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Dating: Longer the wait, sweeter the reward

Have you ever delayed gratification for something and discovered how amazing it was to finally receive the reward for being so patient? The anticipation has intensified the desire so much, you are basically guaranteed to enjoy it.

I know this concept is not a popular one in today’s “microwave society” where it’s all about the instant…instant gratification, instant reward, instant disappointment? It’s not easy putting things on a slow track to build intensity and connection, but it can be worthwhile.

Sometimes when you are dating someone you really like, the thought of slowing things down and pacing the relationship is challenging. You want to spend all your free time with them. You want to know everything there is to know about them and what they are about right away.

I think we forget how fun it is to let things progress without a master plan of how it will all unfold. How do you pace your dating relationships so they won’t burn out too fast?

In your experience, does the longer you wait and the more time you spend getting to know someone give the relationship a better shot at lasting?

Do you have a bad habit of rushing things in order to find out all that you can about someone instantly? What is the rush and why do we have a hard time waiting?

Why do we go for the instant relationships and then have a hard time with “foreplay” and relationship building?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

154 comments Add your comment

Leggs

September 19th, 2011
4:56 pm

Good night.

Be a con or be a man…you can’t be both ~ TV Show

I likes that. Didn’t think I would use it so soon.

SlimUno

September 19th, 2011
5:00 pm

abc

September 19th, 2011
5:03 pm

Speaking of homelessness: almost 19% of people in Georgia live below the poverty line. That’s nearly 1 in 5. It’s nearly 1 in 4 in Mississippi. Southern states from Georgia to Texas lead the nation in poverty. Sad.

Purp

September 19th, 2011
5:12 pm

I read something about a tent city some where. All of these bad on luck people were living in tents out in the woods. At least over 100 families, some have been there for over 18 months