First Dates: Clothes and Conversations
One of my guy friends had a first date with a young lady last weekend. He met her at a religious function so he was a bit taken aback at how she was when they went out. Apparently, she was dressed provocatively, something he thought inappropriate for someone her age (ouch?), especially on a first date.
He went on describe the way she used profanity, made several sexual remarks, and pretty much made him blush. Admittedly, my friend is super conservative and in my opinion high strung. However, the fact that he expected someone he met at a religious function to behave in a certain way, isn’t completely unreasonable. At the same time, are first date impressions reliable?
I do have to wonder, though, if we often meet people and have some preconceived ideas of how they should act or behave. Was the young lady projecting one image, yet behaved in a way that contradicted that? Perhaps, she was. However, should she get ruled out by the first date clothes and conversation?
Do you think we should judge a book by its cover and the first few pages of the book? If you were bothered the way someone behaved on the first date, do you grant a second one?
Do you ever think about the way dress on a first date? Are you careful about what you discuss or talk about?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:42 pm
VS’s not VC’s…sorry Victoria.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:45 pm
Thongs are great to eliminate panty lines. Can’t think of any other reason. Not only that, when wearing one, I find it difficult to pass gas (don’t know why). Ok, TMI.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:48 pm
@ Leggs, so the thought of pooting on your tight pants is a concern too. Hmmmm. Like I suggested,they look good with a beautiful woman prancing around in or preceding a “Cialis Moment”. but just to wear…hmmm?
i'm swiss™
August 24th, 2011
4:49 pm
“Thongs are great to eliminate panty lines. Can’t think of any other reason. Not only that, when wearing one, I find it difficult to pass gas”
Um, Leggs… I think you just found another reason.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:49 pm
RandyT – I’m with you on the thong thing. Wore them years ago. Comfort, comfort, sexy, comfort. I like soft, lacy, soft colored panties. Black (I know I have a gazillion black panties), brown, beige, taupe, peach, pink, etc. I think I have a pair of lime green but not too fond, then they ain’t comfortable. I have white but I NEVER wear white panties. Same with bras…soft colors and no whites.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
4:50 pm
Celisea, u know I am just talkin, nothin wrong wit showing a lil thigh, but everybody better be dressed age appropriate. Every 5 years, what you consider daisy dukes should drop about a inch
20=lil bit of dark, cuff or shavings on edge
25=lil dark, but an actual cuff on them
30= drop down, no dark, definite cuff
35= tricky, depend on the lady, can possibly stay high, but mid thigh works
40= baby, I know you still got it, but don’t flaunt it
45=see 40
50= hell if still look that good rise em back up an inch
55= see 50
60= pull dayum short down, you 60, matter of fact put some coolocks(sp) on
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:50 pm
Swiss may have a point. If that is true, I guess us guys should be grateful. Breaking wind just any old time is just not ladylike
i'm swiss™
August 24th, 2011
4:50 pm
But, I’ll grant you this, Leggs: You definitely don’t want to shart yourself when wearing a thong.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
4:50 pm
Thongs are great for eliminating VPL, if you don’t wear a shirt short enough that the thong lines show and it looks like you have on a pair of creepers.
Um, okay, Leggs… Your comment had me
and LOL at the same time.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:51 pm
Funny I was looking for a camisole in my underwear drawer and found purple, striped, loud panties and bras that sort of made their way to the bak…no man’s land….lol Ut uh, what was I thinking?
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:52 pm
I remember saying I wouldn’t wear a thong. I have on occasion, but I prefer boy shorts or comfortable pair of bikini cotton undies.
@swiss ~ yes, sir. That’s a good reason for me not wearing them.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:52 pm
LOLOL…NOT THE KULOCKS (sp)!! That’s funny. I had a few pairs as a kid. Hadn’t heard that word in years. But yeah, you’re right.
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
4:52 pm
Well my wife always wears thongs for as long as I have known her even up until giving birth. WE have no problem with them whatsoever.
i'm swiss™
August 24th, 2011
4:53 pm
Thank the make-believe invisible dude of your choice in the sky that Mrs. Swiss only wears thongs.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:53 pm
@Jake ~ coolotts…loved, loved coolotts growing up.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:54 pm
I remember when I was living with my sister (after a breakup) and was going through throwing “stuff” out and she was vicariously living and watching me….lol Actually we were talking and she was like “who wore that???!!!” and went on to say “mama would have a caniption” Yeah, don’t judge me.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:54 pm
Damn Celisea, thanks for reminding me of something. My new lady showed me something that she has been saving for a special moment. I won’t tell what, but had forgotten until yu just reminded me just now. Thanks
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 24th, 2011
4:54 pm
Okay this is hilarious!
Jake – good to read ya boo. I guess we traded spots in Lurksville!
alright ya’ll have a good evening, off to the eastside I go!
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
4:54 pm
And for the record those thongs that my wife always wears have never stopped her from farting.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:55 pm
I wear boy shorts and hipsters
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
4:55 pm
Randyt, just make sure she is not using that item she has been saving for a special moment on you. LOL
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
4:55 pm
Oh, c’mon, Randy, tell! Is it animal, vegetable, or mineral? Is it bigger than a breadbox???
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:56 pm
RandyT – Now you know you can’t leave us hanging like that. Do tell.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:57 pm
No PR, that was another item and we have already had THAT discussion, and I never sit on anything smaller than my azzz.
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
4:57 pm
Don’t say a thing Randyt, save face and your relationship. Does it take C or D batteries..is it a plug in or gas powered?
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:58 pm
Interesting, what is the correct spelling for coolotts. Loved them and my shirt dresses growing up.
@ITL ~ I know, I know. A lot of women may have problems with thongs, that’s a problem I’ve noticed.
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
4:58 pm
LOL that’s a good motto Randyt!
SlimNu
August 24th, 2011
4:59 pm
Sorry i’m late, been working away from the desk. Slim had her 1st audible fart in front of The beau day before yesterday while I was eating a sammich and he was laying on the couch. He rises up and looks at me like, “Mmm huh, thought that was going to be a silent one didn’t ya…and how the hell you fartin AND eating”
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:59 pm
And Imma say it…thongs ain’t cute if they’re “hidden” by flesh. If you find you have some “extra” and only part of the thong peeks out…ummm, you need to move on to panties with more material…lol
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
4:59 pm
I see girls chiming in with what style of panties they like, and I see the men chiming in with their wife’s/partner’s faves, but I don’t see the men chiming in on what they like.
So, boys…. boxers or briefs or boxer briefs?
Inquiring minds wanna know…..
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
5:00 pm
Boxer briefs….ALL DAY LONG
cba
August 24th, 2011
5:01 pm
Leggs, I’m just scanning through the posts and your 4:45 , passing gas
As my wife say, it does stank……yeah right
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
5:01 pm
Have mercy….tell me I did not just hear someone in the hall rip one!! smh…
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
5:02 pm
Boxers…briefs…and did you mention ‘Commando’?…..
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
5:02 pm
Imma have to pass on the passing gas convo….night folks.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
5:03 pm
@Slim…you got him, that was acceptance and sarcasm…he made the joke for your sake, he actually been waiting on it, and he not gonna tell you, but he tried to smell it…lol
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
5:04 pm
I disagree Celisea, if you see the whole backside of the thong and it does not dissappear a little between the ass cheeks before making an appearance covering the puddy. You have both style in the pic below and both are very nice! full thong showing and some thong disappearing:
http://www.giornale.it/celeb/spiaggia/images/thong22.jpg
ITL I prefer to wear boxer briefs
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
5:04 pm
Oh, forgot that one.
So, tell us gents: boxers, briefs, boxer briefs, commando, or “other”
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
5:05 pm
I have some of each depending on my mood…and sometimes the Commando works well in my pool!!!! night y’all
i'm swiss™
August 24th, 2011
5:06 pm
ITL — Boxers or commando. I’ve gotta free-ball it.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
5:06 pm
Boxers…the boys got to hang, why put them in a muscle shirt, or Commando
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
5:06 pm
@cba ~
Was just commenting on a negative affect I encounter wearing them.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
5:07 pm
I’m mostly with Swiss on that one.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
5:07 pm
PR – We can agree to disagree. I can’t click on the link because I’m at work and don’t chance nothing…lol
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
5:08 pm
I will be forwarding this information to product development at Calvin Klein, Fruit of the Loom, and Hanes. Thanks for your input, guys!
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
5:10 pm
Haa haa haa, free-balling is better than free-basing.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
5:11 pm
The kitty suffocates in thongs. Thongs grab and hold the kitty….alll dang day. Just sometimes you don’t want something “hanging” on the kitty. Men do that enough…lol Don’t need panties doing it too.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
5:12 pm
Suffocate is an exaggeration but ya’ll get what I’m saying.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
5:13 pm
Ummm, the butthole suffocates more than the kitty. The front of the thong covers much like a pair of panties. It’s the butthole that needs to form a union.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
5:14 pm
Leggs – All of that…everything in that region. I spoke to kitty because I’m sure the men can comprehend the point I was making.