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Should courting make a comeback?

I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, people. Apparently, that thing single people do with each other is not courting. You can blame it on friends with benefits, hooking up on the first date, and technology. These are a few of the things that get in the way of good old fashioned courting.

I was at a taping of a new show, Verses and Flow, that is going to be airing soon, hosted by Hill Harper. I was chatting with a photographer who was an older gentleman. He mentioned that his son should have been there to meet a nice lady. He said he has tried to show his son that courting a woman is still necessary.

I began to think about the last couple of times I met a guy and how he asked me out. How we communicated and how things got started. Things have changed since the days of courting, but so much else has too. Should courting make a comeback? Is there room for courting? Are there benefits to it?

What do you think the difference is between courting and dating? Or is there really a difference at all?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

236 comments Add your comment

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
2:30 pm

Ding, ding, DING! Both parties go to neutral corners. We don’t know what most have on this blog, so why argue about it. If they have it fine. If they want to flaunt it, fine. If anyone sounds crazy or of immoral repute, that’s on them as well.

That chick’s tongue looks nasty and will make we run from bi-curiousity.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
2:32 pm

Slim / Jake — I mean, I’ve got some skills myself, but that chick could lick your neck, your back, your puddy and your crack all at the same d@mn time :lol:

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
2:44 pm

make ME run…

Aunt Smoky

September 15th, 2011
2:50 pm

Naw she would not make me change my mind about ish.

Now that Draya chick on Basketball Wives LA, that is a sexy bish. Might be a lil whorish, but she sexy.

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:04 pm

Aunt Smoky…um….I haven’t really been paying attention the last few dadys and please don’t get offended buy are you male or female?

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 15th, 2011
3:04 pm

I would happily stand there and take my tongue-lashing from her…lol

Naturallyk

September 15th, 2011
3:06 pm

I think courting means you have intentions to marry so a man is more serious and intentional about how you are pursuing a woman. Dating is just casual fun.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:11 pm

With a moniker of Aunt, perhaps you might want to know if she’s transgendered. My Draya can be sexy. That white dress/shirt she had on was sexy. Have to give the girl her props.

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:13 pm

Leggs – well, I actually started to throw in a shem, cross dresser and/or transgendered but I figured I’d start small and work my way up. lol

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:17 pm

Oops got a little carried away I see. Did not mean to type “My Draya” cuz I will never have her nor she me (lol)…

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:18 pm

@SlimNu ~ leave it to me go straight to the point (lol).

cba

September 15th, 2011
3:21 pm

I’m trying to figure out those two dots at the end of that long azz thang

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:21 pm

Did not mean to type “My Draya” cuz I will never have her nor she me

Leggs – I was shole trying to wrap my head around the My Draya part. I mean I have no problem giving a chick some props but…youknowutimean lol And yeah, I suppose you were demonstrating Straight shot, no chaser ;-)

Willie Dynamite

September 15th, 2011
3:22 pm

Afternoon All,

She’s back………

On topic – Courting is definitely not dead. It is dead to the few that haven’t been courted. Of course in this day and age courting has changed (some say for the worse). I think tho that for a successful relationship it has to be some level of courting going on between both parties.

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:22 pm

…then I wondered if You were Aunt Smoky too :???:

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:30 pm

Nope. Not hiding behind a moniker….Leggs is my name, straight shooter all day, err day! That you can bank on.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:34 pm

Aunt Smoky, Aunt Smoky, come tell these fine folk who you are, man, woman, child or Chaz.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:39 pm

I was just having fun, don’t mind my silliness. I known to be very corny and silly. I worked very hard this morning. Now I would love a nice, very cold beer!

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:40 pm

:lol: Since my inquiry about the sex ran her, sher, him,shim off

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:42 pm

Naw, I don’t think so. Aunt Smoky has backbone. She may just be sitting in the cut taking a few tokes.

Fion

September 15th, 2011
3:44 pm

@Leggs
Let me ask you this. Do you think its un-lady like to drink beer out of the bottle.
Personally I think its sexy for a lady to drink beer out of the bottle.

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:46 pm

I meant to say, I GUESS my inquiry about the sex ran her, sher, him,shim off
oh well

Leggs seems like we have the run of the place anyway so maybe we can find the key to the bar

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:47 pm

@Fion ~ I have heard men say women shouldn’t drink beer out of a bottle. That first swig is good not matter what spigot it comes out from. Seriously, I don’t see anything wrong with it. You won’t find me holding my pinky finger out because my beer is in an ice cold mug.

kimmie

September 15th, 2011
3:48 pm

Fion, I know you asked Leggs, but I don’t think it’s unlady-like at all, in my world at least.

I do it, so it’s not unlady-like.LOL In fact, I prefer it cold, from a bottle. I think it stays colder that way, unless I have it out of one of those frozen mugs!

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:48 pm

I would love a neck/back massage right now. Can’t even remember the last time I had one. My shoulders are tight and sore. Lil leggs used to walk on my back, guess she’ll break it now.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:50 pm

Exactly, kimmie. It’s not unladylike because I do it. On point.

cba

September 15th, 2011
3:50 pm

Fion, I know you asked Leggs but now that you mentioned it, when my wife hold her head back and drink from a long neck bottle ……….yeah that’s somewhat sexy !!!

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
3:50 pm

Leggs – It’s probably munchies time

Fion – I’ll drink a beer out of a bottle or a mug… However, I feel a little masculine drinking it out of a beer mug. But at the same time I feel only slightly weird drinking out of a bottle in public…sort of the same feeling when eating a banana in public. I just feel like some creepy dude is sitting across the way thinking nasty thoughts due to the phallic shape of the bottle or banana and popsicles

Fion

September 15th, 2011
3:51 pm

Nah, any lady could answer. I’ve heard women say that as well, and just wanted to get a womans feelings/thoughts on that.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
3:51 pm

Everyone knows the proper way to drink beer is through a funnel.

kimmie

September 15th, 2011
3:52 pm

Leggs – I’ve been doing this 10-days on, 2 days off diet. This weekend will be my 2 days off. I’m gettin me a cold one this weekend!!

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:52 pm

Nothing going on but the rent is playing….words can apply to convo between Casual/No Scrubs/Worthit.

Fion

September 15th, 2011
3:53 pm

@Slim
It ain’t the banana. It’s them Daisy Dukes!!!!

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:53 pm

“Everyone knows the proper way to drink beer is through a funnel” doing a head stand….

Willie Dynamite

September 15th, 2011
3:54 pm

Fion – Leggs is NOT a fruh fruh type of chick at all. 100% Lady but cool as all get out.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:55 pm

Have a good sip for me, kimmie…Nevamind, I’m getting me a cold beer and 2 shots tomorrow!

Fion

September 15th, 2011
3:56 pm

Damn, Leggs I’m feelin’ warm all over. I know this is sudden, but let’s get married.

Fion

September 15th, 2011
3:56 pm

Just kidding.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:56 pm

Awwww, thank you WillieD. No fruh fruh, just girly without the petticoats, corsets and frilly fru fru stuff (lol).

kimmie

September 15th, 2011
3:58 pm

Fion – You gotta court Leggs! :wink:

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:58 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: {{cough, cough}} :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
3:58 pm

Speaking of shots…

I know I can’t be the only one that does this, but I kept getting weird looks from the bartenders while I was on vacation…

So, when you’re staying at an all-inclusive resort & you order drinks, does anyone else also order an extra shot or 2 of the primary liquor in whatever drink you ordered so you can dump the extra shot in & make the drink sufficiently strong? Or is it just me? :lol:

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
3:59 pm

Thank you, kimmie! Most definitely! And don’t worry, I will reciprocate with the “courting.” Courting should be a two-way street.

All that laughing and choking was for you, Fion!

Fion

September 15th, 2011
4:00 pm

@Kimmie
well I guess that knocked me out of the runnin. :)

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
4:00 pm

Fion – If I put on some dukes, you probably could see on the other side of me. LOL As stated before, I like to put a shot of Goose in my beer (heineken) This past weekend, the beau and i went to the movies and I brought the flask. :D

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
4:01 pm

Yes swiss, I’m known to do that. That extra shot pumps the drink to the way you like if you made it at home yourself.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
4:02 pm

Curious, why Fion, you don’t feel like courting anyone?

Fion

September 15th, 2011
4:02 pm

@Swiss
can’t say that I’ver done that one. Usually I try to drink all that FREE Liquor.

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
4:02 pm

swiss – That is not my normal practice but every now and then I’ll get an extra sidecar of whatever licka i’m already drankin..specially if it ain’t skrong enuff

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
4:04 pm

Leggs — Yeah… even when you tip well & ask them to hook you up, they never seem to get it as strong as you’d make it yourself. Of course, I could always send Mrs. Swiss to order the drinks, I suppose, then they’d really get hooked up. Might get hooked up with a roofie, though. :lol: