You said the L-word, now what?
What do you do when the person you are seeing suddenly drops the L word on you? It wasn’t expected, nor was in return. How’s that for an awkward moment?!
I know a lot of guys that tell women they love them, so I’m a bit jaded when it comes to this kind of thing. While I believe in men saying it when they actually feel the emotion, a lot of times what they are really feeling is …caught up.
You know how it goes, she rocked your world and you barely know your name, let alone what you are saying! FYI – picking that moment to say it for the first time may be met with cynicism.
Everyone loves to hear the word LOVE, but does it immediately changes the relationship dynamic?
Have you use the L-word with someone early in the relationship? Did it bring you closer or did it make things too complicated?
How do you know when it’s the right time – and wrong time – to say” I love you”?
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SlimNu
August 31st, 2011
8:15 am
Good morning,
I will be in and out today but the right time to say I love you, is the time YOU feel comfy letting the other person know that’s how you feel. Beware that they may very well not be on the same page as you, so don’t fret if the sentiment isn’t met with an “I love you too”. And it may be a good idea to be prepared mentally if that person decides to back off a little after the exposure of your feelings. For some reason, that L-word freaks some folks out.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
8:19 am
“Caught up?” really? That seems like more of a female trait (i.e. the kitty and the heart forever being connected).
But if a guy beyond the age of 21 is “caught up” behind some sex, then he needs to set up shop out on Clairmont weekly to get right.
As for when to tell someone you love them – you tell them when you feel it.
For me it was never about the return use of the word or the emotion. It was more “here’s where I am with mine.”
While I used it sparingly, I said it fearlessly. As stated yesterday, if you’re living this life and/or experiencing relationships with caution, you do yourself and everyone around you a disservice.
Oh, yeah – good morning
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
8:22 am
@Slim
I never liked “too” as in ‘also’, or ‘additionally’. When said or returned “I love you (period)” was/is how I cook my gumbo
SlimNu
August 31st, 2011
8:22 am
Morning oh Superior One
SlimNu
August 31st, 2011
8:25 am
I can understand the ‘too’ deal but when one makes themselves vulnerable by exposing their emotional cards, it can make them second guess the timing if they don’t hear that in return. I’m speaking generally, not specific to me. I remember when I told the beau how I felt and I basically said that his feelings do not have to be as my own.
Anyway, toodles…gotta step away from the desk for the morning. Chow for now
mark
August 31st, 2011
9:09 am
if i tell a Woman i LOVE her best believe i do. because those are some serious words..to me.
czBrat
August 31st, 2011
9:38 am
Everyone loves to hear the word LOVE, NOT! but does it immediately changes the relationship dynamic? well, yeah.
hola slimchick. i’m not a fan of the “ILU2″, but i usually throw back a “ditto”. which is probably just as bad. ay ay ay. i’m a work in progress.
abc
August 31st, 2011
9:43 am
Another middle school relationship topic. Yawn.
SlimNu
August 31st, 2011
9:44 am
cz –
ditto bruh…imma try that one
I like the “i love you”….response – “i love you more”
Yeah yeah yeah, i’m a sap
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
9:49 am
Good morning, Good morning, Good morning!
I’m pumping myself up cuz I am so tired. Rough, ruff, ruff start this morning.
As far as the L word is concerned, if I say it, I mean it. It doesn’t phase me if you don’t say it back. I’m simply expressing my emotions, I don’t need or want a parrot!!
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
9:49 am
Good morning!
Why are those three words so complicated to some?
It ain’t that serious y’all!
U can luv as many women as possible without making them your long term partners.
Isn’t that what the bible demands? Love thine neighbors etc.
Ughhhhh, uall too serious for me!
Every woman I have ever been,I’ve loved some about them. It don’t matter it was a quickie or a prolonged relationship.
So,it’s good to spread luv around.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
9:53 am
Morning All!
Say it when you feel it & mean it, but don’t get upset if one doesn’t say it back. Oh, and if you really love the person, put it in action.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
9:56 am
@Brat
the ditto would get you dismissed….kinda dudes you messing with that let that isht go down?
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
9:57 am
Good day….
“How do you know when it’s the right time – and wrong time – to say” I love you”?”
There is no right time and the earlier, the worse. Guys should never tell a woman they love her early, you show her by your actions. Women judge men off their actions. If you say you love her but you two just sit on the couch watching rerun’s of Golden Girls and eating pizza, that is going to leave a funny taste to her because Love is supposed to be tangible.
And when guys drop the L word to early, it makes you look somewhat unstable. I know there is love at first sight etc but how do you love her and you don’t even know her middle name?
czBrat
August 31st, 2011
10:02 am
i don’t do verbal mush. i show my luv in other ways. ways that make him quite happy. so zip it!
czBrat
August 31st, 2011
10:08 am
how do you love her and you don’t even know her middle name?
this is hilarious to me! i told s/o my middle names when we met, but i’ve refused to ever repeat them. i kept teasing him that he couldn’t possibly love me if he didn’t know my full name. anywho, just the other day i layed them all out for him again. i should call him right now and see if he can rattle them off.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
10:10 am
@Mdot?
What if u bought the pizza and sharing it with her,that ain’t tangible enough for her?
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
10:11 am
@Brat
What I thought….how long is the leash you have him wearing….j/k
@Mdot
Cousin, love has nothing to do with a middle name – that’s the relationship. Two disparate things that when working in conjunction makes something new and beautiful.
And ‘unstable’ – wow. “The measure of a man is defined by his actions” and if being comfortable and confident enough to express oneself isn’t action enough, then there’s a disconnect between the word [action] and the deed.
‘Unstable’ is the juvenile “waiting til she says it first” game IMO.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
10:21 am
Dan – If you just met someone and blurt out the L word, some may think it a bit unstable, or creepy, uncomfortable. I thought that’s what M dot meant anyway.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
10:23 am
@Kimmie
I took “early” to mean “before she does”….but I’ll let him elaborate
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
10:25 am
IMHO Every time is the right time and every time is the wrong time. Sometimes I feel it strongly, other times I think Tina Turner was right on exactly.
Today I am going with Tina.
Purple Reign
August 31st, 2011
10:26 am
If you say it when you feel it there is no right or wrong time.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
10:29 am
@czB ~ I can actually picture your facial expression telling Dan to “zip it.”
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
10:30 am
@Exiled!
If pizza is all it takes to keep her happy go for it! Pizza Hut carryout=$9 lol
@The man formerly know as Dan – still…Superior
So if you meet a woman and after a week, you mean to tell me you are dropping the L bomb? My rationale is that a lot of guys drop the L bomb because they are just blinded by everything that they think saying I Love You will get them more stability with the woman, lock her down and get you some brownie points….
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
10:31 am
I feel compelled to insert this (because I have ‘optic-rectitus today):
Tima said it all…
“You must understand though the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That it’s only the thrill of boy meeting girl
Opposittes attract
It’s physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore that it means more than that
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a second hand emotion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken
It may seem to you that I’m acting confused
When you’re close to me
If a tend to look dazed I’ve read it someplace
I’ve got cause to be
There’s a name for it
There’s a phrase that fits
But whatever the reason you do it for me
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a second hand emotion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken
I’ve been taking on a new direction
But I have to say
I’ve been thinking about my own protection
It scares me to feel this way
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a sweet old fashioned notion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken”
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
10:32 am
Tina not Tima
SexyCool
August 31st, 2011
10:38 am
Three Words Daily – Eliminate all distractions.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
10:38 am
“Have you use the L-word with someone early in the relationship? Did it bring you closer or did it make things too complicated?”
I have times when it was right a month in, and too early a year in. It always seems to complicate things though. My opinion.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 31st, 2011
10:38 am
I dont’ know of a structured time to say it, if you mean it say it. Doesn’t gaurantee they will say it back, given time they might.
SexyCool
August 31st, 2011
10:41 am
No run this morning.
A declaration of love can either take a relationship to the next level or stop it in its tracks. You should know take care to get to know a person well enough to have some idea of how it would be received once that statement is made and whether or not there is a possibility of it being reciprocated.
SexyCool
August 31st, 2011
10:43 am
831 is code for I love you.
8 letters.
3 words.
1 meaning.
8.31.12 – the countdown has begun. (lol)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 31st, 2011
10:43 am
I’ve been there RandyT, said it too early only to regret it then been asked by others why haven’t I said it. Sometimes it’s damn if you do and damn if you don’t.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
10:44 am
@MDot
If you tell someone you love them in a week, then yeah, you’ve got issues.
Who said anything about a week anyway?
czBrat
August 31st, 2011
10:44 am
leash? just ugh! no thanx. i prefer our comfy, cozy
kennelden arrangement.lol @ leggs!
kimmie, “creepy” is exactly the word i would use if a dude got waaaay too deep waaaay too soon. i mean, really? you don’t even know me yet!
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
10:51 am
@The man formerly know as Dan – still…Superior
The topic was about people using the L word to early in relationships and a week is an example.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
10:52 am
SCool – I thought about you today when I looked at the date. I think that is the coolest thing!!
czBrat
August 31st, 2011
10:55 am
awww. sc, luv your 10:43. that just the cuteness!
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:01 am
You need to play 831 every day for the month of September!
Browncoat
August 31st, 2011
11:02 am
L Word? Lesbian?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 31st, 2011
11:03 am
SCool – that is the coolest thing eva!! Nice chica!
SexyCool
August 31st, 2011
11:12 am
Aw, shucks…thanks, y’all…
Leggs – good idea.
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
11:14 am
Did anyone hear the strawberry letter today? It was about this lady who said she would end her life if she’s not married with kids by 40.
It is amazing the pressure that society has placed on people regarding the definition of success and happiness. I know a few people who never been married or had kids but have found success and happiness in other areas of their lives.
Your thoughts? If you don’t ever marry or have kids, would you deem your life a failure?
ali
August 31st, 2011
11:16 am
After being together for quite some time, I told my guy that I loved him at the beginning of a weekend…and at the end, I felt him being distant. He told me that he’s feelings for me had changed. So, we’re no longer together.
Just be careful when you say it…it may just cause him to run!!
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
11:19 am
@SC – congrats – the time flies too
@Ali – be fearless in life and in love
@MDot – success is defined by the person – “societ(ies) pressure” only affects those it can. It’s like self-esteem..
SexyCool
August 31st, 2011
11:25 am
Thanks, Dan. The few pics that I saw of your day are FABulous!!!
As to the SL topic, I was thinking something similar – society is not pressuring her. She is pressuring herself.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:25 am
@SC ~ play both mid day and eve. Lottery officials love to mess with folk with dropping your numbers mid day when you only play them evening…I’m hip to their scam (lol). That’s a total of $60 for what may be a $500 return. Play straight/box $1.00
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
11:28 am
M dot – I heard that and it was sad. But not to be mean at all, she sounded very unstable and that is probably why she’s not attracting anyone. Remember, she said she’s tried suicide several times and she has a very poor self-image. Men can probably see that instability with her a mile away.
Like it or not, society looks at you like something is wrong with you(especially women) if you don’t ever marry or have a child, especially marry. You could have everything in the world going for you careerwise, but it’s almost like you’re a failure if your personal life goes against what society thinks it SHOULD be, which includes marriage and a family. A lot of people are not strong enough to make their own definition of success.
We all have something of value to offer the world. A lot of people don’t have children of their own but still play a strong role in the lives of many children in other ways. I always wanted several children of my own, but God had another plan. I’m still a mother, raising children and I love them as if I gave birth to them.
A lady I was close to from my church that passed last year ran an orphanage. She married twice, but never had kids of her own. But she was MOTHER to hundreds of kids that came thru that orphanage over the years. And she was certainly not a FAILURE!
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:30 am
@M. ~ There’s more to the letter than ending her life if things aren’t achieved by age 40. She’s been hurt countless times, has low self-esteem, has no idea what it means to love self, has a severe problem looking at what others have. I feel with a letter like that, there isn’t any room for jokes. What the crew should do, is personally show up at this woman’s door and assist. You want to offer advice on the Strawberry Letter? Well, sometimes that advice needs to come in the form of an actual face to face. This is that case. IMHO!
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
11:32 am
Leggs – Did you hear the SL? Shirley said almost what you said, that this was no time for jokes.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:35 am
Exactly, kimmie! If you want a child and can’t seem to have one, there are many ways to achieve that. So what, it may not come from your body. Don’t let that stop you. My good friend of 40 years wanted children. For some reason, God decided not to bestow that “gift” upon her and her husband. Nonetheless, if you truly want to be a parent, there are many avenues. IJS.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:38 am
@kimmie ~ heard the letter, but none of the responses. Made my child, her friend and my neighbor’s child late for school. Had to sign everyone in and get a tardy pass. Since I’m the parent to one, she got an “excused” tardy pass. The other two received a “tardy” pass. My head hurts.
czBrat
August 31st, 2011
11:40 am
Mdot … i loved kirk’s comparison to destroying a gift.
kimmie, i didn’t catch the part about her having attempted suicide several times. i know it’s kinda mean, but that just reminded me of seinfeld saying “now you’ve just found one more thing you’re not good at.”
i’ll go sit in the corner now.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
11:46 am
So y’all telling me if somebody puts out plan to achieve something by some date(putting pressure on themselves,yes) and they don’t achieve that,it’s Not failure!
Quit playing!
The societal pressure Mdot is talking about is his own interpretation,not the lady in question!
Yea,she’s a failure and she needs to look at hersf and try and see why.
How can u achieve something if u don’t have ambition for it?
And yea,people who are married and with kids at….
Ummm,never mind!
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
11:46 am
@Kimmie
Good point.
I always say that sometimes the AA community looks down on the idea of therapy and counseling compared to other races. She definitely needs some help.
Kimmie you also made a point about how society views unmarried and childless women.
Question, how does society and women and the blog women view a man who is unmarried and kidless?
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
11:48 am
@Kimmie
As in unmarried, I mean never married.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:49 am
@M. ~ Coming across a man that is unmarried and childless I immediately think “wow, how did he accomplish that?” Then I immediately think, “is something wrong with his sperm?” Then, I immediately think “wow, this bro has been very careful!” Then, I immediately start to smile…(lol).
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
11:50 am
Dang, I too used unmarried like it was the right word.
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 31st, 2011
11:54 am
@Exiled
“The societal pressure Mdot is talking about is his own interpretation,not the lady in question!”
Apparently it is pressuring her because she does not have kids or is unmarried yet. Some people their entire goal is to be married with kids.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
11:57 am
Mdot!
some people their entire goal…be married and have kids..
which ain’t a bad thing at all!
If u don’t put pressure on yourself,whether it’s school,job,career whatever,u won’t get nowhere.
You get blown by the wind!
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
11:58 am
If I had never married (happily found my soulmate, not just married to be married) I would be disappointed but I would not consider myself a failure by any means. I wanted a companion, someone to share my life with and I found that. Yes I would be disappointed.
Even before becoming a stepmother, I have made a difference in the lives of many kids, including nieces & nephews, younger cousins and my goddaughters. I was going to adopt if I had not married a man with children.
I have alot of other things going on in my life that give me fulfillment.
Disappointed, not failed. But that’s my view.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
12:02 pm
Exiled – I view what you are talking about as “ambition” or drive more than pressure. A little pressure directed in the right way can be okay, a lot can crush you, stress you.
But just semantics and my opinion.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
12:15 pm
Kimmie!
Landing a man(closing the deal) has an art to it. There us some inert science to that process!
And there are a lot of women who really want to get married(in their deepest of hearts) but can’t figure it out. Now,when they pout about it in the presence of loved ones,you and I and everybody else,we bound to give them some comforting words to allay and soften their disappointments.
Althoughdeep down we know,either she funky and don’t clean,can’t dress,can’t cook,argumentative and drives men crazy,talks with her mouf full of food,always gives it up kwik(lol),bluffs out the L word on first/second dates,gives guys ultimatums..and the list goes on.
Well,we dont say it loud coz we luv them but….
Blame it on her mama! She failed!
Purple Reign
August 31st, 2011
12:24 pm
I have the goal that I didn’t want. LOL I’m happy
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
12:31 pm
@PR ~ it was an unspoken goal of yours. That’ why God granted you the life you now have.
Confirmed Bachelor
August 31st, 2011
12:41 pm
L-word? Do tell, Loser? Lobber? Lobby? some many L-words, so little time.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
12:41 pm
What’s a “lobber?”
Fion
August 31st, 2011
12:43 pm
Wow! Other than Gravity, Love is strongest force in the universe.
How could it possibly be a disruptive thing? Any misapplication is definitely User Error.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
12:48 pm
Anybody watch the show “Take the Money and Run?” I have convinced myself that the contestants are paid off to throw the game. This show is a testament to human psychology, no doubt. What I don’t understand is why these pansies signed up for the show. Out of 5 episodes, only one has kept the money. This show is full of mindless, spineless twits!!!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
12:50 pm
I hate to sound like abc, but all it takes to fall in love is a pulse. If the heart is beating faster, then the “L” word can slip out. Not unlike a hard workout at the gym. And like the workout at the gym, if not followed up on, it is all for naught.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
12:54 pm
Speaking of tv shows, I’ve been so bored the last few weeks on Mondays that I have been watching Bachelor Pad. Drama queens and guys with agendas, mixed with romance, real or imagined. I need to start getting out more.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
1:13 pm
@Randyt ~ No matter how bored I am, I refuse to watch Bachelor Pad. I just watch something I’ve programmed, even if I’ve seen it 3x already.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
1:14 pm
Only 2 days after annoucing the lineup, complaints are coming in. http://tv.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=666994>1=28103
cba
August 31st, 2011
1:40 pm
Don’t think the L-WORD topic will appear in the future………..crickeeeeeeeeets
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 31st, 2011
1:40 pm
Are all tv shows reality, I’m sticking with science, tv land, and natgeo channels. And of course the NFL channel.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
1:40 pm
@ Leggs
Unfortunately my DVR doesn’t work in the Marriott…and I’ve already chewed all my fingernails down…and there are nothing but clowns and soundbites on all of the cable news shows…and I’m so sick of the food in the concierge lunge that I’m ready to throw up every night……… I watch the Mexican channels with the sound down and make up lines as they talk LOL.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
1:46 pm
You would be amazed at how X Rated those Hispanic channels are when you make up the words. I still have a bit of trouble when they cry all the time (at least one in every drama balling her eyes out) and what I should fill in though.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
1:46 pm
Order a porno Randyt!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
1:47 pm
I thought you didn’t believe in “organ solos” Exiled?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 31st, 2011
1:51 pm
Chaz will be dancing with a woman. The lady Chaz is dancing with is ok with it so am I. She was actually a pretty little girl growing up. At the end of every show Sonny and Cher would bring her out in front of the cameras.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
1:51 pm
What’s organ solos?
If it were me ofcourse I wldnt watch porno alone coz I watch it to get ready!
if I’m watching porno,either she’s upstairs or in the shower getting ready or some. Just know some is brewing!
I wldnt get bored as long as they have soccer channels,English or even mexican or Spanish ,it don’t matter.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
1:51 pm
I thought you didn’t believe in “organ solos” Exiled?
I don’t know why…all I could do was
at that retort.. I needed a good laugh,too. Thanks Randy 
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
1:52 pm
That is really funny, Randyt. Are there any neighboring restaurants by the hotel? Do you have access to a car? Is there a fridge in your room? How long is your stay? Go to store and put your own items in the fridge.
@Ex ~ I consider you a functional sexaholic.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
1:54 pm
Blackfoote I saw Chaz and now with the facial hair n stuff I think she looks better as a man…I remember seeing her on old clips of her parents’ show and agree with you, she was a pretty little girl. She thinks that Brad n Angies little girl Shiloh and her are “fam”…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 31st, 2011
1:57 pm
Sassy Me:
That hair on her/his face, now that is something that would make me stare a bit harder than I would like…….LOL
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
1:59 pm
functional sexaholic:
Meelow at the podium,accepting his award.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
1:59 pm
Why stare?…if you didn’t already know his history you’d think he’s normal. Plus with enough male hormones anything is possible. I’m sure his voice has dropped an octave or two.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
2:01 pm
@ Leggs, yeah I can do all of the above. Monday is the tough one and I get L A Z Y. I need to hit the local bars I suppose, but sooner or later I’ll end up like the dudes in the “Driving While Under…” commercials. I’m an extrovert that is becoming a recluse…and don’t like it.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 31st, 2011
2:12 pm
My brief stare will come from curiosity, then it would quickly revert back to my own business no half this or that and nothing fake. That’s my admiration he went all the way real.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
2:14 pm
I’m an extrovert that is becoming a recluse…and don’t like it.
Awww that sucks donkey butt…sorry to hear that Randy
{{{air hug}}}
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
2:16 pm
I can identify, Randyt.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
2:28 pm
I can identify to an extent…when I went to Mozambique earlier this year I only went to a few places to eat because I didn’t want to go too far from my hotel. The hotel food was hell-a-expensive and even though we were given plenty of per diem dollars I still wasn’t gonna pay for some glorified crap. Luckily there were some really good spots within walking distance but I noticed the food was basically the same wherever you went. Since I was only there for two weeks I made the best of it and still enjoyed my work and the whole experience. I’ll be going to Botswana next but don’t know exactly when.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
2:29 pm
@Randyt ~ I’m trying to make sure I don’t become “a non-motherf…ing factor.”
That cracked me up!
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
2:41 pm
a non-motherf…ing factor.”
oh no you didn’t I’m sure those t-shirts Evelyn had sold really quick..even though she claimed she didn’t make that many…that’s a catchy phrase that’ll cut you to the quick.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
2:49 pm
Leggs/Sassy – Did you watch B Wives LA? They are the worst out of all of the “wives” series I think. I think they put the G in Ghetto!!
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
2:52 pm
I keep missing it Kimmie bit I heard those are some gansta a** chicks. I knew what it was when I was watching the trailer for the series and one of the women said, “Yeah I’m f@#$ing her up ON SIGHT”..and I was like
daaaaaayum that’s how y’all west coast chicas get down…
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
2:56 pm
I have it taped. The little I did see, those are some rough women. They all look so hard! The one with the dreads looks like Spike Lee’s wife and his sister!
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
3:00 pm
Leggs – The dread one tried to act like she had some sense and use proper english. She was met with the high school “you think you betta than errbody else” mess from the others.
Sassy – Gangsters have more class. I mean really, there is not one really likeable in the bunch.
Confirmed Bachelor
August 31st, 2011
3:01 pm
Leggs:”Lobber” A large homemade slingshot for going the distance with large water balloons, fruit, Vegetables, or object under 20lbs. My favorite use is returning dog crap to it’s rightful owners.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
3:02 pm
And that old Jackie Christie needs to sit herself down with that “having a wedding every year” mess. Don’t nobody want her tired, has-been, whipped-by-her husband!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
3:03 pm
Sorry all…just having a major case of ‘optic-rectitus’…where the nerves to one’s eye and the nerves to one’s azz get crossed and one ends up with a really $h!tty outlook on things. I really have it today. Tomorrow I’ll probably be better. Had a meeting just now with my managers and I think I scared them. They must have apologized a dozen times and they hadn’t done anything wrong. Fortunately I am in a place where they need me more than I need them so every once in awhile I can “define the boundaries” some
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
3:04 pm
Talk about rough when I saw Ron Artest’s ex-partner I knew she’d be whuppin up on somebody..and I heard they got down on the very first episode. Sad all the way around….they’re embarrassing themselves and I hope the masses don’t think ALL AA women act like that.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
3:11 pm
@Sassy?
where in Mozambique did u go,what city?
My maternal grandpas lived and ran a business there(Beira), way back before I was born. All they told us growing up, were stories.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 31st, 2011
3:12 pm
On a lighter note, do they still have the Pimp and Hooker Ball? I think that would improve my mood.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
3:18 pm
Exiled, I went to Maputo and learned a little Portuguese while I was there.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 31st, 2011
3:19 pm
@Kimmie
She has him whipped
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
3:25 pm
Dan – Yeah, that’s what I meant by “whipped-by-her”.
Either way, she’s welcome to him.
Exiled!
August 31st, 2011
3:30 pm
Sassy!
u lucky u got a travelling job,and going to interesting places. Mozambique is on the up and up,economy wise,according to world bank stats. I am going to holiday there one of these good days.
Look out for Chobe national game park before u go to Botswana. One of the most interesting places to visit in Botswana,if u are into wild animals.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
3:37 pm
Either way, she’s welcome to him.
I soo cosign…and that getting married err year is re-tarded. Is she trying to remind him so he won’t stray or what?! I can understand renewing vows on a special anniversay or something but every year seems a bit much and wasteful…but if they like it I love it.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
3:38 pm
Thanks for the info Exiled…I’ll keep the park in mind cause it is somthing I’d like to do.
kimmie
August 31st, 2011
3:40 pm
Sassy – I heard on the radio, forgot what show, that she said if he’s planning a wedding every year he won’t have time to stray!
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
3:41 pm
Awwww, Randyt, come sit on my lap…it will be ok, boo. Said while massaging your temples.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
3:42 pm
@Confirmed ~ thanks for the definition. Don’t recall ever hearing that word before.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
3:47 pm
if he’s planning a wedding every year he won’t have time to stray!
That’s an imaginative way to try to c@ck block but if he wants some new new or some stange he’s gonna get it.
Leggs
August 31st, 2011
3:51 pm
Gotta go. Have a good evening!
Bag of quotes in the air…
PEACE
Fion
August 31st, 2011
4:08 pm
” I hope the masses don’t think ALL AA women act like that.”
Aye man, I sure hope you don’t think its just entertainment. …..and if you do, just ask yourself for who’s pleasure is the entertainment being performed for.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
4:08 pm
Dodging that bag in the air…have a good evening y’all…
Carmel
August 31st, 2011
4:08 pm
This is the perfect answer by: The man formerly know as Dan – still…Superior
As for when to tell someone you love them – you tell them when you feel it.
For me it was never about the return use of the word or the emotion. It was more “here’s where I am with mine.”
While I used it sparingly, I said it fearlessly. If you’re living this life and/or experiencing relationships with caution, you do yourself and everyone around you a disservice.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 31st, 2011
4:09 pm
and your point is…
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 31st, 2011
4:24 pm
Thanks Leggs. Feeling better already. I needed that…and booze.
SexyCool
August 31st, 2011
4:42 pm
Chaz as a man looks like that character in Austin Powers – Fat (censorword)
The Basketball Wives LA are just way too dramatic. But what I find funny is that on the first Miami season, Shaunie approached Gloria about some rumors about Gloria’s sister and Shaq. But now, she’s got her on the LA show. Shaunie is pimpin’ all them chicks.
And I swear it’s like the premise of the show is to see how ghetto, petty and common you can be and we will get ratings. I told TheDude that we don’t need to watch shows like this and Hell’s Kitchen in the evenings close to bedtime. I don’t need the negative energy from all their drama following me to bed.
And quite frankly, I am going to start severely limiting how much of those types shows that I watch.
Celisea
August 31st, 2011
4:58 pm
Afternoon bloggers and bloggetts
I walked 2 miles today. Only this time I took it to the pavement, didn’t do the treadmill.
Carmel
August 31st, 2011
9:26 pm
Why do most feel the need to marry and have kids. I have five sisters and they all have kids and all have had failed marriages. When I was younger the elders were always after me to get married and have kids . . .my clock was ticking! But, I am one that has always done things differently. My mom used to tell us to find a man that would take care of us. Well, I saw how ‘a man took care’ of her and I didn’t care for that, she was very unhappy. And actually as a child I never felt wanted. I realized that I would have to care for myself, and that I didn’t have to marry and have kids if I didn’t want to. Thus far I’ve had a blessed life and I’m happy even though I’m not married with kids!
Look before I leap
August 31st, 2011
10:22 pm
This blog post has172 words and 11 “sentences”.
There are 7 gross punctuation errors and, I am being charitable, 3 typos.
This silly twit is PAID to write, and quite poorly, a blog?
Our education system is in MUCH worse shape than I thought.
Albert
September 1st, 2011
11:02 am
I told my first girlfriend I loved her about two months after we started dating. It was very important to me because I was about to go into surgery. She never said it to me. Although we had problems and our relationship never got to the point that I wanted, it lasted three years. But what p***ed me off was that she had such a bad self-image that other times when I said it to her she felt she didn’t deserve it.
The second time I said it out loud was when the girl I loved was about to go back to her native country and marry a boyfriend she hadn’t seen in nearly three years (a long distance romance, apparently) , and I was devastated because of it.
BTW, what is the Strawberry Letter?
Albert
September 1st, 2011
11:04 am
Forgot to add this, there is no right or wrong time to say it, except when you are bursting with it and have to let it out.
Robert
September 1st, 2011
12:34 pm
Hmm. The answer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bfx7izBNHeI