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Do you need to vent about dating?

Dating can be like this strange amusement park that can either be really really fun or really awful and annoying. It just depends on what kind of luck you are having at any given time. I have to be honest, some days I don’t want to even do it. This kind of attitude is a classic sign that you should take a break from dating!

While dating has its perks, sometimes you just want to acknowledge the moments when it sucks. So I think we should take a moment and vent so we can release the frustration and get it out of our systems!

What frustrates you about dating? What would you like to say to the last horrible, no good date you endured?

What annoying habits do you wish the people you dated didn’t have?

I bet you will feel better! Let it all out…without naming names of, course!

I have one: Just because you’re hot, doesn’t mean you get to be rude and inconsiderate. Get over yourself, please.

Happy “Venting” Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

270 comments Add your comment

dd

August 19th, 2011
6:42 am

Really makes you feel good to drop $75.00 and watch your date turn her nose up at the food.

Drizzy Drake

August 19th, 2011
6:42 am

They say real girls ain’t never perfect, perfect girls ain’t never real.

Frustrated Fred

August 19th, 2011
7:30 am

At least you Hetrosexual folks get to date. As a GWM here in Atlanta you’d think a genuine dating pool would be filled to capacity. But, sadly it’s not the case. The bulk of them are just looking for a hook up, they could care less about trying to build a relationship. Little substance or character at all. Count your blessing ladies…if you date just wears too much cologne.

dwh

August 19th, 2011
7:49 am

Hey Fred, why don’t you just go ahead and switch teams?

Go after the Brazilian women.

Most Latina and/or Hispanic women make great companions.

Angel

August 19th, 2011
7:57 am

If you’re intentionally difficult and I can never figure out how to TAKE you… I’ll probably have to LEAVE you.

bert

August 19th, 2011
8:07 am

You couldn’t pay me to be single in Atlanta, for that matter, in the country. How do you communicate with people whose lives have been condensed to 120 characters?

jake's mom

August 19th, 2011
8:11 am

what ever happened to actually having a plan? “…ya wanna hang out Wednesday or somethin’…” doens’t cut it

xivinrah

August 19th, 2011
8:17 am

GBM. 22.

I gave up. Love and dating was a lost cause before it started for me. Never loved. Never been taken. Don’t believe in intimacy. Don’t have sex. I’m a full-time nerd now… but then again I never stopped being one. :)

1 of 1

August 19th, 2011
8:22 am

@dd…75 on a date…no way dude…on wifey or steady lady..yes…a random chick gets “six packs and left over spaghetti” – biggie….lol

@dwh….the latin women..where are they dating outside of buford hwy in atlanta..lol

dating is fun when you date 5yrs below your current age….yeah

Leggs

August 19th, 2011
8:37 am

Simple Man....

August 19th, 2011
8:54 am

Morning Leggs…..Any idea where I should leave the keys to the city???? Oh yeah..On topic..Might just be me, But I have nothing bad to say about dating in the “A”….Millions of beautiful, smart, self sufficiant woman and tons of places to go when one is fortunate enough to be in the company of one (or two, cause this is Atlanta) of them!!! :) :D :)

LL411

August 19th, 2011
8:58 am

I stopped trying to figure folks out… I just do me, and you either fit or not. I don’t want anything and I ain’t bother’n nobody.

Divorced after 20 years, the world has truly changed… I’ve only met a few folks in the last 6 years that are 100%

Leggs

August 19th, 2011
9:01 am

My post got eaten!

WHAT I DON’T UNDERSTAND IS WHY SO MANY WON’T DATE ANYMORE…SO MANY ARE QUICK TO JUMP BETWEEN THE SHEETS. THE COME HITHER REMARKS ARE NOT CUTE! THE SEXUAL INNUENDOS ARE TIRING AT BEST. IF YOU THINK YOU’RE COMPLIMENTING ME, THINK AGAIN!!!!

dating is fun when you date 5yrs below your current age….yeah – That’s what I’m thinking too!!!

BTW, VENTING REQUIRES ALL CAPS…J/K

Good morning, peeps!

Good morning to you SimpleM!

SlimNu

August 19th, 2011
9:07 am

Good morning and Happy Fiery Friday

Leggs – I’m with you on trying to bed so fast…

I just hate all the game playing that goes into dating sometimes. If your intention is to just have some time to kill by dating me, then be up front about it. Don’t waste my time after you are clearly made aware by me of what i’m looking for—-> long term, in it to win it, building a foundation with my partner to blast off in the future, with my ride or die dude by my side…then be gone! Go find you some temporary tail that is looking for the same thing. Other than that, let’s do this lol

P.S. I’m missing the beau since I’ve actually been home the last 2 days lol

Dave

August 19th, 2011
9:09 am

Try doing the things sober what you said you’d do when you’re drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut.

1 of 1

August 19th, 2011
9:10 am

ride or die

these words have fooled a many man an woman alike…no is ride or die…we all have an agenda…or what we want or need…he or she that finds that person who truly believes in this concept “ride or die” hold on to them.

All4one

August 19th, 2011
9:10 am

Men marry women hoping they won’t change. Women marry men hoping they will change. Both will be very disappointed.

007

August 19th, 2011
9:12 am

For 2 months, I gave up drinking, partying and women. It worked out find until I tried to kill myself.

007

August 19th, 2011
9:13 am

oops…”fine”

Dr. Ruth

August 19th, 2011
9:15 am

If both men AND women continued to do the same things while they are married, that they did when they were dating, the divorce rate would all but disappear.

czBrat

August 19th, 2011
9:18 am

HiYas!

i’ve enjoyed my dating years. i have no complaints. i’ve been lucky that the dudes turned out to be true to themselves over the long haul. no bait and switch fiascos.

Go find you some temporary tail that is looking for the same thing.
well, that WAS the plan. now look where we at. :oops:

Amia

August 19th, 2011
9:19 am

Dating can be fun. The A has lots to do. I’ve done a lot but there’s still more to do. Plus you can hop in the car and go on a quick getaway to a lot of unique places.

With that said, my venting comes from trying to figure these men out. Have great dates and then they either are trying to profess their love too soon or you get very little feedback. Can I get right there in the middle. I recently met a nice guy and have been out with a few times. His body language and interaction with me is very attentative. Soon as we part ways, the communication is not as much as I would like it. I like him so I will see where it goes.

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:21 am

I co sign @ Leggs, asking/expecting s3x so soon is frustrating. For me it’s a complete turn off and I’m gone in 5, 4, 3, 2…..

Bitter pill

August 19th, 2011
9:22 am

After I became a husband, I quit remembering all of my mistakes. No point in two people doing the same thing.

Amia

August 19th, 2011
9:23 am

Another thing! I don’t conform to any “dating rules”. I will get physical with someone if I feel comfortable and I know they are going to be around for sex on a regular basis. If not, I don’t open the flood gates. I don’t want it once every month or two. I will want it all the time. And I don’t want to collect notches on my belt by adding random people. That’s just not me. Some people say by the 3-5th date you should be getting physical. Ha! If I feel it, maybe.

Alley

August 19th, 2011
9:24 am

I agree with Button and Leggs, expecting a threesome within a month of the first date is moving way too fast.

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:31 am

Amia at least you’re honest!

czBrat

August 19th, 2011
9:31 am

if i absolutely have to vent about something, i’d say there are times i just want to be an individual. being a couple should not obligate us to share every thought that crosses our minds and recount every detail about our day.

there. i feel better now.

amia, just ASK him what’s up. it’s entirely possible he just prefers face-to-face over phone/text/email etc. his behavior doesn’t necessarily mean out of sight out of mind. good luck!

1 of 1

August 19th, 2011
9:32 am

i just want to be an individual. being a couple should not obligate us to share every thought that crosses our minds and recount every detail about our day.

true

Amia

August 19th, 2011
9:36 am

czBrat – I’m not giving up. It’s a little frustrating but I am enjoying him so far. I thought about how he may like face to face too. Thanks for the well wishes, though

SlimNu

August 19th, 2011
9:38 am

1 on 1 – You really are taking the concept of ‘ride or die’ too literally. It’s Friday…chillax my friend.

1 of 1

August 19th, 2011
9:40 am

@slim….i was just offered up a different point…not trying to steal your shine or profess to know it all….i am chill trust that….I dont see why the push back..it was not an attack.

oneofeach4me

August 19th, 2011
9:47 am

Most of the time guys play games because they figure if they told the truth, about just wanting benefits, then they wouldn’t get any. They are probably right. That is why we were given instinct; if only we would follow it.

I am with LL411. Most people aren’t 100 anymore, it’s a “me” society now. And after 12 years of giving to a giveless relationship, forgive me if I am not in the mood to play your game.

Simple Man....

August 19th, 2011
9:47 am

Sitting kinda tickled that teh ladies have lots to say and the fellas….well the fellas are teh fellas!!! But just hold on for a minute ladies..Blackefoote will be in shortly to let you know just how right you are and how wrong the dudes in this town can be…

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:48 am

Amia beware of the lax of communication when he’s not with you, I met a guy who only talked to me when he was either going to work, coming from work, I asked him about it and he gave me a vague reason as to why, come to find out he was living with someone. So be careful if you’re seeing a man and esp if s3x is involved and you have communication problems when you’re apart. just saying

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 19th, 2011
9:50 am

Leggs:
I heard you yelling on 285…..LOL
No venting on dating.

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:50 am

dating older guys with bagage is NOT the business!

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:51 am

dating older guys (40-50) who is still paying child support is NOT the business!

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:53 am

dating a guy on child support period is NOT the business!

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:54 am

dating a guy whose wang points to the right is NOT the business!

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:55 am

dating a guy who uses his tongue to clean the back of my throat is NOT the business!

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:56 am

dating a guy who inhales his food instead of chewing then swallowing is NOT the business!

czBrat

August 19th, 2011
9:56 am

Blackefoote will be in shortly to let you know just how right you are and how wrong the dudes in this town can be…
and to serve up some morning vittles and java.

you’re welcome, amia. button makes a good point, but i trust you’re smart enough to check that if he is sticking to an availability pattern. otherwise, just learn each other. s/o and i had to go through discovering each others’ love language, and i truly believe that has been key in getting us where we are now. those differences can seem small but will hugely impact how you meld over time.

Button

August 19th, 2011
9:57 am

dating a guy who can’t color coordinate his clothes and it’s wrinkled too is NOT the business!

Button

August 19th, 2011
10:00 am

texting me for a date is NOT the business. oh and texting me all those fw messages make me sick!

ditto

August 19th, 2011
10:04 am

I only date every blue moon because most men try to get in bed too soon. I find that juvenile and tiresome. Stop with the “suggestive’ comments, stop grabbing my behind for a quick assessment of what you might get, stop PUSHING. I’ll have sex with you if I FEEL like it, not because we’ve gone on three dates. And if that’s not good enough, stop calling and I’ll sto the same. My body is not yours, it’s mine. ALWAYS. Okay, I sound jaded, because at this point I am. Where are the book readers and park walkers?

Button

August 19th, 2011
10:09 am

the nerve of some men who think that after 3 dates our bodies belong to them!

Mike P

August 19th, 2011
10:10 am

@Amia: I don’t understand your problem with men… you say that you have great dates and then they either are trying to profess their love “too soon” or you get very little feedback. Can I get right there in the middle?

The guys who are profess their love for you 9 times out of 10, are because they are ready for love and they want to commit to you. So if you want to be in a committed loving relationship, then choose one of those guys… if you don’t want committed relationship, keep playing around with the other… but you must choose, as there are no middle ground.

czBrat

August 19th, 2011
10:14 am

ctfu@button

Where are the book readers and park walkers?
at the park. on benches, under trees, nose in the kindle or tilted toward the sun.

at the risk of being coined “uptight” (where’s reign??), i must say i’ve never had this ——> Stop with the “suggestive’ comments, stop grabbing my behind for a quick assessment of what you might get, stop PUSHING. situation on a date. repeated experiences like that would certainly make me take leave from dating.

Leggs

August 19th, 2011
10:14 am

Yep, that was me, BF…I yelled again here, but deleted my post! I’m sulking in my own private little corner (not under the stairs)!