Dating Mr. Serious: Dude, chill
My new guy/beau is a little on the high strung side. I think he likes the fact that I encourage – ok force- him to relax and enjoy the time we spend together.
I have a really silly, playful side at times and I love to laugh and have fun when I’m on a date. During our first few outings, I admit I was ready to deuce him out! He is making an effort to chill out but I get the sense that he has never really let himself unwind and have fun that much before.
It is kind of fun and interesting to watch him explore the simple
things that relaxes him! What do you do to unwind? Have you found that the serious/intense people you date often are the most fun to be around once they kick back?
What is the most relaxing and laid back date you have had?
On a semi-related sidebar: Why does it seem as if some men don’t want to outwardly express happiness or feelings of content. It’s actually difficult to determine when you are happy in our presence sometimes! What gives?
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Celisea
July 27th, 2011
3:57 pm
Okay…nothing that Imma quit on as soon as the ink dries. I know self motivation is apart of it but if you give me something undo-able I won’t stick to it….seriously. Imma try though…draw something up please.
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
3:57 pm
I can do it, PR…write a plan for me. Now, the last time I ran a 10K was 4 years ago, not sure if I can do it now. I didn’t walk it, I ran it. My first 10K I completed in 32 mins. This last one I completed in 40 mins. I was told I ran like a gazelle the first time. 4 years later, I’ll probably run more like a wheezing chipmunk.
SlimNu
July 27th, 2011
3:57 pm
Blackfoote – Yeah they didn’t have too many episodes and none of the girls really liked Deion Sanders wife, I can’t recall her name. But out of all of them, they had the most money…seemed like all the other couples were on the brink of broke or being kicked off the team due to injuries. The show I can’t really get into is Single Ladies..ewwww…wack
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
3:57 pm
I want one, too, Purple Majesty.
Note to self: glad I got that fish, collards, and mac n’ cheese in at lunch before I start on Herr Reign’s regimen.
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
3:59 pm
PUT THOSE POPTARTS DOWN! Go get an apple.
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
3:59 pm
uh oh, Slim. One of the blog men LOVES Pilar…..
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
3:59 pm
Leggs I didn’t know you ran. That’s great. I have always been able to walk and distance at that but running the entire time..no way. And to think I ran track in high school.
The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)
July 27th, 2011
4:00 pm
Purp’s right. Anybody can get to a point where they can run at least 4-5 miles pretty quickly. I hate running — I mean F@#KING HATE IT — so, if I can do it, anybody can. Just go at your own pace — you’re not running time trials. You still get the cardio benefits when running slow. Over time, your pace will improve naturally.
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:00 pm
Oooh, we could have a blog team for the next PRR! FUN….we could call our team Purp’s Pimp Squad. Or the MIA Monkey Paws….. lmao…
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:00 pm
PUT THOSE POPTARTS DOWN! Go get an apple.
can’t….need….junk….need….help….please….soon…..someone
kimmie
July 27th, 2011
4:01 pm
Purple please help a sister. I have gained back all the weight I lost for the wedding!
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:01 pm
Swiss/Purp – Is it the same as running the distance on the treadmill?
SlimNu
July 27th, 2011
4:02 pm
Purp – I really don’t need much cardio as I probably could use some conditioning and Toning. I only weigh 108lbs when I weighed myself last week. I definitely could use some s q u a t s to make my booty a whittle more visible
The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)
July 27th, 2011
4:02 pm
But it definitely helps to have motivation… For me, it’s chasing Mrs. Swiss’s fine booty like those racing dogs chase the fake rabbits…
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:03 pm
Funny too I can easily walk outside, right sneakers and walk uptown. That’s what a couple of miles from here and easily. Usually if I’m in the habit of doing it, I can do it in about 15 or 20 minutes.
The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)
July 27th, 2011
4:03 pm
C — To me the treadmill is harder, only because it’s waaaaaaaay more boring. I can’t run on a treadmill.
Alvin
July 27th, 2011
4:04 pm
@swiss ~ why keep the lights off and blinds closed…they all have nice bodies???
Leggs, those ladies are plastic sur’ed up!! You never know what will fall off.
The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)
July 27th, 2011
4:04 pm
Slim — Come on over & we’ll start your squat routine. Here, I’ll spot you….
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:04 pm
Sim – 108 pounds? LOL that’s funny. My kid is like you she’s 89 pounds. You ain’t but what 19 pounds heavier??
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:05 pm
@Celisea ~ that was then, this is now. I can walk distance…love to walk. What I don’t like to do is walk at a slow pace…that drives me insane.
Purple Reign
July 27th, 2011
4:05 pm
Yes I love Pilar, Slim do not say antyhing bad about her. LOL
Swiss is right.
kimmie,ITL, Leggs and Celisea. I will have it in your inbox(kimmie I don’t have your email so you can get mine from one of the ladies I mentioned or have them forward it to you) before I head out in the a.m. so that is around 4am your time. It’s not about how long it takes, if you walk some etc just do the distance posted and yes you can do it on a tread mill. Stay hydrated, I don’t care about your diet. Just know that once you start seeing yoru body change you will think more about what you eat.
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:06 pm
Swiss – Yep sooooo true about the treadmill. I gotta have several magazines to walk about 3 miles because if I’m watching the clock it ain’t gonna happen. Downstairs I can plug into the little thingy on each treadmill and it connects you to the tv sound. That was a biiiig help when I went down. I watched Harry Potter while I walked. Grrrrreaat distraction. Otherwise it would have been ten minutes and done…lol
Alvin
July 27th, 2011
4:07 pm
Purple please help a sister. I have gained back all the weight I lost for the wedding!
Kimmie…that’s because you didn’t chg your lifestyle, with a goal of…”I am doing this for health reasons.
a wedding dress doesn’t count
SlimNu
July 27th, 2011
4:07 pm
swiss – Um, I’m not gym rat or even a genius but I’ve NEVER heard of anyone needing a spotter for squats…nice try though
Celisea – Yeah I know, it’s pretty sad. So it shouldn’t take much to get me in tip top shape but it won’t happen unless I do it right? That’s the prob
kimmie
July 27th, 2011
4:08 pm
Thanks Purple! I will get it from Leggs!
I’m out!
Yall be easy!
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:08 pm
Way back when Sportslife was still open, they used to have a treadmill in the pool (yes, in the pool!) I LOVED running on that.
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:09 pm
Slim – One good thing you can be slim/tiny and healthy. My kid is waaay too small. She’s 16 and no one believes but she looks healthy. I’d say around 10ish she dropped the frail look she carried. She didn’t gain weight but I guess filling out some helped. I’m sure you’re healthy looking just tiny.
SlimNu
July 27th, 2011
4:11 pm
Purp – Wunt nobody gonna say nertin bout no dayum Pillar…oops I mean Pilar. Why does that remind me of the skit on In living Color when Kym Wayans would say, “Nobody best say nuttin bad about Miss Jenkins!” lol
Alvin
July 27th, 2011
4:12 pm
Just know that once you start seeing yoru body change you will think more about what you eat.
That’s the key!!!
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:12 pm
This is hilarious how quick topic changes…from BBWives to Fitness Guru!
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:13 pm
Slim, I was quoting that skit the other day at work and had my coworkers cracking up. “That old lady know her house smell like peery moth balls….but nobody better not say nothin’ bad about Miss Jenkins!” LOL
Purple Reign
July 27th, 2011
4:14 pm
Slim, I just know running keeps me normal, I lift a lot of heavy stuff daily so that keeps me out of the gym pushing weights
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:15 pm
Exactly Alvin. I started excercising and doing weight training to help with my cholesterol. My problem was simply getting started. But once I got started it easy. Although I wasn’t a junk food eater anyway, I only had to change a few things. The elliptical is my good friend….
Alvin
July 27th, 2011
4:15 pm
@SlimNu…I currently train 10 peeps at my job…when it came to squating, having a spotter is very important…as long as your spotter isn’t, Swiss. LOL
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:16 pm
Me English may not be all good, but you know whats I mean!
Purple Reign
July 27th, 2011
4:17 pm
Slim for your butt you need to do lunges or reverse lunges not squats. And for the record if you do squats with weights you do need a spotter, just not “under” you like Swiss is positioned. LOL
Alvin
July 27th, 2011
4:19 pm
@Leggs, how many stomach crunches can you do?
for those who hate running…just buy yourself a jump rope
I am too lazy to run, LOL…but i am good for 3 miles.
I am get myself a porn star body, lol
Purple Reign
July 27th, 2011
4:20 pm
Hey I am over 40 and still have a “v” lol running works LOL
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:22 pm
Alvin, your last post totally confused me. I thought you were a man??
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:22 pm
Off topic ~ I just found 9 dimes and 1 penny as I was walking in the restroom. Who the heck drops .91 and not hear it or know it?
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:24 pm
Helen Keller?
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:24 pm
Sorry, that wasn’t nice of me. Bad, ITL, bad.
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:25 pm
It’s a blessing Leggs …….grab it!!!! My mama said if you step over the small stuff you won’t get anything big
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:25 pm
@Alvin ~ I try to do 3 reps of 20, which I know isn’t much, but it’s much for ME! I do my lunges with 10 lb weights.
Purple Reign
July 27th, 2011
4:25 pm
I would not pick up coins off of a bathroom floor, LOL
Purple Reign
July 27th, 2011
4:26 pm
peery coins
Leggs
July 27th, 2011
4:26 pm
But it was funny, ITL.
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:26 pm
My granny used to say that, Cel. “Little imp, you better pick that up. Pennies make dollars!”
Into the Light
July 27th, 2011
4:28 pm
What is it about the word “peery” that cracks me up every time?? smh….
Celisea
July 27th, 2011
4:29 pm
Purp – Mayne, wash those coins off and put them in a piggy bank or jar or coins.