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Dating: Culture clash or match?

A lot of people that I know like to date people who are most compatible with them. Whether it is socioeconomic class, race, or even culture. Culture can be especially tricky in the African American community. Well, technically I can only attest to the African American culture personally, but still.

It was a totally different experience dating a guy who came from money (aka silver spoons) and dating someone who grew up extremely poor. Although I shared common ground with both, the dynamics were definitely different. Not saying good or bad, just…different.

Silver spoons and I clashed on politics, while the guy who grew up poor thought I was way over the top with how I lived (i.e. we had different lifestyles, tastes, etc.)

When it comes to dating, are you comfortable exploring a relationship with someone who has a different culture than you?

How would you handle the “clashes” that may come when there are different socioeconomic classes involved?

How important do you think it is when considering a long term relationship? Does it make it easier when you both have the exact same background?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

205 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
2:57 pm

I would not want to be underneath some mean LB or DT and him….

I’m sure if that Randyt! :lol:

what wld we make of that?

Youza! :lol:

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
2:58 pm

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
3:02 pm

So where exactly do u like ur tats placed SexxyCool?!

Yea,chest tats on a chic is getthofied to the power9!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
3:05 pm

My all time favorite song of Aaliyah is the remake of the Isley Brothers “At Your Best (You are Love).

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:09 pm

I have one very, very small tattoo that I have had for nearly 18 years. Got it for my 21st birthday. It cannot be seen when I am dressed.

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
3:10 pm

I am trying to think of wear a tattoo on a woman is sexy. I am thinking on the back of her neck, that can be hidden when her hair is down but exposed when she wears it up.

Into the Love

August 25th, 2011
3:10 pm

Cool, SC. We’re doing “dinner and movie” next week and that’s the movie. I can’t wait. :)

How did the actors compare to the way you had envisioned the characters?

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:15 pm

Exiled you are one funny dude….2 things pull you out of lurking…anything on EL and anything on sex (or can get a sex spinoff)..lol

On topic (sports): Nothing :evil:

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
3:15 pm

21 +18= Hmm I can’t count that high. LOL

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:16 pm

No tattoos here. Can’t say I didn’t contemplate in the past. Glad I didn’t. Yeah, if we had to get branded we’d be having a fit. That’s what massa did years ago. :)

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:17 pm

Random: I’m not a chocolate lover per se but this piece of cake is good. I’m about to get into the mini cupcake next….and the treadmill later.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:17 pm

Oddly enough, the Caucasian characters were a bit prettier than I’d pictured them. The maids were as beat down looking as I expected them to be.

Seeing the movie made me really glad that I read the book first because there were some subtle plot points that meant more to me because I knew the whole story behind them.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:19 pm

Cel – ikr – I got my tat on a dare from the guy I was dating at the time. He was military and had just gotten one on his chest. He offered to pay for it. When we got to the parlor, the way that I picked what I was going to get was going through every picture that they had and picking the smallest thing possible.

Into the Love

August 25th, 2011
3:20 pm

Now I’m looking forward to it even more.

Celisea….please say it’s not Piece of Cake cake…. (mouth watering just thinking about it)

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:23 pm

ITL – Not sure if Piece of Cake but I don’t think so. I was on a call so I had the guy next to me to bring me back a slice. I don’t think it was though. The mini cupcake is from CamiCakes

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
3:29 pm

Celisea?!

U were talking sex late yesterday and I stayed put

Same today until I had to make an intervention on a fact. U were rolling on fine and funny.

But to be honest,I grew up Methodist. United Methodist to be precise. Very modest,went to United Methodist boarding schools etc and there was no flaunting of riches in our church.

This mega church business gets on my nerves.

I do judge and am proud of it!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
3:34 pm

@PR ~ not all women have long hair that can hide a neck tattoo…

@ITL ~ I see you didn’t have enough Tuesday. Stop thinking about Piece of Cake. Keep it up, you’ll soon we wondering why no one may want piece of a$$!…sorry, sorry, couldn’t resist. It fell right in front of me and I had to pick up the gauntlet. I’m now running down the street…..

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
3:34 pm

SC – I was just going to ask how are you keeping the do done or whatever now that you are working out more than usual. Not sure if you have a short-do which maybe easier to deal with, wavy hair where you can do the wet & go do or what…

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:39 pm

Short, texturized so that I can wear it straight if I want to. Mostly, wet and go.

Bronze hair color with blond highlights to add some depth and interest when it’s curly. Most often, it ends up looking like a TWA with more height/length in the top.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
3:44 pm

SC – Oh ok…well mine shole ain’t wet & go, nor is it short but I’m doing way more sweating and stuff and it’s just a hassle. I think I might go GI Jane and just say eff it with The Beau’s clippers.

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
3:45 pm

Have you tried mesh wrapping it and then blow drying before you take the mesh wrap off?

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
3:45 pm

LOL@Leggs! Good looking out – I need someone to be the voice of my conscience.

And did I type Into the Love as my screen name on that 3:20??? Sheesh….I’m losing it.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
3:49 pm

Why do you have to re-type your screen name???

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
3:51 pm

My browser was running slow, so I cleared the cache and closed and reopened it. Seemed to help.

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:55 pm

Exiled – U were talking sex late yesterday and I stayed put

See that’s what I’m talking about. We were talking about panties and comfort. Nothing else.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
3:56 pm

ITL? u losing it!?

nah,u luving It!

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
3:56 pm

Exiled – Same today until I had to make an intervention on a fact. U were rolling on fine and funny.

What does this mean? I wasn’t talking when you popped in. They were talking about EL and his accusers.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:00 pm

Celisea?

U as in blog

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
4:01 pm

Guess I’ve always been a bit afraid of getting a tat. It would look like this and run all the way down my arm:

I Love Kathy
I Mean Jody
No wait, Barbara
Sorry but it is Lynn
Scratch that, Mary
No I meant Donna

Throw a few brief but powerful encounters in and I’d look like that dude in “Breakout”!!!!

Tats are just toooooo permanent for my ‘not so permanent’ lifestyle.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
4:03 pm

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:06 pm

Randyt!

and end with:

but I’m with(Summer) swimming pool chic,Right Now!

Purple Reign

August 25th, 2011
4:08 pm

Leggs, that would be a scenario in which I liked it on a woman.

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
4:08 pm

@ Exiled …I’d have to shave a spot on my bare azz for that one!!!

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
4:08 pm

SC – I usually have it wrapped but had not considered blowing it dry while still wrapped. I’ll try that thanks ;-)

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
4:10 pm

I’ve seen some lovely body art, but my personal rule of thumb is this: if it can be seen when I am in business dress, it’s not for me. Just my two cents…

Confirmed Bachelor

August 25th, 2011
4:11 pm

I don’t really know how to answer this, being a successful man and easy going, you always have to watch out for gravy train riders which in turn ruins it for ladies that actually have some substance. Go figure (SHruggs)

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:12 pm

usually have it wrapped but had not considered blowing it dry…..still wrapped

WHAT ARE U TALKING ABOUT?

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

August 25th, 2011
4:13 pm

Back to ATL. Nite all.

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:15 pm

shave a sport on bare azz?

looks good until u break up again and with a new hot one…

But now u scared taking off the pants when she unzips u! :lol:

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:19 pm

“But now u scared taking off the pants when she unzips u!”

Why be scared. He had a life before the new chick. If that meant he foolishly tattooed someone’s name on his body, that’s his call, not hers. If she’s upset, she’s insecure and need to get some backbone. She may not like it, but not her place to gripe about it. If anything, if this is panning out to be a longterm relationship, offer to help him to get it removed. Otherwise, “hush” is in order.

SlimNu

August 25th, 2011
4:26 pm

Exiled – You don’t know what i’m talking about because I wasn’t talking to you. ;-)

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:28 pm

I’m sure u wld be tentative, first time around, if it were u Leggs.

I wldnt take kindly to seeing Chris’s name,u ex boo,tatted on the outer lining of ur cherry,to be honest.

My first reaction question wld be,’did he pound u so good to get u into such a foolish daze!?

no,that won’t be a question,just a silent musing

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:35 pm

@Ex ~ don’t be so sure….you’re wrong. I would immediately think, what a nut to tattoo a gf’s name. I may say it out loud, but it will definitely be my first thought! Best believe, I wouldn’t trip over it. He cared about her enough then to do it believing “this will last forever.” No sweat of my brow….I don’t get bogged down with things like that.

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:37 pm

I may NOT say it out loud….

Exiled!

August 25th, 2011
4:40 pm

Leggs!

I have seen girl/boy names on guys and chic necks etc.

Unless those are relatives,it must have been real guuud,as Sexxy wld say!

Leggs

August 25th, 2011
4:45 pm

Not only that, sex depraved Ex, the relationship itself may have been real guuuud.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

August 25th, 2011
4:50 pm

Leggs your on a roll like sht paper as usual…too funny :lol:

SexyCool

August 25th, 2011
4:53 pm

Um…yeah…no…that doesn’t sound like something I’d say.

Into the Light

August 25th, 2011
4:58 pm

I think the clock is slow…….

Celisea

August 25th, 2011
4:59 pm

Sometimes I wonder if because he’s been pegged the Sex-O-Holic is he’s REALLY like that or if he’s playing to the name.

Oh, Exiled that’s rhetorical :)