Dating: Longer the wait, sweeter the reward
Have you ever delayed gratification for something and discovered how amazing it was to finally receive the reward for being so patient? The anticipation has intensified the desire so much, you are basically guaranteed to enjoy it.
I know this concept is not a popular one in today’s “microwave society” where it’s all about the instant…instant gratification, instant reward, instant disappointment? It’s not easy putting things on a slow track to build intensity and connection, but it can be worthwhile.
Sometimes when you are dating someone you really like, the thought of slowing things down and pacing the relationship is challenging. You want to spend all your free time with them. You want to know everything there is to know about them and what they are about right away.
I think we forget how fun it is to let things progress without a master plan of how it will all unfold. How do you pace your dating relationships so they won’t burn out too fast?
In your experience, does the longer you wait and the more time you spend getting to know someone give the relationship a better shot at lasting?
Do you have a bad habit of rushing things in order to find out all that you can about someone instantly? What is the rush and why do we have a hard time waiting?
Why do we go for the instant relationships and then have a hard time with “foreplay” and relationship building?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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154 comments Add your comment
thewindwhistler
September 19th, 2011
7:11 am
That is a great question. I really like it. Anticipating some happening can be absolutely, incredibily , mind boggling, exhilirating and phenomenal. Those that need instantaneous gratification will never know the feeling. However, now that I have said that I forgot what it was.
GoldPig
September 19th, 2011
8:16 am
There are no guarantees. Waiting doesn’t mean it gets better. If it’s going to be bad, it’s going to be bad, whether you wait an hour or wait three months.
Dave
September 19th, 2011
8:44 am
No, it does not make it worth it. When I’m into someone, I like to experience time with them and learn about them. I can keep is slow as far as using the “L” word, but I’ll just get anxious to spend time with them. Also, if someone doesn’t want to spend a lot of time with me or is lackadasical with their enthusiasm, chances are good I’ll take it as not really into me and I’ll move on. They say that “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, but I say “out of sight, out of mind.” Also applicable is “You move your meat, you loose your seat.” If I don’t want to spend a lot of time with you, then that’s because i could care less about it.
Dave
September 19th, 2011
8:47 am
oops…lose your seat
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
8:54 am
Good morning all,
I think it’s good to pace yourself in a dating situation to ensure you’re making a point to get to know the other person and allow them to get to know you. However, that is not a sure fire 100% success rate way to ensure it all works out. Some things don’t take that long to uncover, others are only revealed after a significant amount of time. You just have to meet the right person, at the right time that is close to the same page that you are on. We sometimes get stuck on a particular situation or relationship due to the amount of time we’ve put into it. As much as I would cringe to say it, history is not a real reason to stay in a bad or unfavorable situation.
Mike P
September 19th, 2011
9:04 am
Good Morning All,
I agree with Dave’s post – That’s exactly how I feel about meeting someone new… if I like someone and find them interesting, I actually like to spend lots of time with them. Putting the brakes on meeting them in this manner serves only to put the brakes on my interest in them.
“Also, if someone doesn’t want to spend a lot of time with me or is lackadasical with their enthusiasm, chances are good I’ll take it as not really into me and I’ll move on. They say that “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, but I say “out of sight, out of mind.” ” -Dave…
One Word: EXACTLY!!!
Button
September 19th, 2011
9:12 am
I’ll piggy back on Dave and Mike P comments.
Good morning!
MsMarriedUp
September 19th, 2011
9:18 am
Yes, this is a great question. And good morning to all. Speaking of instant gratification, so often I skip that very pleasant part before going on with my thing.
At any rate, I don’t know so much about waiting, but I did use to have this list of what I didn’t want, namely an older man, and another thing which I leave off, but would clearly state my wants, keeping a few to myself. Welp, along comes guess who? A man checking off everything on that last I told myself I did not want!!!
Because I clearly stated what I didn’t want, he, yes, lied, strung me along, but now here we are…some many, many years later…me now MsMarriedUp;-) oh my goodness if only I had enough space to share the tales!!!
At any rate, and someone already said it, there are no guarantees.
MsMarriedUp
September 19th, 2011
9:23 am
…oops, one more thing.
I only stated this because I see waiting as a rule. There are no rules in dating (from my experience), because there are no guarantees.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
9:39 am
Where is everybody?
Leggs
Purp
Swiss
Randyt
Former Dan
SC
Dreams
Exiled
and many many more…
abc
September 19th, 2011
9:41 am
As far as actually getting to know someone, holding back doesn’t serve any benefit. If you’re really talking about holding off on having sex, I can get with that. I recently advised a friend of mine to not give it up on the next guy for at least 2 months. She tends to give it up immediately, and the guys tend to take her for granted and not very seriously after that.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
9:47 am
abc – About how long does it take to go downhill after she gives it up? Is it a pretty rapid happening?
abc
September 19th, 2011
9:48 am
It’s pretty much immediately. ‘Course, her choices in men are not all that great either. She’s a good friend too, the list of guys I need to beat up is pretty long.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
9:53 am
abc – You don’t have any decent guy friends that you think would make a good partner or have good potential for your lady friend? I know it’s a risk taken when you try to put two folks together but didn’t know if you had considered it all…
abc
September 19th, 2011
10:01 am
I know plenty of techie types, but that’s not what floats her boat. Something about the azzholes is appealing to her, I guess.
Mr_NYC
September 19th, 2011
10:04 am
Good morning all – time does allow opportunity for some deeper more important issues to be revealed; however arbitrary timetables may do nothing more than satisfy a fake sense of security
Side note – Breaking Bad, OK they took out the cartel, that was a bold gutsy move, what in the world is next.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
10:04 am
Here I am, SlimNu.
Had to eat my frosted flakes quickly before they became soggy. Can’t do soggy cereal. Yummy, haven’t had a bowl of cereal since the beginning of the year.
Now that I’m getting back into the dating world, I have no intention of getting into bed with anyone too fast. What’s fast? Probably the next month or two. I want to spend time getting to know you and you me without the dance under the sheets. Of course this doesn’t necessarily mean the wait will make the “do” sweeter, but it will make it “right” for me! Heck, if I wanted to just jump in the sheets, I could have done that a long time ago. I’m looking for substance, not a deposit!
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
10:05 am
Ooops, great post Dave.
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
10:08 am
Good morning (few) folks…lol
For me when the vibing is good, become intimate is only natural and next. With that being said, I tend to want to pace a bit because I don’t want to be under the gun to perform sexually, I don’t want to send mix signals and I don’t want a person either bailing or getting offend when I won’t engage early on. I have found when truly vibing and on a good path the person doesn’t seem to mind the pace. There much scenary to take in when taking the longer route which can be a good distraction without folks getting anxious or up in arms.
I think where there’s something really there you can afford to pace yourself, you just have to be smart about the pace. Not playing games or putting a person off but rather getting to the next level at the right time….for both.
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
10:09 am
becoming and offended
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
10:12 am
You don’t have to hold back per se but I agree that gratification (in most things) comes when some solid exists…that’s physical, spiritual, emotional. Just jumping the gun all willy nilly with no forethought and more so on implus just ain’t exactly smart. Some folks have taken the gamble and won but IMO that’s what it is…a gamble.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
10:12 am
Leggs – I was craving some Frosted Flakes and bananas last night. I can’t even recall the last time I had some cereal.
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
10:12 am
Back to work for now
kimmie
September 19th, 2011
10:14 am
Morning All!
Slim, you forgot me!
On topic – I say take your time, but not too much time. Yes, things are quite instant nowadays, but there is a fine line. Some folks can drag things out TOO long and what was a slow burning flame is now just fading smoke. It doesn’t take that long to know if this is someone you want to build a future with. Deciding if the 2 of you have chemistry also doesn’t take long. You can talk until you are blue in the face, and see each other every day, but if the person does not do it for you, they just don’t. So yeah, take your time, do your due diligence, but don’t drag your feet either. Life is short and time waits for no one.
NYC – We dvr’d Breaking Bad to watch the game, so we’ll probably watch it tonight.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
10:21 am
kimmie – Don’t think of it as ‘forgotten’…you know I’m part of the AARP group now so let’s just blame that on the super premature case of Alzheimers
No luv lost I hope 
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
10:21 am
@SlimNU ~ that’s why it was so good. Just wished I had a bigger bowl.
@kimmie ~ exactly, take your time, but not too much time.
kimmie
September 19th, 2011
10:26 am
Slim – Just messin witcha!LOL!!
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
10:41 am
kimmie – I know
My calf muscles hurt
O/T: It’s supposed to rain pretty much the rest of the week and get cooler, so that’s obviously going to ruin my chances to run in the morning. Anyone know of a good (reasonably priced) workout video that I could use to do on the rainy days?
Mike P
September 19th, 2011
10:56 am
@SlimUno: Hip-Hop Abs video by Shawn Tee… I find that its the best quick workout video that offers a real workout.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:01 am
Mike P – I was googling some of his vids this past weekend. I’ll need to find one that’s in my budget because I pulled up a whole kit of his that was almost $200.
Mike P
September 19th, 2011
11:04 am
don’t get the whole kit, just get his first set, two DVDs I think. I haven’t tried any of he newer videos, so I can’t vouch for them.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:08 am
Cool beans, thanks
So what did all yall good folks do this past weekend, if anything? I pretty much chilled and ran. I had one of those stay-in-the-house weekends.
Mike P
September 19th, 2011
11:17 am
Rested, ate well, slept, went bike riding, and was invited to a friend’s church.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
11:19 am
Went to a fight party (if you can call it a fight), took child to modeling class, mopping, sweeping, doing laundry to top it off with ribs and corn on the cobb on the grill. It was a great weekend (lol)….
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:21 am
I don’t know what someone just heated up in the microwave but it smells like Little Tiajuana up in here…smell like grilled pico de gallo & jalapeno peppers. Now i have a strong desire for a margarita.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:24 am
Mike P – You said you got invited to a friends church but did you go? lol
Leggs – mmm ribs sound good. I was going to do some steaks but the beau and I ended up going out to eat and guess what he orders…a dayum steak. So I just seasoned them and put them in the freezer to make later on in the week. I ended up making cream of mushroom chicken, string beans and potatoes last night.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
11:28 am
I love, love, love cream of mushroom chicken with rice and broccoli. One of my favorite meals.
@SlimNU ~ I ate 2 bones yesterday, rug rat ate 3 then ex dropped by and ate 4. She took the other 4 bones for lunch today. I just knew I would be having ribs for dinner tonight (lol). NOT!
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
11:29 am
O/T: Anyone here ever eaten at Yeah Burger on Virginia Highland?
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:31 am
Leggs – I usually have mine with the chicken flavored Uncle Ben’s rice and broccoli but the beau wanted taters and string beans lol And dontcha just hate when you have your mouth all watering for some good leftovers, only to discover it just ain’t bout to happen? lol So when we went grocery shopping, please tell me why he picks out the thickest dayum steaks he could find. So lawd knows how tender these things will turn out when I finally fix them. Fanga’s crossed. *sigh*
abc
September 19th, 2011
11:39 am
I love, love, love cream of mushroom chicken with rice and broccoli. One of my favorite meals.
Sounds like bachelor food.
So when we went grocery shopping, please tell me why he picks out the thickest dayum steaks he could find.
If it’s a filet, getting a cut from the thick side of the slab is the best part of the cut. When grilling, you have to do top and bottom, and then put it up on each side too, length of time for each of the 4 sides based on how you like it.
Mike P
September 19th, 2011
11:39 am
@Slim: Yup, we went together, imma just say this… it wasn’t at all what I expected.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
11:40 am
Tenderize them the old fashioned way, poke holes in them with a fork all over the steak (repeatedly) before seasoning, or you can use one of those fancy tenderizer tools (LOL).
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:42 am
Mike P – I sense that you don’t care to elaborate on the experience of what you expected versus what actually happened? lol
abc – How does cream of mushroom chicken sound like bachelor food?
Leggs – Yeah, I seasoned and poked them suckas pretty well. Whenever I make them this week, i’ll let yall know how they turned out.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
11:47 am
@abc ~ I was dating this guy back in the 80’s and he made that meal for me. I was impressed. Been making it ever since.
Mr_NYC
September 19th, 2011
11:51 am
@Slim, my good steak tip — get those steaks in your favorite marinade about at least 4 hours before cooking. And let them sit at least 20 mins in room temp before throwing them on the grill.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
11:54 am
The best meal i’ve had by the hands of a guy was probably some grilled fish. It was seasoned so well and cooked perfectly as fish should be cooked. It probably helped that he recalled that I wasn’t a big steak eater so even though he made me fish, he made himsef a steak. I was impressed at the thoughtfulness and how he had everything set up
Button
September 19th, 2011
11:55 am
I was sick Saturday and Sunday, so I stayed in and watched seasons 3 thru 7 of Everybody Loves Raymond and season one and two of Martin Lawrence.
abc
September 19th, 2011
12:02 pm
It sounds like bachelor food because it’s fast, easy, simple — doesn’t look like much on the plate, but who cares? Kind of like when I was in college (and po!) I’d make things like rice with chunky soup dumped on top of it. A Pakistani roommate convinced me to ditch the minute rice for real rice, these days I have preference for a wild/brown mixture. But I haven’t done the chunky soup bit since I was a college kid.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
12:03 pm
@Button, glad you’re feel better, or at least a little better but that made me laugh. I think I’ve seen every episode of Everybody Loves Raymond.
For Real
September 19th, 2011
12:04 pm
What up blog fam!!!
On topic: It ain’t rocket science, know your dating pace and then find someone that has the same pace.
abc: It’s not how quickly your friend gives up the nappy dugout that’s the problem it’s her but you probably already know that.
Slim: Run around coffee table 500 times really fast. Oh and don’t ever, eva, eva poke your meat.
abc
September 19th, 2011
12:05 pm
Shoot, get the meat guys at Kroger to cut you filets, specify 10 oz from the small tapered side so they wind up being 3-4 inches thick. It won’t be tough. You can’t get a better steak in town then that — well, at least it’s like that at the Kroger in our hood.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
12:12 pm
nappy dugout…I’ve heard it all.
Button
September 19th, 2011
12:22 pm
Leggs I LOVE me some ELR, they are all a bunch of hoots!
Button
September 19th, 2011
12:23 pm
And YES I do feel better @ Leggs, thanks!
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
12:36 pm
ARED says to tell all HELLO. The blog is too distracting and she’s concentrating on her work.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
12:49 pm
well, at least it’s like that at the Kroger in our hood.
abc – For whatever reason, maybe your personality, but that just sounded so wrong coming from you…sort of how it sounds when a person tries to curse for the first time lol
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
1:09 pm
abc
September 19th, 2011
1:12 pm
I suppose… it’s a beautiful golf/swim/tennis next to the lake, but — it’s the hood! Nice hood.,
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
1:20 pm
There’s nothing wrong with that
I can’t wait until Street of Dreams opens up for this fall. I try to go to it every time it’s here in the Atlanta area.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
1:35 pm
“Fools Rush In”
Off topic: What do you all think of the Fight, also good game Falcons except for Sam Baker!
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
1:40 pm
Purp – I heard about the fight but didn’t see it. From what I hear, many folks have lost respect for Mayweather. The antics described reminds me of when Tyson would start to feel he was losing and start some low blow or trifling moves. At this point, it’s really hard for me to watch boxing since I get more action with the mixed martial arts bouts UFC
Purp
September 19th, 2011
1:41 pm
Slim, at the end of the day I guess it was a legal move but I am no longer a fan of Mayweather because it was a punk move. I enjoyed the Falcons game much more!
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
1:46 pm
I caught most of the Falcons game but towards the end it was watching me. That’s what I get for sipping on Green Sleepy Time tea. Either way, I’m glad we got a win.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
1:49 pm
…but I did have about 3 Heinekens before the tea…so you know that first morning drain was a doozy!
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:00 pm
@PR ~ I saw the fight and here’s my take:
Merriweather had a small window of opportunity and he ceased it. Why Ortiz thought it prudent to apologize for the head butt with a small hug in the middle of the ring is beyond my comprehension. The fight was still in progress. Before he knew it he was smelling the canvas. Although the head butt was definitely uncalled for, Merriweather took advantage and knocked his block off. Should he have, ummmm, a fight was going on. The bell handn’t rung and so he sucker punched him. No matter how you slice it, both put their character on the line. Not only that, everyone knows Merriweather can be a grimy fighter. But man, he has some power in those punches. I was jumping up and down screaming because I couldn’t believe my eyes. As the commentators stated, he was legally in the right to do what he did. Should he have been a gentlemen and waited? All I can say is there aren’t any gentlemen in the ring….
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
2:06 pm
Leggs – I like the way you described it…you have a point
I need a nap
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:20 pm
Although this is a far stretch, it’s what first popped in my head watching Mayweather. Words from Enimen “Lose Yourself”
Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted in one moment
Would you capture it or just let it slip?
******
You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo
LOL…that’s how I looked at Mayweather….
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
2:23 pm
LOL
Friend or Foe
September 19th, 2011
2:26 pm
What’s happened to the action here? This was my distraction from a crazy work day.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
2:31 pm
Leggs, did the ref even call time was back in after they touched gloves? And Ortiz got points deducted for his head butt…rightfully so. I think he snuck him because Ortiz was giving him nmore of a fight than he bargined for.
Slim, LOL
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
2:32 pm
Protect yourself at all times.
Great write-up, Leggs!
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
2:35 pm
For Real – I feel the same way you do and i’m damn near about to doze off at my desk. I need a pick-me-up
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:36 pm
I definitely agree that Ortiz got the better of him in Round 3. He nearly pummeled him the entire 3 mins. But, I don’t think he was giving him more than he bargained for. If the fight continued, I believe Mayweather would have knocked him down again. Remember, he was down Round 1 (but may have been more a slip than a punch). I think the head butt ignited pure disgust and he wanted a chance to knock him down. Like cards, you have to count the cards that have already fallen and stay on our toes. Mayweather remembered, Ortiz didn’t…
Ok, not a good comparison to cards, but hopefully you got my drift…
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:41 pm
Thanks SlimNu/SexyC.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
2:41 pm
Leggs, Mayweather won the fight. But I bet you he will not get that rematch. If the fight would have went the distance Oritiz would have won it. But hey he won’t fight Pacman, but he will get in larry Merchants face, his girlfriends, face his baby momma’s face and parking attendants face’s. But he won’t get in anyone’s face or in Ortiz’s because he knows he might get beat.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:42 pm
@PR ~ to answer your question, so much was going on and so much noise where I was, I don’t know if he called time back in. But, since the fight was still in progress I could only surmise that he did.
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
2:46 pm
Is Beyonce a role model?
http://yeahshesaidit.com/2011/08/30/why-beyonce-is-a-role-model-in-my-eyes/
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:47 pm
@PR ~ I agree, he keeps running from Pacman. He needs to step up and make that fight happen. And, I agree again that a rematch will not be in the pipeline. And, when Mayweather said he could have a “rematch,” he looked straight at his manager (or whoever it was) like, “yeah right, this ain’t gonna happen again.”
…”he knows he might get beat.” This applies to everyone except for two boxers I know who always KNEW they would always win….Muhammed Ali and Laila Ali. All others, always a chance you might get beat.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
2:50 pm
Leggs, you should check out the boxing forums. Interesting reading.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
2:53 pm
I meant to look for one this morning, but got a little busy.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
2:55 pm
The boxing community including “major” boxers have lost a bunch of respect for Mayweather
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
2:57 pm
I’ve been blessed with seeing Laila fight when she came to ATL…that woman know she has some skillz. I also like the fact that she still seems feminine aside from such a male-dominated hard core sport.
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:05 pm
Sexxycool?
I don’t think the sisters feel that blog post on Beyonce.
They like it raw,too too much and not having babies before marriage would not be possible.
Raw is the Devil!
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:05 pm
@SlimUno ~ that woman can BOX! No doubt. She’s a thinker, strategic, plannner, confident, and doesn’t get riled by the opponent. She’s a smart boxer!
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:10 pm
I think you sit around just thinking up ways that you can be as crass and as offensive to women as possible. I would almost think that you don’t like women in general.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:11 pm
Leggs – I felt bad for the chick she fought that was from somewhere in Africa. That chick was talking mad trash and left looking like she got stung by 50 bees. Girl looked BAD lol I was just waiting for Chris Tucker to jump in the ring and tell her she got knocked the eff out! lol
SC – In regards to Beyonce, um, she can be a role model to whomever if they so chose. But we have no idea what has gone on behind the scenes of her life, only what is visible to the public. I would say that she is a good match since you don’t hear too much negative things about her or see her acting like an ass. Even with her being married and then pregnant, doesn’t mean a little girl who looks up to her will not want to go out and get preggo too.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:15 pm
@SlimUno ~ are you talking about the light-skinned mannish chick with the braids who didn’t speak much English and her husband spoke for her? If so, Ali tore her apart. She was doomed as soon as she stepped into the ring.
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:16 pm
u can think whatever u like
just my opinion on ur post
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:16 pm
SC – Don’t pay him no mind…He hasn’t been up in here all day but as soon as he finds some way to twist a comment into something sexually related, then he pops up…(no pun intended) He was all the way to the left on that. They put those signs up in pet shops & zoo’s for a reason…DON’T FEED THE BEARS lol
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:18 pm
Leggs – She was a little on the dark side…she didn’t speak very great English but she definitely looked mannish lol
TenderRoni
September 19th, 2011
3:19 pm
Afternoon All,
When I read the topic, the first thing that came to mind was: The Tortisie and the Hare. Slow and steady wins the race.
I don’t particularly like Mayweather, but I think he got even in this situation. I mean how you gonna head-butt someone in a fight. Not only once but a couple of times. I think the ref did put the fight back into play, but turned his head to get the time clock straight, but as soon as he called the fight back in Mayweather made his move. He was caculating I tell you that.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:20 pm
Ok, we must be talking about 2 different she.man’s. I can see her clearly. She.man all the way (but she was married).
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:21 pm
Happy Gilmore’s momma died.
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:21 pm
Correction – GRANDmother…
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:22 pm
Holyfield had an issue with head butting…I’m not sure if it was due to his height and trying to duck low but that head has a lot of hits on it.
I am looking forward to some trash tv tonight…anyone else going to pop in for the Charlie Sheen Roast tonight?
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:24 pm
“He was caculating I tell you that.” – Exactly TenderRoni. Anybody should have seen he was up to something. Did you notice him walking back to Ortiz with his forehead all wrinkled up. Sure sign he was gonna get even and not come in for a freaking hug. I saw it and said something. Next thing I know, KA POW! Pay attention and you might stay on your feet! Ortiz dropped his guard at a crucial moment in the fight.
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:25 pm
Slim?
so somebody really needs a WHOLE day Pass to make a comment in blogsville?
and ur comment on Beyonce is very negative..’.doesn’t mean a little girl who looks up ….go out and get preggo too’ what hogwash is that to say on a lady is who has been nothing but classy get whole life?
Some black people????? Smdh
Looks like being an unmarried black woman with 4 babies from 4 different dads is in vogue for some!!
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:25 pm
I could go for that kind of laughing, Slim. What time and channel?
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:26 pm
Nothing but classy Her whole life
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:26 pm
@Ex ~ SC didn’t say anything along those lines. And, how do you know Beyonce has been classy her whole life?
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:27 pm
http://www.ajc.com/news/cobb/marietta-man-hope-student-1184177.html
A Cobb County couple plan to get married and buy a house with their $250,000 winnings in a Georgia lottery game…The couple has three children ages 10, 12, and 13.
And they are just now getting married? This report kind of illustrates the point the author was trying to make with the Beyonce post.
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:29 pm
Leggs?
The Beyonce we know in public versus the public life of the other black women out there.
Nobody is perfect but give the lady some credit for somebody in public that long.
Black people sink other black people.
I can’t believe that comment from Slim.
Surely!!
that’s hate!
TenderRoni
September 19th, 2011
3:30 pm
@Leggs, Mayweather had a serious look on his face, he was clearly still upset about head-butting. He hit Ortiz once that completely caught him off guard, and the second one he was down for the count. It was pretty funny actually!
But why was Ortiz smiling so much, even after he got knocked down. In the back of my mind I was thinking this fight was rigged
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:30 pm
Exiled – I didn’t say anything negative about Beyonce…I specifically said, She would be a good match as a role model since we do not hear about her acting an ass. And it’s true that just because a celebrity is married then has kids, doesn’t mean a little girl would recognize her marriage as opposed to be more impressed by the pregnancy. Get it skrait tanto
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
3:32 pm
They like it raw,too too much and not having babies before marriage would not be possible.
The moment I read this I thought, this joker is about as crass as they come….ahead of someone else referencing “crass.” That being said, I must be right… Something must ring true since I wasn’t the only one that said it..lol
All I can rhetorically ask is…..seriously dude?
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:32 pm
Slim?
role model means role model
How can u have somebody as ur role model and then do the opposite?
U get str8 sli
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:33 pm
Regardless of any details of her private life, publicly, she has set a fairly decent example.
Diverse career.
Personal success.
Dated for a long time.
Married.
Now baby.
Keeps a lot of her private life out of the press.
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:33 pm
Learn to appreciate good!
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:34 pm
Leggs – It should be on Comedy Central at 10 I believe…
Exiled!
September 19th, 2011
3:35 pm
SexxyCool!
3:33
U my friend Again! Lol
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:37 pm
You’re still crass. (lol)
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:37 pm
Exiled – There isn’t any hate being spewed from this side of the keyboard. Get THAT straight.
I must really be missing something here.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:37 pm
@Ex ~ I haven’t said anything against Beyonce. Just working with the words you typed.
And, I want to appreciate GREAT not good (lol). Just messing with you.
Thanks, SlimUno!
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:37 pm
And another thing…My race has nothing to do with what I said.
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:41 pm
How wrong would I be for sending a separation notice to a terminated employee with a stamp that says “Celebrate!”?
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:43 pm
SC – OUCH!
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
3:45 pm
Now, I’ve got to go to the post office just to pay the postage on this ONE letter….sheesh….
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:45 pm
@TenderRoni ~ May… was still upset and when he punched him the first time, I don’t think he thought about hitting him a second time, but then something clicked in his head (his window of opp) and he went for it.
When I saw Ortiz smiling I immediately thought he was smiling behind shame. There are many types of smiles and his was masking his stupidity (IMO).
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
3:47 pm
That’s funny, SC! Perhaps they would look at it as a time to celebrate that window closing and another one opening???
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:48 pm
That’s like getting fired on your day off lol
Purp
September 19th, 2011
3:54 pm
That’s not the reason he was smiling. He was smiling because he had darn near the whole arena cheering for him still and he heard Mayweather make an ass of himself during the interview also.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
3:59 pm
Leggs – I saw a little clip of the roast where Mike Tyson is speaking. I was sitting there waiting for the subtitles to pop up at the bottom of the screen because I had NO idea what he was saying.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:04 pm
Tks PR. That was what I was thinking behind his smile.
@SlimUno ~ that’s even funnier, subtitles.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:06 pm
After that Mike Tyson rant on the Sheen roast the next lady said she was waiting on an interpreter
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
4:09 pm
I’m going to Tivo them both since I will probably be asleep.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
4:10 pm
I think Dancing with the Stars begins tonight too
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:11 pm
Yep, we get to see what Chaz and Nancy Grace is working with.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
4:19 pm
Who all is supposed to be on there Leggs?
GiGi
September 19th, 2011
4:22 pm
I think this relates to the topic…I met a got online about a month ago. We talked on the phone every day for a week and half before our first date. We asked the preninent questions to establish each others intentions. We both are seeking relationship that would lead to marriage. Before the first date he told me he thinks I’m the one. I was hesistant, I told him we need to take our time to get to know one another. He said he can see himself committing to me in a months time. I became even more hesistent with his forwardness to rush into a relationship. He is nice guy, we seemed to have a lot in common. I agreed to continue to on the first date though with my hestitation. First meet/date was a blast, chemistry was there, conversation was amazing, and we had a fun and relazing afternoon together. Later that night as he consistantly has called me, he called and he explained some things from his past. He lost his business due to the econmony, which resulted in him losing his vechile. He told me is rebuilding his career and he is living with a friend. My first thought was here is man that has come a long way and made many strides to get back on track. I still was hestitant though, because I’m used to a man having a car and his own place. Those are the basics. But I continued, I wanted to see where this could or would go. But I retierated we needed to take it slow. I agreed to a second date, I was looking forward to seeing him. The date started out really good, we meet for a late lunch near a shopping area, we shopped after lunch, strolling and talking. We decided to go for drinks and talk more. Thats when he shared something with me that just completetly threw me off guard. He told me he lied, that he is not living with a friend. But he is living in a shelter because after he lost everything he became homeless. Am I wrong for NOT wanting to continue pursuing a relationship with him. He said he wants me to be patient and meet half way. But I told him thats more than half way, you don’t have the basics. Its a lot to take on in the start of a relationship. All that to say, I’m glad I took my time.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:27 pm
Chaz Bono
Nancy Gracy
A.J.Martinez. He’s a burn victim from fighting in the war (40% of his body, including his face). He landed a gig on All My Children
Metta World Peach, f/k/a Ron Artest
Rickie Lake
Esabetta Canalis (George Cloony’s recent ex)
Kristin Cavallari
Rob Kardashian
Chynna Phillips
David Arquette
Carson Kressley
Hope Solo (professional soccer)
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:30 pm
WOW, that’s a lot GiGi. Basics are essential. I commend him that he’s trying to get back on his feet, but what in the world did he do to lose everything. Ummmmm, literally scratching my head….
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:32 pm
GIGI how was a homeless man shopping? Where did you meet him? Don’t take in a charity case in him. He is looking for a place to move in to. He will probably ruin your credit drink all your liquor and get your pregnant. On the other hand he may be a good guy, but that doesn’t mean you should date him. The only person a homeless person should be dating is another homeless person.
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:32 pm
GiGi – Am I wrong for NOT wanting to continue pursuing a relationship with him.
Hook, line and sinker, hoodwinked, bamboozled. If he had honest intentions why not say that first and foremost and take a gamble on a woman hanging in there with you. Why pull the okie doke and THEN come with a laundry list or problems. See that’s why I don’t frequent those sites. There may be some well intentioned folks out there but for every 10 there’s 9 that would questionable. Too much rift raft to weed through.
Drop that joker and move on. He’s looking for his comeuppance. If he’s in a shelter he shouldn’t be trying to date. He should concentrating on getting on his feet…alone. Not by way of somebody allowing him to lean on them.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:33 pm
Hope Solo has an awesome body!
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:34 pm
Nancy Grace not so much.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:35 pm
Homeless shelters have the internet? Well at least we know GIGI is not a gold digger
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
4:35 pm
GiGi – hell naw…(said like Whitney Houston during a Bobby and Whitney episode.)
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:36 pm
He said he wants me to be patient and meet half way.
In your case GiGi, that’s all the way.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:39 pm
“…we meet for a late lunch near a shopping area, we shopped after lunch, strolling and talking.” Who bought what?
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:40 pm
Meaning did both of you shop or did YOU shop?
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
4:41 pm
GiGi – Um…as much as it would be somewhat commendable to keep this guy as a prospect but his focus should probably be him right now, not dating. There really seems to be something strange about him first looking for potential matches on a dating website if he is, in fact, homeless. Then to go shopping, pressing you to be serious or saying he knows he can fall for you within 30 days…all that just sounds like RED FLAGS. He doesn’t have the basics so it’s really going to be hard to see if he likes you for you or likes you for a potential saving grace.
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:44 pm
And not trying to knock anybody for having hard circumstances…given the state of the economy sometimes I believe we’re just a decision away (cause they laid off some folks here Thursday)…wonder how that was decided. But truthfully to pull a person in your scambled life is just not a good show. Be it man or woman, if there are issues such as trying to get back on your feet, stay off the dating sites and do the needful for getting back on your feet. Make friends in places and with people you meet in case you need to call in a favor or in case they have something they can hand off to you as a friend of a favor. That’s what I would think a person would be concentrating on during a hardship.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:45 pm
GiGi you bought him a shirt didn’t you?
He is probably married. Did he have a homeless smell?
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:45 pm
GiGi did you leave?
SexyCool
September 19th, 2011
4:46 pm
That’s like my gf who had a brother in rehab and met someone while she was visiting him.
How the hell do you meet someone who is a patient at a rehab clinic?
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
4:46 pm
And to add, if I were a guy, I think I wouldn’t feel right trying to date until I had myself more together…Doesn’t that fall into a Man Pride Law somewhere???
Purp
September 19th, 2011
4:47 pm
SexyCool, that is like a woman visiting her brother in jail and she falls in love with an inmate
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:48 pm
It’s trouble enough with two people trying to mesh as one or be compatible or find a commonality…the give and take of it all. Heck you don’t need that and then all those extra unrelated relationship problems.
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:50 pm
What say you GiGi?
Celisea
September 19th, 2011
4:51 pm
Guess all that GiGi was thinking and knew to be the right thing to do has been said. She’s gone I see.
Leggs
September 19th, 2011
4:56 pm
Good night.
Be a con or be a man…you can’t be both ~ TV Show
I likes that. Didn’t think I would use it so soon.
SlimUno
September 19th, 2011
5:00 pm
abc
September 19th, 2011
5:03 pm
Speaking of homelessness: almost 19% of people in Georgia live below the poverty line. That’s nearly 1 in 5. It’s nearly 1 in 4 in Mississippi. Southern states from Georgia to Texas lead the nation in poverty. Sad.
Purp
September 19th, 2011
5:12 pm
I read something about a tent city some where. All of these bad on luck people were living in tents out in the woods. At least over 100 families, some have been there for over 18 months