Object of desire or objectified?
I read an “opinion” recently by a man who believes that women love to be objectified. I thought about how chauvinistic that sounded, then I wondered what would make a guy think that? When a woman wants to be desired, we aren’t thinking of being objectified but that seems to be waht some men think.
I believe some women think there is a difference in how you are treated. When does it become a problem? Usually when it is accompanied by misogynist views and disrespectful behavior.
I’m sure men can argue that women objectify them too, they just don’t “whine” about it. Do men think women like, excuse me, love to be objectified? Is that why some men try to cat call at women on the street?
In your opinion, what is the difference between being the object of desire and being objectified?
What are the reasons men objectify women? Why do women objectify men?
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Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
8:38 am
My question is…what is any of this trying to say. I guess I must not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but I don’t know what this is asking. Are we saying like “arm candy/ornament” or “trophy wife” or “Dunwoody tennis maven”???
I guess I need to star in the next rerun of “Clueless”.
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
8:49 am
Good morning!
what is the difference between being the object of desire and being objectified
Being objectified means (to me) that you are only desired for that which is touchable and visible, i.e. the physical beauty. Being the object of desire can include the physical, intellectual, emotional traits….or not. The object of my desire would include the traits most attractive TO ME, which are not the same for everyone.
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
8:50 am
Randyt – I must’ve went into the pool house since I thought we were bootleg blogging…but i’m right there with you on this topic. Maybe it’s too early or maybe my coffee hasn’t kicked in yet but after reading this, I felt like a dog who turns his head sideways like WTH?
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
9:17 am
Don’t feel bad, Slim. I was in the guard shack for a minute, until I saw the main gates had opened.
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
9:23 am
ITL – I think your post just summed up the answer to the topic…and did you leave any croissants in the guard shack?
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
9:23 am
HiYas!
i’ll make the most of the hour or so of free time i have this a.m. by playing in blogville.
i’m with ITL on defining the difference. as the “object of desire” i should feel you’re doing all you can to please me; as opposed to doing all you can to make me please you … which i would take as being “objectified”.
that comment reminds me of a little ‘thing’ s/o and i go through from time to time. i’ve learned to sass-up my nature girl look a bit to please him. he has learned to prep-up his weekend look to please me. and we both like the changes. it takes a clear understanding of what you mean to each other to know when pleasing each other is not objectifying.
Button
August 18th, 2011
9:26 am
Being the object of a man’s desire is being more than the norm. Being confident and showing it and owning it. Men notice a confident woman just being her natural self without being pretentious. Being objectified is being called out because of your physical attributes and men slobbing afer you. jmo
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
9:27 am
Nope, Slim. I brought them in to the blog kitchen. Didn’t want anyone having to walk back down to the shack until they’d had their coffee. Oh, and there’s some homemade blackberry preserves if you’re interested.
Good morning, czB! I like your example…just goes to show that when you really love someone, little things to please them are your desire, not your chore.
Button
August 18th, 2011
9:30 am
We women have been objectified for centuries, exploited!
LL411
August 18th, 2011
9:37 am
I think the subject has been covered…. unless someone posts something really out there to jump it off.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
9:38 am
Objectified yep what ITL said, object of my desire is cool. I believe some men and women crave and enjoy it. I prefer being reserved than objectified. I don’t want to be on a pedestal for display.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
9:43 am
Morning Ladies and RandyT:
Objectified makes me think of women in strip clubs.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
9:47 am
LL, i may be alone in this, but i have to say that having men salivate and cat call behind women just goes with the territory of being attractive (predator/prey and all that jazz). it’s nature. i find it annoying and disrespectful, but it’s nature. as long as there is no vulgarity, and don’t even THINK about touching me! i can let the objectification from a distance slide.
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
9:48 am
Morning, BF….
What’s for breakfast?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
9:53 am
Ocean perch and grits, cinnamon toast, and orange pineapple juice.
abc
August 18th, 2011
9:57 am
This is really stupid, but still.
Nobody likes to be ‘objectified’, as it disregards them personally for who and what they really are, focusing instead on the superficial.
Everybody wants to be desirable to somebody. They’d just like for that desire to be the result of who and what they really are, not their physique, fairness of face, or bank account.
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
9:58 am
Ah ladies, you know you like it when we objectify you, its validation of your sexiness…So, though u may say you hate it, you get an ego stroke when you get whistled at, called from a distance, etc…quit acting like it bothers you soooo much!!!
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
9:59 am
Mmmm, fish and grits! Can I have a little cheese for my grits, please?
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
10:00 am
LL411-maybe that will spark it…lol
Michael P.
August 18th, 2011
10:01 am
As a teenage boy, as with most teenage boys, when I would see an attractive girl, my first thought would be ’sex’, seeing her for only her sexual potential in direct regards to myself.. However, even as a teenager, if I was fortunate enough to meet the particular women I was ogling, my intellect and emotions would take over, and I began to view her as a person; with emotions, personality, heart, soul and her own dreams and desires.
I would say on first view, most men revert to their ‘id’ when seeing an attractive women, hence the cat-calls that eminate from many of us. It’s the basic instinct for sex and reproduction that can be our first ‘driver’ in regards to women.
However, as the article states, women do the same to men in regards to viewing us as simply a paycheck or high salary, a good body or looks (which again points to sexual motivation), or even ‘trophy boyfriend or husband’.
One are that I haven’t seen touched on yet in this article or even by my fellow bloggers is how we tend (and this is especially true of women, though it also applies to some men) to objectify ourselves. As someone who works in the retail field, I can personally attest to how women will ‘come-on’ to men believing it will garner them some type of preference, and in many cases, it actually does. There have been times in my store where we are very busy, and while I am at the register cashing out a customer, an attractive women will walk in, and upon seeing the long line of people waiting to be served, she will look over, see that I have no one in front of me at that moment, and rather than wait in line as everyopne else is, she steps over to me, smiles her sexiest smile, and then gets very physically flirtatious as she asks for help. And by physically flirtatious, I mean bating her eyes, the slight tilt of the head, the sexy ‘I want you look’ in her eyes that she would normally save for her boyfriend or husband, the tossing of her hair, and the complete changing of her body posture and body language that begins to say, ‘Yes, perhaps you can have me’.
Men tend to do it in different ways. For example, the guy who walks into a crowded nightclub, and when he is not immediately noticed, he will go to the bar, remove his car keys from his pocket, and throw them on the bar in plain sight where everyone (and especially the ladies) can see his Mercedes Benz key fob. Or he take his sport coat off and hangs it on the back of his chair in such a manner as to allow everyone to see the manufacturers tag inside which reads ‘Armani’. This is the guy who always uses the concierge parking, because he wants everyone to know what he drives and that he is successful. Hence, he reduces himself to a paycheck.
The bottom line here is we as people need to begine viewing each other as whole and complete human beings…worthy of respect, admiration and love…not simply objects.
abc
August 18th, 2011
10:01 am
Whistling and calling strangers from a distance is a move for a low life degenerate. If you think chicks like that, you’re a fool.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
10:01 am
Cheese coming right up. Now making french cinnamon toast.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
10:06 am
I’m personally not in danger of being “objectified” ;-( (dayum the bad luck))
However I guess I see the consequences on reality shows like “The Real Housewives of Dismal Seepage Arkansas” or something. When someone dresses and fixes oneself up like a man’s stereotype of a ‘Barbie Doll’ all for show, then I guess that is being “objectified”. There is a reason I pass on by most women with ‘Glamour Shots’ type photos on line. If the person doesn’t project as a real person, I don’t want her. I need someone in my life who doesn’t push away with horror at the thought of her hair, makeup, and lipstick being mussed a litlle. So if you mean “objectified” as “making oneself look like an ‘object’” then pass me by…not interested.
Michael P.
August 18th, 2011
10:07 am
Hey blackfoote, what you didn’t mention is how those women in the strip club are objectifying you…all you are to them is a fat wad of dollar bills, and the are praying on your most basic instinct to get those dollar bills away from you.
And that begs the question; could you actually get one of those women to go home with you and spend the night? Sure you could…provided that you drive a Lamborghini, make $500,000.00 a year, own a yacht, and live in the biggest home in Buckhead. So who is objectifying who?
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
10:08 am
You know what? I might pretend to be annoyed to discourage him from approaching, but I’m actually kinda smirking on the inside….”yep…mami looks cute today!” And I don’t seek validation from others, but it still feels good to be noticed and appreciated, even if it is on a purely superficial level. And as long as he stays on his side of the street/bar/parking lot, it’s all good….
just me
August 18th, 2011
10:09 am
@abc
Agreed
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
10:10 am
abc-now, now, get back in your cage a bit…There is a percentage of women who want like the attention that her physical features garner, hence the invention of the miniskirt, sleeveles shirts shirts, low-rise jeans, sports-bra in plains sight, etc…Its not all women, but like anything else it depends on whose doing the calling,
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
10:12 am
provided that you drive a Lamborghini, make $500,000.00 a year, own a yacht, and live in the biggest home in Buckhead.
dang! are stripper’s requirements really THAT high?
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
10:16 am
ITL-Thanks for the assist, you expressed my thoughts better than I could, there is a part of many women and men that whats to know you are being recognized on a purely animalistic level, to qoute the great Austin Powers- “I am a sexy beast, yeah”
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
10:20 am
wants to know, that is
Michael P.
August 18th, 2011
10:21 am
Hey czBrat, if you knew you could take your pick from a virtually unlimted group, who would you pick?
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
10:29 am
Morning All!
On topic – Yeah okay, whatever.
I mean, I’ve never been comfortable with cat-calls on the street. I don’t feel that “validates” anything, just a dude that has no manners or class. Now when a guy admires in a respectful way – yes, that’s flattering. I think even men can appreciate it when a lady admires them in a respectful way. But hey, if you get off on being treated like a piece of meat, do you. Just don’t assume everyone else likes that.
Yeah, I’ll be glad when the topic changes.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
10:36 am
mr. p, the snob in me just cannot fathom that a stripper can “take her pick”. but i suppose i kinda sorta get what you’re saying.
i don’t doubt their audience runs the gamut, but i still find it hard to believe the guy in the accord can’t get chickadee to spend the night at his apartment if he offers up his entire $500 paycheck.
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
10:44 am
@Kimmie, and anyone who can explain, please tell what the hell is, “admires in a respectful way”. Does that mean you were approached, becuase I do not know how u could tell otherwise. Also, the cat caller really is not going to approach, which is what makes him a, wait for it, a “cat caller”, The cat calling itself is ignorant and immature, but like I said before, women put on like its the worst thing in the world, when it still is an ego stroke, its miniscule, but a stroke nonetheless…..
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
10:45 am
Brat – I agree. Plus, I think it depends on what you mean by “take your pick”. If he’s just looking to get physical, sure. If he’s looking for wife material, well no that stripper won’t likely be his choice.
Quality vs quantity
TenderRoni
August 18th, 2011
10:46 am
I pretty much associate being objectified as a level of disrepect to women. I don’t like cat-calls, being whistled at, licking of the lips, getting the up & down stare like you have x-ray vision or getting the ‘old man stare down’.
And the difference for me is when a man can look me straight in the eye and give me a compliment and notices the smaill things, like you changed your hair, or that color looks good on you, and simply just saying you are beautiful today= object of ones desire
UGA 1999
August 18th, 2011
10:53 am
Does it really matter…..
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
10:53 am
Jake – If you have to ask, nothing I say will convince you. I get admired in a respectful way every day. A nice, appreciative smile, a “hey you look nice”, “what’s that perfume you’re wearing?”. I actually don’t run across a lot of cat-callers in my travels.
I said I didn’t care for cat-caller. So why do you need to explain that a cat-caller is not going to approach? I ignore them.
So to get a miniscule ego stroke one should be happy to endure disrespect? Nope, not that hard up!
2CPTG
August 18th, 2011
10:56 am
sup y’all….
aiiight, let’s be real here….maybe The Diva used the wrong words, but in some sense EVERYONE wants to be desired!!! To say, “I do it for me,” is only half true….trust, you want someone else to notice too….
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
10:59 am
@ Michael…re: “all you are to them is a fat wad of dollar bills”
Now I am really hurt. I know that gal at Tattletales really liked me and it had nothing to do with my wallet opening early and often
This has totally disillusioned me, because I know it was true love.
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
11:02 am
Morning All….
Michael P On the real Bruh…Cats are going home with strippers that Use the check cashing place, Drive a 87 El Dorado with some tricked out rims and share an apartment with Boo Boo and dem….
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
11:02 am
…and I know she would have gladly gone back to my cheap apartment if I had asked before she had to take care of business with another gentleman.
Lovely Brown
August 18th, 2011
11:03 am
Don’t have anything to add to the topic
Just wanted to say Good Morning All!
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
11:06 am
This is such a chick topic….Show me a guy that cares if women are objectifing him and I will show you a …well…..Really Moist dude…….
Albert
August 18th, 2011
11:07 am
Women may not like to be looked at as a sex object, but some of them will beat themselves up (emotionally) because they think they’re physically unattractive to a man. It’s contradictory.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
11:07 am
No way she would have been kissing the back of my neck and running her hands over my face if she didn’t really like me…would she???? Now I’m confused.
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
11:09 am
Randy, What was her name???? That whole senario sounds familiar…..
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
11:10 am
She wouldn’t have minded that Toyota Corolla I was driving then because I know the money didn’t matter. And she would have shown me all those nice parts up close even if I hadn’t tipped her wouldn’t she? Now I’m really depressed.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
11:11 am
@ Casual Observer…I think she was going to tell me her real name just as soon as she could leave
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
11:15 am
Uall are playing with words,really! Agh,good morning!
There is a thin line. For the most part,men objectify women. We see the outer part first and that becomes the subject of our desire. When we get an opening we either strengthen that initial interest or it falls flat. But u can’t take away the objectifying. It fuels the attraction.
Women will treat themselves to look good to their men for the most part or to look good to the outside potential suitors. Men tho,don’t usually have those agendas. That’s a slight difference there.
And in this day if Internet dating and f–cking,objectifying oneself has taken on a whole nother level.
It’s way more explicit with nether packages flying left right and center! Is that not objectifying oneself? By both sexes. I have seen some damn wet puddies,trust me!
A woman reducing themselves to a mere hole!
So it’s happening!
(for purposes of adequate disclosure,I have never sent my package to anybody in picture form)
Just saying!
Have a hood day!
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
11:15 am
Good day not hood
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
August 18th, 2011
11:17 am
Leads to an interesting question…was I “objectifying” her or was she “objectifying” me? If it wasn’t true love then were we “objectifying” each other. Oh no, I might have been “objectified”!!! How can I live with this shame?
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
11:17 am
So that we are all clear…I don’t condone objectifying women, but I am guilty of tooting the horn at women as they are running, with the occasional roll down, and “looking good girl” as I fly by on to my destination, its for kicks for me and for motivation for her. Before you look at me sideways, she is out there running in a sports bra and spandex pants, I guess running shorts and a t-shirt just won’t cut it nowadays….But I am a jerk for noticing I guess!!!!
Generally, I am the attentive type, I kinda make it a point to compliment the ladies here at work when they change a hairstyle, have on a nice fit, or make suttle changes, a compliment doesn’t hurt anybody!
Non Golfer
August 18th, 2011
11:17 am
When I was getting married ten years ago people would ask me one question and my now ex-wife another. I was asked, “what does she look like?” , she was asked, “what does he do?”. Those questions were near universal. Sad but true. It’s like gravity—it may annoy you but you’re still subject to its laws.
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
11:20 am
a compliment doesn’t hurt anybody!
Jake – Now that’s nice!
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
11:21 am
Enter your comments here
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
11:24 am
Good morning.
Object of one’s desire or to be objectified. Desire me for all of me, physical, mental, silliness, etc. To have me on your arm for show will only leave you looking for another to objectify because I am GHOST.
Morning wasted in court so now I’m home taking PTO….anybody want to come over and play?
SlimUno
August 18th, 2011
11:27 am
I don’t think anyone is saying they don’t want to be desired or not found attractive to the opposite sex, but who wants to ONLY be viewed on a physical/sexual level?…Whenever I meet a guy and if it turns out all he cares to discuss my sexual desires or my looks then I know he could care less about what makes Slim tick, her interests, etc.
2CPTG
August 18th, 2011
11:31 am
Slim, baby….”game” comes in all shapes and forms…..sometimes you don’t, and won’t, know his true intentions until the deed is done……
akin to a gold-digger sayin she ain’t a gold-digger til she takes you for everything you have!!!!
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
11:33 am
J/K on playing. I’m playing with you guys right now.
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
11:35 am
@Kimmie, yea that is nice, but I got secret for ya…the nice compliment and the cat-call mean the same thing, its just presentation.
“That new haircut looks nice on you” is the same thing as “Hey girl, let me put this potato in that wedge of yours”…
Don’t be fooled!!!
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
11:36 am
Three Words Daily – Enjoy the journey.
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
11:38 am
Morning Run Report – regular route – me and the dog – 32minutes. Was planning on taking it easy this morning, but when I hit the sidewalk I just HAD to run.
#RunningNerd…
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
11:40 am
Jake – I didn’t just wake up. I’m far from green. But you said something that is key in this entire discussion – presentation!
All I’m saying is have enough going for yourself to have a little class and finesse about it, not take it to the gutter.
I’ve known guys that are straight-up players and everyone around them knows it. But they can charm the pants off darn near every woman if they had the opportunity. They are smooth with it. They put a smile on everyones face when they come around.
Then you have the flip side to that, dudes that are just crude and are creeps. Yuck!
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
11:41 am
Toucan – hey, homey!!!
Topic – I am sure that once I am an old lady, a little objectification would just tickle me pink. As it stands presently, strangers in the street are welcome objectify all they want. I just ask that they keep their comments and advances to themselves. Please and thank you.
When it comes to TheDude, we have a healthy mix of objectifying and desiring going on. Sooooo….we’re ghuuuuuddddd!!!
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
11:41 am
2CPTG/Jake!!
U both right.
If a guy says to a chic,’lemme taste that cream filling’,she’s gon feel offended. Coz they like aesthetics and taste and presentation.
But if the guy says,’ u look real nice’ they drool and gush!
But the guy pretty much said the same thing using semantics.
‘u look real nice and I feel like tasting ur cream filling’
(Busta Rhymes)
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
11:44 am
Exiled – Right, same sh–, different presentation. But makes all the difference in the world when it comes to how it’s received.
2CPTG
August 18th, 2011
11:46 am
What up, Sexy…..
Exiled, you’re exactly right…..presentation is everything!
SlimUno
August 18th, 2011
11:46 am
2C – well shiver me timbers lol
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
11:47 am
And how it’s presented also determines how quick you get to the center of tootsie roll.
Lovely Brown
August 18th, 2011
11:49 am
Good day not hood
same thang in my world..hood can be good
JASon
August 18th, 2011
11:50 am
“Is that why some men try to cat call at women on the street?”
Are these the men you date? The men who are out on the street? Wow you must be ugly
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
11:50 am
2 – It’s been so long since I’ve been a regular in PCB and I know there are a shtload of changes. Planning a weekend down there and need your recommendations on a decent place to stay for a couple of nights.
2CPTG
August 18th, 2011
11:53 am
I’mma take it a step further- We do wanna be “objectified”….but on our terms! Example….if a chic spends all day in the hair salon, she wants her new hairdo to be the thing that catches your eye….not her ass-piece….
truthbtold
August 18th, 2011
11:55 am
It all depends on what kind of class an individual has? There are plenty of females out there that want nothing more than to be objectified! Just look at the influences they have had over the last 50 years. From Marilyn Monroe and Madonna to Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton, and Niki Minaj – these women were perfectly content to get by on “looks.” After all, to feel like you have personality, intellect, conversation, aspirations and character to offer – requires more work and effort. Dressing provocatively requires little effort, and getting naked – no effort at all. Yeah, I would say more women want to be objectified today. Just take a look around you. Ooops! You better not do that – All you’ll see is a bunch of folks distracted by a cell phone stuck to their head while they walk, drive, eat, shop, work, and play.
2CPTG
August 18th, 2011
11:56 am
Sexy, just hit me up…..’tween now and Labor Day everything’s really economical….but Labor Day weekend expect some price gouging!
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
11:58 am
the nice compliment and the cat-call mean the same thing
This reminds me of part of a stand up act Chris Rock did…he was talking about men always “offering the women d!^k”. Like: Heey how you doing, you look nice today(want some d!^k)…oh wait let me open that door for you(want some d!^k)….you need help carrying that?(want some d!^K)..too funny.
I know sometimes a compliment is a thinly veiled attempt at some booty but I’d like to think not ALL men act this way.
Afternoon run report— me n Dr. Phil(tv)— 3 miles in 45 minutes. I’d like to get to a ten minute mile….someday
watch them dogs
August 18th, 2011
11:59 am
If a man got issues wit his momma, don`t trip when he has got issues with you.
.Mysoginistic ways.
Robert
August 18th, 2011
12:03 pm
Some women love being the object of desire. For example older women (40-50) who date younger men (30-40). Lust and sex become the object of their desire. We call them “cougars” looking for “cubs”.
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
12:04 pm
Presentation is everything. Yep. Which is why the, “Did you change your hair” will get a response but the wolf whistle/cat call on the street gets ignored.
Doesn’t mean they both aren’t a bit of an ego stroke, though…..
Mr_NYC
August 18th, 2011
12:06 pm
LOL @Sassy – I remember that routine — too funny. Sad but sometimes true.
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
12:07 pm
Afternoon All,
Don’t we all objectify everyone we see until we get to know them? At first glance you form an opinion rightly/wrongly and not always about sex. Some Women do it to other Women. If you and your man are at a function you will notice the busty chick with the cleavage showing, making a mental note to keep her away from your Man thinking she’s ditzy or easy. When Dudes see each other they size them up quickly (if push comes to shove I can take dude). I mean its a given until the presentation and follow through. That is what determines the potential outcome or lack thereof.
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
12:09 pm
So ladies,when u hear the cat calls,privately,do they tell u that ure doing something right in ur self presentation?
Or u just hate them Period!?
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:10 pm
thanx for the laugh, sassy.
Don’t we all objectify everyone we see until we get to know them?
excellent point, willie hola!
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
12:13 pm
So I guess reading the comments MOST Women like being objectified to an extent. I mean you are being objectified regardless of how we do/say it but You don’t want to feel objectified. It just matters how you objectify them. Is that a fair statement?
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
12:15 pm
Exiled,
No, just like if I didn’t hear them I wouldn’t assume that I was off my game. I know most of the ladies here disagree with me, but my point is that even though I don’t need the cat calls to validate me, I still get a little ego stroke from them. I would never acknowledge them, and in fact, more often than not give the annoyed eye-roll.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:20 pm
me-lo, cat calls don’t impress me simply because they generally come from the type of dude i’m not interested in impressing. i wouldn’t say “hate”, but it’s no ego boost. if anything, i might do a quick check to make sure my skirt’s not too short or neckline too low. i mean, if i got them wolves howling ….
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
12:24 pm
Cat calls from a dude hanging on the corner is not an ego booster. Just a guy whistling at anything walking. Has no bearing on me or what I’m wearing.
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
12:27 pm
Just a guy whistling at anything walking
ouch
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
12:28 pm
Michael P:
While I don’t drive a Lambo or make half a mil., when I frequented strip joints I haven’t had a problem with a stripper/exotic dancer coming home with me CASH FREE. Sure they want what’s in a guys pocket, but someone has mentioned it’s the approach of objectifying that makes a difference. When you make adjustments at the appropiate time, you can get most anything without the tripping that people do.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:28 pm
lmao @ leggs. see!
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
12:29 pm
czB +1.
If you are “on my level”, you are not whistling and hollering at me in the street.
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
12:30 pm
Rob – your Richard Johnson is going to meet with the wrong Va-jay-jay doing that.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:32 pm
If you are “on my level”, you are not whistling and hollering at me in the street.
sc, i’m guessing they don’t know that until they get the
though, so what’s a guy to do? 
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
12:34 pm
Err on the side of caution.
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
12:35 pm
IMO, If I may? Cat calls, whistling or even the nice gentlemanly compliment is already at least step 2. The objectifying has already taken place. Its the follow through that’s causing the problems.
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
12:35 pm
Blackfoote?!
CASH FREE… That’s what’s up maan!
U know,I’ll admit,I never read u on the blod, like u were that smoove maan!
@ Ladies.. Ok I hear u..its kinda a mixed bag,right?!
ego boost ITL check
no effect Leggs/Czbrat check
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
12:36 pm
Blog
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
12:37 pm
SexyC:
I’m cool those were days long ago when I thought I was a hot shot and had no ryhme or reason. She was a conquest and I was the conquerer, and once I got it out my system I became balanced.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:40 pm
no effect Leggs/Czbrat check
not exactly. move me to the “annoyed” column. please and thank you.
ok. i’m quite done beating that horse.
has it been deemed taboo to ask the whereabouts of infamous, kym and ared?
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
12:41 pm
Ashy Larry is going to be at Uptown next Tuesday night at 8p.
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
12:45 pm
Czbrat.
To be honest,even when u ladies are approached in a gentlemanly manner,we know how u roll, tilting ur necks/head whilst checking on our shoe game.
We all objects of each other’s desires!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
12:46 pm
Exiled:
When Jazzy T’s was open they did everything under the sun there, sometimes I’d be alone and other times with other friends. We’d say hey lets take this to the house and some would oblige. No orgy’s would go on but we would have good times. What I’m saying is even those who want to be objectified still can be brought down to level with attitude and approach.
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
12:46 pm
Ashy Larry
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
12:48 pm
@Ex ~ seriously, no affect. That toothless man saying “hey baby” does nothing for me. By that I mean I snicker inside that he has confidence to believe a woman of my caliber (not being conceited) would really stop and engage in a convo with him. His flirt is empty to the walls of my soul, to my being. The law of probability dictates that if he keeps it up long enough with different type of women, one, heck maybe two, will exchange words of encouragement with him. Heck, the cross-eyed old geezer at Publix is always hitting on me and asking for my number. I commend his level of confidence, but sometimes I’m not sure if he’s talking to me while bagging my groceries or the lady in the next lane.
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
12:49 pm
Jazzy T’s ahhhhh the memories
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
12:49 pm
What I’m saying is even those who want to be objectified still can be brought down to level with attitude and approach
Brought down…from what? Brought down to what/who’s level? Please expound BF…
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:50 pm
Woman’s Ass Size Study
There is a new study just released by the American Psychiatric Association about women and how they feel about their asses.
The results are pretty shocking:
1. Only 5% of women surveyed feel their ass is too big.
2. 10% of women surveyed feel their ass is too small.
3. The remaining 85% say they don’t care; they love him; he’s a good man and they would have married him anyway.
czBrat
August 18th, 2011
12:54 pm
sometimes I’m not sure if he’s talking to me while bagging my groceries or the lady in the next lane.
i think he’d have to be wall-eyed.
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
1:00 pm
Did Bill Campbell close Jazzy T?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
1:02 pm
Sassy Me:
When I think objectified I think of a pedestal somebody has placed themseelf on or been put there by another. Me being firmly planted to the ground I now see something that’s above me, the snobby lady, the over confident lady, the me so great lady, the you’ll never have me lady, the you know you want it lady all can come down to my level with the right approach to each different personality. Do I think I’m all that nope it’s all about the ambience given off for that particular person.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
1:04 pm
Exile:
I don’t know if he did or not, but I know Dekalb Co. finest closed it down…..LOL
Jake a.ka. SPJ The Womb Beater
August 18th, 2011
1:05 pm
Did somebody say Jazzy T’s, Columbia Drive was a fool back in the day….and yes BFoote, anything was possible…but the ultimate hood shoe show is still the Foxy Lady, u can get ANYTHING you want in that joint, but if you can’t handle yourself, leave before 1AM, it gets hoodtastic about that time; killers,thugs, pimps, pushers, prostitutes and geakers…I love my city!!!!
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
1:07 pm
Considering Bill Campbell was mayor of Atlanta and Jazzy T’s was in Decatur, well………
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
1:10 pm
Leggs:
You are just wrong for that, he probably had to angle his head to get a good look at you. That man putting forth the effort and you put him on the fence, classic woman……LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
1:13 pm
Jake:
Man Foxy Lady, yes sir if you aint packing you best get out of Dodge by midnight.
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
1:14 pm
leave before 1AM, it gets hoodtastic about that time; killers,thugs, pimps, pushers, prostitutes and geakers…I love my city!!!!
They should make that their disclaimer…cause that’s for sure the truth. Guard your sh!t..
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
1:14 pm
Oh ok.
I never went there tho.
I was thinking Jazzy T was one of them joints in Cleveland area that was also notorious for extra lewd stuff and favors.
Mt bad!
cba
August 18th, 2011
1:15 pm
BF I was about to ask Leggs what happened to her in court……..she gutted Mr Publix……guts all on the floor
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
1:15 pm
My
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
1:20 pm
You talking ’bout Pleasers off of Cleveland ave…almost the same thing but not as gully…but gully nonetheless..
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
1:21 pm
Jake – dayum man whatchu trying to say. Only time I went in Foxy Lady was after 2am.
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
1:24 pm
“but the ultimate hood shoe show is still the Foxy Lady”
No joke…I went to Foxy lady one night and there was a chick there that either just had Hernea surgery or her C-Section was still fresh…… The stitches were still visible!!!
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
1:30 pm
The stitches were still visible!!!
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
1:30 pm
@BF ~ I’m never mean to the guy at Publix. Always offer a friendly smile and “no, my bf wouldn’t. like me giving out my number.” Yes, I use this white lie often.
@cba ~ today was the first time I got an opportunity to see what this 3rd guy looks like. I had a feeling, but wasn’t sure. Not sure if you remember, but he’s been in jail since my break in a year ago next week because he was 18 at the time. My paperwork said this would be a sentencing hearing, but instead he was arraigned for trial in 30 days. The sad part was I picked him out instantly because he was the only young punk there in the orange jumpsuit. He looked lost and scared…what a shame many of our youth are going down the drain without direction or desire to excel in their lives.
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
1:35 pm
Strip clubs don’t excite any more unlike back then
I would rather go to a club and see phine women,especially when it’s summer like now.
I get prepped and primed better for my own show at home after feasting on passing,near nekked ladies in the club.
Queen is always a beneficiary!
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
1:37 pm
no, my bf wouldn’t. like me giving out my number.” Yes, I use this white lie often.
what a shame many of our youth are going down the drain without direction or desire to excel in their lives.
They’re called Generation X for a sad reason and this is part of it..it’s like they either really don’t care or feel invincible b/c of their youth with that “it ain’t gone happen to me” mentality..
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
1:38 pm
And ofcourse with phine women around,the liqor tastes a tad sweeter!
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
1:42 pm
The likka taste the same, it’s the juice from your other head that spiked it to make it seem like it taste better. Don’t get it twisted.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
1:47 pm
LOL….@cba
Leggs killed the man soflty, then gutted him…..LOL
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
1:51 pm
@WillieD ~ what’s a married man doing going to a strip club @ 2 in the morn. Guess there are many in there at that time…just wrong. Should be home stripping for your wife (lol).
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
1:52 pm
@Leggs!
U right but we men enjoy that illusion.
Every time I go to a club and I see some guys coming out,I ask them,’how is it inside?!’
The answer is always nearly about the same. ‘not enough women or lots of women’
Never about the coldness or none there of, of the beer!
Seems women are the object of the whole trip! No pun here.
cba
August 18th, 2011
1:52 pm
Leggs I remembered but I didn’t know how many were arrested. In today’s environment, it’s good you have the fortitude to see this through. Last Sunday, I read the article about the young lady in Douglasville who lost her son to those thugs. She appears very strong and determined.
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
1:55 pm
Leggs – Give me a lil credit. I haven’t been in one in quite some time. I don’t run with the same crowd and don’t do the things I used to do. Matter of fact I would prolly look lost if I went in one nowadays. Then again probably not. hahaha
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
2:01 pm
Should be home stripping for your wife (lol).
boom,chicka waah waah Now that’s a way to surprise her!
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
2:05 pm
Leggs – Do you watch Hawthorne?
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
2:05 pm
@cba ~ I have to see it through! I’m enjoying the twist in that they got caught breaking into my home. The one neighbor who provided them with water, icees, even food while they played bball for a good 3 years. I like the fact that the kind lady who helped them, also helped snag them! They say it takes a village, and although my hut had a little fire in the corner, I’m still going to assist children where I can.
Not sure if you guys remember the young lady I caught having sex on the air conditioning unit while looking out my kitchen window, she has come to my home twice this year to tell me about her progress in college, she has no kids, introduced me to her new boyfriend and always ends the visit with a hug and a thank you for talking/chastising her with the TRUTH!
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
2:06 pm
Off Topic for a sec….
Looking at one of the Music Channels while I am working and I gotta say..Thaose sista’s from En Vogue were SoooooooFiiiiiiiine back int eh day that I would have gotten a PT job and gave up both checks for any one of them!!!!
Ok…..back to the regular scheduled blog….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
2:06 pm
I go for the girl nobody wants, or find attractive. I remember at Hairston’s this very attractive lady came over to me and said when she looked at me she saw money. I’ll bet I didn’t thirty bucks in my pocket, I thought where the hell did that come from, cause I don’t flaunt or need attention. It was how I was dressed, presentation, and the way I carried myself is my guess.
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
2:08 pm
@WillieD ~ Just wanted to bust your chops. I know you’ve been domesticated, as you always say (lol).
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
2:09 pm
all this tootin n horn blowin…
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
2:11 pm
@kimmie ~ I watched a few episodes last season, but none this season.
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
2:12 pm
“she looked at me she saw money”
All this gold-digger repellent y’all wear and that didn’t set off warning signals?!?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
2:13 pm
What made you look out your kitchen window…..LOL they weren’t expecting that. I know how it feels to get caught, I know they had the guilty look of shame……LOL
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
2:13 pm
Leggs – naww, I’m just better with my presentation now.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
2:16 pm
That’s why I go for the girls nobody wants they don’t see men looking like money they see a man.
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
2:17 pm
@BF ~ that was a tacky woman to come up and say that to you. Hope you didn’t buy her a drink (lol). I’ll never forget Ex saying women at the bar at Hairston’s all look thirsty. I haven’t been back since he said that (although I never sat at the bar the 2x I’ve been there since living in GA).
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
2:19 pm
BF – Tell the truth you were picking low hanging fruit right. j/k j/k
cba
August 18th, 2011
2:19 pm
BF when you mentioned Harriston, back in the mid-ninties I had to volunteer at my daughter’s theme school and some of the female parents would talk about how well- dressed the men would be at Harriston, BUT they didn’t want dance……just be styling and profiling
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
2:19 pm
“That’s why I go for the girls nobody wants”
Soooooooo…She in the corner looking Like Florida Evans and you passing on Wilona and Thelma to holla at her……Tempted to call BS on this one……..
For Real
August 18th, 2011
2:20 pm
What up Blog Fam!!!
Objectify: to present as an object, especially of sight, touch, or other physical sense; make objective; externalize.
Now can we stop with “to me objectified means….”
Object: anything that is visible or tangible and is relatively stable in form.
No way you slice it, “object of desire” and “objectified” mean the same thing.
No two women are alike, what works for one will not work for the other. If roll up on Sassy and say “Hey lil mamma can I offer you a phish sandwich” Sassy would jump my bones. If I rolled up on Slim and said “I got some warm chocolate, some kings candy stix cigarettes, two baby bottles with one nipple, half of half of a fifth of vodka, 2 tickets to a silent movie and some spicy cheese in my backpak” Slim would jump my bones.
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
2:23 pm
@BF ~ I was on the phone with a gf walking around my kitchen. It was a cold afternoon and I stood in front of the window watching the forest sway. I saw what I thought was a limb on the air conditioning fluttering around in the wind when I realized it was a leg. I stared in disbelief. Opened my window and shouted for her and him to stop. I called her over. She came to the window but I was getting cold talking to her and asked her to come in. She said she wasn’t allowed to go into a stranger’s home. I looked at her in disbelief saying “I’m pretty sure your parents didn’t tell you it was cool to have sex on an air conditioning either. She finally came in and I spoke to her on self-esteem, how the boy ran off leaving her, and a host of other things on how she has to value herself and not let some young boy treat her like dirt. Having sex on air conditioner did not spell “ooh la la, this boy likes me!” Told her he has no respect for her. Fast forward, she knocks on my door every so often.
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
2:24 pm
She in the corner looking Like Florida Evans and you passing on Wilona and Thelma to holla at her……Tempted to call BS on this one……..
For real right?!
damn…damn…DAMN!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
2:26 pm
I agree with your ex that was a few years back when they had a dress code, I haven’t been there in years I think it is a young folks joint now. I get nothing out women doing that, it’s all a show.
Bigdawg
August 18th, 2011
2:28 pm
A woman voting Republican is like a chicken voting for Col Sanders!
Hang the neo-cons!!
For Real
August 18th, 2011
2:29 pm
League of Extraordinary Pimps: So Blackfoote tell us your vision of pimpin. Cause every pimp gots-ta have VISION!!!
Blackfoot: I don’t like women that are too much work, got expectations, hopes & dreams. I like my woman’s spirit broken so I can ease in and ease out with the least amount of effort possible. That way I protect my rotation.
LEP: Welcome Catdaddy… Welcome!
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
2:31 pm
Classic
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
2:35 pm
“I don’t want the attractive ladies that everyone else has their eye on. I only want the beatdown, busted, leftover chicks.”
Really?!?!?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
2:38 pm
For Real:
Man I’ve seen a lot done a lot, and pimpin I’ve never been able to grasp. Yep Casual you can call all the BS you want I know what works well for me and pretty girls I’ve had a plenty so they all look the same to me cause I’m balanced dude.
Confirmed Bachelor
August 18th, 2011
2:38 pm
Being rejected or objectified is almost the same to me, us men get used to it (er most, some are babies) so it does not bother me, why whine about it, it doesn’t get you anywhere.
cba
August 18th, 2011
2:39 pm
Speaking of pimpin, of all channels, last night National Geographic did a piece about prostitution.
Casual Observer
August 18th, 2011
2:42 pm
LOL…balanced = BMD!!! big as a Bear, looks like a Monkey, smell like a Dog!!! LLOLOL I kid, I kid, I kid….
SexyCool
August 18th, 2011
2:46 pm
Now, Rob, if what you’re saying is that you tend to go for the chicks who aren’t all superflashy and extra and dressed for AEOM (All Eyes On Me), well…that’s something different altogether.
Because nine times out of ten, when my folks and I hang out, we are some of the most laid back, simply dressed chicks in the room.
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
2:51 pm
If I rolled up on Slim and said “I got some warm chocolate, some kings candy stix cigarettes, two baby bottles with one nipple, half of half of a fifth of vodka, 2 tickets to a silent movie and some spicy cheese in my backpak” Slim would jump my bones.
For Real – I don’t like spicy cheese so that pretty much negates that theory. Don’t you know spicky cheese leads to burning f-arts DUH
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
2:57 pm
SexyC:
AEOM women have a following and I’m not one of them, but yeah the cool lady’s who isn’t trying to fly high in sky will always attract my attention.
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
2:57 pm
meant spicy, not spicky…sounds like a combo of sticky and spicy. LOL!
Willie Dynamite
August 18th, 2011
3:04 pm
To think that the homely looking chick sitting at the table not dancing, mean mugging and guarding the purses while her fine as all outdoors pretty azz girlfriends partied wasn’t getting no play. Well I’ll be dayummed.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
3:06 pm
Leggs:
Doing the do in the cold on a air conditioner, that’s good you talked to her it doing that could have made big change in her young life.
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
3:07 pm
Black butterfly, sail across the waters
Tell your sons and daughters
Where the struggle began
For Real
August 18th, 2011
3:08 pm
“sounds like a combo of sticky and spicy. LOL!” – Now you see the direction I’m going. That reason for the warm chocolate.
For Real is not gently massaging Slim pinky fanga.
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
3:08 pm
Leggs – More of us need to step up and do stuff like that. It’s definitely going to take all of us to help this generation coming up.
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
3:09 pm
4 Real –
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
3:09 pm
Well if they are looking like that and didn’t come out to dance they probably should have stayed home.
kimmie
August 18th, 2011
3:15 pm
BF – I remember one time in college, me & a group of my friends went to this jamming party one of the frats gave. It was a big football weekend and a lot of the frat dudes had come from other schools. These dudes were hot so of course us ladies had to bring our A game up there too. How about one of the girls that came along with my group wanted me to hold her coat? I politely declined. She was like, “I guess you think you too cute”. I said I don’t think it, I know it and strutted out to dance with this fine dude!
Nope, don’t do the purse & coat duty!
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
3:20 pm
No doubt, kimmie!
Nothing good about sitting in a club with your friends bags while they’re on the dance floor. Not only that, why come to the club with such a bulky purse. I tell my friends to please dance with their purses, cuz I can’t get on the floor with 3-4 purses on my arm when I’m asked to dance!
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
3:22 pm
haa haa haa, I see your post kimmie. I feel the same way!
For Real
August 18th, 2011
3:28 pm
Girl: Slim can you watch my purse while I go dancing?
Slim: Sure
Girl2: Slim can you watch my purse while I go drop this load?
Slim: Sure
Girl3: Can you watch my purse while I go smoke this fatty?
Slim: Sure. (after the last girl leaves) Waiter!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
3:50 pm
Kimmie:
I feel you on that, seem like when you go to a place where there is dancing then everybody should be on the same page. I loved that Minnie Ripperton song sad she had to us so young too.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
3:51 pm
sad she had to “leave” us so young.
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
3:57 pm
For Real – That would not be me…i like to get my two-step and drop it like it’s lukewarm on
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
4:00 pm
Have to laugh at “lukewarm.” What is that, dropping it halfway before your knees give out (lol)?
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
4:05 pm
EXACTLY
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
4:06 pm
Lukewarm?!
poor Slim..ur bum ain’t even dangling at the back like that to be dropped like it’s lukewarm!
Blame it on yo mama!
Sexxycool’s old behind was Huuge!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
4:07 pm
All the places I’ve been people are dancing all over the floor, on your feet, and bumping into your hips. The fat, ugly and fine folks everybody is doing what they came there for to party. I guess for some guys if you didn’t pick up the finest girl in the club it was all for not.
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
4:08 pm
WOW!!
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
4:12 pm
The fat, ugly and fine folks everybody is doing what they came there for to party
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
4:19 pm
ITL:
I thought that’s what you go out for, that’s how we rolled nobody interested in jacking somebody up. If it happened it happened naturally. I remember “blue” saying one time about men hanging out like they are quail hunting, she had me crying when she said that……LOL
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
4:19 pm
Exiled – I may not have much but I still look back at it like there’s something there when I’m shaking my tailbone
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
4:22 pm
How many of u ladies honestly consider ourselves really phoine?
not confident,not arrogance not conceited but judst
Phoine and nobody can do nothing about it!
Tell me! Go
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
4:23 pm
Urselves not ourselves
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
August 18th, 2011
4:25 pm
LOL…..@Slim1
Now that’s the kind of attitude I like.
Into the Light
August 18th, 2011
4:31 pm
It is, BF, it most certainly is.
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
4:36 pm
So y’all don’t think u phoine?
Or u just don’t have mirrors
Or nobody is cat calling on u?
Which is what?
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
4:41 pm
I’d put nice succulent boobies, a toned sizable arse, nicely thick legs, banging shape, pretty face, superbly dressed to be under the PHOINE category.
I’m think i’m about a 7.5/8 So not sure what category my features would be placed in…cute, sexy, pretty who knows. I know I ain’t busted and deeeeesgusted
Exiled!
August 18th, 2011
4:43 pm
Phoine,succulent and portable!
Slim,U Pass!
(don’t let the small azz and itty bitty tatas fool yaa)!
DreamsMaterialize
August 18th, 2011
4:44 pm
Hey everyone. I see you all moved on to night spots. Not surprised to see Foxy Lady, Jazzy T’s and Pleasers get shouted out. Gotta say that Nicki’s VIP on Stewart in the 90’s was off the chains.
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
4:50 pm
Gotta say that Nicki’s VIP on Stewart in the 90’s was off the chains.
I remember that…I used to go to Atlanta Metropolitan back then and alot of the dancers took classes there,too. They’d go to school,leave n go right down the street to work.. That’s back when Bill Campbell was the isht..
Sassy Me ;-)
August 18th, 2011
4:54 pm
Have a good evening y’all. There’s some football coming on tonight and I’s gotta be ready!!
SlimNu
August 18th, 2011
4:54 pm
“Slim,U Pass”
Exiled – Thanks for affirming me lol
Leggs
August 18th, 2011
4:58 pm
Good night.
Be strong, be aware, be polite!