Would you relocate for love?
Listen, I’m a hopeless romantic as much as the next girl, but I don’t know how far I would go for love. For instance, could I move cross country? I just read one woman’s leap of faith that landed her across the country, without a job, or a place to live!
While it is easy to say that is something that could never happen to me, I actually admire the courage someone has to relocate. Taking a chance on love is already risky business! Would you be willing to rearrange your life and move to another city?
Things may not have worked out for the young lady, but at least she can say that she tried. That’s more than some of us ever do, really. What are you willing to risk for love?
Have you ever moved to another country or city to be with someone? Would you consider it at all?
Would you ask someone you were seeing to move with you? How serious would your relationship need to be, do you think?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
11:59 am
Purp here is the link for the letter https://steveharvey.com/index.php?option=com_chronoconnectivity&Itemid=88
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:01 pm
SexyCool, smh. LOL It really doesn’t matter if he is gay or not. If a woman thinks a guy is gay then he is gay. LOL
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:06 pm
Yeah I think that lady is embellishing a bit in her letter. Who kept the kids and also if someone jumps out of a closet in my hotel room…I am kicking ass first anf figuring who it is jumping out later. LOL
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
12:09 pm
If this were an actual event, how does a woman go back to a guy that cheated on her with a man? He has not only cheated on you but he’s lied to you about who he really is which is either gay or confused. It’s one thing if he disclosed his bisexuality to her from the jump.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:11 pm
So glad you guys brought up the Strawberry letter. I was going to wait until noon. I agree with whoever said something about giving up the key. Even if she said she was his wife and wanted to surprise him, hotels no longer do that. Hugh liability issue. She can in the closet with premediated intent to commit murder. They were probably at a Motel 6 right off the highway. But more importantly, why send in such a letter asking for advice. Your man is into other men. One word, well three words
Get To Stepping….
Women confuse themselves unnecessarily so. What’s love got to do with it in this instance? WHAT. He love you and he loves him. Even if it was just a fling, it’s a freaking man boinking another man! Those tendencies don’t die as time goes by. Hell no. My heart will hurt, but what do I say…another one bites the dust…
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
12:12 pm
I am kicking ass first anf figuring who it is jumping out later
Purp – that reminds me of the other morning I got up at 6am to go running. The beau I assume was knocked the hell out over in dreamland. So when I left out of the house the alarm talks whenever you open a door. So he said he immediately jumped up out of his sleep and went for his gun not knowing I had left the house. He said it took him a second to realize I was not in the bed and figured it must’ve been me. I laughed when he told me that but I was like, well at least you have some good instincts in there somewhere. Guess he was going to shoot first and figure out the rest later
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:15 pm
And, since she’s missing him and wanting him back, she deserves whatever heartache/grief comes her way. She thinks she’s thinking about her children because he treats them all so richly, but she’s not. She’s a weak, selfish woman with very low self-esteem. Some women are walked over and treated like dormats because they lay themselves to receive such treatment.
SexyCool
August 30th, 2011
12:17 pm
I’m convinced that some letters are not written to ask for advice, but to put folks on blast.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
12:21 pm
Leggs – Who was that comedian that was a guest on the show today? Lavell Crawford I think? He said this is one of those times where the alarm is sounding, the woman is being given ample warning.
It’s up to her to heed the call. Sure, if he treated her & the kids nice like he said & they were engaged, that’s a profound heartache to realize he’s not who he claimed to be. Part of her still may love what she THOUGHT he was. But he should be considered dead at this point to her.
Casual Observer
August 30th, 2011
12:23 pm
” My heart will hurt” ……
But you heart would not hurt as much as his azz would have been had she waited in the closet for another couple of minutes…. LOL
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:26 pm
Some women are treated like dormats because…..
It doesn’t matter Leggs,u can’t have everything u want in life. Who has a perfect life?
She’s getting the D and that’s important to her. And the kids homework is getting done and he’s bringing the bacon.
Some of u ladies with perfect lives but no D are ughhh so angry.
Ughhhhh!(as Wanda Smith wld say)
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:28 pm
I wonder if that does something to a woman’s self esteem if she catches her man with another man. I mean not even another woman? IMO if a man likes anal sex, he’s gay. No offense to any of the men that like it…that’s just my opininon
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:31 pm
Slim I don’t sleep deep at all so I hear everything. Also being out here there are tons of wild things you have to listen for that may be going after the animals in the middle of the night. So it’s not startling to hear gunshots ring out from a home nearby in the middle of the night or day for that matter. LOL I guess that’s another reason realtionships normally last up here…all the women know how to shoot very well. LMBO
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
12:40 pm
…or not…..lol
Confirmed Bachelor
August 30th, 2011
12:42 pm
No thank you.
My Advice for the day, wrong Assumptions can cost you and will.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:43 pm
Yes, kimmie, Lavelle Crawford. He gave a comparision to a car. Something to the effect of when the engine light comes on. There’s trouble under the hood. Something like that.
@Ex ~ It would take you to come on and talk about those women w/o D to be angry. Heck, you got more info yesterday and who isn’t doing anything, but you will find a way to twist it into something negative. Have you noticed the women who admittedly stated they’re abstinate/celibate are quite happy?
And, you may not have everything you want in life, but no one should be treated like a dormat. It says two things. She doesn’t respect herself and he doesn’t respect her either. Instead of walking away from a damaged person, he opts to add to her suffering.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
12:46 pm
What Up…Not relocating….I read through most of the comments and I am with M., as a man I would never put myself in a situation where I have to deal with the unknown…this is not necessarily about power in the relationship either, but really, my traditional upbringing a gentlemanly chauvinistic views…Men=Women, only in the professional ranks..In our personal relationships, the man must be a man, which means there is no way that I am going to drop everything in my life and move in with a lady clear across the country with no job, home,and hope she doesn’t decide one day that its not working…Shiidd, which I would, my Granddaddy would get out his grave and come slap that thought away…
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
12:47 pm
“Part of her still may love what she THOUGHT he was. But he should be considered dead at this point to her.”
Straight to the point!
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
12:48 pm
wish i would, dayum Jake wake up
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:57 pm
Ok Leggs,I’ll be a devils advocate here.
You know there are women whose husbands have cheated on them but have stayed in their relationships for years fir the sake of their kids?
How do u judge those women? Dormats still?
Or u saying she’s a dormat coz it wld have been better if he was cheating with a woman?
We really don’t know her full circumstances and perspective. Ofcourse us people on the outside always seem to gave better answers than those on the inside. That reminds me of the girlfriend with no boyfriend,always upfront with the ‘best’ advice!
When a woman is in knee deep, proly with kuds as well,there are no easy solutions to these issues.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:58 pm
Have better answers
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
12:59 pm
Kids
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:06 pm
The thing about advice is that if someone has not been through it sucessfully or mastered it, I really don’t want to hear anything they have to say about it. Whether it be, relationships, the stock market or changing the timing on an engine.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:09 pm
I’ve said before, in my humble opinion, a woman can be truly bisexual and maybe a streak is in most women, but if man pretends to be bisexual, he is just gay in denial. I suppose there can/might be some true male bisexuals, but they are few and very far between. Not a lot of sense reconciling with a man who has been with another man…it is only a matter of time until…
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
Now PR surely someone doesn’t have to have tried a man to have an opinion about trying a man. I know it is old-fashioned to be straight these days if one is to believe the media, but not just no but hellz no for this kid.
Sassy Me...In it to Win it ;-)
August 30th, 2011
1:19 pm
I suppose there can/might be some true male bisexuals, but they are few and very far between.
Actually a study has just concluded with a premise that many bi men already knew….men can indeed be truly attracted to BOTH sexes and the number of subjects in the study show their out there in large numbers. I think I read in the latter part of last week on MSNBC.com. I have several gay friends who’ve told me this before so it’s nothing new but I guess there’s some science behind it now and all of a sudden they’re acting like they’ve discovered some novel idea.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
Randyt, yeah I’m old school. I just like women only!
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:22 pm
So do you think that there are more men who like men or woman who like women?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
So it’s not startling to hear gunshots ring out from a home nearby in the middle of the night or day for that matter. LOL I guess that’s another reason realtionships normally last up here…all the women know how to shoot very well
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
May be Sassy, but every guy I ever met who had been with both was or sure seemed gay to me. Not a representative sample that would qualify for the Gallup or CNN poll but I just don’t believe, based on what I have seen, that men can be both. Just don’t. Women yes, men no. It is interesting to talk to women about this. They will often candidly admit that they can have some attraction to another pretty woman, but can’t understand how two men could. (Also funny how the vision of two women having relations is a turnon to many man, but a vision of two men doing eachother is a turnoff to most women).
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
Hey Randy, where can I sign…I’m as old-fashion as lemonade and i hate the media.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:25 pm
Dagnabit, I just said a lot and it got eaten.
Let me rephrase – @Ex. No, that doesn’t make her a dormat. Nor is that what I’m saying. If the woman in the letter willingly goes back to this man because she loves him, knowing he’s arm in arm and kissing on other men, she basically has relinquished her self-worth. He may not intentionally set out to hurt her, but hurt is going to come their way. She’s probably hoping this is a phase and he’ll get over it, and he’s probably wondering if he should continue this life style. By her willingly wanting to work this out, to me, means she’s throwing away her self-worth. Whatever comes her way, she beckoned for it.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:28 pm
PR – I can’t even begin to wrap my mind around the count of men liking me versus women liking other women. But if you were to lump them all together, that would probably be a HUGE part of the population.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:30 pm
A guy would date a woman who mentioned that she has had a lesbain experience in the past and eventually fall in love and marry her if everything else went well. I wonder if a woman would do the same with a guy who said he had a gay experience.
I think people should just be who they are, whether they are gay or straight. Just don’t dress like the opposite sex and stay away from me…..lol
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
August 30th, 2011
1:31 pm
The blog nazi nailed me, must have been the term les bian. What I said was my gut feeling is that there are more true gay guys than true gay ladies but I think that is because women can be “straight with curiosity” while men are either “all in or all out”. My opinion.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:33 pm
Randyt, yeah you have to mispell it to get it to post on here.
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:35 pm
If you’re telling me to have better answers, I can’t. My answers are how I feel about them. If you don’t like them, who really cares?
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
Randyt?
Star Jones’s ex man is clearly gay,from the looks. But she went for him still. Until the talk and whispers made her dump him(presumably)
I think in San Fransisco and hollyweird in general,men switch it up hitting both men and women without any problem from the females. I think a lot of that goes on.
Isn’t Will rumored to be a switch hitter but married still?
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
I am truly straight, no curiosity at all.
Purple – No way in H. No way.
Purple Reign
August 30th, 2011
1:38 pm
kimmie, lol. I didn’t think so.
Also, I don’t buy the whole born gay thing either.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 30th, 2011
1:39 pm
Slim
Its got to be more women who like women…you guys are touchy feely naturally, go to the bathroom together and all that kinda ish, are much more comfortable around each other in the unmentiionables and the like….the only time it is acceptable for men to be in each others company in drawers is the locker room, and everybody should be lookin straight ahead and getting dressed in the most expeditious manner possible. Ladies…you should see how a men’s bathroom operates in a public place, you would think there must be naked women on the ceiling, the only authorized time to look at someone or speak is at the sink, all is quiet at the urinal, period.
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
A man messing with another man would do nothing to my self esteem, because that whole lifestyle has nothing to do with me.
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:40 pm
Randyt – I agree that the way you put it seems to be how many folks think. I just can’t for the life of me explain why I feel that way, that women get more leadway to ‘experiment’ and still be considered straight versus a man being blasted as gay if he explores his curiosity of the opposite sex
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:42 pm
@PR ~ a woman probably not. That’s why men like Reynolds (Starr Jones) and that other kid (Terry McMillian’s husband) don’t tell.
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:45 pm
I guess we won’t get a str8 answer but imma ask anyhoo:
how many of u blog chics have been hit by ur man,anal, but still consider(erd)him str8?
SlimNu
August 30th, 2011
1:46 pm
Jake – Well if it’s that structured in the mens restroom, I’d love to see how yall act when you have to bathe in a community shower where there aren’t any stalls. Hopefully, I’ll never have to shower in the same room as other folks. AWKWARD
Leggs
August 30th, 2011
1:46 pm
I’ll answer, Ex. That’s a dumb question!
Exiled!
August 30th, 2011
1:47 pm
It’s Dumb only if u know more than I do.
so what’s the answer anyway?
Casual Observer
August 30th, 2011
1:48 pm
Mr. Reign….. When did you decide to be strait??? Were you born that way??? if you can be born strait, then why is it so hard to believe that a person can be born gay???
kimmie
August 30th, 2011
1:49 pm
Jake – I’m not the touchy-feely kind of gal. I don’t get into that hanging out half or fully unclothed around other women, never have. I am just like a guy in a public locker room – get it done & get dressed as quickly as possible. Just always been that way.