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Dating the date juggler?

My friend David met a really great girl but he has already decided to move on. He found out that she is “in demand” and gets asked out quite a lot. Apparently, this is a deal breaker?

I asked him why would he give up so easily. He’s no slouch and he could easily “compete” for her affections. He said that he is no interested in doing so. Call it ego, or just knowing he has a boatload of options himself. He doesn’t date the date juggler.

I am not sure how he knows how many guys the young girl was seeing. I wonder why do we need to be the only one a person is dating? If you are single and exploring your options, should you really be penalized for that?

How many prospects should you try to take on at one time in dating?

Would it bother you if you went out with someone and you were their second date or meet up of the day?

Do you think a single person who juggles a bunch of dates is a deal breaker?

What do you do if you are seeing someone you connect with and you want them to drop their other options? Is it fair to ask that they stop seeing other people when you aren’t sure that you want to be exclusive with them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
7:55 am

This hits a nerve with me. I am totally monogamous and it would be a deal breaker for me to date a “juggler” or a “serial dater”. Kevin costner said it best to Susan Sarandon in the movie “Bull Furham”. I’ve been in the league for 13 years, I don’t try out any more”. I’m like Costner, I don’t compete. there are too many monogmous types that are just fine to waste one’s time and energy trying to squeeze into someone’s schedule. If I wanted that I would apply to the Bachelorette and compete fully.

Juggling is fine if one dates to just date I suppose. If that is the case and it is just a booty call then find a “friend with benefits” and just enjoy the sport effing for what it is. Not me though.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
7:57 am

My typing is crappy Bull Durham and Bull Furham.

Josh

September 13th, 2011
8:28 am

I’m with Randyt – One (maybe two non-sexual) dates at once. More than that is sleezy. And maybe this is okay in some ethnic circles (where people have seven babies on $14,000 in income), but not in others.

Button

September 13th, 2011
8:28 am

Good morning! If I’m dating and exploring my options, I wouldn’t indulge that information to the guys but, I would let it be known that until I’m in and exclusive relationship I still have a right to see others if I choose to and so does he.

I don’t think juggling dates is a deal breaker, sometimes you have to date around to find what your looking for.

What do you do if you are seeing someone you connect with and you want them to drop their other options? I would tell the guy my feelings and take it from there, and if he’s not ready to move froward with a serious relationship then I will weigh my options whether to continue seeing him or move on. What a scary thing to tell a person how you feel and then find out he/she doesn’t feel the same way or their not ready… :(

Is it fair to ask that they stop seeing other people when you aren’t sure that you want to be exclusive with them? Absolutely NOT!

Seriously, you have to know that when you meet someone they are totally not single…there’s always someone lurking around JMO

Foxy

September 13th, 2011
8:44 am

Foxy thinks your friend is insecure.

GM Kids!

thewindwhistler

September 13th, 2011
8:45 am

That is a great question. I really like it. I have a friend who is also my personal trainer. I know she has dates with guys. I really do not see myself as having a monopoly. In fact, it is fine. The more experiences this girl has, the more she will be aware that I am top of the linde. If my friend would rather drive a ford rather than a 90,000 dollar Dodge Viper[thats me not the sheriff] sh is welcome to it.
This fella you are alluding to is not sure of himeslf, that is why he is not interested in continuing to date this girl.
My PT is coming, adios.

Mr. Ctrl-Alt-Delete

September 13th, 2011
8:45 am

Hey I have been a jugglee, I was told by a young lady that she was seeing others. As a result, she ultimately caught feelings and I didn’t like how she treated me while weeding out her top choices. I would have preferred her deal with her others exclusively and then try me out. Her attitude while hanging out was sometimes distant. When she knew she wanted me her attitude was thirsty.

CoolShadow

September 13th, 2011
8:47 am

Do you think a single person who juggles a bunch of dates is a deal breaker?

It depends. The more I like her, the more I’ll want exclusivity and escalation to a monogamous relationship. If she’s a date juggler that I’m digging, I’ll remove myself from the running. Because I’ll not want to be part of her rotation feeling like I’m being played. This could be an advantage for her to be consistently entertained like this without it impacting her finances, then fine for her. I’d just rather not be one of the sponsors.

Lady Strange

September 13th, 2011
8:49 am

When I was dating my max was 2 at a time, and even that was too much for me. And I would only date “juggle” until I saw which one I got along better with and then would go from there. In my experiences lately very few men want an exclusive relationship. The men want to be free to date “juggle” and I wanted to find someone to be exclusive with. Didn’t bother me, I just moved on once I found out they weren’t looking for something exclusive.

But even if they are looking for someone to be exclusive with, you have to find the right person first. Can’t just jump in to an exclusive relationship with a stranger! So you date “juggle” a little till you can figure out which person you hit it off better with. I’m a monogamous person so I’m not talking about sleeping with multiple people, just dating till you get to see the real person. Thankfully I’m done with the dating and the juggling thing!

What?!?!?

September 13th, 2011
9:00 am

What kind of self-important moniker is “Wise Diva” when you never give out any advice or wisdom?

Button

September 13th, 2011
9:04 am

Can’t just jump in to an exclusive relationship with a stranger! can’t jump in bed with em either :)

  

September 13th, 2011
9:11 am

What kind of self-important moniker is “Wise Diva” when you never give out any advice or wisdom?

+1

Nominated for line of the day!!! :)

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
9:21 am

“And maybe this is okay in some ethnic circles (where people have seven babies on $14,000 in income), but not in others.”

Its way early for that type of isth don’t you think???

Until one is exclusive, why should it matter to others how many people you are dating? Now dating does not mean sleeping with it means DATING….. If I can date 4 women at a time then where is the problem??? As long as it is done tactfully and with respect, where is the problem???

Reio

September 13th, 2011
9:24 am

Deal breaker for sure. I’m a one woman man. If she wants to see others, do so. But I won’t be around. Sorry.

Amia

September 13th, 2011
9:27 am

If you’re single, you have to date. That’s the only way you are going to meet and get to know someone. With that said, if I meet a guy and go out with him and I feel no sparks/interests, that’s my last time going out with him. Next…. If I meet someone and I like them and think it’s going well, then I am dating and getting to know him. I am not going out with others. That’s me. I like to focus on one at a time if I’m interested. Definately no a serial dater and I don’t men who are. If you like me, focus on me and see where it goes.

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
9:29 am

Good morning,

My understanding with regard to women dating multiple dudes is that men naturally associate a woman dating a guy means she is also sleeping with him. I dated two dudes at once but wasn’t having relations with either of them. I was looked at sideways whenever I said that like, “whoa!…Slim gets down like that”.

Dating does not equal Fking

But i’m not really a fan of dating numerous people at once…it takes too much time & energy to keep up with all that

Peaches

September 13th, 2011
9:29 am

I have been a juggler as well as a jugglee…as long as all parties involved are aware of the situation I do not see where the problem exists. You have to sample the menu before you can determine your favorite entree’…the important thing is to make sure you put the menu away one you’ve found it. Openness and Honesty are the most important factors here! I am not referring to intimate relationships, just the dating.

TenderRoni

September 13th, 2011
9:31 am

I need this topic today…should be interesting!

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
9:32 am

“Dating does not equal Fking”

Can we please make sure everyone understands this!!!!!

Gracie L

September 13th, 2011
9:37 am

It seems there are droughts, and times when it rains and pours. A single person does have to explore options in order to find a good fit. The important thing when taking up a chunk of someone’s time is to make the effort to get to know that person during the time you spend together, not to be thinking about what you have going on later that day or week. I try to be a good listener instead of “comparing” or working off a checklist in my head. (Not always easy, but I try.) There’s no commitment until there IS, even though some people assume they’re a “couple” after two dates — then get their feelings hurt when the reality differs.

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
9:37 am

HiYas!

wow! i must say i’m surprised that so many blog gents have a problem with this. i would have expected your competitive nature to kick in and make you drive for the top of the leaderboard.

having said that, i’m diggin button’s 8:28. all in due time. just cuz you’re not the only thing on the menu when we meet doesn’t mean i won’t soon develop an appetite for you and only you. whatever happened to “people who are desired by others are more desirable”?

MsMarriedUp

September 13th, 2011
9:39 am

My goodness…not even married and already the headaches. What ever happened to FIRST just being friends? We shouldn’t even have to be going into ‘the’ personal life like that. Just chill…be friends…

dan

September 13th, 2011
9:49 am

Advice to woman:
If you have kids they are baggage. You may have to settle. I know you love you kids you have the best kids in the world blah blah blah. But seriously inside of each one of those kids is the man who either you dumped or the man that dumped you.

OK you older woman out there. Who love being the Cougar. OK it has to be said you may look good for your age but seriously and honestly from the guys point of view your just a piece. We will say and tell you everything until we find something younger. Seriously if I am 32 and looking for a lifetime commitment I am marring someone 27-31.

himalya playa

September 13th, 2011
9:49 am

I hit all that I can.

Bradley

September 13th, 2011
9:50 am

Enter your comments here

Amia

September 13th, 2011
9:51 am

So many people equate dating to sex! Assumptions get you nowhere. I am not trying to screw half of the metro area trying to find the person I’m really supposed to be with.

Celisea

September 13th, 2011
9:51 am

Good morning folks,

In a nutshell what he (Cool Shadow)

Because I’ll not want to be part of her rotation feeling like I’m being played

Yes dating means dating…I’ve come to terms with that over the years…lol Sometimes that’s one sometimes that’s many. Not knocking it..do you. Call me antiquated though because I can’t get with a person that like a gazillion folks at a time…how can you get to the heart of knowing what you want if there are always so many options. Fine, narrow your choices but I still (and in my experience) can’t concentrate on one and whether I want that one, unless it’s down to one and there’s one on one time with that one :)

Bradley

September 13th, 2011
9:52 am

If you are going on dates with others then “BYE BYE” All that screams to me is that you are a mooch wanting free meals and a slut! Not who I want to date!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
9:55 am

I’ve read the arguments for juggling and they haven’t swayed me. I date one woman at a time, no more. I might tolerate the lady meeting previous commitments for the first few weeks, but after about two or three dates it is time to fish or cut bait. At that point we either proceed with exploring each other singly, or if I haven’t been convincing enough by then, bye it was nice meeting you.

Bottom line is by two or three dates, the parties should either be in or out (not saying permanent, but is the first step in the process toward commitment). My personal feeling. I don’t need keeping options open, there are plenty to go around.

Bradley

September 13th, 2011
9:56 am

And when was the last time any of you women picked up a bill on a date?????? Dating is just a free ride for you!

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
9:57 am

I think with dudes, anything over ONE ‘mic’ is too many. Plus, since often times it is a man that pays for these dates, he might feel like just another sponsor if the girl he’s taking out, is being taken out by numerous other dudes. Just my guess

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
9:59 am

@ SlimNu …right!!!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
10:03 am

And I have to admit, I don’t like sharing my toys with other guys. (and not saying women are toys to me, they aren’t). To me a juggler is sending a message to me that I’m not enough. Hey, I am fine with that, I’ll move on and open up a date for someone else on your dance card.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
10:04 am

No one wants to feel like they are just an option…especially when they are willing to make you a priority.

As I grew and matured, my ego and sense of self worth would not allow me to indefinitely remain in the rotation.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
10:06 am

And for the record, I make this clear, if not before, at least when the relationship becomes physical. Just not in to sport effing. Fooling around for sure, probably dating someone else also even is “one strike and you’re out” for me after any feelings begin to enter the picture.

Sensual Chic

September 13th, 2011
10:08 am

This is interesting b/c I am currently seeing a guy that is a date juggler. He told me after he realized that I was catching feelings that he saw other people…so that I was aware. My type personality, is to date one guy at a time…b/c after the first date or so. I know if I like them or if there is a connection, etc. So a couple of weeks ago – I told him that maybe I should start seeing other people too since he was…but since I told him that he did like a 360 and made sure he spent every available time that I had with me. Leaving, no room/time for me to see any body else.

He doesn’t want to be in a relationship just yet and neither do I…he said that he wants to be just friends and see where it goes b/c the minute you put a title on it that’s when people have issues. I’m cool with things the way they are now…b/c we are both open and honest with one another. So, we shall see where this goes.

…and honestly I don’t think it would be fair if I were to start dating someone else b/c I really like him and to date someone else – while having feelings for someone else is not good…and not fair to them in my opinion.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
10:09 am

Sorry, this is an important subject for me. For those who ssuggest you have to date a lot to make sure you are choosing the best, I have to ask, “at the same time???”. I wish I could remember half of the names of the ladies I have dated, there have been many, but almost all were one at a time.

(Okay Randy, let it go, you are getting too worked up).

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
10:09 am

Good morning.

How many prospects should you try to take on at one time in dating? – maybe 2.

Gotta go. Have a great day.

Take 2

September 13th, 2011
10:11 am

I guess I qualify as a “juggler” b/c I am dating two men. I like them both and I am really conflicted about who I should “settle” down with. They are completely different but thats what I love about them. If I could merge them they would create my ideal man. I digress. The longer I see them both the harder it is to choose. They both desire to be in exclusive relationships. I’m not sure what I’m going to do. I feel a deadline is approaching.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
10:13 am

@ Take 2, I am curious about what they are thinking. Any clues, resentment, etc.???

Bradley

September 13th, 2011
10:15 am

Its not competitive nature… there are many women out there… and as much as it may piss you off we judge you by how good you are in bed… if im gonna spend the rest of my life and money with you i want to have good sex! PERIOD! Besides if you were aware that I was also seeking carnal relations with another woman would you really want to be with ME? Dating for men is spending money in the hopes of getting laid! We fall in love, but it is usually with someone we have known for a while and are friends with. Dating is just expensive foreplay!

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
10:15 am

so i’m hearing most say that dating multiples “indefinitely” and after “catching feelings” is not a good thing. i agree. completely. we’re talking about getting to know someone. if you and (s)he haven’t even determined how strong the connection is, how do you frown on that person for going out with someone else? i’d say you should be at least three dates in before you have that ‘exclusive’ convo … and unless you’re seeing each other every night, that third date could be a month out. are you really going to have a hissy fit because the other person may have gone out once or twice during that month?

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
10:17 am

see. that right there at 10:11. that’s not what i’m advocating.

abc

September 13th, 2011
10:18 am

Yes, the serial dater is a deal breaker. If you’re not concentrating on one at a time, then you’re not worth the time and effort.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
10:19 am

Morning All!

I was never good at the juggling thing. There were one or 2 times when I had 2 options to choose from around the same time. After one date with each I knew which I wanted to concentrate on. Usually the type of guy I went for was like-minded – not a juggler. On most occasions with me, I would have done alot of talking prior to the first date, so really there was a kind of connection already. During this time I would find out if they were dating others. If they were already seeing someone most likely we would remain phone buddies. Guys that lead with “I’m seeing others” usually ended up being the player type, in my experience. Cool, but not for me.

dan

September 13th, 2011
10:19 am

Sensual he didnt expect that response he wanted to keep you in his stack of cards. The reason he told you that he was dating other people was because he was about to replace you and the new girl he thought he was getting fell through or because up to that point in your relationship you hadnt given him sex. He is spending more time with you now because now you are giving him sex.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
10:20 am

Dating does not equal Fking?

that’s bullshizle for the most part. It means u either kinda confused or u don’t know what u talking about. Why do I say so?
Because for the most part u not going to accept to go out on a date with someone u are not feeling. Unless u looking for entertainment/dinner/lunch sponsorship. Juggling would then mean u have 2,3,4 guys that u like and want to put on some dating test. That’s confusion or greedy or thirst,whatever u wanna call it.

As a guy,yes I would decline to take her out unless ofcourse if I also just wanna smash,grab and run.

If she’s stupid but honest enough to tell me she’s juggling,then I make her a short term project!
It’s a win win!
Good morning!

InTheTrenches

September 13th, 2011
10:20 am

There are a number of guys out there, including myself, who would rather be in a monogamous relationship. I too would not deal with a lady, correction: woman, who wanted to date others. It takes time, energy, and effort into getting to know one person so why would someone spread themselves thin in such a manner? The only reason I can think of is that they are indecisive and not really serious about a relationship. I’m good on that myself.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
10:20 am

@ czbrat LOL, seems like my second and third date with someone comes in just days (the last one compressed three into about the first 24 hours ;-) If stretched over a month, I would agree, depending on the amount of communications between the personal appearances. In the last five years it seems like my relationships develop at hyperspeed…and end just as quickly LOL

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
10:23 am

Sen Chick – Is he still dating others? He’s taking up all your time so you can’t, but that still doesn’t mean he’s dropped his rotation. Folks find a way to do what they want.

CoolShadow

September 13th, 2011
10:25 am

@ Take 2 – are they aware of each other?

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
10:25 am

And some guys smash on a first date as well,they are that smoove.

So a juggler has probably smashed a dude the previous day but accepted ur date the next day just because.

Now u in a rotation dude.

Don’t be a willing participant unless she dint tell u! :lol:

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
10:29 am

kimmie – type that again, just in case she didn’t read you. (lol)

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
10:35 am

Ok for all of you girls out there, you have way more options than us guys. That is why it would make more sense for all of you to want to explore your options. However for us guys, I am not interested one bit with a juggler, dating is way to expensive time consuming and frustrating without having to worry about a girl dating another guy. So absolutely not, I refuse to date someone who is dating other people, juggling the time around, not worth my time, if the girl is not willing to put in the effort.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
10:37 am

SCool – Okay?!! That’s what stuck out in my head when I was reading her post. She didn’t say anything about him dropping his!!

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
10:39 am

@Blah blah?

U have more options than they(women) have,not the other way round!

U have low self esteem?

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
10:39 am

randy, so long as you get what i’m trying to say. i’m no serial dater either but i certainly understand that some folks take a certain amount of time and a particular path toward deciding if they want to boo-up. i say you gotta allow them some room for that decision-making process.

Take 2

September 13th, 2011
10:41 am

@Randyt-No, there’s no resentment or ill feelings. They know that we’re not exclusive and for now its ok. They are also free to date other women if they choose, but I don’t think either of them are. I’m not some flighty chick out to mooch off a man. I am well able to feed, clothe and care for myself. I make good money and can to do or see anything I so desire, so it’s not about sponsorship for me. I’m just not pressed about rushing into a monogamous relationship. I’ve always been “relationship girl”, meaning date one guy a few weeks and then we’re in a committed relationship. I’ve never really, truly dated. I want to be married one day and have a family but right now I’m enjoying my options and the variety that these two gentlemen offer me.

Sensual Chic

September 13th, 2011
10:42 am

@ Dan – when did I say we were having sex!? We are not and will not be having sex unless we get married. I’m waiting until marriage and he’s cool with that and he’s willing to wait although it’s hard. However, I do agree with you that maybe…he was digging someone else when he told me (he was seeing others).

@ kimmie – funny you asked that b/c I asked him out of curiosity last night…and he said that he wasn’t seeing anyone else now and I believe him. Recently, he introduced me to his mom, other relatives and I have met his friends. We also do a lot of things together with others now too…so I believe him.

Take 2

September 13th, 2011
10:42 am

@CoolShadow-they aren’t aware of one another per se, but they know that I’m dating. I find that they prefer not to discuss what happens outside of our individual interactions.

abc

September 13th, 2011
10:43 am

I agree with Exiled, I don’t think women have more opportunity or options in dating than men. I never lacked opportunity, I turned down most of them. 4 years or so ago, when in the midst of dating, I found myself involved with 4 chicks at once. What a fiasco! I went along like that for a few months, and then cut all 4 of them loose. It was a real drag. Actually, being single and dating was, in general, a real drag.

Gracie L

September 13th, 2011
10:46 am

Re: girls having way more options than guys: That’s just NOT true! Not in Atlanta, anyway! It may SEEM that way to a young man who’s not as smoove as he’d like, since women mature and have the opportunity to “date up” at a younger age. But any single person in Atlanta over 35 or 40 knows that the ratio of available men to women is not even close! Atlanta is the world-wide capital of desperate women, and as a result, the baseline is MUCH higher than most places. That’s why we’re known for having beautiful women here — we don’t dare show ourselves in public until we’ve made every effort to be well dressed, heeled, manicured, coiffed, exfoliated, and perfumed. A single man with any savvy at all can easily explore his options for months or years before deciding with whom he wants to merge.

Not saying all of you are like that, as several gentlemen have stated here: they only date one at a time. Good for you! But this is not the norm by any means, especially in the divorced realm. Reality: it is what it is.

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
10:49 am

I don’t think women have more opportunity or options in dating than men.
i’d say that depends on the woman in question. and the man.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
10:50 am

world-wide capital of desperate women

Gracie – Speak for yourself.

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
10:54 am

@Exiled
Get a clue, I don’t know the exact numbers but it’s something like 80% of women date 20% of men, that means women for the most part ignore 80% of guys advances. If you think I have low self esteem you may be correct, but that doesn’t change the fact that women are the gate keepers and the rejectors more often than men.

Mike in Marietta

September 13th, 2011
10:57 am

It depends on your goal. If you are out there just to have a good time and meet and sleep with bunches of people, date jugglers are fine. If you are beyond that stage of your life and you are looking for a life partner, date jugglers are out of the question because it demonstrates they are not yet at the point of looking to settle down with one person.

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
10:59 am

we don’t dare show ourselves in public until we’ve made every effort to be well dressed, heeled, manicured, coiffed, exfoliated, and perfumed.

Gracie – Speak for yourself.

(as brat shrugs off the sight of her peeling nail polish and still wet hair) LOL

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:01 am

Dating means different things to different people. I now make it a habit to ask the guy before even accepting a date what’s his definition of dating, knock down any and all confusion.

Gracie L

September 13th, 2011
11:01 am

kimmie,

It’s a general observation; don’t take it personally already. I’ll expound: As someone who chose to put my duties as a mother over my quest for love, I have dated many men over the years on a casual (friends mostly) basis, w/o getting “serious.” A man wants a woman who will put him first, and I chose to put my kids first. My choice; still single. As such, I can tell you I have yet to meet a man in this town who doesn’t have a “stalker” story. You know, a woman he dated for awhile, or even just a couple of times, decides they are a couple before he does. Or she can’t accept the breakup, or not coming first. Phone calls, drive bys, showing up where he goes, and even stealing his phone bill and calling all the numbers on it to confront the other women! (That was an interesting call!) I can’t tell you how many times I’ve witnessed this myself… “We went out the last two Fridays, but he didn’t ask me out for this weekend…. so I will track him down at his office and ask him why!” I’ve actually had women show up when I was on a first date with a man to confront him, and get all up in MY face! Uh…. all I did was accept a dinner invitation, and some crazy woman is all “DID YOU KNOW ABOUT UUUUUUUS!” I never go anywhere I’m not invited, and I don’t give chase. Resist the urge, ladies.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
11:02 am

Sen Chic – Good. But that would have been the first thing I asked him when I noticed he was taking up all my time.

You said neither of you want to be in a relationship just yet – then what do you call it you are doing? Meeting families & all, spending time together..?

D Dub of the MSP (formerly D Dub of the ATL)

September 13th, 2011
11:03 am

How many prospects should you try to take on at one time in dating? – I honestly hate questions like this because the answer is almost always “It depends on the person.” As a man, it really doesn’t make sense financially to go dating as many as possible because I tend to be the one that grabs the bill at the end of the night… to quote Big Daddy Kane, “Romance with no finance is a damn nu-sance.” Going dutch is something I do with friends – and even with friends we tend to do the round-robin on who pays the bill.

Do you think a single person who juggles a bunch of dates is a deal breaker? – Not necessarily a deal breaker, but for me it is a clear indicator of someone that is not ready for any long-term relationship. Randyt said it best when he pulled the quote from Bull Durham. I don’t need to compete for your attention, affection, etc. – I know what I bring to the party, and if you’re too busy to see that then this relationship is going to go the route of friends or rabbit-dancing partner and nothing else.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
11:04 am

Blah blah?

Let’s assume ur math is accurate coz it suffices for the argument:

There are 3 times as many women as men right,so 80% of 3000 females is 2400 dating 20% of 1000 men= 200 men

So 200 men have the option of choosing 2,400 women and u say what again?
So how do women end up with more options?
Blah bla?

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:10 am

@Gracie L. says “A man wants a woman who will put him first, and I chose to put my kids first.” Not all men are like this. If you’re a single parent, a healthy adult man/woman would not expect/allow you do diss your kids for him/her.

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
11:12 am

This is amazing…..Its no wonder the divorce rate is 60%…. Folks out here getting all “Booed up” after like two dates!!! I am all for finding that special person and all that, But after two or three dates??? By that logic, you meet a person on Tuesday, you hit happy hour on Thursday, You hit a movie on Saturday… If you go to Wednesday dinner does that mean its time to meet the parents????

Lady Strange

September 13th, 2011
11:12 am

@dan – kids are not baggage. If you don’t want to date a woman who has a kid(s) then don’t. There are plenty of men that have no problem dating a woman who has children. There are plenty of single men with kids out there dating too. I would never date a man who considered my son to be baggage.

I personally never “juggle” dated for long, just too much time and energy and it always bothered me to date more than one person at a time. After a few dates, plus talking between dates, and I would see who the best fit for me was. Doesn’t mean it always worked out but got to take chances in this world.

Sensual Chic

September 13th, 2011
11:13 am

@ kimmie – One of my friends said something similar to me this morning. What are you guys doing? lol ~ After I told her, he wanted to come with me when I go home to visit my family.

…but I’m not going to let anyone pressure us…we are just going to go with the flow and see what happens…as long as we both know how we are feeling…no need to put a title on it just yet. We know where we stand, if we have a question – we ask one another and we are honest. He said to me the other day that I deserve to be someone’s wife. So, I feel he’s definitely thinking about the future.

Lady Strange

September 13th, 2011
11:14 am

@Button – agreed! A man who is confident in themselves has no trouble with a woman who puts her kids first over anyone else. I would have issues with someone who expected to come before children.

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:14 am

LOL @Casual O, funny it happens that way for some and yet they’re still married!

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
11:15 am

Do you all have an issue if a person you’re dating, involved with, etc takes you to a place/restaurant/event they took or frequented with a previous partner of theirs?

abc

September 13th, 2011
11:15 am

A husband merits first place ahead of children, but a boyfriend does not.

Tiny Grimes is the “Romance WIthout FInance” reference, not Daddy Kane.

Gracie, I’ve been through the whole being stalked thing. It was one of the biggest down sides of dating: chicks have a tough time accepting that a man isn’t interested. They figure they can pretty much get anyone they want, even if only for temporal physical gratification, just by making themselves available. After you drop a load of cash on them and then don’t want to take them out anymore, they don’t understand why.

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:18 am

Sensual C I read somewhere that when a man knows where he belongs he acts according, just going with the flow is never a good thing esp when it comes to matters of the heart and my time. IMO

Lady Strange

September 13th, 2011
11:20 am

@Slim – No, this typically wouldn’t bother me. Unless it was the other person’s favorite place then I would wonder what they were thinking taking me there. But that hasn’t happened to me yet. :)

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
11:23 am

Slim…I don’t mind. I just don’t want to be hearing any “fond memories.” (lol)

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:24 am

Absolutely not SlimU

D Dub of the MSP (formerly D Dub of the ATL)

September 13th, 2011
11:25 am

@abc – Thanks for the lesson – I knew Tiny Grimes said it first, but since he was dead when I first heard Kane say it, that’s who I associate it with…

abc

September 13th, 2011
11:29 am

Yo man, Bird played on the single… epic history! You so great, you so fine, you ain’t got no money you can’t be mine — it ain’t no joke to be stone broke, baby, you know I ain’t lyin, when I say — Romance without finance is a nuisance! Be de boo wee da boo do be da do, bop pow.

D Dub of the MSP (formerly D Dub of the ATL)

September 13th, 2011
11:29 am

@Slim – no problem with frequenting the old flame’s spot – especially if the food is good.

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
11:31 am

Do you all have an issue if a person you’re dating, involved with, etc takes you to a place/restaurant/event they took or frequented with a previous partner of theirs?

it would bug me if i thought he was trying to re-live moments. but the upside is that it’s always good to go places you KNOW are going to satisfy because one of you has tried it before. as a rule, i might generally ask “how do you know this place?” or “have you been here/done this before?” and the response (and body language) will tell me if there’s an ex attached to the story.

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
11:31 am

@Exiled
You clearly missed the point of my arguement, my point is what about the other 80% of men that women totally ignore. If you go to any bar, you will see mostly guys, not girls. It is not that guys aren’t trying to date, it’s that most of us 80% get rejected. Then we have to listen to women saying that they want to casually date lots of guys and complain that when a guy wants to date more than one person, I have already been divorced, I am far beyond the point of wanting a girl that juggles. Not worth my time and energy, if she can’t appreciate my situation as a guy wanting to date one person, I refuse to be just an option for her.

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:31 am

It’s crazy for a person to think that just because they are in the picture that their date/fling/ect didn’t have a life before them. I’ve met a few knuckleheads that got a tude when they ask me about my previous relationship, they ask so I told. I guess they thought I was fresh out of my mother’s womb. LOL

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
11:33 am

@SlimUno re: “Do you all have an issue if a person you’re dating, involved with, etc takes you to a place/restaurant/event they took or frequented with a previous partner of theirs”?

Worst example of this ever for me…was in a parking lot at a mall when the lady I had been seeing and I began to get a little frisky. About that time she said something which made me realize that apparently a parked car was where she and her previous lover had been often involved. Man that took all of the wind out of my sails, I didn’t want near her for the rest of the evening. Sometimes one can give up TMI.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 13th, 2011
11:33 am

This one is real interesting…and kids are baggage, not literally, but it means if the man or woman becomes serious with said parent, the kid instantly become yours too…, but it definitely something you can work with…no different than than dating a “pet lover
” except that the dog will never tell you, “you ain’t my real daddy”

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:33 am

Right czB being tactful is the key.

Sensual Chic

September 13th, 2011
11:34 am

@ Button – he already knows I’m not going to be going with the flow for a long time but for now…it’s still so new – we still need to get to know one another more – why rush. Plus, I enjoy spending time with him and likewise.

So, I think it’s fine for now but in a year. I may not think that way. He knows that I’m not going to sit around 4ever. I already told him that…but I don’t want to put any pressure on things. In due season, we will get our harvest. For now, just enjoying the time getting to know one another better and letting it manifest (perhaps) into something beautiful. ;-)

Gracie L

September 13th, 2011
11:35 am

Button: “Not all men are like this. If you’re a single parent, a healthy adult man/woman would not expect/allow you do diss your kids for him/her.”

Yes, of course! There are some wonderful people out there. For me, much of it was about time. A “serious” romantic relationship that’s leading up to marriage takes time and energy. When you have a full-time job, kids, house, yard, animals, bills, etc., there’s not much T&E left over for the kind of sharing that leads to a healthy, well-considered pair bonding. Same for divorced daddies. They should take their daddy time seriously; they grow up so fast! I am uncomfortable sitting across the table from a man who has no idea where his 15-yr-old is, or what she’s doing on a Friday night.

abc

September 13th, 2011
11:38 am

The correct response to “you ain’t my real daddy” is “no, but I’m the one that’s going to smack you in the head if you don’t shutup, and right now”. I’ve had to deal with that before. Damn right I’m not your real daddy, that butthead is nowhere to be found, right?

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
11:39 am

I don’t know if the beau was joking or not but when he found out i had been to Aja before he was like, Oh…thought it was special. I mean, come on…I’ve been living here for umpteenth years so we’re bound to go to a spot i’ve been to with someone else. I’m sure if we were in his home state, it would be the same thing.

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:43 am

GracieL I can agree that dating and being a single parent can pose a challenge and for those who had success in doing so, much props to you! but when you said: ” A “serious” romantic relationship that’s leading up to marriage takes time and energy.” I beg to diff, I think communication is the key. Effective and efficient communication squashes access time and unwarranted energy.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
11:44 am

I never minded dating men with kids, but there had to be evidence that they were being raised well. Kids were never a dealbreaker for me, I love them, but “bad”, smart-mouthed kids were. Some kid saying “you ain’t my real mama” is evidence the ball is being dropped and respect for adults is not being taught.

My husbands kids have not once said anything remotely like that to me. Even though their mother passed away, they could still say it if they were not taught better. I love them like my own and they have always been respectful. Goes along way in ensuring a happy home.

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
11:44 am

Randy – that was messed up…I don’t care if you take me to a place you’ve been before with someone else (we both had previous lives) but i don’t need to know your ex gave you some Beck on 85N on the way to dinner and a movie lol

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
11:47 am

I have no problem dating a woman with kids personally, I have done it before and I will most likey do it again, I did everything I could to get ready for a family before I got divorced, got a good job, bought a house, got rid of my nice 2 door car, and bought a family vehicle, etc. etc. Just cause a girl has kids doesn’t mean they shouldn’t date or something like that. However once you get stable and you get dependable, and get safe, I think that is a turn off for women in general, they seem to want to date men that are arrogant and cocky and full of themselves.

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:48 am

WOW abc you would’ve NEVER had the opportunity to talk to my child like that because there is no way in hayel someone who grew in me would disrespect an adult on any level. I know there are some bad azz kids out there and when you’re dating you should know what you’re getting into that’s why meeting the kids or at least asking questions early on is always important. If I date a guy and he’s not talking about his kids then I know I’m dealing with a sorry excuse of a dad and I will NOT go forward with him. Men should do the same. ASK questions!!!! You know when you’re dealing with a sorry azz parent!

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 13th, 2011
11:49 am

abc…good answer, I just through that out there everybody getting on “the my kids ain’t baggage bus”, cause that’s a dayum lie. Its a serious factor in dating, yes there are very honorable men who will step in and help you raise a child, but if you don’t think a man or woman for that matter has to think twice about that decision, you arre foolin yourself…children are wonderful little miracles, but they can also sabotage potential relationships. Should you accept someone who won’t accept your children, hell no, but know that it reduces your pool. Yea, honesty is bi*5ch.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
11:50 am

Blah blah?

I don’t know which bars u frequent where u find man mostly. Mt experience tells me it’s the other way round.

U are divorced,have u been getting around much lately?

In Atlanta? No way buddy unless u live in the sticks somewhere outside of a major city.

Men do get rejected,that’s true, But there is more Female fish in that pond, trust me.

If one don’t bite,don’t worry. Soon enough another or two,maybe three will be clinging to your draws!

Happy hunting bro! There is plenty females out there to make u not to even worry bout a thang!

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:50 am

Blah B says “they seem to want to date men that are arrogant and cocky and full of themselves.” that’s a lie at least for healthy mature adults. I personally don’t know any woman man or monkey for that matter who would date a person who is arrogant/cocky or a narcissist!

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
11:51 am

I recall when my mom got remarried and I had an issue with my stepdad coming in trying to change things. I vividly remember telling him he was not my daddy…but in my case, I had a dad that I saw often but anyway, stepdad and I ended up getting into it. lol

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
11:54 am

TheDude and one of his friends were talking about a chick who the friend had met that said that she “didn’t come with a whole lotta baggage.” Buddy was like, “Yeah…but that one bag she came with was about to bust at the seams.”

(I thought that was funny.)

D Dub of the MSP (formerly D Dub of the ATL)

September 13th, 2011
11:54 am

“I think that is a turn off for women in general, they seem to want to date men that are arrogant and cocky and full of themselves.” – and these dudes move on to the next chick quicker than a groupie at a NBA All-Star game.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 13th, 2011
11:55 am

Hey Slim…thanks for the assist..with your bad disrespectful tail…lol.

Button

September 13th, 2011
11:57 am

Men wearing drawrs now :lol:

abc

September 13th, 2011
11:57 am

In general, a bar or nightclub that doesn’t have 65% women is probably about to go out of business.

I had to deal with a belligerent teen of a girlfriend once before. I tried to cut him some slack, his father had passed away. But, I don’t have much patience for crap like that. I got enough belligerence out of my own kids.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
11:58 am

Blah Blah – Maybe the women YOU seem to deal with, but any grown a–, mature woman is not going to be turned off by a man that has it together.

You need to either upgrade your selection process or you really are not all you claim to be.

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
11:59 am

@Exiled
I live up in Woodstock and since I am on call 24/7 for my job it prevents me from traveling too far away, but yes if you go into bars up here there are far more men than women.
@Button
I have seen guys be nice, I have done it myself, “nice guys finish last” very well known. I tried being a jerk a few times and yes I cut women off when they were trying to say something, I treated them like objects and I was generally a bad guy, and I have to say it works, but I don’t want a girl that is into guys like that, I mearly did it as an experiment. Finding a good girl is not as easy as you think and to go back the original conversation, I will not be a date juggler nor will I date one, and I will not act like a jerk just to get laid, it’s not worth my time or money.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
12:00 pm

If u date somebody with kids already it means u starting off scratch with baggage,let’s face it. That’s the truth.

How u deal with that real lyfe baggage and how ‘it’ responds to u,the newcomer, is the key!

Some mothers or fathers just don’t raise their kids well. So tread carefully!

Button

September 13th, 2011
12:00 pm

I’m thinking the same thing Kimmie @ Blah Blah

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
12:00 pm

Blah blah?

no wonder why ur argument.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
12:04 pm

If you believe that women have more options than men, then you’re right. If you believe that men have more options that women, then you’re right too.

It’s about what you believe more than what it actually fact. Because we behave according to what we believe. You know, the whole “perception is reality” deal.

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
12:05 pm

@Kimmie
You very well could be right, on all accounts, it very well could be my selection of women and it could be that there is something wrong with me. It could be that I have low self esteem, it could be all of the above, I am only recently divorced and I never cheated or anything like that, I did get cheated on though. I haven’t dated in 5 years, I am still new to it all over again, and dating at 30 is a huge difference than dating at 25 and straight out of the military.

abc

September 13th, 2011
12:06 pm

Blah, most of the people in bars in Woodstock are couples, the male/female ratio is moot. ‘Course, I only go in them to sit in with one of my kids’ rock band, but — they don’t seem to me to be anyplace to meet anyone you’d really like to know. Lots of single moms in Woodstock, tennis and soccer mom types, and they’re not barflies. I mean, where would you go, anyway? Pure sucks; Bogey’s, meh; The Place, Just A Bar, etc., man, if not for making my kid’s gigs, you couldn’t pay me to go to those dives.

Button

September 13th, 2011
12:06 pm

A bar where there’s more men than women? I’m in! :lol:

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
12:08 pm

Some mothers or fathers just don’t raise their kids well. So tread carefully!

Exiled – Absolutely!

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
12:13 pm

Woodstock is up on I-75?

Blah blah,come down to Atlanta some weekends.

Have fun and get around

U will open ur eyes some.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
12:13 pm

When I was dating the last place I would go is a nightclub or bar. There are just so many better options available. It’s better to meet someone while doing something you love, like running, cooking classes, community activities, martial arts classes,etc.

I see some nice-looking single fathers coaching soccer and little league and at school or community functions. If I were still in the market, that is where I’d be looking, especially if I were a parent.

Celisea

September 13th, 2011
12:14 pm

WOW to today’s discussion. Guess it just depends on your agenda and where you’re heading. Heading nowhere is easy…do whateva you feel. Trying to get somewhere then yes there should be some structure, rhyme & reason to what you’re wanting to get accomplished.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
12:20 pm

When I was single, I went out to nightclubs and bars, but not with the specific purpose of meeting someone. I went to have fun with my friends or as I got older, I would go find a spot at the bar to order my favorite adult beverage.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
12:26 pm

Welcome to the blog Blah blah

(Leggs ain’t here to preside)

I hope our blog single ladies will reach out to him.

He’s got a job,just came outa the military and I’m sure he’s got a decent car. Fine man at 30, that’s young!

Be sure to post ur email add in here Blah so the ladies know where to reach you.

He needs a blog vest by the way.

Welcome to the neat market!

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
12:27 pm

I will take that under consideration, I would love to go to atlanta more often, I have to wait until mid-november though, I am saving my money for the cruise I am taking to St. Martin, and St. Thomas, going with friends, second cruise, it may not be a great place to meet a girl to date but it’s great fun.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
12:27 pm

Meet(meat) market!

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
12:28 pm

@Exiled, sorry guys, didn’t mean to take over the conversation, I never get on these things, I just saw a article that cuaght my attention.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
12:32 pm

Blah

u good u need a hood girl right?

Reality

September 13th, 2011
12:33 pm

Most of the folks who I hear lamenting the lack of datable individuals, male or female, are usually fairly undesirable themselves.

D Dub of the MSP (formerly D Dub of the ATL)

September 13th, 2011
12:36 pm

“Most of the folks who I hear lamenting the lack of datable individuals, male or female, are usually fairly undesirable themselves.”

@Reality – BOOM!

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
12:36 pm

I’m going to need all of my hoodrat, retarded-acting, no class having young cousins with no filter to stay they asses off FB.

Praise be to WhiteGeezus that FB was not around when I was young, dumb and had no filter.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
12:41 pm

@ abc, been to all those places in Woodstock. Came alone, left alone. The only one I saw that was interesting was with her husband. Interesting fantasy, but no future there.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

I never was good at the bar scene anyway. I can speak in front of a crowd of hundreds with no problem. I can start a converstion one on one in a grocery store or an elevator, easy. but when it comes to walking up to a group I don’t know and trying to introduce myself to one of the gals…I can’t do it. Some courtesy issue inside or something.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

Praise be to WhiteGeezus that FB was not around when I was young, dumb and had no filter.

For real right?! There are even some adults who post everything they’re doing or some who put ALL of their business on blast in hopes of tryna make someone else look bad but it usually backfires.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
12:47 pm

Blah blah, there is always Johnny’s Hideaway in Buckhead. Just be careful to leave before daylight ;-)

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
12:47 pm

Seems like I’m missing a good one today. One thing I’m not is a dating juggler. I couldn’t string multiple dudes along. At some point, I would start feeling guilty and making up stuff as to why I can’t spend time with a particular person.

@Ex ~ thank you for being so gracious by putting out the welcome mat!

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
12:49 pm

Speaking about bars, I sure wish Dugans was a better spot to hang out.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
12:50 pm

I just made one of my younger cousins take an explicit post off her page. And I don’t mean teenaged, I mean damn near 30…with one of her kids as one of her FB friends.

Talking about what she needed and how she needed it and asking was anyone going to help her. I wanted to say, “Btch, is you back on drugs?!?!”

SlimUno

September 13th, 2011
12:58 pm

SC – Daaaaaamn, you kicking arse and taking names i see :lol:

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
1:00 pm

I sure wish Dugans was a better spot to hang out.

Leggs have you been to the new one off of Old Nat.l? It’s always full and lots of people to watch. The dj is pretty good,too..

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
1:02 pm

SC, i have a niece in her 30s like that. she also has a kid on FB. not only posting inappropriate things but constantly blasting fam if anyone fails to cow to her every whim. since she insisted she can do as she pleases on her page, i just had to unfriend her.

and she wonders why she feels no luv at family gatherings.

oneofeach4me

September 13th, 2011
1:07 pm

@Blah Blah, you could also try The Graveyard Tavern in East Atl if you like a melting pot crowd. I live in Kennesaw and got EXTREMELY tired of the “night life” (or lack there of) scene in that area. Same old faces every single time. I don’t go out very often, but when I do… that is where I head to. Good luck! 30 is still young!

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:09 pm

oneofeach4me I will have to check out that place

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
1:10 pm

I messaged her and told her that there is not anything wrong with having grown woman needs and wanting it real and raw. However, she needs to keep it ladylike in the streets and that she needs to keep all that hoe sht behind close doors and unlike folks who don’t give a crap, I would tell her directly instead of talking about her behind her back.

At least she listened and took it down.

oneofeach4me

September 13th, 2011
1:10 pm

@Randy ~ let the girl approach you in the club. Or, if she makes any kind of eye contact for longer than 5 seconds, basically long enough to keep staring even though she knows you are looking, make a move. It can be walking by her with a slight touch on her lower back to get her attention. Then ask her to follow you a little to the side so you don’t have to talk to her friends AND her. You seem like a good dude.. I am sure it would work for you if you try it.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
1:11 pm

Blah Blah – what other social activities do you participate in? What are your hobbies? Favorite pasttimes?

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:14 pm

Poker, working out, yard work, I used to skydive but my ex wife cheated on me in the plane we were married in, so I haven’t been back there since, I am looking to get an old muscle car to rebuild. Mostly just work recently though.

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
1:15 pm

” my ex wife cheated on me in the plane we were married in,”

Damn…

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:16 pm

Yup, we had a skydiving wedding and at a drop zone party she cheated on me in the exact place we took our wedding vows, I married a real winner there huh.

oneofeach4me

September 13th, 2011
1:19 pm

@Blah ~ don’t put all us women in the same category, even though I am sure at this stage it’s easier said that done for you. That is pretty dayum triffling of her… but unfortunately it happened. All you can do now is move on and be happy, THAT my friend is the best revenge!

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

@oneofeach4me thanks, I am doing fine, since she has been gone I have gone on vacations, I have been having a good time, so it’s all good with me. She can rot for all I care, I am just getting back into it, I’ll get there, I am not too worried about it.

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

@SexyC ~ thanks for the laugh. I was drinking water and it went down the wrong pipe re your 12:50. Also tell her to be careful, her employer could be lurking.

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

Blah, You should have pushed BOTH of their azzes out of the plane!!!

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
1:24 pm

Oh…and it sounds like your social activities are geared towards all-male or solo activities. Gonna be kinda hard to meet a chick in any of those situations. Considered trying new things? Anything on your bucket list that might put you around more people in casual situations?

czBrat

September 13th, 2011
1:27 pm

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:28 pm

@SC not right at the moment, I am not dating right now anyway, I am getting back to the shape I was in prior to marriage, I am not scrawny, but I need to get my old build back, it’s going pretty quick, I just gotta keep at it. BTW if any of you live near one LIFETIME is freakin AWESOME!!!

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

@SassyMe ~ haven’t frequented a bar in a long time. I’ll keep that one in mind.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 13th, 2011
1:30 pm

@Blah…1st things you gotta do is get over the ex-wife, its fairly obvious that she kinda fugged your head up…get some casual azz for bout a month, u a military cat, so you prolly in decent shape, its plenty of pudddy out here for your man, and women can see when a man isn’t confident, which probably the real problem that you are having….better that the cheating happened now…how bout if you were 10-15 yrs in…look for the positive bruh and keep on livin, cause the clock gonna tick tock whether you are stuck in a moment in time or not..tighten up soldier!!!

SexyCool

September 13th, 2011
1:31 pm

Makes sense. Sounds like you’re in a fairly decent headspace. Wish ya’ the best, bud.

oneofeach4me

September 13th, 2011
1:31 pm

@Blah ~ yup! That’s my gym too! Gotta love a gym with a steam room, pools, and hot tubs!!

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
1:47 pm

Blah, I go to the LifeTime @ Discover Mills, and there are always a ton of women there…Seems like that would be a good place for you to catch yourself a FWB or as a dear friend of mines calls them a Transitional chick…

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:48 pm

@Jake- Yeah very true, I was very fugged up in the head and my confidence was shot, one more reason I am heading back to the gym. I am disciplined enough to get into great shape in a matter of 2-3 months. Once I get there, then I can go out with confidence. I have a plan and I have the drive to get there, so I am good.

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:49 pm

My lifetime is mountain brook I am in there roughly 2 hours a day and love it.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
1:50 pm

SCool – Your 12:20, same here. Hang out with the girls on occasion or to grab a drink or listen to some music, that’s all.

Blah – Yeah, when you feel up to it, find some other fun activity to get involved in that is more co-ed. Sounds like a nice trip you are about to take, by the way. You are in the prime of your life, make the most of it. The ex will live to regret it, trust!

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
1:53 pm

Trust, Blah Blah. Kimmie is on point!!!

Blah blah

September 13th, 2011
1:54 pm

But I gotta get back to work, so I’ll leave with this, due to being in a marriage where I was obviously a second thought, I won’t just be an option to a girl in dating, I won’t date a juggler, not worth it, and if they are doing that then they will hide the truth or juggle the time that they would spend with me and that is unacceptable. I view someone that is dating multiple people as someone that will be prone to cheat. Not going to happen with me.

i'm swiss™

September 13th, 2011
1:56 pm

Speaking of Lifetime… Here’s a brief PSA regarding gym locker room etiquette:

Attention gym-goers (particularly my people and old, Asian men): Please, please, please, for the sake of all that is right and good on this earth, PUT ON A GOT D@MN TOWEL when you’re strolling your azz around the locker room. Nobody wants to see that sh!t. Thank you.

That is all.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
2:00 pm

Nobody wants to see that sh!t. Thank you.

:lol:

I notice that as well in the women’s locker room on occasion…but I’m sure you wouldn’t have a problem with that huh, Swiss? ;-)

Lady Strange

September 13th, 2011
2:02 pm

Oh I understand that some men won’t date a woman with a kid(s). Came across it a lot when I was dating. Best to find out ahead of time and save us both the time/energy. And no, it’s not easy for the person coming in to a relationship with someone who has kids. I just don’t like the term baggage. :) I prefer to think of my son as a bonus, cause he’s an awesome little kid.

I’m lucky to have found an awesome man who wants us to be a family. It’s a struggle to make it all mesh together, but it’s worth it. There are good men out there, single ladies take a look around. Mr. Right might be right in front of you. Give those nice guys a chance :)

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:03 pm

I’ll be a monkey’s uncle if I’m walking around strange women nekkid.

i'm swiss™

September 13th, 2011
2:04 pm

“I notice that as well in the women’s locker room on occasion…but I’m sure you wouldn’t have a problem with that huh, Swiss?”

Sassy — I don’t really want to see any flabby, old white or Asian puddy, either. Now if you want to walk around butt-nekkid, I won’t complain… ;-) :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 13th, 2011
2:08 pm

Afternoon All!

Thanks for the B-day Wishes Leggs (just in case you didnt get my email)!

So whats good Party People?

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:09 pm

@LadyStrange, I’m happy for you. I’m gonna stand on the highway with my handmade cardboard sign, dressed to the nines (so they won’t think I’m homeless) smiling broadly “LOOKING FOR A GOOD MAN!!!!”

That should get me some attention (besides APD).

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:13 pm

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 13th, 2011
2:13 pm

Happy Bday Mo…where you celebrating

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
2:19 pm

I don’t really want to see any flabby, old white or Asian puddy, either.

Hell that makes two of us Swiss..I should’ve been a little clearer in/with my post. I didn’t mean old white or Asian tail perse but just the fact that some of the women at the gym walk around the locker room like they’re alone or at home alone. Smart azz!! ;-)

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
2:21 pm

Happy B’earthday Mo…where you celebrating

So umm where the party at?!

i'm swiss™

September 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

:lol: @ Sassy. Yeah, I called out my people and Asians in particular because those seem to be the worst offenders. I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing or what. Then again, I’m about as white as it gets, and I know to put on a d@mn towel. Of course, I do like to walk around butt-nekkid — just not around other dudes. :lol:

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
2:29 pm

“I don’t really want to see any flabby, old white or Asian puddy, either.”

except Kathy Griffin and Margret Cho.. I would do a threesome with them….. (What?!?!?!)

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:30 pm

Mo, or have you already celebrated this past weekend?

Button

September 13th, 2011
2:31 pm

@ I’m a Swiss, the body is a beautiful thing, why cover it up? #imjustsaying

If I had it my way, I would walk around nekkid all day er’ day #thaisall

Fion

September 13th, 2011
2:32 pm

“I don’t really want to see any flabby, old white or Asian puddy, either
except Kathy Griffin and Margret Cho.. I would do a threesome with them….. (What?!?!?!)”

@ Casual
…..just asking, do you dream about Martha Stewart????????

……..

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
2:36 pm

Fion, No…But if We happen to be at the same W hotel, and I saw her in thet lounge…..I might got to her suite and tel her to put them on the glass….. ( and hope the widow doesn not fall out…)

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:37 pm

Whatever you do, Casual observer, don’t write anything down for her (lol).

i'm swiss™

September 13th, 2011
2:37 pm

“the body is a beautiful thing, why cover it up?”

Um… not all bodies, Button.

And more to the point — it’s a locker room full of dudes. You might not mind seeing little beanie weenies everywhere you turn, but I can do without it, thanks. :lol:

MzNewy

September 13th, 2011
2:41 pm

Hey all! Just popping in really quick to weigh in on the topic…

Wow when men date with options, it seems to be cool but from reading up there, men look at women who have options as garden tools….what a double standard!!!!!

I am opposed to any one trying to be exclusive too quickly. So instead of calling it date juggling, call it “two friends hanging out”….and go dutch, he won’t feel like he is losing anything and she won’t feel like she owes him anything. Problem solved. :)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 13th, 2011
2:41 pm

Sorry All, got a lil tied up on a call!

Jake/Sassy/Leggs – Ummm, Im celebrating ALL month! :0) I mean, hell why not! Hitting some happy hours, brunches, trying to get my two-step-drop-it-like-its-hott on…you know…CELEBRATE!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 13th, 2011
2:42 pm

And thanks Sassy and Jake for the b-day wishes!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
2:49 pm

@ Leggs, I’ve walked around a bunch of strange women nekkid. Problem is I didn’t know they were strange until later after the “nekkid” ;-) (and yes, I have a t-shirt or two saying “who is that woman I thought I knew but obviously didn’t before we got nekkid???”

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:49 pm

Tell us where you be sometime and we’ll stop by and have a bday drink with you. Shucks, even buy YOU one (lol)…

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:51 pm

Laughing at you, Randyt. You didn’t know they were strange because you were too quick to meet their puddy and not them! :wink:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
2:51 pm

Last was for Sassy, sorry.

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
2:54 pm

Doesn’t matter, still laughing.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 13th, 2011
2:54 pm

Alright Leggs! Thank you chica! I will sure keep you posted.

LOL @ Randyt

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
2:54 pm

Randy were/are you a dancer?…j/k..bnr

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
3:04 pm

no Sassy, just didn’t know they were strange until tooooooo late.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 13th, 2011
3:08 pm

Wow Randy…hope they didn’t make you second guess yourself in the morning..

Button

September 13th, 2011
3:26 pm

who is that woman I thought I knew but obviously didn’t before we got nekkid???” @Raaaaandyt, neva mind :lol:

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
3:26 pm

@Randyt?

We going to schedule an audit of ur T-shirts!

funky smell coming outta the chest of drawers. :lol:

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
3:47 pm

Seems like that smell shut down the place!

For Real

September 13th, 2011
3:48 pm

Happy Bday Mo!!!! Where are we meeting for drinks after work?

For Real

September 13th, 2011
3:53 pm

Oh and Mo, I’ll pay for your drinks too. Oh and lately when I buy a drink half of the drink is missing. I’m just saying so you don’t thing I drank it.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
3:58 pm

4 Real – Be sure to let Mo know you are dating others!LOL!!

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
3:59 pm

@Leggs?

Seem so Leggs!

coz Randyt has been sleeping with females and shims.

So apart from auditing the T-shirts,we gotta send the genuine females he been with to the mouf specialist as well coz their moufs may be carrying some UFObjects!

It’s a scary situation today on the blog.

Blah blah was referred to the’ Ur A Man Dawg ‘ specialist to get his confidence back after having been shaken when he witnessed his wife being pummeled!

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:05 pm

Afternoon, all!

Happy birthday, Mo. And don’t let For Real drink half your drink and try to top it off with water or coke. I don’t know who he thinks he’s fooling with that mess….

LOL@Leggs and your 2:09. I think you should get a billboard. Try not to look too cute, though…you don’t want to be causing any wrecks. :)

WTH is the deal with the men on this blog and Martha Stewart??? Didn’t she make one of the guy’s fantasy team the other day??? smh….I just don’t see it…

SlimNu

September 13th, 2011
4:06 pm

For Real – It’s my birthday too….in just 278 days so i’m up for some half sipped on dranks ;-)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

September 13th, 2011
4:09 pm

LOL @ For Real! Only you man, only you! :smile:

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
4:13 pm

@ITL ~ Martha Stewart has some fans in Blogsville.

kimmie

September 13th, 2011
4:16 pm

Light – That’s nothing. Exiled has a long running crush on Diane Sawyer!!LOL!!!

For Real

September 13th, 2011
4:27 pm

Kimmie: I’ll wear my “I’m Probably Lying” t-shirt

ITL: It’s not me it’s the Man that’s watering down Mo’s drink or Batman is drinking half of it. But it’s definitely not me and most certainly one of the two option I provided.

Slim: You know you are always welcome to sip on one out of four drinks that I will have. You my boy blue. Hope that wasn’t too soon.

Mo: “For Real! Only you man, only you!” – That’s what she said! Now finish this statement “Give me a bottle and a _________”

SlimNu

September 13th, 2011
4:31 pm

You my boy blue. Hope that wasn’t too soon

4Treal – now you owe me half a drank AND a fourth of a cheesestick

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:32 pm

Don’t go easy on him, Slim. Make him come up with a teaspoon of marinara to dip it in.

Martha and Dianne…Just not seeing it. But hey, they like it, I love it. :) At least they picked smart women with a sense of style.

Fion

September 13th, 2011
4:34 pm

Fantasizing about Kathy Griffin and Margret Cho and Martha Stewart is liks going to the buffet with
Filet, Lobster Tail and Caviar and walking away with Cube Steak.

Just sayin

Fion

September 13th, 2011
4:35 pm

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:35 pm

I always piss standing up. Oh Hello everyone

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:37 pm

Night, Fion. :)

Hey, Purp.

For Real

September 13th, 2011
4:38 pm

“now you owe me half a drank AND a fourth of a cheesestick” – Dayum!!! I was going to stick a candle in half of one of those cheesesticks for Mo’s bday. For Real now plotting to get a free drank to split with Slim. It’s a good thing For Real keeps at least two dead flies on his person.

ITL: Stop instigating! You good and well they only give you a tablespoon of marinara souce.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

Fion?

Kathy Griffin and Margaret Cho like rough s e x so if that’s not ur style,I understand.

Martha Stewart likes to be in charge and man handle,some men like that.

I think Dianne and myself make a good couple.

She’s shy but I bring out the biaatch in her.

Good match

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:40 pm

Hello ITL!

What is attractive about Martha Stewart?

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:42 pm

Mmm hmmmm. Next thing you know we’ll hear about For Real finding a finger in his Wendy’s chili….Oh, wait…

And For Real, I’m not instigating. I’m just nudging things along a little.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
4:42 pm

I’ve wanted Diane Sawyer…smart, attractive, etc….but Martha Stewart, Margaret Cho, and Kathy Griffin…dayum man why waste a good fantasy on them…at least say Christie Brinkley or something…gee.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:43 pm

I wonder if Nancy Grace is any good in bed? Most bitchy women are great in bed so that means she would probably be a winner in the sack. LOL I would not sleep with her but if anyone does give the blog a report.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:44 pm

Wondering the same thing, Purp. Although, I would love to visit her house and cook and garden and do crafts for a day.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

Oh come on now…you show me a guy on this blog that has never slept with a crazy (aka “strange”) woman, and I’ll show you The Last American Virgin.

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

I take Dianne around the track a few times…I have always thought she was cute…Purp, you just dropped in with that annoucement huh….lol

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:46 pm

I CANNOT STAND KATHY GRIFFIN!!

That is all.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:46 pm

Purp?

just looking at Nancy’s lips,she must give good head!

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:47 pm

Oh, except Nancy Grace will be on Dancing with Stars. Be interesting to see if she has any rhythm.

For Real

September 13th, 2011
4:47 pm

For Real has found muse for his “Towels & Vanila Scented Lotion Session”

Leila Lopes

For Real is now placing the finger back in the feezer.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:47 pm

Jake yes, I like to make an entrance. LOL

For Real

September 13th, 2011
4:49 pm

ITL: Rhythm is not required for Nancy Grace. All she need is a high pain treshold and a good gag reflex.

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:50 pm

and Nancy has wide nostrils,so no danger of suffocating there when deep throating!

Good oxygen supply!

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:50 pm

For Real, yes she has some DSL’s

For the record dance moves do not correlate to bedroom rhythm.

Ladies and Gentleman, name the weirdest trait a person had that you have ever dated/slept with.

I think the weirdest was a girl who just squeaked for no reason, the oddest was this beautiful lady who was fine but had a mole on her butt with two hairs sticking out of it. Right there on the crack of her ass.

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
4:50 pm

@For Real ~ she’s beautiful.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:50 pm

and to be sans tonsils…..

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:53 pm

MIght miss her mouth and slide up one of those huge nostrils, that would probably feel good though

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:53 pm

Weirdest?
her body quivered and shook the moment i put it in

:lol:

luved that girl

she pass,tho

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:53 pm

Leila Lopes is beautiful!

Dang, Purp. You couldn’t have kept that to yourself? Hairy moles on are on my phobia list…along with clowns, Chinese buffets, the Six Flags old man, and the GEICO googly-money eyes… ((((SHUDDER)))))

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
4:55 pm

@ ITL “clowns”??? What did you do, read Stephen King’s “It” at an early age?

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:56 pm

Mole on the butt near the v-jay

had a girl like that too

also top tier

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:56 pm

Exiled “She pass, tho”

You killed her?

ITL, no I was just sharing. LOL

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:56 pm

As a matter of fact, Randy, yes. I also made the mistake of watching the John Wayne Gacy story one night…..

Hold me…. :)

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

ITL?

do u make sounds when u give head?

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

Exiled!

September 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

no died in a car wreck

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
4:58 pm

Wow….way to go, Donnie Downer!

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
4:59 pm

Sorry to hear that Exiled.

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:00 pm

Purp: She had two big ass corns on her toes. I know, I know but for some reason she thought she had cute feet. But she was fine as hell tho. I just could not make it pass those corns.

STOP TOUCHING ME!!!! For Real now showering with comet.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:00 pm

Hey Randy….ready for the game with the Gators this weekend? I picked y’all in my Sack ‘em Shultz picks; don’t let me down!

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
5:01 pm

Joke:

Why are hurricanes named after women?

Because, when they arrive, they’re wet and wild, and when they leave they take your car and your home….ba da bing! (From the movie, Traffic)

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:02 pm

Wow, For Real.. you’re gonna smell as sexy as my Grandma’s tub. :lol: :lol:

Ex, sorry to hear about your friend.

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
5:03 pm

Loved the John Wayne Gacy story and movie!

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:03 pm

LOL@For Real, don’t you hate it when a woman is fine EXCEPT when you get to the toes? Oh I remember would woman was fine and we got close then want time I looked at her hand and her pinky and the finger next to it were molded together. I could not get over that.

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:04 pm

ITL: At least I will get that toe-corn juice off me.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

Thanks ITL. Not sure what to expect. They’ve played two high school teams and ours aren’t much better. Gators are 9 1/2 pt favorites, but we seem to be able to put up points in the air. The question is whether we can shut down Rainey. Sorry for your loss Saturday. With Garcia in one of his Mr. Hyde showings, I thought you had them. That was tough.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

Saw a cute girl out at a bar once, every time she talked spittle would form in the corners of her mouth. No bueno!

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

I don’t understand the hype for UGA every game I saw them play they sucked.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:10 pm

@ PR…I don’t have a Dawg in the fight (pardon the pun), but with the recruits and the assets at Athens, they should be a Top 10 team every year. However every year seems like a piece of the puzzle is missing for GA. Getting rid of Willie Martinez (which my Vols probably drove the final nail in the coffin for him two years ago in Knoxville) should have helped but they seem to somehow disappoint still. Would you agree ITL?

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:10 pm

Purp: I had a chick and her right hand was partially burned (thumb & forefinger) and the first time she stepped to the mic and I saw Mister in her right hand I went soft. I never could get pass that. Sweet chick but….

STOP TOUCHING ME!!!! For Real now scrubbing Mister with comet.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:12 pm

Randy, I hope they get it together soon for their fans sake, it;s like a religion down there.

For Real, I understand. Us men have feelings too. LOL

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:12 pm

Thanks, Randyt. It was a heartbreaker, but the mistakes came back to haunt us. I was very, very proud of the way our guys refused to give in and kept playing ball until the last snap. I didn’t see that at the Boise game, so I’m taking it as forward progress.

This weekend should be fun… be interesting to see what happens in two weeks, though, against the cowbell clan. Thank God we’re playing them here and not in Stark Vegas.

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
5:12 pm

For the record, Kathy and Margret are bot funny and game for EVERYTHING!! That means we can have a threesome in the back of a Volvo Station wagon and they will find it funny if we get caught…. Weird trait… Once dated a girl with one breast a B and the other a double D!!!

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:13 pm

When GA makes the decision that they want a “Football Coach” instead of a “Baptist Minister” then they will be a Top 10 Program.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:14 pm

@ For Real … I had a high school teacher with a hand like that who seemed (to my young and impressionable self) to be willing to be my “Mrs. Robinson”. I’ll never know.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:16 pm

Someone told me that UGA played a “good game”. If you did not win you did not play a good game.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:16 pm

Yeah, Randy, i was very hopeful after the Martinez exodus. I really feel that Bobo should Gogo, too. Some of the boneheaded plays he calls have me sitting there with 92K of my closest friends, all of us shaking our heads.

I’d like to think that Richt is not the problem, but when you have Moreno and Stafford on the same team and still don’t finish the drill??? C’mon….it’s obviously not the talent, so what is the missing link???

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:19 pm

You could not be more wrong, Purp. They played a helluva a game. Just some boneheaded mistakes and missed calls that had them posting an L.

For Real, you quit talking about my Dawgs or I’m going to the podiatrist’s office and find the chick with the most messed up feet in the whole office and giving her your address, your phone number, and keys to your house AND your mama’s house.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:21 pm

Oh, and I’mma make sure she has a twin sister in need of serious orthodontia and a dermatologist. So there, Comet Man! Scrub on that. :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:22 pm

@ ITL, yeah UGA has me puzzled. the scary thing is the similarities I see with my Vols in the last 5 years under Phil Fulmer…too much loyalty to coordinators not getting the job donw, not enough “come to Jesus” meetings with underperformers, and worst of all, an inability to compete with the big boys (most of which are on our schedule every year, life in the circular firing squad known as the SEC).

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:26 pm

ITL, playing good means you win playing abd means you lose. That’s the rules babe! :)

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:26 pm

Totally agree, Randy. I thought Richt had finally grasped the concept when he let Willie go, but I can’t understand why he allows Bobo to turn in a sub-par performance week after week.

On a positive note, this Crowell kid is the real deal. He is explosive and exciting to watch. In a couple of years, he’ll really be amazing. And speaking of amazing, USC’s Lattimore is a beast. For my money, definitely the best RB in the SEC if not the entire BCS.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:27 pm

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:28 pm

ITL, if UGA doesnt get it together Crowell will be heading to the NFL early. To much talent on that team for them not to win

cba

September 13th, 2011
5:29 pm

Melvin Ingram is a stud!!!

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:32 pm

Randyt, you and I are so right-here (pointing from my eyes to yours). I printed that out before the beginning of the season and posted it on my desk like I do year after year. I work with mostly guys, so we have good time from week to week.

Are you playing Sack Schultz?

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:34 pm

He’ll probably go early anyway, PR. I would….the beating an RB’s money takes week in and week out?? Shoot, I’d take the money and run (pun intended).

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:35 pm

the beating an RB’s body takes

(sorry, late in the day)

MenRhard2FigureOut

September 13th, 2011
7:14 pm

WOW. The article is so VERY interesting and RIGHT on time since I’m in a situation similar to this. I feel like you MUST date to find what you like. But it should be understood that you do see others. Be discreet and respectful. Honest but private to a certain degree. I met a great guy and we were both upfront about seeing other people. HE didn’t seem to have problem with me dating others and honestly when I met him, I like him and enjoyed our dates/outings but I didn’t have an issue with him seeing other women. We both understood each other.

We met about a year ago. But we’ve only dated consistently for about the last 6 months. Initially we just ping’d each other every now and then, went out for cocktails and kept it moving – by the way WE WERE NOT SLEEPING TOGETHER. We simply enjoyed each other’s company. This past March we began seeing each other on a more regular basis.Eventually after about 7 months total of knowing each other we began sleeping together so we didn’t just hop into bed. We began hanging out more, talking on the phone, etc., Texting, and just staying in touch frequently throughout the weeks. Before long, I kind of noticed that I didn’t want to see other guys. So I eventually made myself unavailable to other guys. Then most recently I began feeling some emotional attachments to this one guy but I’ve noticed that suddenly we aren’t seeing each other as much as we use to. No bad blood, arguments or disagreements.

Tons in common, so much fun together, very compatiable. Both of us by the way are the same zodiac sign and both exhibit a lot of pride. Anyhow, it seems things are slowly fizzling out. I’m too afraid to tell him what I feel about him because as another person posted, it’s terrifyng to share your feelings and learn that his feelings aren’t the same. What did I do wrong? Where did I go wrong? I met him and was upfront with him. He accepted this and shared that he too saw other women. I never pressured him. But I am so confused. What do I do next?

Sign . . . MenRhard2Figureout