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Should courting make a comeback?

I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, people. Apparently, that thing single people do with each other is not courting. You can blame it on friends with benefits, hooking up on the first date, and technology. These are a few of the things that get in the way of good old fashioned courting.

I was at a taping of a new show, Verses and Flow, that is going to be airing soon, hosted by Hill Harper. I was chatting with a photographer who was an older gentleman. He mentioned that his son should have been there to meet a nice lady. He said he has tried to show his son that courting a woman is still necessary.

I began to think about the last couple of times I met a guy and how he asked me out. How we communicated and how things got started. Things have changed since the days of courting, but so much else has too. Should courting make a comeback? Is there room for courting? Are there benefits to it?

What do you think the difference is between courting and dating? Or is there really a difference at all?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

236 comments Add your comment

Lady Strange

September 15th, 2011
11:55 am

@I’mworthit – sounds like you’re only in to a guy for what he can buy for you or the money he has.

What matters to me is what’s on the inside, his heart, how he treats me and how he treats others. If he’s a happy person. Money & cars come and go.

I’m quite happy with my little Kia Rondo :) though I still want that ‘78 Trans-Am

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
11:56 am

@CBA ~ yes sir. It was placed there on purpose. Not like that IS fellow from yesteryear! :wink:

Casual observer

September 15th, 2011
12:04 pm

I’mworthit & No Scrubs…… How about you just pick up the Hundy he left on the the nightstand and go back down to the bar……. Make sure to wash your azz cause the next dude should at least get a clean coochie for his hard earned money……Tricks like you are the female half of the reason that the game is salted today…Finding someone to be withshould not be about money but when there are girls (yeah i said GIRLS) like you that allow a dude to lead with his wallet and that will get you payed for every time….

cba

September 15th, 2011
12:05 pm

For some reason, Trans-Am reminds me of Herschel Walker’s days at UGA

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
12:16 pm

Remember the 200SX. Me and my girls used to rent those cars often from Budget (lol)…

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
12:16 pm

Casual observer you make me laugh. I’m glad you said someone else was leaving the hundy, cuz we know yo’ broke a s s ain’t got s h i t. You talk a big game about Chops…. best believe the only Chop you know is the hooker and her right cross cuz you too broke to pay her. Take yo playa wanna be self right on back to the end of the line where you belong. Next.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
12:25 pm

WOW, I didn’t know mentioning a restaurant name was name dropping, esp when given a comparion to a relatively expensive steak vs. two steaks from Piggly Wiggly.

Leggs

September 15th, 2011
12:26 pm

comparison…

Into the Light

September 15th, 2011
12:33 pm

:shock:

O/T: How the french did I manage to get the flu in the summertime??? Sheesh.

I’m outta here, y’all have a good one.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
12:38 pm

Afternoon, folks.

Let’s see…

Courting comeback? Nah, it never left.

Cars… Eh, I don’t really care about luxury, but cruising around with the top down in the Jeep makes me happy.

Steaks… I’m sure your steaks are good, abc, but you’ve clearly never tasted the steaks from the grill on my deck, sir. :D

Casual observer

September 15th, 2011
12:39 pm

pssst…Scrub….your slip is showing…and your cab is waiting……and you might want to tell the driver to hurry before they lock the gates and you are forced to sleep OUTSIDE of the Jobcorp building on Westlake…

Aunt Smoky

September 15th, 2011
12:42 pm

ITL- I hope you feel better.

Dammmnnnnn! Casual went hard. Don’t hurt em Casual!

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
12:45 pm

Hey u Christians and thumpers, is pork meat cursed still?

Coz this left over pork chop I grilled last nite is some to go to Hell for!

chomping my fingers and licking my lips like LL right now.

Duuuulicious!!!!

Aunt Smoky

September 15th, 2011
12:47 pm

Now that’s how you calm folk the fugg down when they start bumpin their gums about what they have, how bad they are, and whatever the hell else they are boring the world with!

Aunt Smoky

September 15th, 2011
12:48 pm

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
12:49 pm

Hey Casual i see you know right where it is. i thought you look familiar. you the one they kicked out for being too stupid to breathe without help.

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
12:55 pm

Pat Robertson is ditching his wife of many many years coz she got Alzheimer’s disease!

Now,where do they train these Evangelists, I mean,business Christians,I mean Charlatans?

Or is he on Alzheimer’s hisself?

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
12:57 pm

tryna talk to me like you somebody. please. you ain’t nuthin’ ain’t got nuthin ain’t nevah gonna be nuthin. tryna name drop like that ish impress. i read you before casual. you an insecure man tryna make up in talk what you lack in yo draws.

Casual observer

September 15th, 2011
12:58 pm

I hope is doesn’t rain…..laying on burlap next to the fence is not attractive..plus that cheap and wool sweater smells funny when it gets wet…

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
1:03 pm

Casual??

bro,I tell u,always pay up ur hoes,never run them on credit coz one thing I know

u never win a public fight with a hoe

I guarantee u that. it don’t matter how fresh u think u are

U never win

:lol:

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
1:05 pm

please. it don’t stink no worse than your goodwill kicks with newspaper in the toes. and you might wanna think about some new draws. i know you ain’t got much in em, but you stank.

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
1:07 pm

lookin like a burnt vienna sausage in there

cba

September 15th, 2011
1:08 pm

Exiled, the sad part is that people give their hard earned money to people like Pat Robertson. I saw the headline, but didn’t want to waste time on ish like that.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
1:09 pm

Me.lo — Now, in fairness to Pat, let’s get the story right. He is not the one divorcing his wife because she got Alzheimer’s. He just told a caller on his show that the caller would be justified in divorcing his wife with Alzheimer’s, because the vow says “’til death do you part” and Alzheimer’s is “kind of a death.”

See, much better, right?

SexyCool

September 15th, 2011
1:12 pm

Meelow – that pork deal is a Muslim thing.

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
1:14 pm

@cba

churches and their leaders(most of them,esp the break aways) are unlike what we grew up on.

I don’t know how old u are cba but…..times have changed.

at my wife’s seventh day that I go to sometimes,they dress in minis and look fresher and hipper(wrd?) than most hip fashion shows!

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
1:15 pm

what kinda purse you carry Casual? u so moist i know you got one.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
1:17 pm

Pork is a no-no for Seventh Day Adventists, too.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 15th, 2011
1:17 pm

No Scrubs…its cool for a woman to have standards, but don’t miss the Cruise Ship trying to get on that Speed Boat…I am not a baller, however; I a responsible dude with a lil change on the low…I will go balls out in about 12 years, after I pay off this forclosed home that I expanded to increase its worth, finish ridin in this free and clear vehicle for another 5 years, and keep silently working on that net worth…too many women chase the flash dude in the rental, when the real money is in the quiet hands of us workin on the Slow Millions, the Own Something types…Silly Rabbits

SexyCool

September 15th, 2011
1:19 pm

Didn’t know that, Swiss. Learned something today.

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
1:19 pm

Sexxy?

even some Christians don’t eat pork,seventh day for example

including some Pentecostal ones

I grew up not eating pork as well and my folks are Christians

they caught that scripture where Jesus exorcised the man and his demons went to the pig..uknowwhstimtalkingabout Christians? :lol:

@Swiss? That’s messed up that interpretation right? Coming from him!

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
1:19 pm

Also, Orthodox Jews. Possibly some of the other Orthodox Christian variations, too.

Either way, Me.lo, enjoy that pork chop, bro. It won’t hurt you. :lol:

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
1:23 pm

So why do we all interpret the good books differently?

Even the Koran,there is no universality on it.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
1:23 pm

“That’s messed up that interpretation right? Coming from him!”

Me.lo — Coming from him (Pat Robertson), it doesn’t surprise me one bit. He’s a worthless piece of sh!t who does nothing but spew hateful BS and collect money from rubes.

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
1:25 pm

i dint hear jake say anything to you Casual Clown.

i like what you say jake and straight up i ain’t about material. i just commented today cuz i get sick of seein wanna bes like casual corn tryna act like they somethin they not.

Fion

September 15th, 2011
1:26 pm

@Exiled
Aye man, you got a light. I need to get the Incent started.

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
1:27 pm

Totally off topic…

I mentioned this a while back, but our “sister” company is in a hiring frenzy — particularly for software developers (PHP — Symphony exp a plus). If anybody know folks that are looking, send them my way. It’s an awesome place to work…

Celisea

September 15th, 2011
1:28 pm

So why do we all interpret the good books differently?

Cause you’re human. If the Holy Spirit interpets for you then you’d get it right. Remember God ain’t human.

Pork? Bless your food and eat it. Nothing to be refused as long as it’s blessed.

Exiled!

September 15th, 2011
1:28 pm

I don’t know why I’m seeing this visual and voice of Eddie Long saying and walking off stage:

And I haven’t thrown one stone yet!!! (walking off stage)

(as if we talking to him)

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 15th, 2011
1:33 pm

It aint just for her, Casual…alot of women don’t see the big picture, I know a bunch of cats who just chillin and stackin, go a vacay every year, pinch a lil bit, spend a lil bit…I peeped game when I was in school, there area I was in, there were some homes that sat on this mountain side, but it wasn’t gated or nothin, but thats where the money was at in the city, I would ride up, and you would see the Old Camry, S-10 Pick-up out front, but if you drove up on a Sunday morning, same houses, Benz/Lexus everywhere… taught me to stay undercover, you don’t have to show the world ish, unless you feel like it. If you work at it, you can sit on top of the mountain, but ride that old get around up there!!!

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
1:35 pm

“Nothing to be refused as long as it’s blessed.”

That’s why I always say grace before eating puddy. :lol:

Fion

September 15th, 2011
1:39 pm

“That’s why I always say grace before eating puddy”

Fion hits the Giant Gong, while Himalayan Monks chanting in the background,

abc

September 15th, 2011
1:41 pm

Avoidance of pork is an old testament thing. While Jesus said “I come not to abolish the Law, but to fulfill it”, he did fulfill it upon crucifixion and resurrection. Paul said in Romans that all food is fit to eat.

The story about exorcising the demons from men into pigs isn’t an indication that Christians should avoid eating pork. Shoot, the possessed pigs immediately ran down the hill and drowned themselves.

Jews and Muslims that abide by The Law or Quran can do it if it floats their boat (or, they can try to, anyway), but Christians aren’t obligated.

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
1:46 pm

“That’s why I always say grace before eating puddy”

That sounds so wrong but :lol: nonetheless

Reio

September 15th, 2011
1:56 pm

Did No Scrubs leave? Hsd a few more words for her.

No Scrubs

September 15th, 2011
2:02 pm

im here reio

i'm swiss™

September 15th, 2011
2:12 pm

Hey ladies…. If this chick doesn’t make you bi-curious, I don’t know what will… :lol:

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 15th, 2011
2:20 pm

Swiss…i was scared to click that link, but shawty is something speacial aint she…

SlimUno

September 15th, 2011
2:22 pm

Ewww…She makes a dude want to go out and buy some two-seater convertible to compensate for what they lack in their undies. She has got some of yall beat!

Celisea

September 15th, 2011
2:28 pm

I’m scared to look :|