Dating: Do you ask about their finances?
What would you do if the person you are dating are showing signs of financial instability? Maybe you notice their lack of frugality or their excessive spending. Or maybe you are with them when their credit card was declined.
I read somewhere about a young woman who was on a first date with a guy and his card was declined. She didn’t judge him by this incident and they are now married. If she dumped him because of this embarrassing snafu, she could have thrown away her chance of happiness!
So what is the best approach in paying attention to your date’s money management? Is it something you should inquire about? If you notice something awry, do you bring it up?
Do you (or should you) ask about a person’s financial plan when you are dating? Should you wait until you are in a relationship to bring it up or would that be too late?
How important is it to date someone who is smart about money?
Just curious: What would you do if you went on a date and their credit card was declined?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:28 pm
I thought of Clooney, but he’s such a man whore it turned me off.
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:29 pm
Denzel will forever be in the Fine Hall of Fame for me.
Celisea
September 8th, 2011
3:30 pm
How did I forgot the old usual Mr. Handsome himself…Denzel? Yeah he’s got a permanent spot. He get better with time, like fine wine
Simple Man....
September 8th, 2011
3:31 pm
Ex, Which Bishop are you refering to… Eddie L or Cash Flow Dollar????
Purple Reign
September 8th, 2011
3:33 pm
ITL, that is not a fantasy the only reason I would never hookup with Pilar is if my moonlight picnic dream woman decides to keep me for herself
Purple Reign
September 8th, 2011
3:34 pm
You ladies still know you like Billy Dee Williams. LOL
Celisea
September 8th, 2011
3:34 pm
Only if you can get with a man sporting a process…lol Billy Dee I mean.
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:36 pm
So funny you say that about Billy Dee, Purp, bc earlier I flashed on Florence from the Jeffersons having one of her Billy Dee Williams fits. Too funny!
Exiled!
September 8th, 2011
3:36 pm
Man whore!
I came home Tuesday to see Queen watching entertainment tonite. And I sat beside her snugly as it was a lil cold.
And then the anchors gush,’George Clooney and his new beau….’
We just looked at each other and laughed.
How many times over are these blondes gonna be ‘new’ on mr. Clooney’s arm?
The man must have a female’s size shoe closet full of Trojans!
Fion
September 8th, 2011
3:37 pm
@Leggs
Stop playin’. Don’t hate. I haven’t seen a women yet that didn’t like a man that she knew for a fact could fu^k any woman in the room if he wanted to.
If it ain’t true you’d all have Quasimodo topping your lists.
Celisea
September 8th, 2011
3:37 pm
Wonder if he gets his hair done at a beauty salon or barber shop…lol
My old beautician (who passed a few years back…he was a shim) use to do this dude’s hair and that dude swore he was the man. How are you the man when you get rollers and placed under a hair dryer every two weeks. He was a big burly masculine dude at that. Could barely fit in the chair let alone that big ole head under a hair dryer…lol Somebody should have made him wear panties just for wearing hair rollers/curlers…lol
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:38 pm
I used to love me some Andrew Dan Jumbo, the mixed Nigerian dude from While You Were Out and parttime model – till I found out he was busted for domestic violence.
Naw bruh, you gots ta go!
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:38 pm
I came home Tuesday to see Queen watching entertainment tonite. And I sat beside her snugly as it was a lil cold.
Ex, you old softie…. You know you love snugglin’ with Queen, admit it. You’re secretly a romantic, aren’t you???
i'm swiss™
September 8th, 2011
3:40 pm
“If it ain’t true you’d all have Quasimodo topping your lists.”
Fion — Don’t sleep on Quasimodo. That dude knows a thing or two about humps.
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:40 pm
Kimmie, you just broke my heart. I hadn’t heard that about him…and I used to love him. I think the guy from Backyard Surprise or Take Me Home to Do Your Backyard or whatever it’s called is pretty cute, too.
Exiled!
September 8th, 2011
3:41 pm
@Ladies,how about Billy Bob,the one that made u gush when he gave it good to Halle in that Monster Ball movie?
Ha?
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:42 pm
Yard Crashers.
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:43 pm
Light – Girl, I was hurt too. Just googled him because I hadn’t heard anything about him lately and, well you know TMZ was on top of it! And google has some absolutely outstanding modeling photos of him too, one shirtless!
Celisea
September 8th, 2011
3:46 pm
Always wanna take it to the nasties….smh
Exiled!
September 8th, 2011
3:46 pm
ITL!
she will say ‘come sit here’ or ‘put ur head here’ and I oblige,depending on my mood.
She’s more of a romantic than I am.
I’m a brick and mortar type of dude but
it helps I have her!
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:47 pm
It’s nobody out there I really “like” anymore that I would even waste my time fantasizing about.
Glad my ultimate “fantasy” is my reality – my boo!
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:47 pm
Sheesh, you scooped Denzel up. I forgot about him, kimmie! Excellent pick.
@Fion ~ I know right. It’s absolutely amazing. Warren Beatty thought he was the man back in the day. Clooney has everyone beat (except Hugh Hefner). But now that Hefner’s just about fossilized, Clooney has him beat.
@Ex ~ Crazy Thornton didn’t make anyone gush. If anything, we got pissed at Halle for doing that scene.
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:48 pm
I wasn’t being nasty…I couldn’t remember the name of the show. Had to google it.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
September 8th, 2011
3:48 pm
@ITL re: timeout
“How does a Frenchman hold his likker”
“By the ears”
Old joke, but at least is mercifully short.
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:49 pm
@swiss ~ you’re wrong for that hump joke!!!
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:49 pm
Well, Leggs, he did have Angelina stepping into psycho for awhile. She even had a rat with his name tattooed on her arm. I’d say she definitely married up (up from BBT) when she got with Brad.
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:49 pm
@ITL, I believe that was for ex, not you.
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:50 pm
Billy Bob looks like a dried up beige raisin. But he’s a good actor.
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:50 pm
@Randyt: That’s exactly the thought I had…..leave it to you to publish it. LOL
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:51 pm
@ITL ~ anyone who wears vials of blood around their neck of their partner is crazy.
Purple Reign
September 8th, 2011
3:51 pm
Celisea, why was the guy having curlers put in his hair?
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:52 pm
Brad Pitt is looking kinda raggedy these days, like trailer trashish. I don’t like him with the scraggly hair & beard. He looks hot, more Hollywood when he’s clean shaven and clean cut.
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:52 pm
Ooooh, my bad, Celisea and Leggs. Guess I had a guilty conscience over the ears thing that put me in timeout.
A dried up beige raisin!!!! I am in tears….
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:52 pm
@kimmie ~ I’m trying to figure out if it’s makeup or is Brad aging poorly????
i'm swiss™
September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm
Leggs — I was wondering if anybody caught that one…
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm
Speaking of Brad, anybody see his guest appearance on Californication?? Just, wow.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
September 8th, 2011
3:53 pm
Oh I saw where you were going ITL (and now thinking about weekend too between football games).
Exiled!
September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm
ITL u say some nasty!
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm
I want those clothes & shoes Angelina rocked in The Tourist!
Purple Reign
September 8th, 2011
3:54 pm
I always wondered why women were all gaga over Brad Pitt, when he started he used to look like he didn’t wear deoderant or shaved.
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:55 pm
Now, now swiss, you know that wouldn’t get passed me.
SlimNu
September 8th, 2011
3:55 pm
I’m not usually attracted to white dudes but I think the guy from 300 is sexy
Into the Light
September 8th, 2011
3:55 pm
Hello, Pot? This is Kettle calling……
Purple Reign
September 8th, 2011
3:56 pm
Zoe Saldana
Exiled!
September 8th, 2011
3:56 pm
Legs, why?
It was too real?
I remember Larry King asking her on his show,’was that acting?’
I will give it to them,that was good acting!
but I hate the beyeootch!
kimmie
September 8th, 2011
3:56 pm
Leggs – I don’t know, but whatever it’s not looking good. If it’s poor aging he needs to hit up one of those plastic surgeons and a good stylist in Beverly Hills. He got the money!
Button
September 8th, 2011
3:57 pm
My fantasy man hands down is CNN’s finest Wolf Blitzer and he can dougie too!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
September 8th, 2011
3:58 pm
@ SlimNu I’m not into dudes period (although would triple one’s chancing of getting a date on Saturday nights in Midtown I guess), but I was thinking while reading this before your post about the guy in 300 and how he doesn’t look near as ‘manly’ in some of the movies he is in lately. I didn’t realize it was the same guy until my daughter told me.
Leggs
September 8th, 2011
3:58 pm
I suppose it was too real and the fact that it was Billy Bob Thornton. For her to be nominated for that role I thought was a slap in the face when she has done much better acting. Her crack addict self in Jungle Fever was some fine acting.
Celisea
September 8th, 2011
3:58 pm
ITL – My statement wasn’t in reference to you…Billy Bob Thornton is just nasty…any reference to him would be taking it to the nasties.
When I mention fantasy, please believe I don’t spend one second hoping or wishing over someone that does not know I exist
Not that kind of fantasy.
Brad has lost his appeal…IMO