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Dating: Culture clash or match?

A lot of people that I know like to date people who are most compatible with them. Whether it is socioeconomic class, race, or even culture. Culture can be especially tricky in the African American community. Well, technically I can only attest to the African American culture personally, but still.

It was a totally different experience dating a guy who came from money (aka silver spoons) and dating someone who grew up extremely poor. Although I shared common ground with both, the dynamics were definitely different. Not saying good or bad, just…different.

Silver spoons and I clashed on politics, while the guy who grew up poor thought I was way over the top with how I lived (i.e. we had different lifestyles, tastes, etc.)

When it comes to dating, are you comfortable exploring a relationship with someone who has a different culture than you?

How would you handle the “clashes” that may come when there are different socioeconomic classes involved?

How important do you think it is when considering a long term relationship? Does it make it easier when you both have the exact same background?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

205 comments Add your comment

Robert

August 25th, 2011
8:38 am

Uptown Girls -vs- Downtown Girls……It really depends on your taste. Me, personally I love them both. For example regardless of your socio-economic status all women want a man who is attentive to their needs and responds accordingly. Whether I am “uptown” dressed in a tux for a night out or “downtown” playing bid wiss and eating fried chicken. I love experiencing the best of both worlds.

My 2 cents

August 25th, 2011
8:44 am

Good Morning. I think it does matter. I know someone who is considered middle class and currently involved with someone receiving public assistance and they live together. To me there seems to be a clash. Just the simple things seem to be an issue. For example, taking care of something one works hard to achieve. The car is now always dirty instead of always clean (the middle class let the welfare use the car to get back and forth to her part time job while using the second car for themselves.) The public assistance chick is always wasting things like water and food while the middle class one conserves everything because they actually do have to pay for it. The public assistance one decided after the child graduated from high school the kid would go to college but not FASFA was filled out, the SACT or ACT was not taken so she is now upset because the kid can’t get into college because the kids GPA was 2.7. From what I can see, the public assistance chick gets up at 2 pm in the afternoon on the other 5 days she isn’t working while the middle class gets up at day break everyday – even on the weekend when they don’t have to go to work. The middle class gets off work and cooks dinner everyday while the public assistance chick won’t even get up on the 5 days off and make breakfast OR cook dinner. Based on my friends experience, I think it does matter. My poor friend. Although I do know this doesn’t speak for everyone but I just think it matters.

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
8:53 am

Not any more. I’ve seen the good and the bad of this. It wreaked havoc on my marriage, because they were from a higher social strata than my rural East Tennessee upbringing, and no matter how cultured I became, they never saw anything but hick East Tennessee…even though I am more comfortable in a tux or in a fancy restaurant in Manhattan, or London, or Paris, than they are. As the screen name says…BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS).

For a long time now, I have narrowed my focus to women who have degrees, intelligence, and have seen bad times as well as cotillions. That way, I know they are going to fit well on my arm if we attend a social function, but takes her shoes off, puts her legs over mine, and grabs a beer when we get back into the limo. Kind of like the Reese Witherspoon character in Sweet Home Alabama…with a foot in both worlds.

Mr. Unknown

August 25th, 2011
8:54 am

Morning good folks,

‘When it comes to dating, are you comfortable exploring a relationship with someone who has a different culture than you?’ Yes, Life is about exploring, learning, gaining experiences, I hate to hear when someone makes the statement, there are not enough good people to date. Its an excuse for those too afraid to go outside of their comfort zone.

‘How would you handle the “clashes” that may come when there are different socioeconomic classes involved?’ (Thank you google) This is more of can the donkey coexist with the elephant. The answer, sure for two open minded people.

Have a good morning yall

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
9:02 am

That is why I get along so well so far with my current lady friend. We both are from East Tennessee, both graduated from UT, and although she grew up in a household with fabulous wealth, and I grew up with houses on three sides without indoor plumbing,we both have similar values. Even though she grew up in money, it was after being adopted by her new stepfather when she was around 9 or 10, so she had an early upbringing that was not “entititled”. She can be dignified, and yet get down ion the trenches almost as far as me. Works well…although her mother tells her she should marry for money ;-) Fortunately, I am at the low end of the wealth scale, but make enough to keep the spotlight off, lol….and I have a nice house I bought for a fraction of its full value so it looks good.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
9:14 am

Good morning….I need a nap already. As far as the topic goes, I want a guy that treats me right. If he comes from money, as long as he or his family isn’t looking at me like I’m po black trash, then I’m good. My exes family weren’t rich but they were used to nice things, nice homes, and all that jazz. However, the keep up with the joneses or thinking some folks are beneath me mentality would irritate me at times. My folks/fam don’t come from money and struggle like many other people today. However, we are just good down to earth folks. I likes that…

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
9:14 am

Oh, and just like the “Countess” from Housewives sang, Money can’t buy you class lol

Catols

August 25th, 2011
9:15 am

I agree with you Randyt. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you but with the attitudes of the family members. My mother was not very fond of my husband and it definitively caused issues in the marriage. And we were from similar backgrounds. Having dated men from different cultures I can tell you that typically as an American woman it can cause issues. As American women, even here in the south, we are taught to be our own person and in some cultures that doesn’t seem fly.

The first time my boyfriend from Panama told me it was the woman’s job to make sure he had beer. Well lets just say he understood that I was happy to get him a beer if he asked nicely but it wasn’t my job.

Not that I am not open minded to dating men from other cultures, but now I am aware that in some cultures my straightforward approach to life isn’t appreciated. As long as the gentleman is okay with it then we can move forward otherwise I find that one can not have too many friends and we leave the relationship there.

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
9:28 am

Interesting topic this morning….

Casual Observer

August 25th, 2011
9:30 am

Wow!!!! My two cents is really pissing all over poor people this morning……..Sounds to me like 2cents might be a liitle envious that the poor little girl from the projects came across the tracks and put Theo Huxtable on lockdown before she could sink her claws into him…..But tell us this…if she is such a waste of humanity and such a drain on him, why is he still there??? Why do you care????

Back on topic….. One of the best things about our society is that folks can and do have the freedom to move both up and down the ladder when it comes to all of our interactions….Rich girls falls for the handy man…Poor guy makes good and marries the daughter of the CEO…..Maybe we should eliminate some of the boundries and just find teh person that makes us happy…..

Samitha

August 25th, 2011
9:32 am

I dated a Progressive but I’m just not into murderous, world conquering, do-gooder, control freak, thieving, corrupt, two-faced phony’s. That’s why I only date guys who are into liberty, sound money, non-aggression against sovereign countries, peaceful trade, income tax abolition, and marijuana legalization.

It’s the difference between dating a loser and a fake like Obama and a principled statesman like Ron Paul.

Amia

August 25th, 2011
9:36 am

Just because you have money, it doesn’t mean you have class. Just because you don’t have money, doesn’t mean you are classless. I know a guy that was raised in an upper middle class family, but you would NEVER know it. He acts like he was born and raised in projects and lacks education. His sister is the complete opposite. I also know a friend who you would swear was from upper middle class, but she was actually born and raised in the true ghetto. She’ll tell you. But you would never know. It’s about mindset. I love the balance. I love a man who will mix and mingle with my family and friends at good ol southern bbq but also can go to an upscale restaurant and not act like it’s his first time. I love it when I can talk about southern foods/traditions and turn around and talk about world news and “exotic” foods we’ve tried. That to me let me know you have an open mind and you’ve been somewhere besides Applebee’s and Fridays! I like it when I can talk about world news and then switch to comedy or some silly movie. My point is, I love the balance. So I don’t care what your background is as long as your mindset has a blance and forward thinking mentality. Hope this makes since. I have had to stop typing so many times this morning due to interuptions.

Audra

August 25th, 2011
9:38 am

I think there’s something to be said for someone who’s had to work hard for what they have, and now has an education, social status, etc., but didn’t always have those things or didn’t come from them.
Folks who haven’t had to work hard because they were wealthy/privileged to begin with tend to think that everyone should be on the same plane as them, or else they’re lazy. On the other hand, if someone has never worked to achieve anything, then they tend to think that those of us who have are just “lucky,” and don’t see the hard work and sacrifice that went into it.
In short, a balance is good. This is one of the main things that drew me to my husband – he had made his own way in life and was successful, but always knew where he came from and what it took to get there. A foot in both worlds, as some have said. ;)

Seriously?

August 25th, 2011
9:47 am

Samitha – You cannot seriously speak to the difference between dating the two individuals name because I would bet every cent that I own that you have dated neither of them.

Seriously?

August 25th, 2011
9:48 am

Rich man Poor man

August 25th, 2011
9:48 am

I have been with a very rich man, and am now with a man who doesnt make as much as I do, the rich man was always treating me like he was my father and everything he did for me I owed him something in return, the guy who makes less than me, we have the best times, always laughing, and always enjoyig each others company, he is a blessing to me, the way he treats me and the things he does just could not be replaced with money.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
10:13 am

Good morning!

Does it make it easier when you both have the exact same background? Probably, but I wouldn’t necessarily want to date someone with the EXACT same background. No doubt, if dating a NYer we will have more reference points on similarity than dating a good ole country boy from Columbus, GA..No offense, just threw that in of the country boy I do know. To be able to talk on a level where ones upbringing/lifestyle is similar can enhance/pique one wanting to delve further in getting to know the person. Having a common bond no doubt helps.

Like LLCoolJ used to say. He married his wife and has stayed married to her because they’re cut from the same cloth. They know what it was like growing up the way they grew up. They understand where they came from and where they are, and the commonality is an important ingredient for him….

Reio

August 25th, 2011
10:15 am

Just based on experience, it’s probably preferable to gravitate towards people with the same socioeconomic status as you. Too many clashes otherwise. I’m a professional(IT) now, but as a child, I can remember very vividly, my sisters and brother and I going to bed hungry. But my mother(dad was not around – divorced my mother when I was 2) always taught us to strive for good grades and to get an education. After finishing college(UAB), I started my career and never looked back. People I grew up with are still around the old hoods, but we lost touch over the years. Most never bothered to at least investigate more education after high school and appear content with their current status and lifestyles. This is fine for them, and I would never look down on them. But I knew that America has more to offer than what we had, and I was willing to do what I needed to do to achieve it. My wife shares this experience.

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
10:21 am

Reio…..agreed!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
10:25 am

@Reio ~ I felt the same way. I would look around my neighborhood knowing American had much more to offer. I remember telling my mother that my soul was too sensitive for the struggle. As a child I couldn’t understand if all. I knew if I had a chance, I would do all I could to better my life. Not stay on the street corner like many of my friends, or get knocked up by the guy up the block pretending to like me just to get my drawers. Never wanted to accept the assistance of the government. I knew if I stayed true to myself, I could do better. Although I’m still broke, I’m not street broke!

Innocent Bystander

August 25th, 2011
10:25 am

Lately, I’ve taken to dating Asian women. They come from more old fashioned male dominated societies. Now before anyone jumps on their soap box and starts denouncing me as a chauvinist, consider what that means. As an American male, I’ve been raised to treat women with respect and equality. Add in a woman who has never received that kind of treatment before, and what do you get? Undying gratification. That appreciation resonates much more with me than the “this is what I am owed” attitude exuded by most of the local ladies I have experience with.

Those of you reluctant to date outside your own cultural confines may be missing out. After all, isn’t life about moving outside your comfort zone in order to find new and exciting experiences?

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
10:26 am

Morning All!

My 2 – If MC & PA are living together, how can PA still be getting welfare? Smells like some fraud to me or your story is bs. Wonder which one is true? :shock:

In my experience, it really depends on the individuals involved. Just because a guy didn’t come from money didn’t mean he was going to be down 2 earth or nice to me. Same with money guys. Didn’t mean he was going to be a snob. It’s all about the upbringing and attitude. I know some less fortunate or not college-educated that seem to wear it like a chip on their shoulder. That’s no fun to be around either.

The biggest thing I had a problem with was dating those of a different culture or radically different religion. I’m a modern woman with some traditional values and I’m not changing that. I’m not in a position of servitude with my spouse just because I was born female. I couldn’t deal with men from some other cultures for this reason, and they couldn’t deal with me. So I squashed that by avoiding to date them. Problem solved!

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
10:26 am

B.B.

August 25th, 2011
10:30 am

I’ve watched friends date and marry people that they have a few things in common with, but they don’t line up on important things:
1. Politics (She lied to him about voting for obama, when she’s really a conservative, because he’s a flaming liberal -and she didn’t want to upset him).
2. Money/Career plans: (She’s in school to have a successful career & is responsible with money, He’s just now gotten a full-time job that doesn’t involve the service industry, refuses to finish his degree – and blew through a huge inheritance).
3. Religion (He’s an outspoken atheist, she’s a mellow christian).
4. Maturity (He’s older than her and is past all the drama, she’s 22 -not graduated from college and all she does is start drama -she’s also verbally and physically abusive to him).
5. Morality (She’s a sociopath that has cheated on him at least three times from when they started dating to their engagement -with his friends, no less. He’s a nice guy that wouldn’t hurt a fly.)

Do I see any of these relationships making it to the long term… the simple answer is no. Sadly, some of our friends have bets on how long each will last.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
10:36 am

@BB ~ same bet on KKardashian…

B.B.

August 25th, 2011
10:39 am

@Innocent Bystander -Just keep in mind that many of us don’t have that attitude to start with. It comes from years of dating your male counterparts that weren’t raised to treat us with respect. So after years of being disrespected, sure -we start to realize we deserve better. And you can’t fault us for having a baseline of expectations -besides, I’ve known so many men that cheated on their women because they were”doormats that never demanded anything.”

I’m not going to say there aren’t some “princesses” out there that were spoiled rotten by mommy and daddy to have an auto sense of entitlement -but they’re a minority. I’m grateful for everything my boyfriend does for me -but if he couldn’t give me what I need, I’d rather be alone than be frustrated with him.

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
10:40 am

People trip me out betting on other folks’ relationships to fail.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:40 am

Morning,

So many things we place emphasis really doesn’t matter much. To be still hanging on to status at a certain age clearly shows not much growth. To acheive and stive for betterment….for myself is my goal. Someone along the way that fits is the extra. Not to sound harsh but I could really care less what people have, where they went to school, what they drive…it’s neither here nor there to me. Fretting over whether or not you’re a fit if our degrees match or not or if our accounts match or not or if you have etiquette or not….is silly…of course IMO. Do you and what works. I’m not buying into careers and lifestyle matching in order to be a good fit. IMO, it comes down to personally more than anything. My mama was well educated, prim and proper. My daddy was uneducated. Yet and still, he was the man. He was not educated but not by any means was he a dummy. He possessed enough of something to get the girl, keep the girl, make a life and moved on into the next life….keeping and holding it down all the while.

Going outside the race to gain submission is a cheap shot. If you got it you got it…if you don’t, you don’t. :) Of course and yet again, that’s just my opinion.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 25th, 2011
10:41 am

Cool to read some people know what a balanced man is, clash of the classes I don’t relate to. I was raised to respect women, be sensitive to their needs and never raise a hand at one. It made no difference to me about your status when it comes to getting to know you. Thing is she may have a hang up about status, which would be fine I can accept or move on. I know people in poverty like I know people who is well off, your money and status is yours keep it to yourself.

Good Morning:

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:42 am

Kimmie – People trip me out betting on other folks’ relationships to fail.

Me too. Always sitting on the outside looking in. For that reason alone, I hope they make it. Too much emphasis on the nonfactors. A lot of what was listed are nonfactor. You got love? You got a good chance for making it.

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
10:43 am

I’ve known so many men that cheated on their women because they were”doormats that never demanded anything.”

BB – So that made it okay that they cheated? Just because their women didn’t make demands on them? Weak excuse. They would have cheated anyway. Not much of a man.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:44 am

Where is Dan? Is he married yet?

Casual Observer

August 25th, 2011
10:45 am

Its amazing how everyone has a friend that is dating a total loser….. I wonder how many of us have friends telling the same stories about us and the people we choose to date?????

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
10:45 am

@kimmie ~ I agree, but bet many are betting on their marriage. Just like many had bets on Whitney/Bobby.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:46 am

I think B.B. was refuting the dude’s statement on going outside the race and that maybe he should take a deeper dive as to why maybe, just maybe (his perception of) the reason the women in his race are not as submissive as those Asian women he’s glaring about.

I took B.B.’s statement to say maybe it’s because of some of the things women of his race have endured….not that that’s okay.

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
10:49 am

Leggs – Folks in the public eye are just fodder for conversation. I’m talking about people you know and live and work around. It’s sad to have that negetive energy around you, is what I’m talking about. And the ones everyone thinks are perfect for each other usually are the ones with much mess going on at the house.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:50 am

Whitney and Bobby had a drug problem….that will kill any marriage/relationship/life. Whether you’re degreed and pedigreed and taking dope or whether you’re from the alley and taking dope.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
10:50 am

I believe SC said he got married last Saturday and his pics on FB were nice.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:51 am

Awwww, that’s nice. Thanks Leggs.

Congrats Dano!

cba

August 25th, 2011
10:51 am

Reminds me of the movie, Jumping the broom

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
10:52 am

cba – Did you go to the wedding?

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
10:53 am

Kimmie….you do realize that women cheat too.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 25th, 2011
10:53 am

Kimmie great point, it’s true and laughable how you put it.

cba

August 25th, 2011
10:56 am

No, No Celisea, I was speaking how this topic is similar to the movie, very affluent girl meets working-class man.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
10:56 am

Beatrix Kiddo

August 25th, 2011
11:05 am

Of course they do or you wouldn’t have any body to cheat with.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
11:10 am

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
11:11 am

Beatrix….you got it.

Reio

August 25th, 2011
11:14 am

With respect to dating different races, one thing I learned(reading & limited experience), is that it’s very helpful to this kind of relationship if this person has friends of your race before meeting you. Often times these relationships start and the only friend of your race, is you. So the other person has no idea what to expect or sense of comportment at the outset. This could be problematic.

Casual Observer

August 25th, 2011
11:21 am

As a man of color who happens to have dated a number of women outside of my race, the biggest issue I have found is that she better have a thick skin because sisters will give her (and me) the BLUES about dating one of thier successful brothers….

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
11:24 am

Seems to me that the two biggest culture clashes — and the two probably most difficult to overcome — are money and religion. I’ve pretty much done the U.N. dating tour, but despite all the other cultural differences, they’ve all come from relatively similar socio-economic backgrounds and had similar views on religion. The types of differences I’ve encountered are not so much things to overcome, but rather differences that can be embraced and appreciated.

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
11:33 am

“As a man of color who happens to have dated a number of women outside of my race, the biggest issue I have found is that she better have a thick skin because sisters will give her (and me) the BLUES about dating one of thier successful brothers….”

Casual — It works the other way, too. I get all kinds of looks when dudes see me with Mrs. Swiss. Of course, I don’t know how much of that has to do with race and how much of it is just “D@MN, she’s FINE! How’d he manage THAT?” :lol:

Reio

August 25th, 2011
11:34 am

@ casual Observer – This is somewhat related to the topic(loosely). Remember the Kobe Bryant tryst in the hotel in Colorado? Well, my sister and I were talking about it at the time, and she said that this woman did not get raped, she just wanted to get busy with Kobe and maybe get paid to boot. She also said that it was obvious that this chic did not have any black girlfriends. I asked why, she said, “Had she had any black girlfriends, she would have known that you can’t just plop down on anything and expect not to get hurt(doctors said her injuries down there were consistent with rape). she would have learned that from her black girlfriends before hand, during casual girlie conversations over the years”

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
11:42 am

and she said that this woman did not get raped, she just wanted to get busy with Kobe and maybe get paid to boot.

I think most of America or at least Black America sort of assumed this. I could be wrong in speaking for the masses but at least it was obvious to me.

that you can’t just plop down on anything and expect not to get hurt(doctors said her injuries down there were consistent with rape). she would have learned that from her black girlfriends before hand, during casual girlie conversations over the years”

Huh? Plop down? I would think plopping down on anything, no matter the color might be painful. If I’m understanding what you are referring to. Of course I don’t know about that…no backdoor plopping for me…lol

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
11:43 am

Celisea….I actually know the attorney firm that handled Kobe’s case. I honestly have some of the details that never came out.

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
11:44 am

Celisea….BTW where is “Black America” located?

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
11:44 am

Reio – Are you saying AA dudes have a rep for beating the p uddy up?

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
11:44 am

1999 – Do you plan on sharing some of the undisclosed details of the case with us?

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
11:45 am

“it was obvious that this chic did not have any black girlfriends.”

It probably never crossed her mind to have any and quite possibly she lived in an environment where those kinds of friendships were not accessible.

Super 8

August 25th, 2011
11:45 am

that’s why Kobe called himself the Black Mamba, you get hurt messin with the Mamba!

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
11:46 am

SlimNu……From what I was told this is the gest if what happened…..

The girl did consent to sex. And they had vaginal sex. However when Kobe wanted to use the “back door” she said “No”. That is when he forced it on her.

Reio

August 25th, 2011
11:48 am

Celisea – I believe that she was refering to the fact that this woman may not have been with a man with similar equipment as Kobe, and she probably would have known to take it slow and easy in the beginning, from years of casual girlie conversations with these black girlfriend(s).

Black Mamba

August 25th, 2011
11:48 am

I had to give her more than what she asked for…like Duh
She’ll remember the Mamba!

Reio

August 25th, 2011
11:50 am

SlimNu – Yes.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
11:56 am

How do you know what Kobe’s equipment size is? Is there an Equipment Size Report out that I’m not aware of?

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
11:56 am

Reio – I believe that she was refering to the fact that this woman may not have been with a man with similar equipment as Kobe, and she probably would have known to take it slow and easy in the beginning, from years of casual girlie conversations with these black girlfriend(s).

That’s still not adding up. I don’t know too many women that shut their eyes before engaging and if I see a 10 foot snake coming at me, ummm, well…..

UGA 1999

August 25th, 2011
11:58 am

Celisea….”ummm” well?

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
11:59 am

Reio – IMO, she was an opportunist and thought she was gonna cash in. If she wasn’t a virgin, then plopping or not, she wasn’t surprised…no matter how big. If she wasn’t a virgin the she should have known to take it slow or what she could handled. But all of that is a nonfactor. That chick was looking to cash in or else…. And that’s where he was stupid.

Beatrix Kiddo

August 25th, 2011
12:00 pm

Why? Did you want to schedule a field trip?

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
12:01 pm

I have a man outside of race asking me out to dinner. I’m going to go. It’s good meeting people of all walks of life. You never know who you will connect with. No need to remain pigeon holed throughout the rest of my life! Exploration breeds spice to one’s life.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
12:01 pm

Leggs – enjoy.

Reio

August 25th, 2011
12:02 pm

Well, to all of you, those were my sister’s words, not mine. She called me one day during all of this, to ask a question about cub scouts. Her son,my nephew, wanted to become a cub scout and she remembered that I was one years ago, and called to get some input. The conversation morphed into Kobe, and thats what she said. I remember it because I thougt it was funny at the time. Still do.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
12:06 pm

Leggs – I dunno, I would date a dude outside my race….I think :)

Reio

August 25th, 2011
12:08 pm

Celisea – You never know. Can’t hurt.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
12:10 pm

@Celisea ~ I feel the same way… I too “think?” Well, I’m going to stop thinking and see if I can/interested.

Casual Observer

August 25th, 2011
12:10 pm

It does not matter if she was gold digging or not, Kobe was soooooo out of line….First of all, he should not have been creeping…Secondly, if he was gonna creep, it should have been with someone that has as much to loose as he does…Third, if she says the back door is out of bounds, then THE BACK DOOR IS OUT OF BOUNDS!!!! The chapter in the players handbook is quite clear on this….

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
12:11 pm

Reio – Let me guess…..

At least I figured from your post

Reio

August 25th, 2011
12:11 pm

Leggs – Go ahead. Try it.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
12:12 pm

Casual Observer – We agree whole heartedly. If he hadn’t been cheating then he wouldn’t have stumbled across an opportunist. Like I said, that’s where he’s stupid.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
12:28 pm

With your endorsement Reio, I will (lol).

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
12:32 pm

When dating she just has to be family oriented, love the Lord, in shape/healthy and easy on the eyes. I don’t care about her race or social status. I am thankful for my upbringing. People are people in my world.

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
12:34 pm

Ironically, I think the fact that I grew up in such a backwards, rural, redneck town conditioned me to want to be exposed to different people & cultures. Rather than turning into the people around me, I recognized them for the narrow-minded, sh!t-kicking, culturally (and literally) illiterate f#cks that they were (and are, mostly). (Can you tell I’m not a fan of my home town?) :lol: Thankfully, we always had exchange students… :lol:

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
12:36 pm

Purp – I had been side eyeing you because I thought you didn’t respond to my email the other week. I was just clearing out my in box and saw that you did respond. (Sometimes, when I have more than one email come in on my phone, some of them get marked as read before I even see them.)

Side-eyeing ceased. (lol)

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
12:37 pm

Just read a funny. Tim Cook, the guy that’s taking over for Steve Jobs at Apple, was spotting in a mall yesterday buying black turtlenecks.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
12:41 pm

Sexy Cool, I was wondering what that glaring look was for :) Glad you found my response and thanks for checking on me lol. How have your workouts been?

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
12:44 pm

People are people in my world

Dat’s wut i’m tombout!

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
12:44 pm

Randyt, I can understand that. Being non white land owners brought a lot of stares our way growing up, and let me tell you I remember some stuff. But being that my family ran foster homes as well exposed me to tons at an early age and let me know people are just people. We had all races of kids come stay with us whose parents had all sorts of problems. People are people.

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
12:46 pm

Mike P

August 25th, 2011
12:47 pm

I have dated women from different cultures…

let me tell you… Asian women who have weren’t too Americanized treated me very well. But the Asian women who behaved like they’re from America or worse “the ghettos” were the worst I’ve experienced.

I have no complaints with African, Middle Eastern, and Eastern European Women.
Jamaican women were cool to me too :)

Too bad I’m not treated well by American women, but I haven’t given up hope yet.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
12:47 pm

I’ve managed to be consistent, barely. My energy is off this week. So, it’s been a struggle for me to just get up and move. This morning was more of a stroll than anything else. But hey, at least we moved.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
12:54 pm

SexyCool, I have not ran in over a week but I have been getting a physical workout. My next run is down there in Atlanta first Sunday in October. I am looking forward to coming down there. How’s the wedding planning and the puppy doing?

Swiss, did you just link some Depeche Mode? LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
12:55 pm

“Swiss, did you just link some Depeche Mode? LOL”

Purple — Just wanted to remind everyone that I’m a whiteboy. I figured that would do the trick. :lol:

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
12:57 pm

For those that are running: Is it normal for your hips or more like the area where your leg connects to the hip area to be sore when just getting in the groove of running/working out??? I’ve noticed this the last two times I’ve ran, with this morning being one of them.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
12:57 pm

I know a lot of members of my running group will be out in force.

Wedding – waiting on Park events coordinator to return my call/email. But still 372 days out, so not stressed at all. We have an engagement shoot coming up in a few weeks.

Puppy – I will be so glad when her heat is over. I am truly tired of looking at her girl parl.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
12:59 pm

Slim you are running wrong, given your build. Do you stretch before and after you run?

Swiss, no doubt. I am going to start calling you lilly. LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
12:59 pm

SlimNu — You need to stretch.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
1:02 pm

Afternoon, all.

People are people. Right on, Purp!

People are people so why should it be…that you and I should get along so awfully….so we’re different colors and we’re different creeds….and different people have different needs…..I can’t understand what makes a man hate another man….help me understand….
Musical interlude courtesy of Depeche Mode

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
1:04 pm

Dang! Posted and went back to read and saw Swiss’s link. :) Great minds think alike, huh Swiss?

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
1:13 pm

Sexy Cool, you are part of a running group? That’s cool.

LOL, get that puppy fixed

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
1:19 pm

We had an appointment to get her fixed for July 18th, but the clinic screwed up processing our deposit. So, then, we had it rescheduled for this past Monday, but couldn’t because she is in the middle of her heat. Now, we have it scheduled for September 19th.

(Got my fingers crossed.)

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
1:20 pm

Is she dripping all over the place?

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
1:23 pm

She will be almost two weeks out of her heat cycle by September 19th.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
1:26 pm

PR & Swiss – Yeah I stretch a little bit before and after…probably not as much or as good as I should. I’ll try to do a better job of that and see if it makes a difference

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
1:26 pm

She was. She actually started around the beginning of this month. We bought diapers and er’thang. (lol)

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
1:26 pm

Speaking of pets, I’m still trying to find a home for my old cat :cry:

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
1:27 pm

“Great minds think alike, huh Swiss?”

ITL — They do. And so do minds of white children of the 80s, apparently. :lol:

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
1:29 pm

“And so do minds of white children of the 80s, apparently.” That was funny!

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
1:32 pm

LOL@Swiss.

Awww, Slim. Poor thing. :(

The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)

August 25th, 2011
1:37 pm

F#ck me! I just realized that song is almost 30 years old! :shock:

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
1:46 pm

Leggs – Have you ever been to Abyssinian church in Harlem? That’s where Nick Ashford’s funeral is going to be on Saturday.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
1:47 pm

Yeah, thanks for that, Swiss…..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 25th, 2011
1:50 pm

Aren’t those guys forfeiting there money for speaking out their case against Eddie Long. I thought I heard them say the money didn’t matter to them they want tell the story anyway. They have plenty of heart to walk away from the money, good for them. Every dollar is not a good dollar.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
1:54 pm

Blackfoote, Eddie Long did not rape them they had a relationship with him knowingly. Dumb asses are walking away from money now…just so they can be heard? Don’t nobody care about them, they should shut up and keep the money. I bet if/once they lose it they would have wished they had. LOL where are they going to work? And not taking up for Eddie Long but I’m sure that he wasn’t the only man those boys have been with.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
1:57 pm

Maybe they spent all of the m money and want to talk now. LOL Why did the accept it in the first place instead of a trial?

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
1:57 pm

Eddie Long and Katt Williams should date,

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 25th, 2011
1:58 pm

Exactly what more can be sid. He did what he did, they some how allowed him to do it and now it’s about humiliation.

Willie Dynamite

August 25th, 2011
2:05 pm

Afternoon All,

Interesting comments early on.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
2:12 pm

PR and BF, I’ll respectfully disagree with your statement. According to their statements, he “groomed” them by acting as a male role model, some of them even called him daddy. He gave them the male figure in their lives that was lacking, and gave them the lifestyle and material things that their mothers were unable to.
That is classic predatory behavior.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
2:15 pm

“Every dollar is not a good dollar.” Definitely.

If speaking out to help even one person, or writing the book even if one copy is sold, you could have done this from the get go. I guess their soul can’t rest until they speak on what really happened. To be honest, I don’t even care.

cba

August 25th, 2011
2:17 pm

Totally agree w/ ITL 2:12pm

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:18 pm

ITL, I am not buying what youa re selling. Those shims, got mad when they found out that they were not the only shim n Long’s life. They are just acting like a scorned woman who found out their man had another woman on the side. Just like a woman scorned, she has to be heard and they can not be rational in the least.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:22 pm

ITL and he didn’t pop their cherry until they were of legal age. If what he did were illegal tons of men would be in jail because that type of pimpin has been going on between men and women for years. Gays want equal rights….well they have the right to get pimped too.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:23 pm

So in this case I guess a woman can’t raise a “man”? LOL

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
2:24 pm

PR, again I will respectfully disagree. This is not a sexuality issue, although I’m certain that these guys will question theirs for many years to come. It’s about a child (I believe one was 14 when the grooming began, but 17 or 18 before anything “physical happened) being groomed by a predator.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
2:26 pm

I think they are more so upset because they feel he abused his position/power etc to take advantage of them knowing their backgrounds (no fathers, male guidance etc) Or maybe they are just really teed off by something that has yet to be revealed.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 25th, 2011
2:28 pm

The story needs to go away and be filed with the rest of the troubles that go on in young mens lives. Fifteen minutes is all you get and they want more.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:29 pm

ITL, so when do the parents of these kids get blamed? That’s what happens when you are not a complete parent to your child and are not the biggest influence in your childs life. There is no excuse for that.

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
2:31 pm

To be honest, I don’t even care.

Leggs – Me either. I have not cared from jump, actually.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
2:33 pm

SC – You still in here?

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:34 pm

Looking at the map you all are going to get some rain from that storm in the Atlantic?

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
2:37 pm

Good hot day!

On Eddie @ the Boys( sounds like the name of a music group),the boys are mad coz money don’t make the pain and angst to disappear! (assuming they themselves are heterosexuals.

The shame of it all,knowing that the whoooole wide world knows that ur balls ain’t jack coz u tossed it is a Big load on a real man.

Thats why Purp said I wld get killed if I asked an ex con if they had ever been popped. Their anguish wld drive them to do that.

Unless ofcourse if they liked it!

By the way,that other Eddie Long musically inclined Sham did not sue.

She happy!

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:37 pm

Okay, the owner of the Carolina Panther’s has implied to Cam Newton that tattoo’s and piercing are off limits. Me personally I see nothing wrong with that, some are making it out to be a racial slave owner mentality. But look at if from this point of view. Cam is probably going to be the face of the franchise. So if you owned a multi million dollar business payed an employee 22million would you care how they “appeared” while working, given that this person was the “face” of your company?

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:38 pm

LOL at Exiled

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
2:40 pm

I heard it’s supposed to be pretty windy on Saturday. Guess the little men and I need to schedule a kite-flying day.

Reio

August 25th, 2011
2:40 pm

Purple Reign – If Cam leads them to a super bowl victory, all of the owners demands on him will disappear the same day.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:42 pm

Reio, we don’t have to worry about that happening this century.

kimmie

August 25th, 2011
2:42 pm

I was watching a tribute to Aaliyah the other day with all her videos. She could rock with the best of them. I miss her!

Back and Forth

If at first you don’t succeed, you can dust off and try again!

Reio

August 25th, 2011
2:43 pm

Purple Reign – You never know.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
2:43 pm

@PR ~ I saw nothing wrong with what happened between Newton and the CP’s owner. He was telling him going forward no tattoo’s and no piercing. A compliment on the haircut was just that, a compliment! Come, I thought it was all very appropriate w/o one iota of condescension.

Casual Observer

August 25th, 2011
2:44 pm

PReign…If the owner of the Panthers felt like that, then why did he sign Jeremy Shockey and he has tats everywhere visible from his neck down???

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
2:45 pm

Re: Cam Newton…I know that if my company requests that I dress, manicure, etc., a certain way, no gauged ears, or lip piercings, I have the right to refuse. Then they have the right to fire my azz. Neither is a slave, but one has more power. I’d rather be rich with shorter hair, than poor with longer hair. Ultimately my choice.

To put it another way, they don’t control ME, they DO control my paycheck.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:46 pm

My favorite Aaliyah songs are the one about the letter sealed with a kiss, sounded like there were crickets in the background of the song mixed in with the music. Also I like her when she was paired up with Timbaland on “up jumps the boogie”

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:47 pm

Casual Observer, Shockey is not the face of the franchise and his position requires him to be grimey. If the dude were racist why would he want Cam as the face of his franchise?

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
2:47 pm

Speaking of piercings…I would not want to be underneath some mean azz LB or DT and him within reach of a nose ring or body piercing or anything else on me. NOPE NOPE NOPE

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:48 pm

Shockey also was not the #1 draft pick who led his team to a NCAA Championship, Shockey was #14 draft back then.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
2:51 pm

SlimGoody – I’m back. TheDude took me to lunch today. (sighs…)

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
2:51 pm

I think the reason Cam is one of the few players who does not have tats or piercings or dreads is because his parents raised him that way. The guy is a clean cut man from all appearances, so the owner of the team probably didn’t have anything to worry about anyway.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
2:55 pm

ITL – Saw The Help yesterday. It was well done and *fairly* true to the book.

Casual Observer

August 25th, 2011
2:55 pm

I never said he wass racist….I simply pointed out the inconsistency in his action…Now the fact that he is the “face” of the franchise does come in to play a bit but he gave Shockey 4 million dollars and the was his biggest free agent signing means something as well….

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
2:57 pm

Exactly – Purp – if it was buddy’s intent to be “tatted up”, I’m sure he would have several by now.

Which reminds me of something that I saw on FB a few days ago and leads me to say that if I, a grown ass woman, ever comes around talking about “I want a tattoo across my chest.”, please check to see what I am on or find out what I should be on…because something will be very, very off.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
2:57 pm

I would not want to be underneath some mean LB or DT and him….

I’m sure if that Randyt! :lol:

what wld we make of that?

Youza! :lol:

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
2:58 pm

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
3:02 pm

So where exactly do u like ur tats placed SexxyCool?!

Yea,chest tats on a chic is getthofied to the power9!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
3:05 pm

My all time favorite song of Aaliyah is the remake of the Isley Brothers “At Your Best (You are Love).

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:09 pm

I have one very, very small tattoo that I have had for nearly 18 years. Got it for my 21st birthday. It cannot be seen when I am dressed.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
3:10 pm

I am trying to think of wear a tattoo on a woman is sexy. I am thinking on the back of her neck, that can be hidden when her hair is down but exposed when she wears it up.

Into the Love

August 25th, 2011
3:10 pm

Cool, SC. We’re doing “dinner and movie” next week and that’s the movie. I can’t wait. :)

How did the actors compare to the way you had envisioned the characters?

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:15 pm

Exiled you are one funny dude….2 things pull you out of lurking…anything on EL and anything on sex (or can get a sex spinoff)..lol

On topic (sports): Nothing :evil:

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
3:15 pm

21 +18= Hmm I can’t count that high. LOL

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:16 pm

No tattoos here. Can’t say I didn’t contemplate in the past. Glad I didn’t. Yeah, if we had to get branded we’d be having a fit. That’s what massa did years ago. :)

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:17 pm

Random: I’m not a chocolate lover per se but this piece of cake is good. I’m about to get into the mini cupcake next….and the treadmill later.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:17 pm

Oddly enough, the Caucasian characters were a bit prettier than I’d pictured them. The maids were as beat down looking as I expected them to be.

Seeing the movie made me really glad that I read the book first because there were some subtle plot points that meant more to me because I knew the whole story behind them.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:19 pm

Cel – ikr – I got my tat on a dare from the guy I was dating at the time. He was military and had just gotten one on his chest. He offered to pay for it. When we got to the parlor, the way that I picked what I was going to get was going through every picture that they had and picking the smallest thing possible.

Into the Love

August 25th, 2011
3:20 pm

Now I’m looking forward to it even more.

Celisea….please say it’s not Piece of Cake cake…. (mouth watering just thinking about it)

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:23 pm

ITL – Not sure if Piece of Cake but I don’t think so. I was on a call so I had the guy next to me to bring me back a slice. I don’t think it was though. The mini cupcake is from CamiCakes

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
3:29 pm

Celisea?!

U were talking sex late yesterday and I stayed put

Same today until I had to make an intervention on a fact. U were rolling on fine and funny.

But to be honest,I grew up Methodist. United Methodist to be precise. Very modest,went to United Methodist boarding schools etc and there was no flaunting of riches in our church.

This mega church business gets on my nerves.

I do judge and am proud of it!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
3:34 pm

@PR ~ not all women have long hair that can hide a neck tattoo…

@ITL ~ I see you didn’t have enough Tuesday. Stop thinking about Piece of Cake. Keep it up, you’ll soon we wondering why no one may want piece of a$$!…sorry, sorry, couldn’t resist. It fell right in front of me and I had to pick up the gauntlet. I’m now running down the street…..

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
3:34 pm

SC – I was just going to ask how are you keeping the do done or whatever now that you are working out more than usual. Not sure if you have a short-do which maybe easier to deal with, wavy hair where you can do the wet & go do or what…

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:39 pm

Short, texturized so that I can wear it straight if I want to. Mostly, wet and go.

Bronze hair color with blond highlights to add some depth and interest when it’s curly. Most often, it ends up looking like a TWA with more height/length in the top.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
3:44 pm

SC – Oh ok…well mine shole ain’t wet & go, nor is it short but I’m doing way more sweating and stuff and it’s just a hassle. I think I might go GI Jane and just say eff it with The Beau’s clippers.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:45 pm

Have you tried mesh wrapping it and then blow drying before you take the mesh wrap off?

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
3:45 pm

LOL@Leggs! Good looking out – I need someone to be the voice of my conscience.

And did I type Into the Love as my screen name on that 3:20??? Sheesh….I’m losing it.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
3:49 pm

Why do you have to re-type your screen name???

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
3:51 pm

My browser was running slow, so I cleared the cache and closed and reopened it. Seemed to help.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:55 pm

Exiled – U were talking sex late yesterday and I stayed put

See that’s what I’m talking about. We were talking about panties and comfort. Nothing else.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
3:56 pm

ITL? u losing it!?

nah,u luving It!

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:56 pm

Exiled – Same today until I had to make an intervention on a fact. U were rolling on fine and funny.

What does this mean? I wasn’t talking when you popped in. They were talking about EL and his accusers.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:00 pm

Celisea?

U as in blog

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
4:01 pm

Guess I’ve always been a bit afraid of getting a tat. It would look like this and run all the way down my arm:

I Love Kathy
I Mean Jody
No wait, Barbara
Sorry but it is Lynn
Scratch that, Mary
No I meant Donna

Throw a few brief but powerful encounters in and I’d look like that dude in “Breakout”!!!!

Tats are just toooooo permanent for my ‘not so permanent’ lifestyle.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
4:03 pm

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:06 pm

Randyt!

and end with:

but I’m with(Summer) swimming pool chic,Right Now!

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
4:08 pm

Leggs, that would be a scenario in which I liked it on a woman.

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
4:08 pm

@ Exiled …I’d have to shave a spot on my bare azz for that one!!!

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
4:08 pm

SC – I usually have it wrapped but had not considered blowing it dry while still wrapped. I’ll try that thanks ;-)

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
4:10 pm

I’ve seen some lovely body art, but my personal rule of thumb is this: if it can be seen when I am in business dress, it’s not for me. Just my two cents…

Confirmed Bachelor

August 25th, 2011
4:11 pm

I don’t really know how to answer this, being a successful man and easy going, you always have to watch out for gravy train riders which in turn ruins it for ladies that actually have some substance. Go figure (SHruggs)

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:12 pm

usually have it wrapped but had not considered blowing it dry…..still wrapped

WHAT ARE U TALKING ABOUT?

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
4:13 pm

Back to ATL. Nite all.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:15 pm

shave a sport on bare azz?

looks good until u break up again and with a new hot one…

But now u scared taking off the pants when she unzips u! :lol:

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:19 pm

“But now u scared taking off the pants when she unzips u!”

Why be scared. He had a life before the new chick. If that meant he foolishly tattooed someone’s name on his body, that’s his call, not hers. If she’s upset, she’s insecure and need to get some backbone. She may not like it, but not her place to gripe about it. If anything, if this is panning out to be a longterm relationship, offer to help him to get it removed. Otherwise, “hush” is in order.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
4:26 pm

Exiled – You don’t know what i’m talking about because I wasn’t talking to you. ;-)

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:28 pm

I’m sure u wld be tentative, first time around, if it were u Leggs.

I wldnt take kindly to seeing Chris’s name,u ex boo,tatted on the outer lining of ur cherry,to be honest.

My first reaction question wld be,’did he pound u so good to get u into such a foolish daze!?

no,that won’t be a question,just a silent musing

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:35 pm

@Ex ~ don’t be so sure….you’re wrong. I would immediately think, what a nut to tattoo a gf’s name. I may say it out loud, but it will definitely be my first thought! Best believe, I wouldn’t trip over it. He cared about her enough then to do it believing “this will last forever.” No sweat of my brow….I don’t get bogged down with things like that.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:37 pm

I may NOT say it out loud….

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:40 pm

Leggs!

I have seen girl/boy names on guys and chic necks etc.

Unless those are relatives,it must have been real guuud,as Sexxy wld say!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:45 pm

Not only that, sex depraved Ex, the relationship itself may have been real guuuud.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

August 25th, 2011
4:50 pm

Leggs your on a roll like sht paper as usual…too funny :lol:

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
4:53 pm

Um…yeah…no…that doesn’t sound like something I’d say.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
4:58 pm

I think the clock is slow…….

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
4:59 pm

Sometimes I wonder if because he’s been pegged the Sex-O-Holic is he’s REALLY like that or if he’s playing to the name.

Oh, Exiled that’s rhetorical :)

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
5:00 pm

if he’s not is he’s

see, that’s what I get :evil:

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
5:01 pm

@SassyMe ~ :lol: :lol: Some thoughts need to be knocked down QUICKLY! All women don’t think the same and don’t like men to think we do. What bothers one is water down the bridge for another. Not cool to lump us all together!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
5:04 pm

water under the bridge….

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
5:06 pm

Women are complicated creatures, please don’t mess up and think we all move through life having the same thought process.

PEACE~

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

August 25th, 2011
5:13 pm

Andlet the church say AMEN…peace blog.