First Dates: Clothes and Conversations
One of my guy friends had a first date with a young lady last weekend. He met her at a religious function so he was a bit taken aback at how she was when they went out. Apparently, she was dressed provocatively, something he thought inappropriate for someone her age (ouch?), especially on a first date.
He went on describe the way she used profanity, made several sexual remarks, and pretty much made him blush. Admittedly, my friend is super conservative and in my opinion high strung. However, the fact that he expected someone he met at a religious function to behave in a certain way, isn’t completely unreasonable. At the same time, are first date impressions reliable?
I do have to wonder, though, if we often meet people and have some preconceived ideas of how they should act or behave. Was the young lady projecting one image, yet behaved in a way that contradicted that? Perhaps, she was. However, should she get ruled out by the first date clothes and conversation?
Do you think we should judge a book by its cover and the first few pages of the book? If you were bothered the way someone behaved on the first date, do you grant a second one?
Do you ever think about the way dress on a first date? Are you careful about what you discuss or talk about?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:07 pm
BMW, I didn’t say anything!! I put Blackfoote in timeout for unnecessary innuendo, but he seems to think that you’re giving him a hall pass to get out.
See, they think we don’t talk to each other! Hmph.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
3:08 pm
ITL – Where has Purple been?
Willie Dynamite
August 24th, 2011
3:11 pm
Purp – Jesus was a peaceful man. The NFL is a violent place. Plus God didn’t bless him with accuracy or the ability to red defenses.
Simp – Throwback will be just dandy. if you really wanna impress get you a 77 Mecklenburger throwback and you’ll be the man.
ITL – since you are such a cool chick I’ll ease off the puppies. Not a fan of Jekyll but i can usually be found loitering around the landing that weekend. just look for the Jean Shorts, hahaha
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
3:13 pm
ITL, yes I’m back. You SexyCool and CanalZone sent me “Where are you emails” and Celisea, don’t get mad at BlackFoote CanalZone already snitched on you last week to me via email. LOL
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:14 pm
Celisea: According to his earlier post, working 18-20 hours a day on crops.
LOL@Willie D! I know you are rockin’ the “jorts”
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
3:17 pm
Purp – Woo hoo, glad to know you have a fan club
Let ‘em snitch if I want to get fat…let me…IT MY LIFE!!! That sounded like something a 16 year old would say ain’t it…lol
Well, you should be glad you have fans and was missed
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
3:18 pm
ITL – Yes, I saw that. I thought he worked those sort of hours normally. I guess not.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
3:18 pm
Re: Peyton Manning. He had neck surgery in May and has not practiced since, although it would be hard to not see him starting in the Colts opener, considering he has started 200+ games in a row.
Willie Dynamite
August 24th, 2011
3:19 pm
ITL – LOL thats right. This year starched with the sharp crease with some AF1’s and a 22 Emmit throwback.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
3:20 pm
As long as Ohio State takes its annual beating from the SEC, the college football season won’t all be bad…even if my own college team sux.
Simple Man....
August 24th, 2011
3:23 pm
Damn Willie…All you will need to complete the look is to make sure the AF1’s are high top, a Mullet and a Porn star Mustache…
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
3:24 pm
LOL@Celisea, you didn’t even know I was gone. That says alot, I’ve seemed to have lost my mojo. LMBO
Normally I work from 4am to 8-930am
What are jorts?
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:26 pm
Of course we did, Purp. It’s not the same in here without your biting wit.
I’ll offer to be the parliamentarian for the Coach Reign Fan Club. I’m well versed in Roberts Rules of Order…
Woohoo, Willie!! Looking sharp. Are you gonna let the mullet grow for the game, too? Business in the front, party in the back.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:28 pm
LOL@SM on the mullet comment; I was on the same page.
Jorts = jean shorts (favorite attire of Florida Gator fans)
Willie Dynamite
August 24th, 2011
3:33 pm
RandyT – We share a mutual disdain for OSu. I think this is the year for a non-bcs team to win. After Boise beats UGA then they have a clear path to the Champ. game.
SimpMan – funny but nawwww. Low Top White on white, bald head with a towel over the shoulder of course and a neat trimmed Corp style stache.
ITL – I was giving you a break but now I’ll add a Winners smile to the look.
Purp – Frown = Lost (favorite attire of a UGA fan at the end of October)
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
3:38 pm
what up good people! how your hump day?
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
3:39 pm
Good afternoon.
@PR ~ to answer your earlier question, lil leggs had a call back for a modeling contract. Had a face to face interview which she aced. She had to walk the runway. She looked good. She got it from her mama (lololol).
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:40 pm
Ouch, Willie D! You really know how to hurt a girl…..
And the trophy going to the land of Smurf Turf? I think not.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:41 pm
Way to go, Little Leggs! Woot!
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
3:42 pm
AWWW ITL, tell me not a Dawg fan, please…and I really liked you
(Go Vols)
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
3:43 pm
Leggs, yes your daughter is beautiful (saying that in a mature way) when did she start modeling?
LOL, Jean shorts. Why do people wear shorts that are as long as pants?
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
3:44 pm
I can’t see The Smurfs in the NC game until they bite the bullet and join a real conference. You just can’t play 8 or 9 high school teams and get respect…you just can’t.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:50 pm
Oh, Randy (hanging my head)….I really liked you, too – but a Vol? However, I will acquiesce that your lot is slightly more tolerable now that a Dooley is at the helm.
co-signing on Randy’s 3:44.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
3:52 pm
Why do people wear shorts that are as long as pants?
Good question. Sometimes it’s a case of sags gone wild.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
3:56 pm
@ITL ~ i think that is one horrible look on man. Shorts as long as pants….UUUGGGGHHHH!
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
3:56 pm
I guess it is the country in me, but I think cut off jean shorts are incredibly sexy (if the gal wearing them looks like Daisy Duke or Jessica Simpson). Put Daisy Duke’s on 3/4ths of the gals at the University of Kentucky (or just Ashley Judd) and I would probably spontaneously ignite
.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:00 pm
A few years back, I didn’t wear nothing (just about) but cutoff jean shorts. I think cutoff jean shorts (slight daisy duked…not too much) are sexy too.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:01 pm
“slightly” daisy duked is where I was going. Thinking about it, I don’t think I own a pair now.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:01 pm
@PR ~ she hasn’t started yet. She has to be trained in a few areas before she can be seen by the agency’s clients. She’s stoked.
@WilleD ~ what are you wearing and where are you going?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 24th, 2011
4:04 pm
Afternoon All!
Had to pop in for a minute! Been a busy day for ya girl today.
Into the Light
August 24th, 2011
4:04 pm
We’re talking about men in jorts, not women rocking the Daisy Duke look.
kimmie
August 24th, 2011
4:05 pm
Leggs – Tell lil Leggs congrats & I’m pulling for her!
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
4:05 pm
Hey Randy, I”m with u on the jean shorts on the ladies, but they must be cut correctly, they should be short enough to cover and show that booty all at once, u know, i should get just a peak at that dark meat!!
That upper back thigh/crease area…lol
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:05 pm
Now cutoff jeans on guys…not so sure…and mullets…there is a reason a mullet is a fish. personally I would not want to wear a “fish” on my head.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
4:08 pm
What up Mo, how’s my homegirl doing or should I just say , whatz up shawty?
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:08 pm
Jake – they should be short enough to cover and show that booty all at once, u know, i should get just a peak at that dark meat!!
See that’s a little bit too daisy duked. Lower the shorts just a hint where it’s alllllmost there but you can’t see the upper back thigh crease. Booty shorts but not quite.
Can’t show that cause Imma lady
Oh and not say anybody that shows the crease ain’t a lady….let me just throw that in there 
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:11 pm
When I was in a Public Speaking course in college, I had a professor who said something that has stayed with me all these years. He said that “a speech is like a mini-skirt. It should be long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to keep your interest”. I suspect that many things, including apparel, would fall in to this category.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:14 pm
@kimmie ~ I will tell her.
Slightly daisy dukes are sexy, as long as the butt cheeks are covered. No peak of the dark meat.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:16 pm
Hey Mo, how ya doing? Come out and play once in a while. Masa will be fine.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:22 pm
Thank you, PR
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
4:22 pm
Ah Celisea/Leggs-Don’t be so conservative, now they shouldn’t be above the crease, accept for when you strech out to grab something, actually they should kinda cup it, become one with the crease, no more than an inch below the the crease.
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:23 pm
The bum is upstairs sleeping. She hasn’t done anything today and she’s sleeping!!
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:24 pm
Is the topic daisy dukes???
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 24th, 2011
4:24 pm
LOL!!
Leggs – hey chica! You know they are trying to work a sistah! I pop in err now and again. I’ll try to contribute more, mostly lurking
Jake – wassup my east side homie, how do?
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:26 pm
I owned a pair of red Wrangler short shorts since 15. Was proud that I was able to get into those bad boys up until a good 4 years ago.
Jake: Sweet Peeda Jeeda, TWB
August 24th, 2011
4:29 pm
I’m good sweets, back from my extended vacay in Lurksville. Just coolin!!
Leggs
August 24th, 2011
4:33 pm
Online dating. I’m delving into that world. Interesting profiles, but will pay no attention to anyone w/o a pic. Best to exchange email addresses so you can talk with out continuing a monthly subscription fee. I think.
Celisea
August 24th, 2011
4:35 pm
Jake – actually they should kinda cup it, become one with the crease, no more than an inch below the the crease.
Ahhh, Jake Jake Jake, while I’ve pretty much been and done tastefully, conservative…for me….moves up the chain as I get older. Notwithstanding, I can relate to fun and fun times. And butt cheeks hanging out and exposed ain’t never really been my thing and definitely not now
Purple Reign
August 24th, 2011
4:40 pm
Daisy Dukes are for firm buttocks not soft squishy ones
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 24th, 2011
4:41 pm
Similar subject, and even though I have to admit I like the look for some ladies who have been nice enough to have modeled just for me, thongs look dayum uncomfortable. Not entirely sure what the point is. Now a nice pair of french cut VCs look comfortable AND sexy…but a string up your butt?