This is dedicated to all the blog ladies today. Don’t settle for a lame thats not tryin to show you who he really is http://youtu.be/Y91jtjvN3NQ

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Like you said, great sex cannot sustain a relationship for a long time. But at the same time, bad sex or lack of it entireless, will blow it up almost immediately. A fulfilling sex life is like oil in a car. It takes more than oil to make it run. But without oil, it won’t go very far, either.

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The hell, sex can’t keep a relationship going. I’ll take an average relationship outside of the bedroom, but spectacular sex in it over a great relationship outside and poor sex. I think a large, LARGE majority of people would agree to that.
1) Bad sex + bad relationship = NO
2) Great sex + bad relationship = a few weeks
3) Bad sex + good relationship = a few weeks…maybe
4) Great sex = good relationship = let’s ROLL!

Bottom line is that great sex can make up for a LOT of shortcomings!

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When sex is good, it is 10% of the relationship. When it’s bad, it’s 90% of the relationship.

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First in order to keep a man you have to get a man.

What keeps a relationship together? Love, Respect and Friendship

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“sex alone can’t sustain a relationship but a relationship without sex won’t last either?”

A relationship without any loving will expire faster than the speed of light. Although there’s much more to a courtship than sex she can hold out it’s her choice, I place no fault on her. She may be waiting for the next arrival. But my first sentence states the obvious.

Good Tuesday Morning:

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All I know is if you are a decent human being and can make me scream, I’ll be your friend, respect you…and later on, I might love you. But for right now you making me scream will make me your friend until you show me something bad.

All of these packaged response about philosophy come later on. Somethings gotta be there physically in order for it to get to the Socrates line of thought.

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For clarification purposes only, there’s no such thing as Bad ‘Punannie”. There’s , Good, Better, Best, and then there’s Par Ex-cell-ent .
Ladies and Gentleman of the jury I submit to you that Sexual relationships that end are mired in unfulfilling, missionary only, unimaginative, bored routine.
Come on Now, think back to that person that made your eyes roll back into your head. If you could knock it off tonight, you would. Don’t lie, ya you would!
It wasn’t the Sex, it was the ongoing maintenance related to the relationship that you got tired of.

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@AngieKnows

You’re joking, right? How can you base a friendship off of sex?

Never mind, you’re not real.

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Trust me folks….Great sex and a great relationship are pointless if both people are not totally committed to each other for the sake of the “relationship” which should be part of the elements of a great relationship. True commitment from both sides is a rarity.

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People spend to much time looking on the outside not what’s on the inside. People foucus on what kind of job he has etc. All the superfical stuff. If you look for partner out of need rather than a person that has good relationship skills and if you don’t have good relationship skills yourself your doomed before you even start.Number one is COMMUNICATIONS. Being able to be open about who
you are and want you want from your partner and the relationship.To be truly successful in a relatonship, you and your partner need to be great friends. A relationship is al living thing. The relationship needs to be fed. Flowers is food for a women’s spirit .If the couple just takes from the relationship it dies. Sex is just the icing on the cake. If your going through a lot of relationspis. Warning !There are many great books on relationships drop you ego and read some.As for me with all this information my typing still sucks )

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Good morning ladies and gentlemen….

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@Reio, You either need a hug or a restraining order … maybe both?!?!?

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Top of the morning to yall,

Either extreme to me would potentially be a bad situation…to either have GREAT mind blowing sex but weak on the strenght of the relationship….or a totally great relationship with wack, don’t even think about touching me sex. A nice medium would be cool because if the relationship has a strong foundation, the hope would be that the sex part could be improved.

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I can tell already that this is going to be one of those feel good topics where those that have decided that they want to be in love are going to piss all over those that have decided that they want a different kind type of relationship….. To roll with Fion, this has stopped being a trial and become a Military Tribunal where anything short of June and Ward Cleaver will be beat down and ridiculed by those who make the choice to live in a box and can’t bring themselves to respect the choices of those who do not! If You want a mental connection full of Brain F**ks then thats great, But If a person Makes the ADULT CHOICE to base a relationship on the physical then who has to right to judge them???? Its not as if those in traditional realtinships have all the answers…after all the divorce rate is what, 55% or so…..

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LOL….@Da_Man

Angie said great sex makes up for a lot of shortcomings. Interesting.

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@ Casual Observer : I agree, so long as BOTH people know this going in.
Don’t use the other person by deceiving them into thinking you are serious about making a relationship work.

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Aye man, all I’m gonna tell ya is what I know and not some sh^^t from a book.
There are Goo-Gobs of Women walkin’ right past the Quote un Quote “Good Man’ to run with that Good 10’’inches she can count on every night.

Just sayin’

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Purple, I have to agree….at least with me. Sex alone cannot sustain a relationship. But bad sex or lack of it will blow a relationship up before it has a chance to get a firm footing. JMHO

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@ Purple Rain : I agree. It’s like that because men control everything. We pick out the women, they just go with whoever the last guy is that asks them out or their phone number. Look at it this way, everything we do is a booty call, either direct or indirect. An example : Suppose I meet someone, we go out and enjoy each another. No matter what I do or say, not do or not say, we want The booty. Call her up to check in, we want the booty. Send her email, booty. tweet, booty. Roses to her job, booty. Chocolates, booty, Hell Even if I call her to remind her that I remembered that tomorrow is her mother’s birthday and to wish her a happy birthday for me, booty. the very moment we become convinced that there will be no booty, or no more booty, we are gone. Thats the truth, and you all know it.

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It makes me think of the short dude, tall girl. Not so good looking girl, but great body. The dude with no money but is hanging well. Right some shortcomings will go overlooked with great sex. It happens all the time.

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Fion I hope that’s dipstick in my case….LOL

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Blackfoote, look at the media, TV, movies, it’s on everyone’s mind and we curtail thinking and talking about it when we are MADE to or it may offend some prude. But sex and it’s side shows are everywhere. Sure it can make up for a lot of shortcomings, but it won’t make me marry you. I’ll probably just keep you along as a steady friend with a few extra benefits. I’ll be nice and thoughtful, just as long as you are. But if you’re “gifted” or just plain “good”, you have an extra quality that other normal friends don’t have. I’ll probably be more interested in going to dinner with you, movies or just hanging out, because that sexual tension is like Hot Pete on food. Just the thought of it really wakes you up. You get the nod over Joe Schmoe, even though he’s a nice guy, too. He just doesn’t have the hot sauce.

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Morning All,

This is going to be funny today.

On Topic – In my very humble opinion (then again what do i know) SEX can not sustain a relationship. However, bad sex or less than average sex can not start a relationship. I always say you can get sex from the gas station. What it takes to start and sustain a meaningful relationship takes effort. Sex doesn’t take effort. All it takes in some instances is a nice car or a few drinks. In a June/Ward Cleaver world you’d already figured that out by the time you engage in sex. I todays society you have sex then try to figure out the relationship part. Whatever works for you in your mind.
To me I’d had enough sex to know that it takes mental stimulation for me to even want to get to know more about you than that cleavage or azz. My relationship didn’t start until I had the mental picture of us being alone for an extended period w/o sex. I’m not an expert but I’ll say you will figure it out after youv’e had a few bad relationships but the sex was good moments.

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so q question to the folks that think sex is most important….

you going to stay with somebody for great sex even though they are crazy, lazy, stupid, ignorant, selfish, dishonest, abusive, humorless?

REALLY?

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and i don’t see anybody saying sex isn’t important. It’s definitely important. But it aint everything. Like I said, F#^* my brain first, then the body, then the booty.

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@ lucinda : With me, don’t wait too long to decide whether I’m F#^ing your brain or not, cause I’ll be gone soon, leaving your body and booty behind.

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Good Morning to all!

I agree with whoever said when sex is great, it is 10% of the realtionship, when it is bad or non existant, it is 90% of the realtionship. When you are getting it good, everything seems brighter and better. When it stops everything seems bad. I married the one that makes my eyes roll back in my head. I also married the one that when the day comes that he can no longer do that, things will still be good. However, I dont look sideways at those that use sex as their measure tool for their relationship(s)….. Do you.

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Yes @Lucinda, I’m going to stay with somebody for great sex even though they are crazy, lazy, stupid, ignorant, selfish, dishonest, abusive, humorless. “Stay” is actually relative – could be a week, month, or year; but Hey – I like GREAT SEX! Just call me Shallow Hal.

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Lucinda, no I wouldn’t…if he was crazy, lazy, stupid, ignorant, selfish, dishonest, abusive and humorless. But if you know a bunch of people that had many or even all of opposite of those qualities and you knew one of them could make you sing all the high notes, I’d certainly lean in his direction. No ones talking about a loser that is good. I’m talking about the normal people and one, you knew, could make your toes curl. That’s what I’m talking about.

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And for those that said a relationship cannot exist without sex, what about old couples that no longer can physically have sex but still living and loving and relating?

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Several here have expressed strong opinions. Actually one size does not fit all. That said, for Randyt it is a whole bunch of things rolled together. I’ve done this long enough to know what works for me and more important what doesn’t work for me. For me a bunch of things are required, chemistry, friendship, intelligence, a heart, and a pretty face (okay, I’m shallow, but can’t imagine sitting across the table from an ugly woman, no matter how good the frame).

I want it all, and on these general areas, anything less than a 100% is a failing grade. Re the checklist column of a few days ago, I don’t have a massive list, but these things are essential. Sex is just one part, a good relationship is just one part.

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@Celisea, The Rick James Tribute Crew are looking for good volunteers …

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Sweet Pea – You are right…cosign

WillieD – I am too June Cleaver. June knew how to get down while donning her pearls and suite I can’t speak to the freak off camera though

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Celisea, June you weren’t her yesterday. Not how you were telling Slim1 about driving down the highway….LOL

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Da Ma – Imma have to pass..lol

UGA – I agree. I think that’s what the June Cleavers were trying to relay a bit earlier. I think the stick and quit crew are just a trite offended this morning…lol

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Celisea~I am June Cleaver too!…ain’t nothing wrong with it!

Blackfoote~I know Celisea can hold her own, however get back Black !!

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Okay I was trying to strike through “girl get it”

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@ Celisea : Holding hands is good, but at this point, thats all they can/could do. Just sayin.

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@Celisea – What makes you think your Mom & Pops weren’t “gettin it in”? Holding hands is just foreplay … You’ve seen the Cialis commercials!

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So you folks are saying that the loving, and caring and sharing in a stable and “normal relationship” does not fade????? Everyday, even here on this blog, there are those that fall in love with her beautiful mind, they work to accomplish the same goals and build families….have deep and involved conversations and one day they wake up and she looks over at him and says……”Joe Bob from down in the mailroom bent me over the sink in the janitors closet and I liked it”…. he sighs and says that good, cause Sara from accounting has a girlfriend, and dammit, they BOTH like the way I do that thing witht he redhots”……

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Reio – That’s the part ya’ll are missing…that the June Cleavers were saying. You might want to establish something more than mindblowing sex because at some point and as with anything in life, change comes. And in those golden years, change will go from getting it up and on a whim or at the thought of, to not even being able to get a good hump in. No strength or ability or agility to do so. Hey it’s life…we live long enough we’ll all witness the “change.”

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Da Man – Stop it…lol My mama and daddy stop doing anything after me. Nothing…no more…I’m the last, the baby of the family. Everything ended there

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RandyT you are right with one size does not fit all, we all have different variations on what we like. I don’t get this Rick vs June stuff, just do what you like that’s all.

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And to think I wasted all that time in math class and I coulda learned Quadratic equations
here on the Blog.

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Celisea I know Andy got caught up many times, and she rightfully let him know about it….LOL

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I’m getting off this thing. My 11:08 bought to rustle up my nether regions. Really folks, it ain’t that hard. You can think up a good feeling Yep, I said that.

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@ BlackFoote

Are you seeing a Dr. about your condition????

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Swiss – Not myself… I ain’t into “self” like that. Not by myself anyway. Ut oh, bye ya’ll.

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Celisea~That’s what I’m talking about…she was taking of Ward in the “right” way.

Casual Observer~I’m sure it does fade at times. We all are human and may find others to be desirable, however home is where the heart is…at least I can say that with my parents…41 years and counting!

Relationships are like entreprenuers…it takes passion and hard work to be successful.

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@BlackFoote
Yeah, I know. Once you turn’em out you can’t hardly get rid of’em.

BTW Casual Observer 10:55 post hand a cuolpe of good points.

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June more like a doormat.

Says who? I think the Junes of this world have it going on. Just because they are not always advertising their wares they gotta be doormats? I have found out those that do all that yip yappin about how they get it in are usually the ones that aint doing ish! Ward knew that June had the goods:lol: And they were all his! To me that says a lot. Who wants something everybody has had or seen……

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Nah, Nah BlackFoote “Julia’. Damn Dianne Carroll was the #@%^&$*&>

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Ok @Blackfoote, you got me on Thelma!

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Fion I was gonna go Diane, during her Dynasty days. Yep she had it.

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“That’s a lose lose coz nobody knows that her punani other than ursf.

Good things are truly good when u can enjoy and also show them around.”

Me.lo — That’s why the ugly ones are more likely to be swingers.

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Exiled, I use to have an UGLY chic in my rotation….She had a GREAT job, was fine as frog hair, and was open minded and creative in the sack….her only thing was, she knew she was rough on the eyes and would not play ball if I was not willing to play in public. Had to resort to taking her out on the other side of town…The company was always good, But damn… She kinda looked like a combo of Sherly Swoops and Marion Jones…Once she figured out how to control that rouge tooth…the sex was Olympic quality!!!!

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Someone’s wearing a NEW SUIT….

My coworker said they bought while out of the country….LOLOL

We ain’t right

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Easy E – I’m agreeing all day with you. I won’t shoot your comments done but you might get pegged the Ward to my June.

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@ Willie / Casual

Here! Here!

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pulling Easy E to the side (I got this fellas) – blah blah blah blah blah. Take a deep breath, blah blah blah blah. What the heyal are you talking about???? This is not 1952. we may share some of the same thoughts as you but we DO NOT I repeat DO NOT voice them in that manner. Say what you need to say without appearing to be a Man with chick feelings.

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Easy E- I agree with you

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My apologies Fellas!

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I guess a lot of people don’t read the topic, all I did was copy and paste the topic in my last posting and people starting talking to me like I wrote it. The bond, friendship and respect is the meat and potatoes, the sex is the gravy IMO. I prefer to not let sex cloud the starts of a new relationship, laugh at me all you want but I was just raised that way. In my day I may have had 3 -4 people of whom I had sex with and I knew that it was nothing but a sexual relationship whether they wanted more or not. Otherwise I would see if all of the other intangibles were there before we had sex. I never dated an ugly chick by mine nor anyones standards…LOL..I let hoes be hoes and did not even think of retiring them to wifey status, if I got the goods to soon or to easy I already filed her away as a fling.

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I let hoes be hoes and did not even think of retiring them to wifey status, if I got the goods to soon or to easy I already filed her away as a fling.

I vote that we put this in the next Man Law book as a RULE. Chicks be quiet (respectfully of course). Men vote now.

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AYE!

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PR – What do you consider “easy or too soon” versus not?

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the cosmetic enhancement not then….

I am being challenged with typos…I am human…sigh

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Celisea, easy means she is trying to get some after I just met her. To soon is if we both have interest in each other, but sex is the main topic and she is already trying to get some everytime we are alone in the initial stages. In the internet day and age if you meet someone and have been conversing for a while via phone, email, skype for a long period then I can understand trying to get some.

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Three Words Daily – Create empowering beliefs.

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“What happens when your clothes are back on and you start to realize that outside the bedroom, you actually don’t connect in other ways?”

You should have figured that out before you got naked.

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Hey you all, I just tried to remember the last time I smoked and I can’t remember. It’s been that long. I may have to light one up to celebrate quitting.

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I am speaking from a man’s POV Celisea. But it’s vice versa as well.

If a woman can’t be sexy with her clothes on then she is just a plain woman with her clothes off also.

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My experience, great sex and great relationships are two separate animals. I have never had a great relationship. All the women I’ve know are totally self-absorbed and self-seeking. That will kill a relationship over time.

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Blackfoote, I didn’t even realize I quit until I typed about the praying weed smoker.

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@ Blackfoote- To each his own. I would be too scared to something like that. Some folk get paranoid when they indulge…..I can see why

PR- Don’t do it, don’t light up if you haven’t in awhile…. it aint just “regular” anymore. Just telling you what somebody told me

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kimmie, try it I bet nobody will say anything about ugly dudes getting shot down.

Lovely, I am not going to but everything around these parts is homegrown not in my home but I know people. LOL

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Blackfoote….ever been to a Pink Floyd show or Jimmy Buffett?

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UGA have you ever been to Jimmy Buffet’s hotel on the gulf? I want to check it out.

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Kimmie!

We(men) will not shoot u down and other discerning women won’t either if u praise what u call ‘ugly’ men coz we know,to u women,an ugly man is one who ain’t packing it!

If a man got a hook and jab on his thunderous cock,to a woman(most) + a decent job,it’s done.
Most good women don’t need all those frills..

Why u think some thugs with no jobs drive their girlfriends to work in the morning eveday? In her car?

It’s that jab,never mind how he looks..

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UGA – Pink Floyd put on the best live show I’ve ever seen.

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kimmie, only aesthetically challenged men would say that women need to date ugly men. LOL

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I have been agreeing with Exiled for the past two days

Maybe I need to put the flame out

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Blackfoote: I learnt from da best…YOU….LOL j/k

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Now,to not focus on the outside and just go in,after an ugly chic just coz she may have a nice personality?

Good Head or “Da Bomb” Puddy…Y’all dudes are sleep on them ugles…Rules still the same:

1) Late night
2)Paper bag
3)All light blubs removed
4)Some unknown spot…many, many miles away

Hey WISE, your baby bruh is back…Let the good times ROOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLL!!!

Uh, girl I turn that thing into a rainforest
Rain on my head, call that brainstorming
Yeah this is deep, oh, but I go deeper
Make you lose yourself, and finders keepers
It go green light, go Demi go
I like to taste that sugar, that sweet and low
But hold up wait, new position
I put her on my plate then I do the dishes

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Purple – Women do it to other women too, more than dudes say it to women, I think. I can’t count the number of times it was said to me. Usually it was from the women that were hating on me, though.

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“I think people put too much access EMPHASIS on sex” I left out an important word.

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@Kimmie?

Not very attractive does not mean ugly!
And men(ordinary) don’t marry or care for wealthy chics…that’s another subject there.

A dude wants good pudy and nice personality! That trumps all attractiveness any woman may flaunt.

Men are very easy,all they need is a nice homegirl,some food and regular pudy… I mean regular! As long as she ain’t ugly we good!

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Regular as in frequency!

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MMEELLOO – I try not to get too deep with the sex talk and the nasties but Imma have to call you out. You know I blog love you dearly since the day of your birth here but I’m calling BS on 50 percent of everyone of your posts. How you gonna like sex as much as you do but can only go so far??? You welcome somebody slobbing the disco stick or bouncing on it FREQUENTLY but you can’t or squirm at doing the one thing every brother on this planet has come out of hiding with??

That ain’t even balanced.

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BMW – One thing that maybe missed some folks about Viagra/Cyalis is that everyone can’t take them. Especially if they have heart problems or take other medication that may interfere. So those drugs are not the answer to everything!

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Imma have to take a safety pin and strike through your name on that love trophy and “pin” in Simple Man’s name.

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Sooo, if a cheerleading trophy has a miniature cheerleader on top, and a softball trophy a miniature player….what’s on top of the Love Trophy??? LOL

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Sorry folks..went for an extended lunch..let me address some of the comments on here..

@Willie D..lol @ pulling me to the side..I know it’s not 1952 but hey..it’s just my 2 cents..

@SweetPea..the lighthouse can definitely be rebuilt..however if she (or he for that matter) repeats the past, the lighthouse will still come crashing down again (with a bigger thud albeit with better sand)

@Purple Rain..I dont use that as my calling card..quite frankly, is she puts it on me on the 2nd date, i might do what we human’s are designed to do..flight or fight (btw the sheets of course)..but as a person, if i do get it on the 2nd date, all elements/thought’s of having a serious r’ship with that lady are gone with the wind..did I just reveal man-rule # 338?

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did I just reveal man-rule # 338?

LOL…We’re up to # 338 now, LAWD!!!

Swiss, I am having a bless year so far…and I hear you don up and got married on a young buck, LOL

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My glasses are ready…yaaaaah

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Swiss LOL, good for you…any kids on the way?

Did dude just say white chocolate…men are still naming their wangs…LAWD

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Exiled – Yeah, just as I thought! LOL!!!

But yeah, usually the women that try to push their buddies up to date a ugly dude are hating. I’ll never forget back when I was about 22. I was out at a club with friends. This guy that looked like Nick Ashford, but worse, was after me bad! He looked to be at the very least in his forties. I was polite, but turned him down. My friends that were with me kept riding me about him, saying that he could be nice. He very well probably was. But I had never seen them date or even accept a dance from anybody other than Boris Kodjoe or Shemar Moore’s little brothers! That actually let me know what they were all about!

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IS ONYX THE BEST BLACK STRIP CLUB IN ATLANTA?

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UGA, well, there is Strokers, and Pin Ups, But for the real Freak Show Word is Your Mama’s House is the Place to be…..

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Demi — Nah, not yet, but enjoying the practice.

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@Blackfoote…Pin Ups still exist?…I remember when BluFlam was the ish…

Gentlemen club let me see ya I yi yi
Blue flame let me see ya I yi yi
Magic City let me see ya I yi yi
Body Tap let me see ya I yi yi
Jazzy T’s let me see ya I yi yi
Club Pleasers let me see ya I yi yi
School ‘oe let me see ya I yi yi
And if you ain’t twerkin bish BYE YI YI

I went in that order….LOL

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@UGA 1999….LOL check out Strokers or Platium 21

Not a whole lot of fake bitties there…lol

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Demi:
Pin Ups goes extra strong, only one on the list not open is Jazzy T’s they got shut down….LOL they was just too naughty.

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Blackfoote….Too naughty? I heard Onyx is that way as well.

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Strokers definitely lives up to the name. Especially if you wear baggy shorts & boxers & tip well. Allegedly.

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on Strokers…its old…but MAYNE, 87% are fly…LOL

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Woo… AngieKnows!

True. Sex doesn’t ‘necessarily’ keep a man, (or woman;-) but sex being at the center of all energy, can be a dealmaker…or breaker.

Way back, me and another good friend wouldn’t date a man unless he was in ‘well’ endowed and in sync with this energy, could really get it up I’m saying, wasn’t hung up and twisted up on social righteousness thinking they’re better than… why many women (and some men) find themselves with wandering mates who feel inclined to hide this perfectly natural function, rather than scare her (or him) who’s been taught righteousness as being the true way to a good man, or woman’s heart.

For some, yes, it may work out. Though years later, and I can’t count the instances it’s so many, these same women (and even some men!) are so bitter about what they allowed themselves to miss out on. Believe me on this…my great-grandmothers admitted it, my grandmothers, my mother, and now I’m saying it. Everyone who’s been through it is saying it.

No, sex isn’t the “be all” to anyone’s heart. But it is a powerful connection that have lead a many of men (and women) out the door seeking it. And baby, when it connects with the right energy, ain’t nothing in the world more powerful!

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Exiled…not planning on getting kicked out. I just want to see the differences between the white clubs and the black ones.

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MsMarriedUp…good post..

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Thank You Rev. MsMarriedUp

Now it’s time for the offering. Please refrain from making change out of the plate.

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Good afternoon.

Can somebody please give me a recap while I cool down. Are you still on topic? If not, what’s the new topic and what’s been going on?

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Well I was talking about the differences between black strip clubs and white ones.

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My post just went MIA, too, Cel.

Hey, Leggs! Welcome.

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Ohhh, it’s LLUURRKKEERR I’m trying to post. I was saying the trolls lluurrkkeerrss had taken over this morning…this is what I said

Leggs – I gave a recap (the trolls) luurkeers) had taken over this morning. But I guess the blog is not wanting me to take a jab at the fact I wasn’t the pegged June Cleaver this time

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Leggs…I am Back, LOL

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I can’t get this story about the mom charged with vehicular homicide after her son was killed while they were crossing the road off my mind….

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Maybe it’s me and I could be wrong and in the minority as usual but what’s up with wanting to know the difference in white booty shakers versus black????? I’m not feeling that question. It don’t “feel” right. But I ain’t a man and it ain’t my blog. Soooo Imma go on and head out for the rest of the day.

Ya’ll be easy.

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UGA?

No difference tween black and white strip clubs…in the main.

When u sit down on that chair,drank on the side,maybe some wing on ur mouf and the black strip says ‘are u ready honey’ and she touches ur shoulder lightly as she takes off that lil thang and proceeds to moon u,opening the indices of that coochie..

the inside meat is also white

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Inside not indices

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Celisea, stop pouting and let’s talk about something else.

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PR – Celisea is gone for the day…this time…for real

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ITL:
She recieved 12 months probation and comm. service.

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Stay Celisea or you can just start some emails. LOL

Slim did you pick your man up from the airport yet?

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Celisea?

U can’t know the answer to UGA question unless u like black and white chics and have tested them.

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I’m gonna suggest that Ex’s Mayberry persona be Ernest T. Bass… comes by, throws a few rocks, and runs away laughing.

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Exactly, Demi! That man killed a child, left the scene, and only served 6 months???? WTH?

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Exiled….I have never been with a black chick. more going to the clubs to see the differences. One of my assistant coaches is black and wants to take us.

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ITL:
Andy is honest, fair, and stern when need be. Dont’ need a pat on the back or ego stroke, always giving the underdog a platform to excell. Like to see other folks thrive, without anything in return.

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I see ITL and I said the same thing. Too funny.

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I like that, BF. I still love to watch those re-runs. And Exiled, you know the Ernest T. comment was a joke…although he was one of my favorites, because he always makes me smile.

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Ex, I compared you to him, because, much like he did the run-by rock throw, you run by the blog, toss out a little rock that gets things stirred up, and then sit back and giggle at your handy work. It was not meant as a dis at all, and I apologize if you took it that way.

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Great minds think alike, Leggs.

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always giving the underdog a platform to excell. Like to see other folks thrive, without anything in return

Well said, Andy. Reminds me of the episode with Aunt Bea’s pickles…. LOL

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Into the Light…Folks can say what they want, you need big money to defend yourself in court.

regardless, there is a God…that child’s blood is crying for justice

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LOL….@ITL
The two who were clowns, was Barney and Gomer when they paired up. Gomer was just a nut case before and when he joined the marines.

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Purp – Blog keeps eating my post…No I haven’t picked up the beau yet. I have another day to go.

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Demi:
I know….LOL

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BF: Love Barney and Gomer, but if i had been Thelma Lou, I woulda been like, “Look here, Mr. Fife…..”

Ex: OK

Slim: Buy those fruit roll-ups yet?

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ITL….the fruit roll ups are actually very fun to use.

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ITL….now THAT was funny!

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LOL….@ITL

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“I’m just at a loss of what to say to women who still believe that great sex is enough to keep a man.”

See, if most women would admit the problem, they would be taking first step in correcting it. Most of you think “sex” is all you should contribute and nothing else. As I have said since I came here and tell my fellow brethren Women are over rated and are getting worse, you all act like a pretty face and T and A entitle you to a free ticket in life. I have seen it, been in it, and let me tell you it ain’t all that special, women just need to get over themselves and actually work for “The Life” I am very against people getting something nothing, I have worked for everything in my life, whats your problem. (Gives the board the high sign, brought to you by the letters F and U)

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A co-worker just recently retired and every time he said “Golly” I thought of Gomer Pyle.

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ITL: I was just in the store yesterday and forgot all about the dayum fruit roll ups. I usually like to go with black attire but last night I was trying on a few ensembles and was thinking I may go with the color white…not sure though.

Purp – My ‘plans’ are still up in the air at the moment. I’ll do a bit more brainstorming later on tonight.

UGA – How in the world is a skrip club going to help you see the different in white and black women? This isn’t the only time you’ve brought up this inquiry. Wouldn’t it make sense to just go out with a AA chick as opposed to seek out mere adult entertainment as your grounds for research? OR are you just curious in the diff in white and black shoe shows?

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At one of those passion parties, I had a chance to taste those edible undies/bras and it didn’t taste very well YUCK! But I used to looove me some fruit roll ups

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Slim because you are supposed to eat the edible stuff off of a woman, not just the edible stuff by itself.

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Slim….I really have no interest in dating an “AA” woman. I am not opposed to it just not looking for it right now. I am meerly going because one of my black coaches is taking us to expose us to his entertainment.

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Slim you better ask the men what we like instead of asking these women what we like. Have a Sports Illustrated magazine and a beer in the passenger seat while you drive wearing a halter top, boy shorts and heels. Do that and he will propose right there on the spot!

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Slim, okay that was nasty

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Slim

she used the last bit of roll

Do u live with ur guy by the way Slim?

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There are actually differences… In general, you’ll find less fake boobs, better curves (and more variety of shapes/sizes) & more, ahem, skilled dancing at the black clubs. Most white skrippers are like Stepford Wives of ho’s, IMO…

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peery…. BWAH HA!

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“…maybe a bath with fresh petals and candles…” That sounds painful (lol).

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Purp – I don’t know if I need to be driving around the airport with a beer…I mean, I’m already going to be semi-dressed. Actually, I was thinking of going with a halter top, a nice pair of g-strings and some heels.

Slim because you are supposed to eat the edible stuff off of a woman, not just the edible stuff by itself I dont kow why but this was sooo dayum funny to me. I picture me going Ohhhhhhhh!

ITL – No offense but the rose petals in a bath is too girlie…we can’t forget he is a Fed and not into that type of thing. I think Purp was going somewhere with the beer idea tho. I just have to figure out how to disquise the Heneiken with a shot of goose lol

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PR….very nice.

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>> OK?

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ITL….also has virtually no odor.

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Thanks, y’all. I’m here for anther hour but ready for a cocktail. Might have to get some Firefly on the way home….

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Slims, man works for TSA? LOL

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Top Flight Security? Is his name Day Day?

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So I decided to lurk a little bit before I posted. But I’m very confused on the whole to sex or not to sex question. Men want sex right? But if they get it too quick then they don’t want to be with chick or marry her? WTF? She gave you what you wanted now STFU! Go with the flow and see what happens.

I think if yall are both willing participants and the sex was good then what’s the problem. And YES I agree with all of the women that say that sex isn’t everything. But it is VERY important. And sex can be BAD with someone that you love. It’s kinda like dancing some people got it and some don’t.

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I’m just playing Slim

Don’t go home and conjure up a wicked joke to bring on tmrw to pounce on Meelo.

I raise my hand in surrender

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Slim, you know I’m kidding…..

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Demi, there are some things I DO NOT need to know…. ick.

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Demi – Either buddy needs to seek medical attention OR one of those homeboys really ain’t a boy at all (on the rag?).

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@ PR you don’t know that she has done the same thing with every guy that she has been with….In addition if you are down for the cause what is the problem? It takes 2 to have sex. And I’m not saying get screwed into a relationship, but why not see where it goes? Don’t just count someone out because they wanted to get it in. How do you know that she hasn’t had sex in a year or two and was tired of waiting for MR. Right and decided to settle on Mr. Right Now?

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Dynamic – Somebody leaked a MLB secret this morning. A couple of our blog gents admitted sex too early disqualifies said woman for marrying although shes’s good for the physical. What’s conflicting and jedi-ish is that some say they won’t view a woman any differently if she get down early….they claim no such thing as too early. Like I said, someone intervened as the secret slipped and shut the book and invoked probation on them. Stick with the WLB and that will ward off any misleading or misconceptions.

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Because common sense will tell you not to think that you are the first that she has done that with, you asked a mans perspective. If a guy gets it quickly he will think other guys did as well and not think she is long term serious relationship worthy. That’s just the rules.

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Demi – You sure are giving me another idea because honeydew loves some steak. Only things is, he’s getting in too late to eat that heavy.

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Fruit roll ups, Feds, Goose and no odors = Slim’s man name is Influence aka Delay… aka Heaviness.

Slim I want to see you in a white mesh halter top with some white boy shorts with some white roller skates on while holding a St. Barnardus 12 in a baby bottle with a shot of Kettle One in four droppers.

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@ Cel….Oh now I get it! If I want to get married have sex with someone else on the side (b/c I want to have sex) and make Mr. Right wait till he gets blue balls or just bounces….Or I can ask Mr. Right when he thinks it will be okay for us to have sex w/o him thinking I’m a whore. We all know how well men communicate….now I get it

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Fion, the convo would be whatever it would be as long as it ended in sex again with her. LOL But it sure would not be about a house and a picket fence.

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D-mic let me see if I can explain in skit:

Dude: Hey der mis lady.

Chick: Dayum!! Can suck-a-duck?

That equal yes to the suck a duck but no way in hell will I marry this chick.

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Dynamic – Exactly…sort of…lol Sorry to say it but with men and their egos you CANNOT, I repeat cannot let the right hand know what the left hand is doing. I don’t believe in doing too soon or too many but even if it’s just a nice evening out, PLEASE ny all means keep it to yaslef.

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Skit two:

Dude: Hello.

Chick: How are you?

Dude: I’m well. (places his cellphone on table)

Chick: Nice phone. What’s your number?

Dude: Thanks. 773-9311…

Chick: (Click..) You have a message.

Equals, good times in the sack but no way in hell do I ever marry that chick.

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Dynamic, Don’t belive the hype!!!! If you feeling dude go for yours…If he is the Grown azz man that he is supposed to be ( and you don’t put it down like a leading lady in a ZANE book) you can move forward and everything will be everything…Be confident, Follow you own dating trail and Mr. Do Right might just be your Long term guy….But more than anything else, please dont assume that because jumped in it with both feet, that he jumped in with both feet…

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For Real, SUP!!!

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What up DEMI…. Everythang is everythang?

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Can anyone break down Celisea’s last 8 words of her 4:27?

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Leggs: I would but I promised Celisea I would keep it to meself.

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Dynamic!?

Celisea advice: PLEASE by all means keep it to yaself!

Fellas,see when abc says All women Lie!

Celisea is giving Dynamic some debauchery advice to be a whorrre as long as it’s on the low low and the dude with the ring don’t know!

My My!

PR’s 2038 wife!

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Demi — You know, that’s a good idea. Matter of fact, I think I need to start ending every post that way…

Slim — Did you leave this box of red Koolaid flavored fruit roll ups on my desk? They’re the extra-absorbent kind with wings.

White Chocolate

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I did Leggs

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Leggs…yep and he still carried her behind up stairs, lol

thats real love

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So being a grown man means being able to accept sex quickly and work through it?

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@ Exiled…. what???
Let me say that I am single and not currently having sex, but we have the same urges that yall have. If I have been knowing someone for a few weeks,talked on the phone w/ all the get to know you b.s, we went out a few times, and I am attracted to them….I’m supposed to hold out b/c I eventually want to get married one day? That just doesn’t make any sense to me. Do you men really think that your wives have never done any of that real freaky nasty ish w/ no other guy? She had to learn it somewhere….

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@Demi…lol,

…it would have been easier if that was the case, but I had to fade shorty to black, she was super cool and I liked the chick, but there was no way that I was going get caught up and wife her up.

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Dynamic – let me guess, you have ALOT of male “friends”.

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LOL@Willie and probably the git that keeps on giving.

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swiss – ewwwwwww. You’re probably going to have that not-so-fresh-feeling any minute now if you ate those.

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@Willie, because women have to much drama so she prefers to hang with guys.

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“don’t really get along with females right?” – Classic Willie classic…..

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Dynamic?

Sorry baby I didt realize u want some practice di-ick!

any man here can give u that but since I’m first to actually get that outa u,I get first dibs

What’s ur email add so we cam do dis? U can host?

I go by Meelo and that name gone be in the subject area.

Cool

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Dayum!!! Exiled you forgot to add your pimp laugh.

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The only dudes shocked at gettin’ Punanni quote un quote early are dudes that ain’t
never asked for it..
Men let me ask you, Chick telles you the Punanni ain’t in Play. You stickin’ round????

that’s what I thought.

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lets be fair now. That word hoe is thrown out all willy nilly nowadays. Some have earned it while others have just fell into it (pun intended). The new school hoes, excuse me independant women like to think of themselves as aggressive, confident and liberated yet classy. hahaha

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You could’nt lgo home to your boring azz wife without me! Stop playing Dude!

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Fion that is the lady that garners more interest and respect from a guy like me. And I love me some me.

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PR – That’s why we’re permanently penciled for 2038 “my Celisea”

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That is very flattering, to hide behind an alias and post something about my wife. Do you feel good does it make you feel empowered you really made a point didn’t you? LOL

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>>>while

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@Dynamic ~ from one sis to another, don’t pay them any mind. If you know you’re not a ho, K.I.M. I know I’m not frigid, but many do…hell, like we all have aholes, we all have opinions. Only thing that’s important is you know yourself and laugh at those who think they know you!

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Hold up Purp, you the dude eyeing the chick at the gas station right?

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I mean that’s my definition. If I am wrong someone please enlighten me. If not then what is one?

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Fion, yep and I could have went further with her because she threw all of the signs, but I declined every single last one of them and now she no longer speaks to me.

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How do you have a show called BBall wives none of them are married, they are on the ball players dime and they look down at people who are not like them?

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Boy I tell you….men

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Wow…..I stepped away for a “quick” meeting and I missed a hot debate.

And who’s Jake?

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Fion, maybe I read what you typed wrong then. My mistake and apologies.

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Ok I will strike the word hoe and replace it with the word “easy”

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LOL, Demi

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Purp: “Real” at the beginning of easy and I think you have it.

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Alex: SMdangH

Celisea: Alex, What is Small Midget dang Hands?

Alex: Wrong.

Celisea: What is Smell My dang Hand?

Alex: I’m sorry…

Celisea: Oh, oh I got it! What is a Simple Minded dang Hoe?

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plus, IJS. Hoes have more significance than society wants to admit. Think about it, one quick example. For the Dudes that went to college. Getting that Degree was alot easier and enjoyable when you had hoes around. Once you got that degree you were able to get a better job improving the tax base and whatnot. So I’m saying being a Hoe has it very own social ramifications that one must consider before being judgemental.

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The 4th day of next week some unaware chick will hope on here bragging about her PSH skills and ALL YA’LL gon award her the the prize of the week. By day 8 she’s a ho. I toss a side eye to dudes that depending upoin the day of the week will award women for their wh@redoms and in the same turn call her a ho. Ya’ll talking out of both sides of ya necks. Just today some say girl get you screw on while others called her a ho. Glad I’m informed, have standards, live by standards. Ya’ll intentional on tripping women up.

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Yep. What Celisea said.

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Celisea: Can you explain this “I toss a side eye to dudes that depending upoin the day of the week will award women for their wh@redoms and in the same turn call her a ho.” Unless you saying a chick cannot perform wh@redom without being a hoe?

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Celisea/ ITL?

Font fret the label hoe

In MLB it says and I quote,’ each man shall be responsible for categorizing their women based on how they behave to him and his expectations’

end of qoute!

I hope that helps!

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Don’t fret the hoe label

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Excuse my typos and get my point….I’m on my phone

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You know what, Alvin? You put it out there, straightforward and honest. I will say, though, that even though a man might be seen as being cool for having a multitude of women/past lovers, I personally do not want to hear anyone bragging about their sexual conquests, male or female. Private matters need to stay private matters.

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Looks like I got here just in time, Celisea is once again dropping knowledge and putting cat’s to sleep …

9 pages people, all because of three little letters s e x …

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Have a good night, Celisea, I’ll read you tomorrow.

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Good night ITL

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Alvin – And so are the women

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Some of it depends on age and although many believe that good sex holds a relationship together that’s not always the case. If you fall for what you see in movies and on TV then you’re just a follower. It’s up to you to choose the right person that respects you. The one you know you can call if you need. I’m not talking about using them for a sound board because you had a bad day . . . but you can call when things are really bad for you.

I don’t like to be crowded by my man. There are things that we do together but I don’t have to spend a great deal amount of time with him. He’s the same way. The time we spend together is good quality time that we use to listen to each other and laugh and joke. I trust him and don’t feel a need to spy or try to catch him cheating. I also know and have known him for years. And, over the years we’ve learned what the other likes when it comes to intimacy. He’s not only my man he’s my friend.

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