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It’s date night (You need a plan)

When you have a date scheduled, it’s always great to have a plan. It’s cool to be all laid back but if you expect to have a good time, even spontaneity has its limitations.

For the record guys, women love men with a plan. It shows that he thinks of her as someone special! When you show little effort in getting a date plan together, you could come across as uninterested.

What is a good plan to have? Location, activities, and time to actually talk. First dates should involve ample time to check out if you have chemistry.

When you want to impress your date, what kind of plans do you make?

Would you stop seeing someone if their date plan leave something to be desired?

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Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:57 am

Whatcha got now, ForReal (lol)?

SexyCool

September 9th, 2011
11:00 am

Then I would say that you’re not that into him.

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
11:03 am

i understand that dude may not know much about me, but he does know himself. and since we’ve probably spoken at least once before deciding to “date”, he should know enough to plan something cozy or something active … depending on what got us vibing in the first place. our first date should not be about you trying to impress me; it should be about you showing me more of who you are.

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
11:08 am

I agree with u Sexxcool!

she would have met him half way,suggesting and having a converststion about it to come to an agreed location and activities.

I thought that also in line with women’s empowerment and lib thing.

Why leave date planning solely to the man? Then when I bring along a lil bottle of spice in my pocket in case we get heavy u say I’m wrong?

Come on,give the man some heads up of what we gon do!!

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:08 am

Leggs: Why did you say okay when you knew you were not going to call him? Also, some people are shy. I mean it took him 16 YEARS to ask you out.

Brat: I like to plan but all plans are subject to change. Can you roll like that?

For Real: Hey I got tickets to Sade in Canada. Do you want to go?

Chick: Canada? Why Canada?

For Real: Do you want to go?

Chick: I mean yeah but why Canada?

For Real: Cause I want to! Now, I’m only packing draws and an outfit for the concert. You should do the same.

Chick: What are going to be doing? I can’t just travel to another country with draws and an outfit. What about my shoes?

For Real: Don’t worry about anything. I’ll get whatever we may need when we get there. Just be ready to go.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
11:13 am

@ForReal ~ I know the dude well, when he said “if he comes up with anything he will call me” immediately shut me down. That’s why I didn’t call. This is not a first date. I pretty much know when he’s talking to be talking.

He called 2 weeks ago. I couldn’t answer the phone. He didn’t leave a msg, but I saw he had called. I called back abt an hour later and he said “I called you earlier because I wanted to go to the movies, but you didn’t answer.” Asked why he didn’t leave a msg and he said “he didn’t feel like it.” Oh well…

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
11:15 am

for real, yes. i can roll like that. but you best believe i’ll have shoes and return tickets tucked somewhere amongst my belongings. i’m the chick with the backup plan to get yo azz out of a tight spot and get us both home safely.

leggs, that dude sounds incredibly half-azzed. ijs.

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:17 am

Continue……

For Real: I’m on my way to pick you and go to the airport.

Chick: Okay I’m ready.

For Real: Hey are you ready?

Chick: Yes! I’m sooooo excited!

For Real: Whoa! What’s with all of the bags?

Chick: You was for real about the draws and outfit?

For Real: Yeah!! Show me your outfit you wearing to th concert.

Chick: I thought… Why you want to see it. Aren’t we going to be late for the flight?

For Real: Show me your outfit..

Chick: Here it is… What do you think?

For Real: I like it. Okay go get in the car and I put ALL of your bags in the car.

Chick: Okay….

For Real places the concert outfit and a bra & pant set into a Kroger bag and place it his bag in the trunk.

Chick: That was quick. You got everything in the trunk?

For Real: Yep!!!

Arrive at the airport….

Chick: Where are my bags?

For Real: At the house.

Chick: What? Why? I thought….

For Real: I got your concert outfit and a bra & panty set in my bag. Now, you can either get on this plane or take these keys and go back home?

abc

September 9th, 2011
11:18 am

It’s true that the man needs to have a plan. Don’t leave it up to her to decide the restaurant, chicks hate that. Ask “steaks, chinese or mexican?” and she probably won’t even want to decide that. They’d rather have you decide everything, whether it suits their preferences or not.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
11:19 am

Exactly, czB. Half-a$$ stepping.

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:21 am

Brat: That’s good to know but I ain’t going nowhere that I can’t at least get myself back home. I might be mildly retarded but I ain’t retarded.

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:23 am

Leggs: See now we have more of the story. Yeah you’re ole boy’s 3rd choice.

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
11:24 am

for real, i hate you. for real.

abc, i like the way you put that. there’s just a touch of pissivity in your post, but clearly you accept your role as MAN and deal with it. :)

Perve in the corner :)

September 9th, 2011
11:26 am

“Come on,give the man some heads”

Works everytime…. First date on….

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
11:26 am

‘whether it suits their preferences or not’

@abc,why is that?

Why would they want to give the men all the power to decide?

Is it because,u think,they want to retain the power to criticize?

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
11:27 am

I ain’t going nowhere that I can’t at least get myself back home <——— WTH is up with that? not only do i get only one pair of fresh dainties and NO shoes but you only concerned about getting yourself home?!? just damn.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
11:27 am

@ForReal ~ and I recognize game, or me being an afterthought. Like you said “I may be mildly retarded, but I ain’t stupid!” (LOLOL).

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

September 9th, 2011
11:27 am

Soooooo…drinks and then the gun range is not a good date? :lol:

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
11:32 am

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:33 am

Brat: ” but you only concerned about getting yourself home” – Somebody has to tell the story.

For Real: Hey Mr. & Mrs. Brat, um about your daughter… well see what had happen was…but let say this first… Your baby girl is a fighter! Not much of a runner but dayum she can fight…

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
11:33 am

BMW – The gun range would be cool but i’m not that much of a pro to incorporate drinks with that…virgin daiquiri maybe.

Button

September 9th, 2011
11:35 am

I briefly dated a guy who never ever had a suggestion of where he wanted us to go, I mean this guy always left it up to me to pick the place and on top of that, he never knew what he wanted off the menu so I had to walk him thru the menu like he’s my kids asking him if he wanted this or that! lol So I took advantage of the situation and started choosing places I always wanted to go without even considering whether he’d like it or not. I felt guilty but hey that’s what you get when you let me take charge! I tell you though, after about 2 months of that, my interest went from 100 to 0 really quick.

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
11:35 am

but if you’re that great of a sharp shooter to where you can throw a few back and keep aim, then you’re a bad, bad… ;-)

Simple Man..

September 9th, 2011
11:35 am

“For Real: Hey Mr. & Mrs. Brat, um about your daughter… well see what had happen was…but let say this first… Your baby girl is a fighter! Not much of a runner but dayum she can fight…”

Ok…Now that isth was funny!!!

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:36 am

Exiled: “Is it because,u think,they want to retain the power to criticize?” – That’s exactly why.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
11:36 am

drinks and then the gun range is not a good date? </em

So long as you goto the gun range first and drink after :mrgreen:

They’d rather have you decide everything, whether it suits their preferences or not.

No not everything but definitely come with a plan…I’d like to contribute as well..

that dude sounds incredibly half-azzed

I soo cosign with cz Leggs…dude was just sorry and actually sounded like he wanted you to chase him…how moist of him.

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
11:37 am

me-lo stop being so cynical. it’s not about wanting to criticize. it’s about feeling guided and cared for. nevermind. you don’t have to understand it. just do your job, we’ll do ours.

slim, shots before shooting makes it that much more fun.

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
11:38 am

yeah, sassy. it was funny. but if for real ever comes to a meetup i’m gonna introduce myself with a smack upside his head.

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
11:40 am

@Button!

u separated after 2 months?

be4 I ask u next question lemme get this clear,do u believe in the 3 month rule?

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
11:40 am

Shots before putt-putt has always been fun to me lol Putt-putt golf…

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
11:41 am

“…he wanted you to chase him” DING, DING, DING, you get the brass ring!

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
11:42 am

Czbrat!

It’s not being cynical really. U okay with me just picking the locations and u saying yes or no?

I would seriously think that ur input would enable us to bond even better because we get to discuss etc.

abc

September 9th, 2011
11:44 am

For Real and Exiled, I think that has something to do with it. Since they’d be inclined to passively insist (dig that, passively insist) that you decide, they retain the ability to be critical of you choices; and the reason they won’t decide is that they presume that you’d be similarly critical of their choices. It’s just the way chicks are, no biggie.

But, if they say “I want pizza at Johnny’s!”, best to take them to the pizza dive, and appreciate that they at least stated what they really wanted. At least Johnny’s has Newcastle Brown Ale in bottles.

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:45 am

BMW: Drankin n gun shootin reminded me of Rooster Cogburn tossin cornbread in the air and shootin at em.

“but if for real ever comes to a meetup i’m gonna introduce myself with a smack upside his head.” – Note to self, duck when you see Brat.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
11:47 am

but if for real ever comes to a meetup i’m gonna introduce myself with a smack upside his head.

Yeah that would be a sight to see…speaking of a meetup…we should plan one(or at least think about planning but I understand…just a thought).

you get the brass ring!

:lol:

Button

September 9th, 2011
11:48 am

@ Exile what are you hinting at? lol
yes I know the 3 month rule and no I don’t abide/believe in it, I think it’s a waste because whether you wait 1 or 365 days a person is going to do what they are going to do. Know your on conscience and value.

For Real

September 9th, 2011
11:48 am

abc: ” It’s just the way chicks are, no biggie” – Exactly and we also know how difficult it is for them to decide which pair of black shoes the will wear. So the dude should always pick a spot with good beer and position himself to where he see a TV and make it look like he is looking at her.

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
11:52 am

Abc!

spot on. Chics can be cagey coz some of them never put their cards on the table like that.

That’s why I never criticized the dude who dropped the Trojans on ared.

I was only wary of his sloppiness. :lol:

i'm swiss™

September 9th, 2011
11:53 am

“So the dude should always pick a spot with good beer and position himself to where he see a TV and make it look like he is looking at her.”

D@mmit, For Real! Ix-ne on spilling the ecret-se:lol:

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
11:54 am

@Button?

‘I don’t believe in it’

Well then,it’s ok.

At least u blessed him then gave him the walking papers.

Button

September 9th, 2011
11:56 am

nope not this time @ Exiled!

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
11:56 am

That’s no secret. Just like men don’t like sitting with their backs to the door. They want to see who walks in and make sure they can make a mad dash at the back if need be…I kid, I kid, kinda sorta….

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
12:01 pm

abc clearly suggested offering up some options. why do you see that as a woman giving up all the power? and then suggesting it’s a method we use to turn things sour at some point. that’s cynical.

and if i’m saying “yes or no” then i do have input. and that input does enable us to bond. i’m fine with the process. i simply take exception to your theory that we’re just stockpiling bullets to fire at you later on.

for real
exiled
swiss
and abc. tsk tsk. i was kinda diggin you today.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
12:03 pm

@BMW ~ czB shot them all down.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
12:04 pm

O/T ~ did you guys see where someone had to audacity to attempt to rob a store in a Gumby constume. No one messes with Gumby. He got away with nothing, dumbcluck!

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
12:08 pm

They want to see who walks in and make sure they can make a mad dash at the back if need be…

either that or so they can slyly(but not always cause some openly gawk) watch every booty that passes by….

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 9th, 2011
12:09 pm

cz went in on ‘em…(said in my Lil Weezy voice)

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
12:16 pm

whether is safety or salacious thinking, i just set him up facing the door cuz i know it’s his preference. but most of the time we opt for a booth and i’m sitting right next to him anyway. *shrugs*

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
12:18 pm

@czB ~ it’s automatic that we give them the seat facing the door if we aren’t sitting next to each other.

Willie Dynamite

September 9th, 2011
12:19 pm

Afternoon All,

You do need a plan for a Date. The first meetup to me is just that a meetup. I don’t place too much stock in the plan until i’ve taken the time to find out what you like don’t like. I always suggest Happy Hour or a bistro/bar somewhere to get a drink. Most importantly I just want time to be able to talk and get to know whether I wanna invest more of my time and $$$ on a Date.
Hope that keeps me off Brats list.