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Do you have a height preference?

It is often said that men are visual creatures, but a lot of women want their man to be visually appealing, especially when it comes to height. Sometimes a guy who is “height challenged” will get overlooked for a guy who is taller.

Would you have a problem dating someone who is significantly taller or shorter than you?

Why does it become such an issue when it comes to physical attraction?

Is it silly to have a height preference or does it rank up there with the other shallow reasons we use not to give someone a chance?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

434 comments Add your comment

JayZ

September 20th, 2011
8:16 am

I likem 5′9 with Fine Wine and Fine Dine!

Foxy

September 20th, 2011
8:19 am

Foxy thinks Anything under 6 feet 2 just won’t do. :)

GM Kids!

Dosen't matter...

September 20th, 2011
8:20 am

…they are all the same size when horizontal…

GoldPig

September 20th, 2011
8:20 am

Height is irrelevant…especially when women wear heels and then say the man is too short. You’re not that tall either.

Exiled!

September 20th, 2011
8:25 am

Absolutely!

no way I would be walking with a midget,her head barely topping my upper rib cage.

Looong legs,slender to medium body with a step rivaling,ummm yeah,u get the drift.

And no baby daddies.
Good morning!

Ali14

September 20th, 2011
8:32 am

tall, dark, and handsome. YES PLEASE!!

SlimUno

September 20th, 2011
8:42 am

Good morning all,

The beau isn’t too much taller than I am and I’m fine with that. I briefly dated a guy who was at least 6′3 and it was a bit weird to me. I don’t need a basketball player as a love partner but I wouldn’t want a munchkin from the Wizard of Oz either. I’ll take a smedium over an XL ;-)

SlimUno

September 20th, 2011
8:43 am

Jason

September 20th, 2011
8:43 am

If a person wants to shoot themself in the foot by limiting their pool of potential mates, let them do it. It just gives you something to laugh about when they whine about not being able to find anyone while all of their friends are married or in relationships.

Sparkle

September 20th, 2011
8:50 am

I’m 5′2, female and I feel more secure with a taller man. I’ve seen plenty of short guys.

Ezra

September 20th, 2011
8:57 am

This is why prostitutes stay busy.

SlimUno

September 20th, 2011
9:02 am

My cousin has a thing about a guy HAS to be at least 6ft or above…

Lady Strange

September 20th, 2011
9:05 am

I prefer taller than me but I’ve dated plenty of shorter guys. I’m 5′8″ and I’ve dated a few guys who were around 5′6″ or so. I have noticed the shorter guys I’ve dated had some personality problems. Not sure if it was due to height or if they were just jerks. But I’ve never turned down dating someone if they were shorter than me.

Dave

September 20th, 2011
9:16 am

5′7″-6′0″, 135-150 lbs, red or brunette hair, tan and with blue or green eyes. Am I a bit too discriminate or what? Oh well……

Oh yeah…34C and up……

6' atleast

September 20th, 2011
9:25 am

height covers a multitude of sins!

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
9:25 am

HiYas!

i don’t know if it’s shallow but yeah, i do prefer a dude at least 6′. i like my 4-5″ heels and i really don’t want to be i-2-i with my man.

i won’t look twice at a guy my height or shorter, but if you’re at least 5′10″ we can make it work.
having said that, i don’t doubt many have overlooked me for not meeting their height requirement. i don’t feel slighted in the least. to each his/her own.

Ali14

September 20th, 2011
9:27 am

@Dave–blondes do it better! ;)

Sanjeev

September 20th, 2011
9:28 am

Well I am 6′4″ and size don’t matter. In fact most girls I’ve dated have been in the 5′2″ – 5′4″ range. It’s rare to find a girl 5′10″ and average sized (and I don’t mean Clarissa Flockhart skinny).

Amia

September 20th, 2011
9:37 am

I’m 5′5 and have always attracted taller men like 5′11″ – 6′11″. Recently I dated a guy that was 5′7″. He would make comments when ever I wore heals like “Oh you want to be taller than me”. I’m like, “No, but I don’t want to wear boring flat shoes”. He was trying to mess up my style.

Anyway, I guess I have been spoiled by taller men. The cuddling is great and I tend to feel more secure with them rather than someone shorter. I want to wear heals and still be shorter than my man.

G

September 20th, 2011
9:45 am

Most women like to wear heels, and this places most of them at about 5′9ish”. The man has to be at least 6′0″. It’s kind of like the wedding cake vision or a fashion/appearance thing that’s completely superficial.

However, short men been a deal breaking standard with women for generations. Unfortunately, most men are shorter than 6′0″, so it seems there should be a pool of single short men, that nobody wants. Go figure.

G

September 20th, 2011
9:50 am

Also, it seems the tallest guys end up with the shortest women. It seems the shortest women would be just right for the short men. LOL! Tall guys DO NOT like tall women. So, in the pool of short men, you also have tall women. A pool of single folk who don’t want to give each other a fair shake because of height. Then, you complain there are no men out there. There are plenty of men for single women……just not the ones you may want at first glance. Too funny!!!

CHELLE

September 20th, 2011
9:50 am

I am 5′11, so yes my motto was “you have to be this tall get on this ride”. But 3 years ago I realized it wasn’t the size of the package but what was in it. My husband is only an inch shorter than me. But, while we where dating I told him I love my heels and would continue to wear them, so if he had a problem with it, this was the time to bail. Wearing heals I am 6′3 or 4.

ss

September 20th, 2011
9:52 am

Although I’m vertically challenged myself, I prefer men to be at least 5′10″. I’ve dated a lot of shorter guys who truly have a Napoleon complex.

K

September 20th, 2011
9:53 am

My deal is more psychological. All of the men in my life, growing up, who made me feel any measure of security (Dad, G-Dad, Uncles) have always been taller than I. So, subconsciously, I was always drawn to 6′+, but as I matured, I adjusted it to “stiletto height”…Love them high heels!!

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
9:55 am

Morning All!

I’ve “given short guys” a chance and just about each and every time I had to deal with the Napoleon complex! And yes, I mean short, because I am not a tall woman – I am barely making 5′5″. So it’s not just a shallow thing, only one I would say was confident despite his short stature. Just can’t deal with it and glad I don’t have to any more.

My husband is about 5′10″, though when I when I wear even 3 inch heels I kinda look taller, or at least eye-level. I have long legs so people actually think I am taller than what I really am.

Whatever the reason a person gives for not wanting to date someone, shallow or not, it’s a free country and people can do what they wish. They have a right to their preferences and all of the “limitations” that may or may not go with them. The dudes whining about women that won’t give short a chance – are probably short! Oh well!

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
9:55 am

yeah, amia. i was in a similar situation. i’m 5′6″ (i round up that 1/4 inch :) ). my ex was 5′9″ on a good day. apparently, a h.s. senior in 3″ heels is sexy, but an eye-level wife, not so much. i ended up reducing my entire shoe collection to flats for the better part of 20 years. i had a couple 2-2.5″ heels for “special occasions”. woohoo!! :mad: we were young and dumb, man. young and dumb.

SlimUno

September 20th, 2011
9:55 am

Seems like there is a sea of shorter men than there are pebbles of giants.

Reio

September 20th, 2011
10:04 am

All of my dates, years ago, were shorter. Never thought much about it. Would have approached taller women, but never did. I don’t think it was because they were taller. I can see dating a taller woman,if I were still single. Don’t really give a hoot.

Purp

September 20th, 2011
10:05 am

If she is taller than me, then we will have problems. I’m 6′6 otherwise any height will do.

G

September 20th, 2011
10:06 am

I agree it’s a free country, and we should be free of ridicule on who we choose……regardless if it seems shallow or not. I’m sure there are a pool of single BBW with the pool of short men too.

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
10:06 am

question for the blog. s/o and i have gone back and forth about “average” male height based on race. i say that white men probably average about 5′11″ and black men 5′8″. he thinks it’s the other way around. any thoughts or stats on that? anyone??

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
10:07 am

lmao @ reign. g’morning buddy.

Celisea

September 20th, 2011
10:08 am

Don’t really give a hoot.

Me either…not big enough of a deal that warrants a lot of thought. Go with the flow and what works. Maybe though it’s not been a issue because anybody I’ve dated or was in a relationship with was 5′9 or taller. Only once could I not get past a dude’s height. He was cool as ever but we stood eye to eye…ut uh. Wait, maybe it is an issue that I’ve just never had to deal with.

Lady Strange

September 20th, 2011
10:09 am

I must be one of the few women that do not like wearing high heel shoes. I prefer flats or at the most a very small heel. I like being comfortable and I have a bad ankle from an old injury that makes it hard to wear heels anyway. I do like to wear boots though, if they have a short heel. :)

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
10:09 am

Purple – Is Julia tall? I picture her being model-like.

DJ Sniper

September 20th, 2011
10:10 am

I’m 5′9″ and my height was never a barrier when it came to dating. I’m sure there were some women passed my over because of it, but I wasn’t hurting or anything like that. IMHO, it’s all about your confidence. A college buddy of mine is only 5′6″ and he stayed pulling women left and right.

My wife is about 5′5″, but she doesn’t really wear a lot of heels. Even when she does, it’s no issue to me at all.

Reio

September 20th, 2011
10:11 am

czBrat – Good question. Seems like the difference would be minimal. I don’t know. But a full 3″ may be a bit much, either way.

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
10:12 am

Is anyone on this blog complaining that there are no available men? I didn’t think so, just wanted to be sure.

:lol: Too funny!

czBrat

September 20th, 2011
10:12 am

Wait, maybe it is an issue that I’ve just never had to deal with.
we’re here to help, celisea. blog therapy at the best rates in town.

Celisea

September 20th, 2011
10:12 am

Heels vs flats…I like them both. I mostly wear heels though in the summer when going bare leg. I like flats in the winter because of the sock thing. Four inches is the most I’m going. I’m no spring chicken, anything over that becomes an effort. And strutting should be done effortlessly :)

Celisea

September 20th, 2011
10:14 am

czBrat – we’re here to help, celisea. blog therapy at the best rates in town.

LOL this place can be therauptic at times. I dunno, I can’t recall but once even being approached by a shorty and I’m not tall. Like I said it’s always been 5′9 or taller. That dude though was cool as ever, just couldn’t do his shortness.

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
10:14 am

DJ – You are so, so right! It’s all about the confidence! And the ones that got it together, short or not, are not hurting at all!

kimmie

September 20th, 2011
10:18 am

Celisea – If my feet were not flat, I would wear darn near stilts! I can do high wedges, but when you get into the 5 inch stilettos, I am in serious pain, which is not attractive! But I can’t really do too flat a shoe either. I have to have some support.

I have a few really hot pairs that I wear when I know I will be sitting most of the time, and have my husband’s arm to hold on to when I just have to walk!LOL!!

Celisea

September 20th, 2011
10:19 am

What did it for me was when he put his arm around my shoulder I could feel him lifted a bit…meaning I have the height edge and I’M SHORT! I was cool and working on looking past his height deficit…lol….until that moment. Okay, I was struggling with it but yeah, in kidding around he put his arm over my shoulder and was slightly lifted. :cry:

Exiled!

September 20th, 2011
10:19 am

@Kimmie?

I think there is one gay dude,Jason,complaining of lack of available men.

Wrong blog and he stumbled on here by mistake, I’m sure.

Cool Breeze

September 20th, 2011
10:21 am

I’m 5′5″ tall and I perfer my men to be taller than me. I wear my heels irregardless and they just need to have enough confidence to have me on their arm.

Currently I’m dating a gentleman who’s 5′8″ and he’s 10 foot tall as far as I’m concerned.

Height don’t make the Man – the Man makes the Man.

Celisea

September 20th, 2011
10:22 am

Kimmie I feel you there. I have a couple pairs of wedge hills that are pretty high and I can do those too. I have a beautiful pair of stilletos I bought for a formal dinner and I’ve only worn them once….once. They’re about 5 – 5 1/2 inches. I can do them again but I’m with you, the pain ain’t worth it…lol Too I was younger when I bought those and it was easy breezy walking in them then. I think I’ve had those about 10 years. Pulled them out a couple of months ago, was going to loan them to my niece but she saw the hell and was like um, no…no can do the heel. Surprisingly, they’re still sexy and stylish.

Ranter

September 20th, 2011
10:22 am

What is this “I need to feel protected” nonsense? Where are you ladies going that your lives are in constant peril? And do you really think your partner’s height is going to matter when a crook pulls a gun or knife on you?

Paltry Platitude

September 20th, 2011
10:23 am

She should be 36 inches tall with a flat head.

Celisea

September 20th, 2011
10:23 am

LOL…Ranter, I agree.