Is living together like marriage?
One of my friends recently broke up with her long term boyfriend. They had been living together for years and she is having a hard time with the break up.
She said that they had merged their lives so much, it feels like she is going through a divorce. From finances to owning a pet together, untangling their lives is pretty painful.
While I won’t take away from her pain, I wondered if leaving a live-in situation could be compared to a marriage. Is living together that much like a marriage?
Does it have the same pros and cons? When a couple is “playing house” are they enjoying the benefits of marriage without the big commitment?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
2:32 pm
Oooooh Hibachi….me wanna go hibachi
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
2:32 pm
UGA – Quick Poll: How many of your female friends have you let use a wang on YOU?
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
2:33 pm
GOT D@MN, 1999. As a proud UGA alum, I’m gonna have to ask that you remove the “UGA” from your moniker after that last post.
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
2:37 pm
I mean really, you always ask some really weird questions dude. How many hours of your day is spent on p orn?
swiss – hi five!
Celisea
July 28th, 2011
2:37 pm
UGA – Quick Poll: How many of your female friends have you let use a wang on YOU?
gooooooooooood one
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:37 pm
Blackfoote…I feel good about knowing my status. Too bad many in our community do not.
while I am not active, i feel it is very importent to protect myself and the woman I choose to share myself with.
Into the Light
July 28th, 2011
2:38 pm
Ew, ew, ew, 1999. High five to Swiss and Slimmy Slim.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:39 pm
On point, swiss! I’m sitting here with my head slightly slanted with a puzzling look.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
2:39 pm
Good come back from that bullisht question he asked Slim Nu… Right on chica!
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:39 pm
Leggs…I remember the song, but not the name of the song.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
2:40 pm
UGA – I’m going in a different direction. Do you mean men using one to add length?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
2:40 pm
1999:
Where that come from…..LOL
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
2:40 pm
Width? oh..hell, size in general?
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:41 pm
http://madamenoire.com/62456/10-things-men-find-unattractive/2/
Check out #3.
Into the Light
July 28th, 2011
2:41 pm
I’d be scared to death NOT to know, BF.
When I found out Mr. ITL was getting his kicks on another Route 66, I went straight to the doc. Thank God I am okay, but there is no chance I could move into another relationship without knowing…..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
2:42 pm
Demi:
That’s wonderful man keep hope alive.
Into the Light
July 28th, 2011
2:44 pm
My apologies to you , SlimNu, if you were offended at me calling you a nickname without asking.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:44 pm
@Demi ~ Salt-N-Pepa “Push It” Too funny!
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
2:44 pm
NO NO NO…..I met a girl that I have been talking to for a few months. We have talked about a sexual encounter but we have not actualyl done it. Yesterday when we were discussing our first upcoming venture she stated that she wanted to know if I would like for her to put on a strap on and do me. I was wondering if this is something that many woman want to do to a guy? This is the first time I have ever been told this.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:44 pm
@ITL, it’s done all the time around here (that is, changing someone’s name).
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:46 pm
@UGA ~ for all my years on this lovable Earth, I have never heard some random woman ask a man that! That is not normal! I advise you not to ave sex “with that woman!” (lol).
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
2:46 pm
Eeeekkkk!!!
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
2:47 pm
Leggs – #3
That pic is funny but you best believe they drugged…oops, I mean loved the hell outta each other. Toxic love
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
2:48 pm
1999 — If you go through with doing the do with that chick, my only advice is guard your cornhole, bro.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:49 pm
@UGA ~ what did you say to her question??? Are you not remotely curious why she ask if you want the deed done to you????
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
2:49 pm
True story – a friend of a friend was dating this *dude* for a few months. Everything was going really well. He wasn’t pressuring intercourse on her although they had fooled around some. Finally, she was ready to go all the way, but he kept not sealing the deal.
Come to find out…he was a she.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:50 pm
Yes indeed, toxic love!
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
2:50 pm
she wanted to know if I would like for her to put on a strap on and do me.
And what was YOUR reaction to this question 1999?
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
2:50 pm
ITL – No offense taken…it’s allllll gooood
UGA – More importantly, what was your response? You seemed to have left that part out of the story for some strange wang in the booty reason.
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:51 pm
UGA, I know you are being an a$$, but a lot of rich corp type dudes pay to have that done.
I use to be good friend with a Madame in the past…I was like, “Mayne White Folk are Crazy!!”
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
2:51 pm
ITL:
I always say dont’ take my word for it, check my health record.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:51 pm
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry, Jerry!
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
2:52 pm
my answer was….I have never done that and had no plans to entertain that idea. She had heard that it intensified the orgasm for a man. NO SIR!
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:53 pm
@UGA ~ not sure if you put this out before, but how old are you?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
2:54 pm
1999:
You got to be kidding, aint no way she’ll get close to me with that thing.
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:56 pm
Yesterday when we were discussing our first upcoming venture she stated that she wanted to know if I would like for her to put on a strap on and do me
Dude, how do you carry yourself…None of my lesbian homegirls ever ask me some mess like that, even while watching them strap each other. WOW
Slim, how do you do the big eyes smiley?
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
2:56 pm
1999 — Um, you might want to do a thorough security screening before you let her into the bedroom to make sure she isn’t packing any concealed weapons…
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
2:56 pm
although they had fooled around some
How do/can you fool around some and not know he’s really a girl?…that’s just wrong. I hope the friend of the friend didn’t feel confrused afterwards.
Into the Light
July 28th, 2011
2:57 pm
for some strange wang in the booty reason That made me LOL!
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
2:58 pm
Anybody wanna give odds on the likelihood that this “strap on” 1999’s chick speaks of is strapped on biologically?
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:58 pm
A few months ago we had an all-company meeting where the topic was drugs and alcohol in the drug place. Policy is we are to report to HR if we see someone under the influence. The guest speaker broached a question to all of us….crickets. I raised my hand and said “if I saw a friend/co-worker smelling of alcohol or seemed a disoriented, I certainly wasn’t going to HR first. I was going to pull my friend to the side and try to talk with them. No on said anything. The idiotic speaker said “policy dictates that you report it.” I then asked “where is the human factor in that policy?” I say all that to say this, a coworker is here now sloppy arse drunk at her retirement party. Everyone knows she’s drunk, but no one is saying anything. Yes, I talk a lot. I pulled another co-worker to the side asking why they aren’t shutting his thing down. Was told they were looking for a right moment so as to not make it obvious. My quick mouth said “are you an idiot, everyone knows and can smell it. Get her out of the bldg ASAP!!”
Corporate America is full of hypocrites!
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:59 pm
: shock : but, without the spaces
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
2:59 pm
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Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:59 pm
That’s my thought too, Demi. How does he carry himself to be asked such a weird question.
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
2:59 pm
Swiss….i know for a fact that she is not.
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
3:00 pm
Leggs….it was the strangest question any woman has ever asked me….EVER!
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
3:01 pm
swiss – is : shock :
UGA – I’m sure it’s a gradual process…first time she’ll let her tongue ‘accidentally’ brush across your cornhole…the next time she’ll make a mistake and slip her first 3 fangas in your exit only…THEN the next time will be the DOOZIE IN THE BOOTY!
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
3:01 pm
She had heard that it intensified the orgasm for a man.
With my background, I understand that part but FIRST let me say this: Remember when we were talking about prostates n whatnot and I said that some men find “massaging of the prostate” to be pleasurable. That being said, one way to massage the prostate is well..rear entry cause that’s the only way to get close to it so as sick as 1999’s freak sounded there was a sliver(albeit very thin) of truth to what she said. But hey whatever floats ur boat…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
3:02 pm
LOL….@Swiss
I hope 1999 knows or can see the difference.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
3:02 pm
Sassy Black – UGA’s wang scenario is what made me think of it. Apparently, she wore one all the time.
Unfortunately, that didn’t seem that strange to me because a bi friend of my sister’s used to date this butch (is that pc?) chick that wore hers ALL THE TIME. (I was like, um…ew…that sounds nasty.)