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It’s date night (You need a plan)

When you have a date scheduled, it’s always great to have a plan. It’s cool to be all laid back but if you expect to have a good time, even spontaneity has its limitations.

For the record guys, women love men with a plan. It shows that he thinks of her as someone special! When you show little effort in getting a date plan together, you could come across as uninterested.

What is a good plan to have? Location, activities, and time to actually talk. First dates should involve ample time to check out if you have chemistry.

When you want to impress your date, what kind of plans do you make?

Would you stop seeing someone if their date plan leave something to be desired?

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Lady~

September 9th, 2011
8:24 am

Cute Topic WD!!!!

Simple Man....

September 9th, 2011
8:26 am

First Up today huh???? Better put the coffee on :)

I the A there are so many cool things to do if one wants to impress a date…For Years I maintained a membership at Fernbank…. Martinis and Imax is great for a first date.. Great vibe, Cool for people watching but not so loud that you have to strain to hear and be heard….

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
8:31 am

Morning, all!

Would I stop seeing someone if their date plan left something to be desired? If it was a pattern, and if he had not taken steps to remedy it (”Hey, babe. I wanna do better on planning our dates; what kinds of things would you enjoy?”) then probably. Like Diva said, it translates as lack of interest and violates ITL’s Life Lesson #436: Don’t treat someone as a priority who treats you like an option.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
8:39 am

Good morning!

Would you stop seeing someone if their date plan leave something to be desired? I’m presently faced with this. This one guy calls saying he wants to take me out and for me to call him back when I decide where I want to go. Huh? This has happened twice. I haven’t called back. Dang, if you call me to take me out on a date, then take me out on a date. He’s the type that would call back saying “well, I tried to take you out last week, but you never responded.” Ok, cool….NEXT.

iknownothing

September 9th, 2011
8:41 am

Harry and Sons for dinner and then Blind Willies. For some reason, most of the people I met had never been to Blind Willies, and it was always a favorite.

One the west side of town, Antico Pizza followed by the Northside Tavern.

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
8:45 am

iknownothing, you are a-okay in my book! LOVE the Northside Tavern…total dive, but great music and always a good time.

Biceps and Armpits

September 9th, 2011
8:48 am

Fellas. Take em to the batting cages. They get all hot n sweaty and love it. Trust me. I’m a man.

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
8:54 am

LOL@Leggs and “OK. Cool. NEXT.”

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:00 am

@ITL ~ at least show me you thought about actually taking me somewhere. If I’m not down with your suggestion, I’ll let you know and hopefully a compromise can be had.

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
9:03 am

I know, right? I’ve had first dates that ranged from a nice dinner and a movie to putt putt and pizza. Both were fun!

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:05 am

Heck, beer and chicken wings are good to…say something to lead me to feel you actually thought about it!

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
9:15 am

Mmmmm……beer (in my best Homer Simpson voice). :)

Amia

September 9th, 2011
9:19 am

A man with a plan is sooooo attractive. It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate, but thoughtful goes a long way. I think for a first date, lunch is great. If the chemistry is there, you can extend it easily. But as time goes along, dinner at unique spots, comedy shows, walks in parks, park concerts, etc… is great. I like to do and explore new experiences so that’s what a great date is to me.

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
9:24 am

I’m craving crab legs…there’s something fun about getting your hands all dirty, wearing an oversized bib and slinging crab meat on each other that breeds great energy on a date lol

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
9:28 am

@Slim: and don’t forget smelling like Old Bay, no matter how many times you wash your hands! LOL

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:31 am

I’m craving some dollar bills….

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
9:34 am

ITL – You’re definitely right about that smell. I try to wash my hands a few times in lemon juice.

Leggs – For whatever reason, your comment immediately made me think of Playas Club lol

Fion

September 9th, 2011
9:38 am

Hey!!!! Simple Man. You got any of that Chicory brewing over there. I had no business dranking
Ta-kil-ya (Tequila) shots lastnight.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:39 am

Yeah, someone needs to make it rain.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:40 am

Did you chase those shots w/anything? And, I’m not talking about women chasing (lol).

Fion

September 9th, 2011
9:42 am

I think I’m sobberin’ up!!!!! Did I hear some one say shoe Modeling ?????

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:46 am

NOT! You may need to “bite the tail of the dog that bit you!”

Purple Reign

September 9th, 2011
9:50 am

Andretti’s was a cool first date spot when I was dating. Go Cart racing, shooting pool, a nice burger “dive” is located in there as well and if you go upstairs there is a “bar” area!

Fion

September 9th, 2011
9:52 am

Chased it with beer. Right now I’m sittin’ with sunglasses on soooooo dark I can hardly see the keyboard. I never noticed how bright these lights are in here.

Simple Man....

September 9th, 2011
9:53 am

Fion…Got a special brew that should hook you right up!!!

Leggs…FYI…You gotta get low if you want it to rain…..

SlimNu

September 9th, 2011
9:56 am

Fion – What were you trying to prove last night? lol

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
9:56 am

No problem there, SimpleM! None whatsoever.

Fion

September 9th, 2011
9:59 am

@Leggs
Ok. Then why do I hear “Bottoms Up” playing in the backgourd???

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
9:59 am

Poor Fion…. those days are the worst. Seems like it hurts to even brush your hair. :(

TenderRoni

September 9th, 2011
10:00 am

A man with a plan will get my attention.
A man who is vague, and haphazard, will get the same.

oneofeach4me

September 9th, 2011
10:01 am

I can imagine that first dates may be a little difficult to plan because the guy doesn’t know you that well. In that case, strike conversation on the phone with me before the date, and work like a detective to figure out something neutral to do (something I won’t hate, but you aren’t sure if I would love it either). Let me know you are at least thinking with your head, and I am speaking of the one on your shoulders!!! Spontaneity is for the other one!!

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
10:03 am

LOL@bite the tail of the dog. Never heard it phrased that way….Seems like it might get you bitten right back. Plus you’d have nasty dog tail hair in your mouth. Ptooey…

Exiled!

September 9th, 2011
10:04 am

Good morning!!

‘Women luv men with a plan’

I don’t know WDiva.. Coz some women don’t appreciate the plans.

Ared’s guy planned to cook dinner at her home and he had a back-up plan in the event things get hawwwt,but she still didn’t appreciate the lil darn thing falling off the pockets accidentally.

Sometimes men never win!

Fellas,just be u,no pressure.

These ladies sometimes hummpf :lol:

Fion

September 9th, 2011
10:05 am

@Slim
Damned if me and you know.
That’s right up there with the Sphinx and the Pyramids at Giza. Two of the great mysteries known to Man!

M. (pronouced M dot)

September 9th, 2011
10:09 am

Date planning is tricky for guys because you don’t want to come across as a “Trick” or a guy using money to try to impress a woman. You also have to be smart with your planning because you really should not spend a lot of money on a woman you don’t know and who you don’t even know that you will see again so here are my do’s and don’ts:

Don’t:

1. Take a woman to the movies-There is no opportunitiy to really talk and get to know her.
2. Take a woman to a club-It has diaster potential and you really cant interact.
3. Take a woman to a franchise restaurant (Applebees, Chilis, O’Charley’s etc)
4. DO NOT spend over $50 on the first date.

Do:

1. Take a woman to a place that has a diverse crowd and different theme (like a cool place in a neighborhood and non franchise)
2. Listen and ask questions and engage with her.
3. Pay attention!
4. Try something fun, check out timeout.com for cool and free activities in your city.

SexyCool

September 9th, 2011
10:35 am

I say “Plan the date, Leggs.” Maybe dude wants to be sure that he doesn’t disappoint you. Maybe once he gets to know you, he will feel comfortable planning something.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:36 am

@Fion ~ Bottoms Up ok, but I would prefer T-Pain’s Applebottom jeans….

She had them Apple Bottom Jeans [Jeans]

Boots with the fur [With the fur]

The whole club lookin at her

She hit the floor [She hit the floor]

Next thing you know

Shawty got low low low low low low low low

:lol: :lol: :lol: :wink: :cool:

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:39 am

@SexyC ~ this dude has known me 6 years. He started showing interest in me sometime last year. Just because he’s familiar with me is no excuse for him not to plan a date since he wants to now take me out.

Into the Light

September 9th, 2011
10:43 am

Hmmm, I think SC brings up a good point, Leggs. Maybe he’s trying to make sure the date is special and pleasing to you and that’s why he wants you to choose the locale…..

JP

September 9th, 2011
10:43 am

@Leggs are you on facebook? :)

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:46 am

This is how the convo went:

Him: Hello
Me: Hello
Him: Whatcha doing?
Me: Not much, just chillin
Him: I’m thinking about taking you out later this evening.
Me: Sounds good
Him: Call me later and tell me what you want to do
Me: Crickets, then OK
Him: If I come up with anything, I’ll call you later.
Me: Crickets…..

He never called me, and I didn’t call him.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:47 am

@JP ~ who wants to know (lol)?

czBrat

September 9th, 2011
10:48 am

HiYas!

boy i was riding high with anticipation of our weekend in NC for the Sade concert. then a call from the insurance company telling me they are going to total loss thing 1’s car AGAIN just crushed it! :mad:

anywho, don’t think i could deal with someone who fails to plan out our time together because i’m kinda anal when it comes to being organized. don’t like surprises and don’t fly very well by the seat of my pants. file a proper flight plan is what i always say!

northside tavern is a good time indeed, but i can’t hear myself think (let alone carry on a convo) at blind willie’s.

lol @ leggs. that dude had no idea what he stepped in.

JP

September 9th, 2011
10:50 am

@Leggs get at me lol

Celisea

September 9th, 2011
10:50 am

Good morning folks,

Plans are good. If no plans be spontaneous. Don’t make that a habit but every now and then no agenda is okay (for me). I’m always impressed with a fly by the seat of your pants kinda guy. :)

Celisea

September 9th, 2011
10:52 am

czBrat – I hadn’t read your post until after I hit submit. I see we’re on different ends of the spectrum with the fly by the seat of the pants thingy…LOL

For Real

September 9th, 2011
10:53 am

So the first date is ALL on the man huh? Lets see what a man has to work with:

1. He doesn’t know you

2. He doesn’t know you

3. He doesn’t know you

4. He doesn’t know you

5. If choose something that you don’t like he will lose your attention.

Come on ladies, where is your “skin in the game” when it comes to the first date? And no buying a new outfit and getting your hair “did” doesn’t count. My first dates the chicks will have to plan part of the date as well. That way we both have skin in game.

Leggs: Stop being so lazy. The dude don’t know you well enough and it’s obvious that he is looking for some help from you. If he didn’t care he would have asked you to meet him at the last Huddle House in the GA.

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:54 am

Ok, JP, I’ll do just that. {hands in the air}}}

Leggs

September 9th, 2011
10:56 am

@czB ~ you know it (lololol).

@ForReal ~ the dude knows me very well! Not even in the slightest am I being lazy! And I wasn’t going to adjust my typo, but that 6 year should have read 16 years.

Celisea

September 9th, 2011
10:57 am

@Leggs get at me lol

Alright now….It’s Friday too