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Dating is not project management

I happened to catch a snippet of the Frank and Wanda radio show on TV the other night. I paused when I heard them describe men in Atlanta as Ikea Men, i.e. men you have to “put together” or assemble.

Apparently one of the callers had used this term and it caused a couple of laughs, but it kind of saddened me. I have a sense of humor, of course, but I was most bothered by the idea that some women in Atlanta consider dating to be some kind of project management.

Do you think that calling men projects or Ikea men is the way to a man’s heart?! I don’t get it. Whatever happened to, you know,
simply accepting a person for who they are – not who you want them to be?

What’s really sad is that women who don’t feel this way have to contend with this later. They have already met the women in Atlanta that goes around calling them Ikea Men. The type that made them feel less than just makes them bitter for the next woman. Am I the only one that sees this annoying trend?

It probably would be funny if it wasn’t so ridiculously frustrating to encounter men have dated those egomaniacal women and expect the same treatment.

I don’t want to point fingers and go on a scream tour of who’s to blame, but how do we get past it?

When you encounter people with bad attitudes and unhealthy views about relationships, how do you handle it?

Do you cut your losses and save your energy for someone who sees things the way you do?

If men in Atlanta are projects that have to be together, what do you think that makes women? Bob the Builder? Yeah, that’s sexy.

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Leggs

August 8th, 2011
3:51 pm

@kimmie ~ of course it’s a bunch of BS, yet he wants the woman to think she’s messed up…yeah right!

Celisea

August 8th, 2011
3:54 pm

Afternoon all,

I see not much crackalacking in here today. Just popping in.

kimmie

August 8th, 2011
3:54 pm

Tenderoni – I bet the day he meets “the One” all that BS will fly right out of the window too. They know who to pull that mess on and who won’t stand for it.

SlimNu

August 8th, 2011
3:58 pm

Sounds like buddy is just trying to make ‘friends to eventually have benefits with…not a relationship. Hollywood sure doesn’t help matters. I think there’s been at least 4 movies recently regarding the FWB setup.

Leggs

August 8th, 2011
3:59 pm

Yep, and he’ll be “courting” from day one!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2011
4:10 pm

smh @ men like that.

Leggs

August 8th, 2011
4:14 pm

Bet he says he’s not scamming anyone. This is how he really believes. Again, yeah right!

Into the Light

August 8th, 2011
4:15 pm

I doubt he really believes it. He might argue semantics or phrasing to justify his messiness, but he knows what he’s doing and he knows he wouldn’t like it if the situation were reversed.

SexyCool

August 8th, 2011
4:23 pm

If he’s sleeping with these chicks that don’t know how to be friends, then they are not friends. They are lovers. And whereas lovers should be friends, friends should not be lovers.

TenderRoni

August 8th, 2011
4:25 pm

OK he didn’t text me back about sleeping with his friends. to me he is a typical guy in atlanta, he has a lot of female be friends, casual date them but i can’t gauge if seriously wants a relationship. I know a girl just broke it off with him couple months ago, he probably still in bitter Bob syndrome.

SexyCool

August 8th, 2011
4:31 pm

If her seriously wanted a relationship, he would have said so.

Leggs

August 8th, 2011
4:33 pm

She probably broke it off cuz she’s fed up with his shennigans and game of semantics.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2011
4:37 pm

SexyCool

August 8th, 2011
4:41 pm

If I had the relationship knowledge 10 years ago that I have know, I would have been an even bigger handful to deal with.

The problem with experience and wisdom is that, more often than not, you have to live a while to get it.

SlimNu

August 8th, 2011
4:45 pm

The problem with experience and wisdom is that, more often than not, you have to live a while to get it

BAMS!!!

SexyCool

August 8th, 2011
4:45 pm

Actually, just general life experience period….with an added emphasis on self knowledge and financial decision making skills.