Would you relocate for love?
Listen, I’m a hopeless romantic as much as the next girl, but I don’t know how far I would go for love. For instance, could I move cross country? I just read one woman’s leap of faith that landed her across the country, without a job, or a place to live!
While it is easy to say that is something that could never happen to me, I actually admire the courage someone has to relocate. Taking a chance on love is already risky business! Would you be willing to rearrange your life and move to another city?
Things may not have worked out for the young lady, but at least she can say that she tried. That’s more than some of us ever do, really. What are you willing to risk for love?
Have you ever moved to another country or city to be with someone? Would you consider it at all?
Would you ask someone you were seeing to move with you? How serious would your relationship need to be, do you think?
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275 comments Add your comment
Big Al
August 30th, 2011
8:15 am
Relocate for love? Uhhhhh…..no.
Dave
August 30th, 2011
8:17 am
Relocating for love is quite a stretch and it would have to be some permenant reasons for that. All things being equal, I don’t do long term relationships, because once I like someone, I prefer to spend a lot of time with them. I would have to buy a vowel and the answer is NO.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 30th, 2011
8:36 am
A lady recently told me she was given an engagement ring by a guy in Seattle. She ended her lease and got packed to move out there with her two daughters from a previous marriage when she found his Facebook page saying he had gotten back with his ex-wife. He stopped answering his phone and she kept the ring.
Angel
August 30th, 2011
8:49 am
Good Post WD…I am contemplating that decesion now. Hoowever,I would not do it without the 3 necessarry elements:
1. A Committment (ring)
2. A Job that can sustain me
3. A made up mind (answered prayers)
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
9:07 am
Good morning, Good morning!!
How serious would your relationship need to be, do you think? For me, it would have to be very serious with an engagement ring already on my finger. Or better yet, we already married and we’re locating to further enrich our lives.
To locate simply for love (bf/gf) is too risky. I cannot move in with a man. For him to have so much power that he can ask me to leave if things get shaky and I have no stock is not appealing to me. By stock, I mean my name on the lease. Some form of legal standing in my favor.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
9:24 am
Good morning,
Excuse me as I try to get used to my new 19″ flat wide-screen monitor. I feel like I’m writing on wide-ruled paper with one of those super fat #2 pencils from kindergarden lol
Um, I think the answers are probably going to be about the same for all. I would consider relocating given the seriousness of the relationship and ability to find a suitable job prior to my departure from the current city. I knew a guy that dated a women from TX, he lives in FL. She relocated to Florida to be with him but had no success in finding a job. So that started the issues with them that previously didn’t exist. Long story short, she ended up moving back to TX. Tried and Failed…
With the current process I’m undergoing to hopefully obtain this new position, there is no telling where I’ll end up if I’m not able to stay in ATL. So the beau and I talk about it every now and then. Neither of us wants to do a LDR but I’d really hate it to end that way due to a move. I told him we should just deal with that if that happens to become the case.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
9:33 am
O/T: Is anyone else experiencing an infestation of fruit flies/gnats? I don’t know what happened here at the job about 2 weeks ago but it’s like they swooped in over a weekend and they are rampant now. It’s so damn frustrating trying to work with them flying all over the place. *sigh*
Anonymous...the most interesting, informative, and controversial writer of our times.
August 30th, 2011
9:45 am
Off topic…when in the beginning of what may be a serious relationship, how do you bloggers deal with the “visuals” of your new partner’s past when bits and pieces come out? Do you feel jealousy (knowing full well that it is in teh past)? If so, how do you deal with it? I’ve had this dilemma in the past and know it should not bother me, but it does.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
9:51 am
Anon – Please give a few more details of these ‘visuals of the past’ that you speak of…Do you mean like old pictures, trinkets, clothes, phone calls, text messages, emails etc.??? Elaborate
oneofeach4me
August 30th, 2011
9:53 am
@Slim ~ get a small bowl and fill it with apple cider vinegar and about 3 drops of dish soap. Works every time
On topic ~ I would relocate only if I could find a job and had my own spot for at least the 1st 6 months or so. Oh.. and it would’ve needed to occur before I had my kids. So as of now… it wouldn’t happen unless I was married and we moved to further benefit us as a whole as Leggs said.
Anonymous...the most interesting, informative, and controversial writer of our times.
August 30th, 2011
9:59 am
I was talking about when the subject of past “partners” comes up. I tend to struggle with the thoughts that run through my mind when comments or conversations occur revealing details of past sex partners. I’m no saint and have a past of my own, but I guess there is that double standard at work. Just when I think I have heard about them all, another is revealed. I know it is childish, but I get pangs of jealousy, maybe a little hurt, and feelings tend to be harder to deal with than just accepting reality.
LeeH1
August 30th, 2011
10:03 am
A lot of the posters today are desirous of power and control in a relationship, but not love.
My girlfriend moved from Maryland to Michigan. One night when I was crying about my crazy boss, she said for me to move to Michigan, marry her, and I’ll get a new job.
As a leap of faith, I did. I moved to another state (and a yankee state, at that!), married her, and entered two years of un-employment. It was a rough period, but we got over it, and have now been married for twenty-five years. We have since moved severral times because of job offers for both of us, and have had only a few regrets.
Love between two people is always more important than who has the control and power. If you want power in a relationship, get a wimpy dog that you can kick often. Do the world a favor, and stay away from other people, and don’t ever have any children who will be dependent upon some fool who wants power and control over others.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
10:03 am
@Anon ~ nothing wrong with feeling a few pangs of discomfort, but why be jealous over someone you don’t know?
Here’s my take. Your partner is wrong on every level for sharing such intimate details with you. Who does that. How old are you? How old is she? At work? Has she dated the entire department? That’s another story.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 30th, 2011
10:03 am
I’ll be honest..with me having a home and career here I really don’t see myself moving. It just so worked out for me that Mr. Bermuda and I began reconnecting as he was already in the process of moving back to the States…and we won’t be living together either. I think it’s best that way plus I’ve never shacked up and don’t plan to start…I’m not speaking against it but that just doesn’t work for me. We have to exchange jewelry first before that happens…
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
10:03 am
One – Yeah, I was just telling a co-worker we should bring in some apple cider vinegar…so someone is going to bring it tomorrow. Thanks tho
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 30th, 2011
10:04 am
Good day..
“Would you be willing to rearrange your life and move to another city?”
I agree with Leggs. It is definately a huge risk.
I am not a big fan of the idea of relocating for love unless you two are married and the final piece is to bring you two together in the same city. I dont think relocating is for everybody. Particularly guys. I think a guy should never follow a woman to a new city, especially if he does not have a job yet, and will be depending on her for his living situation. The reason I say this is not to be chavinistic but people will always start acting funny when they know you are dependent on them. Also with her being the woman, its always easier for her to meet someone else so if you dont have your thing together, everyone will look better in her eyes.
I also think women should not follow a guy on a move unless there is a committment because the main appeal about long distance relationships to guys is that there is a certain level of certainty (I know when you are coming to town, how long you are staying and when you are leaving) and when she leaves, you 2 just have a telephone relationship and when she moves in, it will be a huge adjustment from just talking on the phone daily and a visit once a month to seeing them in your space everyday.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
10:06 am
@LeeH1 ~ nice that it worked out for you. It does work or a lot; however, it also can be a colossal mistake for some. It’s not an easy thing to do. You’ve been married now for 25 years. In 2011, it’s not that easy to just up and move. Too many flaky people who, at the onset of a little discord in the relationship, ship out leaving you on the sideline wondering WTF just happened. It’s not as easy as it used to be.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
10:07 am
Three Words Daily – Stay the course.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
10:08 am
Morning Workout Report – Me and TheDude – P90X ’s Cardio X and then, Me and GiGi – 2.25miles – 32minutes.
Obviously, all of the running has me in great cardio shape. I had less of a problem keeping up this morning and was still able to get out and hit the street.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
10:10 am
Relocating for love – Isn’t that what brings a lot of people to Atlanta?
And really, you could say I did a “reverse relocation” because of love, or at least the end of it. I came to the A while going through my divorce.
I wouldn’t relocate for a boyfriend, but I will follow my husband.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
10:12 am
SlimGoody – I have that problem in my office when the trash in the breakroom is not being emptied regularly. I have now made it mandatory that each shift empty the trash daily.
So, it sounds like someone may have had something in a trash can that was not emptied on its usual schedule or….someone is bringing a different kind of food source for the gnats/flies into your office. It helps if everyone who eats at their desk will discard their containers in the breakroom trash can.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
10:14 am
Exactly, SC. Will not relocate for a boyfriend, but will for a husband.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
10:22 am
Morning,
No…I will not relocate for love.
Anon – but I guess there is that double standard at work.
Are you a man? I don’t think anything is abnormal about feeling the rise of jealousy. I don’t really get what’s causing “yet another past lover” to surface. Is she/he talking about it with you? If so that’s a no no. Why do that? Are there folks still handing on/around? Is that what you mean? If so then yeah, nothing is wrong that you can’t find a slight appreciation for past lovers but I think…if folks are resurfacing or never went away….that might be something ya’ll need to nip. Then again I could be going way left on this one…lol
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
August 30th, 2011
10:29 am
Right there with Lee,
For me Love has always been trusting the person enough to make that “leap of faith” and knowing them well enough to know that they deserve my trust.
Having, or needing, an out is a sign of admittedly cautious behavior, but also distrust.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
10:33 am
Anon – I sense some insecurity, past hurt and hesitance about trusting in what you posted.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
10:33 am
Morning All!
In my younger dating years I did 3 LDR’s that ending up breaking my heart. Two of them I felt we were at the point where some talk should have been taking place about making solid plans and me moving. One the guy was in DC, so since I have lots of familiy there and could have easily gotten a job, it should have been a no-brainer – IF he cared about having a future with me. He didn’t.
Even though I was young and naive back then, I was not so crazy to up & move without at least some solid commitment and plans. One mentioned that, me coming to Cali, but I refused since I had no ring. His dad offered to help him get me one and I could have stayed with family out there until I found a job & we married. The player was not out of him and he drug his feet. I ended up breaking it off.
Now of course, with my husband, it would be no question.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
10:40 am
For me Love has always been trusting the person enough to make that “leap of faith” and knowing them well enough to know that they deserve my trust.
Dan – I guess in a lot of folks cases, it came down to deciding they didn’t have that level of trust in that person to take that leap. Especially if they’ve been burned before. With all three of my cases, while I wanted something more solid, especially to have something concrete to tell my parents, if they had asked I would have gone on anyway because I was young and in love.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
10:44 am
All I can say is pulling up lock, stock and barrel….all in the name of love, one better be darn sure of the person you placing all bets on. Not being the cynic but one should make sure all the smoke has cleared and the hoopla has died down in feeling assured that you’ve made the right decision.
I believe “love”, real love, tried love, sustainable love is not until you’ve gone a few miles with a person and have a foundation secure to the core. Oftentimes, the giggles, the butterflies and the warm fuzzies (that causes us to pull-up lock stock and barrel), are prior and ahead of going in the fire with a person.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
10:59 am
Celisea – Funny that you said that, about going thru the fire together. One of the LDR guys said as much to me. Even though everything was wonderful when we would see each other, he said our love had not been tested and that’s why he didn’t want me to pack it all up and move to Chicago with him.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
11:00 am
SC – Yeah that has to be the case. I want to say someone had some old fruit laying about and maybe over that weekend it was the catalyst for the gnat breeding ground. I feel like i’m sitting outside down deep in the country somewhere. fyi: my coworker brought in that 30 day shred video today so i’m going to check it out and see what it’s looking like. Sadly, i didn’t get up to run this morning but for all it’s worth I did get in a couple of rounds last night
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
11:15 am
Kimmie – I’m all for love and stuff and the saying love conquers all but it’s gotta at least be “love” going on in order for that to happen. I don’t think love would have a person being whimsical and ending up homeless and jobless
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
11:16 am
Did Anonymous…the most interesting, informative, and controversial writer of our times. ever come back?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
11:18 am
Anybody hear the Strawberry Letter this morning? This lady was talking about how good her guy (fiance) was and how he treats her like a Queen, has a great rapport with her kids etc. He has to go on a business trip but tells her they will only pay for one to go (him) but he wished she could come. So she ends up getting her a ticket to surprise him, gets a hotel key to his room and hides until he comes in. To her dismay, he doesn’t come in alone….he’s passionately kissing someone…supposedly his cousin but the kicker is….it was another dude
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
11:21 am
eek!!!
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
11:30 am
The yoga portion of the Cardio X session kicked my rear this morning. I have come to truly dislike the “downward facing dog.”
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 30th, 2011
11:31 am
@SlimNu
I heard that. Part of me think thats crazy and part of me thinks its far fetched. They need to have these people call up and get to the bottom of this. I think she is testing out a book plot or movie script lol
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
11:32 am
Would I yes(have I? Nope she did), why because I don’t confuse real love with lust, a fling or just a seasonal relationship.
Casual Observer
August 30th, 2011
11:33 am
SlimNu, I calll BS on the Strawberry letter……..What hotel chain is just gonna go around giving out keys to already occupied rooms??? She was fluffing it up to get her letter read on the radio….
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
11:34 am
Slim – I heard it too. It wouldn’t even be a question.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
11:37 am
What is a strawberry letter?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
11:38 am
I sort of agree with Mdot & CO…I was thinking that the letter was a bit of a fluff too because unless they were already married, how could she have gotten access to his room that easily. Even then, I wonder if the hotel would attempt to contact the guy to let them know another key was issued. In addition to that, the comedian Luvelle they had on the show was NOT funny.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
11:40 am
Casual – I almost typed the “How did she get the key?” question, but then, I thought about how resourceful groupies can be….and well….
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
11:40 am
Someone give me the link so I can read the letter
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
11:43 am
Purp – On the Steve Harvey morning show they do this segment called Strawberry Letters where listeners write in on various issues in hopes for advice on the issue. Folks write mainly bout deadbeat relationships, cheating, other various relationship stuff.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
11:44 am
My thoughts exactly. I went to the site and folks were pounding the writer with the same questions. How did you even get a key…nobody hand out keys to just anybody’s room. I think the letter was fake.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
11:46 am
Slim, oh okay. So the lady went to surprise her husband and caught him with a man? LOL I wonder if women have a clue that their husband may be a little moist before they catch him.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
11:46 am
Too, how do you get that yearning back for a dude that’s doing another dude? Could be just me but that would squash any feelings or anything I ever carried for that person. Yuck
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
11:46 am
A woman, a wife at that can get into a hotel room or get a key to her husbands room without that much effort.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
11:51 am
Hello folks!
On topic:
Yea,I can see myself relocating for love. Actually,ummm,I did that and am married to the chic now and for past 15 or so years.(I don’t know the anniversary) font judge!
But there is a lil nuance in the story.
But I can do that if I love her enough.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
11:56 am
Speaking of moist dudes, this guy who was fairly effeminate sounding just complimented me and asked if I was married. I wanted to ask him if he knew he was gay. (lol)
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
11:59 am
Purp here is the link for the letter https://steveharvey.com/index.php?option=com_chronoconnectivity&Itemid=88
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
SexyCool, smh. LOL It really doesn’t matter if he is gay or not. If a woman thinks a guy is gay then he is gay. LOL
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:06 pm
Yeah I think that lady is embellishing a bit in her letter. Who kept the kids and also if someone jumps out of a closet in my hotel room…I am kicking ass first anf figuring who it is jumping out later. LOL
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
12:09 pm
If this were an actual event, how does a woman go back to a guy that cheated on her with a man? He has not only cheated on you but he’s lied to you about who he really is which is either gay or confused. It’s one thing if he disclosed his bisexuality to her from the jump.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:11 pm
So glad you guys brought up the Strawberry letter. I was going to wait until noon. I agree with whoever said something about giving up the key. Even if she said she was his wife and wanted to surprise him, hotels no longer do that. Hugh liability issue. She can in the closet with premediated intent to commit murder. They were probably at a Motel 6 right off the highway. But more importantly, why send in such a letter asking for advice. Your man is into other men. One word, well three words
Get To Stepping….
Women confuse themselves unnecessarily so. What’s love got to do with it in this instance? WHAT. He love you and he loves him. Even if it was just a fling, it’s a freaking man boinking another man! Those tendencies don’t die as time goes by. Hell no. My heart will hurt, but what do I say…another one bites the dust…
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
12:12 pm
I am kicking ass first anf figuring who it is jumping out later
Purp – that reminds me of the other morning I got up at 6am to go running. The beau I assume was knocked the hell out over in dreamland. So when I left out of the house the alarm talks whenever you open a door. So he said he immediately jumped up out of his sleep and went for his gun not knowing I had left the house. He said it took him a second to realize I was not in the bed and figured it must’ve been me. I laughed when he told me that but I was like, well at least you have some good instincts in there somewhere. Guess he was going to shoot first and figure out the rest later
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:15 pm
And, since she’s missing him and wanting him back, she deserves whatever heartache/grief comes her way. She thinks she’s thinking about her children because he treats them all so richly, but she’s not. She’s a weak, selfish woman with very low self-esteem. Some women are walked over and treated like dormats because they lay themselves to receive such treatment.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
12:17 pm
I’m convinced that some letters are not written to ask for advice, but to put folks on blast.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
12:21 pm
Leggs – Who was that comedian that was a guest on the show today? Lavell Crawford I think? He said this is one of those times where the alarm is sounding, the woman is being given ample warning.
It’s up to her to heed the call. Sure, if he treated her & the kids nice like he said & they were engaged, that’s a profound heartache to realize he’s not who he claimed to be. Part of her still may love what she THOUGHT he was. But he should be considered dead at this point to her.
Casual Observer
August 30th, 2011
12:23 pm
” My heart will hurt” ……
But you heart would not hurt as much as his azz would have been had she waited in the closet for another couple of minutes…. LOL
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:26 pm
Some women are treated like dormats because…..
It doesn’t matter Leggs,u can’t have everything u want in life. Who has a perfect life?
She’s getting the D and that’s important to her. And the kids homework is getting done and he’s bringing the bacon.
Some of u ladies with perfect lives but no D are ughhh so angry.
Ughhhhh!(as Wanda Smith wld say)
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:28 pm
I wonder if that does something to a woman’s self esteem if she catches her man with another man. I mean not even another woman? IMO if a man likes anal sex, he’s gay. No offense to any of the men that like it…that’s just my opininon
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:31 pm
Slim I don’t sleep deep at all so I hear everything. Also being out here there are tons of wild things you have to listen for that may be going after the animals in the middle of the night. So it’s not startling to hear gunshots ring out from a home nearby in the middle of the night or day for that matter. LOL I guess that’s another reason realtionships normally last up here…all the women know how to shoot very well. LMBO
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:40 pm
…or not…..lol
Confirmed Bachelor
August 30th, 2011
12:42 pm
No thank you.
My Advice for the day, wrong Assumptions can cost you and will.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:43 pm
Yes, kimmie, Lavelle Crawford. He gave a comparision to a car. Something to the effect of when the engine light comes on. There’s trouble under the hood. Something like that.
@Ex ~ It would take you to come on and talk about those women w/o D to be angry. Heck, you got more info yesterday and who isn’t doing anything, but you will find a way to twist it into something negative. Have you noticed the women who admittedly stated they’re abstinate/celibate are quite happy?
And, you may not have everything you want in life, but no one should be treated like a dormat. It says two things. She doesn’t respect herself and he doesn’t respect her either. Instead of walking away from a damaged person, he opts to add to her suffering.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
12:46 pm
What Up…Not relocating….I read through most of the comments and I am with M., as a man I would never put myself in a situation where I have to deal with the unknown…this is not necessarily about power in the relationship either, but really, my traditional upbringing a gentlemanly chauvinistic views…Men=Women, only in the professional ranks..In our personal relationships, the man must be a man, which means there is no way that I am going to drop everything in my life and move in with a lady clear across the country with no job, home,and hope she doesn’t decide one day that its not working…Shiidd, which I would, my Granddaddy would get out his grave and come slap that thought away…
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:47 pm
“Part of her still may love what she THOUGHT he was. But he should be considered dead at this point to her.”
Straight to the point!
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
12:48 pm
wish i would, dayum Jake wake up
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:57 pm
Ok Leggs,I’ll be a devils advocate here.
You know there are women whose husbands have cheated on them but have stayed in their relationships for years fir the sake of their kids?
How do u judge those women? Dormats still?
Or u saying she’s a dormat coz it wld have been better if he was cheating with a woman?
We really don’t know her full circumstances and perspective. Ofcourse us people on the outside always seem to gave better answers than those on the inside. That reminds me of the girlfriend with no boyfriend,always upfront with the ‘best’ advice!
When a woman is in knee deep, proly with kuds as well,there are no easy solutions to these issues.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:58 pm
Have better answers
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:59 pm
Kids
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:06 pm
The thing about advice is that if someone has not been through it sucessfully or mastered it, I really don’t want to hear anything they have to say about it. Whether it be, relationships, the stock market or changing the timing on an engine.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:09 pm
I’ve said before, in my humble opinion, a woman can be truly bisexual and maybe a streak is in most women, but if man pretends to be bisexual, he is just gay in denial. I suppose there can/might be some true male bisexuals, but they are few and very far between. Not a lot of sense reconciling with a man who has been with another man…it is only a matter of time until…
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
Now PR surely someone doesn’t have to have tried a man to have an opinion about trying a man. I know it is old-fashioned to be straight these days if one is to believe the media, but not just no but hellz no for this kid.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 30th, 2011
1:19 pm
I suppose there can/might be some true male bisexuals, but they are few and very far between.
Actually a study has just concluded with a premise that many bi men already knew….men can indeed be truly attracted to BOTH sexes and the number of subjects in the study show their out there in large numbers. I think I read in the latter part of last week on MSNBC.com. I have several gay friends who’ve told me this before so it’s nothing new but I guess there’s some science behind it now and all of a sudden they’re acting like they’ve discovered some novel idea.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
Randyt, yeah I’m old school. I just like women only!
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:22 pm
So do you think that there are more men who like men or woman who like women?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
So it’s not startling to hear gunshots ring out from a home nearby in the middle of the night or day for that matter. LOL I guess that’s another reason realtionships normally last up here…all the women know how to shoot very well
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
May be Sassy, but every guy I ever met who had been with both was or sure seemed gay to me. Not a representative sample that would qualify for the Gallup or CNN poll but I just don’t believe, based on what I have seen, that men can be both. Just don’t. Women yes, men no. It is interesting to talk to women about this. They will often candidly admit that they can have some attraction to another pretty woman, but can’t understand how two men could. (Also funny how the vision of two women having relations is a turnon to many man, but a vision of two men doing eachother is a turnoff to most women).
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
Hey Randy, where can I sign…I’m as old-fashion as lemonade and i hate the media.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:25 pm
Dagnabit, I just said a lot and it got eaten.
Let me rephrase – @Ex. No, that doesn’t make her a dormat. Nor is that what I’m saying. If the woman in the letter willingly goes back to this man because she loves him, knowing he’s arm in arm and kissing on other men, she basically has relinquished her self-worth. He may not intentionally set out to hurt her, but hurt is going to come their way. She’s probably hoping this is a phase and he’ll get over it, and he’s probably wondering if he should continue this life style. By her willingly wanting to work this out, to me, means she’s throwing away her self-worth. Whatever comes her way, she beckoned for it.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:28 pm
PR – I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around the count of men liking me versus women liking other women. But if you were to lump them all together, that would probably be a HUGE part of the population.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:30 pm
A guy would date a woman who mentioned that she has had a lesbain experience in the past and eventually fall in love and marry her if everything else went well. I wonder if a woman would do the same with a guy who said he had a gay experience.
I think people should just be who they are, whether they are gay or straight. Just don’t dress like the opposite sex and stay away from me…..lol
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
The blog nazi nailed me, must have been the term les bian. What I said was my gut feeling is that there are more true gay guys than true gay ladies but I think that is because women can be “straight with curiosity” while men are either “all in or all out”. My opinion.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:33 pm
Randyt, yeah you have to mispell it to get it to post on here.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:35 pm
If you’re telling me to have better answers, I can’t. My answers are how I feel about them. If you don’t like them, who really cares?
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
Randyt?
Star Jones’s ex man is clearly gay,from the looks. But she went for him still. Until the talk and whispers made her dump him(presumably)
I think in San Fransisco and hollyweird in general,men switch it up hitting both men and women without any problem from the females. I think a lot of that goes on.
Isn’t Will rumored to be a switch hitter but married still?
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
I am truly straight, no curiosity at all.
Purple – No way in H. No way.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:38 pm
kimmie, lol. I didn’t think so.
Also, I don’t buy the whole born gay thing either.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
1:39 pm
Slim
Its got to be more women who like women…you guys are touchy feely naturally, go to the bathroom together and all that kinda ish, are much more comfortable around each other in the unmentiionables and the like….the only time it is acceptable for men to be in each others company in drawers is the locker room, and everybody should be lookin straight ahead and getting dressed in the most expeditious manner possible. Ladies…you should see how a men’s bathroom operates in a public place, you would think there must be naked women on the ceiling, the only authorized time to look at someone or speak is at the sink, all is quiet at the urinal, period.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
A man messing with another man would do nothing to my self esteem, because that whole lifestyle has nothing to do with me.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
Randyt – I agree that the way you put it seems to be how many folks think. I just can’t for the life of me explain why I feel that way, that women get more leadway to ‘experiment’ and still be considered straight versus a man being blasted as gay if he explores his curiosity of the opposite sex
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:42 pm
@PR ~ a woman probably not. That’s why men like Reynolds (Starr Jones) and that other kid (Terry McMillian’s husband) don’t tell.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:45 pm
I guess we won’t get a str8 answer but imma ask anyhoo:
how many of u blog chics have been hit by ur man,anal, but still consider(erd)him str8?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:46 pm
Jake – Well if it’s that structured in the mens restroom, I’d love to see how yall act when you have to bathe in a community shower where there aren’t any stalls. Hopefully, I’ll never have to shower in the same room as other folks. AWKWARD
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:46 pm
I’ll answer, Ex. That’s a dumb question!
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
It’s Dumb only if u know more than I do.
so what’s the answer anyway?
Casual Observer
August 30th, 2011
1:48 pm
Mr. Reign….. When did you decide to be strait??? Were you born that way??? if you can be born strait, then why is it so hard to believe that a person can be born gay???
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:49 pm
Jake – I’m not the touchy-feely kind of gal. I don’t get into that hanging out half or fully unclothed around other women, never have. I am just like a guy in a public locker room – get it done & get dressed as quickly as possible. Just always been that way.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:51 pm
Kimmie!
maybe u different coz it has never happened to u but Terry McMillan looked like she was aging faster after that escapade. She didn’t look the same on tv,in an interview!
cba
August 30th, 2011
1:51 pm
Jake, when you mentioned guys dressing expeditiously, I thought about how some guys in the locker room at LAFit just walking around naked as hell as though they are on exhibit. Hey dude, this is room full of men, who are you trying to impress??
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:53 pm
I’m not touchy feely with other chicks either…only to the menfolks and I was never that walk-around-buket-nekkid chick either. Even way back in the day when I took dance, I was very methodical about how I changed into my leotard or whatever. I’m sure every chick on this site has put a bra on and taken it off all while still having the shirt on. If you’re taking it off you simply remove the straps and unhook the clip and slide that sucka out of the side of the shirt and no boobies are exposed. lol
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:54 pm
Exiled – Terry McMillan has no one to blame but herself for that mess. From day one all it took was one look at ole boy on tv for me to know what time it was. I’ve heard countless women & men say the same about him, straight & otherwise.
I hate to see any woman be THAT desperate!
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
1:57 pm
Slim,
When I was in school, our dorms had community showers, I cannot recall not one instance in which two people were in that shower at the same time, it was just not going to happen, one at a time, make it quick, save a lil hot water…but if you walk in this mofo while I’m naked, I will be kickin your azz as soon as I dry off and get some Nike’s on.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:57 pm
Slim – Yep!!
And would you have it, the ONE time in hight school I got dressed in front of my gym locker instead of in one of the private dressing areas, I looked up and a chick was looking at me! I was late for gym & thought I was in there by myself. I said to myself “ain’t this a B—”LOL!!
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
1:59 pm
Isn’t Will rumored to be a switch hitter but married still?
Yeah, from all his “tendencies” so well played in role, I’m inclined to believe that he’s leaning. I just don’t see a guy being straight that’s okay “acting” like you do, playing the role almost true to life as if you do and just straight “falling” into those mannerisms…and then act like “I was just kidding.” Not buy.
A man messing with another man would do nothing to my self esteem, because that whole lifestyle has nothing to do with me.
This statement packs a punch…IMO I’m not offended, jealous, bitter, broken down if you’re with me but on the low low getting backdoor activity. I compete with things in my world and going up against a man takes nothing and speaks nothing to where I may lack. Competition with another woman is natural and in my realm or world.
Dear Blog
August 30th, 2011
2:00 pm
My bestie is having conversations with my boyfriend behind my back,or so thet think. O know there is nothing sexual going on,but should I confront them? I’m covering for someone today so I’m going to check back dor your responses.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
2:01 pm
Celisea – Thanks girl, you get it! Ain’t got nothing to do with me!
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
2:01 pm
Hey dude, this is room full of men, who are you trying to impress??
cba – Well, it’s no secret but many gay guys are heavy into fitness & keeping their bodies looking tight. So if I were a gay man and looking for some action, what better way than but to fish in the locker room hanging out with my wang out? lol
kimmie
It was no thang for my roomie in college to get out the shower still dripping wet and come into my room asking me for something in her bday suit. Not sure if that had anything to do with her coming out of the closet years later. 
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
2:05 pm
cba- exactly, thats the one, gay as a two dollar bill… no matter what he tell you, if he just hangin around (pun intended) in the locker room like its all good, dude is gay or curious, and waiting for someone to look him in the eyes so he know who the other ones are…ya’ll can have that gym, give me jump rope and a weight bench, I’m good…lol.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:06 pm
i’m going to go out on a limb and place my bet that Exiled will not get a straight answer to the rear end question. My guess
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
2:10 pm
I read this blog almost daily, and this is the first time I feel kinda bad doing so…..Alot of the comments (especially from the guys) sound a bit Homophobic….. Could it be that there are a few men here that are over compensating for something? ( Or lack of something)
cba
August 30th, 2011
2:10 pm
SlimNu, I’m very aware of that……you see them all the time
I also see a few lesbo from time to time. There was a couple at the
Conyers LAFit, one lady was very attractive and the other, it took a
a few looks to convince me she’s female.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
2:10 pm
DB – I would ask my gf. TheDude took my bestie to lunch one Saturday last year. They went to lunch so he could plan a surprise party for me. It ended up not being a surprise because of some different things that happened.
Once she found out that the surprise part of the party planning was off, she told me immediately what was going on.
Could be something like that going on. Or…could be something shady…either way, you won’t know if you don’t ask.
But then too…the question for you….How do you know they are talking to each other behind your back?
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:11 pm
(Big) John Holmes (the legendary por no star who died of aids) once said in an interview that “there are two kinds of men in this world. One goes to a skinny dip and takes his clothes off and immediately jumps in the water. The other takes his clothes off and strolls on the bankfor awhile. I reckon I’m a bank walker”.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:12 pm
The answer may have more validity in his eyes if it came from a man.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
2:12 pm
cba – Conyers LaFit?…well, well, well…I see I have a fellow blogger on my side of town. I live off the next exit from there.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:12 pm
At Weekly. Not homophobic, but is not a lifestyle I personally choose. As for others, whatever floats their boat.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:15 pm
@Dear Blog ~ do you have any special day coming up? If not, nothing wrong with asking why they talk so much with each other.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:16 pm
Although I guess I got used to communal showers in college (very old dorm) and in PE and the Army (and frankly don’t care what every one else has or what they think of mine). Just soap quickly and don’t let eyes wander. And if you drop your soap, you leave it.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:16 pm
Casual Observer, I was born natural…that means straight.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
Interesting, RandyT ~ I would have thought you would have said the opposite given what someone just said about walking around nekkid in the locker room scounting for some action.
cba
August 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
Yeah Slim, I know you live Conyers. You mentioned Marshall bar and grill to me recently. I remembered once, Ared said she had to google Conyers/Rockdale
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
2:20 pm
Weekly Reader, glad you chimed in with that bit of homosexual propoganda…I can’t say that I see anything overtly deragotory toward the LBGT community today…folks that just speaking on different situations, the biggest problem with the homosexual community is not that straight folks don’t respect them or their rights, but that they want Extra Rights not afforded to anybody just becuase they sleep with the same sex…its their own bigotry that breeds some of the problem.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
2:21 pm
I was born natural…that means straight
I have no idea why but I thought that was FUNNY
cba
August 30th, 2011
2:26 pm
Randyt, playing football in high school and taking a shower in locke room was no big deal. Also living in the dorms at college was the same. Somehow 30 or 35 years removed from that time period, seeing a naked man in the locker room, I just drop my head
Willie Dynamite
August 30th, 2011
2:26 pm
Afternoon All,
Nothing on topic.
Jake – I agree with you. The truly hompohobic folks are very easily spotted. However I’ve noticed as well that the Gay community will paint that picture with anyone that doesn’t agree with their lifestyle.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:27 pm
Jake I agree, some not all try to force their lifestyle on others. And then they want us to change the laws to accomodate their lifestyle. What’s up with that? I don’t like flamboyant people period, does not matter if they are gay or straight. At any rate I used to despise gays. After much thought I realized they are people to but I should not have to change my lifestyle or something about myself for them. I respect them as people but I don’t deal with them nor do I discriminate against them….well I probably do because I would not hire a gay farm hand knowingly. But the whole gay thing doesn’t bother me anymore I just have my mind on other stuff and business in other places.
cba
August 30th, 2011
2:28 pm
No comments about Cher’s daughter / son will be on DWTS ???
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
2:28 pm
I am sorry Jake, What extra rights are they asking for???
cba
August 30th, 2011
2:28 pm
I wonder who’s his lucky dancing partner??
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:29 pm
@ Leggs, don’t recall the Army ever asking me if I wanted private accomodations. The only thing I remember is how nice my drill sergeant was when he would lightly shake my shoulder around 9:00 AM and ask me how I wanted my eggs cooked. yeah right.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:30 pm
cba, will Chaz be dancing with a man or a woman? What about Nacny Grace?
Willie Dynamite
August 30th, 2011
2:30 pm
CBA – can you picture the producer approaching the subject of whether he/she wanted a male or female dance partner?
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:31 pm
Probably the least experienced dancer on the show will get Chaz.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:32 pm
Chaz will be dancing with a woman!
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:34 pm
Think about it. Can you even visualize Chaz in a ball gown. Well, Macy Gray did wear one. Nonetheless, Chaz is fully a medically made man now (I believe).
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:34 pm
Leggs, why the exclamation point? We get it Chaz is a man woman now. Ladies, what if you find out the man you are dating was once a woman. I already know how most men would act although I am sure some would still stick with the man woman.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:38 pm
I have an almost gay story. My friend and I were going to a game downtown and we saw waht we though was a fine female from a distance in a skin tight dress. I positioned my truck over so that we could drive by where she was on the sidewalk to get a better look, once we got within about ten years we both figured out that it was a transvestite. Neither one of us could joke with the other because we were both fooled. I am glad that light was green so that we could keep on driving. LOL
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
Leggs, my 2:34 to you was a joke.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
I think something would still seem a bit strange if I ever came across a woman man. Seems there would still be some hint of their biological make-up. Now, I will admit, some of them are hard to immediately point out.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
@PR ~ I wrote it the way I saw it written somewhere yesterday. Nothing more, nothing less.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
Told the story before, but pulled up a transexual (looking for tall women for a friend) on Match one time. He/she/it was prettier than most of the women I’ve dated…now that was scary. The adam’s apple was a bit of turnoff and the pics were Glamour Shots which I personally hate. Nonetheless, the pics had all the construction workers at the site thinking he/she/it was hot…until they actually read the profile.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:39 pm
@PR ~ Oh, Ok.
Willie Dynamite
August 30th, 2011
2:42 pm
Football fans – anyone want to start our own Pro/College pickem league/
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:42 pm
Here is a question, should one let his/her date know that they are a transexual or used to be gay on the first date? LOL
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:43 pm
Is there a game this Saturday? If so, what time and who’s playing?
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:43 pm
Willie, I am game for the Pro Pick’em. Also SI has the Falcons winning the Super Bowl. LOL
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:44 pm
@PR ~ Yep. That needs to be told on the first date before we wind up on Jerry Springer.
cba
August 30th, 2011
2:44 pm
Honestly, another person sexual orientation has no impact on me as long as you don’t approach me or mess with my money. Having said that, I think Hollywood is trying to force or pretend that Chaz and others like her/him is living a natural and “normal” life.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:46 pm
cba, I guess the powers that be think that once there is enough familiarity that everyone will accept it.
Willie Dynamite
August 30th, 2011
2:46 pm
PR – I saw that. Also Beano Cook (ald Azz) picked UGA to goto the BCS Natl Champ game.
I’m down for the Pro pickem (yahoo) you want to be the commish? I’m sure we can get at least 10 folks from here to pick games weekly.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
2:47 pm
Honestly, it should be stated before the first date. Let them make the decision….
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:50 pm
I personally hope/pray to the Higher Power, that no one I date turns out ot have “beans and franks”. I hope it would never get past my radar/gaydar long before actually meeting. Nope, no beans, no franks.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
2:50 pm
I’ve seen a few documentaries or shows about folks that undergo sex changes. Many of the man women don’t disclose that fact until way on down in the dating timeline because from what a few said, they like Straight men…not gay men. There was an instance shown where the man-woman didn’t let his partner know about the change until they had already gotten emotionally involved. However, the guy ended up deciding to stay with the man-woman after finally being told. I guess after that much time, why not go ahead and stay with him. What would you guys do if that happened to you?
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
2:54 pm
I saw a show recently where a guy killed the transsexual that he married because he wasn’t told until they were on their honeymoon. Buddy has been in jail for damn near 30 years or so.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
2:55 pm
…past, present, or future. Nope.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
2:56 pm
Weekly Reader,
When I say extra rights, I mean the approach of the community. You commented that maybe some of us were attempting to over compensate…but really, no one was speaking negatively or spewing any kind of hate…the LGBT community complains that they are persecuted, which at one time was true, but really if you are gay you are gay and have at it…but the comparisions to the Civil Rights movement are inaccurate, to think that anyone who does not want to be subjected to that is inherently prejudiced is inaccurate…as Purp stated its really the flamboyancy that bothers people, all the men dressing as women, women dressing as men, etc is what offends some….what anybody does in their bedroom is their business, the LBGT community wants the world to know that they do this and expect others not to form any opinion, though its forced into conscious…the flags, stickers, parades, nipple patches, men in 6inch heels, azz out jeans, etc…why must so many make their lifestyle fodder for public commentary…then turn around and call me prejudice for not liking it…As the great philospher of hip-hop, Common once said, “if I don’t like it, I don’t like, that don’t mean that I’m hatin”
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
2:57 pm
I will play but I don’t want to be the commish I have 5 to many Fantasy Leagues I am in. I don’t know College Football that much but I did pick Auburn to win it all last year after watching one of their games. LOL Let me get a good weekend of SEC football in and I will give a prediction. I do know the champion will come from the SEC or maybe FSU may win it all.
Willie Dynamite
August 30th, 2011
2:58 pm
ummm maybe I’m a chauvinist but its no way in heyal I could get emotionally invested before I THOROUGHLY engaged in some Adult activities. You might fool me at the light for a quick min but thats bout it. nawwwwww man
Willie Dynamite
August 30th, 2011
3:01 pm
Purp – give me a few days and I will set it up if no one else steps up as commish.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
3:01 pm
Jake, I wonder how gay people would react if there was a straight bumper sticker, tshirts, weekends or parades etc?
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
3:02 pm
The gay pride machine is an interesting vehicle.
I agree with Jake in that the push for gay rights is not like the Civil Rights Movement. Because quite frankly, at its core, the Civil Rights Movement was about economic empowerment and equality.
Please believe that the GP move is not hurting for money.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
3:03 pm
Speaking of college football, does anyone know when ESPN is bringing College GameDay to Atlanta this year?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
3:04 pm
Willie – From what i hear, a doctor can really manipulate the skin to look better than a real cooch. I think they had already been intimate before though and guy thought nothing of it. I mean really, who sits back to question if the person they are with that sounds, looks and acts like the opposite sex, is really biologically the opposite sex? Unless some red flags go up, I probably wouldn’t question it either. It seems to me that Hawaiin folks and dudes from Thailand have features that make it harder to spot a fake. They have some beautiful men
D Dub of the MSP (formerly D Dub of the ATL)
August 30th, 2011
3:05 pm
Hello all… no time to read everyone’s posts today, but I wanted to chime in for a second because I am one of those people that moved cross country… got married, and got divorced 492 days later. I know I have eluded to this in here before, but basically the woman I married was sleeping with a co-worker the entire time we were married – and now after the dust has settled, I discovered that I married someone I didn’t really know primarily because we were in different cities and I only got to see what she portrayed to me instead of what was really going on. Needless to say there was a reason she had to import a dude willing to marry her.
The only thing I can say is without risk there is rarely any reward. I was burned on this more than I could ever imagine, but on the flipside I have learned a lot about myself and have grown by leaps and bounds personally and professionally as I come up on living here three years in October. I’d rather be where I am than sitting in Atlanta wondering what could have been.
One bad outcome of this experience I think is my ex has made it incredibly harder for the next one to get close to me. My internal struggle right now is dealing with trying to balance that open trusting self that I once was with the “trust no-one” mantra I adopted once I caught wind of what she had been doing behind my back… it should make for an interesting book.
My 2 cents
August 30th, 2011
3:09 pm
Would I relocate for Love!!!! Only if, and it’s a BIG IF, we were already living together and they got a job transfer! Would I relocate for Love in a long distance relationship??? I don’t think I would! Long distance relationships don’t work for me as I require WAY TOO MUCH attention!
The only thing I would do is MAYBE move accross town if I was a renter! Move out of state, sell my house and move, quit my job and move – more than likely NOT!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:11 pm
@ D Dub…feel for you. Nothing worse in this world than trust betrayed…only one that I am aware of ever was unfaithful while with me (engagement not marriage), but it takes almost as much out of you when they break it off and are in bed before you have time to turn around. Even if they aren’t unfaithful before they break up, sometimes they have already found another lily pad to hop to. I feel your truat issues, it leaves almost permanent and sometimes permanent scars.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
3:11 pm
D Dub, it’s good that you are not scorned after going through all of that.
SlimNu, how does a doctor make “it” be able to get wet. And there would be no “red” flags because the shim would not be able to have a period. Also how does a doctor make a woman into a man be able to have an erection. Being a man is more than farting and scatching your balls.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:14 pm
@ D Dub, as I was explaining to my current lady, a man needs someone in his life who he knows he can trust when he pulls off the “man armor”. I’ve been lucky enough to have it, and been unlucky enough to not have it. Men hesitate to show vulnerabiltiy under the best of circumstances…one bad experience can keep those walls up for a lifetime sometimes.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
3:18 pm
Awwww, so sorry, D Dub you had to go through that. I despite conniving men and women. Eventually, that lie you live will come out and bite you in the a$$. It behooves me that so many feel it’s ok for them to take the heart of another and play with it. There’s a reason so many of us are walking solo.
WhenThedustSettles
August 30th, 2011
3:19 pm
I would move for love…if I had a job already lined up. As a matter of fact I’m dating someone who lives out of state and its getting serious. I was married for 23 yrs and moved all over the world with my spouse for “love” and it still didn’t work out. Love is a leap of faith, but you have to be smart about it. If I should decide to move for love, I have the common sense to ensure that I have a job already lined up. I don’t think anyone should just jump up and move because they’re in love if they’re not financially solvent. Most couples today have to pool their resources even if they live in the same city. I love my man, but I love myself first.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
3:19 pm
@PR ~ is that another joke, because he is somewhat scorned??? Bitter maybe not, but scorned, yeah.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
3:20 pm
Purp – Those are all some very good questions but problem is I don’t have any answers for you. Regarding a doctor making a wang into a cootie, I think it’s easier to go from man to chick parts than woman to dude parts.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
3:23 pm
Men hesitate to show vulnerabiltiy under the best of circumstances
Randyt – That seems to be the truth…the beau and I were talking about that last night and he claims he’s never been hurt before like that. He said he even gives me the side-eye at times. It can be frustrating for a person that is actually worthy of being trusted.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
3:24 pm
Leggs, I don’t think he is scorned because it reads as if he is willing to try again..it’s just that it would be hard for someone to get close to him. Bitter would me that he is not even thinking about it. IMO
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:26 pm
I worked with a guy that had a penile implant once. He could pump it up and she would ride until she was tired and he would let the air out. Worked for him but I always wondered if there was any feeling there…and didn’t feel like asking…TMI even for me.
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
3:26 pm
So LGBT community should not want to live in a society that does not discrimate on them based on their sexual orientation? They should be OK with not having the same legal rights that married people have when it comes to the person that they chose to spend their lives with…They should be OK with being run out of the military for nothing other than who they choose to be intimate with…. The Police should be able to bust into a gay nightclub and put everyone face down on the floor right??? And the civil rights movement was about more than economic access… The same discrimination that so many great people fought and died to prevent is now being turned on another minority… And its no more right now than it was then….
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:30 pm
Yeah Slim. I’m as open a guy as you will find, but under the best of circumstances, I’m a little afraid of showing vulnerability (even though men grow weary of the facade no matter how much bravado we display). It is just so hard to trust when someone has used that trust against you. As bad as it sounds, it seems that women have a lot more experience with betrayal and seem like they can deal with it better than a man. Not fair that it should lean in either direction, but men really have a hard time with betrayal.
cba
August 30th, 2011
3:33 pm
The air at QTrip is free lol
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
3:34 pm
Weekly Reader – when it comes to what was at the ROOT of the Civil Rights Movement, we will agree to disagree.
But I can promise you this, I would bet everything you own that MLK would never have been able to make a racist apologize or bow down to the Black community in the same way that the gay community can instill fear in the likes of any celebrity/public personality that utters anything that can even be considered silghtly homophobic.
As to whether or not members of the gay community should have any expectation of rights, anyone can have any expectation they want to.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
3:34 pm
Randy – As far as the implant goes, seems it isn’t much different than a battery operated toy to have a guy that has to pump, pump, pump it up in order to perform. Then I wonder if he’s able to climax under those circumstances.
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
3:38 pm
So cool… so That community should not want the SAME freedoms and rights that you and I have? Nothing extra nothing less…
Beatrice Kiddo
August 30th, 2011
3:39 pm
I’m sure that the members of NAMBLA would love to have an expectation that some day their practices, beliefs, urges that they consider natural would be acceptable and be supported by laws that grant them rights. You can go to their website and it is clearly stated regarding their desires to “end oppression.”
It seems as if the line that is drawn in society’s sand about what is right or wrong, discrimination or not, is erased and redrawn based on at what point a society is in its beliefs regarding of a particular subject and its ability to accept those beliefs.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:40 pm
@ Weekly. One of the thinsgs that makes the LGBT problem hard to accept is that one is talking about a “lifestyle” rather than a race. That said, I guess most people don’t care much anymore compared to what our youth and uprbringing taught us. Gays are accepted now in a way that was unimaginable just a decade or so ago. My company’s monthly newsletter had pictures of a “partner” of one of our female employees celebrating her receiving a degree of some kind. That by itself demonstrates how different the definition of “acceptable” has become. There is sometimes a perception in the straight community that gay issues have so saturated the news and media that we grow tired of it sometimes. NPR must have a dozen major news stories a week about some gay issue, even though the general belief is that less than 5% or so of the population is gay. An example of how this all can be misconstrued was when Ellen degerous came out. Her show lost popularity not because she was gay, but that gay issues were the center of the plots and it just wan’t as funny and entertaining anymore. What can be be often be misconstrued as sexual bigotry is often just a lack of interest. Most straights accept gays, they just don’t want every news story to be about it.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:42 pm
sorry for the typos meant “Degenerous” and “wasn’t as funny”.
cba
August 30th, 2011
3:43 pm
There was a lady on the Warren Ballentine show today and she said she would have sex with her husband 5 or 6 HRS a day,,,a day and he still cheated. Maybe he had that penile implant….a day!
She said he was addicted to variety. Hell, he need to have his DNA analyze.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
3:44 pm
@PR ~ I stand corrected. Scorn a bit too harsh since he’s gingerly still stepping into the world of dating.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
3:46 pm
@cba re: “5 or 6 HRS a day”…now I’m really depressed, thanks LOL. What was the old joke about the farmer who hooked himself up to the new milking machine…”feed him and fan him because it’s set for six gallons”.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
3:48 pm
The only legal right that I can see that gay individuals in this country is denied is that to marry. And if they want to do so, then by all means, I believe that they should go right ahead.
As to the other examples of discrimination that you gave, I can attest to the fact that while the Civil Rights Movement resulted in great strides being made, it did not erase discrimination or racism.
And as certain as those actions and beliefs remain blights against society as a whole, gays being allowed the rights of marriages will do little to make it acceptable to those who deem it unacceptable.
And please believe that should something happen in an “urban” club that requires the police to respond, every Black person in the room will be face down on the dance floor while the police gain controll of the situation. The only difference is, it won’t make the news and there will be little chance of a multi-million dollar settlement.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
3:48 pm
You can’t choose your ethnic group (civil rights) but you can sure choose your lifestyle. If you choose to live a certain way deal with it and the choice you made.
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
Randy if It were just a matter of dis interest, then it would be one thing, But I have a gay brother and I see the struggle that he has endured… He was a Captain in the US Army that had been to Iraq twice and was preparing to go to Afganistan… Had served his country proudly for 13 years and then was booted form the military because it was found out that he was gay… Served in teh infantry for 13 YEARS!!! Fighting for a country that was so willing to dismiss him as some guy that likes dudes… If he had been injured in teh war, His life partner would not have legally had a say so in his care because he can not marry…I will not paint with a wide brush on this, But Pic up the paper and read how many piliticians would like to change the constitution to add that kind of discrimination to it. Please tell me that you would have the same kind of indifference if the there was a push to change the constitution to outlaw interracial marriage….
cba
August 30th, 2011
3:56 pm
Randyt, I’m not depressed because all I can think……yo wang won’t have any skin left. After 5 or 6 hrs, I’m sure there wouldn’t be any moisture left. As Richard Pryor said once…..that “boy” can lie his azz off LOL
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
3:58 pm
Purple You are in denial…. As straight person I can say with all honesty that I never chose to be straight, I just am…. I was raised in a home with two parents and 4 Brothers and sisters… one of my brothers is gay… played football went to college to play ball in fact… Served in the Army for 13 years… He did not chose to be gay anymore than we chose to be black…
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
3:59 pm
Well, color me unaware. I thought they did away with that gay military stuff years ago. Who knew?
Okay, yeah…they should fix that too.
But again, my point, just because something is made legal, just because you are given the legal right to do a thing, does not mean that it will be accepted, celebrated, embraced.
Homophobia, discrimination against, persecution of gays will not go away with the stroke of a pen. Because…those that have the capacity to feel, believe, think, act that way anyway will just get craftier with it.
It would really be nice if we could just buy the world a Coke and keep it company and teach everyone to hold hands and sing Kumbaya. But it’s not happening. The world does not work that way. And that does not make me against gay rights, it just makes me a realist.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:00 pm
Sucks for your brother but those actions happened to him for the choices that he made knowingly. He knew the military’s stance on gays before he joined so he has nobody to blame but himself.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
“Had served his country proudly for 13 years and then was booted form the military because it was found out that he was gay…”
I have never understood this. What difference does it make in the big scheme of things. Why boot someone who has successfully help keep America safe. I don’t understand. After 13 years, what are you afraid of?
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
4:02 pm
Weekly Reader,
No and No to those examples of systematic discrimination that you just described…but gays should be able to enter into a marriage-type contract, but not a marriage. A marriage has biblical origins, and the sinful coupling of the same-sex should not be called a marriage if you want to be technical about…The Police bustin in the place was wrong, but wrong cause it was wrong, not wrong cause the Patrons were gay, been happening for years in every kind of bar….hey reader, as a Black man, I cannot hide that I am black, its overt, its apparent, its reconizable upon viewing me, someone’s sexual orientation becomes known by that person’s own volunteerism of the information…two totally different situations, no matter what you tell yourself….Unless you are fuggin in the streets, I don’t have to know someone is gay, I can’t hide my skin color. Honestly, I think discrimination is bad in all its forms, but there is a level of responsibility that the LGBT community should accept in creating some of issues that make the topic so contentious…
let me give you a clear example…so I go to the I-Bar in East Atlanta one night, I go out to the patio on the back and the bar next door caters to the gay community, I happen to look over and there is a dude standing out there in nothing but speedo’s and pink running shoes at 1am like that ish normal…so I guess I am not to think nothing about it even though it forced me to view something that’s disturbing to say the least, if you that way, be that way…but be respectful of other people. Give it, Get it..Its called public decency!!!
The problem is that the issue harkens back to each individuals Morals and beliefs, being raised in the church I know to , “hate the sin, not the sinner” so everybody all good with me, I am not the final judge. and BTW, Homosexualilty is not a Felony Sin, its not on its own scale or anything, its like stealing or anything other.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:04 pm
@PR ~ no need for him to blame himself. He thought your life and the life of others was more important than his own sexual preference. He wanted to protect America, gays, straight, homeless, everyone!
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
4:05 pm
Naw…most people I know don’t go into the military for the sole purpose of protecting America. They go because they need a job and an opportunity to advance.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:05 pm
Weekly Reader – You’re comparing apples to oranges.
Blacks folks couldn’t a dang thing. Nothing…voting, taking the front entrace, riding the front of the bus, yassuh and nawsuh, couldn’t vote, could disagree with whites..and more..without ramifications. What laws were broken to walk in the front door of an establishment. Seriously. Blacks held and regarded as subserviant, women used, beat for the attempt of freedom, sold and bought like animals.
Now you want to compare gays rights???? What rights?? Not the same. You can go where you want, eat what you want, buy what you want, vote how you want, say what you want, live where you want, so forth and so on.
For my personal preference to be whether or not to see man on man go at is also within my rights. I can opt to see or not. To push a certain behavior down someone’s throat that shouldn’t have to swallow (no pun intended) is not the same.
I’m not going to be politically correct. Put it together. Intimacy is face to face from start to finish, fits naturally like a puzzle. From kissing to orgasims. Hard leggs is to soft leggs as p@nis is to puddy. Naturally fit, natural actions and reactions.
Every hole on or in the body serve it’s purpose. The mouth for eating (no pun intended), the nose for breathing, the ears for hearing, the v@gina having babies, the butthole for excretions.
If you opt to use any body openings it for something other than it’s intended purpose, well should clearly indicative that the ying ain’t getting placed to the yang. Man and woman both have one sex organ. Two penis skews the equation of 1 + 1 = 2. Woman with a strap-on is out of sync. What you need to find pleasure is there already. A man using his hole for excretions don’t add up. Both are out of sync with nature and the intended purpose. A man can NEVER have a baby so how natural is it for him to receive sperm or seman.
If God’s creation alone ain’t example enough for understanding it ain’t about rights but about seeing the unnatural then deductive reasoning and examples should get you there…in understanding how someone could be resistant to accepting something or a way of life that’s out of sync with nature and the natural.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:08 pm
Hey Weekly, I am not black and I am not white either. And you can have your opinion as I have mine. I am thankful for his service but his military service even if and when the accept gays…they will never be fully accepted in the rank and file just like in society now…they will never fully be accepted. People can live how they want to live but they should know what they are up against when they make a choice. I’ve heard some racist admit to rather having a minority president rather than a gay/lesb one.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:09 pm
Never said “sole purpose.” But some do go to protect America. No doubt many are there because it’s better than going to jail, family booted them out, or they need money for college. There’s a whole slew of reasons for entering the military…all of which I could never do so I salute them.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:10 pm
Good post Jake
Weekly Reader is probably UGAman
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
4:10 pm
P. Reign… Really??? See this is the kind of mindset that we should all be fighting against…. its that type of hatred and ignorance that allows bigotry to still thrive in our society today…. Purple…I gotta ask.. Why so angry??? Did a gay dude make you question yourself????
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 30th, 2011
4:10 pm
Afternoon All!
Jake – I had an entire post typed out and it damn near mirrored your 4:02. So I’ll just co-sign….
On the main topic: as someone said earlier ( I was speed reading so forgive me), i would relocate for marriage, my husband. Not for a boyfriend.
SCool – phone mail chica!
cba
August 30th, 2011
4:12 pm
Celisea I hope you feel better. That was alot to get off your chest j/k I enjoyed reading it.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:14 pm
Weekly if you knew how to read you would have read that I have no problem with gay they can do what they want to do, just don’t expect the world to bend because they made a choice. You can call me what you want or think what you want but I am comfortable with my opinion and I won’t get all caught up in emotion while stating them. You might want to check and see if you were really “born straight” because you are sounding really moist right now.
Leggs, everyone who joins the military did not do so to defend our country, some of them had no other options. But like I typed earlier I am thankful for his service.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:16 pm
Side note: Celisea typed puddy and p@nis..wow Okay back to the program.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
4:17 pm
Purp – what you said is no different than the point that I have made on more than one occasion this afternoon.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
4:17 pm
Weekly?
Your bro ever tried female pink tail?
what does he say to u about that,why is it not tasty, like it is to us, normal heterosexuals?
Weekly Reader
August 30th, 2011
4:18 pm
Celisea…I am not making reference to religion… If I did that i would have to start to talk about all of the lies that are told in the church everyday… I am talking about basic rights as an American…. You worship how and where you chose… just make sure the PREACHER is not Fugging boys or in the closet or beating the hell out of his wife or robbing the community…. I simply stated that as a gay person My brother should be afforded teh same rights that everyone else has nothing more and nothing less… Whats wrong with that????
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:18 pm
@PR ~ I’ve acknowledged that.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:18 pm
@ Weekly…I agree that your brother was treated unfairly. When I was in the Army there was fear of being “in a foxhole” with a gay (or a woman for that matter) and that has certainly changed with the changes in society. Now I suspect most don’t care as long as they know that guy next to them is covering their backs. The bias lies more with older Americans than the new recruits (as does racial bias largely for that matter). Change AND acceptance takes time. It think that if there is resistance it is caused by the speed at which the gay community has ppushed it’s agenda. My take.
To make this slightly lighter, I remember when gay rights started getting big in the 80s and gay marriage and civli unions were being discussed, thinking that if gays want marriage, then they also have to face the same lawyers and write just as big a checks in their divorces. At the end of the day, all I ask is that whatever one’s agenda, just don’t bother me with it, okay.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:18 pm
(pointing at my eyes then to Sexy Cool’s eyes) We are here! Must be because we are runners. LOL
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:19 pm
@Ex ~ hush, it’s not even tasty to you…what cha talking bout Willis?
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:21 pm
Okay Leggs your 4:19 was funny.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:21 pm
cba – That wasn’t a vent….I was just saying. I didn’t see the need to be all eloquent as it just makes sense. Well, wait to some of us not all. I agree though. I can’t help being black and who I am and I certainly can’t change history….although we are all acutely aware. I’m sick of hearing folks talking about homophobic. Do you and K.I.M. Folks make choices all the time, just be prepared to live with what you decided. Whether it’s a bad choice in the opposite sex and the drama that comes with or same sex and the drama that comes with. I have no empathy or sympathy as it’s not something God created nor intended. If you want to like the same sex…just say it and do you but don’t blame God or nature. And don’t blame the world for not accepting. No difference, IMO of society accepting a man that brings a woman down or vice versa. Everybody will speak to it, pass opinions on it, say it couldn’t be them…..but it’s the victim that will have to leave with a poor choice or the consequences that could result. But they certainly can’t blame the world.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:22 pm
I doubt Weekly is UGA, UGA would have made some pointed comments that involved the AA commmunity and President Obama by now.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
4:22 pm
I think it’s fair to say gay is unnatural?
u getting some rights but it ain’t normal
No argument there!
@Randyt,the ladies wldnt answer my anal qstions.
I’ll assume the answer fir them, then.
It’s an uncomfortable question to them I guess!
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
4:23 pm
Leggs, I munch on Queen.
Not a natural but I try!
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:24 pm
Weekly Reader – I simply stated that as a gay person My brother should be afforded teh same rights that everyone else has nothing more and nothing less… Whats wrong with that????
Your brother is getting the same rights. Just not acceptance of his lifestyle. Right Lifestyle….Right Lifestyle….Rights Lifestyle. Naaah those are two different things.
Hush PR
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:25 pm
I was being funny PR. Why do folks chose to come him and combat racism. We’re all in the majority and those the nonblack regulars seem to be okay here too.
Ain’t it a blog or website for venting about racism?
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:26 pm
And Weekly Reader, any pastor, preacher, minister, priest molesting any sex should be fried…no doubt.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
4:29 pm
Hey Mo, how are you pretty lady?
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:29 pm
Off topic. I am…oh never mind, TMI. Sometimes those things one has to leave behind while traveling are missed more than others, and I’m missing some things lol.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:29 pm
Munching and liking to munch is not the same. You gave the impression, at least to me, it’s more obligatory than anything else. If you had your druthers, you would never do it. That’s what I got.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Celisea, I know. I’m just “passin” for whatever group is in the majority on a given day. LOL
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
4:31 pm
Weekly?
On the flip side,if some of these men wanna hit other men,it’s their choice,that leaves us heteros with even more femail tail!
Fellas,?,that ain’t a bad thing!
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:32 pm
PR – Some folks are just a good fit…nothing to do with color
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
4:33 pm
Leggs,for ur info,my Wang has a taste feel.
I got taste buds on that tip!
No wonder head tastes so good!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 30th, 2011
4:35 pm
Im good Jake, whats good with you?
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
4:35 pm
Enter your comments here
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:35 pm
Well I think today was a civil conversation without any personal attacks…well almost.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:36 pm
Exiled, are you saying you are the ‘taster’, the ‘tastee’ or my personal favorite ‘both’?
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
4:37 pm
I’m good just tryin to get some straightnin it this thang today…lol
Saywhat
August 30th, 2011
4:38 pm
Absolutely not…without marriage first!
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:38 pm
Anyone heard from Raqi, AmazonRed or For Real?
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:39 pm
Whatever, Ex. You can’t skirt around that one. Dress it up anyway you like, I already know the real deal.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
4:39 pm
Exiled..its good for the fellas unless you have turned in your player card already.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
4:39 pm
Randyt?
I do taste, dually!(mouth and Wang)
Both limbs can feel
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
I think of Raqi often, but haven’t heard from her or any of the others. Well, ForReal will never contact me, but ARed will pop in every so often (lol).
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
Now Leggs, what are you suggesting about Exiled?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
Jake – LOL! I see! Its a lil heavy in here this afternoon! I was ready to speed-read and get my laugh on! Gwine on and handle it then pimpin!
Leggs – LOL!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:41 pm
Gotcha Me….low. All is good.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:43 pm
Ladies, this is really personal and I truly apologize, but have you ever cut yourself while shaving…? How long did ‘it’ take to heal?
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
4:44 pm
Mo…I figured it had been a while since you heard that phrase….lol
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
@RandyT ~
Not suggesting anything. He told us he would prefer not to taste. He doesn’t care to munch. He only does, every so often, because he knows his wife likes it, but he doesn’t care for it.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
Randyt – Not sure what area you’re referencing but when I first started shaving under my arms I would cut myself. I can do it like a pro and in my sleep. Usually though I’d put vaseline or neosporin on the cut…healed in no time or at least the pain of the initial cut was soon gone.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
4:47 pm
Randyt, I’ve always wondered…is that your first name or your name with the letter “t” on the end?
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:47 pm
Good question Randyt, I don’t want to know the answers though. My wife wanted me to shave her while she was pregnant and could not get a good view of herself. I declined because I don’t know if my hand was steady enough not to mess up any of her special lady parts. Sooo I just bought her an electric water proof shaver. LOL
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:47 pm
@RandyT ~ I only shave one place and never cut myself.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 30th, 2011
4:47 pm
Jake – you are so right! I had to laugh first!
“He doesn’t care to munch”…..okay I had to laugh just reading that! LMAO!!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Sorry Celisea, I was trying tactfully trying to talk about shaving ‘you know what’. Have a reason to ask believe it or not.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
4:49 pm
Ladies have you ever cut yourself while shaving your pubic hairs? (See Randyt sometimes you just have to jump right in)
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:51 pm
Thanks PR. Randy is one name, T is initial.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:51 pm
Shaving and getting cut there is NUFFIN compared to the itch while it’s growing back….
That’s why brazilian is the way to go. Don’t have to worry about the itch factor.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
4:52 pm
PR –
Randy – Yes I’ve cut myself but it’s been so long that I really can’t tell you how long it took to heal. I don’t think it took a very long time though. I guess it depends on the severity of the cut. Is everything still where it should be? lol
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:53 pm
@ Slim Seems like it but I only gave it a cursory inspection
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
4:55 pm
@RandyT ~ get some peroxide, clean it off, then put some neosporin on it. You’d be good as new. Don’t let any lady “stuff” get on it for a few days and you won’t feel the sting (LOLOLOLOL).
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
4:56 pm
I shave. I don’t itch.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
4:57 pm
Thx Leggs, I’ll pass that advice to the injured party and pretend I was offering the advice LOL.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
4:59 pm
Lady “stuff” shouldn’t burn. Ever. The friction may aggravate a nick, but a burn?!?
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
5:00 pm
@SexyC ~ I would think semen on an open cut would burn…hell what do I know?
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
5:01 pm
LOL going to munch and finding nicks cuts and band aids. LOL
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
5:01 pm
If his seed burns – even an open cut, Houston…….
But then too…why would a person be active with an open cut there?!? (lol)
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
5:02 pm
Now, that’s a good question. But, we all know men do stupid stuff to get to IT.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
5:03 pm
I’m guessing the injured party will be as good as new. Just wondering. (My ex-wife could probably have drug it out for months LOL).
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
5:03 pm
No problem Randyt…I figured you was talking about hair in the nether regions.
Celisea
August 30th, 2011
5:05 pm
It’s after 5:00…gotta go!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
5:06 pm
Thanks all…Didn’t have this particular t-shirt before. Have retrieved a lost “string” though ;-0 …quite a fishing expedition and took a bit of trust.
gc
August 30th, 2011
5:10 pm
I am going through that right now. My gf used to lived in NC and I live in los angeles. she couldnt find a job here so she moved to IND where she found a good job. could I move from LA to IND for LOVE? not at this point. Though I do love this woman. WE decided that she will give this job her all and in 6 months to one year if she is not fulfilled then we both will move to a city we both agreed on i.e. EMPIRE STATE OF MIND..
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
5:11 pm
Be a problem solver, not a problem maker.
PEACE ~
LG
August 30th, 2011
8:49 pm
Well, 31 years into our marriage my husband would not relocate 2 1/2 hours away with me even though he hates where we lived, I’ve been the breadwinner in the family and he’s unemployed. I’m sure he’s looking for love if anyone is interested.