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Wanted: Housewife in Atlanta

A friend of mine just got engaged and her fiance asked her to work on ending her career. She loves him very much but said that she is having a hard time wrapping her mind around the concept of housewife.

She fears her existence will become about shopping and domestic work. Clearly her idea of housewife is a bit distorted. I wondered why being a housewife seems so unappealing to women today?

Although my mother was a career woman, she seemed to enjoy caring for the family and my Dad. The thought of being a stay at home Mom or housewife sounds pretty awesome to me, personally. I believe there can be joy found in having a career or being a housewife.

What do you think of the idea of a woman leaving her career to please her husband? Is it unfair for men to want a housewife?

Guys, would you ever ask or want your wife to leave her job or career? What if she really enjoyed working?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
7:42 am

I would much prefer a potential spouse work two jobs so I could stay home ;-)

(until about two days of daytime television had driven me batty…daytime tv turns one’s mind to mush).

Lions and Tigers and Bears.

September 7th, 2011
8:03 am

On Topic: At least be in agreement before the marriage.

Back to me: Do you guys believe in love at first sight…lord it has taken me forever to break the spell of my ex and even notice another man….anywhoo…while leaving a store last week, this man walks up to me, extends his hand and introduces himself…dorky me was trying to get my flip flop on straight…when I looked up and saw the most beautiful human with big (as in huge) hands. I was speechless…he was chocolate and fine. I think if it had been anyone else it would have been just a little creepy. He gave me his card while I fumbled and couldnt find mine. before I knew it the pleasentries were over and he was off. I went home and asked God if I could have him. His presence was truly a gift,a sign that I am ready to move on! Btw – No I have not called him..yet!

CoolShadow

September 7th, 2011
8:11 am

Guys, would you ever ask or want your wife to leave her job or career? What if she really enjoyed working?

That would be a joint decision, provided that 1) their BOTH on board with that decision 2) the husband has the financial resources to still cover his family’s financial responsibilities and 3) they’re BOTH willing to make those kind of sacrifices if her departure from the workforce puts a serious dent in their income. I dated someone a long time ago who I thought might make that kind of decision unilaterally and still demand to maintain a certain lifestyle without any thought to the financial implications. Fortunately, that relationship ran its course…

Otherwise, I’d be curious to know what their family earning ratio is (i.e., 50% him/50% her, 60/40, etc.) and if she’s the superior breadwinner I’m wondering if that’s really about a control issue. Key to having control of anything is having economic control of the situation.

Kimmy

September 7th, 2011
8:31 am

I think it is wonderful to have the option (if it is financially possible) to be able to be home. The first year after having a child would be nice, but I doubt that I would want to stay home forever. Once the kids are older there is nothing to do all day. I would probably throw myself into another activity like charity work so I doubt I would be home anyway given the option. I think I just like the idea that me and my spouse are a team. We build, save, and grow together. I like knowing I am contributing to our home, wealth, and retirement plan.

karin

September 7th, 2011
8:42 am

Be careful, SOME men will think they have all the control if you are not making your own money.

Tom

September 7th, 2011
8:48 am

My wife can’t wait to get to stay home and raise kids. She’s a big advocate of home schooling our future children; (I’m not in favor of home school.)

This issue is very delicate. As a man, I want a woman who will work to help provide her part at least for a little bit. But when women are so focused on their career to the point where they don’t care about anything else, it becomes a problem. (This is a result of the women’s lib movement.)

I agree with the article, the view of a housewife is a bit unrealistic. My wife and I don’t have the means to live like the women on these shows. But you see a lot of these housewife “types” not paying attention to their kids, having babysitters raise them, and off gallivanting around town. It makes me sick to go near buckhead anymore. These women are supposed to be women, not some wannabe 23 yr old slut.

This is why the younger generation is in big trouble. Young girls see their mom wearing slutty clothing and acting inappropriately.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
8:50 am

On Topic:

In my marriage, my wife stayed home for both of our first two children. My income grew enough to take care of the loss of hers. When she returned to teaching after our third child, my income seemed to fall (was in sales) to the point where the combined income was similar. Go figure.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
8:58 am

Good morning,

Wow Randyt, I didn’t realize you had kids.

Whatever works for the both as a couple. I wouldn’t be opposed to it. I think it’s nice for kids to see mom when they leave for school and have mom at home when they returned. Honestly had I been “priviledged” enough to have that opportunity I would have taken it. Don’t get me wrong this “career” thing ain’t been all bad but IMO and mainly for the sake of the kids I would do it.

My kid use to be tickled pink on the days she could get off the church van at home rather than daycare. Snack ready, dinner cooking, the house warm and cozy (if cold) oooor, as soon as she got off the van on my days off we could head out early and do whatever the evening called for.

Yeah I would do it for my kid(s)’ sake more than anything.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
9:00 am

Good morning, everyone!

@Tom ~ you need to clarify your statement and say “some young girls….”

I have a young child and there’s nothing slutty about my attire!

I don’t “think” I would mind being a stay at home mom, but the financial resources must be in place where one paycheck can cover household expenses, as well as living expenses. Personally, a two-family paycheck simply may/should afford a better life. I wouldn’t want to simply cook, clean, watch the children. I would still have to have my own identity and my own outside interests. Not only that, I need to control my own life and be free to do things I want to do without the constant permission of my working husband because he has all the money.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
9:00 am

You okay Tom?

Augusta

September 7th, 2011
9:01 am

IN A HEARTBEAT!!!!! I would LOVE to stay home with the kids. I would LOVE an empty house when everyone leaves for the day…..I would to set my own schedule, and NOT have to sit in traffic, put up with a horrible boss, make minimal pay. No, if Mr. Right came along right now and said, Baby you never have to work a day in your life,,,,,,Oh, I’d quit my job right then and there.

Now, all this is provided HE makes a ton of money, and we won’t struggle!!!!!

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
9:02 am

Now, given I ain’t no spring chicken but still in my child bearing years :) ….if a dude wanted me to bear a child I would but I’d have to be awfully in love and smitten. Yeah it takes a lot to get me there…I mean he’s gotta be allllllllllllllllllllll that and then some. No, seriously I would but at this age and stage and point in my life those are the only circumstances I would bear his child…staying home :mrgreen:

Tom

September 7th, 2011
9:07 am

I apologize for offending anyone.

oneofeach4me

September 7th, 2011
9:14 am

When my daughter was born, her father was still in school so I went right back to work 6 weeks PP. Fast forward 5 years later when my son was born, the degree he got allowed me to stay at home with my son for the first 6 months. At 6 months I eased back into the work force working as a part time contractor. I really loved staying home with the kids, but after a while something was missing. Oh… I know… my independence. My identity. So I am with Leggs on this one… I can do it, as long as I can still have something for me. I don’t want to ask permission to get a mani/pedi when I want one. And being that I don’t just take without asking.. well… I need my own money.

It’s cool to live the domestic life, but I think that working part time or having your own small little business at the same time is even better. It was the best of both worlds for me. I sure wish I could do it now, but due to the economy, I am now the sole bread winner. Go figure.

Into the Light

September 7th, 2011
9:20 am

Morning, all.

If it was the best choice for our family, I’d be all for it. But, like Leggs and oneofeach4me said, it would be critical to find a way to maintain my identity and independance.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
9:20 am

@ Celisea…yeah, I have three wonderful kids, any one of which I could/would walk out in front of a truck for without batting an eye. As crappy as my marriage was, without her, I wouldn’t have them and I never forget that. All things happen for a purpose. Wait long enough and you WILL see the fingerprints on the glass.

MzNewy

September 7th, 2011
9:23 am

I can’t do it. I love the balance that I have going on. I love my kids, husband and family time but I also love my career. No one loses out. I don’t work overtime, I am at my sons events, spend adequate time with all family (even extended) and we have the means to save. We chose to live off one paycheck and this enables us to do this. When I was laid off two years ago, I stayed home for 6 months, took my time finding the right opportunity. I was bored to tears after the 3rd month and began aggressively looking for a job. It takes a special woman to be a fulltime housewife.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
9:25 am

Sidebar with ITL, CMR is not getting a lot of love in the GA blogs right now. Ouch. Four years ago, maybe one post in ten wanted him fired and nine supported him. Now it is reversed. Like the last years of Phil Fulmer.

SlimUno

September 7th, 2011
9:26 am

Even though the short-term thought of not HAVING to get up everyday to go to a job sounds nice at first, I think it would get old quick. I would not want to depend on my spouse giving me an allowance based on what he felt I should have and how I should spend it. I would not desire to have someone else have that much control over me. The only time I’ve not worked was when I was laid off for 13months and it was the pits for me. I couldn’t do what I wanted, had to lean on family & friends and struggled with my independence and self-worth at the time. Aint but so much cleaning and cooking I can do w/o losing my mind. If it was temporary, say after having a kid, then I could be okay w/that but I’d want to get back to work eventually

Amia

September 7th, 2011
9:26 am

I would love to hear from more men on this subject. How do they feel about a housewife? I can imagine being there for my children and having the house together for my family. I cannot imagine doing that long term though. My mom took off the first few years of me and my brother when we babies/toddlers then went back to work. I can imagine doing that.

george

September 7th, 2011
9:29 am

if a woman, or a man, gets little or no emotional or economic satisfaction from having a career, then if their spouse wants a stay at home mate it might make sense. i would only have considered it if my spouse provided me with no strings attached the equivalent of 30% of my previous earnings for savings and investment purposes and had 10x earnings in life insurance and comprehensive disability insurance to protect our family income would i consider it. i cannot imagine my wife or either of my daughters in law doing it because they spent years developing their medical skills and as researchers contribute so much to society. i also would not like to lose women in politics because they stayed at home. golda meir, margaret thatcher, sandra day-oconnor, liddy dole, nancy pelosi, sarah palin, nikki haley, michelle bachmann all contribute to our nation as do the millions of married teachers, health care workers etc. who make this country what it is.

MzNewy

September 7th, 2011
9:31 am

Good morning everyone!

My manners slipped earlier…oops…

Hey Slim *waving*

Work and life has had me bogged down but I missed you guys.

Raqi

September 7th, 2011
9:31 am

“Getting permission” from the marido is a non-issue for me. That’s not how it is. I am a grown woman. However planning my want-to-do’s around the needs of the babies is where the happenings are.

Being a “real” housewife measures far above being a “Real Housewife of (?????)”. The two are not to even be compared. What I do is far more rewarding. And it’s not for everyone that’s for sure. The couple has to be very trusting of the each other.

Number one rule to being a “real and productive” housewife is to not entertain daily chat rooms, (LOL) because I found it to be a grave distraction. Fun while it lasted but I cannot deny that it took me away from more important things that I should have been doing.

Yall be good. :wink:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

September 7th, 2011
9:35 am

@The “independent” ladies

Do you think your husband would go out and buy a car without discussing it with you?

Do you think your husband would let a bill not get paid?

I mean, this whole notion of “independence” is silly in the way y’all are mentioning it. You’re married, you no longer have any indepedence (secret: neither does he).

Stop with feeling like you are in some way lessened by asking someone for anything, least of all your husband.

If dude would make you feel like you’re some kind of burden, then you prolly should have done your due diligence. Otherwise, marriage is about the marriage, when it becomes about the individual over the marriage – it’s done already.

Reio

September 7th, 2011
9:38 am

Wonder why he waited till after the marriage proposal to spring this on her? She should call the wedding off, if she wants to be happy, cause even if he relents and gives up on this idea, over time, it will come up again for sure. Can’t trust this guy.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
9:38 am

Hello, Ms. Raqi! How are you doing? You have been missed. Hope all is well with you and your family.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
9:40 am

@ Amia, there are good and bad aspects of both scenarios. I absolutely do think that children receive more nurturing from a stay at home mom vs. a daycare center. However, anyone who has actively been involved with children knows that it is a 28-30 hour a day job with little or no letup. (28 hours because you never get it all done in 24).

That said, I think the woman’s self esteem in some instances suffers greatly…thus the term “Desperate Housewives”. When and if the mom allows herself to be drawn into the Montels, the Jerry Springer, and other daytime TV freak shows, it (I truly believe) begins to have an impact on the psyche of the woman. The times I have stayed home (excess vacation days etc.) I was climbing the walls after I realized that I had already heard the same news or sports story 4 or 5 times. It turns one’s mind to mush. It is easy then for women to begin the early germination of “am I happy?” questions, and those questions WILL manifest themselves in the lady’s relationships, maritally and as a mother.

The lady is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t…unless she has the financial ability to become a typical Dunwoody tennis maven while the Nanny raises her kids and sleeps with her husband.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
9:42 am

I would love to be a stay at home now. Her Senior year, no bus transportation is proving to be a struggle to get her home from school every day. It would be lovely if I was home during this last year.

oneofeach4me

September 7th, 2011
9:44 am

@Dan ~ I agree. It’s not necessarily and independence thing for me, or maybe it is, I don’t know. I just know that I like having a little money on the side for myself, just as he does.

And FYI, I have always been the one to pay the bills even when he was the sole provider. To me, buying a car is an investment so it should be discussed as a couple. But my mani/pedi, new dress or heels is not a necessity, it is a desire for me. That’s all. Nothing against the relationship nor the man. Just my personal preference.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
9:44 am

Randyt – I feel you on loving the kids. I’d walk through fire with gasoline drawers on for mine :)

I don’t really get the “need a distraction” if one stayed home. Wouldn’t tending the kids and home be distraction enough? IMO anything can be treated like a business. Run the household like any business. That in and of itself is a handful. Bills, chores aligned, extracirricular for the kids, cooking, etc. Seriously, if it’s account put the bills on a ledger and do it all, ins outs (incoming monies, expenditures,etc). You want to take pole dancing class while the kids are gone, heck do that too. Those are just my thoughts though :)

Into the Light

September 7th, 2011
9:46 am

Sidebar with Randyt: I love CMR, and think he’s a class act all the way. Unfortunately, class doesn’t win ball games. I think the perception among a majority of the Bulldog nation is that he doesn’t have the passion and drive necessary to instill the same in his players and win ball games. Then, too, folks wonder how it is that Bobo is still there calling plays. You and I both know, it’s quick topple from the pedastal if you post a losing record and don’t take the (public) steps necessary to fix it.

Reio

September 7th, 2011
9:46 am

Leggs – Sounds like Raqi( whoever she is ) is gone for good.

SlimUno

September 7th, 2011
9:47 am

MzNewy – waving back ;)

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
9:47 am

@Randyt ~ main reason I stopped watching the 11:00 news. It’s the same news at 6:00 am. Give or take a killing or two.

Eric

September 7th, 2011
9:48 am

Based on my upbringing and personal preference, I would want my wife to have a career and life outside the home. However, it should be both our decision, not just mine.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

September 7th, 2011
9:49 am

@one

You said “.. as long as I can still have something for me. I don’t want to ask permission to get a mani/pedi when I want one.”

If you’ve married a man that cares for you in anyway, your happiness is a important to him as his own (in some cases, moreso). So why would you feel any kinda way (reading your use of ‘permission’ as evidence of an unequal relationship) about saying “I want to go get a mani/pedi”.

That’s you projecting right there.

CoolShadow

September 7th, 2011
9:49 am

@Amia- I’d be cool with it just as long as she is. If she’s willing to sacrifice her earning potential, lifestyle and “independence” for the sake of raising the children, then it’s all good. I have my doubts about that if your household income isn’t in the top 10-15% of wage earners. Being a housewife used to be somewhat a given, now it’s a luxury or a major sacrifice for most families.

Into the Light

September 7th, 2011
9:51 am

@Dan: Independance is not just about money; it’s about maintaining an identity as a person, not just being known as Dan’s wife and/or little Johnny’s mom.

UGA 1999

September 7th, 2011
9:52 am

By far the most disgusting show on television.

Reio

September 7th, 2011
9:52 am

Into the Light – UGA is done. South Carolina will wipe them out as well. Drive west 0n I-20 to my home state. Alabama or Auburn would welcome angry Georgia fans. We win championships here. Stole Cam from you guys too.

UGA 1999

September 7th, 2011
9:56 am

Reio….you mean you bought Cam from us?

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
9:57 am

Several posters have hit upon another major topic…control issues. As one dates women who have been divorced and independent, women begin to take control issues, real or imagined, very seriously. I trip across these all the time in my dating arena. Women have been burned by men who controlled them and they damn sure aren’t going back. It is a very DELICATE subject.

Reio

September 7th, 2011
9:58 am

UGA 1999 – Perhaps UGA should do a little buying as well.

Raqi

September 7th, 2011
10:01 am

Want to get a mani/pedi or whatever other extracurricular activity as a non-working spouse? Have a personal weekly/monthly spending allowance cut out from the household finances and then just agree to what Saturday or Sunday he/she will be caring for the kiddies alone while you are away. LOL

Hello Leggs. All is splendid. Waiting for my equal half to come so we can do double duty pediatrician appointments that’s all. Busy, busy, busy.

oneofeach4me

September 7th, 2011
10:01 am

@Dan ~ Into said it better than I could. He would want be to have the mani/pedi, of course he would. IT’s in MY mind. Let me put it this way, hypothetically. He makes the money and it goes into a joint account. He wants to go out for lunch, or buy a shirt, or get a haircut, he doesn’t have to say anything because in his mind… he makes the money so he should be able to go buy himself those small things without “asking permission” or discussing it first. On the other hand, if it’s me, I would feel the need to just tell him, or discuss it, or say “I am gonna go get a mani/pedi, it’s about 50 bucks”. I just want to do it on my own, just as he would. That’s all. It has no bearing on the equality or the quality of the relationship.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
10:01 am

HiYas!

i was able to work from home when my kids were young. so there was the benefit of my constant presence along with a steady (much needed) income.

s/o and i have agreed that i’ll be staying home working some income streams that we’re building. he will benefit by having a full-time, fastidious housekeeper, and i will be relieved of the daily traffic grind. woohoo!!!

i like mznewy’s 9:23. i seriously doubt i could stay home just for the sake of staying home. i have to have a fulfilling variety on my plate. blame it on my ADD. even if i didn’t work and allowed my hubs to be the sole financial provider, i’d absolutely have to fill my days with more than housework and volunteering. that could get a gal into some serious trouble. LOL.

Reio

September 7th, 2011
10:08 am

My wife And i have joint accounts. 95% of my earnings, that are spent, gets spent by her. 100% of her earnings that are spent, gets spent by her. So I know this, she knows this, and there is no problem. My earnings are theirs( her & kids) anyway. Just how I see it. Bills are paid, they are happy and provided for. I’m good.

abc

September 7th, 2011
10:09 am

I personally don’t care a bit if my wife contributes to household income or not. My interest is in that she gets to do what she wants to do. ‘Course, there’s no kids involved. If we had babies, I’d want her at home taking care of them.

If a wife wants to work, then fine, whether I really like it or not. For both of us, whatever the job is needs to NOT intrude into our personal lives, period. Our lives are much more important than some stupid job.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
10:10 am

Glad to hear it, Raqi. Much love!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
10:18 am

Reio has a good point. When I was married, my check went into the joint checking account and I never saw it again. I never had any money of my own until I got a divorce frankly (the $43 left after child support, house payments on the house I was kicked out of, and rent for my one BR weekly suite that the hooker lived in before me)…but I was free!!! What was mine was ours, what was hers was hers.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
10:20 am

My dad’s brother (Lord rest their souls) started his business in his forties and was a self-made millionaire by the time he was in his sixties. His wife stayed home their entire marriage. She was told she couldn’t have kids so she started taking kids into their home. She was blessed with their first child at 41 but was use to being home and in full swing of being a housewife.

He paid her a weekly salary but she NEVER spent the money. I kid you not, she had a list of names….kids left to be raised by grandparents or living with aunts and uncles, kids with only a single parent and from her list, she would use her weekly salary to buy the things the kids needed. This is all I ever knew about her. She would NEVER take the money he gave her and buy something for herself. He bought her several cars, once a benz and a rolls royce in which she rode in a few times but never drove…lol She was just like that. Even then she would ride in the back seat while my uncle drove and one of their kids rode up front. Very quiet lady very humble lady. He passed in 2008 and she’s 85. Her daughter still does the list now in her stead. For EVERY, yes every kid at church not living in a two parent home, their name is listed. For Christmas the daughter carries the tradition on. My kid is on the list.

Ya’ll can imagine from the 70s until now, the list has grown significantly. Like I said, her daughter carries on what’s now a tradition…the good will her mother started and intended. She don’t do and buy the entire year but EVERY Christmas, there’s a gift for every child on the list.

I remember once he was laughing and talking about how my aunt was such a good woman. He mentioned he didn’t have any cash on him at the breakfast table one Sunday and she said to him, will this do until you can get to the bank….handing him two grand. I think he was about 70ish at that time. He just went on and on and on about how he couln’t have done any better with any one other than her as his wife. I think they were married about 63 years before he passed. She NEVER worked…from what I hear he initially told her that’s what it was going to be. Not sure if she was opposed but she spent all her years doing service to other with the hand she was dealt (and not a bad one at that)….just thinking back over the years.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

September 7th, 2011
10:23 am

@Into

Who says being married made you less than “Into”? You’re “Into”, “[not] Dan’s wife” (married, gotta throw that in), and Jimmy’s mom.

Adding a responsibility doesn’t change who you are as a person, other than adding an additional title.

I didn’t stop being me, just because I got married, but I realized that having additional responsibilities means I’d have to grow into them.

@One – see above

@Randy – 90% of this “control” issue is people absorbing jaundiced information from external sources. Chicks that ain’t never, telling someone that has how it should or shoudn’t be done.

Of course her perenially single homegirl is going to say what she would or wouldn’t take; and that “he’s trying to control [you]” – she’s single. She doesn’t know the relief of not having to worry about every minute detail of everything in life. And that, yes, sometimes that means giving someone else control over a facet of your life and trusting them to deal with it – or marriage.

Bitter chicks infect happy women with foolishness all the time. Turning mountains into molehills so their not lonely alone.

Reio

September 7th, 2011
10:25 am

Randyt – seems like whhat’s mine is her’s, & what’s her’s is her’s. But I’m still head of the family, so it doesn’t matter.

Safensound

September 7th, 2011
10:27 am

I would have to agree w/Reio about why ask that question after she accepted his proposal? Unless she of course mentioned the subject just in passing and perhaps he thought it was a good idea, idk, but since he asked, I hope your friend can live with that decision with no regrets.

abc

September 7th, 2011
10:28 am

Of course what’s mine is ours and what’s hers is hers. That’s a man’s role.

DebDoes

September 7th, 2011
10:28 am

There was a time in my life that I would have shunned such a prop. Now I enjoy my time at home and working occasionally. I do miss having lunch out and drinks with coworkers. Oh, and a paycheck is nice too.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
10:35 am

Dan – Not every woman that passes an opinion or oppose is bitter. She can even be wrong in her opposition but it doesn’t make her bitter. Sometimes maybe and sometime…not.

Be mindful in your assumptions. Folks not agreeing ain’t all the time about them and what’s NOT going on. Sometimes it’s just their opinion…good bad or indifferent. But to not agree with a decision you made or made with a mate is automatically bitter??? Get out of here.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
10:38 am

I go hit on a couple of times with my kid yesterday and she was like…ooooh look at mommie pulling ‘em.

I said that to say sometimes folks not “having” someone is sometimes a result of taking a pass rather than the inability to land someone. Trust me when I say opportunities happens EVERY DAY :)

Folks kill me getting mate’d up and assume every one not is because they can’t. Assumptions assumptions….

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
10:39 am

Its all good. When it comes to money, I discovered many years ago that no matter how much I make, it isn’t enough…and no matter how little I make, I find a way to get by. Frankly, with the possible exception of my convertible, few toys I ever thought would absolutely “complete” me, were even on my radar screen after a few months.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 7th, 2011
10:43 am

@ Celisea, seriously agree. Being alone in the ATL is a choice, not a banishment. Now what one can attract may or may not be at the standard one would like…so a little reality needs to enter the equation.

Naturallyk

September 7th, 2011
10:44 am

I enjoy security and freedom. I believe I could find that as a housewife. Most of my friends would love to quit their jobs and devote their time to their families and/or community/volunteer work. I don’t think I would ever be more bored than I get when I’m working. I wish this was an option for my family but it is not.

JT

September 7th, 2011
10:44 am

My mom was a SAHM, so I don’t think there is anything wrong with being a housewife, I just think there should be a discussion about it BEFORE marriage. The man shouldn’t just assume the woman will give up her job once the kids come along because that’s what his mom did.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
10:45 am

Randyt – Now what one can attract may or may not be at the standard one would like…so a little reality needs to enter the equation.

LOL…..You ain’t never lied.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
10:47 am

One of those dudes hitting on me was driving a CSX truck…I should have leaned a little towards him…lol Give me a hardworking railroad man any day. If I didn’t have the kid with me I might have talked a bit more :)

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
10:54 am

@Celisea ~ the first 3 letters in Assumptions sums up the person very well. I know that which you speak of (lol)…

Also, love what the wife stood for with her kind heart and humble soul. That was a nice read.

@Randyt ~ my ex always lamented about how once he put money into our joint account he never had any money left. Guess it didn’t matter to him he put in less than me and the bills got paid. I got tired of it and had him open his own account.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
10:54 am

no matter how much I make, it isn’t enough…and no matter how little I make, I find a way to get by.
luv this ^

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
10:56 am

Leggs – Exactly!

I know the story was long but I just thought about that in relation to today’s topic. Yes she is still, a very kind humble soul.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

September 7th, 2011
10:57 am

@Cel

Yes – bitter.

What standing, right, or place does anyone outside my relationship have to offer advice, opinion, or comment?

Men and married women know better.

It’s the forever single (and bitter about it) chick that would even offer advice beyond “talk to your man about it”.

i'm swiss™

September 7th, 2011
10:58 am

Howdy, folks. Hope everybody’s doing well.

Quick, completely off-topic announcement: Calling all PHP software developers — If you’re looking for a gig, send me your resume. Our sister company is in a hiring frenzy, particularly for developers. Symphony experience is a plus. Great benefits & hands-down the best work environment you’ll ever find.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
11:00 am

Dan – Men and married women know better.

Please honey, it ain’t been but a minute okay. Good Lord. Right or wrong in offering advice is neither here nor there…it does not make her bitter.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
11:15 am

Good morning!

My wife staying at home? No, I’m not having that coz she stops being interesting,gets fat and I have to look at her with half closed eyes.

She needs to be working and keep up with me.

I can’t do a slouch.

And don’t tell me she will be busy at home..not much coking u can do 24/7, 6 days a week, all day!

These housewives got too much time to do extra curricula activities,if they want too.

No,won’t have it.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
11:17 am

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
11:17 am

I wouldn’t care if she worked or didn’t, that is her choice. My wife wanted to keep her job at first now she states that she is not working pass the New Year…..shrugs

markie mark

September 7th, 2011
11:18 am

as the product of a single household because my father died suddenly when I was 5…not only no, dont quit your job, but hell no. My mother was suddenly thrown into a workforce with no up to date skills in 1965 after having left it in 1955 to marry my father. She actually quit law school to marry my father, who was also a lawyer. She was working in my fathers law firm and going to school when she quit to be a stay at home mom. There are no guarantees in life but what skills you have and your ability to use them as needed. For this reason, especially in this day and age, I would not have a potential spouse leave her job…..

oneofeach4me

September 7th, 2011
11:22 am

@Dan ~ I think what Celisea was saying to begin with is that just because someone may have a different view than yours, that person being the woman, doesn’t automatically make her bitter about domestic life or any part of marriage. I am not bitter myself, nor a control freak, nor a gold digger. I just prefer to have a little money of my own to do little things for MYSELF. That man working and helping me with the house and the kids is enough “taking care” that I need. There are things I want to do for me. It goes back to like what Randy is saying. Me personally, as the wife, could and would never be “okay” with him making all the money, giving it all to me, and then having none for himself. In MY world that is not how relationships work for me. But to each their own, if allowances and the such work for you and your wife (or any other couple for that matter) then so be it. As long as it makes you both happy that is all that matters.

oneofeach4me

September 7th, 2011
11:24 am

*is all the “taking care” I need rather! lol

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
11:28 am

once upon a time when the munchkins were just a couple of little chunkers, i could have easily devoted every waking minute to caring for them, a spouse, a household, and myself. but our kiddies are grown now. we’re about to have four in college between us. so my ‘at home’ time will not be about constant housekeeping but about producing (financially), just as he does. and with him working from home quite often we are both truly looking forward to the arrangement.

I have to look at her with half closed eyes
i just hate you sometimes! :lol:

hola reign!

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
11:31 am

CanalZone how are you?!

Celisea send me your number so I can call and breathe real heavy then hang up. LOL

Allowances? What’s that? Happy I don’t deal with that kind of stuff. If I have it she has it. If she has it I have it…it’s all one pot..salary, savings, investments and all. I know that may or may not be a foreign concept for some but it works for us. We trust each other, end of story.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
11:35 am

Purple – You’re silly…lol

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
11:45 am

Raqi – So wonderful to read you!! You are very much missed!! Hope all is well with hubby and the little ones!

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
11:58 am

PR…can you see me?

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
12:00 pm

On Topic – First, let me say I have a problem with Wise’s friends’ situation, simply because this guy’s position on a wife staying at home should not have been a shock if they are truly in sync to the point of planning a future with each other. This is the stuff you find out about when you are getting to know a person. It’s just that simple.

I watched a special on Gloria Steinham a few weeks ago and it was very eye opening. There are so many misconceptions about the womens lib movement. I wish everyone could see it. I hate when men use the movement to excuse their own issues with relationships.

I think every couple should do what works for them. I think it’s beautiful when a couple is able to afford to have a parent, not necessarily the mom, to stay at home for a few years while the kids are babies. So many women would love to stay home until the child is ready for school, or for at least a year or 2 but can’t.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:01 pm

Hey my last comment says “awaiting moderation”

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:02 pm

Celisea, yes I can see you. Do you feel me watching you?:)

Celisea, I am just going to call you while im out trail running or working. You should be able to hear a lot of heavy breathing and some grunting. LOL

Hey Raqi!

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:03 pm

This blog is picky

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:04 pm

it did not like the word panting

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
12:05 pm

PR – I asked because a couple of mine says “awaiting moderation” as well. I requested though to have my comments removed :)

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:08 pm

Celisea, I just changed my email address and viola my posts are showing up again. I’m a renegade!

Ok next after I get through calling you and breathing heavy I am going to send you a picture of my tractor…lol

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
12:10 pm

Ummm, okay then…send to junkmail@yahoo.com :)

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
12:11 pm

My grandmother was a SAHM and my mother was one for awhile & went back to teaching when we got halfway thru elementary. Even though both were pretty traditional, they still maintained an element of independence about themselves. My grandmother never worked outside the home, but always found a way to make a little money of her own. It came in handy many times, even though my grandfather was an excellent provider.

My mom used to live by the saying “God bless the child that’s got his own.” Now the men can argue about that until they are blue in the face, but it’s something I firmly believe in. In no way is it a threat to my relationship with my husband either.

It’s not just the money factor either. If a woman has a passion about something other than home & family, she should be free to pursue it.

Anyone, husband or wife, that puts a job before their family in such a way that it jeapordizes it, has misplaced priorities.

Deeva4Life

September 7th, 2011
12:11 pm

At the end of the day, it’s really what works for the couple. The basis of the entire set-up is trust and respect. If I trust that my man will provide for me (to the best of his ability) and not make me feel like a piece of property simply because he’s the only one working, then he can know I respect him enough not to be frivilous or lazy simply because he’s the only one working. Surely during our time of dating he would already know that I am capable of taking care of myself, but I’m not so “independent” that I can’t allow him to do that for me. Having the option of being a “wife in the house” (housewife) would be an honor for me. But that’s me…not necessarily everybody.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:12 pm

Junkmail as in “junk”? lol you have an email set up for my “junk” are you going to reply with a pic send it to junkinthetrunk@yahoo.com :)

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
12:14 pm

Noooo silly, I was going along with your tractor fun :mrgreen:

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
12:14 pm

‘God bless the child that’s got his’

What does that mean Kimmie?

yes!,lost in translation sorry.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:17 pm

Ohhhh okay but my tractor is big and can do a lot of plowing. LOL Yes I talking about the tractor and not a sexual innuendo.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
12:17 pm

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
12:19 pm

U need a fan Leggs?

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
12:24 pm

Exiled – Billie Holiday used to sing this song called God Bless the Child:

Them that’s got shall get
Them that’s not shall lose
So the Bible says and it’s still news
Mama may have, Papa may have
But God bless the child that’s got his own
That’s got his own.

Yes the strong get more
While the weak ones fade
Empty pockets don’t ever make the grade
Mama may have, Papa may have
But God bless the child that’s got his own

…..last verse

He just worry bout nothin’
Cause he’s got his own.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
12:25 pm

My sister was a SAHM and she liked it until they had disagreements and he would throw being the sole provider up in her face. Yeah, she had a problem with that.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:28 pm

Marriage is a risk within itse;f, either you are all in or all out there is no partial. If a man or woman of which whom is the only income provider throws that in your face. I suggest you start charging him/her for the work that you do around the house etc. Thing about living on the farm is that there is always work to be done or help needed so nobody is really a “stay at home” person. By this time next month there will be snow on the ground…so grab a shovel LOL

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
12:30 pm

No, I don’t Ex. I don’t get rattled easily. Don’t fret. I’m cool as a cucumber. I was saying “oh boy” for you asking what “God bless the child that has his own” mean. The sentence itself is self-explanatory.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
12:30 pm

Thnx Kimmie!

I had to read that and go back to read ur original post in context.

So having said that,would u be okay with taking an allowance from hubby if it came to one of u having to stay at home to make sure the kids are str8 or y’all(u and hubby) believe in the family but that u both must contribute financially?

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
12:31 pm

PR – They’re divorced.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
12:33 pm

U wldnt be a a Teacher Leggs wld u?

The sentence is not self explanatory unless if u understand it.

Kimmie did a good job being patient with my ignorant self

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:35 pm

Celisea, they should be. Love is not controlling.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
12:35 pm

I’m a teacher on many levels, Ex! Now, do I get paid to teach, that’s another story.

If you understand English, you should understand the sentence.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
12:39 pm

I don’t understand English at ur level maybe

Thought about it?

Possibly?

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
12:40 pm

Leggs, ouch. LOL

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
12:45 pm

I don’t believe that, Ex. You’re a smart man. If you can understand all that engineering/accounting crap, you should be able to decipher the meaning of the saying. Again, the operative word is “should.” I guess I stand corrected. Cool!

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
12:47 pm

Exiled – Even though it would be the same in theory I guess, I hate the word allowance, even in the text of money you give to kids. My thought process is that everyone contributes in their own way to the household, even the kids with chores and they sometimes get a little money from us since they cannot make money other ways. They learn how to save for the little things they want.

With that being said, I would love to be able to be a SAHM. Hubby would not have a problem with me, the person that I am, doing it if he could easily afford it. I say “the person that I am” because I have other hobbies and interests I could pursue at home. This would keep me the interesting, intellectually curious, creative person that I am now that holds my husbands’ interest. My husband likes smart, creative women that can hold an interesting conversation. All positives that are bound to rub off on the children too.

To give you an example of how that little side money my grandmother had came in handy – there were times my mother came home from college on Xmas or spring break and granddad would get a little onry and say she might not be able to go back cause he was tired of writing those expensive college checks! My mom would cry and worry. Grandmama would pull her to the side & tell her not to worry and that she’d be sure she got the money to go back and finish school!

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
12:52 pm

I understand the literal meaning,I actually did English Literature at my ‘A’ studies.

In my mind tho,I was thinking there was some connotative meaning to the words.

(thinking in Shona while reading an English proverb/saying etc)

That’s what got me mixed up

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
12:57 pm

kimmie i’m cracking up at your post. first part had me saying “oh i can surely get paid to stay at home. call it whateva you wish!” then i read this —-> I would love to be able to be a SAHM. Hubby would not have a problem with me. LMAO.

reign, your homestead sounds like my abuela’s. she HATED that i never did my fair share of manual labor. oh well.

granddad would get a little onry
me-lo should be scratching his head again right about …… now!

SexyCool

September 7th, 2011
1:00 pm

I wouldn’t mind having the opportunity to focus on my projects/efforts to produce another stream of income and my creative projects that I have going on when I’m off the plantation.

Hate I missed Rock, because I really miss Rock.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
1:08 pm

@Ex ~ Simple solution = don’t do that again.

@czB ~ don’t get him riled again (lol)…

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
1:13 pm

leggs, i’m gonna poke him and dip. let you have all the fun. :)

time to get out in search of sustenance. this weather calls for wendy’s chili and baked potato.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
1:16 pm

I had southwestern tortilla soup from the cafe…it was delish!

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
1:23 pm

I’m having a salad with sliced turkey. I’m still hungry.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
1:31 pm

I had homemade venison pizza.

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
1:43 pm

I wouldn’t mind having the opportunity to focus on my projects/efforts to produce another stream of income and my creative projects.

SCool – That’s my utimate dream! Time to pursue my other interests, which working full-time & caring for family & home after, does not allow. If we won the lotto or otherwise came into some big money, that’s what I would do with my time.

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
1:45 pm

Leggs – I’m doing my low carb thing again and it’s killing me. This salad and grilled chicken is just not cutting it. But I’m soldiering on.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
1:51 pm

why ask me if i want butter and sour cream if you’re gonna put it in the bag anyway. even after i gave you a very sweet “no. thank you.”? i see satan has one of his minions working the wendy’s drive through. :mad:

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
1:51 pm

@kimmie ~ keep soldiering on…you will see the results.

@PR ~ pizza is my Achilles. Even with venison it sounds good.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
1:52 pm

Yeah, and you have to fight to get ketchup packets.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
1:56 pm

right? i swear sometimes they act like the condiment packets come out of their paychecks.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
1:57 pm

Off-topic ~ how many of you ladies put stockings on this morning?

I’ll be the first to raise my hand.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
2:02 pm

sometimes they act like the condiment packets come out of their paychecks.

I soo cosign…they act as if you’ve said something bad about their mother or something….geesh

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:09 pm

No stockings/pantyhose here…it’s gotta be extremely cold with boots. Usually I’m sporting sexy socks (you KNOW they make all kinds now). One Christmas a couple of coworkers gave me socks from Nordstrom and Dillards. I LOVE sporting socks…in the winter. I had a chick to tell me she’d never see before (with nice skirts) until me and “how cute.” :) Of course with flats. I’ll be bare leg for a minute though.

Oh, I was tryna hold it but I found the cutest pair of Ferragamo’s a couple of weekends ago…dirt cheap. I’M WEARING TODAY….I’ll be wearing some sexy sheer socks with these come winter.

That was for all the blog shoe-holics. I know they understand.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
2:09 pm

leggs, i haven’t worn hose in over 10 years. not even to church.

now i will pull on a cute pair of tights with the right pair of boots. but i don’t do hose. nuh uh.

sassy, not only do you have to ASK for the condiment, but then they wanna know how many you need. and you better check the bag before you pull outta there.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:12 pm

My kid thinks they’re uuuugly

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
2:19 pm

So what else is on everyone’s mind?

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
2:22 pm

“…and you better check the bag before you pull outta there.”

That’s what I do. I am a ketcup fiend and not having the amount I ask for can be an issue. How the heck do you order cheeseburgers and fries and they give you one ketchup and two napkins.

Since I’m cold natured, I have on stockings and pants. Heck, I may wear a turtleneck tomorrow. I kid, I kid….

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
2:27 pm

and you better check the bag before you pull outta there.

True that cz…it’s like they get offended cause you’re checking your bag. I guess it’s an assault on their drive thru/reading & comprehension skills…I’on know but I feel like I’d rather check my isht now cause if I have to come back then that’s a whole other can and depending on my day that ain’t good.

cutest pair of Ferragamo’s

YOU BETTA WORK IT !! :lol:

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
2:30 pm

Leggs – I wear cute tights all winter. As soon as humanly possible, I go strictly sandal though. It’s been a few years since I wore pantyhose. I know they are old school, but I’m not totally opposed to them. I will wear super-super sheer black ones with a black suit or dress and fierce shoes. I actually would like some with the seam up the back or some fishnets.

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
2:31 pm

Ferragamo’s

Celisea – NICE!!!

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
2:33 pm

now i do have fishnets on garters, kimmie. but them ain’t for the general public.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:33 pm

Sassy – I KNEW you would understand :) After getting my Donald J. Pliners hey what can I say, I’m drunk with it. They’re do darn cute, I hope I don’t wear ‘em out…lol I’m ready for my 2nd pair.

I can’t lie though, had they not been a steal I’on know if I could have done it…lol

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:34 pm

I KNEW all the shoe-holics would come to surface. I see Kimmie, I’m in good company :)

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
2:35 pm

I’m sporting fishnets this year. Perhaps even some w/the seam up because they are sexy. Before it gets really cold, some sexy thigh highs are good.

@SassyMe ~ a very long time ago, I went to Burger King on my way to the airport. Got on 20 and pulled out my cheeseburger…would you believe I only had 2 buns. I was livid and got off at the next exit. Went inside and told everyone to stop smoking their joints and fix me a hot, off the grill cheesburger. I had the line cracking up.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
2:37 pm

Just when I was about to leave…fishnets and garters were mentioned. I will hang around some more lurking/stalking. LOL

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
2:38 pm

Brat – Normally I would not think so either, but I saw a lady in some with a suit last winter and they were striking! They were not a wide, bold net, really small subdued net, but you could see they were definitely fishnets!

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:39 pm

czBrat – LOVE fishnets. Haven’t had on a pair since it’s been hot but and yet again, my kid was like “mama, you wearing fishnets??” LOL, she’s always making sure everything is right…so she says

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
2:40 pm

Celisea all I know is when it comes to shoes/boots I’m glad I’m the only person I have to shop for cause that way I can get what I want when I want to. Even then, I won’t spend a enormous amount of $$$ on a pair just cause I can…it’ll have to be a very,very special circumstance like a birthday/anniversary/some monumental life moment or I’m out of town and see a pair I just gotta have.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:45 pm

Hey…where’s my post?

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
2:45 pm

It’s talk like this that just make me love being a girl! :lol:

For Real

September 7th, 2011
2:46 pm

On topic: Let me guess…. the ladies said HELL yes but must keep their I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.A.N.T even thought they are married and their husband had to give up all of theirs in order to marry them.

And no I did not read what Wise wrote but I bet she would jump at it faster than a BBW.

Speaking of housewives in my ferris bueller voice, RAQI, RAQI, RAQI

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
2:47 pm

pulled out my cheeseburger…would you believe I only had 2 buns.

:shock: WHAT?! Oh hellz nawl..

Went inside and told everyone to stop smoking their joints and fix me a hot, off the grill cheesburger.

You were nice Leggs, I would’ve lit the place up,asked to speak with the manager and got my isht for free…then again depending on the kind of day I’ve had the amount of shade I’d throw could vary.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
2:47 pm

Sassy – I was saying (in my missing post) that I’m with you on the shoes/boots thing. It’s a preference over buying clothes…lol I will go decent for both me and the kid but I will not break the bank. My mom always said sacrifice for a good pair of shoes and that I will do. Now, I’m not going to drop half a mortgage payment on a pair but you’re right, every now and again there’s a special occasion that comes along to justify treating one’s self to an out of the normal range pair.

Confirmed Bachelor

September 7th, 2011
2:49 pm

I think I’d commit suicide like the guy From “Real Housewhor…er wives” the thought of someone staying at home while I work my rump off is disturbing. Unless she is having my baby her butt better be working and after she recovers it’s back to work with you.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
2:52 pm

celisea, ferragamos and pliners … i’m getting a pretty good idea of your choice of footwear. and your passion for funky socks. LOL

ladies, thing 1 came over very excited the other day showing off two pair of 5″ platforms she just bought. you know i was grinning ear to ear over that one. i tried for years to bond over shopping trips but she was never into shoes (or bags). i’m a proud mama. indeed!

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
2:56 pm

I don’t have on any stockings but for a little while I wish I had some socks to put on with my flip flops

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:00 pm

no joke. i once introduced a former coworker to endless.com and she went on a spending spree. when i took a look at the stuff in her shopping cart all the shoes were made by a company called “pleaser”. you know i couldn’t let her live that down.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
3:00 pm

czBrat – Ahhh, yes indeedy. I LOVE Ninewest (that’s the majority of what I have) but I also have a few pairs of RLs, Joan & David, AK…whatever is on sale and good buying when I’m looking :)

Did you say 5″? You better work it girl!!! I think 4″ is my limit. Anything over that takes effort…lol

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
3:01 pm

Brat – You sound like my mom when the love of shoes and all things girly finally kicked in with me! Her princess had finally arrived!LOL!!

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
3:01 pm

i tried for years to bond over shopping trips but she was never into shoes (or bags).

My mommy and I are like that..she’s not into shoe/boots but I am. We’re into accessories n perfume but my sister and I on the shoe thing. My sister and I have a few pairs of the same shoes independent of each other while not knowing the other had/has bought them. Great minds I tell ya :lol:

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
3:02 pm

IMO, a good quality pair of shoes will step up any outfit. Shoot don’t let me leave out DSW…love love love that place. Shoes and hair..the rest is easy :)

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:03 pm

yes, luvy. 5″. i was beaming! plus her new beau is 6′1″, so yeah. she has been paying attention. LOL

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
3:04 pm

Never understood socks and flip flops.

@Confirmed Bachelor ~ that woman had no busines throwing a $60K bday party for a freaking 5 year old. If that’s not the right amount or the child’s right age, it was close!!! He should have put his foot down and demanded she scale back…trying to keep up with the Jones can indeed cost you your life!

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
3:04 pm

Okay has anyone seen the shoe commercial where you go on line and take some type of personality quiz and they “design” a shoe/boot line based on your answers…and their prices are under $50? What’s it called again?…shoe dazzle.com or something like that. I NEED to at least look at the site…I just wanna look :oops:

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:07 pm

exactly, C. i was always trying to tell her that even jeans and a tee take on a whole new meaning if you kick of the flip-flops and go with a sassy heel. NOW she gets it and she’s loving it.

and don’t let me slip on the 5″ with a pair of shorts. s/o just starts licking his lips! LOL

SexyCool

September 7th, 2011
3:07 pm

Check out DSW on FB…they are forever having promotions/contests for free shoes. I won a pair of Reebok running shoes for me and my sister this weekend.

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
3:09 pm

Never understood socks and flip flops

Me either but my toesy wosies were cold.

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
3:11 pm

Sassy – I looked up shoe dazzle. Seems Kim K started the company. :) You take a quiz & they send you a new pair of shoes every month for #39.95. They pick the shoes out for you based on the quiz.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:11 pm

sassy, i signed up for shoedazzle but did not care fot the selection at all. plus i’m not into being charged automatically monthly for pre-selected shipments. i rather enjoy my own perusing and plucking goodies in and out of my cart as i go. same online as in the brick & mortar stores.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
3:13 pm

DSW IS THE DEVIL….and I tink I love he :oops: . Love that place…just got two pairs of boots from there a few weeks ago..right before I went to College Park shoes and got three more pairs of pumps. This is the time of year when the seasons are about to chang and retailers ease out the winter stuff for the cheap and try to get rid of summer shoes at the same time. This is when I usually buy my shoes/boots or right around the end of the year when errthang’s on sale.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 7th, 2011
3:15 pm

Thanks for the heads up on shoedazzle cz/kimmie…I’m glad I haven’t looked.

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
3:16 pm

Give me a sexy pump and a slingback any day. .. love, love slingbacks.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
3:19 pm

5in heal fishnets and nice hair…nothing else is needed

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
3:19 pm

4 to 5 inch heel and some thigh high stockings..nice

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:19 pm

problem is, if you question me about “my style” you would think i’m conservative. if you try to make selections for me according to that, you’ll miss the mark. i actually like to put a sexy lil twist in just about everything.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:21 pm

5in heal fishnets and nice hair…nothing else is needed
a taut tummy perhaps?

kimmie

September 7th, 2011
3:24 pm

Brat – Your 3:19 – that’s me too.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
3:27 pm

CZ a taut tummy is a given. Also if those heels are worn with a bikini or short shorts the legs need to be toned :) Nothing worse than cottage cheese showing the length between shorts and heels…especially at the back of the thigh below the buttocks. That is not cute no matter what you think about yourself.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:28 pm

so you know exactly what i’m talking about, kimmie. just because i choose a suede blazer with elbow patches and a pair of dark jeans doesn’t mean i’m gonna slip on some loafers. i’ll take those 4″, knee-high leather boots with the pointy toe and buckles all the way up the back. please and thank you.

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
3:30 pm

I would love some kick ass ankle boots but my ankles are too skinny so they never look right. My legs sort of look like how a spoon looks inside a coffee mug. :shock: :cry:

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
3:33 pm

czBrat – and don’t let me slip on the 5″ with a pair of shorts. s/o just starts licking his lips

Oh Lawd, this takes me back some years. The live in lover LOOOOVED shorts and hoochie shorts or jeans and hoochie shoes. I’m a new woman now :evil: I still like sexy…I CANNOT LIE….but I like it in a quiet way :)

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:33 pm

slim, i don’t appreciate you nearly costing me my job by making me spew pepsi through my nose all over my boss’ month end reports. :mad:

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
3:35 pm

shorts and hoochie shoes is what I meant.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
3:37 pm

Not “hoochie” in a bad way….not sure if that’s oxymoronic.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
3:38 pm

c, i am in my 40s so yeah. the shorts are decent and the shoes are classy. HOT and classy. in other words, they ain’t made by “pleaser”.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
3:39 pm

czBrat – Me too….I there with allll the way on your 3:38…lol

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 7th, 2011
3:42 pm

Wow, seems like I showed up right on time….Ladies, the visuals that I am gettin in my head will surely speed up this last hour or so…Continue

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
3:43 pm

@kimmie ~ thanks for the headsup. My shoes vary. Don’t need the K sisters to send me a pair of shoes every month and automatically charge me. I’m like czB, let me get the rush by finding my own bargains.

SexyCool

September 7th, 2011
3:44 pm

Uh..month-end reporting…hating it right about now…

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
3:45 pm

@SlimNu ~ I purchased a pair of ankle boots once or twice. They didn’t look right on me although I thought I was stepping at the time. Back then, legs were too skinny. Now today, I can rock a pair.

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
3:46 pm

cz – I’m so sorry but it’s just a damn shame…even the beau for spewing “You so skinny” jokes last night.

You so skinny yo n ipples touch
You so skinny you have two backs

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
3:46 pm

But won’t…

cba

September 7th, 2011
3:48 pm

PR, if you are still here, follow these steps: go to ajc.com, click on sports, click on Falcons, click on DOL Daily Bitz, on the right side, click on Recent Posts and finally, click on Depth Chart :shock:

For Real

September 7th, 2011
3:49 pm

“Nothing worse than cottage cheese showing the length between shorts and heels…especially at the back of the thigh below the buttocks.” – Purp I call in the accordion look. Everytime they walk they make a sound. Ever wonder what knocks you off beat while dancing at a club?

“My legs sort of look like how a spoon looks inside a coffee mug.” – DAMN Slim I just said the exact samething the other night while I was out about a chick. She pretty and fine but I couldn’t take my eyes off her coffee mug and spoon. I kept wondering what she was stirring in her cup. Re-heated grits, Refried butter, a pinto bean & walnut combo, cold hot chocolate, Thera Flu…..

Slim, Purp…. were y’all spying on my this weekend?

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
3:51 pm

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
3:52 pm

Love pumps by Michael Shannon. I have about 5-6 pair by him.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
3:54 pm

cba all I can say is face first while on my knees! Good Find (right click save)

For Real, I have been in stalking mode lately…that reminds me let me call Celisea and let her hear me mix a smoothie then hang up.

For Real

September 7th, 2011
3:55 pm

Slim: How about “You so skinny you only have one back pocket” or You so skinny you only have one lung or You so skinny you need four fangas to make the peace sign.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
3:57 pm

Celisea, I am going to start calling you and just play a different individual sound, each call, without me speaking and hang up. Cows, Bulls, Tractors, truck engine, boat engine, door slamming, baby crying, water boiling etc. LOL I have to remember to block my number though.

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
3:59 pm

You so skinny, your bra fits better backward – he really got a kick outta that one

Confirmed Bachelor

September 7th, 2011
4:00 pm

@Leggs

Yeah that poor kid is gonna grow up being so spoiled they won’t have any appreciation for anything. I can see spoiling your child a little but a child needs to appreciate things so they can take care of them. 60k, might as well buy a car or put a down payment on a house not a five year old’s birthday sheesh.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:01 pm

For Real go look at what cba told me to go look at.

Slim so skinny she can hang glide on a Dorrito. She has to run around the shower to get wet. She has to wear a belt with spandex. She slid down the shower drain.
She so skinny her nipples touch.
If she had kids she would not be called aparent she would be called transparent
If she turned sideways she would disappear
she can dodge rain drops
Her pants have one belt loop
If she caught a yeast infection she would be considered a quarter pounder with cheese
Her bra fits better backwards.
She makes crack heads want to diet

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:02 pm

The wonderful thing about having your own children is that you don’t have to listen to others about what you should do with them. LOL

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:03 pm

Slim is so skinny she can see out of a peep hole with both eyes at the same time

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

Slim, its all good sweets, cause ain’t nothing deeper than a skinny girl’s…………

cba

September 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

So PR, you think the article was well written ? ( LOL)

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

cba, that gives a whole new meaning to “depth chart”

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

You so skinny yo n ipples touch
i’m feeling like a goober cuz i don’t get that.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:06 pm

cba, what article? GO FALCONS…I mean Vikings!

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
4:06 pm

I knew the floodgates of skinny jokes would open up…

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:08 pm

Slim is fat in all the right places. LOL

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
4:09 pm

Ladies talking boots,fishnets,colored stockings etc and the Internet porn domain .xxx is open for business!

That’s some timing there http://www.cnbc.com/Id/44423777

Certainly a ‘win,win,win’

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 7th, 2011
4:10 pm

cba, I checked out the article too, especially the middle portion, 3rd paragraph. Interesting detail if you read between the lines there. It was more there than I expected.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:13 pm

CanalZone, why on earth would I need a linked in page? LOL

Jake you said middle portion 3rd paragraph? Let me go get my eyeglasses and take a closer look I amy have missed something in that article.

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
4:17 pm

PR – Celisea, I am going to start calling you and just play a different individual sound, each call, without me speaking and hang up. Cows, Bulls, Tractors, truck engine, boat engine, door slamming, baby crying, water boiling etc. LOL I have to remember to block my number though.

Okay…call away…not sure what number you’re going to guess at…lol
I see you want me to move away from my “be nice and good” stance. Nothing doing…not moving :)

cba

September 7th, 2011
4:17 pm

PR/Jake, ya know the Falcon’s slogan is “rise up”. I think that was Mr Ledbetter intentions :-)

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
4:18 pm

reign, in case you’re ever in the market for good bull semen. networking is key!

For Real

September 7th, 2011
4:21 pm

Purp what am I looking for?

Slim is so skinny I had to have sex with her 46 times.

For Real

September 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

Purp I think the cheerleaders and high kick is distracting me. But those are some nice thighs tho.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

For Real you will notice it once you go to the article.

Canal Zone, I don’t know why you just me laugh out loud.

Celisea, well I only have one number. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

September 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

What’s good everyone. How are things shaking in blogsville?

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
4:24 pm

For Real

September 7th, 2011
4:26 pm

Other than Reggie Kelly back on the team I’m missing it.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
4:27 pm

reign, i will shake your misconception of me. eventually. :wink:

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
4:28 pm

@For Real?

It’s not a good look if a chic is so slim/thin that u have to ask her ,’are u ok?’ be4 the s e x. :lol:

Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB

September 7th, 2011
4:28 pm

White Chocolate got some azz on her, its hangin a bit…lol

cba

September 7th, 2011
4:31 pm

The hangin caught my attention

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:34 pm

CanalZone, what perception is that? LOL

Celisea, think about it really hard. I think there is a number in there somewhere.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
4:35 pm

Chic is so skinny the government only allows her to have virtual s e x.

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
4:37 pm

“uptight” *wince*

ciao all!!

Simple Man....

September 7th, 2011
4:37 pm

What it do Peeps???? popped in for a quick second and the show talk has me in a daze….CZ, I found a Steve Madden store right here in town…All you have to do is say the word, and we can make it happen!!! :)

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
4:39 pm

Chic is so skinny her backside leaks after every s e x u a l encounter! :lol:

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
4:40 pm

its all good sweets, cause ain’t nothing deeper than a skinny girl’s…………

Jake- Well, at least I have that to fall back on…um…thanks, I think :???:

SexyCool

September 7th, 2011
4:40 pm

Um…eeewww….

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
4:41 pm

Sowwee PR, I’m not following…oh well

cba

September 7th, 2011
4:41 pm

Simple Man, a belated congrats on your promotion

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
4:41 pm

Exiled – Ok, I’ll give it to you, that one was a bit funny. :lol:

czBrat

September 7th, 2011
4:41 pm

All you have to do is say the word, and we can make it happen!
as long as you’re throwing in the round-trip business class tickets. can you check to see if yous have a luichiny store? please and thank you.

sorry i can’t stay and play, simple. be good!

SlimNu

September 7th, 2011
4:42 pm

Yo Mama’s so skinny, she uses a Band-Aid as a maxi-pad.

Simple Man....

September 7th, 2011
4:50 pm

Thanks cba…. CZ…..Business class is for suckers…You gets the first class upgrade and a suite at the W (I am a sucker for the sexy legs and pedicured toes!!! Dont Judged me!!!)

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
4:52 pm

Now, that was funny SlimNu.

Exiled!

September 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

a suite at the W?

Hey Simple?

Is that called ‘treating’!?

and it’s simping if chic is a hoe?

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
4:56 pm

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
4:57 pm

Good night!

When love is in excess, it brings a man no honor nor worthiness ~ Euripides

cba

September 7th, 2011
4:58 pm

Leggs

September 7th, 2011
5:00 pm

Celisea

September 7th, 2011
5:05 pm

We won’t judge you Simple Man. What you like is right in sync with everything desired on this blog (by the men folk). I think that’s a rather simple request.

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
5:22 pm

Purple Reign

September 7th, 2011
5:22 pm

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