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Are you dating a wild card?

There is something hot about meeting a person that intrigues you. Whether they are into the same things you are – or they are opening you up to a whole new world that is new to you. Spending time with them becomes a ride that feels risky, wild, and perhaps slightly insane.

Dating those wild card types can also be scary, especially when you don’t know what to expect! Have you ever dated the spontaneous type with a wild side?

Oh it’s all fun and games until your date blindfolds you and you end up on a skydiving adventure!

As I get older *cough*, I tend to become more and more cautious. I may take calculated risks but blindly trusting a new person is a challenge for me! Am I the only killjoy?

What would you do if someone you were dating blindfolded you (not the kinky blindfold) and wanted to take you somewhere? Would you be able to relax and enjoy the ride?

Do you think you could balance out things if you dated a wild card?

Are you the wild card type that people you date have to adjust to? Do you find it difficult getting your dates to walk on the wild side with you?

Do you ever tell your date about your personal boundaries so they won’t cross the wild side line with you?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

317 comments Add your comment

Fion

August 5th, 2011
8:05 am

Would you be able to relax and enjoy the ride?

Just remenber Baby the Safe word is “Frosted Flakes”.

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
8:19 am

Good morning and happy Flirty Fly Friday ;-)

If someone on a date blindfolded me, I would be a bit nervous, excited, anxious all at the same time but I would appreciate the suspense he’d be creating by this approach. Typically, folks do lunch, dinner, a movie or drinks for some of the initial dates…so the ‘wild card’ approach would be a welcome change to the norm. My ex drove me around blindfolded once before we ended up at one of my fav little spots & it created a different vibe, different feel to the date. As long as I’m not going to be hurt or put in harms way in the process, I think i’d be along for the ride. Now if it turned out to be a disaster, then I’d be super hesistant to allow for that same person to take that approach again. As far as me being a wild card, I’d say i’m probably not in that category. However, I am a person open to trying new things.

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SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:07 am

Where is everybody?…

MsMarriedUp

August 5th, 2011
9:07 am

I am the WILDCARD. haha… and enjoy, or rather enjoyed dating WILDCARDS. Gosh, the thrill is, I mean was so great I’m glad I didn’t pass on all those adventures!!! So, no *killjoy* over here.

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:20 am

All I’m going to say for now is if you go out with For Real you need to be prepared for ANY thing….and I mean ANY thing….

must pack

1st aid kit
rubber tube
wide-ruled notebook paper
bicycle pump
at least 2 storm drains
10 paper clips
3 packs of color 1B Yakki straight weave
2 hair nets
4 pairs of multi-colored football socks
1 gallon of Astroglide
A toe nail clipper (industrial sized)
A space heater and 2 box fans
An air horn
sleeping bag
and half a banana….oh and 1 can of sardines to feed the AA dolphin

Reio

August 5th, 2011
9:26 am

Never dated a wild one. Never wanted to. I’m the serious type. quiet. Enjoy a good laugh. Witty. HATES!! Surprises. I passed on the wild ones.

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
9:27 am

Good morning, Good morning!!

What would you do if someone you were dating blindfolded you (not the kinky blindfold) and wanted to take you somewhere? Somewhat of a panic. Would you be able to relax and enjoy the ride? Probably not. But, if I went along with it, I would enjoy the nervous anticipation, and I would have to rely on my other senses. If I get the vibe something is amiss I would take the blindfold off myself. If he stops talking to me, I would take the blindfold off myself. If I start smelling chlorform (is this odorless), I would try to take the blindfold off before I pass out!

Do you think you could balance out things if you dated a wild card? Yep

Are you the wild card type – I have been!

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:33 am

YAY!!! I have some playmates that have now joined the party…woo hoo hooo..

Morning Leggs, Reio, & MMU ;-) The ladies can grab a lay and hula skirt off the table to the right…menfolk grab a banana hammock off the table to the left, pick the color of your choosing. If you need to edge up your side burns boys, I have fresh razors in the bathroom and don’t forget to oil them bods up. Later on today, we’ll enjoy a nice game of Drunk Limbo ;-)

MsMarriedUp

August 5th, 2011
9:34 am

…oh man…carrying all that on a wild trip? Wow, that sucks out the adventure & fun… like riding a coaster *all safely harnessed in* but got your eyes closed. lol. just killin the joy.

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
9:35 am

Ooh la la, my belly dancing classes will come in handy!

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
9:36 am

MsMarriedUp ~ I don’t do rollercoasters, but for some reason a few years back I decided to join some family members on The Scream Machine. Let me tell you, I went up there as Leggs, and came back down a babbling idiot!

Fion

August 5th, 2011
9:36 am

@Leggs
“Are you the wild card type – I have been!’

In my best Pepe le Pew voice.

ooh, la la. Oui Oui.

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
9:38 am

Morning SlimNu.

MsMarriedUp

August 5th, 2011
9:40 am

morning Slim… & all. ugg… The drunk limbo?… now that’s where I draw the line…ugh… where my back went out the last time. kidding of course, though I prefer watching limbos;-)

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:40 am

Fion – I love Pepe…talking about persistance lol

Reio

August 5th, 2011
9:41 am

Never understood “wild”. Fun,Frolic, Yes. “Wild”, I don’t know. Unpredictable people scare me. Even as a younger man, I did’nt Get “wild”. Drunk, only once. So I can’t handle “wild”.

MsMarriedUp

August 5th, 2011
9:42 am

oh yeah…Leggs too funny. I actually got stuck on an elevator…went in with a super pretty perm and came out looking like DK’s baby sister.

Fion

August 5th, 2011
9:44 am

@Slim

Yeah, as a kid it was funny. You watch now as an adult and you see Pepe was a stalker.

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:44 am

I like rollercoasters but yall’s stories sounds like me when I got off that ride Acrophobia at Six Flags…that’s a ride I never have to get on again in life.

I also tried parasailing once and that was pretty scary but FUN!!

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
9:46 am

Exactly, MsMarriedUp. My hair was a mess, I was crying and staggering. Even had people leave the line because of the way I looked and how shaken up I was.

@Fion ~ come give me a hug!

@Reio ~ to me, “wild” is big fun w/o the stigma of illegal activity and jail time.

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
9:47 am

@SlimNu ~ I wanted to parasail when I was in South Beach, but I didn’t want to spend that kind of moolah at that moment.

Mr_NYC

August 5th, 2011
9:48 am

You smell the chloroform just before you say “WTH is that” and then “aw he–” Waking up later. LOL
I guess we’re talking literal blindfolds – definitely have to be with someone where there is some level of comfort and trust.
Surprise date activities out of the norm are fun.
Great Friday morning to everyone.

i'm swiss™

August 5th, 2011
9:49 am

Slim — I’m already wearing my own banana hammock — is that okay? :?:

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:51 am

As you get older, you tend to weigh the fun and consequences…well responsible folks anyway. I think when you’re younger, it’s all about what wild thing you can do and racking up the great stories to tell your friends about. At this point, i’d be more open to ‘Fun’ than I would be to ‘Wild’

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:54 am

Leggs – I went parasailing when I was in the Bahamas a few years back but I can’t recall how much it was. The ex and I tried it out…but he is a pretty wild, fun type of dude who is willing to try anything. One other thing i’ll never do again is that little sling shot contraption I got on while in Cancun. I was soooooooo scared on that dayum thang.

swiss – Yes, you may use your own banana hammock but i’ll need you to put this mini umbrella on the side of your coconut. ;-)

abc

August 5th, 2011
9:54 am

No, I wouldn’t go along with a blindfolded date. No skydiving, bungee jumping, roller coasters, or anything else like that — intentional terror has never been that appealing to me. I suppose that for a lot of people, that makes them feel really alive, to put themselves in positions of risk that could very well kill them. I’m feel plenty alive already, thanks very much.

How about a nice picnic, museum, play? That’s more my speed.

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
9:56 am

I’m curious blogsville…what’s the last FUN thing you folks have done and what’s the last WILD thing you’ve done???

kimmie

August 5th, 2011
9:59 am

Morning all this great Friday!

It’s nice to do dates out of the norm. I would do the daring/blindfold thing with my husband only. He knows about how far I can go before I would start to panic. I am very claustrophobic and don’t like the dark. So I could have never done the daring thing with guys I dated before – the level of trust was not there.

It’s good to really let your hair down and get a little wild err now and then within reason. My definition of wild might be different that others cause I’m sort of laid back. But I love to have fun and enjoy myself and see others enjoying themselves. Don’t take life so serious all the time.

I’m trying to decide on a kind of daring(for me) thing to do now. My husband has some very tasteful tatoos on his arms. He’s a buttoned-up lawyer and his business shirts cover them completely, so nobody probably knows he has them at his firm. But a lot would not picture him as having such. I am thinking about getting a very small one somewhere I could easily cover up OR getting a 2nd hole in my ears. Can’t decide which!

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
10:00 am

Last fun thing I’ve done ~ gone to South Beach!

Last wild thing I’ve done ~ ???? Phooey, can’t think of anything. My long term memory, isn’t what it used to be.

Mr_NYC

August 5th, 2011
10:01 am

Fun – asking two ladies in Jamaica to give me a private tour off of the beaten path to see the non-touristy stuff and hang out like the locals

Wild – parasailing in Cozumel — it looks wild and scary but when you get up there it’s silent and peaceful

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
10:02 am

@kimmie ~ a 2nd hold in your ear cracked me up….I have 5 holes. I’ve been talking myself into a tattoo over 30 years. I may just do it this year (lol).

abc

August 5th, 2011
10:05 am

Last fun thing: we went to the movies Monday night. Last wild thing: we don’t do wild, I haven’t done stuff like that since I was 20 or 21 — when I think back on a lot of that stuff, it’s a miracle that I survived, and none of it was roller coasters or skydiving or anything like that. When I was young I didn’t really recognize positions of risk in advance. I’d just all of a sudden be in a bad part of town with a bunch of very rough folks that I didn’t really know.

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
10:05 am

You know what, to come think about it, I would do a blindfold date over blindfold in the bedroom. For some reason that’s scarier to me. I can’t get the picture of knives out of my mind and hot candle wax (lol).

kimmie

August 5th, 2011
10:07 am

Leggs – Yeah, getting that 2nd hole has been a real stretch for me!LOL!!!

Reio

August 5th, 2011
10:09 am

Last fun thing I did was build a computer for one of my neices a couple of weeks ago. Last wild thing I did was get drunk(first & last time) back in 1990, while serving in the Navy and living in the Philippines and dating my, then girlfriend, now wife.

i'm swiss™

August 5th, 2011
10:11 am

“Yeah, getting that 2nd hole has been a real stretch for me!LOL!!!”

kimmie — It’s okay, the 2nd hole is a stretch for everybody at first. Just make sure you use plenty of lube & go slow… :lol:

kimmie

August 5th, 2011
10:12 am

swiss – How did I know you would GO THERE?!! :lol:

Reio

August 5th, 2011
10:12 am

i’m swiss™ – Whats’s the lube for?

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
10:13 am

Last FUN – was this past weekend going to see the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra: Cirque de la Symphonie this past Saturday

Last WILD – Um…I guess it would be when I picked the beau up from the airport…underdressed :oops:

i'm swiss™

August 5th, 2011
10:13 am

Leggs — Aw man, I dated this chick in HS who was into that hot candle wax sh!t — or more accurately, she was into dripping that sh!t on me.

Hmm… Come to think of it, she may be the reason why I never dated white chicks again… :lol:

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
10:14 am

I thought what would he say with five holes, not realizing a “2nd hole” was even easier!

kimmie

August 5th, 2011
10:14 am

Leggs – Did you see Project Runway last night? They had to create an outfit made entirely out of stuff they bought in a pet shop. And not use obvious stuff like the material from a doggie bed cushion. That stuff they did was incredible!!! The creativity of some people absolutely astounds me sometimes!!

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
10:15 am

@Reio ~ you’re not serious asking what the lube is for are you???

OMG, I am coughing over here cuz I’m laughing so hard at your reason for no longer dating white chicks…that’s priceless and original!

Leggs

August 5th, 2011
10:17 am

No, I didn’t. I watched the first show where they had to make garments out of their pjs. That was good. I will have to catch that episode on Saturday.

i'm swiss™

August 5th, 2011
10:17 am

Reio — It’s for kimmie’s 2 hole.

SlimNu

August 5th, 2011
10:18 am

swiss – you itching for time out already and we haven’t even made it to lunch time yet lol

kimmie – I got a second hole years ago and that was so scary to me but i wanted it so bad….But now ever since I lost one of my earrings, I only use my first hole. (swiss, don’t even think about it) Now I suppose I could say my most recent tattoo may fall under ‘wild’ because it’s not so small as my other 2 tats. But i think i’m done with inking myself. I want the beau to get wild and get one on his arm since he said he’s always wanted one but never went through with it.

Reio

August 5th, 2011
10:20 am

Leggs, i’m swiss™ – No. Not serious. hehehe.

kimmie

August 5th, 2011
10:23 am

Slim – If I do get a tat, I think I may get a tiny dove with my mom’s name under it.

Mr_NYC

August 5th, 2011
10:24 am

@Slim how did you like Cirque de Symphonie? I saw it when they were here in Raleigh. Did they have those 2 guys in gold who did handstands on each other’s head?