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Dating: Do you ask about their finances?

What would you do if the person you are dating are showing signs of financial instability? Maybe you notice their lack of frugality or their excessive spending. Or maybe you are with them when their credit card was declined.

I read somewhere about a young woman who was on a first date with a guy and his card was declined. She didn’t judge him by this incident and they are now married. If she dumped him because of this embarrassing snafu, she could have thrown away her chance of happiness!

So what is the best approach in paying attention to your date’s money management? Is it something you should inquire about? If you notice something awry, do you bring it up?

Do you (or should you) ask about a person’s financial plan when you are dating? Should you wait until you are in a relationship to bring it up or would that be too late?

How important is it to date someone who is smart about money?

Just curious: What would you do if you went on a date and their credit card was declined?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

315 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
3:59 pm

Idris Elba is sexy too and his accent is the cherry on top :oops:

I used to be into LL Cool J but he’s sort of fallen off my hunk list based on time & age I suppose lol (his body is still smoking tho)

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
3:59 pm

I am so hoping it’s makeup, kimmie! He looks older than ME.

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:01 pm

Purple – Brad in his prime reminded me of a young Robert Redford in HIS prime. I don’t go for blondes at all, but the cut of his jaw, tan skin, clean-shaven & clean cut. Especially in Troy – he was all that!

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:02 pm

Purple you got a point there, I call men who look umkempt stankums. lol

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:03 pm

Slim – I loved me some LL too. He might have a spot in the Fine Hall of Fame if he keeps outta trouble!LOL!!

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:04 pm

Button – Sanja got Wolf beat, hands down!! LOL!!!

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
4:04 pm

Randy – I can’t readily think of any recent movies he’s played in. That one with Jamie Fox came on tv the other night and I thought he was still manly looking. I guess they have their bad days just like us commonfolk lol

The beau is sooooo into Zoe Saldana. He almost didn’t want to take me to go see the movie Columbiana so they could have some private time together. Guess he didn’t want me to be jealous

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:05 pm

@ Kimmie re: The Tourist. I have to admit, every time that movie comes on Showtime, I watch a few minutes of it just to see Angelina. She looked STUNNING in that movie…and as you suggested, it was the wardrobe that complimented her assets in every possible way.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:07 pm

Speaking of Billy Dee Williams, I was flipping channels over the weekend and landed on In Living Color. Billy Dee was on and I found myself sitting down almost salivating.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:07 pm

Kimmie i’on know bout that der…..can Sanja dougie?

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:08 pm

Slim – That reminds me of when we went to the Sade concert. My hubby loves her and said he would have married her back in the day if they could have worked things out. But my girlfriends hubby is obsessed with Sade! It’s hilarious! His wife looked over at him halfway thru the concert and asked him “are you pregnant yet?”. I was rolling!LOL!!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:09 pm

@ SlimNu, he was in The Bounty Hunter with Jennifer Anniston, and in that movie with Kathryn Heigl (who could have me by the way) in The Ugly Truth. He’s from Scotland by the way, but I’ve spent many moons in Scotland and how he lost that accent is beyond me.

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:10 pm

LL….mmmmm hmmmm. If he doesn’t make it into the Hall of Fame, I think his lips get honorable mention. :)

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:11 pm

Button – It don’t matter if he can or not, the man is HOTT! I’ve seen him in person. He is absolutely STUNNING. Plus, the Dr. is super smart(i’m into nerds).

I saw pictures of his wedding in In Style weddings. He had a traditional Indian ceremony. There is a shot of him in his Indian garb, wearing a turban and riding on a horse. He looked absolutely regal!

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:12 pm

I’m about to have to turn in my man card, but I don’t give a f#ck! :lol: I married my fantasy girl. :-D

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:12 pm

Zoe Saldana

Eva Mendes

Roselyn Sanchez

Pilar Sanders

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:14 pm

PR…I’m noticing a certain Latin flair here…wonder why ;-)

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:14 pm

Swiss – I guess I gotta turn in my woman card, cause I married my fantasy man!! :lol:

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:16 pm

ok ok Kimmie I’ll give Sanja 1 brownie point for being a doc and yes is HOT but he’s getting a lil too skinny, dude needs to eat 6 fried chicken drum sticks to catch up with Wolf! :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:16 pm

I guess I’m going to have to get my Man Card renewed because I marrried some other moron’s fantasy !!!!

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

kimmie — Well, I might be able to keep my man card on a probationary basis, ‘cos I wasn’t just saying that to be all sweet. Mrs. Swiss is genuinely fine as HEYAL. Even if I didn’t like her personally, she’d still be on my Bucket-F#ck List. :lol:

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

Button – 6?!! LOL!!! :lol:

Celisea

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

PR – Celisea, why was the guy having curlers put in his hair?

Because he was getting a jheri curl…think that’s how you spell it. You know the wet curls.

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:17 pm

Purple what about Rosanne Bar? I heard she owns and run a nut farm :lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:18 pm

A sado-masochist’s ultimate fantasy in fact!!! Good thing I like abuse.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:18 pm

Randyt, LOL I don’t know why :) LOL

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:18 pm

lol@Randyt! Too funny.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:19 pm

Celisea, Oh okay, I guess. Lol

Button, no thank you. LOL

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:19 pm

Swiss – That is sweet tho! I must admit, my boo takes my breath away as well.

I think we both can keep our cards & laminate them!LOL!!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:20 pm

Okay, no regrets because of three great children…but have a lot of lost time to make up for (okay where is the viagra, I have to go for three a night to bat .500 if I start now).

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:23 pm

Because he was getting a jheri curl…think that’s how you spell it. You know the wet curls.

Always makes me think of Soul Glo from Coming to America. :lol: :lol:

Simple Man....

September 8th, 2011
4:23 pm

Purp, Your list is on point, but Can I let you keep Pilar and replace her with Suchita??? And there has to be room at the in for Martha Stewart and Jeri Ryan….

Button

September 8th, 2011
4:24 pm

Randyt everytime I hear/see/read the word viagra I get to relive an awful nightmare :angry:

SlimNu

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

swiss trying to gain brownie points with the Mrs…she must be near

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

Ahhhh the road, home, and unbridled passion is drawing me away. Y’all have a great weekend ;-)

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

Randy — Speaking of viagra — do you ever watch “Curb Your Enthusiasm” on HBO? If so, did you see the “juicing” episode a couple weeks ago where Larry was competing with Rosie O’Donnell over the bisexual chick & he resorted to “juicing” (viagra) to get the edge? :lol: Hilarious…

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

Please share Button! I have a guy who wants to use the Viagra on me, but I swear I may give him a heart attack and I keep declining.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:26 pm

Button ?????

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:26 pm

Simple Man, nope that’s my list of perfection.

I really hope I never get to a point where I have to use viagra. My wife is a big’ol dose of viagra everytime I see her. BOING!!!! LOL

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:27 pm

@ swiss, only two or three times I’ve shot twice without losing “Woody”, and once was with Viagra.

Purple Reign

September 8th, 2011
4:27 pm

Swiss, I saw that episode. LOL

Leggs, ok there has to be a back story there. How did you two get to the point of talking about him using viagra on you?

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:28 pm

@ Leggs…he wants to use it, or wants you to use it?

i'm swiss™

September 8th, 2011
4:29 pm

“swiss trying to gain brownie points with the Mrs…she must be near”

Slim — Nah, I’m in the office today, so the Mrs is nowhere near. We just got back from vacation, though, so it could be that the puddy-whipping she put on me hasn’t worn off just yet… :lol:

Speaking of which, what is it about vacations that makes you ladies so h0rny? And how can I replicate that at home every day without forking over all that money for travel? :lol:

kimmie

September 8th, 2011
4:29 pm

Swiss – I LOVE Curb Your Enthusiasm and I saw that episode! Hilarious! Did you see the one where he had something wrong with the passenger seat of his car and women were getting off every time they rode in it? He didn’t even see what was going on, until his buddy, the brother, pointed it out. He said “Dude, your passenger seat is the “Other Man”!!!

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:30 pm

I’ve known this man a couple of decades, PR.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:30 pm

@ swiss…the stranger the bed, the stiffer the wood.

Leggs

September 8th, 2011
4:31 pm

@Randyt ~ he wants to use it.

Willie Dynamite

September 8th, 2011
4:31 pm

Come back and you guys are hilarious

Into the Light

September 8th, 2011
4:33 pm

Classic CYE: the one where his pants had the little poof that made it look like he was constantly aroused!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 8th, 2011
4:34 pm

Leggs…let him (I mean if you are wanting it). It will tend to give him (or can give him) a little bit of a headache, but I’m sure he wants to please you. just saying… I’m still waiting for the erect!on that lasts four hours, so I can take pictures. JK

Night y’all.