Is living together like marriage?
One of my friends recently broke up with her long term boyfriend. They had been living together for years and she is having a hard time with the break up.
She said that they had merged their lives so much, it feels like she is going through a divorce. From finances to owning a pet together, untangling their lives is pretty painful.
While I won’t take away from her pain, I wondered if leaving a live-in situation could be compared to a marriage. Is living together that much like a marriage?
Does it have the same pros and cons? When a couple is “playing house” are they enjoying the benefits of marriage without the big commitment?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
12:30 pm
Celisea Amazon.com you’ll find them there.
Celisea
July 28th, 2011
12:32 pm
Thanks Blackfoote!
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
12:33 pm
Oh, and tossing a $100 bill in the air definitely doesn’t fit the category of “making it rain!”
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
12:35 pm
Sassy – Maybe I should change the name to Slimmy lol
ITL – It’s actually pretty hard to do for a long time…but a great way to build your strength up.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
12:36 pm
What if it was 100 singles.
Like the definition of his actions “a drunk”…..LOL
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
12:37 pm
Well said, ApolloGenX (12:29).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
12:37 pm
You’re welcome Celisea.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
12:37 pm
I don’t think I would have done the $100 scramble. More out of skepticism than anything else. Probably would have given him two cents worth for doing so…but I understand, it was all in fun.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
12:50 pm
Lovely B for real if you see a pic of the dude he looks like NeNe’s long lost sista by another mista..
Weighted hoola hoops?…sounds interesting. I’m going to look into that,too..
The comedienne Sommore said every woman should have one….cause it helps improve your uhh umm ridesmanship.
Noo Slim Nu don’t change…speaking of Don’t Change anybody going to the Isley Brothers’ concert Labor Day weekend?
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
12:51 pm
@SC ~ there was no scramble. We were all bunched together. All I had to do was raise up out my seat a little and catch it!
dorae
July 28th, 2011
12:59 pm
If marriage didn’t mean anything why is our “gay” population making such a big deal about it?
I’ve been married 24 years. In any long term relationship one will have ups and downs. If you have the “piece of paper” I think when you hit the tough times it helps you to stop and think before you throw in the towel. I’ve been around for a while and it seems to me that when we lost our “traditional values” we brought on a whole lot of problems. So many children being raised by single parents is not a good thing I don’t care what kind of spin you put on it.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:01 pm
Am I the only person that thought that parts of the interview seemed staged? Like maybe he agreed to talk about anything except EL? Because the reactions they had when the question was asked seemed a bit much.
Also…how did they get such good footage of the studio and his music and all that if there was not some sort of cooperation?
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
1:12 pm
Sexycool – Yeah I noticed that too
Getoverit
July 28th, 2011
1:14 pm
After a ten year living arrangement ended, I learned the difference. I needed the constant support and contact a divorced woman receives at the end of her marriage. I needed the time to process and untangle the many threads a woman works through during the separation and divorce process. A former husband exists – a former roommate does not. He counts for nothing to the world and you are expected to “get over it.” He did exist. He has a name. This was an unrecognized, unsupported divorce. I wouldn’t do it again.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
1:17 pm
Off topic – now, this is truly messed up.
Trying to get sober might have killed Amy Winehouse.
The beehived diva, infamous for her drug and booze intake, went cold turkey on her heavy drinking in the month before her death on Saturday – and family members think her decision was fatal.
“Abstinence gave her body such a fright, they thought it was eventually the cause of her death,” a family friend told British newspaper The Sun.
Her father, Mitch, believed “the shock of giving up, after everything she had been through over a bad few years, was just too much for her to take,” the friend said.
Doctors had advised the 27-year-old “Rehab” singer to cut back gradually on her boozing, according to The Sun.
DAMN, DAMN, DAMN!
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:17 pm
The world expects you to get over a divorce as well.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:24 pm
Slim – I believe that they had to stage it that way and not call it the interview/PR campaign that it actually is to get around terms of the settlement that does not allow him to talk.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
1:24 pm
To this day, I still remember the man always at the bus stop. I was in my mid 20’s at the time, but over time we got to talking while waiting on the bus. He looked so lonely. Came to find out he just moved into the apartment complex after a bad divorce. I don’t know the stats on which sex has a harder time with divorce, but that man looked liked he carried the weight of the world on his shoulders. He looked lost and bewildered. I’ll never forget him.
ApolloGenX
July 28th, 2011
1:26 pm
Dorae- Marriage does mean something. However, it is necessary to seperate the subjective religious marriage from the legal marriage concept.
The legal marriage concept has a specific and wide array of enumerated rights and priviledges that go along with it. While the relationship portion is open to interpretation. The legal institution has very definitive implications and meaning.
We might disagree on what makes a house a home. However, there are specific legal implications to OWNING that home versus not owning it. I think the comparison is valid.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:33 pm
Just as there are legal and financial reasons TO get married, there are legal and financial reasons NOT to get married. Just look at the older people who are getting divorced to qualify for aid programs.
When it comes to the spiritual aspect, I can only think of reasons to support geting married and none to support not doing so.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:36 pm
And maybe I should have said the “religious” aspect. Because we all know that religion and spirituality are two different things.
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
1:37 pm
Apollo — I like you, bro. Welcome to Blogville. (Oh, and no, I’m not gay).
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
1:41 pm
SO what is the subject now?
ApolloGenX
July 28th, 2011
1:44 pm
Ummm- What assumptions an alien race would make about humans based on the contents of your car?
Demi
July 28th, 2011
1:50 pm
@Purp…my goal for this year is to be in the best shape of my life. My biggest weakness is cardio.
I would like to join the blog’s program, so I too can run 4 miles straight from any police or crazy woman.
demigod33@yahoo.com…if you don’t mind, if not…cool. I understand.
Thanks!!!
Demi
July 28th, 2011
1:51 pm
Swiss…I new you could do it, CONGRATS ON YOUR WIN!!!!!!!
abc
July 28th, 2011
1:51 pm
Lilith isn’t Biblical, just mythology. Supposedly made from the earth as was Adam, she refused to be subservient and split and mated with Angel Samael. Also/alternatively, a demon, water spirit, night spirit, occult figure, etc. Folks have tried to tie her to Epic of Gilgamesh, but that’s been refuted and people tend to not accept even that anymore.
SlimNu
July 28th, 2011
1:54 pm
SC – I didn’t even know he was one of the ones included in the law suit for EL. I guess they didn’t show all of their faces, but I was a little taken aback to see that this guy was such a flamer
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
1:54 pm
Swiss good luck in the playoffs, keep the streak alive.
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
1:55 pm
@Demi ~ man are you crazy. You are probably one of the fittest person on this blog. Your workout is already insane. I’m now convinced, YOU CRAZY!!!
i'm swiss™
July 28th, 2011
1:57 pm
Thanks, Demi & BF. I’m actually going to be out of town after the 2nd round, so if I make it that far I’ll end up having to forfeit. But the good thing is I get to move up a level regardless.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:57 pm
Slim – he was not a part of the lawsuit, but…he was a part of the settlement.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
1:59 pm
Wait…is the blog doing a workout plan or something of the sort?…
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
1:59 pm
Yeah…Demi…you are already hard bodied….
Now…what is this running plan you all speaketh of? I’m trying to go from 2 miles in 30 minutes to 3 miles in 30 minutes. Will this help?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
2:01 pm
Or should I say no streaking in the playoffs…..LOL
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:02 pm
@SC ~ mail call.
SexyCool
July 28th, 2011
2:05 pm
Thanks, Leggs. This looks pretty similar to my current schedule. Today, I’m shaking it up. I’ve got my trainer buddy to give me a workout session this evening.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
2:08 pm
Now…what is this running plan you all speaketh of?
I’m still tryna find out myself..or maybe I’m not s’posed to be in on it…cool I understand. Good luck to whomever’s gonna do it!
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:11 pm
@Sassy ~ mail call.
Celisea
July 28th, 2011
2:11 pm
The plan looks hard
But Imma try…I think
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:15 pm
Leggs…but there is still room to improve. My goal for this year is to be healthy in both mind and body…Ive already quit smoking cigarettes 8 months ago. cold turkey style
Now I am really ready to step my game up…I can’t have you ladies out dancing a Demi LOL
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 28th, 2011
2:22 pm
Cool beans Leggs, thank youuuu.
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:23 pm
SexyCool…before I look like I had just broke out of, Cell Block D, F, and G…LOL
Now my form is taking on the look of a 160lb fighter (rip)…Imma post pics on my FB account in Sept.
Fion
July 28th, 2011
2:24 pm
@Purp
I go for lunch (Hibachi) now I’m using an alias? I don’t think so. I’m just not up the theological debate
today.
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:26 pm
UGA 1999
July 28th, 2011
2:26 pm
Quick poll…..do the women here on teh poll like the idea of using a strap on with their man?
Leggs
July 28th, 2011
2:26 pm
Out dancing you, that was funny! You remember the song???
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:26 pm
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 28th, 2011
2:27 pm
Since we’re on fitness and talk of sex all the time, do anyone believe in knowing their status. I do every year I get a physical. I know people who are literally scared to death to know.
Demi
July 28th, 2011
2:27 pm
the smiley thingy is just like the yahoo thing of the old, lol
