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Is living together like marriage?

One of my friends recently broke up with her long term boyfriend. They had been living together for years and she is having a hard time with the break up.

She said that they had merged their lives so much, it feels like she is going through a divorce. From finances to owning a pet together, untangling their lives is pretty painful.

While I won’t take away from her pain, I wondered if leaving a live-in situation could be compared to a marriage. Is living together that much like a marriage?

Does it have the same pros and cons? When a couple is “playing house” are they enjoying the benefits of marriage without the big commitment?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

401 comments Add your comment

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
3:38 pm

SexyC — If cutting off a w@ng & throwing it down the garbage disposal isn’t “mahem” then I don’t know what is…. :lol:

Fion

July 28th, 2011
3:39 pm

@1999
Dude that’s the kind of situation you’ll wake up necked, handcuffed to a headboard, Dildo hangin’ out ya butt and you’ll have to call somebody get you loose.

Just sayin’

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 28th, 2011
3:40 pm

SC wow is an understatemt…I heard about that some time ago but the part that got me was when she put it in the garbage disposal and turned that bad boy on….ain’t no hope of re-attaching that. That Bobbit dude got lucky cause they found his’n on the side of the road but aint sh!t to save after the garbage disposal…that must’ve hurt like a b-i…b-i..

SexyCool

July 28th, 2011
3:42 pm

Sassy Black – I googled it from my phone…that’s the only way I knew what it was.

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
3:43 pm

mayhem: (a) willful and permanent deprivation of a bodily member resulting in the impairment of a person’s fighting ability, (b) willful and permanent crippling, mutiliation or disfigurement of any part of the body.

SlimNu

July 28th, 2011
3:44 pm

All this pee talk reminds me of this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_BstJzcQNA

mytw♥cents

July 28th, 2011
3:44 pm

So uhmm… y’all are just tossin’ salads n strappin it on to pass a Thursday afternoon, huh? Well for whomever put their @zz up for discussion, you can feel a lil better cuz apparently a few dudes are easing this into the pre-session convo these days. So she was just cuttin’ to the chase. My homegirl was extended the offer the other day. She’s theoretically fascinated and disgusted all at the same time…

Demi

July 28th, 2011
3:46 pm

SexyCool

July 28th, 2011
3:47 pm

TheDude and I wanted to go to the National Book Club Conference this weekend…but er, um….$350 tickets. Yeah…no….we’ll pass.

mytw♥cents

July 28th, 2011
3:48 pm

And Wise I haven’t done either, so I can only suppose that it’s apples and oranges cuz the degree of difficulty involved in detangling oneself emotionally from a marriage far outweighs what it’d take to physically remove oneself from an in-house peenie arrangement…

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
3:50 pm

@Demi ~ perhaps it’s me, but she looks older than 37. And, being a grandmother at 37 isn’t cool!

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
3:56 pm

“perhaps it’s me, but she looks older than 37.”

Leggs — A lot of my people don’t age well. Then again, I’m 37 & I’d like to think I don’t look that old… :lol:

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

July 28th, 2011
3:56 pm

UGA that reminds me of the story about what to look for when you go to a Proctologist. If he puts a hand on just one of your shoulders, it is just to comfort you perhaps…if he puts a hand on BOTH shoulders RUNNNNN.

Demi

July 28th, 2011
3:58 pm

mytw♥cents

Hey you!!!

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:00 pm

Oh snap, I didn’t even see you mytwo. How you doing? Good to read you.

@swiss ~ I know. African Americans have fabulous pigmentation!

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:00 pm

(By the way, Leggs, in case it wasn’t obvious, I was fishing for a compliment there. This is where you say, “Oh, no, swiss, you don’t look anywhere near that old.”) :lol:

Demi

July 28th, 2011
4:00 pm

Leggs…I agree a granny at 37…aint cool

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:03 pm

@swiss ~ I knew you was, just wanted to string you along a little longer by not commenting. You beat me to the punch.

No, you do not look 37. You look like a kid who should be on the beach surfing. Seriously.

mytw♥cents

July 28th, 2011
4:05 pm

Hi DEMI & LEGGS and all… Hope your week (and almost done summer) is going well! Keeping the blog rollin’ along nicely, I see.

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:05 pm

To think I’m about to type someone’s book and I can type here….well, when it happens, I’ll just put on my proofreader’s cap. I don’t where it here.

Demi

July 28th, 2011
4:08 pm

M2C, we try beh…and the hell is 3rd wheel?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 28th, 2011
4:11 pm

I’ll just put on my proofreader’s cap. I don’t where it here.

ooookay….

SexyCool

July 28th, 2011
4:12 pm

Sassy….LMAO…

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:12 pm

Awww, thanks, Leggs. :oops: I always appreciate completely unsolicited compliments. ;-) :lol:

SlimNu

July 28th, 2011
4:16 pm

swiss – I bet you enjoy a little unsolicited sex too from Mrs. ;-)

yeah, i’m bored

TwinGems

July 28th, 2011
4:18 pm

@swiss…u play tennis…fav player? on atp or wta

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:21 pm

wear…wear! Nevamind

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:22 pm

You funny, swiss!

@SlimNu ~ why you getting that man riled up?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 28th, 2011
4:25 pm

It’s all good Leggs :lol:

SlimNu

July 28th, 2011
4:26 pm

Leggs – Just figured I’d throw something on the wall to see if it would stick. I’m working on low fumes right now but in 30 minutes I’m headed straight to the couch to take a much needed nap. I feel like I broke my wrist or something because it shole hurt like a sonofa-bleep

Fion

July 28th, 2011
4:29 pm

@1999
one last thing. Does the chick have an adams apple???? Just askin’

Ok folks, Oscar de la Renta!!!!

SexyCool

July 28th, 2011
4:29 pm

SlimGoody – you should go to this conference.

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:32 pm

Slim — Why, yes, I do. How ever did you guess? :lol:

TwinBazookas — I do, indeed. I’m a DAWG, so my favorite ATP player is John Isner. WTA, Serena, all the way.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 28th, 2011
4:32 pm

I feel like I broke my wrist or something because it shole hurt like a sonofa-bleep

You weren’t doing any aerial stunts or hand stands were you…cause them hand stands aint no joke…well that’s what I had heard

SlimNu

July 28th, 2011
4:33 pm

SC – You wouldn’t be talking about this $350 conference would ya?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 28th, 2011
4:33 pm

I like Big John,too. To be that tall he’s very limber and he’s a really good player..

Lovely Brown

July 28th, 2011
4:37 pm

Shenises, strap ons, dildos, bootyholes :shock:

Can’t leave y’all alone for one minute, all hell breaks lose :lol:

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:37 pm

I am laughing at you SlimNu. First there’s blood on the door and is shirt, and now your wrist is killing you. Sorry, all I can now see is Superhead’s wrist action! I’m crying!!!

SexyCool

July 28th, 2011
4:37 pm

You’re a writer. It’d be a tax write off. (lol)

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:37 pm

Sassy — Just once in my life, I’d like to be able to hit a serve like Isner. Especially his 2nd serve. His kick serve routinely bounces over muthaf@#kers heads! It’s pretty redicu.ous….

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:38 pm

I’m done…I can’t type!

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:38 pm

Well, not type, just can’t spell…

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:39 pm

*ridicu.lous

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:40 pm

I’m rubbing off on swiss!!

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:40 pm

Sassy Did you go to any of the ATC matches?

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:41 pm

Leggs — You can rub me off any time you like, baby… :lol:

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 28th, 2011
4:42 pm

I hear you Swiss…Isner’s second serve is the shiznit for real. With him being that tall I’m sure he had to work on serving TO guys and not over their heads…that is funny when that happens, though.

Leggs

July 28th, 2011
4:43 pm

I’m sleepy cuz I didn’t see that coming until after I re-read it. I was hoping against hope you ride it out, but NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

i'm swiss™

July 28th, 2011
4:44 pm

“I was hoping against hope you ride it out,”

Leggs — You & me both, baby. You & me both. :lol:

SlimNu

July 28th, 2011
4:44 pm

all I can now see is Superhead’s wrist action! I’m crying!!!

Leggs – That’s what I get for attempting an accelerated move. Maybe I need to get Purp to add some wrist curls to my workout plan. lol