What do you do when the person you are seeing suddenly drops the L word on you? It wasn’t expected, nor was in return. How’s that for an awkward moment?!

I know a lot of guys that tell women they love them, so I’m a bit jaded when it comes to this kind of thing. While I believe in men saying it when they actually feel the emotion, a lot of times what they are really feeling is …caught up.

You know how it goes, she rocked your world and you barely know your name, let alone what you are saying! FYI – picking that moment to say it for the first time may be met with cynicism.

Everyone loves to hear the word LOVE, but does it immediately changes the relationship dynamic?

Have you use the L-word with someone early in the relationship? Did it bring you closer or did it make things too complicated?

How do you know when it’s the right time – and wrong time – to say” I love you”?

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Listen, I’m a hopeless romantic as much as the next girl, but I don’t know how far I would go for love. For instance, could I move cross country? I just read one woman’s leap of faith that landed her across the country, without a job, or a place to live!

While it is easy to say that is something that could never happen to me, I actually admire the courage someone has to relocate. Taking a chance on love is already risky business! Would you be willing to rearrange your life and move to another city?

Things may not have worked out for the young lady, but at least she can say that she tried. That’s more than some of us ever do, really. What are you willing to risk for love?

Have you ever moved to another country or city to be with someone? Would you consider it at all?
Would you ask someone you were seeing to move with you? How serious would your relationship need to be, do you think?

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It’s not the kind of thing you really want to talk about on the very first date. Your sexual activity..or lack thereof, shouldn’t be a focal point when you are just getting to know somebody. At least, that has always been my opinion.

My guy friend disagrees. He thinks before one date is planned, a guy deserves to know if he is interested in someone who is abstinent. Apparently, this would “change the game” and a lot of men should be able to make an informed decision.

I would argue, though, how much information should be shared that quickly? I mean, unless that is the only thing you are really interested in anyway?

Should you clue your date in about your celibacy? Is it anyone’s business if you are not in a relationship with them?

How do you tell someone you are abstaining? What do you say and when?

Should you be able to inquire about their sexual habits, i.e. the number of partners, etc.?

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It has been a long week, people. From earthquakes, hurricanes, sad and heartbreaking headlines, the one thing that really can be the best medicine is laughter. I’ll be honest, dudes with no sense of humor don’t fare well with me. I am pretty sure I’m not the bee’s knees for them, either.

I have this theory that people who lack a sense of humor probably have something to hide. I have no scientific evidence of this, mind you. I just don’t trust people that don’t laugh. Have you ever tried to go on a date with a humorless individual? It’s like sitting in the dentist’s chair, only not as messy.

Do you rank great sense of humor as an important thing or are you fine with being the comic relief in a relationship?

Have you ever been on a date with someone and you laughed the entire time?

Blog prize awarded to the funniest story/joke/comment of the day. You guys decide the winner.

We all can use a little humor these days, don’t you agree?

Happy FUN Friday everyone!

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A lot of people that I know like to date people who are most compatible with them. Whether it is socioeconomic class, race, or even culture. Culture can be especially tricky in the African American community. Well, technically I can only attest to the African American culture personally, but still.

It was a totally different experience dating a guy who came from money (aka silver spoons) and dating someone who grew up extremely poor. Although I shared common ground with both, the dynamics were definitely different. Not saying good or bad, just…different.

Silver spoons and I clashed on politics, while the guy who grew up poor thought I was way over the top with how I lived (i.e. we had different lifestyles, tastes, etc.)

When it comes to dating, are you comfortable exploring a relationship with someone who has a different culture than you?

How would you handle the “clashes” that may come when there are different socioeconomic classes involved?

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One of my guy friends had a first date with a young lady last weekend. He met her at a religious function so he was a bit taken aback at how she was when they went out. Apparently, she was dressed provocatively, something he thought inappropriate for someone her age (ouch?), especially on a first date.

He went on describe the way she used profanity, made several sexual remarks, and pretty much made him blush. Admittedly, my friend is super conservative and in my opinion high strung. However, the fact that he expected someone he met at a religious function to behave in a certain way, isn’t completely unreasonable. At the same time, are first date impressions reliable?

I do have to wonder, though, if we often meet people and have some preconceived ideas of how they should act or behave. Was the young lady projecting one image, yet behaved in a way that contradicted that? Perhaps, she was. However, should she get ruled out by the first date clothes and conversation?

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Sometimes attraction is unexplainable. When it is instant attraction, you know it is physical. But you may have been drawn to someone physically but not intellectually. The strange (and infuriating?) thing about attraction is that it is not always accompanied by chemistry.

You can be attracted to someone, then go out with them, only to find that you have zero chemistry with them. Do you ever wonder why that is? Why are we attracted to the people we are attracted to?

When you connect on more than a physical level, things can go really well. But how often does that happen? When was the last time you were drawn to someone physically, intellectually, and then things developed to an emotional attraction later?

Do you think you can or should change what you are attracted to?

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Despite it being a seriously bad idea, a lot of people take the cowardly way out of a relationship. I mean, it’s not a fun thing to break up, obviously, but there is a proper way to do it. So what is the right way and wrong way to dump someone?

The wrong way could include: intentional jerk behavior, seeing other people, or purposely making them miserable until they are not only ready to break up, they want to smash your face.

How do you end things with someone you are dating? What if it is a brand new relationship that you know won’t last?

What is the best, um ideal..ok, the least offensive way to end things?

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Dating can be like this strange amusement park that can either be really really fun or really awful and annoying. It just depends on what kind of luck you are having at any given time. I have to be honest, some days I don’t want to even do it. This kind of attitude is a classic sign that you should take a break from dating!

While dating has its perks, sometimes you just want to acknowledge the moments when it sucks. So I think we should take a moment and vent so we can release the frustration and get it out of our systems!

What frustrates you about dating? What would you like to say to the last horrible, no good date you endured?

What annoying habits do you wish the people you dated didn’t have?

I bet you will feel better! Let it all out…without naming names of, course!

I have one: Just because you’re hot, doesn’t mean you get to be rude and inconsiderate. Get over yourself, please.

Happy “Venting” Friday!

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I read an “opinion” recently by a man who believes that women love to be objectified. I thought about how chauvinistic that sounded, then I wondered what would make a guy think that? When a woman wants to be desired, we aren’t thinking of being objectified but that seems to be waht some men think.

I believe some women think there is a difference in how you are treated. When does it become a problem? Usually when it is accompanied by misogynist views and disrespectful behavior.

I’m sure men can argue that women objectify them too, they just don’t “whine” about it. Do men think women like, excuse me, love to be objectified? Is that why some men try to cat call at women on the street?

In your opinion, what is the difference between being the object of desire and being objectified?

What are the reasons men objectify women? Why do women objectify men?

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