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Dating the date juggler?

My friend David met a really great girl but he has already decided to move on. He found out that she is “in demand” and gets asked out quite a lot. Apparently, this is a deal breaker?

I asked him why would he give up so easily. He’s no slouch and he could easily “compete” for her affections. He said that he is no interested in doing so. Call it ego, or just knowing he has a boatload of options himself. He doesn’t date the date juggler.

I am not sure how he knows how many guys the young girl was seeing. I wonder why do we need to be the only one a person is dating? If you are single and exploring your options, should you really be penalized for that?

How many prospects should you try to take on at one time in dating?

Would it bother you if you went out with someone and you were their second date or meet up of the day?

Do you think a single person who juggles a bunch of dates is a deal breaker?

What do you do if you are seeing someone you connect with and you want them to drop their other options? Is it fair to ask that they stop seeing other people when you aren’t sure that you want to be exclusive with them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:00 pm

Hey Randy….ready for the game with the Gators this weekend? I picked y’all in my Sack ‘em Shultz picks; don’t let me down!

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
5:01 pm

Joke:

Why are hurricanes named after women?

Because, when they arrive, they’re wet and wild, and when they leave they take your car and your home….ba da bing! (From the movie, Traffic)

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:02 pm

Wow, For Real.. you’re gonna smell as sexy as my Grandma’s tub. :lol: :lol:

Ex, sorry to hear about your friend.

Leggs

September 13th, 2011
5:03 pm

Loved the John Wayne Gacy story and movie!

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:03 pm

LOL@For Real, don’t you hate it when a woman is fine EXCEPT when you get to the toes? Oh I remember would woman was fine and we got close then want time I looked at her hand and her pinky and the finger next to it were molded together. I could not get over that.

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:04 pm

ITL: At least I will get that toe-corn juice off me.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

Thanks ITL. Not sure what to expect. They’ve played two high school teams and ours aren’t much better. Gators are 9 1/2 pt favorites, but we seem to be able to put up points in the air. The question is whether we can shut down Rainey. Sorry for your loss Saturday. With Garcia in one of his Mr. Hyde showings, I thought you had them. That was tough.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

Saw a cute girl out at a bar once, every time she talked spittle would form in the corners of her mouth. No bueno!

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:06 pm

I don’t understand the hype for UGA every game I saw them play they sucked.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:10 pm

@ PR…I don’t have a Dawg in the fight (pardon the pun), but with the recruits and the assets at Athens, they should be a Top 10 team every year. However every year seems like a piece of the puzzle is missing for GA. Getting rid of Willie Martinez (which my Vols probably drove the final nail in the coffin for him two years ago in Knoxville) should have helped but they seem to somehow disappoint still. Would you agree ITL?

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:10 pm

Purp: I had a chick and her right hand was partially burned (thumb & forefinger) and the first time she stepped to the mic and I saw Mister in her right hand I went soft. I never could get pass that. Sweet chick but….

STOP TOUCHING ME!!!! For Real now scrubbing Mister with comet.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:12 pm

Randy, I hope they get it together soon for their fans sake, it;s like a religion down there.

For Real, I understand. Us men have feelings too. LOL

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:12 pm

Thanks, Randyt. It was a heartbreaker, but the mistakes came back to haunt us. I was very, very proud of the way our guys refused to give in and kept playing ball until the last snap. I didn’t see that at the Boise game, so I’m taking it as forward progress.

This weekend should be fun… be interesting to see what happens in two weeks, though, against the cowbell clan. Thank God we’re playing them here and not in Stark Vegas.

Casual observer

September 13th, 2011
5:12 pm

For the record, Kathy and Margret are bot funny and game for EVERYTHING!! That means we can have a threesome in the back of a Volvo Station wagon and they will find it funny if we get caught…. Weird trait… Once dated a girl with one breast a B and the other a double D!!!

For Real

September 13th, 2011
5:13 pm

When GA makes the decision that they want a “Football Coach” instead of a “Baptist Minister” then they will be a Top 10 Program.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:14 pm

@ For Real … I had a high school teacher with a hand like that who seemed (to my young and impressionable self) to be willing to be my “Mrs. Robinson”. I’ll never know.

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:16 pm

Someone told me that UGA played a “good game”. If you did not win you did not play a good game.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:16 pm

Yeah, Randy, i was very hopeful after the Martinez exodus. I really feel that Bobo should Gogo, too. Some of the boneheaded plays he calls have me sitting there with 92K of my closest friends, all of us shaking our heads.

I’d like to think that Richt is not the problem, but when you have Moreno and Stafford on the same team and still don’t finish the drill??? C’mon….it’s obviously not the talent, so what is the missing link???

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:19 pm

You could not be more wrong, Purp. They played a helluva a game. Just some boneheaded mistakes and missed calls that had them posting an L.

For Real, you quit talking about my Dawgs or I’m going to the podiatrist’s office and find the chick with the most messed up feet in the whole office and giving her your address, your phone number, and keys to your house AND your mama’s house.

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:21 pm

Oh, and I’mma make sure she has a twin sister in need of serious orthodontia and a dermatologist. So there, Comet Man! Scrub on that. :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:22 pm

@ ITL, yeah UGA has me puzzled. the scary thing is the similarities I see with my Vols in the last 5 years under Phil Fulmer…too much loyalty to coordinators not getting the job donw, not enough “come to Jesus” meetings with underperformers, and worst of all, an inability to compete with the big boys (most of which are on our schedule every year, life in the circular firing squad known as the SEC).

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:26 pm

ITL, playing good means you win playing abd means you lose. That’s the rules babe! :)

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:26 pm

Totally agree, Randy. I thought Richt had finally grasped the concept when he let Willie go, but I can’t understand why he allows Bobo to turn in a sub-par performance week after week.

On a positive note, this Crowell kid is the real deal. He is explosive and exciting to watch. In a couple of years, he’ll really be amazing. And speaking of amazing, USC’s Lattimore is a beast. For my money, definitely the best RB in the SEC if not the entire BCS.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 13th, 2011
5:27 pm

Purple Reign

September 13th, 2011
5:28 pm

ITL, if UGA doesnt get it together Crowell will be heading to the NFL early. To much talent on that team for them not to win

cba

September 13th, 2011
5:29 pm

Melvin Ingram is a stud!!!

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:32 pm

Randyt, you and I are so right-here (pointing from my eyes to yours). I printed that out before the beginning of the season and posted it on my desk like I do year after year. I work with mostly guys, so we have good time from week to week.

Are you playing Sack Schultz?

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:34 pm

He’ll probably go early anyway, PR. I would….the beating an RB’s money takes week in and week out?? Shoot, I’d take the money and run (pun intended).

Into the Light

September 13th, 2011
5:35 pm

the beating an RB’s body takes

(sorry, late in the day)

MenRhard2FigureOut

September 13th, 2011
7:14 pm

WOW. The article is so VERY interesting and RIGHT on time since I’m in a situation similar to this. I feel like you MUST date to find what you like. But it should be understood that you do see others. Be discreet and respectful. Honest but private to a certain degree. I met a great guy and we were both upfront about seeing other people. HE didn’t seem to have problem with me dating others and honestly when I met him, I like him and enjoyed our dates/outings but I didn’t have an issue with him seeing other women. We both understood each other.

We met about a year ago. But we’ve only dated consistently for about the last 6 months. Initially we just ping’d each other every now and then, went out for cocktails and kept it moving – by the way WE WERE NOT SLEEPING TOGETHER. We simply enjoyed each other’s company. This past March we began seeing each other on a more regular basis.Eventually after about 7 months total of knowing each other we began sleeping together so we didn’t just hop into bed. We began hanging out more, talking on the phone, etc., Texting, and just staying in touch frequently throughout the weeks. Before long, I kind of noticed that I didn’t want to see other guys. So I eventually made myself unavailable to other guys. Then most recently I began feeling some emotional attachments to this one guy but I’ve noticed that suddenly we aren’t seeing each other as much as we use to. No bad blood, arguments or disagreements.

Tons in common, so much fun together, very compatiable. Both of us by the way are the same zodiac sign and both exhibit a lot of pride. Anyhow, it seems things are slowly fizzling out. I’m too afraid to tell him what I feel about him because as another person posted, it’s terrifyng to share your feelings and learn that his feelings aren’t the same. What did I do wrong? Where did I go wrong? I met him and was upfront with him. He accepted this and shared that he too saw other women. I never pressured him. But I am so confused. What do I do next?

Sign . . . MenRhard2Figureout