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Dating: Do you ask about their finances?

What would you do if the person you are dating are showing signs of financial instability? Maybe you notice their lack of frugality or their excessive spending. Or maybe you are with them when their credit card was declined.

I read somewhere about a young woman who was on a first date with a guy and his card was declined. She didn’t judge him by this incident and they are now married. If she dumped him because of this embarrassing snafu, she could have thrown away her chance of happiness!

So what is the best approach in paying attention to your date’s money management? Is it something you should inquire about? If you notice something awry, do you bring it up?

Do you (or should you) ask about a person’s financial plan when you are dating? Should you wait until you are in a relationship to bring it up or would that be too late?

How important is it to date someone who is smart about money?

Just curious: What would you do if you went on a date and their credit card was declined?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

315 comments Add your comment

burntb42

September 8th, 2011
7:37 am

Definitely an important question. But when to raise it depends on the couples view of their finances and how they handle their own individual personal finances. Many people are very secretive about disclosing their financial situation to anyone, even their loved ones. Paying attention to how your partner handles situations where money is involved would provide a great clue to how they will probably act in the future.

Rev. Dave

September 8th, 2011
8:18 am

Timing will be essential when discussing this. I advise caution. You need to be sure the relationship is going in a serious direction before you discuss this. It is much more important to determine their character and how open is their heart first. A person with poor character and a lot of money can cause problems just like a person who hates themselves will end up hurting you.

One Love

September 8th, 2011
8:18 am

If the card was declined once, I would intervene and pay, if it was declined a second time on another date, they will never have another opportunity to present one again…gone in 60 seconds…

Pamela

September 8th, 2011
8:38 am

It’s a great time to ask someone you are dating about finances. The majority of times Men will lie about their finances. There are many other ways of finding out how much a person makes in a year. You can also tell by the way they dress. I once dated this boy..yes I meant to say boy…who was 39 at the time and he always wore pants that looked like he purchased them on a slave plantation somewhere. He was very cheap…so I dumped him… :) His idea of a fun time was watching t.v. shows at his home. He was very cheap..that’s why I dumped him…at least part of the reason… :)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
8:52 am

Good morning, good morning!

“…a young woman who was on a first date with a guy and his card was declined. She didn’t judge him by this incident – Nor should she have. Stuff happens.

If I’m in the company of someone and I repeatedly witness bad money management, I will say something but some time will have had to pass and our relationship had to be progressing.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
9:02 am

Just an FYI, most guys with real money won’t lead with it and definitely won’t lie about it.
Matter of fact, if I have real money that’s the last thing I want you to know early on in the relationship.

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
9:08 am

Morning Fam!!! Looks like I might be able to stay and play for a while today ;)

On topic…Until she is ready to start paying some of these bills, Its none of her damn business how much I make or what my finances are….That being said, I have never had to face the prospect of acredit card being declined or anything like that but even so, a really smart person once told me to never always have enough cash in your pocket to pay for your date.To that end, whenever I go out, I always stop by the ATM first :) :)

♫♪

September 8th, 2011
9:10 am

ZZZZZzzzzzz….

LeeH1

September 8th, 2011
9:10 am

Pamela said, “The majority of times Men will lie about their finances.”

I’ve got news for you, Pamela, that men often lie about sex, money and relationships. Ya know what? So do women! There is no difference between the sexes when it comes to lying about these things.

Quit bashing men!

Got the bitter. Where's the sweet?

September 8th, 2011
9:10 am

Paying close attention to how a person acts with money will save you a lot of heartache and stress. I wish someone would have schooled me. I would have known or maybe been more aware that the man I thought I was marrying was really a little boy on the inside when it came to finances. I can accept that times are hard, he cannot. What a person does when a lot turns into a little can be a realtionship maker or breaker.

Oh, Good Morning….should have said that first :-)

Amia

September 8th, 2011
9:11 am

These topics have been hitting home with me lately. I guess I have a question for everyone, I am currently underemployed. I used to make $20k more per year. I don’t have a horrible salary now, but once you have made more, saved more, spent more, it’s hard to be reduced. I have been feeling like the new guy I am dating may not understand. Perhaps it’s just the pressure I put on myself. It’s not so bad that I would have a card declined but I don’t have nearly the money to splurge on things anymore. Humbling experience to say the least. Would a man be bothered by my situation?

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
9:18 am

Amia, it should not be an issue..unless the guy you are dating has his hand in your pocket….

Carina

September 8th, 2011
9:23 am

If you are contemplating marriage with your SO then you ABSOLUTELY need to know their financial status, ESPECIALLY that FICO score. Let’s be real, you take on the debt of your SO when you get married so you better know what you are signing up for before you get hitched. One thing that is guaranteed to cause serious strain in a marriage is lack of money. If you’re just dating though all you need to be doing is observing how your SO is with money. That is one thing on a list of things that will determine how deep the relationship goes. All I can say for myself is that if we are talking marriage I want to have everything on the table so I can make an informed decision.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
9:30 am

“never always have enough cash,” SimpleM…alrighty then (lol).

@Amia ~ a “man would not be bothered by your situation. If he can’t appreciate the fact that you have a job, your bills are being paid, you aren’t leaning on him for financial support, then he’s not the man for you!

GlammourGirl

September 8th, 2011
9:37 am

@Pamela…I don’t think the way someone dresses determines how they are with money. Someone can have on expensive labels from head to toe and still be broke…maxed out credit cards, living paycheck to paycheck. One of my friends met a guy and on their first few dates he dressed like a bum and drove a hooptie. She stuck around though because he was a nice guy. Turns out, he was just dressing like that to see how she would react. He came out with the real him…with nice clothes, nice cars, and nice salary to match. Clothes mean nothing.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
9:41 am

@Amia
“Would a man be bothered by my situation?”

Aye Amia, this ain’t about the Man it’s about you. First things first.Sounds like you’ve wrapped your identity into your Old Job. Stop that.
Just remember a Job / Career is just that a Job / Career. It should not be who you are.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
9:45 am

HiYas!

LMAO @ simple. and amen @ GG!

as bitter/sweet said, i’m always paying attention. but i’m not going to ask about your $$ mgmt. if we get in DEEP, then those things will be on the table. and you can best believe my questions and suggestions will be based on what i’ve already seen during our time together.

OT: blogettes, brat got her boot fix on early this morning. :)

http://www.victoriassecret.com/ss/Satellite?ProductID=1265564187987&c=Page&cid=1265568934759&pagename=vsdWrapper

Amia

September 8th, 2011
9:52 am

Thank you all. Fion, I agree. My family tells me the same thing, but I thought I would ask a group of people who are truly unbiased. Guess I am a work in progress. :) Thanks again.

hazel

September 8th, 2011
9:59 am

on our first date, my future husband’s wallet was mistakenly left in his car. I paid for everything that day! Dinner, dessert, drinks etc etc. I didn’t judge him and I won the test. I would have missed out on a great person, If I would have choose to never see him again.

MsMarriedUp

September 8th, 2011
10:00 am

Really? What’s the difference… today a millionaire…five years later broke. Or, how about today broke as hell, and HELLO Doll, a year later you’re rolling in it.

That credit decline thing brings to mind an incident however …when this gentleman who myself and a few others were out dining with had his card declined. You had to see the horror on his face…I mean he had one of them AMEX’s that signals a King is in the house…and this waiter comes back over to the table to lean in his ear and whisper, “Sorry, would you like to use another card?”

Turned out to be a joke, since half the evening he’d been teasing the waiter who thought to pay him back. But oh man, you had to see that face!!! LOL! FUNNNEE

Fion

September 8th, 2011
10:01 am

U alright baby Girl. it’s a recession going on. :) Stay in the game and keep pitching. You’re guaranteed get one over the plate for a strike.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
10:09 am

Those boots are TIGHT! I have on a shirt dress today that a pair of black boots would have really set it off just right!!

hazel

September 8th, 2011
10:12 am

@ GlammourGirl

Great example. In a Ebony article few months back, there was a similar real life example of how a man met his wife. He had money yet didn’t want to show it off in the beginning. His fiancee only found out of his wealth when he proposed with a big diamond.

So I think that finances matter but that can change any day.. Also, what it may seem like could not be the case.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
10:14 am

@ Leggs
Ooooh! la la. Oui Oui madame’.

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
10:19 am

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
10:25 am

Mr_NYC

September 8th, 2011
10:32 am

Morning all – hello to my Bronx peeps, Breaking Bad fans and rest of the fellas
Finances should be discussed in the natural course of things. And not just for adverse circumstances but even just for money management styles and views on money. Some of our views and “hangups” come from our background and influences that we may not be aware of. Money and values cross paths in the strangest ways. There are even some who have spiritual beliefs that affect their view of money. Can you live with their financial “baggage” in that respects? For example, some are not comfortable with wealth. Others may not have had it and don’t know how to preserve it. Lots to discuss and date occasion observations open the door to this discussion.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
10:38 am

“How important is it to date someone who is smart about money?” At the stage I am in my life, this is very important to me. Been broke, still broke, was ride and die chick with broke dude, only to live a settled and content meager existence. I need more, and a financially stable man, or one working toward becoming stable is important. Throwing $$ around all willy nilly is a turn off. ISJ!

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
10:49 am

Who discusses finances while “just” dating? I mean I know that’s the right and responsible thing to say but truthfully I cannot recall once ever speaking with someone about their finances while casually dating. Without and unless something permanent is in view, why would you need to know their financial situation. If someone is asking you out or you asking them, I would think ahead of asking, the ability to handle yours is a given.

Does one need to be responsible and by a certain age have finances in order? Absolutely. IMO doing that or having accomplished that while dating would be the natural order of things.

Imma have to agree with Simple Man in this case. What I do with mine ain’t really your business and vice versa. Until and unless we move into exclusivity and beyond talking marriage and dual accounts, property, land, etc., what are we talking about?? But c’mon who sits down on date one or two or even three asking if their finances are in order??? C’moooon!!

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
10:55 am

i guess ♫♪ ain’t the only one snoozing on this topic.

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
10:56 am

It must be about to snow back in the “A” today!!! Celisea is in agreement with me!!!! LOL
( Note to self, Find a place to buy a lottery ticket RIGHT NOW!!!)

Oh… Morning Cel :D :) :D

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
10:58 am

And please understand, there were a couple where I knew of their financial situation and them mine but that was disclosed in the natural course of where the relationship went. It just ain’t cool asking folks over dinner….sooooo, what’s your account looking like….ahead of knowing their middle name, their mama’s maiden name and their street address.

This issue and so many others IMO and for me have happened within the natural course and growth of the relationship. Frankly I give a side eye to someone that’s asking too much too soon. You just worry about hanging in there and Imma tell you all you need to know in due time as well as giving you what you need….as we progress.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
11:01 am

He there Simple Man.. Stop it with the snow…lol Since you mentioned it, ummm can you let me hold a little something if you win??

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
11:02 am

And if we encounter an snafu, it would only be fair to give you the benefit of the doubt :)

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
11:04 am

a snafu not an snafu

oneofeach4me

September 8th, 2011
11:05 am

I agree with Simple and Celisea. Finances are something that should just be discussed naturally and I say beware of anyone asking about it too soon. Part of a relationship benefit is learning from each other, and sometimes, people need to be shown how to manage money. Sometimes people don’t realize their spending habits are part of their struggle. Mismanagement of money is an issue, but it’s also something that can be a learned habit that is unlearned. Finances should not be a deal breaker. Now not having any ambition or drive to obtain funds…. that’s different.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
11:08 am

lol @ celisea. there are guys i dated for YEARS but we never got into each other’s wallet. simply put, that was not the “natural course” we were on.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
11:16 am

Exact czBrat and oneofeach4me….exactly

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
11:17 am

Morning All!

Simple – How are you liking Denver? One of my best friends was stationed up there for awhile and I went to visit. Beautiful place!

On topic – I agree, casual dating does not lend itself to knowing each others personal financial business. Just be able to afford whatever outings you are asking me out on and it’s all good. Now once things begin to get serious, yes I believe in the natural course. Part of this is observing, paying attention to what’s going on. I dated a guy that was horrible with money, which I discovered a year in. One bank shut down his checking account and twice his card was declined when we were out. Once when out with friends he “left” his wallet in the car. I knew it was because he was broke. I payed for drinks and we made up an excuse and left before ordering dinner. It was embarassing and the last straw. He blew all his money on video games and trying to keep up with the Jones. It was a horrible experience I hope I never face again.

My husband is excellent with money, so that’s not an issue at all, thank God.

Oh, and the chick that didn’t dump dude because his card was declined? Not a big deal. I had one declined a few months ago – someone had gotten hold of it and made hundreds of dollars of fraudulent charges. So she didn’t do anything that great. Now if it kept happening and she stayed with him, then that’s on her if he turned out to be a dud!

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
11:30 am

O/T for the fellas: Do guys generally joke around about going to the courthouse if they aren’t at least somewhat thinking about actually getting married?

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
11:32 am

Cold cut artist is Mya (404) 741-1075

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
11:37 am

I just spoke to Carol Blackmon and she said “how the heck do you keep getting through, I think I need to come to your office and inspect your phone!” Of course, I couldn’t claim the prize. Just wanted to make sure I had the right answer.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
11:37 am

Leggs what did you win the last time?

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
11:38 am

Quick fingers, that’s all, quick fingers.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
11:39 am

Isley Brothers, El DeBarge, Carl Thomas, and some comedian tix. Concert hosted by Idris Elba.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
11:39 am

Leggs, what are the fantasy 5 #’s for today????

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
11:41 am

Do u guys joke….courthouse…getting married?

Slim got butterflies

Slim got butterflies!

Slim got butterflies!

Slim got butterflies!

(it’s a new dance tune)

On topic:

Topic is shallow,vane and immature!

Fion

September 8th, 2011
11:41 am

@Slim
That’s a pick’em. Just depends on how you two joke and play.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
11:42 am

Too funny, Fion. The numbers haven’t been kind to me. But, I firmly believe/feel my time is a coming…

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
11:42 am

Looks like they’ve blocked ga lotto page here at work this week. WACK!

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
11:45 am

There are no butterflies here until or IF a proposal were to come. I don’t get excited about ‘talk’.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
11:45 am

Slim – I hate it when guys joke about that stuff. Might meen he’s trying to get a reaction out of you. When guys would do that to me, I would completely ignore it.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
11:52 am

blogettes, brat got her boot fix on early this morning.

CZ!!!! Stop it I say…those boots are HAWT(as I eye a pair but I’m just looking). I could do several types of outfits with those…and some other things sans the outfit ;-)

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
11:53 am

kimmie – Well I was just like, i have no problem going to the Cote-house but I said, that really doesn’t matter until I get asked. He said, well I wouldn’t have to ask. Which then i asked why? He said because he has a knowing…I suppose to mean he already knows i’d want to marry him. That was the other night.

So this morning I brought it up while we were chatting getting ready for work. I said, I’d at least want to do Vegas if it was going to be a JOP type deal. He said he felt doing it in Vegas would decrease the chances of it working out lol

Lady Strange

September 8th, 2011
11:55 am

My S/O used a gift card when we first met. It was just for coffee but I found it a little strange to use a gift card on a first date. But this has turned out to be the best relationship I’ve ever been in. He may not have the best finances but that can be corrected with time. Then he lost his job a few weeks after we started dating. Just another bump in the road for us but together we’ll make it just fine.

It’s different if it happens all the time, going out and the other person expecting you to pay or having their credit card magically be declined every time. Without getting to know the person, it’s hard to say if it’s going to be a problem. But I don’t think it’s anyone’s business what your finances are until you’re in a commited long-term relationship.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
11:56 am

. I don’t get excited about ‘talk’.

Me either Slim Nu cause a mouth can say anything. A queen friend of mine as a saying that he lives by and I like it..F^*k the la la honey, I need action.. Don’t talk about it BE about it :lol:

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
11:58 am

Morning, all!

Don’t talk about it BE about it

Worth repeating. Repeatedly.

Lady Strange

September 8th, 2011
11:59 am

@Slim – I don’t think most men “joke” about getting married. Just my opinion of course. Most men I’ve know run for the hills at the first mention of marriage. LOL. But if they’re serious about it, yes I think they would discuss it. My man and I discuss it pretty frequently. We know we will get married, just not the when. But we like to talk about it and plan.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:03 pm

@ITL ~ we just had a topic about actions vs words last week.

I agree with others, SlimNu, he’s feeling you out. If he’s never talked about it before, must be cool that he’s thinking about it. All steps start with a thought…

Button

September 8th, 2011
12:05 pm

I personally think it’s important to ask a person about their finances, but in a tactful way. If I feel a concern about it, I would eye ball what/how he spends and if he is frugal or an over spender while dating then I’ll have a glance at how he will be if we were to marry. I’ve been asked how often do I shop and where, I guess if he had a clue how often and where I shopped then that would give him an idea of how I handle my finances, and that alone is very important since under cheating, finances is the number 2 reason for divorce. IMO….

SN: I’ve also been asked how many pairs of shoes do I own..when I said over 125 the dude almost fell out of his chair…lol

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:07 pm

Leggs,
I’ve been kinda hit or miss on the blog lately. More miss than hit. But I see where you’re giving out lottery numbers. I’ll look for your e-mail… :)

@cz: Totally heart those boots! :)

Jeff

September 8th, 2011
12:09 pm

You’re welcome to ask any questions you want as long as you’re willing to answer them in return.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
12:11 pm

I think Button is really Imelda Marcos Bloggin’.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:13 pm

@Fion ~ a lot of women have about that many shoes in their closet.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:13 pm

LOL@Fion. I think (s)he’s somebody, but I won’t say who.

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
12:15 pm

“SN: I’ve also been asked how many pairs of shoes do I own..when I said over 125 the dude almost fell out of his chair…lol”

Is that all???

Do you really think you can garner any real information from a person based on how they spend on a couple of dates????

REALLY????

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:17 pm

Probably not, SimpleM. BUT, if his belt doesn’t match his shoes, he pretty much is a laid back person and don’t care about such things (lol).

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:19 pm

I guess if he had a clue how often and where I shopped then that would give him an idea of how I handle my finances

No, it would give him an idea of how often and where you shop.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
12:21 pm

awww, slimcutie! he’s totally dippin his big toe in the water. careful not to mislead though. if you’re not right there with him. although i clearly told dude i wasn’t ready, and he asked anyway. go figure.

yup, yup! got the charcoal pair on it’s way home to mama. now i gotta find a couple sweater dresses and a nice fitted skirt to set it off.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:22 pm

Men, how many shoes do you have?

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:23 pm

@czB ~ I’m telling you here and now, if I see you with those boots on, I’m bootjacking you…keep some shoes in your car…YOU’VE BEEN WARNED!

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
12:26 pm

I think (s)he’s somebody, but I won’t say who.

That sentiment came up their first day(s) here…soo you know how that goes. They like it I luv it…our blog is schizoid with multiple personalities…

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:26 pm

LOL@Leggs and the bootjacking.

Oooh, love the charcoal, cz. It’s the new black!

Fion

September 8th, 2011
12:27 pm

2-pair. Brown and Black. The Black pair are run over though.

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
12:27 pm

“Men, how many shoes do you have?”

(Putting on my bullet proof Blog vest and my footabll helment with teh shaded visor)

More than Button….. ( Yeah I said it….WHAT!!!! )

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
12:28 pm

All steps start with a thought…

I suppose you’re right Leggs ;-)

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
12:28 pm

now i gotta find a couple sweater dresses and a nice fitted skirt to set it off.

I see a hat somewhere in there,too cz…a black or grey Fedora once it gets a lil chilly outside.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:29 pm

Yeah, Sassy….I was the accused that day. It’s not me, but I have a REALLY good idea who it is. Like you say, they like it, I love it. BoneFish is ready when they are….

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
12:29 pm

I don’t own a lot of shoes…

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:33 pm

@Fion ~ like the Rep. Joe Wilson said to President Obama, YOU LIE! :wink:

@SimpleM ~ WOW, that’s a lot of shoes. You might be the only man I’m acquainted with that has that many shoes. No doubt, you are one sharp arse dresser!!! My Wonder Woman bracelets will help deflect some of the ammunition that may come your way….

@SlimNu ~ so don’t be too nonchalant when he brings it up. You know what and how to do it!!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:33 pm

Now Sassy, I definitely can see you with a Fedora on…you two czB.

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
12:35 pm

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
12:35 pm

BoneFish is ready when they are….

:mrgreen:

Classic.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:36 pm

@ITL ~ I’m literally laughing at you. I love the subtlety of your posts. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
12:37 pm

Leggs I have several Fedoras and I can see cz in one ,too, and with those boots she just got it’ll be super sexxy ;-)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:38 pm

Love “sick, drunk or half-stupid.”

Got the bitter. Where's the sweet?

September 8th, 2011
12:39 pm

Don’t own a lot of shoes or clothes, just what I need.

My husband has more shoes and clothes than I do….yes, he is str8, just like Simple Man :lol:

Maybe that should have been a clue? But, sometime I feel I had a hand at creating the Monster…..

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
12:39 pm

That would be one fierce outfit…

Fion

September 8th, 2011
12:42 pm

@ Simple Man
More than Button….. (125)

Damn dude! I don’t think I woulda told that.

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
12:43 pm

Might see Simple on that show Hoarders…house smelling like feet and corn chips lol

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:43 pm

I love hats. Makes me feel very Kim Basinger in 9 1/2 weeks. “you can leave your hat on….”

Po lil moose…. :( Speaking of For Real, I wish he would post one of his stories today. Those always have me ROFL.

Slim’s goin’ to the chapel….. :) :)

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
12:45 pm

don’t know that i can pull off a fedora, but i have the perfect crusher hat for it. it’s a very faint houndstooth. ya’ll making me all tingly inside!!

leggs, you are “acquanted” with a dude who owns almost as many as simple. :)

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:46 pm

I can see SM’s response now:

“I’ve never seen anyone on Hoarders with Bruno Maglis and Armanis, but yeah, okay, whatever…..” :lol: :lol:

Fion

September 8th, 2011
12:46 pm

@Simple Man

Please take the stand. Raise your right hand and repeat after me.
You swear to tell the truth and whole truth?
Please be seated.
1. When was the last time you bought wallpaper for the kitchen?
2. When was the last time you shopped for curtains for the kitchen?

cba

September 8th, 2011
12:48 pm

Let me put it this way, if your wife have shoes in three different closets, stacked two high, what’s left for me?? That’s another battle I surrendered to looooooooooong ago.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
12:49 pm

don’t know that i can pull off a fedora, but i have the perfect crusher hat for it. it’s a very faint houndstooth. ya’ll making me all tingly inside!!

You know you’re going to have to post a pic of this outfit, right, cz???

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
12:52 pm

Afternoon All,

Discussing finances too early in the dating process is a definite turn-off. Like most have said it is a gradual process accomanied by paying attention. Some Men play the silly left my wallet game. Some Women play the I’ll pick the most expensive retaurant game. It can be a crapshoot at times. Just pay attention and try to get to know the other person first. The devil is literally in the details.

Side Topic(s) – Slim – I own about 15 pair. BUT most of them are throwbacks that I may only wear about 1x a year.
Brat – love those boots and Charcoal would be the perfect color. Now Ifn I see those with some pretty chocolate leggs and that walk (i’m talking bout THAT WALK). Something about boots with a little leg/knee/thigh showing before a skirt and the walk.
oh yeah pull that off by putting a fedora on and you’ll be talking about the Married that hit on you to the blog. IJS

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
1:01 pm

I LOVE shoes….and clothes, shoes ahead though. I love coats too. Not too fond of hats but I have a couple for when it gets cold.

I have cut back on shoes drastically over the years. I thought about this when Sassy mentioned she and her sister having the same pairs independant of each other knowing.

You have probably too many pairs of shoes when:

While still living at home I use to (and still do) stack my shoes against a designated wall, keeping them in the shoe boxes. Well I had so many that I would forget.

Once I bought an outfit from (formely) Rich’s and was thinking I needed to save until I had the perfect pair of shoes. Went home and was looking through all my boxes and wvalla, a pair in the stack I totally had forgotten about. It had made it’s way to the bottom row.

Once I had a pair of shoes that was odd in color and decided until I had the perfect outfit I wasn’t going to wear. Well unbeknownst to me my sister had been in my stacks (of shoes)…about 10 – 15 rows out, as many rows down. Anyway she was wearing the shoes and dumb me complimented her. Girl those are nice. After about a month, she said when you get home check the Ninewest box on the very bottom row and call me. SHE WAS WEARING THE SHOES I’D BOUGHT. That was soooo funny to her.

THAT’S when you have too many pairs of shoes. Of course I still have a lot, I kid you not I gave to my church (rummage sale) about 30 pairs at one time. Pairs I knew I’d never wear and just collecting dust. But I have enough.

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
1:02 pm

Willie – If I were to add up the pairs of flip-flops I have, then maybe I might be up there with you lol

ISIS

September 8th, 2011
1:02 pm

Yes! The couple should be equally yoked in all areas of their life. In some cases love is blind. If the person has a plan going forward which includes success (willing to do better, etc.), I personally don’t see anything wrong with dating a S.O. with bad credit and poor management with money. Being patient and growing with that person can be a bonding experience. You can actually be an inspiration to them.

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
1:07 pm

1. When was the last time you bought wallpaper for the kitchen?*** Never…. Wall paper is sooooo 1970’s

2. When was the last time you shopped for curtains for the kitchen?**** They are now called window dressings and it was just within the last couple of weeks….( Had to get the new house ready for when I host one of my famous dinner parties!!! )

SlimNu…. Never that!!! My shoe closet is like the lounge at Benny’s shoes… Comfotable chairs and everything!!! :)

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:08 pm

hola WD. i’ll let you in on a little secret. you listening? come closer. closer. yeah, right there.
it’s boots like that that make THAT WALK. and that’s why we luv ‘em.

celisea, and you know you have a prob when you have to dump a stack of shoes in the salvation army bin in order to make room for the boxes ups is about to drop at your door. :(

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:12 pm

I personally don’t see anything wrong with dating a S.O. with bad credit and poor management with money.
oooh. see. now that there is a bit much for me. in my age range i can’t have “bad” credit and “poor” money skills going on. you and i should be enjoying an active social life and working toward a comfortable retirement; not practicing how to balance a checkbook and calling creditors to ask for payment plans. that was soooooo 20 years ago!!

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
1:14 pm

czBrat – Girl I’m there with you…lol Yeah moving pairs to make room is a lot of shoes!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
1:17 pm

@czB ~ no, I was talking about being “acquainted” with SimpleM. Couldn’t use the word “know,” cuz I don’t know him.

I have over 100+ shoes. I love shoes. But only own one pair of those lucite/plastic 5″ hooker shoes (lolol).

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
1:20 pm

Howdy, folks.

Well d@mn. And I thought I was a bit on the excessive side with # of shoes for a dude, and I’ve only got about 10. Well, 12 if you count flip-flops.

1 pair of just casual sneakers
1 pair of running shoes
1 pair of “trail” running shoes
1 pair of tennis shoes
1 pair of basketball shoes
2 pairs of Doc Martens — 1 black, 1 brown
2 pairs of Sketchers — 1 mostly black, 1 mostly brown
1 pair of dress shoes, black.
1 pair of beach flip-flops
1 pair of adidas plastic sandals (for post-tennis match)

Those plastic adidas sandals, by the way, have split in half at the sole at least 3 times & I just keep crazy glue-ing those bad boys back together. :lol:

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
1:22 pm

No I don’t ask about finances. How she handles money will come to light sooner or later. If her car got declined on a date I would would have to ask myself why is she even paying for anything while with me in the first place.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:23 pm

only own one pair of those lucite/plastic 5″ hooker shoes
if you use ‘em right one pair of hooker shoes is all you’ll ever need. LOL

gotta skip. i hear a pastrami reuben calling my name.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
1:26 pm

O/T – just viewed pics of Chaz with his dance partner. Ever since Lacy came on the scene with DWTS, she has rubbed me the wrong way. She’s a camera hog and cheesy. With Chaz as her partner, she’s going to hog the limelight. I may be wrong, but I doubt it.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:26 pm

celisea, between s/o and i we’ll have to convert a spare bedroom into a closet when we move in. this giving up my footwear due to lack of room is for the birds. i have shoe boxes stacked to the ceiling, wall-to-wall racks in three closets and more shoes stashed under a couple of beds. ugh. i think i just realized where my nest egg went?
(kidding!!!)

Button

September 8th, 2011
1:27 pm

ITL @12:19 -I get where you’re coming from but I was leaning more to point of if I told dude I shopped at Norstrom/Bloomingdale or Saks Fifth Ave weekly big ticketed items, then he would see me as a big spender and that might pose a problem on his end if he’s the frugal type.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
1:28 pm

Hey, Swiss! They’re not the ones with the nubby things inside, are they? Those give my feet the heebie-jeebies.

You and Swiss Mrs. gonna be in Athens on Saturday?

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:28 pm

perhaps when i get back we can move on to hats and bags :lol: (or in his case, cuff links and watches)

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
1:29 pm

Brat – alrighty then. Dayum you smell good, gonna havta put you on the dont talk to list like somebody else (smile).
Leggs – The hooka heels are perfect. They should neva eva eva touch the pavement. Indoor use only. Unless of course you have a patio/balcony etc for extra-curriculars.

Swiss – SimpMan excluded most men have functional pairs of shoes. We replace as needed based on wear/tear. Your list sounds about like my list. With the exception of a few pair of Chucks, Jordans and old schools.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
1:32 pm

Mmm, pastrami reuben. I might need to make a Goldberg’s run….

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
1:33 pm

“They’re not the ones with the nubby things inside, are they?”

ITL — No, I hate those. Mine are just all plastic with the smooth sole. I can’t find the ones I have anymore — that’s why I keep the crazy glue handy. ;-)

No, won’t be in Athens. It’s opening week of ALTA, so I’ve got a match that morning. I’ll be staked out in front of the big screen, with meat on the grill & plenty of Jack Daniels on hand to console me. Last week didn’t give me much hope for the rest of the year.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:33 pm

keep in mind that one can shop at nords & saks on the regular taking advantage of real deals on big ticket items. sometimes what you’re showing dude is that you know how to spend smart. just my .02.

brb

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
1:33 pm

Exactly czB! That and a feather boa (lol).

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
1:34 pm

ITL, i have a feeling we may be close. unless there’s another goldberg’s besides georgetown. :shock:

Button

September 8th, 2011
1:36 pm

You got that right czbrat! nothing like a great sale! IMO Macy’s #1! my only problem is that sometimes I can’t find anything good on the sales rack.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
1:36 pm

Swiss, I think I saw some at Kohls…. I think.

Last week was pretty depressing, for sure. We did something we NEVER do – left before the game was over. A lot of folks felt the same, bc MARTA was already packed. I’ll still be there to cheer them on, though….blood runs red and black, win or lose. I won’t be drinking JD, though. I’m battling a sinus infection and the doc said drink plenty of clear liquids, so I’ll have vodka tonics. :)

Lady~

September 8th, 2011
1:36 pm

Hey MIA Gang!

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
1:37 pm

cz, we go to the one on West Paces, by OK Cafe.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
1:39 pm

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
1:49 pm

ITL- As a Gator Fan, I am fighting the urge to kick the puppies. Not really but it seemed like the right thing to say. For the record i’ll just say No comment and happily spend this cheese I won thanks to BSU Saturday.
Swiss – might I suggest a larger bottle of JD for you this weekend.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
1:52 pm

Not gonna spend some of that cheddar on new jorts, WD? :lol: I kid, I kid… you know I think you’re cool…for a Gator.

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
1:53 pm

ITL — I guess I’m either a really loyal fan or a glutton for punishment, because I’ve never in my life left a game early, or even turned off a game early, regardless of the score. I’ll always either be there or be watching to support the team, no matter how bad it gets. Now, the coaches on the other hand…

Man, don’t even get me started on Bobo’s game plan for Boise. And, sadly, it doesn’t sound like he’s going be changing much for the Foghorn Leghorns. I just don’t understand how you can look at a roster whose 3 most glaring weaknesses/question marks are 1) an inexperienced offensive line, 2) unproven wide receivers and 3) a running back unaccustomed to pass protection & decide that your best option is to run no-huddle, shot-gun spread for 99% of the game. We’ve got 3 outstanding TEs, plus a 260lb converted TE at FB, a running back with plenty of natural running ability and an OL that is at least big, if not particularly good. So where were the multiple TE / power sets? Where were the toss sweeps w/ Figgins leading Crowell to the edge where he might actually find some space? I just don’t get it. But then I’m not a coach, so what do I know?

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
1:56 pm

ITl – see thats like the kid with the swollen eye and bloody nose throwing a rock. You aint right. Lol

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
1:56 pm

I weeded out a lot of my 150+ pairs of shoes when I moved. I gave quite a few pairs away and gave others to Goodwill. I think I may have gotten down below 100, but have bought about 10 pairs this summer.

So husband gets his electronics & games, I get my shoes & clothes. We’re all happy! :)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
1:59 pm

@WillieD ~ yes sir, they will never touch pavement.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
2:00 pm

I’m with you, Swiss. That’s only the second time I’ve ever left early…and then only bc I didn’t want to be in the Dome all by lonesome.

Exact conversation we had Saturday night. I said it last year, and I’ll say it again – Bozo needs some help calling plays. Four…count ‘em…four times in a row we ran Crowell/Samuels up the middle. WTH is CMB thinking??? If at first, second, third you don’t succeed then try again??? Grrrr!

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
2:03 pm

Fine, then, WD!! I’m gonna take my Nerf and go home…And quit laughing at my snot bubble!!! :lol:

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
2:03 pm

Kimmie – as a husband best day for me if when Wifey actually decides to weed thru the shoe collection and donate. The worst day is the next day when she plans and starts looking for the replacements. I already lost the battle for closet space. I am now proactive and set aside some $$$ to randomly hand her for shoes. Quiet as kept I found that if i give her shoe money ever so often I save in the long run on the splurges. Plus I like Hubby of the year cause i In tuned with her needs. hahaha

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
2:03 pm

Well whaddaya know. Never noticed all the goldbergs locations right here on the menu. Live n learn.

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
2:06 pm

Willie D — Oh, I’ve already stocked up on the economy-sized bottles of JD. I’m prepared for whatever may come. :lol:

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:09 pm

O/T ~ to all the BBW fans. Evelyn is not coming back. She’s hot over an untruthful slur VH1 posted about her cheating on Ochocinco with T.O.

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
2:10 pm

Fellas – (PSA) pay attention to the conversation. When dating learn to ask the right questions and listen to the answer. If you enter into a relationship with a chick with a shoe fetish be prepared for the future. You will have to plan for closet space, sales, logistics and volunteer opportunites. Do like Swiss and at least get a new Grill out of it or maybe some electronics as a compromise. It is a losing battle so either K.I.M. or just prepare for it and save yourself the angst. Real talk!!!

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
2:14 pm

Everyone have their fantasy football line up together?

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:15 pm

Yep, that’s real talk

Button

September 8th, 2011
2:15 pm

@ Willie Dynamite you deserve a star on your crown with that comment!

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
2:22 pm

Purp – I totally forgot to set up the pickem for the blog.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
2:26 pm

“Mark Richt’s patience wearing thin….” Hmph. I know how he feels.

Is it open to everyone on the blog?? Girls, too?? :)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:28 pm

I don’t understand real football, perhaps I’ll have a chance at this fantasy thingamajiggy thing.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
2:29 pm

Leggs, you’ll probably end up winning the whole kit and kaboodle! :)

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
2:31 pm

ITl and Swiss – side note, remember you heard it here first. Before the year is over as your season tanks in the gutter and CMR is on his way out. You will find out about some NCAA sanctions involving this “Dream Team” recruiting class. Nothing to talk about or comment on now but just remember.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:32 pm

@Leggs
if you want to know football real well, just put on that Shirtdress with those boots and sashay on down to the local Sports Bar. You learn more about Footbal than you ever cared to know.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:32 pm

who are the teams

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:35 pm

Now, now, you know that’s not true Fion. Dude would get tired of me asking a bunch of questions…

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:39 pm

baby, if you showing leggs like you have you have, just set there and be cute.
Now Leggs, i can cook. Really cook. I’ll play dumb as hell in the grocery store and hit all up on single women.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
2:41 pm

csBrat – i have shoe boxes stacked to the ceiling, wall-to-wall racks in three closets and more shoes stashed under a couple of beds.

Girl you are knee deep in it. I’ve recovered from those days…somewhat. I used grow weak in the knees at the right pair. Right now I don’t know what’s worse, me being a (shoe) recovering addict or my kid moving into her (shoe) addiction….at my expense. :evil:

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
2:42 pm

Willie – You are a smart man!!! Gosh, I wish my husband would give me money for shoes!!

But you know what? He’s an Amazon freak! There is not a week that goes by that Amazon does not deliver something to the house. Maybe if I see some I like I can ask him to order for me on his Amazon Prime account(free shipping!) Yeah, that’s what I’ll do! :cool:

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
2:44 pm

lmao @ fion. i guess you gotta do what you gotta do.

Everyone have their fantasy football line up together?
:razz:

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:44 pm

meant if you have leggs like you say you have……..

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:44 pm

You hit all up on women. Initially, you don’t know they’re single (lol)…

But of course that’s what I would do, Fion. :wink:

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
2:45 pm

The only thing, besides not being totally irresponsible with money, that stops me from buying more shoes are my feet. They are flat and I have a troublesome bunion on one of them! That keeps me out of a lot of styles. :(

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
2:45 pm

let’s try that again ….

Everyone have their fantasy football line up together?

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:45 pm

Listen, there’s an old saying in the country. “you can’t catch Trout in a Catfish pond”.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:46 pm

BTW, Fion, I just repeated what others have said. I don’t see long legs, just average ones.

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
2:46 pm

much better!

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:46 pm

@Leggs
usually the left hand gives them away.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
2:48 pm

I would never do anything to hurt you
I give all my love… to yooouuu
And if you need me, baby, I’ll come runnin
Only to YOU!!!

Old begging Keith Sweat sounds good!LOL!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:48 pm

@czB ~ I don’t have a line up together. How does this thing work?

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
2:49 pm

Fion – exactly, what dude in his right mind would dismiss those leggs over her screaming Goal after a TD. Grocery store playa hunh. You still have to ask the right questions. My favorite – excuse me, whats the difference in a cucumber and a zuchinni (while holding both). Gotta get them smiling and then talking is all i’m saying.

Kimmie – not fair, smart but thats premeditated
alright folks, late lunch for me. Holla!!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:49 pm

Hope you don’t always go by that cuz some married women don’t wear rings.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:51 pm

@WilliD ~ anyone asking me that in a grocery store will have me turning them around and showing them the front door cuz clearly they have no business at a supermarket, playa (LOL).

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:51 pm

@ Willie D

Hey, hey!!!! I’m working this side of the street. Leave us have some professional courtesy.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
2:52 pm

I do know a goal from a touchdown. Once they kick the ball over the goal is how they get the 7th point for the touchdown…something like that. Pls don’t laugh at me.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
2:52 pm

Laughing out loud at the image of WD in Publix with a cucumber and a zucchini… I bet it works more often than not, too. Men with a good sense of humor always move to the head of the class.

Fion

September 8th, 2011
2:53 pm

@ Willie D
My line is about cooking a roast??? Works everytime.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
2:58 pm

Blogettes: Any body ever order from justfab.com? I keep seeing the ad on Yahoo and wondered what their quality was like….

czBrat

September 8th, 2011
2:58 pm

leggs, our fantasy lineup game is gonna be a little different. but feel free to toss some nfl players in the mix.

i’m gonna start with my old standby, shamar. next up, lisa bonet’s old man … followed by that alcide werewolf dude. just yum!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

Oh snap. I can play this game. My lineup is Matthew McConnegy (sp?), Idris Elba, Cuba Gooding (for starters).

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

Ok…Grocery store pimping 101…” Wow the (insert seasonal fruit/ veggie) looks great/ bad today…It always gets a response and leads to a chance to flash a little cooking knowledge…If she is gonna be receptive to anything, this will get her… Its not to forward, its conversational, and gives both parties plenty of openings if there is a spark…. :)

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

Swiss you still here?

Me and my counterpart will be representing our company at a tennis tournament Monday. He thinks I’m playing…tee hee hee

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:01 pm

Whew! I think my fever just broke when cz mentioned Alcide. YUM, YUM, and YUM!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:05 pm

Who is this Alcide dude you guys keep drooling over. What’s his real name so I can look him up?

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
3:06 pm

Celisea — Yup, I’m here. Cool — kick some azz. You need some pre-match coaching?

Side note: D@mn Good Dawg John Isner through to the quarterfinals at the US Open. Roddick, too, surprisingly.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:08 pm

Ooooh, I like this fantasy game.

Mine are: Joe Manganiello (Alcide!), Hugh Jackman, Tony Gonazalez, and Donovan McNabb.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
3:08 pm

Late to the party…

On topic…I will notice a person’s financial situation if it moves past the first date. Is this fair, probably not because I’ve seen the times when I had to use my Sam’s membership to eat the free samples or not have lunch. During those times I hoped that any perspective partner would see past the current and see that there is a difference between down times and deadbeats. That said, I know I cannot be someone’s sugar daddy to bail them out of a situation that they may or may not have contributed to. I have dropped a lady in the past when I realized she had some issues regarding money that made me wonder about her character…and how much of her feelings were real and how much were “needing financial assistance”. I won’t lie, I really wanted some “things” from her, but kicked her to the curb rather than use her before some things were ‘consumated’ (still think about that some…the “what might have been” if I had just stayed for a few dates).

Re shoes, I looked down a couple of hours ago and realized my heel si coming off my casual Johnston and Murphy two tones. Dayum, where is the rubber cement when you need it. Saw where Sarah Jessica Parker is going to have a line of Minolas she is designing. Now how many people from Hawkins County Tennessee would get the significance of that???…long way from the hills now ;-)

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:10 pm

Oh, okay…let me put my fantasy names in the hat

Laz Alonso
Jason Winston George
Edris Elba
Mark Wahlberg
Matthew McConaughey
Morris Chestnut
Orlando Bloom

………..to name a few

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:11 pm

Oh ma Lord….HUGH JACKMAN, PULEASE don’t let me leave him off

Swiss – Spectator only for this event :) I’ll be thinking of you though :)

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

LOL@Celisea. LOVE Hugh. But why did Morris get crossed off your list???

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
3:13 pm

ITL — Wait, wait, time out. Donovan McNabb? I don’t mean to be a hater or anything, but are you mixing fantasy football w/ fantasy bone? ‘Cos unless you need passing yards, adding him to your list makes it look kind of like one of those SAT “which of the following does not belong?” questions. :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
3:14 pm

@ Willie D…so you have trolled the Publix too? Seriously, the best pickup opportunities come wayyyyyyyyyyyy outside the bars. supermarkets are great because you get a chance, as a man, to show some depth…and you get to see those wonderful ladies in their natural habitat…UMMMMM. (Although is important if you are a super couponer to relegate that to really late nights when prime fishing time is over ;-)

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
3:15 pm

For that matter, even if you do need passing yards, I’d question that choice. :lol:

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:16 pm

Awwww, Swiss. Donovan’s cute, and he gets bonus points for being sweet to his mama. :)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:16 pm

I would like to add that newbie who starred in Thor…good googly moogly! Throw in Will Smith too.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:16 pm

ITL – I dunno, he doesn’t possess as much “ism” as he did back early 2000s…during his Two Can Play That Game days…mmm mmm mmm Maybe if he lands a good role his stock will rise again for me.

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
3:18 pm

ITL:lol: Well, I’m not a chick, so I guess my opinion doesn’t really matter. :lol: Always thought he was a kinda goofy-looking dude, personally.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:19 pm

Yeah, I can see that, Celisea. I almost had Will on my list, too, Leggs… I’ve loved him since Jr. High. :)

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:21 pm

Will Smith, yes he is handsome but I cannot get past the fact that he can morph into a “shim” at a moment’s notice. That’s not good for me.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:22 pm

Ladies it is fantasty football. Not fantasy bucket list.

LOL

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:22 pm

Leggs – Never liked Will. Always liked Morris Chestnut though. I like that chef Marcus Samuelsson, even though he’s short. And I like Sanja Gupta.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:23 pm

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:24 pm

supermarkets…natural habitat?

I don’t disagree but I’m glad it’s not me who said that.

@Swiss..a woman likes what she likes,leave ITL alone.

Somebody likes Will Smith there! See. :lol:

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:25 pm

Hmm I don’t have a fantasy list.

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:26 pm

I see nobody for Clooney or Bishop as yet!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:26 pm

Will is tall. I need his long legs.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:27 pm

PR – Pilar? :lol:

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:28 pm

And you can hang on to those ears…….

(putting myself in timeout) :oops:

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:28 pm

I thought of Clooney, but he’s such a man whore it turned me off.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:29 pm

Denzel will forever be in the Fine Hall of Fame for me.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:30 pm

How did I forgot the old usual Mr. Handsome himself…Denzel? Yeah he’s got a permanent spot. He get better with time, like fine wine :)

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
3:31 pm

Ex, Which Bishop are you refering to… Eddie L or Cash Flow Dollar????

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:33 pm

ITL, that is not a fantasy the only reason I would never hookup with Pilar is if my moonlight picnic dream woman decides to keep me for herself

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:34 pm

You ladies still know you like Billy Dee Williams. LOL

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:34 pm

Only if you can get with a man sporting a process…lol Billy Dee I mean.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:36 pm

So funny you say that about Billy Dee, Purp, bc earlier I flashed on Florence from the Jeffersons having one of her Billy Dee Williams fits. Too funny!

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:36 pm

Man whore!

I came home Tuesday to see Queen watching entertainment tonite. And I sat beside her snugly as it was a lil cold.

And then the anchors gush,’George Clooney and his new beau….’

We just looked at each other and laughed.

How many times over are these blondes gonna be ‘new’ on mr. Clooney’s arm?

The man must have a female’s size shoe closet full of Trojans!

Fion

September 8th, 2011
3:37 pm

@Leggs
Stop playin’. Don’t hate. I haven’t seen a women yet that didn’t like a man that she knew for a fact could fu^k any woman in the room if he wanted to.
If it ain’t true you’d all have Quasimodo topping your lists.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:37 pm

Wonder if he gets his hair done at a beauty salon or barber shop…lol

My old beautician (who passed a few years back…he was a shim) use to do this dude’s hair and that dude swore he was the man. How are you the man when you get rollers and placed under a hair dryer every two weeks. He was a big burly masculine dude at that. Could barely fit in the chair let alone that big ole head under a hair dryer…lol Somebody should have made him wear panties just for wearing hair rollers/curlers…lol

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:38 pm

I used to love me some Andrew Dan Jumbo, the mixed Nigerian dude from While You Were Out and parttime model – till I found out he was busted for domestic violence.

Naw bruh, you gots ta go!

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:38 pm

I came home Tuesday to see Queen watching entertainment tonite. And I sat beside her snugly as it was a lil cold.

Ex, you old softie…. You know you love snugglin’ with Queen, admit it. You’re secretly a romantic, aren’t you???

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
3:40 pm

“If it ain’t true you’d all have Quasimodo topping your lists.”

Fion — Don’t sleep on Quasimodo. That dude knows a thing or two about humps.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:40 pm

Kimmie, you just broke my heart. I hadn’t heard that about him…and I used to love him. I think the guy from Backyard Surprise or Take Me Home to Do Your Backyard or whatever it’s called is pretty cute, too.

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:41 pm

@Ladies,how about Billy Bob,the one that made u gush when he gave it good to Halle in that Monster Ball movie?

Ha? :lol:

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:42 pm

Yard Crashers.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:43 pm

Light – Girl, I was hurt too. Just googled him because I hadn’t heard anything about him lately and, well you know TMZ was on top of it! And google has some absolutely outstanding modeling photos of him too, one shirtless! :shock:

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:46 pm

Always wanna take it to the nasties….smh

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:46 pm

ITL!

she will say ‘come sit here’ or ‘put ur head here’ and I oblige,depending on my mood.

She’s more of a romantic than I am.

I’m a brick and mortar type of dude but

it helps I have her!

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:47 pm

It’s nobody out there I really “like” anymore that I would even waste my time fantasizing about.

Glad my ultimate “fantasy” is my reality – my boo! :cool:

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:47 pm

Sheesh, you scooped Denzel up. I forgot about him, kimmie! Excellent pick.

@Fion ~ I know right. It’s absolutely amazing. Warren Beatty thought he was the man back in the day. Clooney has everyone beat (except Hugh Hefner). But now that Hefner’s just about fossilized, Clooney has him beat.

@Ex ~ Crazy Thornton didn’t make anyone gush. If anything, we got pissed at Halle for doing that scene.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:48 pm

I wasn’t being nasty…I couldn’t remember the name of the show. Had to google it.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
3:48 pm

@ITL re: timeout

“How does a Frenchman hold his likker”
“By the ears”

Old joke, but at least is mercifully short.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:49 pm

@swiss ~ you’re wrong for that hump joke!!!

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:49 pm

Well, Leggs, he did have Angelina stepping into psycho for awhile. She even had a rat with his name tattooed on her arm. I’d say she definitely married up (up from BBT) when she got with Brad.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:49 pm

@ITL, I believe that was for ex, not you.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:50 pm

Billy Bob looks like a dried up beige raisin. But he’s a good actor.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:50 pm

@Randyt: That’s exactly the thought I had…..leave it to you to publish it. LOL

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:51 pm

@ITL ~ anyone who wears vials of blood around their neck of their partner is crazy.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:51 pm

Celisea, why was the guy having curlers put in his hair?

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

Brad Pitt is looking kinda raggedy these days, like trailer trashish. I don’t like him with the scraggly hair & beard. He looks hot, more Hollywood when he’s clean shaven and clean cut.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

Ooooh, my bad, Celisea and Leggs. Guess I had a guilty conscience over the ears thing that put me in timeout. :oops:

A dried up beige raisin!!!! I am in tears…. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:52 pm

@kimmie ~ I’m trying to figure out if it’s makeup or is Brad aging poorly????

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

Leggs — I was wondering if anybody caught that one… :lol:

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

Speaking of Brad, anybody see his guest appearance on Californication?? Just, wow. :shock:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm

Oh I saw where you were going ITL (and now thinking about weekend too between football games).

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm

ITL u say some nasty!

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm

I want those clothes & shoes Angelina rocked in The Tourist!

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm

I always wondered why women were all gaga over Brad Pitt, when he started he used to look like he didn’t wear deoderant or shaved.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

Now, now swiss, you know that wouldn’t get passed me.

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

I’m not usually attracted to white dudes but I think the guy from 300 is sexy :oops:

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
3:55 pm

Hello, Pot? This is Kettle calling……

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
3:56 pm

Exiled!

September 8th, 2011
3:56 pm

Legs, why?

It was too real?

I remember Larry King asking her on his show,’was that acting?’

I will give it to them,that was good acting!

but I hate the beyeootch!

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
3:56 pm

Leggs – I don’t know, but whatever it’s not looking good. If it’s poor aging he needs to hit up one of those plastic surgeons and a good stylist in Beverly Hills. He got the money!

Button

September 8th, 2011
3:57 pm

My fantasy man hands down is CNN’s finest Wolf Blitzer and he can dougie too!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
3:58 pm

@ SlimNu I’m not into dudes period (although would triple one’s chancing of getting a date on Saturday nights in Midtown I guess), but I was thinking while reading this before your post about the guy in 300 and how he doesn’t look near as ‘manly’ in some of the movies he is in lately. I didn’t realize it was the same guy until my daughter told me.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:58 pm

I suppose it was too real and the fact that it was Billy Bob Thornton. For her to be nominated for that role I thought was a slap in the face when she has done much better acting. Her crack addict self in Jungle Fever was some fine acting.

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
3:58 pm

ITL – My statement wasn’t in reference to you…Billy Bob Thornton is just nasty…any reference to him would be taking it to the nasties.

When I mention fantasy, please believe I don’t spend one second hoping or wishing over someone that does not know I exist :) Not that kind of fantasy.

Brad has lost his appeal…IMO

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
3:59 pm

Idris Elba is sexy too and his accent is the cherry on top :oops:

I used to be into LL Cool J but he’s sort of fallen off my hunk list based on time & age I suppose lol (his body is still smoking tho)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:59 pm

I am so hoping it’s makeup, kimmie! He looks older than ME.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:01 pm

Purple – Brad in his prime reminded me of a young Robert Redford in HIS prime. I don’t go for blondes at all, but the cut of his jaw, tan skin, clean-shaven & clean cut. Especially in Troy – he was all that!

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:02 pm

Purple you got a point there, I call men who look umkempt stankums. lol

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:03 pm

Slim – I loved me some LL too. He might have a spot in the Fine Hall of Fame if he keeps outta trouble!LOL!!

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:04 pm

Button – Sanja got Wolf beat, hands down!! LOL!!!

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
4:04 pm

Randy – I can’t readily think of any recent movies he’s played in. That one with Jamie Fox came on tv the other night and I thought he was still manly looking. I guess they have their bad days just like us commonfolk lol

The beau is sooooo into Zoe Saldana. He almost didn’t want to take me to go see the movie Columbiana so they could have some private time together. Guess he didn’t want me to be jealous

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:05 pm

@ Kimmie re: The Tourist. I have to admit, every time that movie comes on Showtime, I watch a few minutes of it just to see Angelina. She looked STUNNING in that movie…and as you suggested, it was the wardrobe that complimented her assets in every possible way.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:07 pm

Speaking of Billy Dee Williams, I was flipping channels over the weekend and landed on In Living Color. Billy Dee was on and I found myself sitting down almost salivating.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:07 pm

Kimmie i’on know bout that der…..can Sanja dougie?

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:08 pm

Slim – That reminds me of when we went to the Sade concert. My hubby loves her and said he would have married her back in the day if they could have worked things out. But my girlfriends hubby is obsessed with Sade! It’s hilarious! His wife looked over at him halfway thru the concert and asked him “are you pregnant yet?”. I was rolling!LOL!!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:09 pm

@ SlimNu, he was in The Bounty Hunter with Jennifer Anniston, and in that movie with Kathryn Heigl (who could have me by the way) in The Ugly Truth. He’s from Scotland by the way, but I’ve spent many moons in Scotland and how he lost that accent is beyond me.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:10 pm

LL….mmmmm hmmmm. If he doesn’t make it into the Hall of Fame, I think his lips get honorable mention. :)

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:11 pm

Button – It don’t matter if he can or not, the man is HOTT! I’ve seen him in person. He is absolutely STUNNING. Plus, the Dr. is super smart(i’m into nerds).

I saw pictures of his wedding in In Style weddings. He had a traditional Indian ceremony. There is a shot of him in his Indian garb, wearing a turban and riding on a horse. He looked absolutely regal!

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:12 pm

I’m about to have to turn in my man card, but I don’t give a f#ck! :lol: I married my fantasy girl. :-D

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:12 pm

Zoe Saldana

Eva Mendes

Roselyn Sanchez

Pilar Sanders

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:14 pm

PR…I’m noticing a certain Latin flair here…wonder why ;-)

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:14 pm

Swiss – I guess I gotta turn in my woman card, cause I married my fantasy man!! :lol:

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:16 pm

ok ok Kimmie I’ll give Sanja 1 brownie point for being a doc and yes is HOT but he’s getting a lil too skinny, dude needs to eat 6 fried chicken drum sticks to catch up with Wolf! :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:16 pm

I guess I’m going to have to get my Man Card renewed because I marrried some other moron’s fantasy !!!!

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

kimmie — Well, I might be able to keep my man card on a probationary basis, ‘cos I wasn’t just saying that to be all sweet. Mrs. Swiss is genuinely fine as HEYAL. Even if I didn’t like her personally, she’d still be on my Bucket-F#ck List. :lol:

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

Button – 6?!! LOL!!! :lol:

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

PR – Celisea, why was the guy having curlers put in his hair?

Because he was getting a jheri curl…think that’s how you spell it. You know the wet curls.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

Purple what about Rosanne Bar? I heard she owns and run a nut farm :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:18 pm

A sado-masochist’s ultimate fantasy in fact!!! Good thing I like abuse.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:18 pm

Randyt, LOL I don’t know why :) LOL

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:18 pm

lol@Randyt! Too funny.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:19 pm

Celisea, Oh okay, I guess. Lol

Button, no thank you. LOL

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:19 pm

Swiss – That is sweet tho! I must admit, my boo takes my breath away as well.

I think we both can keep our cards & laminate them!LOL!!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:20 pm

Okay, no regrets because of three great children…but have a lot of lost time to make up for (okay where is the viagra, I have to go for three a night to bat .500 if I start now).

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:23 pm

Because he was getting a jheri curl…think that’s how you spell it. You know the wet curls.

Always makes me think of Soul Glo from Coming to America. :lol: :lol:

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
4:23 pm

Purp, Your list is on point, but Can I let you keep Pilar and replace her with Suchita??? And there has to be room at the in for Martha Stewart and Jeri Ryan….

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:24 pm

Randyt everytime I hear/see/read the word viagra I get to relive an awful nightmare :angry:

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

swiss trying to gain brownie points with the Mrs…she must be near

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

Ahhhh the road, home, and unbridled passion is drawing me away. Y’all have a great weekend ;-)

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

Randy — Speaking of viagra — do you ever watch “Curb Your Enthusiasm” on HBO? If so, did you see the “juicing” episode a couple weeks ago where Larry was competing with Rosie O’Donnell over the bisexual chick & he resorted to “juicing” (viagra) to get the edge? :lol: Hilarious…

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

Please share Button! I have a guy who wants to use the Viagra on me, but I swear I may give him a heart attack and I keep declining.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:26 pm

Button ?????

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:26 pm

Simple Man, nope that’s my list of perfection.

I really hope I never get to a point where I have to use viagra. My wife is a big’ol dose of viagra everytime I see her. BOING!!!! LOL

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:27 pm

@ swiss, only two or three times I’ve shot twice without losing “Woody”, and once was with Viagra.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:27 pm

Swiss, I saw that episode. LOL

Leggs, ok there has to be a back story there. How did you two get to the point of talking about him using viagra on you?

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:28 pm

@ Leggs…he wants to use it, or wants you to use it?

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:29 pm

“swiss trying to gain brownie points with the Mrs…she must be near”

Slim — Nah, I’m in the office today, so the Mrs is nowhere near. We just got back from vacation, though, so it could be that the puddy-whipping she put on me hasn’t worn off just yet… :lol:

Speaking of which, what is it about vacations that makes you ladies so h0rny? And how can I replicate that at home every day without forking over all that money for travel? :lol:

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:29 pm

Swiss – I LOVE Curb Your Enthusiasm and I saw that episode! Hilarious! Did you see the one where he had something wrong with the passenger seat of his car and women were getting off every time they rode in it? He didn’t even see what was going on, until his buddy, the brother, pointed it out. He said “Dude, your passenger seat is the “Other Man”!!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:30 pm

I’ve known this man a couple of decades, PR.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:30 pm

@ swiss…the stranger the bed, the stiffer the wood.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:31 pm

@Randyt ~ he wants to use it.

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
4:31 pm

Come back and you guys are hilarious

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:33 pm

Classic CYE: the one where his pants had the little poof that made it look like he was constantly aroused!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:34 pm

Leggs…let him (I mean if you are wanting it). It will tend to give him (or can give him) a little bit of a headache, but I’m sure he wants to please you. just saying… I’m still waiting for the erect!on that lasts four hours, so I can take pictures. JK

Night y’all.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:34 pm

Leggs so that means what? LOL

Women like hotel rooms….wait that did not sound right. LOL

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:35 pm

Leggs/Randyt thing is he SHOULD have used the darn thing! Erectile dysfunction is a mutter. :(
bless his heart maybe he should look into getting some prescriptions filled or buy it black market.

Leggs from what little I’ve read about viagra a man can stay “up” for up to four hours.

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:35 pm

“the stranger the bed, the stiffer the wood.”

Randy — Yeah, but somehow I get the feeling that a strange bed at, say, a hostel somewhere wouldn’t have quite the same aphrodisiac effect on Mrs. Swiss as a suite at an all-inclusive resort. Just a hunch… :lol:

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:37 pm

Swiss, just keep throwing money at it until it opens.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:39 pm

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:40 pm

Night, y’all.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:42 pm

Swiss, just keep throwing money at it until it opens @ Purple don’t they do that at the skrip club?

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:42 pm

@PR ~ doesn’t mean anything, I suppose. Every time I hear viagra I think of him. He’s old. I don’t want to do old simply because it’s offered.

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
4:42 pm

Dayum i must be jaded or sumthin. my Fantasy list is dwindling. I’m trying to think of a few off the top and i can’t.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:49 pm

Nate Berkus is FION!!! too bad he’s gay.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 8th, 2011
4:54 pm

I don’t want to do old simply because it’s offered.

eeewww….why does a “pig in the blanket” visual come to mind?…

But ditto on the old wood…Viagra or not umm no thanks.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:57 pm

LOL @ Sassy and the pig in the blanket – I just had a visual too and it was burnt :lol:

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:57 pm

That’s what I said “no thanks.”

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:58 pm

I can’t recall if I’ve used this recently.

Make much of your strengths. Make sense of your weaknesses.

Gd nite!

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
5:34 pm

Nate Berkus is FION!!! too bad he’s gay. :|

Somehow I’m not getting this same read. Anyway I see we’re clowning. Viagra huh? I think when you reach a point of being dependant on that kind of stuff and the tunker is tanked out you should leave well enough alone…but that’s just me and what I think