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Dating Intentions: Good will hunting

If we could buy a crystal ball that could predict if the person we are dating is a colossal waste of time, I think many of us would invest. The money would be well spent because we would know whose intentions were honorable.

Sometimes we use our own logic, deductive reasoning, or intuition to determine intent. There are times, though, when it is simply impossible to know of someone’s intentions when you first meet them.

So for all of the dating veterans out there, how do you know when a person is truly interested in getting to know you?

What do you listen or pay attention to when it comes to figuring out if they just want sex, money, or ego boost?

Happy Friday, everyone!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

135 comments Add your comment

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:03 pm

Better yet, UknowMe, what is she going to do about?

Lovely Brown a.k.a. Diva on the mend...

September 2nd, 2011
12:04 pm

That’s not her husband-to-be, that’s her Warden!

And it will not change. he will only get worse with time.

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:05 pm

That’s not love, that’s distrust oon every level. Hell, I wouldn’t put it pass him to plant some crap on the computer or in the house! Sounds like a life of discomfort and lots of screaming and crying on her part.

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:07 pm

Yes it will, LovelyB! Yes it will. As much as we all want someone to love us, I don’t anyone to love me that good. Sorry, but your friend is also mental.

UKnowMe

September 2nd, 2011
12:07 pm

Leggs – he did. That was in my first post.

As to what she will do, be mad for a couple of days, marry him anyway.

cba

September 2nd, 2011
12:08 pm

What’s the world coming to: Arthur Blank and his wife is separating after 16 yrs!!!!! Hmmmm, I wonder how much the fact that he’s 68 and she is 43 has to do with it. Let me see, what is half of a billion $$$$ and half of the Falcons, and half of Home Depot and half…………

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:08 pm

I apologize, I shouldn’t have said that, UKnowMe!

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:10 pm

Let me go back and read. Reading comprehension proves to be a little tricky at times.

Sweet Pea~TGIF

September 2nd, 2011
12:14 pm

UKnowMe/Leggs: If he’s installed spyware on her computer, I can’t imagine his actions if she came home a minute or two late due to running an errand or being delayed in traffic. It sounds like the writing is on the wall, but she refuses to see it in hopes that it will change after marrying him.

Sweet Pea~TGIF

September 2nd, 2011
12:15 pm

crap….he installed

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:17 pm

Yeah SweetPea, she might end up like the girl last week. Her gf came home to find her sleeping and no dinner on the table. She stabbed her. Not sure if she died or not!

Sassy Me :-)

September 2nd, 2011
12:21 pm

Let me see, what is half of a billion $$$$ and half of the Falcons, and half of Home Depot and half…………

Umm can we say mAjor gwap :lol:

side note: Mr. Bermuda gone be at the airport this afternoon. It pays to have fam that work for one of the major airlines on the island :-) I’m going to have a good Labor Day weekend ;-)

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
12:21 pm

And in other rap news,the King of the south is not that much of a king anyway!

Institutionalized King maybe!

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
12:25 pm

Is there a way to detect if spyware has been loaded on a computer?

Lovely Brown a.k.a. Diva on the mend...

September 2nd, 2011
12:30 pm

UKnowMe- Please stick in there with your friend…..she may not appreciate you now, but she will.

How long has she know her fiancee’? Because I don’t care what folk say….he/she wasn’t like this when we started out…BS! Like Foreal said, some of us don’t listen to what that person is saying, we hear what we want to…..been there, done that. I’m not blaming your friend, but there are always signs IMO.

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
12:33 pm

@LovelyB ~ I have to agree, because if she thinks it’s good to be loved like that, she gushed at his antics in the beginning.

Lovely Brown a.k.a. Diva on the mend...

September 2nd, 2011
12:37 pm

And in other rap news,the King of the south is not that much of a king anyway!

Institutionalized King maybe

I love me some T.I. but his sexy azz stays losing :lol:

I read somewhere that they, T.I. and Tiny, were having sex on the bus.

And that the FEDS were not happy about him filming a reality show. I can believe it.

He should have just got out and had a seat….until next time, because there will be a next time :lol:

UKnowMe

September 2nd, 2011
12:41 pm

I will definitely be there for her. In all other areas, she is a very strong individual. And she wasn’t necessarily gushing when she made the “love me like you do” statement. It was more of an expression of frustration. She is ticked, confused and realizes that there is nothing that she can do about his insecurities.

And that is what I said to her, “Yes, you do want to be with someone that loves you more than words can express. You just don’t want it to be combined with all that insecurity, foolishness and psychotic behavior.”

Having been around them, I know that for the most part, they are really good together. This just happens to be the recurring issue in their relationship. Unfortunately, it’s a major one.

And they have been together for three years. He didn’t get extra crazy until around December last year.

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
12:41 pm

He’s trying to protect his heart,can’t blame him for being too cautious.

Why is UknownMe’s friend panicking?

‘@Skim?

u want to have ur computer checked for spyware. U suspect Mr Fed is snooping?

Ogh lawdie!

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
12:45 pm

LBrown?

T.I. is an example of the ghetto refusing to leave the T.I. brain station.

Maybe Mary J could mentor him.

Purple Reign

September 2nd, 2011
12:53 pm

Hello! How is everyone? What is the current off topic…topic?

Lovely Brown a.k.a. Diva on the mend...

September 2nd, 2011
12:54 pm

T.I. is an example of the ghetto refusing to leave the T.I. brain station.

Maybe Mary J could mentor him

@Exiled- Mary J? Not a good choice. I love her too, but she has her ghetto on reserve. I can relate :lol: I keep my ghetto on pause…..

SexyCool

September 2nd, 2011
12:59 pm

When did bad decision making skills become synonomous for ghetto?

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
1:08 pm

Ghetto in this instance,is a euphemism for ignorant,dumb and stupid rolled into one.

You can have money and still be ghetto.

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
1:15 pm

You can have money and still be ghetto —–>Tammi on Bball wives :lol:

SexyCool

September 2nd, 2011
1:16 pm

Actually, that question should have been phrased differently, “When did ghetto become synonomous for bad decision making skills?”

Um..yeah…that was bothering me. (lol)

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
1:16 pm

You can NOT have money and still be ghetto

SexyCool

September 2nd, 2011
1:17 pm

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
1:20 pm

@Slum U Cannot have money and still ve ghetto?

Kid rock = ghetto

TI ghetto

Gucci!! = Ghetto

Snoop Double D dizzle = ghetto

Plizzw

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
1:23 pm

Exiled – In other words, you can be broke and be ghetto lol Anyone can be ghetto but sometimes ghetto goes down to the bone marrow.

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
1:24 pm

Sexxy?

Ur ghetto(1:16) is referring to location/abode.

Or noun

My ghetto is a verb.

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
1:27 pm

Slim?

Ghetto to the marrow?

Yea

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
1:30 pm

Ex – bored huh?

Sweet Pea~TGIF

September 2nd, 2011
1:32 pm

Leggs: Oh my! I didn’t hear about that one. When people show any signs of crazy you MUST believe them as that is certainly a red flag to know what to anticipate later on.

As for the King of the South, maybe he should’ve eased on down the road quietly like MV did…an SUV and perhaps a couple of cars. However,I am baffled about how his transportation landed him in jail again. If there were specifics given to him, and he violated them then ok.

You know how TIP rolls!! Big things poppin!

Exiled!

September 2nd, 2011
1:33 pm

Yea Slim..

u know I’m bored when, on a friday afternoon,I’m scratching my balls and they aren’t even itchy.

Purple Reign

September 2nd, 2011
1:40 pm

If you are ghetto, country, suburban or bougie…..just be you. Those who label you as such really don’t matter. Now you might not be able to get into some places…but just be comfortable with whatever you are. LOL

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
1:46 pm

Purp – yeah a white tee is almost like a gang sign at some places :lol:

Leggs

September 2nd, 2011
1:47 pm

@UknowMe ~ that’s cool to read that she is apprehensive. I did picture her saying “isn’t it good to be loved like this” with a smile and quick skip in her step. I stand corrected. She is concerned and that’s a good thing.

Like somewhere said earlier. Be there for your friend, as I see you plan on doing.

Fion

September 2nd, 2011
1:50 pm

@ UKnowme
quick question, when your friend asks you to be in the wedding are you going to say Yes?

UKnowMe

September 2nd, 2011
2:01 pm

It’s the second marriage for them both. They both did over the top weddings the first time. Neither of them want a wedding.

Lovely Brown a.k.a. Diva on the mend...

September 2nd, 2011
2:05 pm

Was reading that T.I. supposedly told them he was traveling in a van. He pulled up in a blinged out tour bus, his entourage in SUV’s and VH1 cameras filming every move…….

His wife has a different story….she says they(feds) took pics with T.I. in front of the tour bus and wished him well. HA!

Purple Reign

September 2nd, 2011
2:06 pm

People who snoop and are distrusting are usually not trust worthy themselves.

Purple Reign

September 2nd, 2011
2:07 pm

If they let him leave in the bus it is their fault. LOL

Friend or Foe

September 2nd, 2011
2:10 pm

@UKnowMe: Have you truthfully shared ALL of your thoughts to your friend? I would be upset to know a best friend is passing around intimate details of my dysfuntional relationship.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

September 2nd, 2011
2:16 pm

Better than that

@UKnow

Are you a male friend of said female friend?

Friend or Foe

September 2nd, 2011
2:16 pm

People who tattle are equally distrusting.

Purple Reign

September 2nd, 2011
2:19 pm

Friend or Foe, I agree.

SlimNu

September 2nd, 2011
2:20 pm

For some reason they don’t want to let him be. Who cares what type of vehicle he left in? Sounds petty to me unless the feds just wanted to get the film or memory card from the cameras back lol

UKnowMe

September 2nd, 2011
2:21 pm

Yes. I have. But one tacit friendship agreement that we have is that once we give our opinion regarding a matter, we let it go. It is almost a condition of our friendship. However, I am not blogging under my regular name, as a precautionary measure.

Fion

September 2nd, 2011
2:26 pm

@UKnowMe
How do you think this thing ends?