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Tough guys can’t show affection?

Call it one of those mars/venus conundrums: Women like strong men and they love affection. Trying to get affection from said strong man isn’t easy. Do you have to give up affection to be with the strong, alpha man type?

I received an email from a young lady who is happy with her “tough guy” but is not used to being in a relationship with no affection. I don’t believe that you can never expect anyone – especially men to change. The only thing you can do is let them know what bothers you and hope they care enough to compromise.

Guys are you a fan of affection or is it something that is difficult to give? Is it unfair to expect a guy who is tough and manly to be affectionate? In your opinion, tough guys can’t or won’t show affection?

Ladies have you ever dated someone who showed no affection until it was time to have sex? Did it bother you? How did you handle it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

142 comments Add your comment

kimmie

September 6th, 2011
3:16 pm

Randyt – That quiet strength, oh yeah! And that’s something I find very attractive in a man.

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
3:18 pm

Ok, the guy who he initially teams up with used the term “break bad” when referring to him.

kimmie

September 6th, 2011
3:21 pm

Leggs – That must have slipped by me. I figured it had something to do with him turning to a life of crime though.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
3:21 pm

Thanks Kimmie but I’m already attached ;-) JK.

I heard in a church service about “true heroes” that a hero is one who, in a crucial situation, is struck with total clarity about what needs to be done, and has to act just because of the person he is…whether charging a fortified enemy position, or running into a burning building to save a kid. Nothing there about “acting tough”.

kimmie

September 6th, 2011
3:23 pm

Randy – Yeah they say an empty wagon makes the most noise!

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
3:24 pm

@ Kimmie, I like that. Will have to remember it.

For Real

September 6th, 2011
3:26 pm

Leggs: Yeah Jessie did use it once when he asked Walt why he was doing this. What did you think about the first episode?

Kimmie: here you go for Archer: http://staytoonedin.com/2011/04/02/fx-archer-season-3/

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
3:32 pm

Interesting off beat comedy/drama I see he enjoyes being in his underwear. Is he doing all this because he only has a short period of time to live and he wants to provide for his family?

Jesse said “why would a straight up fellow like you all of a sudden break bad?” Something like that.

So, do the children know? The guy in the fast food restaurant, or whatever it is, is one of the henchmen???

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
3:33 pm

Hell, I thought Archer was the dude’s name, the one who broke bad.

kimmie

September 6th, 2011
3:33 pm

4 Real – Okay, so they are going to air 3 episodes this month & the next 13 episodes in 2012. Cool. That’s give me time to watch my other shows that are about to come back, like Boardwalk Empire and The Borgias.

LANA is my hero!!!

kimmie

September 6th, 2011
3:35 pm

Leggs – See you getting a little twisted. Go back & watch the other seasons!! Walter is the dude that broke bad!LOL!!

For Real

September 6th, 2011
3:35 pm

Leggs: Yes he is doing this for his family. No Walt’s son doesn’t know. That sound like what Jessie said. The black guy owns the Chicken restaurant and he also owns the meth cartel that Walt’s works for. You should watch season 1.

For Real

September 6th, 2011
3:38 pm

Kimmie: I spend a lot and I mean a lot of time with Lana, vanila scented lotion and a dark color towel which is currently standing up on its own in my closet. – Don’t judge me!!!

SlimNu

September 6th, 2011
3:40 pm

For Real – I was standing in line at walmart and saw a JET. I was like woooow they still make these. The funny part about it was it was so thin, like at best, 10 pages. They might as well just be an online mag and stop wasting ink & paper lol

For Real

September 6th, 2011
3:41 pm

Damn Leggs is blending Archer and Breaking Bad. Wait a minute that wouldn’t be such a bad idea after all. I can see Archer’s mom trying to have sex with the Chicken. Archer having sex with Hank’s wife and Lana punching Skyler in the face with her man hands.

For Real

September 6th, 2011
3:46 pm

Slim: Eventually all mags, newspapers and books with be online.

For Real now wishing he kept his old Ebony magazine with Diana Ross on the cover in the Wiz

Celisea

September 6th, 2011
3:46 pm

I refuse to watch another leg of BBWs….Miami is enough!!

Then why are they giving the young former stripper chick so much grief?

I dunno, I think I’d much rather be the stripper than the alleybats. Classless, no shame having, clowing allebats. On national television at that. They are either clueless as to what possessing class means or don’t care and have no shame. I take Stripper (over Alleybat) for $300 Alec…lol

Celisea

September 6th, 2011
3:47 pm

clowning alleybats

Confirmed Bachelor

September 6th, 2011
3:47 pm

@Friend or Foe

Well in any case it is also a man’s choice as well, just because she says it’s time for affection or sex doesn’t mean it has to go down, may seem strange but you should respect his wishes as he would respect yours. I think you read waaaaaaaay into my post, even some men like to feel comfortable with the person first. If a woman doesn’t like my slow pace, it’s not any skin off my teeth. I’m not like some of you who would fret not having sex for month or longer, honestly it’s not that big of a deal for me.

Celisea

September 6th, 2011
3:50 pm

CB – I might be with you on your 3:47. Of course when I’m active I ain’t going weeks and months at a time though…lol I’m of the mindset too that I want to be comfortable with a person. A level of comfort being a good fit for the both of us and placing both on the same page only naturally takes us (at least me) there…intimacy, affection, all of it.

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
3:52 pm

@kimmie ~ Ok, Walter is his name. I dated someone named Walter that looked like him, but he was a black man in a white man’s body!

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
3:56 pm

@ForReal/kimmie ~ I apologize. I never heard his name mentioned and when you started talking about Archer I said to myself “ok, Archer is his name.” I will go watch the previous season. I watched it Sunday eve, but didn’t know what the heck I was watching. There was no rhyme or reason to it for me. But now, I have a little history…thank you

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
4:15 pm

“Then why are they giving the young former stripper chick so much grief?”

Could be because her skin is youthful, she’s cute and not broke down looking.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2011
4:29 pm

I think to them, she represents all the riff raff, groupies, etc that they have to deal with being that their husbands, boyfriends, fiances are athletes. It’s the same thing with Royce of the Miami BBW’s since she was a cheerleader/dancer. They just have bad rep i suppose for throwing themselves at the players. Seems like they always give that side-eye like, did You sleep with my hubby? lol

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
4:29 pm

Off topic…is it just me, but how the hellz can Hollywood police suggest that a naked woman with her hands and feet tied up behind her committed suicide? Someone needs to follow the money trail here. Did Aruba set free that murderer yet or are they still holding him? I’ve been out of touch for a few days (except football).

Celisea

September 6th, 2011
4:32 pm

They just have bad rep i suppose for throwing themselves at the players. Seems like they always give that side-eye like, did You sleep with my hubby? lol

Chicks with no concious and the “don’t care” attitude like the Evelyns out there are who they better be worried about. That chick will drop her drawers on a turn for any dude with the biggest price tag. She’s an unofficial groupie. LOL

Celisea

September 6th, 2011
4:34 pm

And along with her gutter rat attitude she’s got a gutter mouth.

Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)

September 6th, 2011
4:40 pm

but how the hellz can Hollywood police suggest that a naked woman with her hands and feet tied up behind her committed suicide?

It’s not just you cause I was wondering the same thing…and the fact that no one at the police precinct where these officers work disagrees or has said anything to the contrary is astounding.

That chick will drop her drawers on a turn for any dude with the biggest price tag.

Okay?! Cause if you’re broke then you’se a non muthaf!@#&ng factor and you know how she feels about that isht.

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
4:41 pm

He’s still jailed in Aruba.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2011
4:46 pm

Into the Light

September 6th, 2011
4:47 pm

Afternoon, all. It’s been a Tuesday in a Monday suit around here. ugh!

Wait, who committed “suicide” while tied up???

Celisea

September 6th, 2011
4:53 pm

Okay?! Cause if you’re broke then you’se a non muthaf!@#&ng factor and you know how she feels about that isht.

Exactly….Getting her comeuppance by any chance and means necessary.

SlimNu

September 6th, 2011
4:55 pm

I thought her and Chad were supposed to have their own show?

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
5:01 pm

ITL …

How do you see the season shaping up for UGA. I was rooting for UGA (it hurts too) because I didn’t want to listen to Boise crying and biotching all season long about they should be in the NC playoff. Saturday showed some problem areas for UGA frankly.

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
5:02 pm

Her and Chad aren’t going anywhere TOGETHER! Only a matter of time before she’s sniffing for a different ducket bracket.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
5:03 pm

Re the suicide, some rich Hollywood (I think) dude’s girlfriend supposedly tied her own hands behind her back, tied her feet, and then hanged herself while naked by throwing herself off the balcony…only a few days after her boyfriend’s son died from a fall down stairs while in her care in the same house.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
5:05 pm

Cops ruled it suicide. Chics just don’t off themselves that way, even if she could tie her own hands.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

September 6th, 2011
5:07 pm

Into the Light

September 6th, 2011
5:10 pm

Randy:

0-2 after Saturday, to be honest. I’m not saying that I’m counting us out for the entire season, but the O-line has got to find their rhythm AND do a much better job of protecting Murray if we’re going to have a prayer. I thought D looked okay in the first half, tired and reminiscent of last year in the second.
I hear you on the pony whiners. If you want to contend for an NC, then play in a real conference. Period.
So grateful they serve alchohol in the Dome, bc it helped dull the pain….. :)

Leggs

September 6th, 2011
5:15 pm

Guess not good to use ducket and bracket together since the word is duckets by itself (lol).

Into the Light

September 6th, 2011
5:19 pm

Yeah….something’s rotten in Denmark on the suicide story. I’m glad her family is going to continue the investigation. I can’t imagine any woman committing suicide that way. Even if she were going to hang herself, I don’t see the elaborate tying and binding…. and a note painted on the door? Paint? Really???

Purple Reign

September 6th, 2011
5:33 pm

She killed herself.