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It’s date night (You need a plan)

When you have a date scheduled, it’s always great to have a plan. It’s cool to be all laid back but if you expect to have a good time, even spontaneity has its limitations.

For the record guys, women love men with a plan. It shows that he thinks of her as someone special! When you show little effort in getting a date plan together, you could come across as uninterested.

What is a good plan to have? Location, activities, and time to actually talk. First dates should involve ample time to check out if you have chemistry.

When you want to impress your date, what kind of plans do you make?

Would you stop seeing someone if their date plan leave something to be desired?

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Leggs

September 9th, 2011
12:26 pm

@WillieD ~ she’s a straight shooter with accurate aim (lol). Even if you zig zag across the street, she’ll still take you down!!

Simple Man..

September 9th, 2011
12:27 pm

First dates are easy…Pick a place you like,, if there is no connection then at least you are familiar with the lay of the land and can adjust accordingly…. :)

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
12:31 pm

leggs, i can recall being 8 yrs old and telling my brother (NYPD) i wanted the seat facing the door. he said “as long as you’re gonna handle any trouble that comes through that door, you can watch it.” ever since then i’ve opted to enjoy my meal in peace and let the muscle do the watching.

and as for them eyeballing other things, well i’ve always said folks are gonna do what folks are gonna do.

willie, question is do you see an ulterior motive in her letting you pick the bistro?

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

September 9th, 2011
12:32 pm

“That’s no secret. Just like men don’t like sitting with their backs to the door. They want to see who walks in and make sure they can make a mad dash at the back if need be”

Yeah me and dudes always fight for the seat where I can see. I don’t like being vunerable either. So we choose a booth and sit on the same side. Why should I get the death seat?

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
12:34 pm

That’s what I thought, SimpleM – first dates are the easiest. You aren’t dating, simply meeting up with another person to see if there’s any chemistry. Drinks and a little food. No need to spend a lot of money.

abc

September 9th, 2011
12:35 pm

What’s the diss? Most chicks like for the man to decide what to do, where to eat, set the calendar. If she wants something specific and says so, then do it. I don’t see the big deal.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
12:36 pm

@czB ~ I’ve always been told that men want to view the front door for any trouble that may walk in. I was poking fun with my previous post. Your brother is right.

The death seat :lol: I have thought “sure hope he can protect us if stuff pops off.”

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
12:39 pm

Aye, me so full and sweepy now arrrgghh

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
12:45 pm

“as long as you’re gonna handle any trouble that comes through that door”

Um… folks are taking dates to places where that’s a legitimate possibility?

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
12:47 pm

LOL@ the death seat. I always thought it was just me who felt that way…channeling my inner Calamity Jane outlaw girl.

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
12:49 pm

PS – I see some of the blog’s most talented writers in the room….Y’all gonna do an installment of the Frisky Friday Chronicles??? hint hint….

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
12:50 pm

I wonder why so many folks are opposed to sitting on the same side as their partner or date. If I’m feeling you, then I rather be closer to you than hollering across the salt, pepper, napkins, drink menu, dessert menu, and my tall long island iced tea. Plus the closer you are, the easier it is for me to scope out your plate to see what I may want to sample from it ;-)

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
12:52 pm

“Plus the closer you are, the easier it is for me to scope out your plate to see what I may want to sample from it”

And that’s why you need to just keep yo azz on your side of the table, Slim. :lol:

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
12:55 pm

Y’all gonna do an installment of the Frisky Friday Chronicles??? hint hint….

awww sh!t…you asking for it and it’s still hell-a-early ;-) This should be interesting…I wonder if it’ll be a co-ed writing session instead of just the (wo)men doing it.

side note: you know when people always seem pi$$ed about some/anything they just need a hug and for someone to say, “It’s okay”

Willie Dynamite

September 9th, 2011
12:57 pm

Brat – umm, No ulterior motive perse’ but just a way to avoid the pitfalls that Men have. As a whole the Man takes the reigns and initiative on asking, planning the date. We know it could be many reasons (some not so obvious) to get rejected. This is something most Women don’t have to deal with or worry because you are usually doing the choosing.

Now listen to all the Women talking about sitting on the same side in a booth on the first Date. I can see if yall have been out a few times before. Just let a dude date 1 try and sit beside BMW in a booth and see what happens.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:00 pm

Plus the closer you are, the easier it is for me to scope out your plate to see what I may want to sample from it

Not me(not for food anyway)…sometimes I sit next to my date when I want to feel him up under the table….don’t judge me ;-)

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
1:00 pm

And that’s why you need to just keep yo azz on your side of the table, Slim

:lol: :D

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
1:01 pm

sometimes I sit next to my date when I want to feel him up under the table….don’t judge me</em.

Sassy – She what you do is distract him with a crotch leg rub while you steal a nice succulent shrimp off his plate. :oops:

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
1:01 pm

“sometimes I sit next to my date when I want to feel him up under the table…”

Sassy — You could still do that when you’re sitting across from me. ZZZZZZIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPP :lol:

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
1:02 pm

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
1:05 pm

swiss – I just had to call a customer whose first name was Hung…I swear to the lawd i’m not even lying. :shock:

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
1:05 pm

swiss, when you’re trained new york’s finest that’s a legitimate possibility in every place. my brother has been retired 10 years but still carries his weapon at backyard bbqs. at his own house.

lol @ slim. i usually frown if they try to show us to a table. i mean, if there’s a booth anywhere in this establishment, i want it! i don’t usually sample from his plate, but i’ll turn mine so that whatever he likes most is closest to him. life is just easier if he doesn’t have to reach across me all the time.

Hope that keeps me off Brats list.
willie, i’m now channeling cherrelle “♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸you look good to me!♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸”
you and simple are on my sweetness list today. don’t muck it up!

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
1:06 pm

Serious question, though, ladies… Why can’t you all just order what you want? If you want a double chilli burger with fries, then order a double chilli burger with fries instead of ordering a garden salad and then eating my double chilli burger and fries, d@mmit! :lol:

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:07 pm

You could still do that when you’re sitting across from me

Swiss dearheart..I’m a hands on woman from many aspects and that’s one of them..playing footsie is cute n all but I want to feel the warmth of the jewels in my hand(s)…that while I whisper sweet little nothings in your ear.

ZZZZIIIIPPPPPP on that :mrgreen:

Purple Reign

September 9th, 2011
1:09 pm

Fail to plan, plan to fail. Everyman should have a plan and a backup plan…just in case she gets you riled up and doesn’t put out…call your backup plan. Oh yeah that applies to dates too. If I ask you out I already got everything planned out. I might even order for your non plan having ass too.

Alcohol and drinks do not mix, but the two together can be fun as long as you are not on the business end the gun. Unless she gets drunk and wants to see my love gun. I call it my “bangstick”

Okay I think I am all caught up and have responded properly!

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:10 pm

what you do is distract him with a crotch leg rub while you steal a nice succulent shrimp off his plate.

That’s a way to get ‘em for sure Slim Nu!!

I just had to call a customer whose first name was Hung…

Please tell me his last name wasn’t Lo…

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
1:12 pm

Sassy – it was close…Lam lol

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
1:13 pm

“.playing footsie is cute n all but I want to feel the warmth of the jewels in my hand(s)…”

Sassy — Who said anything about needing to use your feet? :lol:

Slim — Odds are pretty good that if a dude is named Hung, he’s not. :lol:

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
1:14 pm

“Oh seexxxxy giiiirrrrrllllfriend” – Long Duck Dong

Purple Reign

September 9th, 2011
1:14 pm

I like to sit beside the woman when we are on a date instead of sitting across from her. Even first dates. Plus side of having a pickup truck with a bench seat, she can slide right beside you while you are driving. :) Oh yeah nothing wrong with keeping a weapon on you at all times. You will never find me without a gun a knife or something that can cause some permenant damage. LOL

Purple Reign

September 9th, 2011
1:18 pm

Swiss how would you know the odds of someone being hung if their name was Hung? LOL

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
1:18 pm

@swiss ~ I order what I want from the menu. Not a salad person for dinner.

@SassyMe ~ that too would be my main reason for siting next to him. You are not alone, chica! It’s nice simply to rest my hand on his thigh stroking it a bit…

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:20 pm

Oh seexxxxy giiiirrrrrllllfriend” – Long Duck Dong

Oh I LOVE Sixteen Candles!! I had the hots for Jake but I thought the ending was sooo cute….with them sitting on a glass table in front of her birthday cake and he says, “Make a wish” and Molly’s character said, “It already came true”… {{{looong siiigh}}}…

another random: I’m going to see Kem at Chastain tonight and I can’t wait!!!

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
1:21 pm

“Swiss how would you know the odds of someone being hung if their name was Hung?”

Purple — Much to my chagrin, there’s a bunch of old Asian dudes at my gym who refuse to throw on a towel. There were a couple of times when I had to do a double-take to make sure I was in the correct locker room. :shock:

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:22 pm

It’s nice simply to rest my hand on his thigh stroking it a bit…

DING,DING,DING…now you get a brass ring(said in my Oprah voice)

Willie Dynamite

September 9th, 2011
1:24 pm

I can see at the next blog meetup blog dudes trying to push 4-5 booths together.

Purple Reign

September 9th, 2011
1:25 pm

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
1:25 pm

Willie D — +1 :lol:

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
1:26 pm

Great movie, Sassy! Miss John Hughes….

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
1:27 pm

swiss – So you found out you were in the right place huh? :lol: i kid

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
1:28 pm

Slim — Don’t get sassy with me. You might get stabbed with a fork when you try to steal one of my fries. :lol:

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
1:29 pm

Freaky Friday!!!

Dinner Date

I was pleasantly surprised when I arrived home from work there was a msg on my answering machine telling me about our date this evening and how excited he is. I knew the restaurant well we were going to so I had to pick out the perfect outfit. As I showered, lotioned my body down with his favorite scented lotion, I looked in the mirror and noticed the smirk on my face. I walk to the closet to get out my slinky, buttoned down lavendar sphagetti strapped dress. Oh, I just know his eyes will pop when he sees me slinking in in this dress. I arrive at the restaurant 10 mins early to ensure I have the booth I wanted. The booth with drapers are especially private. He arrives and greets with with a nice kiss. But, since it’s his bday, I want to give him one of his gifts early. I ask him to sit down. I close the drapes and go under the table (so glad this table cloth covers me). He’s not stopping me, as a matter of fact, he’s…….

Seven

September 9th, 2011
1:30 pm

Nice topic of the day. Interestingly enough, I just gave a guy walking papers b/c he was too spontaneous. He asked me on dates on the day of and still didn’t have a plan once we met up. Lack of planning and his age dug the dating grave. LOL Three dates was all I could do. On to the next….

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
1:33 pm

swiss – you have to be careful with that fork since my other hand is in your nether region near the family jewel. We wouldn’t want it to turn into something you can’t come back from ;-)

Ohhh, Leggs has popped of the Freaky Friday Fables

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:38 pm

He’s not stopping me, as a matter of fact, he’s…….

Gently easing his zipper down, helping me get to what I really want. I gently massage the smooth shaft his swelling manhood and gently brush my lips against the head…I do this again and feel him squirm a little and I smile wickedly as I grow bolder. While massaging his twin jewels I took him in my mouth slooooowly and methodically savoring his aroma and sweet taste. When I reach the base I let go of his jewels and went in for a good tonsil tickling deep throat…he almost knocked the table over. I thought he’d want me to stop but…

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
1:41 pm

On Cue SassyMe ~ hoped you be the next installment given our earlier posts (lol)… EXCELLENT! It’s on and popping!

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
1:41 pm

No shame here, had to read it twice! :wink:

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
1:45 pm

Leggs I felt like you wrote that for me so I felt obliged…thank you mami!! Great minds think alike :lol:

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
1:47 pm

Yes ma’am, I wrote it for you…

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
1:48 pm

I’m cracking up just visualizing the men quietly sitting at their desks repeatedly hitting F5…