Ranter, yeah, it’s funny…but times get crazier & crazier…So, if we are in an unforseen “situation”, then I’d like to be confident that my guy could handle it. For me, bottom line….I never dated guys that I thought I could “handle”! LOL!
Moni
September 20th, 2011
11:08 am
I prefer guys who are in the 5′8-5′10 range. I’m 5′6 and I recently dated a guy my height exactly and it was actually cool b/c it was intimate to be on his level. I think the only reason I don’t date guys shorter than me is that shorter people remind me of children. I’m trying to change that perception b/c height has no bearing on what’s in a person’s heart.
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:09 am
At 5′10, TheDude and I are the same height. I used to prescribe to the theory that “A short man can’t do anything for me but tell me where a tall one is.” As it stands, even now, my eye goes to taller men. It is what it is.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:10 am
Exiled/Purple – I think with some it’s just another case of “the women aren’t interested in ME, so it must be something wrong with THEM”! LOL!!
Short and Proud of it!!!
September 20th, 2011
11:10 am
You guys are missing the point…I approach the same ladies as always, But when my money was ofline, I got no love….. Now that my cash is on point they don’t seem to mind that there is a height difference… Now please explain to me how I have the problem??? They are the ones that are willing to change there requirements…. They are the ones that are making the concessions….. Sounds like the dating game is playing out just as it is supposed to… I present, they exercise a choice..The way i see it, they fell secure standing next to a 6′4 dude, They also feel secure standing next to a short dude with a 10 foot wallet…. sounds the same to me……..
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
11:11 am
Slim – Thanks. The grapes and pears have kicked in..yeah that was quick. Considering though, I’ve been eating fruit for 3 days straight now. I’m good (now)
I don’t know too many men either that don’t like heels. IMO it sort of adds that “ism” to a woman, being it her walk or physical statue.
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:15 am
Short and Proud…you are standing on your wallet. Understood.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:15 am
Short – Are these the SAME women that rejected you earlier? If not, I think you probably project more confidence now that you make more money. People are attracted to confidence all day. Short, broke and low self-esteem = not very attractive.
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
11:17 am
you are standing on your wallet
That’s funny because my cousin would say that about the short dude I mentioned. He was ALWAYS leading with his wallet. Not that much stacking the world (I thought back then…lol)
Amia
September 20th, 2011
11:18 am
I hear Napoleon Complex in here… Short and Proud, why do you have to flaunt the money? If we are missing the point, please educate. Perhaps having more money gave you a level of confidence that helps you attract any woman that want??? I think it’s said if you think the women are attracted to the money itself (instead of YOU). So I am going to take it as it just gave you greater confidence…
Amia
September 20th, 2011
11:19 am
Oops I meant to say “any woman that you want” and ” I think it’s sad” at 11:18. sorry
abc
September 20th, 2011
11:19 am
All men are aware that the size of their wallet relates directly to how attractive women find them to be. Right or wrong, that’s the way it is.
There is no such thing as a graceful gait in 3 inch heels. I’ve always thought that some men might dig that because it represents that the chick is easier to catch, since she can barely walk, much less run. A sandal style or pump with 2 inch heels is reasonable and effects whatever look you’re after — and even at that, they’re crippling enough.
Thinking about women’s shoes is one more reason that it’s good to be a man.
Exiled!
September 20th, 2011
11:20 am
Even now,ur eye goes to taller men?
??????
@Short and proud?
Does money give u confidence?
If it does that’s what the females recognize, ur confidence.
Reio
September 20th, 2011
11:21 am
kimmie – Don’t know. never asked. Could be anything. My concern is, she seems to gravitate towards other men, who don’t show much ambition, which is fine,so long as she realizes that, if their relationship will last, they may struggle financially. While it it true that money ain’t everything, I believe that one should try and do the best you can, and realize your potential. She is a nurse, by the way, but seems content with guys that may not have a plan for their own future, let alone her’s.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:22 am
abc – I think you are speaking for yourself dude.
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
11:22 am
Short and Poud – Now that my cash is on point they don’t seem to mind that there is a height difference… Now please explain to me how I have the problem??? They are the ones that are willing to change there requirements…. They are the ones that are making the concessions
For the highlighted portion of your statement, are you telling women when the money is right versus not? I mean I don’t think leading with your wallet is specific to woman not wanting short men. I think any man leading with his wallet and putting it out there will attact women looking for a sponsor.
Button
September 20th, 2011
11:25 am
Take it from me, girls, men couldn’t possibly care less about your shoes — except to maybe think that the 3-4″ heels look dumb, and make you walk like a gimp. @ abc- i’on know bout this, the men I know love a woman in pumps, especially Red or Black ones
Celisea
September 20th, 2011
11:25 am
C’mon abc, nothing wrong with a woman in heels. Usually I’m with you but not today. Some outfits (suits in particular) look better with heels accomodating.
abc
September 20th, 2011
11:26 am
Suits look best with 2″ heels max, and pumps at that. Open toed pumps maybe. Sandals with suits are a fashion mistake.
kimmie
September 20th, 2011
11:28 am
Reio – That is wonderful that she’s a nurse, she’ll never have to worry about being out of work. As for the guys she is drawn to, it may be her youth. Or being a nurse, she runs into a lot of doctors. Doctors are chick-magnets. I mean, he could have a 3rd eye, but say he’s a doctor and the women are on him like white on rice. That swells a lot of their egos too. Your daughter is probably subconsciously choosing men that are exactly the opposite of what she’s around every day.
Just my theory!
SexyCool
September 20th, 2011
11:29 am
Just realized that I have not given a Run Report lately.
I’ve actually changed my routine. I’m not running every morning anymore. I now only run three mornings a week. However, starting next week, I am going to bump it up to a three mile route.
And one more thing, after running in shoes that had to have had 4million miles on them, I finally went over to Big Peach Running Co. in Brookhaven and got fitted for a new pair running shoes. And it has made a world of damn difference. I am now ready to up my miles for REAL!