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Have a bad dating record?

Some of us have a laundry list of romantic crimes we aren’t proud of. Heaven knows I’ve had my share of misadventures when I was the culprit/perpetrator.

I always hope that the bad dating karma won’t catch up to me, but honestly I’m prepared for that to happen. All I can do is be honest with my guy about the mistakes I made and prove that I learned my lesson.

Do you find that it is difficult living down a bad dating rap?

What would you do if the person you are dating discovered something awful from your relationship past?

When it comes to a bad dating record, should we have to answer for it with the person we are currently seeing?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

190 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

September 14th, 2011
1:37 pm

Casual

Aunty Smoky

:lol:

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
1:38 pm

side note/office vent: I depise fake people…is it really that serious for you to have to lie or pretend…really?! Get a life,yo :???:

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
1:45 pm

*despise* not depise..but I digress

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
1:48 pm

O/T ~ has any of you seen the picture of Taylor (Real Housewife whose husband killed himself) where she’s sporting a black eye? She says he punched her but she never reported it to the police. I cannot imagine a man balling up his fist and, hell not a man, my husband, and clocking me!

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
1:50 pm

Leggs, I bet she will listen to the next man when he tells her to do something.

Exiled!

September 14th, 2011
1:53 pm

So what’s the most u can endure before u bail out Leggs?

I cloacked Queen,early on in our marriage.

We have both grown from it.

She learnt to simmer down her chatter box

I take a walk outside when I see the temp rising

never say never!

Exiled!

September 14th, 2011
1:54 pm

Purp!
:lol:

U Italian!

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
1:55 pm

I’ve never hit a woman before, never will. Only time I use fist to cuffs is if I am physically threatened for my safety. A woman can’t do that to me.

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
1:55 pm

I cannot imagine a man balling up his fist and, hell not a man, my husband, and clocking me!

Ultimately I think guys try that isht with females who’ll let them get away with it for whatever reason she has. I might be wrong but it’s been my experience in several situations…if you look like you might act a fkn azz they leave you alone…at least me anyway.

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
1:58 pm

@Ex ~ been there done that. I bailed when I couldn’t take anymore of anything.

Aunt Smoky

September 14th, 2011
2:01 pm

I might be wrong but it’s been my experience in several situations…if you look like you might act a fkn azz they leave you alone…at least me anyway.

You are not wrong :lol:

Punks jump up to get beat down….fuggin wit Aunt Smoky.

SexyCool

September 14th, 2011
2:02 pm

Aunt Smoky – you’ve got me crackin’ up. (lol)

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
2:05 pm

I feel you Aunty…I don’t start isht but if you try me like that then I’m obliged to meet you in the swamp…thankfully I’ve only had to go there once and that was a loooong time ago.

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
2:06 pm

Enter your comments here

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
2:08 pm

I don’t think it’s if a woman will fight back, because if he will hit you he will fight you. That is probably what he wants. A man would not hit a woman. Now if a woman balls up her fist and punches a man first, she deserves a punch back.

kimmie

September 14th, 2011
2:10 pm

Back from lunch

Interesting responses!!LOL!!

Casual – She brought it up to hubby. He never would have known if she didn’t tell him.

To be honest, gang, I really think she told hubby just to F with him. She used to do some crazy mess back in the day. Stylist had definitely moved on and his wife is crazy jealous! It irritated him that my friend was playing musical chairs with him, almost like she was trying to stir up mess, and he almost didn’t take her back the 2nd time. Only reason he did was because he was really trying to establish himself and she had referred him a lot of clients, including me.

Now why she told the next boyfriend, a crazy dude in the Nation, is beyond me. I told her she needed to grow up.

Plus, a great stylist, especially one that will work with you when you are a little short of money, is hard to find. That’s an important relationship that women form!LOL!!

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
2:10 pm

If my mouth can’t get me out of it, you can rest assured, I’m not fighting a man.

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
2:14 pm

Leggs, wellllllllllllllllllllllllllllll

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
2:16 pm

To be honest, gang, I really think she told hubby just to F with him. – I’m thinking that’s the only reason to do it. Women do dumb crap like that thinking they have the upperhand over something. And, she’s the one to lose out in the long run.

kimmie

September 14th, 2011
2:16 pm

Leggs – Me either. Plus, I couldn’t be in a volatile relationship to begin with. My 1st serious boyfriend tested me like that, didn’t hit me but grabbed my arm tight and jerked me. I picked up everything I could get my hands on and went after him. I literally just snapped. He was actually scared of me & called me a crazy beyotch! Never tried that again, though I never gave him the opportunity again!!

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
2:18 pm

Now if a woman balls up her fist and punches a man first, she deserves a punch back

Then you get it how you live..simple

If my mouth can’t get me out of it, you can rest assured, I’m not fighting a man.

I totally agree Leggs but when a man lays hands on me out of anger all of that isht goes out the window…ALL of it. I’m lookin for an equalizer and its on.. That’s a deal breaker for me that I refuse to accept.

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
2:21 pm

That’s what I’m talking about Kimmie…you needed to send a message that that’s something you wouldn’t accept. One of my earlier serious relationships ended just like that…and I know he thought I was certified crazy after that.

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
2:24 pm

One time I was so hot at my ex I did ball up my fists. But, I kept my hands down to my side. Guess he believed I was gonna buck cuz the next thing I knew, my face was between the couch cushions. It happened so fast I was startled and swinging my skinny, but very pointy elbows. That was a sight to see.

kimmie

September 14th, 2011
2:25 pm

Sassy – I witnessed someone very close to me go thru that with a boyfriend, physical abuse, when I was younger and I vowed that would not be my story.

I was easy-going and naive and that dude used to walk all over me. He was definitely testing to see how far he could go. That’s where I drew the line.

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
2:28 pm

He was definitely testing to see how far he could go. That’s where I drew the line.

Exactly Kimmie..

MzNewy

September 14th, 2011
2:34 pm

Good Afternoon Everyone!

Hope all is well. I don’t think you should be reliving the dating past with your current. In addition, if you have a “bad dating rep”, you have to wonder why since the only common denominator in the dates is you. Any one who wants to know every little detail about your past is probably insecure. Forever comparing themselves to your exes. When you keep hearing “Do I __________ like your ex” (whatever blank may be) You may want to get ghost on him/her….that is nothing but trouble. Insecurity at it’s highest.

Aunt Smoky

September 14th, 2011
2:34 pm

Now, I’m not gonna punch a man just for the hell of it….and I believe if you swing, you can get swung on…male or female. Er’body keep their hand to themselves and we good.

Don’t cheat on me.

Don’t hit me.

Don’t steal from me.

Don’t fugg wit my medicine…..Aunt Smoky’s rules.

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
2:39 pm

Afternoon, all.

MzNewy

September 14th, 2011
2:46 pm

MzNewy was in a situation where I had to lay hands on a man….and I wasn’t talking in a Christian-like manner. Dude got caught cheating then decided to slap me. I tried to take him out in that house….I think because I am petite, he underestimated me. That is not the kind of relationship I wanted to be in. That was the first and last time he put his hands on me. Love doesn’t hurt so when you have to fight like you are in the street in your own home it is time to let that relationship go.

Hey ITL *waving*

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
2:49 pm

Did y’all read the story in today’s paper about the guy who strangled his girlfriend and set her body on fire? He set her on fire alright…and blew up the whole dang house and himself.

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
2:50 pm

Hey MzNewy!

Love doesn’t hurt so when you have to fight like you are in the street in your own home it is time to let that relationship go.

Say it again, Mz!! :)

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
2:53 pm

“…so when you have to fight like you are in the street in your own home it is time to let that relationship go.”

Worth repeating!!!

I remember when a gf of mine had to be taken to the hospital because her then bf broke her thumb. Oh hell no!!!!

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
2:53 pm

@ITL, too funny.

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
2:54 pm

Aunt Smoky, I don’t think I’ve ever read you before (I’m still kinda new) but you are cracking me up!! :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
2:59 pm

I read that story ITL…he tried to burn her body after he’d killed her…and why did he do that? She broke up with him earlier this year and now she’s gone. What kind of person..better yet what kind of mental isht are you dealing with to kill a person b/c they didn’t want to be with you?

Then after that I read a story outta Forest Park where a guy has kidnapped his four children and is gone…just sick I tell you. Why involve the children and try to use them as pawns…your own children?

Leggs

September 14th, 2011
3:00 pm

@Ex ~ you never gave me back the welcome mat.

Aunt Smokey, welcome to Blogsville. Your aroma/style is quite refreshing (lol).

Confirmed Bachelor

September 14th, 2011
3:03 pm

I have never cheated, so if I were to do date someone who has cheated and I found out about it, I really don’t care the reason why. You Cheat or have cheated, you are done. I forgive, but I never forget, doing so in my opinion is stupid. I feel for the most part, my record is clear.

MzNewy

September 14th, 2011
3:05 pm

I tried to knock his block off. After I dazed him with a well placed swing of a cast iron skillet, I leaned over him and said “As long as you are black and breathing you better NEVER try that again. Because one of us will leave in a bag and the other in cuffs. No get out of my house….TODAY”

MzNewy

September 14th, 2011
3:06 pm

ITL….I read that story. Instant justice. I love it. He got what he deserved.

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
3:06 pm

Sassy, even though I am not a vindictive person, and I don’t generally favor the death penalty, in this case I tend to think he got what he deserved. He stalked her (even breaking into her house through a window), trapped her in his car, took her life and left her children without a mother. I do not mourn his passing.

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
3:08 pm

MzNewy…why am I thinking about “grit ball” all of a sudden?? LOL “She’s in there playing grit ball…y’all come on” in my best Madea voice.

Speaking of Madea, did y’all see that Tyler Perry is the highest paid man in show biz???

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
3:25 pm

ITL he got what he had coming to him..what goes around does come back around..regardless of how slow or fast(in this case) it will come back around. Karma is a b!0tch..

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
3:35 pm

I am alone in my thoughts, if I type what I was thinking you all would swear I was Exiled. LOL

Sassy Me...I'm on my level...yeah ;-)

September 14th, 2011
3:37 pm

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
3:42 pm

Let’s hear it, Purp.

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
3:45 pm

How hard is to hard to spank the “hiney” when doing certain “activities”? LOL

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
3:45 pm

I always leave red marks and hand prints. lol

Into the Light

September 14th, 2011
3:48 pm

Too hard is when I say, “Dang, babe…that’s too hard. Ease up”

Purple Reign

September 14th, 2011
3:50 pm

For Real

September 14th, 2011
3:50 pm

Purp: Next place terry cloth on “hiney” then whack away.